MY BOYFRIEND PROBLEMS...help?

[SECRETBULLET]

okay so i dated this guy GREG for almost a year, we broke up on our anniversary cause i had a feeling he was cheating on me, TURNS OUT i was right and it was with the girl i assumed he liked. When this was happeneing he would deny seeing her after work, and deny calling her, and would say she called him. He would tell me he hid things from me so i wouldnt get jealous. NOW im with this new guy IAN he is an amazing guy ive liked him for a year and weve been dating for 4 months now. He has been best friends with this girl KENDRA for like 3 years now, and i dont mind that he hangs out with her alone in his room all that much, it kinda is skethcy considering he liked her for about 2 years but when they tried dating it was too weird, i have the same feeling that i had with my ex, that this girl likes him, i know he doesnt like her BUT girls can manipulate for SURE. the other day he denyed calling her and said she called him, he denyed they would be hanging out until he ACCIDENTALLY let it slide out...i balled, cause it was just like GREG all over agian, he says hes sorry for betraying my trust but he wanted to aviod a weird situation thinking i would get jealous, he says he loves me and doesnt want to loose me and does not like this KENDRA CHICK, i dont know what to do, i told him to still hang out with her but he wont now...its a sticky sitch

[uglystar03]

tl;dr

[SECRETBULLET]

tl;dr

? :|

[Smash Adams]

His name is Ian, my name is Ian, I'm cool so he must be cool

[mmmmmpoetry]

Hahhah i broke up with my ex on our one year anniversary.
how funny.

[SECRETBULLET]

His name is Ian, my name is Ian, I'm cool so he must be cool

he is lol...hes a couple years younger than you though...19 he will be 20 in december.
hes a punk as well so it all works out :P

[SECRETBULLET]

Hahhah i broke up with my ex on our one year anniversary.
how funny.

it sucks eh, its like celebration OOOOR NOT...lol

[4N6 science]

interesting problem. Maybe you shouldn't date guys that are cheaters.

[mmmmmpoetry]

it was a celebration. she wanted me to quit drinking, screw that. drank a half a handle of whiskey and a a steel reserve. good night.

[BoxxingTheStars]

it was a celebration. she wanted me to quit drinking, screw that. drank a half a handle of whiskey and a a steel reserve. good night.

:thumbup: That's always fun. It's like an indirect "fuck you" and those are great.

[SECRETBULLET]

My boyfriend and I had dated for about a year and then he went back to school 3 1/2 hours away. Before he left, he PROMISED me that nothing would happen with any girls (especially these 2 I was super suspicious of 'cause I thought they liked him in more than just a friendly way), but if something did happen, he'd let me know. Turns out I had a reason to be suspicious of these 2 girls in particular. He went to a party his 2nd weekend back to school where these girls decided to "joke around" and take a pic of them pretending to kiss him on his cheeks, but they really did kiss him. He didn't tell me, but I found out via Facebook 4 days later. When I tried to talk to him about it, he kept telling me he loved me and that it was just a joke and meant nothing and he'd give up a thousand of those girls for me. He told me he had asked the girl to not put the picture up, but she did anyway; he was mad at her for doing so, but forgave her 'cause they're friends. He talked to her about it and her response? He's not Jewish enough for her to like him. I didn't want them hanging out anymore, not because I didn't trust him, because I did, it was that I didn't trust the girls 'cause I knew they'd do something like that again 'cause it was only "joking around" and they didn't really give a shit. Yet, when I joke about something with my friends, my boyfriend didn't see it as a joke...so I felt like I couldn't joke around with my friends the way he did with his friends, but that's another story. Also, he didn't like it when I hung out with guys 'cause he was worried I'd start to like them and leave him, but it was perfectly fine for him to hang out with girls 'cause he wouldn't start liking them and they were just friends, nothing more. Yeah, he was the one who left me and found someone else and I'm still not over him...who had reason to worry? Again, another story.

I'm sure Ian will hang out with Kendra again, he's just super cautious now. You're allowing him to, but he's just being cautious and doesn't want to hurt you again, I'm sure. Just give it time, maybe talk about it some more and hopefully things will get back to normal.


man that sucks that reminds me sooo much of greg and i...AND EMILY...the girl he chested on me with, they've been together a year now since we broke up...SUPRISE SUPRISE...so you truly think nothing will happen between kendra and ian then?

