Akward Situation

[xEmlehx]

I need some advice people.

I have this guy friend who I've known since seventh grade (I'm a sophomore now). I mostly talk to him over IM or texting, but not so much face to face. When we talk face to face its not akward, but, when he says over text, "We need to chill sometime," I start feeling uneasy. For some reason I don't want to hang out with him. I only like talking to him every once in a while on IM or texting. I have never had any feelings for him and I still don't. It's really akward for me when he says we should hang out because I don't know how to respond. My gut feeling knows that If we did hang out I would be uncomfortable and it would be akward. What should I say to him?

Thanks.

[Kassie09]

Just say 'haha yeah' when he says that. Every time he tries to hang out, say you have other plans. Eventually he'll get the hint. Problem solved.

Or if you have serious balls, tell him you don't ever want to hang out with him again.

[xEmlehx]

Just say 'haha yeah' when he says that. Every time he tries to hang out, say you have other plans. Eventually he'll get the hint. Problem solved.

Or if you have serious balls, tell him you don't ever want to hang out with him again.

The first part sounds good. But it's not like I'm trying to get rid of him cuz we talk in school and stuff. I just don't wanna hang out out of school.

[caress me down]

Aw his feelings would be hurt if you said you didn't ever want to hang out with him.

Also, you never know... maybe he'll surprise you and be a lot of fun / not awk

[kianacarly]

Whenever people want to hang out with me and I don't want to, I just kind of laugh and nod my head, and it usually never gets brought up again. I suppose that won't work with texting though.

[xEmlehx]

Aw his feelings would be hurt if you said you didn't ever want to hang out with him.

Also, you never know... maybe he'll surprise you and be a lot of fun / not awk

Possibly. But he's kinda quiet so thats why I talk to him through texting. If we hung out there would be a lot of 'umms' and 'sooos'.

[kianacarly]

How do you know for sure it would be awkward? Like, what leads you to believe that, if you're perfectly comfortable texting each other.

[xEmlehx]

How do you know for sure it would be awkward? Like, what leads you to believe that, if you're perfectly comfortable texting each other.

Well sometimes if we're in the library at school, we'll talk and its akward. I feel uncomortable, and I can tell he is too because he's very quiet and I'm more outgoing. With texting, you're just texting a statement not an emotion.

[anamericangod]

Give him head.

[caress me down]

Possibly. But he's kinda quiet so thats why I talk to him through texting. If we hung out there would be a lot of 'umms' and 'sooos'.
Maybe, but it's always awkward when you hangout with people for the first time. You can always bring a friend along

[kianacarly]

Well sometimes if we're in the library at school, we'll talk and its akward. I feel uncomortable, and I can tell he is too because he's very quiet and I'm more outgoing. With texting, you're just texting a statement not an emotion.

Is it just because you two don't ever talk outside of texting, or just for some random reason you're not even sure of? Pretty much every conversation I attempt with a stranger turns out awkward, but then again I'm ridiculously shy. Maybe it's just so uncomfortable because he's shy and isn't a good conversationalist in real life, whereas he's a little more outgoing when he texts and it's not face to face, because I know I'm like that sometimes.

[wewascontenders]

i cant really hold a conversation unless i'm talking to someone in person.

[xEmlehx]

Maybe, but it's always awkward when you hangout with people for the first time. You can always bring a friend along

That's true. Thanks!

[caress me down]

That's true. Thanks!
No problem. I know where you're coming from because I'm in a similar situation right now with a slightly awkward school friend of mine that I will be hanging out with for the first time probably next week

[caress me down]

i cant really hold a conversation unless i'm talking to someone in person.
I'm definitely similar to this. I hate talking on the phone, even to my boyfriend of a year and half haha.

[xEmlehx]

i cant really hold a conversation unless i'm talking to someone in person.

Thats kinda true for me, but like in this situation, it depends on the person I'm talking to.

[caress me down]

Give him head.
You are awful at advice

[xEmlehx]

I'm definitely similar to this. I hate talking on the phone, even to my boyfriend of a year and half haha.

