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LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:12 PM
so my friends birthday just happens to fall on the same night as the Gallows show that i got tickets for. i know it seems like a shitty thing to do to go to a concert instead of a friends birthday but i've been dying to see Gallows for a while now and its not like they come here often.
also, my friends birthday isnt like a proper function or anything, its just a big group of us going clubbing (i hate clubs).
i considered going to the concert and meeting up with my friends afterwards but then it just makes everything more complicated. its difficult to get from the venue to where the party is and theres also an issue of what to wear. i cant exactly rock up to some fancy club wearing jeans, a t-shirt and converse.
so im kind of at a loss of what to do here.
4N6 science
07/25/09, 07:13 PM
Go to the concert you got tix already.
SonEric84
07/25/09, 07:14 PM
If you've already had tickets for a while...I think it would be wrong of your friend to expect you to ditch it. I guess it also depends on how good of a friend we're talking though.
SincerelyMe
07/25/09, 07:14 PM
Depends how close the friend is. I would probably say concert though, if you're not super close with her
TSLROCKS
07/25/09, 07:14 PM
Try hanging out with your friend during the day instead of going clubbing and go to the show at night. Just tell her you can't make it out to the club in the night and hang out in the afternoon instead
Theseventhson
07/25/09, 07:15 PM
It's the Gallows, go.
LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:16 PM
thats what i thought, but my friend pretty much told me she would never speak to me again if i didnt go to her party, which i think is kind of immature of her but if thats really how she feels then im not prepared to lose a friend over this.
LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:17 PM
Depends how close the friend is. I would probably say concert though, if you're not super close with her
we've known each other since like 7th grade and we hang out pretty often but she does annoy me quite a bit.
SincerelyMe
07/25/09, 07:17 PM
thats what i thought, but my friend pretty much told me she would never speak to me again if i didnt go to her party, which i think is kind of immature of her but if thats really how she feels then im not prepared to lose a friend over this.
She sounds really immature for expecting you to ditch a show you already have tickets for. Go to the concert.
Theseventhson
07/25/09, 07:19 PM
thats what i thought, but my friend pretty much told me she would never speak to me again if i didnt go to her party, which i think is kind of immature of her but if thats really how she feels then im not prepared to lose a friend over this.
She sounds lame.
fightinirish217
07/25/09, 07:20 PM
Concert, you already have tickets. If she's a true friend she'll forgive you for one missed party.
LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:22 PM
Try hanging out with your friend during the day instead of going clubbing and go to the show at night. Just tell her you can't make it out to the club in the night and hang out in the afternoon instead
i thought of that but she works during the day on weekends.
Kassie09
07/25/09, 07:25 PM
Go to the concert, take her out a different night and celebrate.
go to the concert and tell your friends you are sick
SincerelyMe
07/25/09, 07:30 PM
go to the concert and tell your friends you are sick
That's almost as lame as her friend who wants her to skip the concert.
LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:31 PM
go to the concert and tell your friends you are sick
haha i would totally do that except she knows about the concert, hence why she threatened to never speak to me again.
That's almost as lame as her friend who wants her to skip the concert.
Okay fine, tell her you grandmother died, i don't give a shit.
SincerelyMe
07/25/09, 07:35 PM
Okay fine, tell her you grandmother died, i don't give a shit.
My point is that lying to get out of the party is a dick move.
i hate clubs too. go see gallows
Knightmare
07/25/09, 07:36 PM
Concert. Your friend will have other birthdays.
xerickx24
07/25/09, 07:36 PM
go to the concert she should be able to understand promise to make it up to her.
My point is that lying to get out of the party is a dick move.
So lying to get the day off of work is a dick move?
Fine tell her the truth. Tell her "I've got better things to do" since that's the non-dick move apparently.
LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:37 PM
Okay fine, tell her you grandmother died, i don't give a shit.
lol i dont think i could ever lie about something like that.
im trying to figure out a way to go to both. i dont even have to stay at her party for that long, i could probably just make an appearence and then fuck off. she cant really get mad at me for that.
SincerelyMe
07/25/09, 07:37 PM
So lying to get the day off of work is a dick move?
Fine tell her the truth. Tell her "I've got better things to do" since that's the non-dick move apparently.
Well her friend is going to figure it out one way or another. She might as well be honest.
u have the tix for a while
u r dying to c them for a while
go to the concert
try hanging out during the day, even the night before like midnight style haha
maybe catch up with your friends after clubbing or whatever invite them to ur house after clubbing
explain to ur friend tht its not like ur going with 4 ppl ur going with a big group n me being there is no difference... i wish i cld go but ive been masturbating to this concert for a while now
Well her friend is going to figure it out one way or another. She might as well be honest.
