I'm the definition of awkward :|

[takemyhand]

Not literally, but seriously I need help.

Alright, so I just got out of a pretty long relationship.
I've pretty much been out of the dating/flirting scene for years.. so I have no idea how to act.
And I'm just so awkward/quiet. I just need some tips?

Like for example..
Last night This guy who I thought was pretty cute put me on the guest list to see his band,
and he tried talking to me, came and stood by me while another band was playing, him and some of the guys in his band even took me my friend and my sister out to get food afterward.
I barely said a sentence the whole night.

And I gave him like a hug with one arm and said "nice to meet you" I fucking have met this guy before.. ugh.

I mean I don't know if he was into me at all, but I just think it was ridiculous that I couldn't even talk :|


I've always been pretty shy, :-/

So I guess I just need help, so any ideas? At all?

Thanks :)


And also.. this is random.. but just wondering what guys think of hair extensions, haha.
Like idk, if I ever go on a date and like maybe kiss a guy and like he feels my hair or something and he can feel extensions in my hair. Haha, just wondering if that creepy or if it's no big deal. I have hair I just like how extensions look, lol.

[fallingapart101]

Funny, I am shy and act the same way around girls, after I got out of my 4 year relationship, I had no idea how to act either. I find it better to talk on the internet with people first, then go out to like a coffee shop or a main street type area with a lot of shops to get to know someone.

Now here comes all the comments to just have ton of sex with every guy from other users.

[Smash Adams]

aw poor guy
and as per extensions I like natural hair, no dye no extensions nothing myself, and not to be creepy but you don't need them

[llwilliamsll]

hair extensions are lame...dude knows your into him and is looking to get in those pants.

Awkward moments are awesome...just keep it up.

[themahon990]

wow, that sucks. It sounds like he was into you. Maybe you should give him your number and you can get to know him better by texting, its hard to be awkward through texting. Then the next time you see him you'll have more to talk about. Shows aren't too conducive to talking anyways, even the music between bands is loud enough to make it hard to talk.

Im pretty shy too and it sucks when you just can't think of anything to say. Its so frustrating, it gets to a point where your trying so hard to think of any random thing to say. I guess just do your best to think of things to say, maybe take note of your surrondings and make a comment on that, just anything to get a conversation going

I wouldn't think the extensions would be creepy, but i would prefer natural hair. It would just be a little weird.

one more thing to add- not sure if the guy is smart enough to realize this or not, but he might have taken the fact that you were shy/nervous around him as a hint that your into him

[takemyhand]

Funny, I am shy and act the same way around girls, after I got out of my 4 year relationship, I had no idea how to act either. I find it better to talk on the internet with people first, then go out to like a coffee shop or a main street type area with a lot of shops to get to know someone.

Now here comes all the comments to just have ton of sex with every guy from other users.

Oh, I've talked to this guy over the internet, text, videochat; before last night.
I have no idea what's wrong with me :|

[DejaNew]

It's kind of hard to not be awkward if you're usually an awkward person. Some people like that though. You may be thinking he wasn't very into you, but maybe he liked that. I know my last girlfriend was a pretty shy/awkward person, and I loved that. It was what initially drew me to her. It may sound like normal advice, but seriously, just be yourself. If you find somebody you can actually click with, I'm sure you won't act very awkward around them for very long.

Also, extensions? Yeah they probably feel weird. I've never noticed them on a girl before though, but I don't get all up in the scalp when I'm kissing.

[takemyhand]

aw poor guy
and as per extensions I like natural hair, no dye no extensions nothing myself, and not to be creepy but you don't need them

Haha I feel like I might have came of as a bitch, I was just nervous I guess.
Lol, thank you.

[anamericangod]

Start drinking.

[takemyhand]

wow, that sucks. It sounds like he was into you. Maybe you should give him your number and you can get to know him better by texting, its hard to be awkward through texting. Then the next time you see him you'll have more to talk about. Shows aren't too conducive to talking anyways, even the music between bands is loud enough to make it hard to talk.

