Why am i an idiot?

[bobbo8]

Ok so me and my best friend starting going out about 1 year and half ago. Things were great for a long time but then we started to fight... a lot. I used to sit there and tell my friends that i hated her and wouldn't care if she broke up with me. I basically treated her like shit. Well about 2 months ago she finally broke up with me. Since then i've realized all the mistakes that i made and how much i love this girl. Shes amazing. Well we still talk a lot and we are good friends but shes starting to talk to this other guy and i can just tell he's a meathead. I want nothing more than to be with this girl again. Do you think theres anyway i can show her this?

[oldwirehands]

Ok so me and my best friend starting going out about 1 year and half ago. Things were great for a long time but then we started to fight... a lot. I used to sit there and tell my friends that i hated her and wouldn't care if she broke up with me. I basically treated her like shit. Well about 2 months ago she finally broke up with me. Since then i've realized all the mistakes that i made and how much i love this girl. Shes amazing. Well we still talk a lot and we are good friends but shes starting to talk to this other guy and i can just tell he's a meathead. I want nothing more than to be with this girl again. Do you think theres anyway i can show her this?

There are many ways. Here are some.

-Talk to her about it. Have a honest and deep conversation.
-Do something that will suprise her. Show her you love her with a gift that you made. Presentation of the gift is key. Be creative.
-Basically do what you can and more to prove your love for her.

I won back my girlfriend. I'm awesome though.

[EnderDove]

Ok so me and my best friend starting going out about 1 year and half ago. Things were great for a long time but then we started to fight... a lot. I used to sit there and tell my friends that i hated her and wouldn't care if she broke up with me. I basically treated her like shit. Well about 2 months ago she finally broke up with me. Since then i've realized all the mistakes that i made and how much i love this girl. Shes amazing. Well we still talk a lot and we are good friends but shes starting to talk to this other guy and i can just tell he's a meathead. I want nothing more than to be with this girl again. Do you think theres anyway i can show her this?

Amazing first post.

[underthetalking]

I'm awesome though.

True story.



Make her a mix tape.

[bobbo8]

Im not too awesome nor creative

[Make Out Kid]

Great 2nd post.
Your not giving us many ways to help you.
You have to be confidant about yourself if you want her to like you, i mean, if you arent awesome, why would she want you?

[underthetalking]

Mix tapes take no creativity... just music you like.

[oldwirehands]

Im not too awesome nor creative

Shut the fuck up and be awesome and creative. Its about confidence. If you have none, kiss her goodbye.

[underthetalking]

Great 2nd post.
Your not giving us many ways to help you.
You have to be confidant about yourself if you want her to like you, i mean, if you arent awesome, why would she want you?

What he said.

Make Out Kid, you are wise beyond your years. I like you.

[Make Out Kid]

What he said.

Make Out Kid, you are wise beyond your years. I like you.
Whoo!
I like you too, you've helped me a ton tonight.

[oldwirehands]

Mix tapes take no creativity... just music you like.

They can get creative. I decorated all the jewel cases for my girlfriend with pictures I drew and little notes. Construction paper is awesome. Glitter, cryans, all that little kid stuff. Females eat that shit up.

[bobbo8]

I do have a few ideas for christmas...old pictures of us and letters that we used to write to each other. I think im gonna take a picture of us when we were in like 9th grade and another when we were in 12th(going out) and getting a 3 sided frame putting the pictures on the sides and a letter in the middle telling her how i feel and how i want everything to be better.

[underthetalking]

They can get creative. I decorated all the jewel cases for my girlfriend with pictures I drew and little notes. Construction paper is awesome. Glitter, cryans, all that little kid stuff. Females eat that shit up.

Oooooh... I have an idea. I have had some good mixes but now I shall venture beyond the sharpie labels.

[underthetalking]

Whoo!
I like you too, you've helped me a ton tonight.

I am the fucking man.

And you are for having my away message of like forever in your sig.

[oldwirehands]

I do have a few ideas for christmas...old pictures of us and letters that we used to write to each other. I think im gonna take a picture of us when we were in like 9th grade and another when we were in 12th(going out) and getting a 3 sided frame putting the pictures on the sides and a letter in the middle telling her how i feel and how i want everything to be better.

Good idea. Similiar to what I gave my girlfriend on our 3 month. It was a picture of us in a frame I bought, then a little "love letter" inside of the frame along with the train tickets from our first date.

[bobbo8]

This is the worst thing i've ever had to deal with

[oldwirehands]

This is the worst thing i've ever had to deal with

Some times relationships become dry especially after a long period of time. You got sick of her and once you lost her, you realized what you lost. You just have to change things up after awhile. I'm not saying go and fuck other girls but do different things with her. Experience new things together. Its an awesome thing for a relationship.

