Long distance relationships...

[pinkjinx87]

Ok. I live in North Carolina and I know this guy who lives in Florida. Omg, I love this guy so much and he loves me. We go out; we talk online and on the phone and so far everything is going good. But will it last? I plan on moving to Florida when I get done with college...but will we be over by then? That thought is scary but it's always in the back of my head, nagging at me. Anyone have experience in long distance relationships? I'm new at this and I have to know, do long distance relationships work out? I feel insecure and I hate it...I feel bad for even asking myself that question. But people just keep tellin me that long distance relationships dont work out...

[apoemtothedead]

Did you know him in person?

[EnderDove]

Unless you make a commitment to see each other often there is a good chance it wont work out.

[pinkjinx87]

No I haven't seen him in person, but he is coming to see me on Valentines Day.

[apoemtothedead]

No I haven't seen him in person, but he is coming to see me on Valentines Day.
you're fucked.

Just not literally.

[pinkjinx87]

So there is no hope in this? Should I just try to end it now?

[oldwirehands]

Okay, I'm the King of long distance relationships. Trust me. I've been in six of them. One of them lasted ten months. The rest just lasted a month or less. Don't make plans to move out there. It would be a big mistake. You really can't say you love someone until you've been with that someone, physically there, for awhile.

Take it from me, I've been in that same situation SIX TIMES! I used to meet girls online all the time. Its not the way to go.

[not_holden]

Try doing this shit from Colorado to MA for over a year....

First, meet each other in person. Next, spend an entire day together with some time privately to "get to know each other." Then you'll see if you can pull it off.

[hXc_pwnage]

Hahaha?

If you haven't even met him, how can you be in love. You're in college...

Come on now. You would think schools would let people know this.

[pinkjinx87]

Yeah, your right..I'll meet him then I'll def. know if I love him. Thanx for the advice! O king of Long Distance Relationships! I owe u...

[not_holden]

Sure, the kid that's actually holding down a long distance relationship doesn't get shit for cred here.

[pinkjinx87]

Hey Holden, I give you full credit and added u as my friend on Myspace...

[pinkjinx87]

Thanks to all the helpful advice people...you guys rock!

[not_holden]

Hey Holden, I give you full credit and added u as my friend on Myspace...
Thanks and sorry about being kinda bitchy, me and my g/f had a pretty big fight just now.

[pinkjinx87]

It's cool

[not_holden]

I remember when I went out to Boston to be with my g/f, it was hands down the best thing I've ever done.

[richter915]

it's tough

if you don't get the support of your family and your partners, it just can't happen.

[EnderDove]

Okay, I'm the King of long distance relationships. Trust me. I've been in six of them. One of them lasted ten months. The rest just lasted a month or less. Don't make plans to move out there. It would be a big mistake. You really can't say you love someone until you've been with that someone, physically there, for awhile.

Take it from me, I've been in that same situation SIX TIMES! I used to meet girls online all the time. Its not the way to go.

Chris you cant be the king of them if you have had six different ones, haha.

[oldwirehands]

Chris you cant be the king of them if you have had six different ones, haha.

Thats true.

Lets change it to Internet Slut.

[__underthesun]

I had one...Went on for 9 months, off for like...10...The on for 3. Long story short: There's SO much more I could've done with my 22 months than worry/think about that boy.

I'll never get that part of my life back. I regret it in that sense, but if I look at it as a learning experience, then...I feel like it's okay, kind of.

It's up to you, girl. Just be careful with yourself.

[pinkjinx87]

My thanx to the Internet Slut, and all who've given me advice. Like I said before, this is a first for me. We'll see how it goes...

[splitsecond]

Don't do it. They don't work. I had one for over a year and half, and its still the death of me even after a year of being over.

[sleepygrlgreen]

it's tough

if you don't get the support of your family and your partners, it just can't happen.:-\

[preppyak]

Don't do it. They don't work. I had one for over a year and half, and its still the death of me even after a year of being over.
Yeah, same thing for me. It's much harder to detach from a long distance, because even when it's over, you still can convince yourself there is hope, because you are used to her/him not being there.

[Wheez]

I'm in a long distance relationship right now. We live 1200 miles apart and have been together for 8 months come Wednesday. It's working out great so far for me, but I think so much depends on the people and the situation. It can work, it just usually doesn't for one reason or another.

[chroma23]

He's cheating on you.

[amkfx3]

i think that there is a difference between a long distance relationship with someone that you've never met and with someone that you've been dating for awhile.

like for instance -- me and my boy have been dating for almost two years now, but we've been apart since the summer because i went away to school. i'm not going to lie, we've had our ups and downs, and we've fought, but that's normal. we fight when we're together as well. so, it's a toss up. but we're fine... and still doing fine.

either way, i think that it just depends on the type of relationship, and the people involved in the relationship.

