How To Deal With Friends That Lie

[thespearkid]

And I'm not just talking about the little stuff or even just the big stuff. I'm talking about someone who has fabricated their entire life, past, and identity to the point where once you find out they were lying, you really don't know anything about them anymore. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this and, if so, how do you deal with it?

[Reaver]

woah, i'm shocked. i have no idea how i would react.

i'd call him lysop the liar for the rest of my life.

[PezMullet]

I had a friend like this in high school. He's now in jail haha

[TheSkyline]

While she's not my friend (because she's such a liar) I do know someone who is exactly like what you are saying. Literally 90% of the things she says about herself/things she has done are lies, and now that everyone realizes that, no one really knows who she is, and no one will even listen to her talk anymore because we all know she just can't be honest about anything.
Honestly, I would say the best way to handle it is to just not be friends with him/her anymore. How can you be friends with someone you don't really know/is a huge liar?

[anamericangod]

Never been in a situation like this.

[Jake Denning]

Never been in a situation like this.

this

[anamericangod]

this

Haha, I was joking.

[Smash Adams]

Never been in a situation like this.
hahahopler

and no but I couldn't talk to them afterwards, I wouldn't trust them ever

[zion the lion]

I used to be that kind of person, but I didnt do it for kicks and giggles, I did it because I felt I had to. Either drop the person completely or give them a chance to explain themselves.

[Jake Denning]

Haha, I was joking.

I must have it good then, huh?

[kdefrisc]

While she's not my friend (because she's such a liar) I do know someone who is exactly like what you are saying. Literally 90% of the things she says about herself/things she has done are lies, and now that everyone realizes that, no one really knows who she is, and no one will even listen to her talk anymore because we all know she just can't be honest about anything.
Honestly, I would say the best way to handle it is to just not be friends with him/her anymore. How can you be friends with someone you don't really know/is a huge liar?

yeah i know someone like this. they don't make for bad acquaintances, but i wouldn't trust her with any important information or let myself get close to her as a friend. too risky

[thespearkid]

Never been in a situation like this.
ha.

[Five-Star]

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[makeshiftmind]

witness protection program would do that

[TheSkyline]

Never been in a situation like this.

Hahaha

[TeamAllison]

Just go along with it. If her/his entire being is a lie, it's still some sort of reality, isn't it?

Take the blue pill. The best part of believe is the lie. It's comfortable.

[anthonydarko]

I worked with a guy a few years ago who would lie about everything in his life. I still make fun of him to this day.

[TK]

I work with someone who's every word is practically a lie. I've just kind of learn to accept it and enjoy his company rather than try to have a serious friendship with the guy. Just enjoy the friendship, but don't value it.

[TotalCollapse]

A girl that I eat lunch with always lies, and I assume it's for attention. Not worth being friends with her if she does not feel like she can be herself around me.

[Kozzy333]

I've always wondered if any of my friends are like this.

[Five-Star]

I have had friends like this. I just ignore them for the most part. Dont pay much attention to what they have to say because I always think they are lying.

[MADSTA]

I used to be really good friends with a person like that. Things kind of fell apart. I'm glad.

[muttley]

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lol'ed.

[ArmedROBery]

I have a friend exactly like this.

It's funny, cause one night a few of us had grabbed some pizza at a local place. Afterward, the 'liar' friend left and my 2 remaining friends chilled in my car for a bit with me. I asked "have you ever noticed how often --- lies?" and immediately, they were like "uhh, yes. ALL THE FUCKING TIME." It was kinda a revelation amongst ourselves haha, that we all knew the truth.

Anyways, the only way I've ever dealt with it is to take it all with a grain of salt. When the lie is too huge, or too ridiculous, then I'll call him out on it.

[starshine1763]

I had a friend who did this. I ended the friendship. She lied about EVERYTHING and made an ass out of herself constantly and I wanted nothing to do with it.

[killerswells]

i lie about lying. i could be lying right now, but you will never know.

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[uglystar03]

Oh god, I used to have a friend that lied about literally EVERYTHING. Not only did she lie about the small stuff, like what she had for breakfast, she would make up really outlandish stories about her past, and the thing is, it was about stuff that didn't even matter. She would tell stories all the time about stuff that absolutely could not be true. It was hilarious, because all of my friends knew she was a huge liar and she got caught in her lies several times.

She would bounce between groups of friends. She never could stay friends with someone longer than 6-12 months. As soon as they stopped believing her stories she would find some new friends.

As far as how to deal with the situation, don't. Don't try to confront them, they will just fabricate more stories. The only thing you can do is either stop being friends with them or take every single little thing they say with a grain of salt. Personally, I prefer to have trustworthy people in my life.

[-whisp-]

I knew a girl like this in high school but I wasn't friends with her so I would just ignore and nod at her stories.

