too early?

[sleepygrlgreen]

is it possible to love somebody within a month or two of knowing/dating them? there are a ton of relationships that have recently started that i know of...and already "i love you's" are being flung around left and right. it might be just me, but i don't think that you can truly love someone that early in the game.

[Jentheoptimist]

I love you.

[apoemtothedead]

I personally think it depends on how long and in what capacity you knew the person beforehand. If you were great friends with this person for 3 years before your relationship, then yeah it probably is possible to love them after a month or two.

[sleepygrlgreen]

I personally think it depends on how long and in what capacity you knew the person beforehand. If you were great friends with this person for 3 years before your relationship, then yeah it probably is possible to love them after a month or two.I agree with that whole heartedly, but when you've actually known the person for a month or two, it'd be kind of tough in my opinion.

[btbam > you]

i think that each situation is different

[nobodysmonkey]

I'd say that for the most part yes, people say it way too early and throw it around so easily it barely means anything.
But in certain situations, you really do know that early.
If you have found your 'soulmate' or whatever you want to call it, you know basically right away. Its pretty intense.
I've never been one to just throw it around. I've only said it to two people before. One I'd been dating for six months, and one was alot earlier, but we'd known each other pretty well for almost 5 years. I don't regret either of those. I honestly did love both of them.
However, my current relationship blows both of those out of the water. Its hard to explain what its like, but basically we just knew right away. Its simply amazing.

[Greg]

personally i think it should take awhile.

i mean i've felt the "love" like that as well. but it def hasnt turned out to be the real deal. so im glad i kept my mouth shut and didnt say "oh baby i love you". it would have just been another thing to regret.

but hey, its different for everyone...

[Vanity__Dearest]

I'd say that for the most part yes, people say it way too early and throw it around so easily it barely means anything.
But in certain situations, you really do know that early.
If you have found your 'soulmate' or whatever you want to call it, you know basically right away. Its pretty intense.
I've never been one to just throw it around. I've only said it to two people before. One I'd been dating for six months, and one was alot earlier, but we'd known each other pretty well for almost 5 years. I don't regret either of those. I honestly did love both of them.
However, my current relationship blows both of those out of the water. Its hard to explain what its like, but basically we just knew right away. Its simply amazing.this is completely true. i think lots of time, people use "i love you" to bide their time, or have something to say in the relationship they are in. but there is just a difference between feelings. lots of times you can feel love for someone for many different reasons. but to be, "in love", it just doesn't feel the same anymore. you can't deny yourself that thought or feeling, because it is too early either. i think, if you try your best to not throw it around, and you honestly do feel it,then you could end up ruining a relationship that could've been something amazing.

of course, it's different for everyone.

[Mercy Medical]

I don't really think you can put a time limit on when you feel as though you truly love somebody. I know that I knew someone for probably 5 months and I already loved them and even before we actually started dating I love them. I loved them from the first day we started dating.

You can't really put a time limit on anything. I think people just need to really go with their gut on those issues.

[SonEric84]

I don't really think you can put a time limit on when you feel as though you truly love somebody. I know that I knew someone for probably 5 months and I already loved them and even before we actually started dating I love them. I loved them from the first day we started dating.

You can't really put a time limit on anything. I think people just need to really go with their gut on those issues.


I think so too, but I also think that waaaaaay too many people just throw the words around because it's the "thing to do when you're dating."

[kg00d]

Ya I'd have to agree with everyone saying that it really depends under diffferent circumstances. It could happen right away or 6 months from now, all depends and from my experience I thought i felt it after a few months but as i look back now i know that wasnt the case so be sure.

[Mercy Medical]

I think so too, but I also think that waaaaaay too many people just throw the words around because it's the "thing to do when you're dating."
So true and that's stupid. That's why I refuse to say it until I know in my heart that I mean it. Yea, I may have feelings going towards that direction, but if I don't feel it 100% I'm not going to say it.

[x_Thrice_x]

So true and that's stupid. That's why I refuse to say it until I know in my heart that I mean it. Yea, I may have feelings going towards that direction, but if I don't feel it 100% I'm not going to say it.

Time has no influence on me in things like these... when I feel like it, I say it. But I know exactly when I feel it. I do agree people throw it around though like its nothing.

[sleepygrlgreen]

I think so too, but I also think that waaaaaay too many people just throw the words around because it's the "thing to do when you're dating."ya, that's what i'm saying. like...those people who put it up on their away messages.. "i love you _________" as a way to show off that they're with somebody.