[SECRETBULLET]

it was a celebration. she wanted me to quit drinking, screw that. drank a half a handle of whiskey and a a steel reserve. good night.
he is my best friends ex, Ian has never cheated...i hope hes not a cheater

[SECRETBULLET]

it was a celebration. she wanted me to quit drinking, screw that. drank a half a handle of whiskey and a a steel reserve. good night.

man thats the way to do it...i'll bet you didnt remember it the next day lmao

[Samc1803]

tl;dr

Haha, well played.

Oh, and it sounds like more drama than it's worth. If it seems sketchy, cut your losses. There are plenty of people out there.

[Kassie09]

He lied to you about hanging out with her/calling her, if he wasn't doing anything shameful, he woudn't need to hide it, dump him. You really can't be just friends with someone you liked before or tried dating, I would not be okay with that.

[SECRETBULLET]

Yeah, fun times. Turns out he was just a hypocrite full of broken promises. He never saw things my way and never saw the big deal for something he did, but if 2 of my guy friends kissed me on my cheeks, he would've broken up with me.
I mean, if you told him it was okay for them to hang out, I'm sure they will again. He's hurt you once, he won't want to do it again if he really wants to be with you. I hope you trust him, but do you trust her? It may be hard to trust him after this, and that's understandable. If she were to try something with him, I'm hoping he'd stop her, tell her it wasn't right and get mad at her and hopefully try to avoid aituations like that with her again.
If he's still not hanging out with her after you've told him it was okay, just talk about it some more and explain to him how you're feeling, and you're worried (if you are) and try to come up with a solution to the problem. Relationships need trust and communication.


yeah man...like i did lost some trust in him OBVIOUSLY but i love him enough to know i will gain it back, i got mad about the fact that he hid it, because people only hide things if they have a reason to do so, in this case it was to "aviod me getting jealous"...but i do NOT like this girl I DO NOT TRUST this girl...and the moment i met her i got dirty looks and snotty attitude, she wants him so bad it makes me sick, but he said before we were dating sheld come over to watch movies and they'd cuddle, he told me she hasnt tried to and he sits far away, he told her about how i felt about her and she told him to dump me for being jealous and he said no its because of her ex, and his exes telling me that you (kendra) l;ike me...so yeh he told me he lost respect for her for doing that and thats why he doesnt wanna hang out with her for a while...maybe never, but its hard when youve been friends so long

[SECRETBULLET]

He lied to you about hanging out with her/calling her, if he wasn't doing anything shameful, he woudn't need to hide it, dump him. You really can't be just friends with someone you liked before or tried dating, I would not be okay with that.

i agree you know, i told him the same thing...you only hide something if you have something tohide, but he insits the reason he hid this was to ensure i wouldnt get weird and sketched out...so its difficult to know what to do in this situatuion

[LaDiabla]

Have you tried anal yet?

[SECRETBULLET]

Have you tried anal yet?
i would be comfortable doing it, but he isn't

[LaDiabla]

i would be comfortable doing it, but he isn't

cheat on another guy and have anal with him. total babe.

[SECRETBULLET]

Chances are that if she's advising him to dump you, then she'll be able to be there for him and console him and be his shoulder to cry on and get with him when he's moved on and/or over you. At least he's understanding as to why you have an issue with the whole Kendra thing and knows it's 'cause of how your ex hurt you. If she were his friend, she'd understand and be there to support and help him with it, not try to break you guys up. It is hard to be friends for long and then just stop, and I don't see it being possible, so chances are they will hang out again.

oh i know it...but he doesn finally realize she likes him.
FINALLY
like she would say i dont...well its complicated
and i would be like IAN that is a YES but you have a girlfriend so i can't say YES
and he would be soooo in the dark...its ridiculous
but i explained you know she wouldnt advice you to dump me if she was a true friend that had no intention on wanting to be with you,. sheld tell you to proove your trust worthy and to stop hiding things, theres truly nothing with us here...

[SECRETBULLET]

cheat on another guy and have anal with him. total babe.

ive never cheated, and i wouldnt do that to him EVER.

[LaDiabla]

ive never cheated, and i wouldnt do that to him EVER.

ooohh I see. how boring. cheating is the new never cheating.

[SECRETBULLET]

ooohh I see. how boring. cheating is the new never cheating.
hmm i dont follow trends

[LaDiabla]

hmm i dont follow trends

Really? Then why do you like FOB?
Pete does anal.

[killerswells]

cheat on another guy and have anal with him. total babe.

this.

people in germoney know whats up.

[LaDiabla]

this.

people in germoney know whats up.