[newtothis]

I can't help but wonder why she did it. I mean, I know you've heard me say this before. What she did was awful. Some of the stories she created, terribly deceptive. But I can't help but feel pity for her, whatever her reasons were. I mean, I wouldn't outcast her, just don't reward her the same level of trust as before. Make her re-earn your respect.

[AlkalineAshes]

ive never had friends like this because i find it a deep character flaw.

[1mastalker]

I used to have this "friend"(lets call him H) that lied.

Example #1--H said he fucked my other friends ex-gf because she got him drunk and high at a concert.All my friends(including H) and I used to make fun of his ex-gf because she was a slut and my friend only got with her to fuck. According to H they fucked in her car. According to her she offered him weed and vodka and he turned it down then tried to make out with her before she pushed him off. Never figured out why he would lie about that. She didn't look that bad(great tits and ass) but something about her always made me think "ew".

Example #2--H said he was 1/4 African-American. Asked his brother. NOT TRUE.

Example #3--H said he lost his virginity freshman year(didn't know him then) to one of his friends that's a prostitute and he was the best she's ever had.<-------That one makes me laugh the most.

Example #4--One day when H didn't go to school we called him and he said he was high and driving to Las Vegas but when he was on the border of Nevada he just turned back. I don't know how because its a 6-hour drive to the border of Nevada and he doesn't have a car. The next day he came to school sick.

We got rid of him by slowly talking less and less to him and not inviting him when we went somewhere.

If I can remember more stories I'll post them later.

[NASHATTACK]

I had a friend who did this, majorly.

Firstly, she was proud NOT to be a virgin, but we later found out she was. Secondly, she created this fake identity on msn (which is easy to do I admit), who was pregnant, and the "father-to-be" had run away. She stuck with this story for nine months, and during childbirth, she died. My friends who had talked to this "mother to be" were all cut up about it, because they had formed good friendships with this fake person. One of my friends even ran away from home because of it, which led to my friend admitting she made up this person, and it never happened.

We all forgave her. Go figure. But a few years have passed and we've caught her out on lying again, and no one really talks to her anymore.

[NASHATTACK]

lol I sound really petty about the 'not being a virgin part'. I meant that she would brag about going out and having sex, and would tell us about it. But later on she admitted she made it all up. Odd little cookie, she is

[zion the lion]

I used to have this "friend"(lets call him H) that lied.

Example #1--H said he fucked my other friends ex-gf because she got him drunk and high at a concert.All my friends(including H) and I used to make fun of his ex-gf because she was a slut and my friend only got with her to fuck. According to H they fucked in her car. According to her she offered him weed and vodka and he turned it down then tried to make out with her before she pushed him off. Never figured out why he would lie about that. She didn't look that bad(great tits and ass) but something about her always made me think "ew".

Example #2--H said he was 1/4 African-American. Asked his brother. NOT TRUE.

Example #3--H said he lost his virginity freshman year(didn't know him then) to one of his friends that's a prostitute and he was the best she's ever had.<-------That one makes me laugh the most.

Example #4--One day when H didn't go to school we called him and he said he was high and driving to Las Vegas but when he was on the border of Nevada he just turned back. I don't know how because its a 6-hour drive to the border of Nevada and he doesn't have a car. The next day he came to school sick.

We got rid of him by slowly talking less and less to him and not inviting him when we went somewhere.

If I can remember more stories I'll post them later.

1. Because he's a dick?
2. You can usually tell when someone's 1/4 black. Unless he's the youngest of like 12 kids, you can tell.

[taylerx0]

A few of my friends have been kind of like this but the worst was this one girl I was good friends with in middle/high school. She was a pathological liar; so at first, listening to her shit was hilarious and we all loved hearing what she'd come up with next. But then we just got sick of it because she lied about literally everything. So we just stopped being friends with her. That's really the best way to deal with it... cut them out of your life.

[thespearkid]

I mean, I don't mean this girl just dropped fake stories. I mean she fabricated an entire identity, like out of a movie or something. The only things we know about her that are true is where she lives. Everything else was made up. It's crazy. She pretended to be poor and so she hung out with all the poor kids. We always try to help each other out financially whenever we can and while she was willingly taking our money, she had $3000 in the bank the whole time. Not once did she offer to help any of us when we needed it. I mean, things like that make me believe I can never really trust her again or be friends with her.

[thesafeword]

Oh, anamericangod.

[Kassie09]

i did that once when i was like 14. lolll it came back to fuck my life, hard.

[denissuxx]

There are people who lie for the sake of lying, and then there are people who 'have' to lie, about something.

I try to tell the truth as often as I can, and always with little things, but there are just some things, about the past, I don't want to tell people, as it would (unfairly) change their perception of me as a person.

[Andy Antar]

There are people who lie for the sake of lying, and then there are people who 'have' to lie, about something.

I try to tell the truth as often as I can, and always with little things, but there are just some things, about the past, I don't want to tell people, as it would (unfairly) change their perception of me as a person.