Im pretty shy too and it sucks when you just can't think of anything to say. Its so frustrating, it gets to a point where your trying so hard to think of any random thing to say. I guess just do your best to think of things to say, maybe take note of your surrondings and make a comment on that, just anything to get a conversation going

I wouldn't think the extensions would be creepy, but i would prefer natural hair. It would just be a little weird.

one more thing to add- not sure if the guy is smart enough to realize this or not, but he might have taken the fact that you were shy/nervous around him as a hint that your into him

I've texting him a few times before last night. Hah, I'm not awkward really over texting or the internet. Which is totally lame.

Yeah I guess I just get so shy, and nervous.. then just fail.

[takemyhand]

It's kind of hard to not be awkward if you're usually an awkward person. Some people like that though. You may be thinking he wasn't very into you, but maybe he liked that. I know my last girlfriend was a pretty shy/awkward person, and I loved that. It was what initially drew me to her. It may sound like normal advice, but seriously, just be yourself. If you find somebody you can actually click with, I'm sure you won't act very awkward around them for very long.

Also, extensions? Yeah they probably feel weird. I've never noticed them on a girl before though, but I don't get all up in the scalp when I'm kissing.

Yeah, I'm not awkward around like close friends/family at all.
Hopefully he didn't think i was like super lame and creepy.

I have no idea how I'm going to do this dating thing if anyone ever asks me to go somewhere haha.
My ex new me for year because we went to school together so the shyness was already expected.

[Smash Adams]

Haha I feel like I might have came of as a bitch, I was just nervous I guess.
Lol, thank you.
we've all been there:) though for me it would be being an asshole of course

[takemyhand]

Start drinking.

Hahahaha

[takemyhand]

we've all been there:) though for me it would be being an asshole of course

lol, well good to know I'm not the only one.

[takemyhand]

hair extensions are lame...dude knows your into him and is looking to get in those pants.

Awkward moments are awesome...just keep it up.

hahaha ,thanks?

[fallingapart101]

Videochat, interesting never did that. To be honest I bet $20 that he likes you and when you do start becoming something he is going say "I liked you for a long time, but thought you didn't." I say hang out with him one on one, maybe that way it will force you to talk to him and get to bring out the real you. I say small independent coffee shop over chai, but that is just me.

[takemyhand]

Videochat, interesting never did that. To be honest I bet $20 that he likes you and when you do start becoming something he is going say "I liked you for a long time, but thought you didn't." I say hang out with him one on one, maybe that way it will force you to talk to him and get to bring out the real you. I say small independent coffee shop over chai, but that is just me.

Thanks for the advice :)

[DejaNew]

Yeah, I'm not awkward around like close friends/family at all.
Hopefully he didn't think i was like super lame and creepy.

I have no idea how I'm going to do this dating thing if anyone ever asks me to go somewhere haha.
My ex new me for year because we went to school together so the shyness was already expected.
Seriously, you don't need to worry about guys asking you out.

[fallingapart101]

Thanks for the advice :)

No problem!

[anamericangod]

Hahahaha

In my opinion, casual dating or whatever you'd call it is bullshit and a waste of time. Just do whatever you do and meet people like normal. Don't put any pressure on yourself to be extra social or more outgoing than you usually are. When you meet somebody that you really feel into, it will come naturally.

You can't force what isn't there.

[takemyhand]

In my opinion, casual dating or whatever you'd call it is bullshit and a waste of time. Just do whatever you do and meet people like normal. Don't put any pressure on yourself to be extra social or more outgoing than you usually are. When you meet somebody that you really feel into, it will come naturally.

You can't force what isn't there.

Mmm, yeah.

[takemyhand]

Seriously, you don't need to worry about guys asking you out.

Yeah I do, I'm going to be single for ever because I'm an awkward turtle.

[bung]

Yeah I do, I'm going to be single for ever because I'm an awkward turtle.

No, you're actually pretty fucking good looking, which basically means that no matter how awkward you are, it'll be ok because guys won't give a shit.