[bobbo8]

Thanks but after the way i treated her i have to get her to want to be back with me for anything to happen

[oldwirehands]

Thanks but after the way i treated her i have to get her to want to be back with me for anything to happen

You just have to go above and beyond dude. Do something you never though you'd do. Show her you love her.

[bobbo8]

I have no fucking idea man

[YellowNovember]

candle light dinner on the beach have like her favorite food and dance with her or somethign like that. Do somethign that she would never expect from you.

[oldwirehands]

I have no fucking idea man

It'll come to you. You probably won't think its enough but trust me, it will.

[underthetalking]

Just completely blindside her. Show her that you remember every little detail about your time together... inside jokes, songs, memorable dates, etc. and manage to present it all at once in a huge act of kindness.

[SonEric84]

Everyone has given you good ideas already so I'm going to wish you goodluck.

[jaimej]

Just tell her. There's nothing we appreciate more than honesty and sincerity. Really.

[Jra1]

Ok so me and my best friend starting going out about 1 year and half ago. Things were great for a long time but then we started to fight... a lot. I used to sit there and tell my friends that i hated her and wouldn't care if she broke up with me. I basically treated her like shit. Well about 2 months ago she finally broke up with me. Since then i've realized all the mistakes that i made and how much i love this girl. Shes amazing. Well we still talk a lot and we are good friends but shes starting to talk to this other guy and i can just tell he's a meathead. I want nothing more than to be with this girl again. Do you think theres anyway i can show her this?
sorry, but why would she want to get back together with you?

everyone on this forum complains about guys who treat girls like shit, and how they always go back to them... and now you're all giving advice on HOW he can get her back?

[SonEric84]

sorry, but why would she want to get back together with you?

everyone on this forum complains about guys who treat girls like shit, and how they always go back to them... and now you're all giving advice on HOW he can get her back?


He sounds like he realized he was a dick, maybe they're giving him the benefit of the doubt. I completely understand what you're saying though.

[oldwirehands]

sorry, but why would she want to get back together with you?

everyone on this forum complains about guys who treat girls like shit, and how they always go back to them... and now you're all giving advice on HOW he can get her back?

This is a different situation. I'm sure he didn't treat her like shit the whole year and a half. When relationships start to dry out and get boring, things get frustrating and you start to snap on that person, ignoring them a lot, ect. He realized he was wrong and is changing that. If he starts beating her, that would suck hahaha.

[splitsecond]

Start a band, write a teribly good song about your situation, then fly your band out to where she lives to play a show and sing it to her in front of 400 other people. Oh wait, thats what I am doing. Srry.

[lucky_krystle]

I have no fucking idea man

do you have access to her bedroom or does she live with the 'rents? i have a couple ideas that could win her over if you can get to her bedroom and leave her a surprise. i am the best at giving advice to other people when it comes to this shit, but i can never think of anything cool for myself!

[lucky_krystle]

Start a band, write a teribly good song about your situation, then fly your band out to where she lives to play a show and sing it to her in front of 400 other people. Oh wait, thats what I am doing. Srry.

that right there would win any girl over... and if it didnt work then shes a dumbass and doesnt deserve you! haha... what can i say? im a sucker for band boys!

[bobbo8]

do you have access to her bedroom or does she live with the 'rents? i have a couple ideas that could win her over if you can get to her bedroom and leave her a surprise. i am the best at giving advice to other people when it comes to this shit, but i can never think of anything cool for myself!

She does live with her parents but i can still get into her room cause im pretty good friends with her brother.

[lucky_krystle]

She does live with her parents but i can still get into her room cause im pretty good friends with her brother.

why dont you go buy some hershey kisses and tape them all over her bedroom door and tape a sweet card or note to her door and write something along the lines of "all the kisses in the world couldnt show how much i love you. christmas wouldnt be the same without sharing it with the girl who holds my heart. give me a nother chance and i will prove that we belong together.." i dont know, some shit like that.

