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boxcar racer
03/29/03, 12:17 PM
me an my girlfriend broke up last night.
it had only been 2 months and a week.. but i had never felt so strongly about anyone in my life...

it was always great, we loved being around eachother, we always had fun, and we were both upset when the nights came to an end...

we got into one little fight about a month and a week into things (i kissed this girl on the check as a joke, cause thats what i do, i joke) and when i saw her i told her, making sure i was the one she heard about it from.. she was a little made, and as the classes passed, seems felt more and more strained.. that night she called and said we should get together and talk about things.. se we met and talked, and everything was great again, and it seemed even better, like a bonding experience.

then last weekend i told her i loved her, and that i had never felt so good with anyone, and blahblahblah, and things seemed great, she said i love you back and said she felt the same way...

the next day we hung out and everything was perfect...

then one monday in school everything seemed great, holding hands between classes, laughing and talking..

same with tuesday, and wednesday

thursday we had a weird conversationg about how sometimes things feel weird sometimes, and about the lack of things to talk about on the phone... we both agreed it was probably due to the fact that we never see eachother outside of school on weekdays, then just end up talking on the phone for a few hours every night...

yesterday roles around(friday)... in the morning, and through out the school day, things seemed great, holding hands in the halls, laughing and talking... then after school, we went to a friends house and were eating pizza, and cake (someones birthday)... and i started to get the feeling that she didnt want to be around me.. like she would rather i werent there... so in the car back to someone elses house things seemed reeeeally strained... we kept getting upset at eachother for the dumbest things and you could tell something was wrong..

we got where we were going.. she went inside and straight onto the computer, on to AIM and started talking to friends, so i asked if anything was wrong and she said everything was fine (i could tell it wasnt and started getting upset)..

blah blah blah, she goes upstairs, starts playing the piano, i followed sat down next to her and started talking...

i asked what was wrong with us today
and told her about the feelings i was having
we really didnt say to much, and didnt get anywhere.. so i got up and said then im just gonna go home, and you can call me if you wanted to talk about it...

i got up and started walking away praying she would ask me to stay so we could talk about it.. she didnt..

i got home, noneone was there.. there was nothing to do, it was only like 7:00.. and i was going crazy, my heart was pounding, i was really scared.. after about a half an hour a called her and the conversation went something like this.

i asked what was going on she said she didnt know and eventually said that that last few days she had been having the feeling she had gotten in past relationships when it just felt like it was over... i asked why she was having this feeling, she didnt know.. so i said, if you dont know, you cant change it, maybe you dont want to.. then its over.. she said nothing, and i said bye and hung up...

now i was really going crazy.. tried to go to bed.. couldnt sleep, i was feeling angry, hurt, scared, lied to, betrayed.... i felt sick to my stomach.. wrote some peotry....

she called me at like 9:00... and said somethings and said she didnt want it to be over... and she started crying, and i broke down, we were both crying and i completly poured my heart out.. told her how much she meant to me, how hurt i was, how much i loved her.... by the end of the conversation i said, well you dont know what you want to do.. so call me when you figure it out...

she said some stuff about feeling overwhelmed...



and all day ive been going crazy, i cant get her out of my head..
my heart stops everytime the phone rings, and she hasnt been one of the people to call yet.. noones called that could tell me anything about was goign on....


i want to talk to her sooo bad and find out whats going on...
but my dads given me some advice and siad i shouldnt call her, he said that what he thinks went wrong between us is that, she had all the control.. i said i love you first and just alot of stuff like that.. he said if i want her back, i need to take back some of that control, i need to make her chase me.. i need to make her love me more then she thinks i love her, no matter how much its killing me right now...

what do yo think??

MaybeOneDay
03/29/03, 12:21 PM
oh, i thought you were actually dying...phew

and not to sound rude or anything, but i dont think anyone is going to take the time to read that long ass message you just wrote. sucks that you broke up, hope evertyhing works out.

