I know this girl...

[whiteboypain]

Ok, so i really don't know how to start this off. Um, i know this girl that lives like 40 minutes away from me. I have never met her in person, i have talked to her on aim and on the phone and have seen her pictures. She is 18, almost 19. I am (Male, 21, almost 22). So ive been talking to her for like 2 weeks approx. and she is practically falling in love with me. She's very cute, except she's a little strange. She already has written 2 songs about me on her guitar and has sent them to me through AIM. Um, yeah, a little bizarre. Cute, but bizarre. She has also told me that she has tryed to kill herself before and stuff. She said she used to slit her wrist and stuff when she was younger, and also was felt up by her brother. Now, i know i am not perfect and i have my problems too, so i tryed to comfort her over the phone. She is really nice and we have ALOT of similarities. She has not seen what i look like but she loves my personality and has said she likes me anyways. I don't want this girl to hurt herself because of me, ever. But , at the same time, i still want to meet her in person. She's really cool. but i don't know, there's quite a lot of red flags all around me at this point , ya know? what the hell should i do? - Matt

[bonnie17]

Ok, so i really don't know how to start this off. Um, i know this girl that lives like 40 minutes away from me. I have never met her in person, i have talked to her on aim and on the phone and have seen her pictures. She is 18, almost 19. I am (Male, 21, almost 22). So ive been talking to her for like 2 weeks approx. and she is practically falling in love with me. She's very cute, except she's a little strange. She already has written 2 songs about me on her guitar and has sent them to me through AIM. Um, yeah, a little bizarre. Cute, but bizarre. She has also told me that she has tryed to kill herself before and stuff. She said she used to slit her wrist and stuff when she was younger, and also was felt up by her brother. Now, i know i am not perfect and i have my problems too, so i tryed to comfort her over the phone. She is really nice and we have ALOT of similarities. She has not seen what i look like but she loves my personality and has said she likes me anyways. I don't want this girl to hurt herself because of me, ever. But , at the same time, i still want to meet her in person. She's really cool. but i don't know, there's quite a lot of red flags all around me at this point , ya know? what the hell should i do? - Matt meet her in person. just don't let it get far in a relationship if this is the way you feel. Be friends.

[whiteboypain]

she has emotional problems too. She's really cute and nice and stuff, but she seems kinda iffy, i don't know. she told me that her brother molested her when she was younger, i didn't even know what to say to that.

[bonnie17]

she has emotional problems too. She's really cute and nice and stuff, but she seems kinda iffy, i don't know. she told me that her brother molested her when she was younger, i didn't even know what to say to that. ieeee!! this girl needs help.

[rcrook]

bonnie17 your signature makes me cry...good charlotte and simple plan=vomit

[chroma23]

DONT TOUCH. Girls like this can only go horribly wrong. She's crazy. She will be clingy. She could be one of those girls. Too dangerous to approach in my opinion.

[whiteboypain]

DONT TOUCH. Girls like this can only go horribly wrong. She's crazy. She will be clingy. She could be one of those girls. Too dangerous to approach in my opinion.
dude, what should i do? just stop talking to her before she gets too clingy?

[whiteboypain]

she's already fucking clingy and i haven't even met her in person !!!!!!!!!!

[WakingTheMisery]

kill her.

[roxy]

there are a bunch of red flags going up in my mind. if you meet her she will become even more attached than she already is. if you stop talking to her now she will probably get upset, but not as upset as if you meet her and give her the false hope that you two will have a relationship. she needs some major help and does not need to get caught up in a guy right now. i say let her down as gently as possible and stay away

[roxy]

kill her.
or do this...

[bonnie17]

bonnie17 your signature makes me cry...good charlotte and simple plan=vomit soooooooooooo! I like em. thats all that matters about them to me.

[bonnie17]

there are a bunch of red flags going up in my mind. if you meet her she will become even more attached than she already is. if you stop talking to her now she will probably get upset, but not as upset as if you meet her and give her the false hope that you two will have a relationship. she needs some major help and does not need to get caught up in a guy right now. i say let her down as gently as possible and stay awaygood advice..

[MLLMillenium]

dude, stay away, you dont need any of that kinda drama. I mean u sound nice, but it's not your problems leave her be while you can.

[JacksColdSweat]

she sounds like a freak...mabye thats a good thing

[lostntheseethru]

it says bad idea sooooo much i dont even know why it would be an option to meet her...

[cris545]

i say there's more emotional problems on the way if she's already falling for u after two weeks. I'll just say be careful. She might fall for u more if you keep talking to her so often. Have your space, don't talk to her every single day, but still pay attention to her because she might notice. Then decide if you wanna meet her or not but also be careful she doesn't take this ''meeting'' as an ''I fell for you too'' by the sound of how she is she might take it that way. Good luck.