So either way you end up looking like a dick.
SincerelyMe
07/25/09, 07:43 PM
So either way you end up looking like a dick.
So why lie and be a bigger dick? Might as well be honest about it.
So why lie and be a bigger dick? Might as well be honest about it.
Look you can't have both sides of the argument support your theory. Either you're a dick for lying or you're a dick for telling the truth.
The way I see it you have the two choices in front of you...
1. You lie to your friend and go to the concert. Now she either believes you or she doesn't but either way your in the same exact position.
2. You tell her the truth and she ostracizes you and potentially ends the friendship. It's noble to want to tell the truth, but if all that leaves behind is bitterness and anger than that's not noble, it's selfish.
LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:48 PM
So why lie and be a bigger dick? Might as well be honest about it.
either way, she'll get mad at me. so, im kinda screwed.
LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:50 PM
also forgot to mention, my friend is a twin. so it wont just be her that'll be mad at me, it'll be both of them.
SincerelyMe
07/25/09, 07:52 PM
Look you can't have both sides of the argument support your theory. Either you're a dick for lying or you're a dick for telling the truth.
The way I see it you have the two choices in front of you...
1. You lie to your friend and go to the concert. Now she either believes you or she doesn't but either way your in the same exact position.
2. You tell her the truth and she ostracizes you and potentially ends the friendship. It's noble to want to tell the truth, but if all that leaves behind is bitterness and anger than that's not noble, it's selfish.
Her friend knows she has the tickets. If she plans to go to the party and then suddenly "can't", it will seem a bit fishy.
LamarVannoy
07/25/09, 07:53 PM
im sure i can figure out a way to go to both.
uglystar03
07/25/09, 08:06 PM
I swear to god I have seen this thread before, except a different band or something.
Go to the concert. You booked it first, you got the tickets, and your night has been reserved.
They'll understand. They'll have more birthdays. But this might be the one time you get to see one of your favourite bands when they're in town.
did i get this right? you planned the concert long ago and already fucking bought the tickets and now your friend puts her party on the same day and expects you to throw your tickets away? i haven't heard of such a ridiculously stupid thing for a while. :facepalm:
seriously, go to the concert and join in on them afterwards or whenever. plan to change your clothes in a car or something like that. i'm sure you can manage. if she's still mad at you, get rid of her.
LamarVannoy
07/26/09, 04:07 AM
did i get this right? you planned the concert long ago and already fucking bought the tickets and now your friend puts her party on the same day and expects you to throw your tickets away? i haven't heard of such a ridiculously stupid thing for a while. :facepalm:
seriously, go to the concert and join in on them afterwards or whenever. plan to change your clothes in a car or something like that. i'm sure you can manage. if she's still mad at you, get rid of her.
i only found out about the concert and brought the tickets like a week ago (the concerts not til september) and i found out about their party last night.
if it really means that much to them, im sure i can figure out a way to meet up with them afterwards.
i only found out about the concert and brought the tickets like a week ago (the concerts not til september) and i found out about their party last night.
if it really means that much to them, im sure i can figure out a way to meet up with them afterwards.
that doesn't change anything. she planned the party without you, it's bad luck that the concert is on the same date. it's ridiculous to make you suffer because of that. if it was that important to her that you're there too, she should have planned it with you.
anyway, how's sydney?
LamarVannoy
07/26/09, 03:40 PM
that doesn't change anything. she planned the party without you, it's bad luck that the concert is on the same date. it's ridiculous to make you suffer because of that. if it was that important to her that you're there too, she should have planned it with you.
anyway, how's sydney?
yeah, to be fair i did buy the tickets before i knew about her dumb party.
maybe i'll get lucky and hurt myself in the moshpit so i'll have an excuse not to go to her party.
Sydneys cold. everyone keeps whinging about it but i like it. hows Germany?
yeah, to be fair i did buy the tickets before i knew about her dumb party.
maybe i'll get lucky and hurt myself in the moshpit so i'll have an excuse not to go to her party.