[pinkjinx87]

Well folks, my first long distance relationship didn't last. LoL. Maybe if we didn't live like 12 hours away, and maybe if we didn't move so fast in our relationship, it would have worked out. As it is, we're still talking online as friends. No hard feelings, we kinda just agreed that it wouldn't work out. I'll prolly try this long distance relationship thing again...but more closer to home, not 12 hours away. So then we can actually see each other. Any more advice??

[apoemtothedead]

Well folks, my first long distance relationship didn't last. LoL. Maybe if we didn't live like 12 hours away, and maybe if we didn't move so fast in our relationship, it would have worked out. As it is, we're still talking online as friends. No hard feelings, we kinda just agreed that it wouldn't work out. I'll prolly try this long distance relationship thing again...but more closer to home, not 12 hours away. So then we can actually see each other. Any more advice??
How exactly does an online-relationship move too fast?

[pinkjinx87]

i dunno..we had just met and he started saying he loved me a couple of days later. And then he starting talking marriage. Lol. It was mostly him moving fast. I wasn't comfortable with that.

[apoemtothedead]

i dunno..we had just met and he started saying he loved me a couple of days later. And then he starting talking marriage. Lol. It was mostly him moving fast. I wasn't comfortable with that.
oh, okay. so no nudes? :(

[pinkjinx87]

nah. he was supposed to visit on valentines day.

[pinkjinx87]

o by the way i like your EMO signature :D

[reesepiece_xo]

i dunno..we had just met and he started saying he loved me a couple of days later. And then he starting talking marriage. Lol. It was mostly him moving fast. I wasn't comfortable with that.

umm...thats a little creepy haha. It's good that you recognized that you weren't comfortable with that. Just be careful with him, even if you're just talking online as friends now, anyone that proposes marriage online before meeting the person seems a little weird in my book.

Anyway, if you do ever decide to have a long distance relationship- i'd say it is possible, if you know you're both devoted and you're comfortable with the idea that you won't be able to be together all the time. It's not the most normal relationship but it can work if you want it to. I might be getting into one myself soon, and i've been thinking about how it's gonna work too. He's closer when we're at school tho so thats a plus. :)

[pinkjinx87]

umm...thats a little creepy haha. It's good that you recognized that you weren't comfortable with that. Just be careful with him, even if you're just talking online as friends now, anyone that proposes marriage online before meeting the person seems a little weird in my book.

Anyway, if you do ever decide to have a long distance relationship- i'd say it is possible, if you know you're both devoted and you're comfortable with the idea that you won't be able to be together all the time. It's not the most normal relationship but it can work if you want it to. I might be getting into one myself soon, and i've been thinking about how it's gonna work too. He's closer when we're at school tho so thats a plus. :)

Yup...definitely creepy. So this guy, you would get to see him? Yeah, that is a plus.

[Shatter590]

I was in a 2 year long distance relationship. We saw each other maybe every 8-10 weeks, and everythinbg was fine...for a time. Take into account the following: anyone can say I Love You over the net, but that does not make it true. You need to spend time with a person. You need to see if there is a physical attraction in addition to an emotional one (while I do feel that emotional are stronger than physical, in a distance thing, this is not the case). And you need to remember: things change.

As for mine: We got engaged and then like 2 months later she upped and left me. She never said why, aside from "I need someone closer to me." I know that was a load of BS, I wish she would have told me the truth, but que sera sera...

Try listening to Scratch by Allister and Hello Houston by The Starting Line. They have perspectives from both sides of the coin.

PS: Do not move unless you are positive this will work. I almost did for this girl, and it would have been chaos when she left me if I had.

[pinkjinx87]

I was in a 2 year long distance relationship. We saw each other maybe every 8-10 weeks, and everythinbg was fine...for a time. Take into account the following: anyone can say I Love You over the net, but that does not make it true. You need to spend time with a person. You need to see if there is a physical attraction in addition to an emotional one (while I do feel that emotional are stronger than physical, in a distance thing, this is not the case). And you need to remember: things change.

As for mine: We got engaged and then like 2 months later she upped and left me. She never said why, aside from "I need someone closer to me." I know that was a load of BS, I wish she would have told me the truth, but que sera sera...

Try listening to Scratch by Allister and Hello Houston by The Starting Line. They have perspectives from both sides of the coin.

PS: Do not move unless you are positive this will work. I almost did for this girl, and it would have been chaos when she left me if I had.

Yeah, this guy was telling me he loved me..and we had just met like a week earlier. There was no love, maybe we liked each other a lot, but that's about it. Sorry about that...it was her loss though right? Do you ever have those kinds of relationships anymore? And I love both bands, so absolutely i'll listen to them.

[Shatter590]

That's just crazy lol. We said I love you after 8 months and we had already seen each other maybe a 7 or 8 times or so.

I spose it was her loss. She still talks to me occasionally and I know she wants to get back together, but after what happened I won't.

I haven't been in a distance since then. I did develop feelings for a girl I met online, but she lived all of 2 hours away from me, so we were able to see each other all the time.

Do check the songs out. They're amazing in their own right.