GermOAny

yep yep we dirty mofukers in germoany all cheat on eachother

[mattmatumbo]

great story, more please

[killerswells]

GermOAny

yep yep we dirty mofukers in germoany all cheat on eachother

i see what you did there. fancy.

i dont see what the big problem is. obviously, you have trust issues with your guy if it bothers you enough to post about it on the internet. dump him and do an anal orgy. then pm me with pics. problem solved.

[more heart]

There should be a word limit on these personal stories otherwise they get too boring to read.

[Smash Adams]

There should be a word limit on these personal stories otherwise they get too boring to read.
140 characters- if it's good enough for twitter it's good enough for me

sample- old boyfriend cheater, new boyfriend has a female friend, is he fucking female friend?

[anthonydarko]

Dump him. Also threads like these are starting to prove that a lot of girls really are terrible at picking guys.

[limepomegranate]

become a lesbian.

[mattmatumbo]

There should be a word limit on these personal stories otherwise they get too boring to read.

my thoughts exactly, i got halfway through and assumed the rest.

[LaDiabla]

my thoughts exactly, i got halfway through and assumed the rest.

You actually red what she posted? I red the thread title and then assumed.

[jagermeister]

You sound like a crazy, unstable broad. Stay away from men, boys, etc until you can vote, drink and act mature. Just my two cents based on my lame high school relationships...

[mattmatumbo]

You actually red what she posted? I red the thread title and then assumed.

I'm going to adopt this way of going about the PL forum.

[BryterJonah]

I find your situation humorous. Ahahaha.

[JunkyVomit]

okay so i dated this guy GREG for almost a year, we broke up on our anniversary cause i had a feeling he was cheating on me, TURNS OUT i was right and it was with the girl i assumed he liked. When this was happeneing he would deny seeing her after work, and deny calling her, and would say she called him. He would tell me he hid things from me so i wouldnt get jealous. NOW im with this new guy IAN he is an amazing guy ive liked him for a year and weve been dating for 4 months now. He has been best friends with this girl KENDRA for like 3 years now, and i dont mind that he hangs out with her alone in his room all that much, it kinda is skethcy considering he liked her for about 2 years but when they tried dating it was too weird, i have the same feeling that i had with my ex, that this girl likes him, i know he doesnt like her BUT girls can manipulate for SURE. the other day he denyed calling her and said she called him, he denyed they would be hanging out until he ACCIDENTALLY let it slide out...i balled, cause it was just like GREG all over agian, he says hes sorry for betraying my trust but he wanted to aviod a weird situation thinking i would get jealous, he says he loves me and doesnt want to loose me and does not like this KENDRA CHICK, i dont know what to do, i told him to still hang out with her but he wont now...its a sticky sitch

It's obvious what you have to do. Make out with Kendra.

[TotalCollapse]

No comment.

[SomedayTheFire]

I only read whats in caps, have sex with all 3 of them.

[mmmmmpoetry]

Really? Then why do you like FOB?
Pete does anal.

hahahahahha oh jeez

[Mibabalou]

rape solves all

[Duexy]

man that sucks that reminds me sooo much of greg and i...AND EMILY...the girl he chested on me with, they've been together a year now since we broke up...SUPRISE SUPRISE...so you truly think nothing will happen between kendra and ian then?


wat

[SECRETBULLET]

wat
BAHAHAHA....oh god thanks for pointing that out...CHEATED...the "s" and "a" buttons are right beside eachother. My bad

[SECRETBULLET]

It's obvious what you have to do. Make out with Kendra.


lmao MOST guys i have dated have told me two girls making out is HOT and not considered cheating...THIS GUY...takes it as making out with any other guy, so if i kiss a girl...im cheating on him

[SECRETBULLET]

Really? Then why do you like FOB?
Pete does anal.

i listen to fall out boy cause i like the catchy beat and the lyrics, not based on what pete does...just cause pete married ashlee simpson and had a kid named Bronx Mogley doesn't mean im going to do the same...how about instead of posting you go have some anal with your cat...we all know you love that...you'ld have anal in a hat, in a room, with a racoon, why have anal on a bed, when you can have anal in a shed, on a box, with a fox, in a tree, with a bumblebee, i do not like anal ladiabla, i do not like it diabla-la

a little dr.s for you there chicky

[LaDiabla]

i listen to fall out boy cause i like the catchy beat and the lyrics, not based on what pete does...just cause pete married ashlee simpson and had a kid named Bronx Mowgli* doesn't mean im going to do the same...how about instead of posting you go have some anal with your cat...we all know you love that...you'ld have anal in a hat, in a room, with a racoon, why have anal on a bed, when you can have anal in a shed, on a box, with a fox, in a tree, with a bumblebee, i do not like anal ladiabla, i do not like it diabla-la

a little dr.s for you there chicky

*fixed

Oh, and I've had anal in all those place with all those things already, any further suggestions, chicky?