[ramblinger]

i think, if you've only known the person a few months, it's hard to label it love. infatuation? a love for your current situation? sure. who doesn't love that first feeling of having someone new in their life. most of the time that someone new is still challenging, full of life, fun to be around, and every other great quality that initially lead you there. you "love" feeling like you're part of something special, that's exclusive to just the two of you. for me, that doesn't qualify the exchange of "i love you" though.

i think a person should wait until that initial infatuation dies down. wait until you get in your first argument over something silly and pathetic. wait until you almost rip your hair out every time the two of you eat pasta, because they can't quit scratching the plate with their fork. wait until you have a long list of reasons their not perfect anymore. wait until you get to the root of that person. if after all that you still want to stick around, because deep down you feel it's worth it. then, i would say welcome to "love".

[wyverna]

is it possible to love somebody within a month or two of knowing/dating them? there are a ton of relationships that have recently started that i know of...and already "i love you's" are being flung around left and right. it might be just me, but i don't think that you can truly love someone that early in the game.

I think it's possible. I also think it's rare, and that people use "I love you" sometimes as a way to show off.

[x_Thrice_x]

i think, if you've only known the person a few months, it's hard to label it love. infatuation? a love for your current situation? sure. who doesn't love that first feeling of having someone new in their life. most of the time that someone new is still challenging, full of life, fun to be around, and every other great quality that initially lead you there. you "love" feeling like you're part of something special, that's exclusive to just the two of you. for me, that doesn't qualify the exchange of "i love you" though.

i think a person should wait until that initial infatuation dies down. wait until you get in your first argument over something silly and pathetic. wait until you almost rip your hair out every time the two of you eat pasta, because they can't quit scratching the plate with their fork. wait until you have a long list of reasons their not perfect anymore. wait until you get to the root of that person. if after all that you still want to stick around, because deep down you feel it's worth it. then, i would say welcome to "love".

Applause to that... that's a very very amazing way to put it...

[Jra1]

it's a word, i rarely use it but i don't insist that others don't until they truly undeniably feel it.
my ex used to say it to all her friends family and close associates, didnt bother me because it was just a word... just like i didnt feel any special when she said it to me, actions relating to love are what give me that special feeling

[getupkid53]

I know that I knew someone for probably 5 months and I already loved them and even before we actually started dating I love them. I loved them from the first day we started dating..

I didn't know you felt that way..., I love you too.

[Nat06]

like alot of other people said it depends on the people in the relationship. but if in high school most of the time its puppylove and they just say it cuz they think they love them. but sometimes it is real. well ya thats what i have to say to that.

[x_Thrice_x]

like alot of other people said it depends on the people in the relationship. but if in high school most of the time its puppylove and they just say it cuz they think they love them. but sometimes it is real. well ya thats what i have to say to that.

Reply... so bright... hurts... eyes... need... sunglasses...

[richter915]

what??? who is this new person you're in love with?!?!?! it's only been like three weeks wtf!

[SC0926]

Time has no influence on me in things like these... when I feel like it, I say it. But I know exactly when I feel it. I do agree people throw it around though like its nothing.
i agree completely...I think you just know when your in love...some people might think they are in love..and say it, but others just KNOW. its a feeling you get...no way to really describe it....

[Adeniz19]

i think alot of people say "love" when it's really lust. i can't stand people who throw that word around

[splitsecond]

I think its possible, and I think you know right away whether you love someone. It just takes a little time to come to grips with it, because its such a powerful thing.

[sleepygrlgreen]

Applause to that... that's a very very amazing way to put it...i agree :)

[ramblinger]

Applause to that... that's a very very amazing way to put it...
i agree :)

thanks guys.

i just recently passed that infatuation stage with a girl, but after the "newness" died down, we realized we both needed something else.

[burts marbles]

i think it does depend on the situation. but ive done that before and i didnt really LOVE him yet but we said it anyway. i dont know

[sleepygrlgreen]

i guess it does depend on the situation. oh well...more power to those who truly feel it and say it.

[x_Thrice_x]

thanks guys.

i just recently passed that infatuation stage with a girl, but after the "newness" died down, we realized we both needed something else.

I passed the "newness" stage awhile ago, totally in love with my girlfriend, but as of right now, things aren't looking good... it's seeming like the only way we can both be happy is not together, but neither of us want that at all... it's difficult shit.

EDIT: 4 months btw.

[kg00d]

i think, if you've only known the person a few months, it's hard to label it love. infatuation? a love for your current situation? sure. who doesn't love that first feeling of having someone new in their life. most of the time that someone new is still challenging, full of life, fun to be around, and every other great quality that initially lead you there. you "love" feeling like you're part of something special, that's exclusive to just the two of you. for me, that doesn't qualify the exchange of "i love you" though.

i think a person should wait until that initial infatuation dies down. wait until you get in your first argument over something silly and pathetic. wait until you almost rip your hair out every time the two of you eat pasta, because they can't quit scratching the plate with their fork. wait until you have a long list of reasons their not perfect anymore. wait until you get to the root of that person. if after all that you still want to stick around, because deep down you feel it's worth it. then, i would say welcome to "love".