Jim Morgan
03/29/03, 12:27 PM
i read it and i know how you feel dude, and if you really feel that way about her, then you have to try to get her back.

Either wait for her to call you by a certain time, and then call her and tell her how you feel, or

call her immediately and tell her you need her.


hope i could help.....

boxcar racer
03/29/03, 12:27 PM
everything was great for two months..
i told her i loved her last week, she said she loved me to.
yesterday, somthing went wrong and we broke up..
by the end of the night she called me and said she doesnt want it to be over, she said she doesnt know whats wrong, she hadnt lost intrest in me, there isnt someone else...
she cried, i cried...
i said when you figure it out call me..

she hasnt called me yet, and im going nuts...

what should i do?????

FishAlotNBePunk
03/29/03, 12:27 PM
i think shes a bitch and you should write songs for the ataris.

day in paradise
03/29/03, 12:28 PM
i read it. normal shit, youll get over it.

goldfinger55
03/29/03, 12:28 PM
wow, i did. i was into it. nice writing

day in paradise
03/29/03, 12:30 PM
Originally posted by boxcar racer
everything was great for two months..
i told her i loved her last week, she said she loved me to.
yesterday, somthing went wrong and we broke up..
by the end of the night she called me and said she doesnt want it to be over, she said she doesnt know whats wrong, she hadnt lost intrest in me, there isnt someone else...
she cried, i cried...
i said when you figure it out call me..

she hasnt called me yet, and im going nuts...

what should i do?????

leave it be. if she doesnt want to be with you, you acting all obsessed with her will just drive her away even more. Call her and tell her that you wanna be friends.

MaybeOneDay
03/29/03, 12:32 PM
you have to find out what you really mean to this girl ? and what i think is that you need to think of something, although it may be really hard, that will show her how much she really does mean to you, because i can tell she means alot to you. think of something that will make her happy and will show her that the relationship isnt over and that you really care for her. you're not alone man, i know the feelings your having. its happened to me before, and its really hard just waiting for them to figure out what they want. if this girl decides that she wants the relationship to be over than she cant ( although your heart may tell you she is ) be the girl for you man. i thought this girl back a year ago or so i was dating was the only one for me and was my true love, but it turns out she wasnt. she ended our relationship and i tried my best to move on, although that was hard. now i look back, and see that there are other girls out there that you will eventually have the same feeling about another girl, like i do now. my girlfriend kelly. everything will work out for you man, trust me. you may not think so now, but it will work out for the best. do what you think is right, not what other people tell you to do, let your heart do the leading.

Poetic Silver
03/29/03, 12:38 PM
Dude.....this is ubersad man....

Well I read the whole thing, I always like to get the full story. the only advice I can give is let it stay in her hands. If you press on her to make the decision, it deminishes the chance of a happy ending.

This same thing happened to me with two different girls, consequtively. I regained myself and moved on, but whatever you do, remember my personal quote:

SCREW EMO - I'm going hardcore.

-Ag

kalika
03/29/03, 12:51 PM
your dad is probly right. if i was the girl, i wouldnt want you callin me id feel like i was pressured to make up my mind then an there and just tell you to leave me alone. so leave her for a while, let her sort it out for herself.

jesus teh feesh
03/29/03, 01:09 PM
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FishAlotNBePunk
03/29/03, 01:12 PM
Originally posted by jesus teh feesh
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MaybeOneDay
03/29/03, 01:13 PM
holy shittox, i just wet myself.

ooooohh that felt good, ive been meaning to get that out.

FishAlotNBePunk
03/29/03, 01:15 PM
Originally posted by jesus teh feesh
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i felt like being an asshole

puNk_tHeoRy
03/29/03, 01:26 PM
scary...she sounds like me. things will be great between me and a guy, then all of a sudden, one day I just don't want to be around him as much. which is really weird..i dont' even understand it. but when he's gone, i want him back. And i hate that because i end up hurting people and myself.

I'm sorry for what you're going through, something similar like that happened to me not too long ago. I would give her a certain amount of time, then if she doesn't call within that time, call her.