Oh, and I also like 'the catchy beat and the lyrics' of Vor Haut Boy.

[SECRETBULLET]

Yeahhh, she, without a doubt, likes him. There's no denying that. There's nothing much you can do, but it's in HIS hands to do something about it and make sure nothing happens with Kendra.

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I'd just like to add to my previous posts that my boyfrind claimed he trusted me, right? Right. Well, one day he just casually got into my personal e-mail account somehow 'cause he felt as if I wasn't telling him everyting and he saw a JOKE I sent to my friend and he took it seriously (thinking I slept with his friend, which I didn't) and then lost his trust for me. Guess he didn't trust me all that much if he had to get into my e-mail. Yet he still expected me to trust him....after he got into not only my e-mail, but my Facebook as well. So after this incident, he wanted to go on a break. During this break, we talked and he said it was wrong of him and he'll never do it again. Yeah, he came clean about trying it again to "make sure I was doing okay" but I had changed my password so he wasn't able to get in. Two weeks later, he broke up with me 'cause he couldn't trust me. He said he wanted to get back with me eventually, and of course I wanted the same. So he was home for the summer for another month and a half, we still hung out, still went out to dinner, still cuddled/kissed/had sex. He went back to school 3 1/2 hours away and everything was going fine, or so I thought. Him and his housemates had a party one weekend and that's when he stopped talking to me with no explaination. 2 months later, when he was home for winter break, we went out to dinner and I asked him why he stopped talking to me and he said it was 'cause I kept getting mad about things...when I wasn't. And then we saw each other a few weeks ago when he was home for spring break and went out to dinner...we were smiling, laughing and talking just like old times. Ughh, it's just so frustrating 'cause he said he would always love me and didn't want anyone but me (he said this right after he broke up with me), yet he's doing this.


awe girly, that sucks major ass...see thats the thing i never want a guy to lie to me that way say they always want to be with you, just you, they love you and dont want anyone but you...i mean they likly DO mean it at the time but people change, new people enter lives, and shit happens...it hurts no doubt. about kendra i asked ian yesterday when i was with him what he'ld do if kendra came on to him, he said he'ld tell her to fuck off and leave...so there we go...ive come to the conclusion im letting it slide but anything else happens and im cutting it off, i believe in second chances not third fourth and fifth.

[SECRETBULLET]

*fixed

Oh, and I've had anal in all those placeS with all those things already, any further suggestions, chicky?

Oh, and I also like 'the catchy beat and the lyrics' of Vor Haut Boy.


*FIXED.

and nope,. and thanks for the compliment chickah ♥

[LaDiabla]

*FIXED.

and nope,. and thanks for the compliment chickah ♥

What compliment?

If you haven't noticed, I've been insulting you since the first post in this thread.

[SECRETBULLET]

What compliment?

If you haven't noticed, I've been insulting you since the first post in this thread.

when some one calls me CHICKY i take it as a compliment...although i could scrape the sarcasim off of that with a plastic spoon...i decided to take it the opposite way, because there would be no reason as to why you don't like me so i figure theres no reason for you to insult me...unless your a low life who likes to cause drama online to fulfill herself cause you do not have real friends or anyone to talk to....boo hoo

[LaDiabla]

when some one calls me CHICKY i take it as a compliment...although i could scrape the sarcasim* off of that with a plastic spoon...i decided to take it the opposite way, because there would be no reason as to why you don't like me so i figure theres no reason for you to insult me...unless your* a low life who likes to cause drama online to fulfill herself cause you do not have real friends or anyone to talk to....boo hoo

*sarcasm
*you're

Well, at least I Insult people in correct grammar.

[Metal Now]

hmm i dont follow trends

Then why do you only like post- becoming a trend MCR? And your favourite album is the commercial breakthrough of FOB, who became a "trend" as you put it right as that album came out? Just because you are following a trend that you feel is "alternative" doesn't mean everyone isn't doing it. And seriously, a curse on whomever taught you how to use caps lock.