QFT.

[yves.]

2. You can usually tell when someone's 1/4 black. Unless he's the youngest of like 12 kids, you can tell.

not really. a girl in my spanish class had a black grandma and she looks white as shit. i'm half black and i could still pass off as just mediterranean (well, technically i am 1/4 mediterranean) or hispanic or something.

[bladerdude360]

Don't be friends with that person.

[pilot_light_out]

dont hang out with Gemini's

[samsara]

I had a friend like that and she stopped talking to me becasue she got so caught up in those lies.
She has to talk to people over the interweb in order for her lies to work.



Call that bitch out.

[zion the lion]

not really. a girl in my spanish class had a black grandma and she looks white as shit. i'm half black and i could still pass off as just mediterranean (well, technically i am 1/4 mediterranean) or hispanic or something.

That's why I said usually. Because my mom's friend is black and her husband is white and their first few kids look black but by the 6th, 7th, and 8th kid are all really light skinned with blue or green eyes and red or blonde hair. But I know people who are only a quarter black or an eighth and you can tell because of mongolian spots or curly hair and what-not.

[RecklessXRandy]

I used to be this kind of person. Now I'm just straight-up boring

[denissuxx]

QFT.

Why did you, of all people, have to find this thread?

[piglet]

Easy. Anal.

[brokenwings]

i've been in that situation. basically you'll never be able to trust this person. so the friendship will never be too amazing. if you still like hanging out with the person, just remember to never get too "personal" and to be critical of what he or she says.

[brokenwings]

Easy. Anal.
haha i guess this one never gets old

[Andy Antar]

Why did you, of all people, have to find this thread?


;-)

It's a small world, Den. It's a small-ass world.

[denissuxx]

;-)

It's a small world, Den. It's a small-ass world.

Evidently.

[JulieLynn]

A friend of mine, her ex boyfriend was like that. she thought he was a totally different person, had a baby with him, they were going to get married and then one day she found out the truth. He had lied about everything. His family, friends, where he went to school...everything...all i know is that she packed her shit, took the baby and moved back home with her mother. she has nothing to do with that guy now.

If that were me, i have no idea what i would do, i'd probably flip the hell out, yell, scream, throw shit...slap that person across the face. shit like that is just crazy.

[MyNameIsRoss]

I lie all the time. Just about small things to save my own ass though. I don't make outrageous shit up.

[jenny_ell]

my friends who are a little younger used to lie about their ages, where they were from, their birthday, and all this stupid random stuff, finally they got caught up in the lies over the years and people would call them out, eventually they grew out of it, i guess the only thing to do really is sit back and wait for them to grow up and eventually the truth will come out.

[Alex!]

I know a kid at my school like this. He reminds me of that bird kid with the penis on his stomach from youtube. I laugh at him.

[limepomegranate]

drop them faster than a hot potato!

[yakob89]

i've been in that situation. basically you'll never be able to trust this person. so the friendship will never be too amazing. if you still like hanging out with the person, just remember to never get too "personal" and to be critical of what he or she says.

Oh how true it is. I had my best friend do some terrible shit to me and now our relationship will never ever be the same no matter how hard we try. It's just awkward.

[Reaver]

drop them faster than a hot potato!

i just got out of bed, and all I find are short, funny answers like that in every thread. had a nice day?

[deathinkosovo]

Alternate title: How to lie with friends who deal.

[limepomegranate]

i just got out of bed, and all I find are short, funny answers like that in every thread. had a nice day?
haha thankyou! and it was alright! out of all the days i've had in CT i would say this was one of the best though and that's sad...because all i did was play videogames do laundry and go out to eat with my daddy

[Reaver]

sounds pretty solid to me. i guess you just need some dude to fuck your brains out.

[limepomegranate]

sounds pretty solid to me. i guess you just need some dude to fuck your brains out.
haha yea normally my bf and i would be doing it right about now...i miss him...lol i did the math and at an average of 3 times a day 7 days a week for 3 weeks that we were fucking we fucked 63times! lol i only know this because he asked me to guesstimate how many times we've banged.

[Reaver]

haha yea normally my bf and i would be doing it right about now...i miss him...lol i did the math and at an average of 3 times a day 7 days a week for 3 weeks that we were fucking we fucked 63times! lol i only know this because he asked me to guesstimate how many times we've banged.

let me know if you need a new vibe. i'll take over then.

[ship of fools]

I knew a girl in high school that would lie all the time about big stuff. She lied that some dude got her pregnant, she lied her sister died in an accident, she lied that she had a heart condition that she would be dead before we graduated. Just a few examples, but it happened all the time. I dunno...if you're going to lie like that, you should do it with things that can't be disproven with a trip to your house/9 months later/at graduation.

[limepomegranate]

let me know if you need a new vibe. i'll take over then.
haha ok