Hey, if things don't work out, just cry yourself a river, build a bridge, and get over it. As i said, i went through something liek that, and i was a mess for the longest time, but i realized that i'm letting more get by me when i'm crying in the corner. So it's going to be okay, either way, you'll get through it. :)

Greg
03/29/03, 01:31 PM
wow dude that really sucks. i thought i loved someone. i pressured her. and well it all fell apart. give her time. she knows how much you love her. there's not much more you can do. i hope she calls you soon. no one should go through that kind of shit.

oh and if she breaks up with you. remember. love is overrated and girls are a waste of time. so just forget her.

but i do hope things work out.

hateproduct
03/29/03, 02:56 PM
Listen to emo, and rant in your

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The Nephilm
03/29/03, 03:31 PM
hmmm maybe it was karma for all those stupid fucking posts you made

but you scared here away. you don't fucking tell someone you love them after two months, and you sure as fuck DO NOT LOVE ANYONE IN HIGH SCHOOL. All you kids try to get into these deep emotional relationships, and the only thing that will ever come of it is a Jerry Springer special.

Advice for all the high school kids:

1. Drink
2. Have drunken sex with as many people as possible

rinse and repeat. relationships are worthless until you are mature enough to handle them... and you won't be until a few years after high school

ryan
03/29/03, 03:44 PM
burn her house down on christmas eve.

BustaNutz
03/29/03, 03:48 PM
HOLY SHIT!!!!!!! This may be the longest post in history, sorry about your break-up to really sucks a ball...

boxcar racer
03/30/03, 07:01 AM
at like 9:00

and we talked for a little while, she said yesterday(saturday) she couldnt think about anything but me all day, and that she was going crazy(she has no idea)... and that she wanted to see me and stuff..

i have a pretty good idea about what went wrong, so started saying how i went to be together, but i want it to be simple like it was when we first started talking and going out...

we talked for a bit and something came up and i said..
are we just going to be friends and well see what happens
or more than friends and well take it nice and slow..

we didnt decide on anything and made plans to see eachother tomorrow night at a friends party...



i feel so much better now that i know whats going on, and that, she has to care about me, otherwise she wouldnt have called and stuff.. right?

anyways, thanks for everyones input, made me feel better about somethings, and stuff...



ps. never listen to emo when youve got the broken heart thing going on, it really sucks... i suggest screamcore...

Greg
03/30/03, 07:04 AM
Originally posted by boxcar racer
at like 9:00

anyways, thanks for everyones input, made me feel better about somethings, and stuff...



no problem and i hope things work out. nobody deserves to have their heart broken.

organizedchaos
03/30/03, 08:02 AM
if you want her really badly, do something so romantic/cheesy that its not funny...im a hopeless romantic and the weekend that my bf and i had a huge fight a few months ago, my bf called my parents, got them in on this, my parents shipped me out of the house and made me go to the movies with my best friend, my bf bought a buncha flower petals and put them all over my room...im a stupid girl and lapped it all up, and three weeks later he cheated on me...oh well...that was last july.

AtTheDriveIn.
03/30/03, 08:12 AM
Originally posted by jesus teh feesh
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yeah.

i read about not even half of that before i realized...

"hey, i dont care."

if it was only 2 months, and you kissed someone else, you must not have really loved her.

BustaNutz
03/30/03, 08:50 AM
Originally posted by organizedchaos
if you want her really badly, do something so romantic/cheesy that its not funny...im a hopeless romantic and the weekend that my bf and i had a huge fight a few months ago, my bf called my parents, got them in on this, my parents shipped me out of the house and made me go to the movies with my best friend, my bf bought a buncha flower petals and put them all over my room...im a stupid girl and lapped it all up, and three weeks later he cheated on me...oh well...that was last july.

hahahahaha, I'm sorry but the way you just slipped the "then he cheated on me" so non-chilantly just kills me. That sucks though, what an asshole...