[DejaNew]

Yeah I do, I'm going to be single for ever because I'm an awkward turtle.
Well don't worry. You're very pretty, and you're into music. And you seem a little bit interesting, even though you might be a little awkward.

[DejaNew]

No, you're actually pretty fucking good looking, which basically means that no matter how awkward you are, it'll be ok because guys won't give a shit.
Yeah but just cuz a girl is pretty doesn't mean that a guy is content to stay with them forever. If the girl is super hot, but really boring, I wouldn't be sticking around for longer than a month.

[llwilliamsll]

Just get naked with each other. Ruins all awkwardness.

[takemyhand]

No, you're actually pretty fucking good looking, which basically means that no matter how awkward you are, it'll be ok because guys won't give a shit.

Lmao, maybe.

[RecklessXRandy]

This thread reminds me of myself

[takemyhand]

Just get naked with each other. Ruins all awkwardness.

Hahahahahhahahaa

[takemyhand]

Well don't worry. You're very pretty, and you're into music. And you seem a little bit interesting, even though you might be a little awkward.

Maybe.. I'm not boring.. just shy I suppose.
Well shit, maybe I am boring.
I have no idea.
& thanks.

[takemyhand]

This thread reminds me of myself

:'(

[bung]

Yeah but just cuz a girl is pretty doesn't mean that a guy is content to stay with them forever. If the girl is super hot, but really boring, I wouldn't be sticking around for longer than a month.

This is true, but it doesn't seem to me that her problem is that she's boring, just that she's shy.

So, any awkwardness an attractive girl exhibits because she's shy won't turn a guy off. No guy is gonna be like, "Wow, this is girl is super hot, but really awkward, so I'm not asking her out on a second date." By the time they get to know each other, she won't really be shy towards him anymore. If it turns out she is boring, then yeah, the guy probably won't stay with her. But I don't think at the start of a relationship being awkward is going to turn many guys off.

[DejaNew]

This is true, but it doesn't seem to me that her problem is that she's boring, just that she's shy.

So, any awkwardness an attractive girl exhibits because she's shy won't turn a guy off. No guy is gonna be like, "Wow, this is girl is super hot, but really awkward, so I'm not asking her out on a second date." By the time they get to know each other, she won't really be shy towards him anymore. If it turns out she is boring, then yeah, the guy probably won't stay with her. But I don't think at the start of a relationship being awkward is going to turn many guys off.
True, I actually really enjoy the awkwardness at the beginning of a relationship. I think it's exciting and hilarious.

[kianacarly]

At least you're awkward and pretty, haha. I'm just awkward and blah, and I can come off as a bitch or snobby sometimes without even realizing it, when it's really just me being shy. I met a cute guy the other day, and even though we were in a large group of friends, I hardly said a word the entire time because I was so nervous. I'm awful at meeting anyone, regardless if I'm interested in them or not, so I can totally sympathize.

[bung]

True, I actually really enjoy the awkwardness at the beginning of a relationship. I think it's exciting and hilarious.

Haha, same here. It's that great stage of a relationship where you don't know how stupid, or boring, or what a general bitch the girl is. So you have all these really optimistic ideas in your head for where the relationship might go.

/slightly bitter

[DejaNew]

Haha, same here. It's that great stage of a relationship where you don't know how stupid, or boring, or what a general bitch the girl is. So you have all these really optimistic ideas in your head for where the relationship might go.

/slightly bitter
Hahah seems like you just went through something like that.

[RecklessXRandy]

:'(

I've been in a situation numerous times where I meet someone at school or something, and then we start talking over the internet, but then we meet again and I barely say a word.

[Jake Denning]

print out your AP.net profile page and use that for convo.

"It says here im really into........what are you into?"

[zion the lion]

I'm a complete mess around guys who are even a minute older than me. But with guys who are younger than me, I'm crazy and outgoing and fun.

[briannedixon]

I'm a complete mess around guys who are even a minute older than me. But with guys who are younger than me, I'm crazy and outgoing and fun.
aaah same here. it's horrible. i'm not even sure why i do it either. :|

[zion the lion]

aaah same here. it's horrible. i'm not even sure why i do it either. :|

Me and this guy met up for a "vacation" and for the first two or three days I was so shy/nervous that I didnt eat and I talked half as much as I usually do (which is a lot).

