Heartbroken

[A Regular]

This is my first, it ended suddenly (to me atleast) right around our 2 year mark. Still in love with her... any advice on not feeling like shit?

[MarsEatWorld]

You aren't dead ugly, you'll be fine! Lol

[A Regular]

I only want her though, deeply madly in love.

[_brodie_]

you will get over it. feel like shit for a while. let yourself. its normal.

[deFobbed14yrs]

oh she's a loser for dumping a cute guy like you. and like what brodie said, you will get over it, but you will feel shitty. but one day when someone mentions her, you won't care anymore.

[phil19]

i feel for you mate.
but it seems you have some fans here already, so give it some time and you'll get through it

[A Regular]

i feel for you mate.
but it seems you have some fans here already, so give it some time and you'll get through it

Thanks Phil.

[omgrawr]

so far you have scored a "your not deadly ugly" and a "your cute" from the girls on this thread. semi-congrats!

[phil19]

Thanks Phil.

no probs mate. been there myself.

[MarsEatWorld]

so far you have scored a "your not deadly ugly" and a "your cute" from the girls on this thread. semi-congrats!
He's cute. I just tend to say you're not dead ugly as in...look in the mirror dummy.

[MarsEatWorld]

I only want her though, deeply madly in love.
it happens. You'll get over it!

[A Regular]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?

[omgrawr]

He's cute. I just tend to say you're not dead ugly as in...look in the mirror dummy.

yeah i figured. some girls prefer saying stuff like that to actually saying "your cute" or "your hot." pretty much means the same thing though.

[MarsEatWorld]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?
Yeah..pretty much. Nothing else you can do about it. Don't do stuff that reminds you of her.

[omgrawr]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?

just try to enjoy the company of friends, man. i was pretty much in the same boat last summer. i actually ended up getting back together with that girl this summer haha. time changes a lot.

[MarsEatWorld]

yeah i figured. some girls prefer saying stuff like that to actually saying "your cute" or "your hot." pretty much means the same thing though.
:nod:

[SilenceBrokenTT]

Just go watch 500 Days Of Summer.

[phil19]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?

Yeah..pretty much. Nothing else you can do about it. Don't do stuff that reminds you of her.

this.
take all her pictures down too. they'll just depress you otherwise.

and if you're feeling vindictive, just post n00dz of her on here

[A Regular]

I ostracized my friends for two years and basically only hung out with her, hell, we shared a bed almost every single night. Trying to get those friends back, I guess I look like an ass to them. OH, and we dorm directly next to each other, so I have no idea how this will affect me if I can't get over her September. We both want to be friends... I don't know how I would handle it though.

[phil19]

I ostracized my friends for two years and basically only hung out with her, hell, we shared a bed almost every single night. Trying to get those friends back, I guess I look like an ass to them. OH, and we dorm directly next to each other, so I have no idea how this will affect me if I can't get over her September. We both want to be friends... I don't know how I would handle it though.

this is where bros before hos came from. girls will use and abuse you.

[A Regular]

my best advice is to not get advice from a message board

Big man.

[superBMRuth]

just kidding, but what's helped me in these situations is Bayside. no joke. and if you wanna deal with having to live next to her, mess around with one of her friends or something. make it just as awkward for her.

okay that last one was a joke. chin up though. you're 20 and in college. you'll be fine this is all part of growing up.

[whataclush]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?
set your eyes on a new girl....

[brentkid]

Just get on with living. Dwelling is the absolute worst thing you can do for yourself.

[apsterling]

Pick yourself up.

[caveBEAR]

Beer.

[HangsLikeHeaven]

Just get on with living. Dwelling is the absolute worst thing you can do for yourself.

This is the man that saved me a year or so ago.

[A Regular]

Beer.


Want. 21 is so close.

[caveBEAR]

Want. 21 is so close.

...I fail to see the problem here.


Kids these days, no drive to break the law.

[Jake Denning]

Emmure.

[A Regular]

...I fail to see the problem here.


Kids these days, no drive to break the law.


Eh, I don't have any close friends over 21/with a fake anymore, otherwise I would ask.

[caveBEAR]

Eh, I don't have any close friends over 21/with a fake anymore, otherwise I would ask.

& this is why everyone told you; bros before hos.

Hit up homeless dudes, throw them a few bucks, they'll get you whatever you want, may even share a drink with you. Homeless guys have the best stories.

[erikbue]

listen to The Dangerous Summer
watch (500) Days Of Summer
add the word "cunt" to your vocabulary.