[SECRETBULLET]

*sarcasm
*you're

Well, at least I Insult people in correct grammar.

I do not exactly care about correct grammar. I do not plan on majoring in English. I do not plan on getting into journalism. I do not plan on doing any job the requires excessive writing other than poetry. SPELL CHECK...is my bestest friend.

[Jefferson Rank]

The name Kendra always sounds like a pokemon to me...

Just saying.

[SECRETBULLET]

Then why do you only like post- becoming a trend MCR? And your favourite album is the commercial breakthrough of FOB, who became a "trend" as you put it right as that album came out? Just because you are following a trend that you feel is "alternative" doesn't mean everyone isn't doing it. And seriously, a curse on whomever taught you how to use caps lock.

she was talking about sex trends...about anal sex. I wrote I do not follow trends. I know there are a lot of Fall Out Boy fans, and I am also aware that there are a lot of Fall Out Boy haters. Where I am from I know not one person who likes FOB. I have been listening to FOB since AEOWYG, I have all their albums. I started to go to shows etc, when FUTCT was released because they wouldnt tour much in Canada expect for the F Tour.

[SECRETBULLET]

The name Kendra always sounds like a pokemon to me...

Just saying.


i choose KENDRA...kendra use jealous best friend.
LMAO you made my day:-)

[tawtaw]

lmao MOST guys i have dated have told me two girls making out is HOT and not considered cheating...THIS GUY...takes it as making out with any other guy, so if i kiss a girl...im cheating on him

Your obscure use of caps concerns me.

[SECRETBULLET]

Your obscure use of caps concerns me.
me too :|

[tawtaw]

me TOO :|

Fixed ;-)

[Jefferson Rank]

WHAT are YOU talking ABOUT?

[Metal Now]

Your obscure use of caps concerns me.

Agreed. We can use emphasis with italics, people. Italics. Also, I'm not a FOB hater, just to clarify.

[trappedintime]

It must SUCK when these things happen to MY friends, what a DICK.

[xica_sp4ever]

Kiss this Kendra chick before he does.
:thumbup:

[kwsqd]

Kendra is such a terrible name.

[KillyourIdols88]

weve been dating for 4 MONTHS now. He has been BEST FRIENDS with this girl KENDRA for like 3 YEARS now, and i dont mind that he hangs out with her alone in his room all that much, it kinda is skethcy considering he liked her for about 2 years but when they tried dating it was too weird,

i told him to still hang out with her but he wont now...its a sticky sitch

Okay 3 years > 4 months

Good job for fucking up a friend ship with some when everyone knows yall won't last.

Good job for being that cunt!!!


I hope you get AIDS.

[takemyhand]

My boyfriend only hangsout with one girl, and they've been friends for way longer than I've even known him, probably around 6 or 7 years. She also has a boyfriend who she's been with for like, 3 years.

The only other girl he hangs out with is me.
I don't hangout with other guys.

He doesn't need to hangout with girls, that's what I'm for.



Just tell him how you feel, he'll understand, if he doesn't he's stupid & you should leave him.

[SECRETBULLET]

Yeah, I'd probably be less hurt if he hadn't told me all of those things. But you're right, people do change, and it's really a misfortune because I know he's better than this. I think he needs a reality check or something to see how much he's changed and how he's not himself anymore.
I'm (I dunno how to say it...) impressed with how quickly you're trusting him again, I guess? I know I'd be super hesitant about it, wanting to believe him and trying to with all my might, but not being able to fully.
Now it's sticking to your word:no more chances after this. It'd be hard, I'm sure, 'cause of how much you care for him, but why deal with the hurt and pain?
Good luck with everything.


thank you so much i know its hard to not to stick to second chances only but its what im doing

[thesafeword]

I think that OP should date Caps Lock next.

[timbedinosaur]

Buy a gun, a couple of bullets, and a book that teaches you how to write a story that isn't so god awful boring.

[SECRETBULLET]

ha.

[suicidalkitten]

id break up with him.
i know a kendra and shes a bitch.
but anyways, this guy doesnt seem very trustworthy and i guess trust really is a bit part of a relationship and its never any fun when you are constantly having to worry about being cheated on or whatever.

[ablueskytragedy]

greggggggggggggggggggggggg

http://www.milanyin.com/myspace/old-gregg.jpg

[tawtaw]

Old Greg?

[denissuxx]

Why isn't this thread locked?

[limepomegranate]

It must SUCK when these things happen to MY friends, what a DICK.
sooooo subtle.
i love it