[Manicapathy]

I'm a complete mess around guys who are even a minute older than me. But with guys who are younger than me, I'm crazy and outgoing and fun.
Older women, ftw.

[fake empire]

I'm like this too

[briannedixon]

Me and this guy met up for a "vacation" and for the first two or three days I was so shy/nervous that I didnt eat and I talked half as much as I usually do (which is a lot).
ahahha aww man, that sucksss.

i just become generally quieter, less outspoken and/or joking, and i won't move around a lot. i'll do this around nearly anyone who's older who i don't know well. i guess i just don't wanna come off as dumb? i don't know, but it's fucking lame and i'm trying to stop. haha

[zion the lion]

Older women, ftw.

Okay cougar hunter, calm down.

[zion the lion]

ahahha aww man, that sucksss.

i just become generally quieter, less outspoken and/or joking, and i won't move around a lot. i'll do this around nearly anyone who's older who i don't know well. i guess i just don't wanna come off as dumb? i don't know, but it's fucking lame and i'm trying to stop. haha

Yeah it was pretty bad, but we ended up getting close because we had no choice haha.

I get tongue tied and give almost no eye contact, and I pretty much dont eat at all. I cant figure out why at all.

[Richard Maxim]

The awkwardness makes you seem like your playing hard to get, i'm sure he loves that, keep it up and use a condom.

[fake empire]

But do girls really like it when guys are awkward? Probably not

[whataclush]

Start drinking.

this/

[trappedintime]

Oy. I'm right there with you OP. It's way too awkward to flirt nowadays. There's this girl who just started working where I work and she's super cute. She started talking to me out of nowhere this week. Thing is, around her, I can't seem to like talk. At all. I stumble on every other word and I repeat myself constantly. And then she looks at me weird and goes back to what she was doing. Then, along comes my other co-workers and I can easily talk to them right in front of her. Ugh. I'm so lame.

[briannedixon]

Yeah it was pretty bad, but we ended up getting close because we had no choice haha.

I get tongue tied and give almost no eye contact, and I pretty much dont eat at all. I cant figure out why at all.
well i suppose that's a good thing then, right? :-d

i think i'd rather give almost no eye contact than too much, like i do just out of pure habit. i think i must creep some people out. my stare is too ~piercing, hahaha

[briannedixon]

But do girls really like it when guys are awkward? Probably not
some of my girl friends (yeah, the older ones too, not just all 15 year olds haha) think awkward guys are the absolute cutest thing ever. the rest just don't really care.

[zion the lion]

But do girls really like it when guys are awkward? Probably not

I think its adorable.

well i suppose that's a good thing then, right? :-d

i think i'd rather give almost no eye contact than too much, like i do just out of pure habit. i think i must creep some people out. my stare is too ~piercing, hahaha

I'm having to teach myself to give eye contact. I was taught not to...its so hard to try to look someone in the eye.

[SonEric84]

I'm pretty shy and somewhat awkward at first...so you should just date me.


hey, can't blame me for trying.

[briannedixon]

I think its adorable.



I'm having to teach myself to give eye contact. I was taught not to...its so hard to try to look someone in the eye.
i wasn't taught either to or not to. i just do, haha. i'm sure you can learn easy :)

[zion the lion]

i wasn't taught either to or not to. i just do, haha. i'm sure you can learn easy :)

My mom used to work with the natives, and some of them consider it rude to give eye contact, so my mom always told me to not do the whole eye contact thing.

[briannedixon]

My mom used to work with the natives, and some of them consider it rude to give eye contact, so my mom always told me to not do the whole eye contact thing.
ahh, i see. makes sense.

[Kassie09]

Just be really confident in yourself and you'll be fine, really. don't worry about saying something dumb or whatever, just start slowly trying to say small things in conversations until you get really comfortable talking a lot. It's hardddd to talk to other guys and stuff though once you've been in a relationship so long but it'll definitely come back to you.