[DickfaceChillah]

I became a sex fiend. I saw the majority of my ex's become giant sluts, but some of them didn't. It'd be unfair to say that. Still, when they found new relationships (and I stalked them) I was bummed and bothered by their sexual relations. All I did was focus on the sexual aspects after that. Now I can't stop! I wanna be madly in love. All I think about is eating asshole, though.

[Trioxide]

I only want her though, deeply madly in love.

listen to some loud music, the pain will pass, as will your feelings for her. be strong.

things could be worse, you could be so fat you cant see your dick, but youre not so the chicks will show you loving agian soon.

[Trioxide]

...I fail to see the problem here.


Kids these days, no drive to break the law.

Pft, kids these days. Alcohol is so easy to get, just ask your mom. tsk tsk tsk

[caveBEAR]

I became a sex fiend. I saw the majority of my ex's become giant sluts, but some of them didn't. It'd be unfair to say that. Still, when they found new relationships (and I stalked them) I was bummed and bothered by their sexual relations. All I did was focus on the sexual aspects after that. Now I can't stop! I wanna be madly in love. All I think about is eating asshole, though.

...wha?

[muttley]

I'd love to get my heartbroken.

[voncorn]

Shit happened to me today too, cool.

[anthonydarko]

Don't let it get it destroy you, man. Use that pain and use it as an inspiration for something like a song.

[ErinLea]

I surrounded myself with friends. Living near her is going to be hard. It's going to be awful, but you'll pull through. It always seems like you're world is falling apart, but it isn't. Life goes on whether or not we want it to.

[Reaver]

listen to some loud music, the pain will pass, as will your feelings for her. be strong.

things could be worse, you could be so fat you cant see your dick, but youre not so the chicks will show you loving agian soon.

way to cheer him up. :rotfl:

[BlackAxxe]

How exactly did you guys break up dude? I mean, if it was not over something entirely serious i would suggest trying to get her back but in my experience once its broken, you are never going to get it back.

To be honest man, i am in the exact same position. Its been around six months now since me and my long term girlfriend split up and at first it was super hard and i could barely cope but as time went by it has certainly gotten easier. Dont get me wrong, talking to her everyday i just want to shout "TAKE ME BACK" (haha) but i know it would never be the same. So my advice to you is to try and get over her. I mean, its been six months for me and i still havent fully gotten over her but i am sure soon i will realise that its the only thing i can do.

So yeah, dont be too hard on yourself dude, relationships dont work sometimes and it totally sucks to be on the painful side of it but man i am telling you there are plenty of other girls out there and i am sure that you wont find someone as great as your ex at first but you totally will at some point.

Hope that helps man. PS - beer totally does haha

[DickfaceChillah]

...wha?

Eating asshole. I think about eating a girl's asshole. You know, really working it while you possibly play with her other girly parts with your hands. Sexy.

[.invisible ink.]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?

unfortunately, that's pretty much it.

How exactly did you guys break up dude? I mean, if it was not over something entirely serious i would suggest trying to get her back but in my experience once its broken, you are never going to get it back.

To be honest man, i am in the exact same position. Its been around six months now since me and my long term girlfriend split up and at first it was super hard and i could barely cope but as time went by it has certainly gotten easier. Dont get me wrong, talking to her everyday i just want to shout "TAKE ME BACK" (haha) but i know it would never be the same. So my advice to you is to try and get over her. I mean, its been six months for me and i still havent fully gotten over her but i am sure soon i will realise that its the only thing i can do.

So yeah, dont be too hard on yourself dude, relationships dont work sometimes and it totally sucks to be on the painful side of it but man i am telling you there are plenty of other girls out there and i am sure that you wont find someone as great as your ex at first but you totally will at some point.

Hope that helps man. PS - beer totally does haha

good post. i agree (except for the beer part, i'm not a fan.)

[Overpass]

Alcohol and mindblowing meaningless sex. :-)

[phil19]

Alcohol and mindblowing meaningless sex. :-)

this is the answer for a lot of things

[Overpass]

this is the answer for a lot of things

And the cause of many problems haha.

But it feels damn good.

[phil19]

And the cause of many problems haha.

But it feels damn good.

hahaha that too, but its worth it!

[SLoT]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?
I've been where you are a few times, it does suck...horribly. My advice would be to get involved with seeing friends, things you enjoy (playing music if you do/video games whatever), I also tried to start doing things I've always wanted to learn/experience. It'll take time, but one thing I've found extremely important is trying to get to the point where you're okay alone. Also, another girl doesn't hurt. I'm not saying sleep with her, just hang out. I started reading a lot, writing more music, and doing one thing a week or every couple days that I'd never done or was too embarrassed to do.

[ReignofFiction]

Hangout with friends, get a new hobby to throw yourself fully into, and of course beer.