[Jra1]

This is a different situation. I'm sure he didn't treat her like shit the whole year and a half. When relationships start to dry out and get boring, things get frustrating and you start to snap on that person, ignoring them a lot, ect. He realized he was wrong and is changing that. If he starts beating her, that would suck hahaha.

yea but the flip side of my point is; how are we sposed to know that half the people that come on here bitching and moaning about how the girl they love is being treate like shit by an absolute dick, aren't just warping this exact story into something we'd show more sympathy for.

i mean jesus christ he said he hated her and spelled out in plain words that he treated her like shit... i'd never treat a girl i loved like shit, and i'd never get bored of a girl i loved enough TO treat like shit. what's going on here is, he got bored of her, they broke up, and now he's jealous that she's interested in another guy, so wants her back for no other reason than he doesnt want anyone else to be with her.

a girl i know does it all the time, she breaks up with guys, then when they move on she crawls back and cries etc saying she still loves em. then slyly lines up a next poor guy so when she re-breaks up with the guy, she has someone on the bounce quickly - and hopefully the other guy is devestated enough not to want another girl for a while

[lucky_krystle]

why dont you go buy some hershey kisses and tape them all over her bedroom door and tape a sweet card or note to her door and write something along the lines of "all the kisses in the world couldnt show how much i love you. christmas wouldnt be the same without sharing it with the girl who holds my heart. give me a nother chance and i will prove that we belong together.." i dont know, some shit like that.
i just thought of something... i know its kind of cheesy but she might fall for it... write "all i want for christmas is you." haha, yeah i know, i said it was cheesy!

[oldwirehands]

yea but the flip side of my point is; how are we sposed to know that half the people that come on here bitching and moaning about how the girl they love is being treate like shit by an absolute dick, aren't just warping this exact story into something we'd show more sympathy for.

i mean jesus christ he said he hated her and spelled out in plain words that he treated her like shit... i'd never treat a girl i loved like shit, and i'd never get bored of a girl i loved enough TO treat like shit. what's going on here is, he got bored of her, they broke up, and now he's jealous that she's interested in another guy, so wants her back for no other reason than he doesnt want anyone else to be with her.

a girl i know does it all the time, she breaks up with guys, then when they move on she crawls back and cries etc saying she still loves em. then slyly lines up a next poor guy so when she re-breaks up with the guy, she has someone on the bounce quickly - and hopefully the other guy is devestated enough not to want another girl for a while

This is true. But did he intentionally treat her like shit? We don't know the whole story or what his definition of "treating like shit" is. It can go both ways. I'm going to give the dude the benefit of the doubt that he made an honest mistake. If it is just a jealousy thing, he'll lose her again.

[splitsecond]

She does live with her parents but i can still get into her room cause im pretty good friends with her brother.

Writing her tons of little notes on tiny cards and putting them all over her room works wonders. I have dont that too. You can get them at just about any craft store.

[lucky_krystle]

Writing her tons of little notes on tiny cards and putting them all over her room works wonders. I have dont that too. You can get them at just about any craft store.
and hide them in places she'll find them... like her drawer, her mirror, in her make-up case, in her car, put one inside her fave pair of shoes and in her closet...

[oldwirehands]

Writing her tons of little notes on tiny cards and putting them all over her room works wonders. I have dont that too. You can get them at just about any craft store.

This one is good. I've been planning on doing this to my girlfriend as well. I was going to do it for our 6 month but I don't want her to expect anything. I'll do it on a random day next month.

[bobbo8]

Its definatley not a jealous thing. It nuts, like i honestly spend at least half my day thinking about her. She somehow appears in every dream ive had since we broke up. Im head over heels in love with her.

By treating her like shit i mean, we'd make plans for like 8 and id be like ok can we hang out at like 9 just so i can go over my friends place. A lot of the time i would be joking around and shed take it way to seriously.

[lucky_krystle]

Writing her tons of little notes on tiny cards and putting them all over her room works wonders. I have dont that too. You can get them at just about any craft store.

This one is good. I've been planning on doing this to my girlfriend as well. I was going to do it for our 6 month but I don't want her to expect anything. I'll do it on a random day next month.

both of you guys are sweet.... we need more like you here in indy!!!

[splitsecond]

both of you guys are sweet.... we need more like you here in indy!!!

I am more than sweet, I am amazing.

[lucky_krystle]

I am more than sweet, I am amazing.

is that so? ... so how long of a drive is it from indy to pittsburg??? haha.

[oldwirehands]

I am more than sweet, I am amazing.

I second that, we are pretty awesome. Here's to being cocky! :ernaehrun

[preppyak]

Its definatley not a jealous thing. It nuts, like i honestly spend at least half my day thinking about her. She somehow appears in every dream ive had since we broke up. Im head over heels in love with her.

By treating her like shit i mean, we'd make plans for like 8 and id be like ok can we hang out at like 9 just so i can go over my friends place. A lot of the time i would be joking around and shed take it way to seriously.
Yeah, that's not what I normally see with guys being dicks. When you said you treated her like shit, I imagined you constantly insulting or snapping on her. You've got some good advice in this thread, I wish you good luck.