[TMartin442]

sexual tension is fun, make the best of it and laugh about it.

[skyphoenix]

Like many of the other repliers, I am in the same boat as you. I was in a relationship for 3 years and now I have a real hard time trying to talk to girls I find attractive. Ive always been pretty shy but being out of it for so long seems to have made it worse. I would say just keep trying and maybe it will fix itself in time. Terrible advice, but thats what Im trying :-d

[jco3]

I'm terrible in conversation, it's like anxiety city up in this piece.

But honestly what you're experiencing is completely normal. Just try to arrange another meeting/date/social gathering with this dude through a text. This way he will know you're interested, just a shy girl in conversation. Which is totally cool by the way, not everyone can be the life of the party. And I usually I go for girls who are shy and/or awkward in conversation... quite simply because I am too. haha

Oh and you're purdy, you should have no trouble finding guys to get your mack on with.
/OP creeping

[piglet]

Not literally, but seriously I need help.

Alright, so I just got out of a pretty long relationship.
I've pretty much been out of the dating/flirting scene for years.. so I have no idea how to act.
And I'm just so awkward/quiet. I just need some tips?

Like for example..
Last night This guy who I thought was pretty cute put me on the guest list to see his band,
and he tried talking to me, came and stood by me while another band was playing, him and some of the guys in his band even took me my friend and my sister out to get food afterward.
I barely said a sentence the whole night.

And I gave him like a hug with one arm and said "nice to meet you" I fucking have met this guy before.. ugh.

I mean I don't know if he was into me at all, but I just think it was ridiculous that I couldn't even talk :|


I've always been pretty shy, :-/

So I guess I just need help, so any ideas? At all?

Thanks :)


And also.. this is random.. but just wondering what guys think of hair extensions, haha.
Like idk, if I ever go on a date and like maybe kiss a guy and like he feels my hair or something and he can feel extensions in my hair. Haha, just wondering if that creepy or if it's no big deal. I have hair I just like how extensions look, lol.


You should eat a bowl of quick dry cement, you need to harden the fuck up.

[takemyhand]

You should eat a bowl of quick dry cement, you need to harden the fuck up.

hey now, that was a good one.

[the1]

Haha, same here. It's that great stage of a relationship where you don't know how stupid, or boring, or what a general bitch the girl is. So you have all these really optimistic ideas in your head for where the relationship might go.

/slightly bitter

Oh my, I couldn't agree more. The future actually looked slightly bright for a moment there.

I personally love it when girls are shyt/awkward. The thought of me being to intimidate anyone in a positive way hugely boosts my self-esteem. So there's a chance that he could actually like you even more. It's the chase!!

Better to be like this than throw yourself on every guy you see ;)

[Reaver]

i didn't read all the comments, but i'll just say something though.

you probably should stop thinking too much what he might want to hear and start just being confident. i know that it's easy to say and very hard to do, but it's the only real solution to that problem. trust me, i know.

my gf gets herself hair extensions next week. she doesn't want me to see her until she got them and is really excited about it. well, i think it's not necessary, because i like her hair. but i support her, of course...

[thespearkid]

don't flirt. just talk. you think too much, probably.

[inyoursea]

Just let things come naturally. If you're a little shy at first, oh well, give it time.

[uglystar03]

Start drinking.

QFT.

[phil19]

Not literally, but seriously I need help.

Alright, so I just got out of a pretty long relationship.
I've pretty much been out of the dating/flirting scene for years.. so I have no idea how to act.
And I'm just so awkward/quiet. I just need some tips?

Like for example..
Last night This guy who I thought was pretty cute put me on the guest list to see his band,
and he tried talking to me, came and stood by me while another band was playing, him and some of the guys in his band even took me my friend and my sister out to get food afterward.
I barely said a sentence the whole night.

And I gave him like a hug with one arm and said "nice to meet you" I fucking have met this guy before.. ugh.

I mean I don't know if he was into me at all, but I just think it was ridiculous that I couldn't even talk :|


I've always been pretty shy, :-/

So I guess I just need help, so any ideas? At all?