Very well said.

[Lueda Alia]

you know what? why do you care? if people feel like saying those words, then more power to them. you can't ever compare emotions/feelings, so don't try to. what you feel for someone in a year, someone else could feel it within a week because love changes from person to person, as do feelings.

what I don't like is how people say those words and don't mean it. but who are you to tell someone whether or not they really love someone else? you can't.

[richter915]

i guess it does depend on the situation. oh well...more power to those who truly feel it and say it.
thanks for ignoring my comment!

[ramblinger]

I passed the "newness" stage awhile ago, totally in love with my girlfriend, but as of right now, things aren't looking good... it's seeming like the only way we can both be happy is not together, but neither of us want that at all... it's difficult shit.

EDIT: 4 months btw.


yeah, i know the feeling. i went through that same situation not to long ago. everything started to unravel no matter how quickly the two of us tried to stitch it back up. we were both being pulled in different directions, by different interests. life can get in the way like that sometimes. we'll both be better for the seperation in the long run. it hurt like hell for a while, still does from time to time. we're both stronger now though, and we're growing into what we need to be to accomplish what we want with our lives. we'll never forget each other, and i imagine at some point we'll look back and offer up a sincere thank you to one another.

[sleepygrlgreen]

what??? who is this new person you're in love with?!?!?! it's only been like three weeks wtf!hahh, i'm not in love with anybody...other than myself. you're still the only guy for me

[sleepygrlgreen]

you know what? why do you care? if people feel like saying those words, then more power to them. you can't ever compare emotions/feelings, so don't try to. what you feel for someone in a year, someone else could feel it within a week because love changes from person to person, as do feelings.

what I don't like is how people say those words and don't mean it. but who are you to tell someone whether or not they really love someone else? you can't.woaah woah..i'm not telling people to feel a certain way at any point. if they truly feel it then terrific, i'm simply saying that not all people feel it but still say it. i'm not comparing anything. this is my own opinion...and i was curious to see how others feel. i'm not criticising anyone or anything so caaaalm down!

[Blueskyburning]

whatever, i dont believe in love

[i like guitars]

thats because you have no heart

[guns_go_bang]

ehh

[Lueda Alia]

woaah woah..i'm not telling people to feel a certain way at any point. if they truly feel it then terrific, i'm simply saying that not all people feel it but still say it. i'm not comparing anything. this is my own opinion...and i was curious to see how others feel. i'm not criticising anyone or anything so caaaalm down!
I'm pretty calm, and that post was directed at everyone who complains about others "throwing those words around." I honestly just don't care about what others do, especially when it comes to their feelings... they're the only ones who really know how they feel. and as I said, the only thing I hate is when people know they don't feel that way, but they still say it anyway to make the other person happy. that's the only thing I hate because I think that leading someone on is one of the worst things anyone could do.

[sleepygrlgreen]

i agree with that. you should never say things that you don't really mean. that's where i was getting at. the way people feel about eachother is their own business.

[richter915]

hahh, i'm not in love with anybody...other than myself. you're still the only guy for me
mhmm mhmm mhmm

that's why you ignored what I SAID!<!>!?!??!? MHMM!

[richter915]

everyone should just become pit ninjas...

I do scissor kicks for love.

[sleepygrlgreen]

mhmm mhmm mhmm

that's why you ignored what I SAID!<!>!?!??!? MHMM!i didnt see it!

[Coronary Parasite]

i was in love after one day, truth be told, i fell in love before i even met him (5-7 hour phone convos for a week will do that). and i still believe i loved him that quick, i would have married him on our first date.

i think it's possible to love someone immediately, my father loved my mother the second he laid eyes on here, at 14. my friend's husband had the same situation, he loved her when he first met her, and told her before they even got together, and while she was with someone else, that he was going to marry her. they've been married for 11 years.

i'll be more cautious now of those words and those feelings though, because when it comes to what my ex did to me, and how he acts with his new gf, i find it very hard to believe he ever loved me, and i know he doesn't love her that quick, only because i know him. i think that in some cases, when the other person makes you think they're in love, it makes it easier for you to feel those things quickly. i think i got caught up in someone else's confused state.

[richter915]

anyone you truly love will go into the pit with you night after night.