[lucky_krystle]

I second that, we are pretty awesome. Here's to being cocky! :ernaehrun

just dont let it get to your head toooo much... overly cocky guys arent worth the trouble.

[oldwirehands]

just dont let it get to your head toooo much... overly cocky guys arent worth the trouble.

I don't strut myself. I let people figure out how awesome I am.

[lucky_krystle]

I don't strut myself. I let people figure out how awesome I am.

well then thats the way to do it!

[oldwirehands]

well then thats the way to do it!

No doubt.

[lucky_krystle]

No doubt.

so your hair is so effing awesome!!!

[oldwirehands]

so your hair is so effing awesome!!!

hahaha Thank you. Random people like touching. It can be scary at times.

[lucky_krystle]

hahaha Thank you. Random people like touching. It can be scary at times.

hahaha... if i were to randomly see you in public i would be one of those people who would ask you if i could touch it! lol.

[preppyak]

hahaha Thank you. Random people like touching. It can be scary at times.
I have the same thing, it gets wierd. I had a girl at a party come up to me and ask me how I keep hair so smooth looking, it kind of freaked me out.

[splitsecond]

is that so? ... so how long of a drive is it from indy to pittsburg??? haha.

I think its about 5 hours if I remember correctly.

[splitsecond]

I second that, we are pretty awesome. Here's to being cocky! :ernaehrun

:ernaehrun

[lucky_krystle]

I think its about 5 hours if I remember correctly.

not too bad! ;)

[wyverna]

hahaha... if i were to randomly see you in public i would be one of those people who would ask you if i could touch it! lol.

Same here! I love the hair!

[splitsecond]

not too bad! ;)


Haha, nope.





P.s. You should change your custom user title to "AP's resident m.i.l.f." :O

[underthetalking]

Haha. I had hair just like that for a while. Then I just grew tired of it and cut it short.

[wyverna]

Haha. I had hair just like that for a while. Then I just grew tired of it and cut it short.

What did you do with it?

[oldwirehands]

Same here! I love the hair!

Thank you :)

[underthetalking]

What did you do with it?

Went to a barber, he took a razor and scissors to my lushious locks, and snipped away. My head was really cold when I walked out.

[oldwirehands]

Went to a barber, he took a razor and scissors to my lushious locks, and snipped away. My head was really cold when I walked out.

My girlfriend would cut off my balls if I did that.

[wyverna]

Went to a barber, he took a razor and scissors to my lushious locks, and snipped away. My head was really cold when I walked out.

I can't imagine getting my hair cut off, or even cut short.

My girlfriend would cut off my balls if I did that.

That's because your hair is your crowning glory, my friend.

[lucky_krystle]

My girlfriend would cut off my balls if I did that.

haha... if i were your girlfriend i would too!!!

[underthetalking]

It was scary, but I wanted a change. I will give it a year to see if I get it back.

[lucky_krystle]

well your hair looks cool short too... maybe softer too? i like curly hair best when its long though...

[underthetalking]

Yeah its definitely softer now. I had crazy tangles before.

Sometimes I miss my long hair, but I like the new me.

[oldwirehands]

Yeah its definitely softer now. I had crazy tangles before.

Sometimes I miss my long hair, but I like the new me.

I used to have tangles like that before. I still do sometimes. I put some stuff in my hair that tries to prevent that and frizz, then comb it through. It works pretty well.

[underthetalking]

I used to have tangles like that before. I still do sometimes. I put some stuff in my hair that tries to prevent that and frizz, then comb it through. It works pretty well.

lol. My lazy ass just cut it. But I swear to you, it shall return.

[oldwirehands]

lol. My lazy ass just cut it. But I swear to you, it shall return.

I can't cut my hair. I like metal too much. I like too headbang while I play guitar.

[underthetalking]

That is a good reason.

[Jra1]

I can't cut my hair. I like metal too much. I like too headbang while I play guitar.

Meshuggah!!

and i have naturally curly hair, quick once over with the straighteners and i'm sorted though

[oldwirehands]

Meshuggah!!

and i have naturally curly hair, quick once over with the straighteners and i'm sorted though

I used to straitghten my hair until it started to take an hour to do it.

[Jra1]

mines quite short, not curly enough for the short bits to still look curly... but curly enough that i have to iron out the kinks in the long bits

[lucky_krystle]

I used to straitghten my hair until it started to take an hour to do it.

my hairs not as curly as yours is, but it has a very strong wave in it... so when i blow dry it i have to use a straigtening iron. when my hair was long it took me forever to dry and straighten it whenever i would do so... it does suck!

[underthetalking]

Haha. I straightened my hair once and it was hilarious.