Thanks :)


And also.. this is random.. but just wondering what guys think of hair extensions, haha.
Like idk, if I ever go on a date and like maybe kiss a guy and like he feels my hair or something and he can feel extensions in my hair. Haha, just wondering if that creepy or if it's no big deal. I have hair I just like how extensions look, lol.

hair extensions are gross. i hate them. dont get them.

[thesafeword]

takemyhand, you're more like the defintion of 'would'.

[TeamAllison]

Girls this pretty aren't supposed to be awkward or exist on the internet. OP is a lie.

[The Pharmacist]

^this. you must really like him, thats what i think, just let go. this guy likes you for who you are, just talk about things you two like, like music.

[bigblue2015]

Girls this pretty aren't supposed to be awkward or exist on the internet. OP is a lie.

This.

OP is like the Loch Ness monster.. I mean that in the nicest way possible though.

[takemyhand]

Girls this pretty aren't supposed to be awkward or exist on the internet. OP is a lie.

I'm not a lie, just awesome.

[takemyhand]

takemyhand, you're more like the defintion of 'would'.

I suppose I'll take this as a compliment, thank you.
<3.

[anamericangod]

I suppose I'll take this as a compliment, thank you.
<3.

Oh you'll take it alright.

[bigblue2015]

Oh you'll take it alright.

WHAMMY!

[Codi23]

I don't think you have much to worry about; like some other people said, you're good looking and I'm sure someone will come along who doesn't really care about the shyness.

I do know what you mean though; I came out of a long relationship like 6 months ago, and I'm usually pretty quiet; so yeah, I understand the awkwardness you're talking about. I think it's a natural thing when you've been with somebody so long; you have to get used to meeting people again.

Just my 2 cents.

[takemyhand]

Oh you'll take it alright.

That's a good one!!!11!1

[anamericangod]

That's a good one!!!11!1

Shhh, no need to yell.

[thesafeword]

I suppose I'll take this as a compliment, thank you.
<3.
It is a compliment, but way to make it awkward and everything, haha.

[takemyhand]

It is a compliment, but way to make it awkward and everything, haha.

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

[thesafeword]

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaah
Haha, look at what you did.

[AndrewIcex]

I am not really awkward, but I do like shy girls, my girlfriend is shy when you first meet her, but she tends to get a bit more outgoing by the end of a good evening, she doesn't stay shy the whole time, just gotta warm up how ever you can to people.. no rush though.

[concernedparent]

Awkward girls can be cute in their awkwardness, unless they come across as a bitch. So stay out of the bitch zone and be yourself! Unless you're a bitch. Then pretend to not be a bitch.

[My Broken Fever]

Awkward girls are hawt.

[mattmatumbo]

That's sad, but i found it pretty funny. My friend who dated this girl for a year or so said he forgot how to flirt too after they broke up.

[Codi23]

That's sad, but i found it pretty funny. My friend who dated this girl for a year or so said he forgot how to flirt too after they broke up.

...yeah, see? It's not out of the ordinary to feel like that; there's plenty of proof in this thread ;-) . Just keep being yourself.

[shimmyshakes]

just laugh it off.

[TheSkyline]

http://www.absolutepunk.net/customprofilepics/profilepic294571_42.gif

He's into you. I'm pretty sure you could have told him you used to have a dick and it wouldn't have made a difference.

[phil19]

http://www.absolutepunk.net/customprofilepics/profilepic294571_42.gif

He's into you. I'm pretty sure you could have told him you used to have a dick and it wouldn't have made a difference.

hahaha

[fallingheart]

ugh im the same way! people always ask me why im so quiet and stuff and why don't i talk more, but i can't help it hahah. once i get to know people though im really not that shy, so i don't worry too much about it.

[phil19]

ugh im the same way! people always ask me why im so quiet and stuff and why don't i talk more, but i can't help it hahah. once i get to know people though im really not that shy, so i don't worry too much about it.

you're only shy around new people huh? me too

[Heart-A-Tact]

I'll compete with you for the title of "definition of awkward".