I absolutely hate talking on the phone!

[wewascontenders]

I'm definitely similar to this. I hate talking on the phone, even to my boyfriend of a year and half haha.

i can do the phone, something about the words without the "emotions" like on text just doesn't work. which is odd because i tend to keep my emotions to myself anyway.

[caress me down]

I absolutely hate talking on the phone!
so awkwardddddddd

i can do the phone, something about the words without the "emotions" like on text just doesn't work. which is odd because i tend to keep my emotions to myself anyway.
Ehhhh one of those are ya

[samsara]

Getting, getting some head.

[wewascontenders]

yes, i'm one of them. whatever that means.

[spansen]

i'm not reading this, but i'd like to point out that akward is not a word.

[TheSkyline]

Give him head.

Best advice so far, this guy knows what he's talking about.

[AndrewIcex]

Try not going to the internet for this advice, I am pretty sure this is going to get people into more trouble than help...


And I thought this was established in a similar thread?

[phil19]

theres this girl who i went to school with and was never freinds with who keeps trying to talk to me on facebook and saying she wants to hang out. i dont want to. i just keep telling her im really busy atm but maybe later. that generally works for a few months and then she'll ask again and i say the same thing.

[thekinks?]

if its a guy who wants to get with you
all you have to do is bring up some kid you like in mid texting
he'll eventually realize nothings gonna happpen
and chillin isnt desired

[redsoxguy676]

Give him head.
This.

[limepomegranate]

Just say 'haha yeah' when he says that. Every time he tries to hang out, say you have other plans. Eventually he'll get the hint. Problem solved.

Or if you have serious balls, tell him you don't ever want to hang out with him again.
thiiiissssssssss

[kdefrisc]

Well sometimes if we're in the library at school, we'll talk and its akward. I feel uncomortable, and I can tell he is too because he's very quiet and I'm more outgoing. With texting, you're just texting a statement not an emotion.


awww sounds like he's shy. there's nothing wrong with not wanting to hang out with him outside of school, especially since it sounds like he's not really making a huge effort to see you outside of school. just mentioning it isn't really like he's hounding you about it.

[killerswells]

if its a guy who wants to get with you
all you have to do is bring up some kid you like in mid texting
he'll eventually realize nothings gonna happpen
and chillin isnt desired

this.

give him clues that you like someone else and he will most likely back off, or just kill the other guy, depending on how crazy he is.

[xEmlehx]

Thank you all for your replies so far!

[SonEric84]

Awkward* Fuck.

[googirl8907]

Just say 'haha yeah' when he says that. Every time he tries to hang out, say you have other plans. Eventually he'll get the hint. Problem solved.

Or if you have serious balls, tell him you don't ever want to hang out with him again.
I'm in this situation as well and this is what I do.

[xEmlehx]

ok! sorry people! i spelt awkward wrong! jeezzz!

[trappedintime]

Give me head.

[suicidalkitten]

maybe you should just tell him that you dont like him.
or just be like nahhh its ok. or just keep telling him youre buisy until he gets the point, that usually seems to work.
goodluck!

[ablueskytragedy]

If you give him head he'll love you forever.

Or it will be more awkward than ever when you see him.

Most likely the latter.

Definitely the latter.

[Chancetobe]

Honestly, I think you should hang out with him. Sometimes life is awkward, get over it. If you hang out, and near the end it's still really awkward then you don't have to do it again. But for all you know you'll get on fine in real life. You just have to try. I mean, what's the harm really?

[fadedmemories]

Have sex, then ignore each other forever.

[thehereaway]

why don't you actually try hanging out with him and see if its awkward or not before assuming, you might have a lot of fun.

[thespearkid]

Honestly, I think you should hang out with him. Sometimes life is awkward, get over it. If you hang out, and near the end it's still really awkward then you don't have to do it again. But for all you know you'll get on fine in real life. You just have to try. I mean, what's the harm really?
Came in here to say this.

[TheHoldSteady]

Have sex, then ignore each other forever.
This seems like good advice.

[SeeYouSeptember]

Give him head.

Win!

