two problems- eek

[knux]

Ok I got two problems I would like to address.

!st-
Ok so I met this girl this year and we became really good friends really fast, almost two fast. I started to develope a crush on her, and then stopped. She has another best friend who is a guy and shes been best friends with him forever. He likes her a lot and has for a while, which is one of the reasons i stopped likeing her. This girl is getting out of a bad relationsip so i dunno what baring that has but yah. SO this girl is always leading him on and it's really annoying to me that she would do that to him. Every time me and her hangout she wants to call him and be wiht him. Basically she uses him as everything a boyfriend would be except like the boyfriend/girlfriend status and like sexual stuff. This one night me and her went to get coffee and we chilled and then shes like lets go call "x' and i was like ok. So we went over there and just parked in his driveway and he came out and she just talked to him the whole time. SO basically I got pissed b/c id rather do sumin else. So pretty much since then i havent talked to her much. What should I do?

2nd-

OK. So last year in one of my classes this girl transfered into it in the end of the year. She was so quiet, smart, hott as hell, but not of 'popular status' because she didnt do like cheerleading or have many friends or a social life. SO yah i started talking to her b/c im outgoing. Pretty much this summer we became best friends and stuff, and she started hanging out with me over the summer with my friends and what not. So I introduced her to one of my friends and now their going out., but ill get to that part in a minute. Ever since she has been hanging out with me she has been less quiet and more outgoing but still you can tell in her like face she is unhappy. She never will dress down anymore b/c of fear of like not impressing society or something. Ok now to her bf. He is the biggest jock football player strong guy and she pretty much uses him as a sad attempt to gain social acceptance in our highschool. They have been going out 3 months now and I drive her to school and home from school everyday b/c he has a diff start time and leave time as us. So about 1 month into the relationship she calls me and is like venting bout how obsessive he is and how she doesnt like him and stuff and she doesnt know how much she can take it. SO im like just break up with him, and shes like na i duno blah blah blah.. So now this past weekend at a party her and her bf were running the door, and the girl who had the house called me and told me to come in. When i went in she acted ike she was doing me a favor letting me come in. DIdn say hi pretty much pushed me downstairs and shit. Really pissed me off. So then the party got busted whatever.. Sinse that time she has not said anything to me and i usually ask her if she needs a ride. So i never did and she has had her dad drive her the last couple of days.. I dunno why but I cannot stop thinking bout this situation and its like really pissing me off when i see her in school and we cross paths. Oppinions? Help?


THanks a lot for letting me vent and for reading it.. if u do.. Also if anyone knows of any songs that sound like either of these situations tell me b/c music helps me through these times.

Thanks! Ryan

[selftitled85]

1) call her out on it...

2) call her and just talk to her. if something so trivial and stupid messes up a friendship you should be ashamed of yourself.

honestly dude...talk to them. the first girl you need to explain your situation to her. or else she will keep doing it. and the second girl if you care for her you will tell her how it sucks not talking to her.

[knux]

yah dude i thought about doing that for both. IN the first case i think it might make her mad though. In the 2nd case, some stupid stuff like this has happened before. It seems that were both stubburn and she will never say anything. She is also to ignorant to ever know when she is wrong. If i talk to her its just going to set it up to happen again.

[Jra1]

yah dude i thought about doing that for both. IN the first case i think it might make her mad though. In the 2nd case, some stupid stuff like this has happened before. It seems that were both stubburn and she will never say anything. She is also to ignorant to ever know when she is wrong. If i talk to her its just going to set it up to happen again.

if shes annoyed you, is stubborn and ignorant... why are you even bothering to be friends?

[knux]

if shes annoyed you, is stubborn and ignorant... why are you even bothering to be friends?
When your mad at someone you and pinpoint all their flaws and not focus on their good attributes.

[fromwithin]

get a hot mute bitch.

[Crocodile Logic]

you used the wrong form of too/to/two in the first line of your post.

[knux]

you used the wrong form of too/to/two in the first line of your post.

eeh.

[Crocodile Logic]

eeh.
you like girls. i like grammar.

[iLikePants]

you used the wrong form of too/to/two in the first line of your post.

Hahahaha, Grammar Nazi.

[Rebs]

you like girls. i like grammar.
so do i. :fuck:

So to the guy that wrote this, your best bet is just to talk to both of them. To the one so desperate to fit in, just let her know you care, and hopefully she'll be smart enough to work it out yourself. Don't get yourself caught in her drama.

[knux]

I talked to the 2nd girl, and everything seemed to get awkward.. chances are nothing is going to be the same huh?

[cherry_ibanez]

aww!
Did you tell the girl everything? Like how you feel and stuff? (I know guys aren't really into the 'i feel... such and such, but it helps.) It might have gotten awkward if she's not one of those open minded people though.
ppffft i dont think i helped at all, i didn't even give advice. But eh, you should tell her that you feel annoyed. It makes it easier for girls, i should know ;)