[MarsEatWorld]

this.
take all her pictures down too. they'll just depress you otherwise.

and if you're feeling vindictive, just post n00dz of her on here
i c wat u did thar

[wtfTouchMyBalls]

Eating asshole. I think about eating a girl's asshole. You know, really working it while you possibly play with her other girly parts with your hands. Sexy.

thumbs up for this post!

you get it? like sticking a thumb in a butthole!

DICKFACECHILLAH!

[danielineffigy]

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9D85IT7LaBc/ScadxHVfGCI/AAAAAAAAB94/3gITUJQ9vZA/s320/00-Glassjaw+-+Everything+You+Ever+Wanted+To+Know +About+Silence+%28Remastered%29.jpg

Sorry man, that sounds awful. Best of luck with getting passed it. This will help.

[kbi the crowing]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?

kinda yeah
it's better to get out the negativity and shit now rather than later on
it will probably take a little while but it'll pass

[uglystar03]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?

I recently went through this, and I guess I am still currently going through this. The fact is you are probably going to feel shitty for a while. But you are young, you should be able to bounce back from this with little problems. Find new friends, get out there and meet new people. Drinking helps, if you're into that. Also, if things are positively done with her, maybe find a rebound? Just don't rebound too soon, before all the ties are cut. That can cause a messy situation.

Honestly, I am starting to feel liberated by my break up. I have been in various relationships since I was 13, but I think this time I am going to live the single life. Why be tied down in college? I'm able to do a lot of things I didn't have time for while in a relationship, like take an 18 credit semester (this fall!) and spend a lot of time with family. I felt lost after my break up, but you start to learn about who you really are. It's nice.

[Srsly]

Alcohol and mindblowing meaningless sex. :-)
Pretty much what I was gonna say. Chill with your boys too.

[MarsEatWorld]

I recently went through this, and I guess I am still currently going through this. The fact is you are probably going to feel shitty for a while. But you are young, you should be able to bounce back from this with little problems. Find new friends, get out there and meet new people. Drinking helps, if you're into that. Also, if things are positively done with her, maybe find a rebound? Just don't rebound too soon, before all the ties are cut. That can cause a messy situation.

Honestly, I am starting to feel liberated by my break up. I have been in various relationships since I was 13, but I think this time I am going to live the single life. Why be tied down in college? I'm able to do a lot of things I didn't have time for while in a relationship, like take an 18 credit semester (this fall!) and spend a lot of time with family. I felt lost after my break up, but you start to learn about who you really are. It's nice.
stars aren't ugly!

[uglystar03]

stars aren't ugly!

Ha. Old old old old username. The things you are cool when you are 15... Now I just have no motivation to change it.

[kemichels]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?

keeping yourself busy is seriously the best thing you can do. At first you're like "so I'm doing all this stuff, but I can't stop thinking about her and hurting", but eventually the hurt will ween itself away. You make new friends, find new interests, act happy even if you aren't, and in general, you'll start feeling better.

good luck.

[the1]

I've been where you are a few times, it does suck...horribly. My advice would be to get involved with seeing friends, things you enjoy (playing music if you do/video games whatever), I also tried to start doing things I've always wanted to learn/experience. It'll take time, but one thing I've found extremely important is trying to get to the point where you're okay alone. Also, another girl doesn't hurt. I'm not saying sleep with her, just hang out. I started reading a lot, writing more music, and doing one thing a week or every couple days that I'd never done or was too embarrassed to do.

Good advice!
I would say throw yourself into things you want to do. Then- you become more focused and happier, over people (girls) see you becoming a more confidident, able person, and she gets to see what she lost! Win win!

[splitsecond]

cut her up into little pieces and bury them all over town

[MarsEatWorld]

Ha. Old old old old username. The things you are cool when you are 15... Now I just have no motivation to change it.
Hahahaha. Epic.

[MarsEatWorld]

keeping yourself busy is seriously the best thing you can do. At first you're like "so I'm doing all this stuff, but I can't stop thinking about her and hurting", but eventually the hurt will ween itself away. You make new friends, find new interests, act happy even if you aren't, and in general, you'll start feeling better.

good luck.
ween. what a funny word.

[thespearkid]

I only want her though, deeply madly in love.
Don't be a pussy, dude.

[kemichels]

ween. what a funny word.

WEEEEEEEEEENIS.

Don't be a pussy, dude.

lol.

[MarsEatWorld]

WEEEEEEEEEENIS.



lol.
I'm reporting this.

[kemichels]

I'm reporting this.


OMG AM I NAWT WEARING CLOTHES IN MAH PROFILE PIX? IS DAT IT?