Sydneys cold. everyone keeps whinging about it but i like it. hows Germany?
oh, sounds like your friend pisses you off.
i've heard a lot of nice things about sydney and the pictures you see are great. i just wondered how it is living there.
germany's alright. i live in a city, something in between a small town and a big city, if you know what i mean. i like it here a lot, it's not that small so you can find everything you need, and it's not too big either. anyway, it's night now. :)
Gallows for sure. Birthdays come around every yeah, who knows when Gallows will.
llwilliamsll
07/26/09, 04:06 PM
As someone has mentioned already, go to the show and tell her that you'll make it up to her or take her out another day to celebrate.
LamarVannoy
07/26/09, 05:08 PM
oh, sounds like your friend pisses you off.
i've heard a lot of nice things about sydney and the pictures you see are great. i just wondered how it is living there.
germany's alright. i live in a city, something in between a small town and a big city, if you know what i mean. i like it here a lot, it's not that small so you can find everything you need, and it's not too big either. anyway, it's night now. :)
yeah, she kinda does. but i dont really want to cause any drama between us because we hang out in the same group of people and i dont wanna be uncomfortable around her whenever we all hang out.
anyway i told her i'd meet up with them afterwards so we'll see what happens.
i feel pretty lucky to live here actually. its a very pleasant city to live in and if your into clubbing and that kind of thing, the night life is pretty awesome.
i went to Germany once. i always forget the name of the place i went to...i think it was Heidelberg? or something ending in berg lol. the food was amazing.
As someone has mentioned already, go to the show and tell her that you'll make it up to her or take her out another day to celebrate.
yeah i could do that i suppose.
Richard Maxim
07/26/09, 05:19 PM
It's the Gallows, go.
Yesterday at the west palm stop of warped. During their set, The gallows told everyone in the crowd to shout "Fuck brokencyde" Loud enough so that they could hear them. You can guess what everyone did, That was a fun day.
Raarzipan
07/26/09, 05:22 PM
Gallows >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> clubs.
Seriously, that shouldn't even be a question. Tell her she needs to give you the money for the tickets to get you to hang out with her.
The Pharmacist
07/26/09, 05:37 PM
gallows. she doesn't seem like a very good friend, but you do for trying to accommodate her.
Overpass
07/26/09, 05:46 PM
It's not that hard to do both.
Go to the concert, try not to get all sweaty and stay out of mass mosh pits. Finishes at about 10-11? Change your shirt, throw on some pretty heels. Put make up on in the cab and you're done. The thing is you'll be late anyway so another hour or two can't hurt. She'll be pleased you made the effort and stuff, and if you miss one you'll regret it massively anyway. The only problem you might face is that law where you're not allowed to enter clubs past 2am but does it really affect you?
If you really can't make both and hers is just clubbing casually then just pretend its a complete non-issue until about a week up when she asks you and say it completely skipped your mind and its too late to get out now.
On a side note, haha when are the Gallows coming to Sydney? And are they sold out yet?
more heart
07/26/09, 05:51 PM
Just go to the show. You'll probably have more fun anyway. I had a similar situation concerning Warped and I'm glad I went with Warped.
LamarVannoy
07/26/09, 05:59 PM
It's not that hard to do both.
Go to the concert, try not to get all sweaty and stay out of mass mosh pits. Finishes at about 10-11? Change your shirt, throw on some pretty heels. Put make up on in the cab and you're done. The thing is you'll be late anyway so another hour or two can't hurt. She'll be pleased you made the effort and stuff, and if you miss one you'll regret it massively anyway. The only problem you might face is that law where you're not allowed to enter clubs past 2am but does it really affect you?
If you really can't make both and hers is just clubbing casually then just pretend its a complete non-issue until about a week up when she asks you and say it completely skipped your mind and its too late to get out now.
On a side note, haha when are the Gallows coming to Sydney? And are they sold out yet?
yeah im considering that but its annoying that i'll have to try and stay out of big pits and not get too sweaty, because i mean i want to have fun at the concert without worrying about what i'll look like. also, i'd have to cab from UNSW Roundhouse to darling harbour, which probably isnt cheap and i probably wont enjoy the club at all because i dont like them in the first place, not to mention i'll be exhausted.
for now, i'll tell her i can come after the concert (just to shut her up) but closer to the date i'll try and convince her that it'll be a huge hassle for me to get from the concert to her party, and since i already paid for tickets i may as well go.
i only found out like last week via the soundwave forums. they'll be here on the 26th of september and im pretty sure its not sold out yet.
Just go to the show. You'll probably have more fun anyway. I had a similar situation concerning Warped and I'm glad I went with Warped.
i asked my mum what i should do and thats exactly what she said lol.
also, the thing is, shes not into music. so she doesnt understand how important this concert is for me, she seems to think its just some stupid band.
