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pinkjinx87
01/29/06, 09:06 PM
Anyone else live with strict parents? I'm 18 and going to college and they still do a background check on anyone I date or want to hang out with. I know that they feel a need to protect me and all that but still...I need space. I feel trapped. I can't afford to move out right now..but I want to soo bad. Can anyone relate..any advice?
I can't relate because my parents form of parenting worked out really good with me. They brought me up right and they knew I knew the rules. They let me make my own decisions because they believe I would reflect the morals they taught me. As long as I didn't get in trouble and didn't need anything from them, then they were fine with my life. It was more of a friendship but with authority when there needed be.They of course wanted to know who I was with and about when I would be home. My only advice is to talk to them and to prove to them you aren't a child and you are in college and need to show your independence.
pinkjinx87
01/29/06, 09:12 PM
I can't relate because my parents form of parenting worked out really good with me. They brought me up right and they knew I knew the rules. They let me make my own decisions because they believe I would reflect the morals they taught me. As long as I didn't get in trouble and didn't need anything from them, then they were fine with my life. It was more of a friendship but with authority when there needed be.They of course wanted to know who I was with and about when I would be home. My only advice is to talk to them and to prove to them you aren't a child and you are in college and need to show your independence.Yeah I guess I have to prove to them that I'm an adult..I dunno.
JacksColdSweat
01/29/06, 09:13 PM
whatever, i do what i want.
pinkjinx87
01/29/06, 09:15 PM
whatever, i do what i want.For some reason I really havent been the rebellious type. I guess I'm reserved..but recently I've been wanting to just go out and do whatever I want.
tiny222
01/29/06, 09:20 PM
Yeah, you need to talk to them .. you are 18, & you aren't a child anymore ..
I would hate to have strict parents .. I completely let my mom knew I'd be doing what I want when I was 18, haha .. but she was cool with it.
pinkjinx87
01/29/06, 09:26 PM
Yeah, you need to talk to them .. you are 18, & you aren't a child anymore ..
I would hate to have strict parents .. I completely let my mom knew I'd be doing what I want when I was 18, haha .. but she was cool with it.Yeah..they make me really want to get out. I mean I do anyway, but with them on my ass constantly, I NEED to get out lol
tiny222
01/30/06, 12:10 AM
Yeah..they make me really want to get out. I mean I do anyway, but with them on my ass constantly, I NEED to get out lol
Yeah, I don't blame you! :)
this is me before i go to a party to drink....
"bye mom i will be back tomorrow"
"ok bye."
hahahahahaha so many questions
this is me before i go to a party to drink....
"bye mom i will be back tomorrow"
"ok bye."
hahahahahaha so many questions
thats how it is with my mom. she just knows
radiofriendly
01/30/06, 09:01 AM
are they the kind of parents that would listen if you really tried to sit down and talk sensibly about how you feel, or do they just kind of shut you down.
ive never had any rules in the house really, i walk out and dont come back for days and they don't care as long as i have my mobile on me, they dont even ask where im going.
not because they neglect me or anything, but because they trust me i guess.
i've never had to lie substantially to my parents because ive never been in the position to need to.
Shatter590
01/30/06, 09:58 AM
it took me a while to earn freedom to come and go as i please. when i was 18 i came home at 11 once and got chewed out about it. My folks eventually just got over it.
I'm not gonna say that having strict parents is a bad thing, it worked well for me. Maybe the time method works here, you can slowly start asserting yourself and winning freedom. One problem is, that could take up to a year to work. Its the system I used, and though it took 8 months for full effect, once it was done, it was done.
But parents are being parents after all...
yea. my mom trusts me. too much. haha
Brownpants06
01/30/06, 10:32 AM
this is me before i go to a party to drink....
"bye mom i will be back tomorrow"
"ok bye."
hahahahahaha so many questions
yep, same.
Shatter590
01/30/06, 11:16 AM
you can also age out of it lol. The vestigal naggings vanished the moment i turned 21.
The Game
01/30/06, 11:42 AM
this is me before i go to a party to drink....
"bye mom i will be back tomorrow"
"ok bye."
hahahahahaha so many questions
thats exactly how my parents are
they found weed on my floor yesterday, and put it on my desk so i didnt loose it
yeah my parents are really strict 2. but if its that bad im sure u could find somewhere 2 live u my not have the nicest place or be able 2 buy anything but food, but if u try u could at least survive on ur own. so if its that bad u should leave.
GoWaitInTheCar
01/30/06, 12:26 PM
I don't listen to either of my parents. I live with my mom and she tends to yell about everything, so I just ignore it and do my own thing.
ClapClapSnap
01/30/06, 04:23 PM
my parents are pretty cool i guess...when i go out drinking i tell them up front "mom, i'm going to the bars, i'll call you if i need you" she does the "don't be an idiot" thing, gives me a hug/kiss and that's it...she's aweosme because i'm only 19...my dad on the other hand, "dad, i'm going to the bars" "whaaat? i thought you were staying in tonight, why are you going to the bar, you're only 19!" and then my mom will just talk to him...i go out with my older brother most of the time so it's not like i'm by myself...
but if i'm going out on my own or whatever, i just pull the "i don't even really have to tell you where i'm going, i lived in a dorm last year and used to go out at 2am" and they just tell me shut up hahah
it took me awhile to get them used to the fact that i'd be going out...as long as i have my cell they're pretty cool about everything though...
just try to talk to them, tell them you'll let them know where you're going, and that they have some way to get in contact with you [either your cell or a friends]
hoooly long post, my bad hahah
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