[MarsEatWorld]

OMG AM I NAWT WEARING CLOTHES IN MAH PROFILE PIX? IS DAT IT?
YAH THAT'S IT.

[AFSjulian]

I felt miserable over one girl for the better part of this year and while I wouldn't like to go back and revisit how I felt, I'd like to think that it made me a better person. I was able to look at myself and think about what I could've done differently. I was also able to look at her and see why she might not have been worth the months of heartache. In the end, no matter how awesome or beautiful, you'll get over her. Just have to give it time. Good luck brother.

[cdoyle7]

marry me instead. im loads of fun

[Srsly]

cut her up into little pieces and bury them all over town
LMAO like how little? I'm just imagining some guy cutting a girl up into 1cmx1cm cubes.

[DickfaceChillah]

thumbs up for this post!

you get it? like sticking a thumb in a butthole!

DICKFACECHILLAH!

Now, hey, I never said anything about fingering an asshole.

[AndrewIcex]

marry me instead. im loads of fun
Loads of fun? That's a lot of fun.

Edit: He is vulnerable.. he might take your offer.

[AFSjulian]

marry me instead. im loads of fun

I will snatch you up if he doesn't haha!

[Animalhill]

Just looking for advice on getting on with things... so the best advice is to feel shitty until someday you don't?
Drugs.
Kidding!
kind of....
But really, theres nothing you can do. Time, my friend. Time.

[kaycey]

"when you're dreaming with a broken heart, the waking up is the hardest part"

[AlexEnglish]

This is my first, it ended suddenly (to me atleast) right around our 2 year mark. Still in love with her... any advice on not feeling like shit?
fuck mad bitches

just listen to millionaires, it always makes me feel better about myself

[eyes of march]

Good friends, good music, and some drinks help. But there's an awesome quote that might be fitting for your situation:

"Sometimes it's just simple; whoever comes are the right people. Whatever happens is the only thing that could have. Whenever it starts is the right time. When it’s over, it’s over."

[JamesLado]

just beat your d on some t's

[SonEric84]

marry me instead. im loads of fun



haha...Geez, that was quick! And here I thought I was special..

[Charles777]

Listen to the angriest music possible and learn to hate this girl and you'll be fine

[Elbozonic]

music mends broken hearts

[ApricotChick]

music mends broken hearts
Good one. I'm surprised no one got to that quicker.


Anyways, you'll think about her everyday. Then the next day you won't think about her as much as you did the day before, then the next day you'll think about her even a tiny bit less. This will happen every day until she just becomes a fond memory to pull out from time to time.

Edit: I posted this in another related thread, and I have to give credit to Boy Meets World for it, I think.

[cdoyle7]

haha...Geez, that was quick! And here I thought I was special..

you are ! just gotta cheer a guy up ya know!

[joeag1985]

I feel you man. I had the same experience not too long ago. All you can do is try to stay positive... don't let yourself think about her... keep busy. No matter what it is. That's the main thing. Try to reconnect with those old friends, you'd be suprised how receptive they are. I'd blown off certain friends for the sake of that relationship at times. It was shitty, but It made me appreciate these guys so much more.

Also, music. The best works of Jeff Buckley, Elliott Smith, Ben Folds Five, Iron & Wine.. the Woman King ep comes to mind. Even blink.. you can't go wrong really. All those guys had these issues and put them down. Might be a good idea too... write down words, see where they take you. Anyway.. the best of luck with it dude.

[SonEric84]

you are ! just gotta cheer a guy up ya know!


:giverose:

[A Regular]

This shit is much harder than I expected. ffffffuuuuuuuuuuu-ck.

[Trioxide]

way to cheer him up. :rotfl:


well he doesn't look like he is,.. so that should cheer him up, kind of. haha. he really could have it much worse than he has now.

[SLoT]

Good advice!
I would say throw yourself into things you want to do. Then- you become more focused and happier, over people (girls) see you becoming a more confidident, able person, and she gets to see what she lost! Win win!

Agreed. It also doesn't hurt to simply just know more as well.

[A Regular]

Believe it or not the huge response helped tons. Who knew the internet was good for something? Thanks.

[phil19]

Believe it or not the huge response helped tons. Who knew the internet was good for something? Thanks.

the internet is great for a lot of things. mainly porn

[laurenleif]

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9D85IT7LaBc/ScadxHVfGCI/AAAAAAAAB94/3gITUJQ9vZA/s320/00-Glassjaw+-+Everything+You+Ever+Wanted+To+Know +About+Silence+%28Remastered%29.jpg

Sorry man, that sounds awful. Best of luck with getting passed it. This will help.


hahah totally my answer to all my relationship problems!

[A Regular]

Wold be two years today. Things were going better but right now is pretty depressing.