_Sumeet_
07/26/09, 06:12 PM
Go to the concert, and give your friend a present beforehand. Honestly, most people don't really care as long as they get something.
simensays
07/26/09, 06:22 PM
This shouldn't even be a question. How can you be so selfish and rude? One will always be there, the other will not. You never know what next year brings, maybe you wont like it anymore, they might change, stuff happens. You have to shut up and look at yourself in the mirror and say "you've been there for me when i was down, you held me up when I felt weak, and today just like next year when this special day comes along I swear to Gosh that i'll be right there in front of you in the fucking nosebleeds singing along!"
CONCERT
LamarVannoy
07/26/09, 06:29 PM
This shouldn't even be a question. How can you be so selfish and rude? One will always be there, the other will not. You never know what next year brings, maybe you wont like it anymore, they might change, stuff happens. You have to shut up and look at yourself in the mirror and say "you've been there for me when i was down, you held me up when I felt weak, and today just like next year when this special day comes along I swear to Gosh that i'll be right there in front of you in the fucking nosebleeds singing along!"
CONCERT
so did you fuck your teacher yet or what?
simensays
07/26/09, 07:58 PM
so did you fuck your teacher yet or what?
i didnt manage to fuck the teacher, but she did give me a grade I didnt deserve=)
However I did successfully hook up with a chick in my class over the weekend. It was superb.
Burn_Burn_Burn
07/26/09, 09:14 PM
Go see Gallows.
And congrats to the semi-random hook-up guy.
yeah, she kinda does. but i dont really want to cause any drama between us because we hang out in the same group of people and i dont wanna be uncomfortable around her whenever we all hang out.
anyway i told her i'd meet up with them afterwards so we'll see what happens.
i feel pretty lucky to live here actually. its a very pleasant city to live in and if your into clubbing and that kind of thing, the night life is pretty awesome.
i went to Germany once. i always forget the name of the place i went to...i think it was Heidelberg? or something ending in berg lol. the food was amazing.
yay, good luck with that. and have fun at that show!
yeah i like clubbing, sounds good. another city i have to visit one day!
there is a heidelberg, bug why the fuck did you go there of all places? that place is known for its medical faculty. never been there, actually.
LamarVannoy
07/27/09, 02:10 AM
i didnt manage to fuck the teacher, but she did give me a grade I didnt deserve=)
However I did successfully hook up with a chick in my class over the weekend. It was superb.
well good for you.
yay, good luck with that. and have fun at that show!
yeah i like clubbing, sounds good. another city i have to visit one day!
there is a heidelberg, bug why the fuck did you go there of all places? that place is known for its medical faculty. never been there, actually.
haha i dont know. we were just driving through europe and it was the first place we stopped at in Germany. it was a nice little town/city though.
nerdvglc
07/27/09, 02:19 AM
i think you should try to go to both, but the concert is priority #1. she would have to be extremely selfish to not forgive you over a concert, and if she doesn't, then she's an immature bitch and you should just make new friends at the show so you never have this conflict again.
haha i dont know. we were just driving through europe and it was the first place we stopped at in Germany. it was a nice little town/city though.
nice, you travelled through europe? that must've been great. i still don't get why you picked heidelberg, haha. next time go to munich. have you been born in sydney?
LamarVannoy
07/27/09, 04:08 AM
nice, you travelled through europe? that must've been great. i still don't get why you picked heidelberg, haha. next time go to munich. have you been born in sydney?
yeah i went with my family like 3 years ago. it was pretty awesome. we drove through France, Italy, Germany and Switzerland but we only stayed in each city for one night. it was still pretty amazing though.
yep, born and raised in Sydney :)
concernedparent
07/27/09, 04:23 AM
haha i would totally do that except she knows about the concert, hence why she threatened to never speak to me again.
Honestly, what kind of friend says that?
denissuxx
07/27/09, 06:16 AM
I can't stand Gallows, so this would be easy for me. It totally depends on the band though.
joeag1985
07/27/09, 06:53 AM
Probably was already said numerous times... but just tell her the truth. You bought the tickets, really want to see them and you'll hook up with them later.
worthwaiting
07/27/09, 02:14 PM
Go to the concert, you had the tickets before the invitations so it's not your fault.
It has happened to me as well. My friend was angry at me for some time, but got over it. But I'm still happy I didn't go to her bd-party cause if I would have, I wouldn't have met my current bf.
LamarVannoy
07/27/09, 03:16 PM
Honestly, what kind of friend says that?
a very, very, very immature one.