[sleepygrlgreen]

i was in love after one day, truth be told, i fell in love before i even met him (5-7 hour phone convos for a week will do that). and i still believe i loved him that quick, i would have married him on our first date.

i think it's possible to love someone immediately, my father loved my mother the second he laid eyes on here, at 14. my friend's husband had the same situation, he loved her when he first met her, and told her before they even got together, and while she was with someone else, that he was going to marry her. they've been married for 11 years.

i'll be more cautious now of those words and those feelings though, because when it comes to what my ex did to me, and how he acts with his new gf, i find it very hard to believe he ever loved me, and i know he doesn't love her that quick, only because i know him. i think that in some cases, when the other person makes you think they're in love, it makes it easier for you to feel those things quickly. i think i got caught up in someone else's confused state.i envy people like that. i mean...that's really amazing...to love somebody like that and still be happy. i'm not saying it isn't possible because it clearly is... it's just that from what i've been exposed to, it seems pretty rare. but what do i know? heh.

[sleepygrlgreen]

anyone you truly love will go into the pit with you night after night.wurd.

[Coronary Parasite]

i envy people like that. i mean...that's really amazing...to love somebody like that and still be happy. i'm not saying it isn't possible because it clearly is... it's just that from what i've been exposed to, it seems pretty rare. but what do i know? heh.
yeah me too, and i hope to find it again, only this time it won't be with someone who only cares about them-self and fucks the first thing he can.
anyone you truly love will go into the pit with you night after night.
that would be me. :)

[richter915]

i envy people like that. i mean...that's really amazing...to love somebody like that and still be happy. i'm not saying it isn't possible because it clearly is... it's just that from what i've been exposed to, it seems pretty rare. but what do i know? heh.
I don't envy them. I wanna be a lonely hermit hating on the world. haha...and I'm almost there...I can't stand the world, I can't stand people. all I need is some bread and water.

[sleepygrlgreen]

I don't envy them. I wanna be a lonely hermit hating on the world. haha...and I'm almost there...I can't stand the world, I can't stand people. all I need is some bread and water.:( that's not true. we have done some pretty fun things (and you AGREED that they were fun) ..and they involved the outside world and people.

[Greg]

i have discovered the earlier you say it in a relationship the fatser it will die

[sleepygrlgreen]

yeah me too, and i hope to find it again, only this time it won't be with someone who only cares about them-self and fucks the first thing he can.

that would be me. :)you'll find somebody wonderful. you're an awesome person. you deserve it.

[ClapClapSnap]

is it possible to love somebody within a month or two of knowing/dating them? there are a ton of relationships that have recently started that i know of...and already "i love you's" are being flung around left and right. it might be just me, but i don't think that you can truly love someone that early in the game.

i think it's completely possible...it just depends on who it is we're talking about
middle school kiddies who say "i love you" after their first afternoon spent together is retarded...i think i was one of the few kids who didn't do that...i thought they were dumb back then too

but i'll have to say my parents were a "love at first sight" type of thing...my dad was talking about marrying my mom after two weeks of meeting her...supposedly he never flat out asked her, he just kinda started talking about it, got her a ring, and it was assumed they would get married...i think it's adorable they didn't have to ask eachother...they just kinda knew

my neighbors are high school sweethearts...they've been together for 30something years already...pretty crazy because of some of the relationships i saw in high school, i couldn't imagine lasting that long...

sooo to answer your question...yes and no...that type of instant love hasn't happened to me personally, and i've seen it faked, but i do think it could truly happen...

[SC0926]

i have discovered the earlier you say it in a relationship the fatser it will die
i have to personally disagree with that. The day I met my boyfriend, I fell in love. We didn't really express it until a month or so later, but to this day, I love him now more than ever. One of my best friends got married in October to a guy whom shes been dating for 5 years. Within the first month or 2 of them knowing each other they told each other they loved each other and knew. I guess it really depends on the couple..but I dont think thats true for all.

[Coronary Parasite]

you'll find somebody wonderful. you're an awesome person. you deserve it.
thank you. and i hope all the best for you two, whatever happens. :)

as far as what katie said, my ex told his best friend before we even went out "she's amazing and i think i am in love with her". about two weeks after we started going out he called another friend he has known for years and told her "i am going to marry this girl". i just found this out.

i think that it can happen, but sometimes, it is just bullshit.

[sleepygrlgreen]

thank you. and i hope all the best for you two, whatever happens. :)

as far as what katie said, my ex told his best friend before we even went out "she's amazing and i think i am in love with her". about two weeks after we started going out he called another friend he has known for years and told her "i am going to marry this girl". i just found this out.

i think that it can happen, but sometimes, it is just bullshit.aw, that's great. no i agree. it's really hard to say. but...anything is possible, i suppose.

[richter915]

love like dropkicks. my new emocore band.

[sleepygrlgreen]

love like dropkicks. my new emocore band.haha, you nut!

[richter915]

our first single will be "pat, I'd like to buy a vowel"