[Mibabalou]

Thank you all for your replies so far!

in all honesty just b like i dont really like you like that

that way hell get the point u dont wanna hook up aka his only reason 2 say hey lets hang out

that way u can stil talk 2 him and shit

[Mibabalou]

now for a typical ap response

have anal sex with him !!!!

[thesafeword]

No, just let him touch your boobies. That's all he really wants.

[TotalCollapse]

Try hanging out with him just once, that wouldn't hurt. If it does not go well, then you don't have to hang out again. Give him a chance.

[imahoodlum]

I had something like this happen to me. I ended up hanging out with him because I wanted to give a him a fair chance. It's been two years and we're still good friends. Although I always still get the feeling that he likes me, which sometimes makes our friendship have some rough patches. :shrug:

[fadedmemories]

This seems like good advice.
:bow:

[GetWellBoss]

I had something like this happen to me. I ended up hanging out with him because I wanted to give a him a fair chance. It's been two years and we're still good friends. Although I always still get the feeling that he likes me, which sometimes makes our friendship have some rough patches. :shrug:

thats cause he does like you.

if a guy is "friends" with a girl...and the girl was like, let's fuck...the guy would totally do it.

[xEmlehx]

in all honesty just b like i dont really like you like that

that way hell get the point u dont wanna hook up aka his only reason 2 say hey lets hang out

that way u can stil talk 2 him and shit

but see, he's told me hundreds of times that he doesn't like me, and he knows i don't like him (i've made it very clear). he says he just wants to chill but i feel like it would be weird for me.

[FemaleCuckold]

thats cause he does like you.

if a guy is "friends" with a girl...and the girl was like, let's fuck...the guy would totally do it.

Hahaha, soo not true. Guys can be friends with girls for many reasons, such as, say, using them for drugs.

[GetWellBoss]

Hahaha, soo not true. Guys can be friends with girls for many reasons, such as, say, using them for drugs.

ok.well youre adding an extra variable to it. like im "friends with you cause you do my homework". There also are other things like childhood friends(before the age of sexuality) and random stuff like that. Pretty much if a guy is hanging out with you just because he's your "friend". He has some sort of attraction to you. THIS DOES NOT MEAN HE WANTS TO BE YOUR BF. He would just hook up with you if you would let him.

[lonelysuperstar]

but see, he's told me hundreds of times that he doesn't like me, and he knows i don't like him (i've made it very clear). he says he just wants to chill but i feel like it would be weird for me.
so what's the problem? why is it weird if neither of you like each other?

[4N6 science]

You should tell him to stop being awkward and to grow a sack.

[xEmlehx]

so what's the problem? why is it weird if neither of you like each other?

hes just a very awkward person

[Srsly]

Just say 'haha yeah' when he says that. Every time he tries to hang out, say you have other plans. Eventually he'll get the hint. Problem solved.
Girls..

[imahoodlum]

thats cause he does like you.

if a guy is "friends" with a girl...and the girl was like, let's fuck...the guy would totally do it.
You're probably right.

[billyboatkid]

Give him head.
Or Dome
Or Brain

Any term will suffice.

[Ailite]

He's probably going to murder you

[lonelysuperstar]

hes just a very awkward person
so? you don't want to hang out with a guy just cause he's a little bit weird? this is a complete waste of a thread.

[anthonydarko]

Tell him to fuck off, simple.

[Roboman]

Girls..

Exactly what I was thinking. Always skirting around the issue, not wanting the guy to get hurt or some bullshit. I'm not saying always be brutally honest, but sometimes a straight-up answer would be nice.

[tawtaw]

Exactly what I was thinking. Always skirting around the issue, not wanting the guy to get hurt or some bullshit. I'm not saying always be brutally honest, but sometimes a straight-up answer would be nice.

This

[Srsly]

Exactly what I was thinking. Always skirting around the issue, not wanting the guy to get hurt or some bullshit. I'm not saying always be brutally honest, but sometimes a straight-up answer would be nice.
Yes please.

[GetWellBoss]

You're probably right.

I am. I'm old. I know random shit like this. haha.