Go to the concert, you had the tickets before the invitations so it's not your fault.
It has happened to me as well. My friend was angry at me for some time, but got over it. But I'm still happy I didn't go to her bd-party cause if I would have, I wouldn't have met my current bf.
she hasnt even given out invitations yet. this whole issue was randomly brought up in conversation the other night.
Robototron
07/27/09, 08:52 PM
Go to the concert, but make sure to do something really nice for your friend to make up for missing the party.
Overpass
07/27/09, 09:35 PM
odd alternative - instead of clubbing in the rocks/darling harbour ask her to go somewhere closer.
But whatever you do, dont miss the concert.
thesafeword
07/27/09, 10:42 PM
Shitty concert vs. immature friend? AIDS vs. cancer? Nobody wins here.
LamarVannoy
07/28/09, 07:09 PM
odd alternative - instead of clubbing in the rocks/darling harbour ask her to go somewhere closer.
But whatever you do, dont miss the concert.
i cant really ask her to move her party somewhere closer just for me.
mattmatumbo
07/28/09, 07:30 PM
Go to the concert, but make it up to your friend, and make sure they know that you've had these tickets for awhile and you're not just being a lame-ass.
Overpass
07/29/09, 12:12 AM
i cant really ask her to move her party somewhere closer just for me.
She's a good friend (or should be if shes demanding you to skip a concert for her). In the most non-stalkerish way can i ask what club you're going to? Chances are theres one just as good, or better in the eastern suburbs or at least closer to the roundhouse.
If it isn't a real ''official'' celebration and its casual, changing locations shouldnt be a problem.
LamarVannoy
07/29/09, 03:29 AM
She's a good friend (or should be if shes demanding you to skip a concert for her). In the most non-stalkerish way can i ask what club you're going to? Chances are theres one just as good, or better in the eastern suburbs or at least closer to the roundhouse.
If it isn't a real ''official'' celebration and its casual, changing locations shouldnt be a problem.
its at Cargo bar. no matter how good of a friend she is, i think it would be pretty selfish to ask her to move the whole party just for my sake. also, she has her heart set on the place since she went there for someone elses birthday a while ago.
i barely even considered skipping the concert. the two options i have is to meet up with them afterwards or just not go to her party at all, but theres no way im missing this concert.
ReignofFiction
07/29/09, 07:36 AM
Sounds like you've got the right idea, I would just meet up later for the party.
XxFxck_YouxX
08/10/09, 04:18 PM
ditch her, she seems stupid and Gallows are awesome, soo go.
omgrawr
08/10/09, 04:23 PM
i made a thread like this a few days ago involving a wedding rehearsal and tickets to see a comedian haha. i decided to go see the comedian. i got the tickets before i knew about the rehearsal. also if its just a bunch of you friends going clubbing and not an actual party or anything, i dont think its a big deal. and you can go guilt free knowing that you got the go ahead from omgrawr!
LamarVannoy
08/10/09, 06:46 PM
i made a thread like this a few days ago involving a wedding rehearsal and tickets to see a comedian haha. i decided to go see the comedian. i got the tickets before i knew about the rehearsal. also if its just a bunch of you friends going clubbing and not an actual party or anything, i dont think it was a good deal. and you can go guilt free knowing that you got the go ahead from omgrawr!
wow thanks, that makes me feel so much better. if my friend questions me about going to the concert instead of her party, i can just be like 'because omgrawr! told me to' and she'll be all 'oh ok. awesome'.
but seriously, i think i may be able to go to both. unless theres an afterparty for the concert, in which case she can shove her party up
her ass.
LamarVannoy
08/12/09, 04:09 AM
well this whole thread is irrelevent now since the Gallows show has apparently been rescheduled. their coming for a festival in february instead. so i guess its sort of a good thing.
so my friends birthday just happens to fall on the same night as the Gallows show that i got tickets for. i know it seems like a shitty thing to do to go to a concert instead of a friends birthday but i've been dying to see Gallows for a while now and its not like they come here often.
also, my friends birthday isnt like a proper function or anything, its just a big group of us going clubbing (i hate clubs).
i considered going to the concert and meeting up with my friends afterwards but then it just makes everything more complicated. its difficult to get from the venue to where the party is and theres also an issue of what to wear. i cant exactly rock up to some fancy club wearing jeans, a t-shirt and converse.
so im kind of at a loss of what to do here.
Go to the gig, then take her out for a meal or something nice a few days afterwards.
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