[MLLMillenium]

def agree with the above

[lightcollapse]

soooooooooooo! I like em. thats all that matters about them to me.

so, why the fuck do you come here.

[sleepygrlgreen]

stay away. she'll drag you into all of her problems. stay her friend if anything, but don't get into a relationship with her. it just doesn't seem worth it.

[FeynmanWannabe]

A few things: If she's telling you all these things after just 2 weeks, that's a huge red flag. She should see a professional because that would tell me she might not feel like she has a whole lot of people to talk to. If that's the case, something definitely has to be done about that. If you feel you're strong enough for that person to be you, then I wish you the best of luck because it's an indescribable weight to carry so much of another person's safety and well-being on your shoulders. If you give a damn about her, I hope that you at least suggest seeing someone. Also, you need to determine how current these problems are. If it's something in the past, it's different although not necessarily easier if it's something that appears to be behind her.

To all the other readers: I don't mean to scold. It makes me a little sad that a lot of people are saying to run away from her, although I can understand that reaction. Is someone who has (had) problems any less deserving of love or affection or any other typical desirable human emotion? I hope that at someone point you realize that this should not be the case.

To conclude, don't ask people as a message board. To me, that shows a certain level of immaturity and would advise against getting serious with her at least at this point. The truth is only you really know what you're ready for. I'm sorry, but that's the way many serious issues are. Best of luck with this. Please think it through and be responsible as your decision affects not only you but someone you could potentially care very deeply about.

[hXc_pwnage]

Block her screenname and phone number and change your screenname.

[whiteboypain]

Block her screenname and phone number and change your screenname.
seriously? this is no laughing matter man, i'm seriously worried about this. Are you being serious?

[combatchuckaa]

seriously? this is no laughing matter man, i'm seriously worried about this. Are you being serious?

As extreme as this sounds, I think it may be the best thing you could do right now. If anything, find a way to let her know you think highly of her, but just aren't in a place where you want to be in a (potential) relationship right now. Who can argue with that? Tell her you're still trying to figure out what you're doing with your life- you need direction, you're young, etc. After that, let her talk to you for a little while longer and gauge whether or not she's taking it well or not. If she isn't, then block everything. If she is, consider allowing limited contact over emails- remember you can control how much you email/talk with her online. Sometimes cutting everything off at once is the best thing you can do too. Good luck, my friend.

[ilovesimpleplan]

OMG you peoiple are all fucking freaks get a fucking life. Listen to some real music like Elton Jonh or Jobriath

[thesewalls]

OMG you peoiple are all fucking freaks get a fucking life. Listen to some real music like Elton Jonh or Jobriath

youre cool. welcome to 2 years ago

[Saves The Night]

OMG you peoiple are all fucking freaks get a fucking life. Listen to some real music like Elton Jonh or Jobriathwow your name totally ruins any validity you may have had on this site.

[Saves The Night]

I would meet her, but tell her you arent really looking for things to get serious and see how she reacts first. I wouldnt shut someone out.

[lucky_krystle]

A few things: If she's telling you all these things after just 2 weeks, that's a huge red flag. She should see a professional because that would tell me she might not feel like she has a whole lot of people to talk to. If that's the case, something definitely has to be done about that. If you feel you're strong enough for that person to be you, then I wish you the best of luck because it's an indescribable weight to carry so much of another person's safety and well-being on your shoulders. If you give a damn about her, I hope that you at least suggest seeing someone. Also, you need to determine how current these problems are. If it's something in the past, it's different although not necessarily easier if it's something that appears to be behind her.

those are some really good points. i just have to say that yes there are several red flags. however, what if she has gotten into relationships in the past and when the guys found about her past they ran? she could just be throwing all this stuff out there to see how you would react and to see if you are affected by it. if you want to meet her and you think shes cool, you have lots in common and shes cute then i say go for it. just dont let her know where you live... just in case!

[SonEric84]

A few things: If she's telling you all these things after just 2 weeks, that's a huge red flag. She should see a professional because that would tell me she might not feel like she has a whole lot of people to talk to. If that's the case, something definitely has to be done about that. If you feel you're strong enough for that person to be you, then I wish you the best of luck because it's an indescribable weight to carry so much of another person's safety and well-being on your shoulders. If you give a damn about her, I hope that you at least suggest seeing someone. Also, you need to determine how current these problems are. If it's something in the past, it's different although not necessarily easier if it's something that appears to be behind her.

To all the other readers: I don't mean to scold. It makes me a little sad that a lot of people are saying to run away from her, although I can understand that reaction. Is someone who has (had) problems any less deserving of love or affection or any other typical desirable human emotion? I hope that at someone point you realize that this should not be the case.

To conclude, don't ask people as a message board. To me, that shows a certain level of immaturity and would advise against getting serious with her at least at this point. The truth is only you really know what you're ready for. I'm sorry, but that's the way many serious issues are. Best of luck with this. Please think it through and be responsible as your decision affects not only you but someone you could potentially care very deeply about.



Best response in here...I agree.

[FeynmanWannabe]

those are some really good points. i just have to say that yes there are several red flags. however, what if she has gotten into relationships in the past and when the guys found about her past they ran? she could just be throwing all this stuff out there to see how you would react and to see if you are affected by it. if you want to meet her and you think shes cool, you have lots in common and shes cute then i say go for it. just dont let her know where you live... just in case!
Good addition. I hadn't considered that. It seems like a very foreign concept to me that someone might throw it all out there up front because there's a history of people running once they found out about her past (/present). That's certainly not inconceivable though so I agree with the poster.

Thanks for your kind responses to my post, as well.

[whiteboypain]

OMG you peoiple are all fucking freaks get a fucking life. Listen to some real music like Elton Jonh or Jobriath
Hey, Shut up! lol

[Greg]

meet her. fuck her. leave her.

yay

[whiteboypain]

meet her. fuck her. leave her.

yay
Yeah , great idea. You moron. She'd probably end up going back to self mutilation or worse ,killing herself :'(

[Greg]

Yeah , great idea. You moron. She'd probably end up going back to self mutilation or worse ,killing herself :'(
why am i a moron? am i involved with a crazy person? nope.

[roxy]

why am i a moron? am i involved with a crazy person? nope.
you make a very valid point.

[blondepunk666]

love me instead, im normal ;p lol nah im sorry im not helping, she sounds pretty freaky, if ur gonna be anything, be friends, cause if u go any further..well u dont want 2 be molested by her brother aswell do u.

[Juliet R Delta]

all i can suggest is spending some time with her in person. everything is different online, you might not even feel the same after you get to know her in person. plus you will be able to tell a lot more about her by the way she moves, talks, and does stuff.

[mcfly21]

Yeah , great idea. You moron. She'd probably end up going back to self mutilation or worse ,killing herself :'(


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[DroppedUrPocket]

I love these threads because here's where the retards come out of the woodwork.

[lostntheseethru]

I love these threads because here's where the retards come out of the woodwork.
like you????







ok i really dont mean that....too much....although im still pissed about the cheetah....;)

[whiteboypain]

I love these threads because here's where the retards come out of the woodwork.
shut up, bitch. hahah YOU HEARD ME.

[FailedByDesign]

Tell her you just wanna hit that shit.

[hellogoodbyerox]

surely she's not too bad... i've had some problems too and them i got a great b/f and now we're engaged so... maybe all she needs is a great guy to be there for her and take care of her

[BeerNSluts]

Do this, meet her and do her in the butt. It will cure all the problems she's had. And if you call me an asshole/idiot for posting this in the threat, suck my left armpit.

Cockadoodledomotherfuckers!

[DroppedUrPocket]

shut up, bitch. hahah YOU HEARD ME.
Haha, that wasn't directed at you, but some of the other commenters.

[DroppedUrPocket]

like you????







ok i really dont mean that....too much....although im still pissed about the cheetah....;)
stfu!

[lostntheseethru]

stfu!
:*

[DroppedUrPocket]

:*
:bafly:

[whiteboypain]

Do this, meet her and do her in the butt. It will cure all the problems she's had. And if you call me an asshole/idiot for posting this in the threat, suck my left armpit.

Cockadoodledomotherfuckers!
The correct word you were looking for was "THREAD" and no, i don't think you're an asshole. You may need to learn how to spell, none the less.

[whiteboypain]

Haha, that wasn't directed at you, but some of the other commenters.
ohhh. Then ,in that case. I apoligize.

[RyuTseTung]

wow....

[Fullcollapse3k]

Sleep with her then never call her again.

[GoWaitInTheCar]

There are some red flags.

It sounds like she only likes you because you give her attention and care about her issues. I feel as though you are a good guy, doing the right thing and listening to her, but she hasn't had anyone listen to her, and that's why she's been so sad. You were the first that has listened to her problems, give it time. Tell her to talk to other people about this as well. And if it comes to the point where she still likes you, then I am dead wrong.

[whiteboypain]

shit, this thread is off the heezy fo' sheezy. ;)