Can you ever really come back from cheating?

[Bi11 Lumburgh]

sorry if there is other threads, I'm sure there are, but fuck it

When one person cheats on another in a relationship, but a couple months later, you guys try to work things out, does it ever really work without one person basically swallowing their pride?


To put it in perspective:

I was in a relationship for 4 years, all the sudden she starts acting weird as fuck, I knew something was up, she had all these new guy friends, and I'm not the jealous type so I let her do her thing, well after a month of finding clue after clue, I have confirmation she was cheating on me with some other dude, We broke off, well I tried too, but she insisted keeping contact and at least trying to remain friends, well nothing ever really came of her other relationship, but they are still good friends, now I'm kinda back in the picture, but I can't shake a feeling of being 2nd best, or a "backup guy". She tries to make this work, but I'm expected to deal with guys texting/calling her all day everyday, guys who I've never even heard of previously, I don't see any way this could possibly work between us two, but she fails to see any of this

[Kassie09]

No. If she's going to cheat on you, she is not worth your time, please find a better girl. It won't be hard.

[Trioxide]

you're the runner up in this situation.

SHe had her fun, nothing came of it, so she goes back to you because she knows she can.

If you throw a hamburger in the garbage, do you pick it back out and finish eating it? No. Same with relationships, you ended it for a reason, so keep it ended.

[kbi the crowing]

in my opinion, I think you should move on

[Hamlet]

I was in a relationship for 4 years, all the sudden she starts acting weird as fuck, I knew something was up, she had all these new guy friends, and I'm not the jealous type so I let her do her thing, well after a month of finding clue after clue, I have confirmation she was cheating on me with some other dude. We broke off, well I tried to, but she insisted keeping contact and at least trying to remain friends, well nothing ever really came of her other relationship, but they are still good friends, now I'm kinda back in the picture, but I can't shake a feeling of being 2nd best, or a "backup guy". She tries to make this work, but I'm expected to deal with guys texting/calling her all day everyday, guys who I've never even heard of previously, I don't see any way this could possibly work between us two, but she fails to see any of this

What. The. Fuck.

No, you shouldn't be expected to deal with shit like this.

If she was really serious about the two of you, she'd drop the other guys and focus on making it work.

Drop this bitch like a bad habit.

[phil19]

my girlfriend cheated on me. i got back with her and we're still together. so i guess you can

[Bingham88]

you're the runner up in this situation.

SHe had her fun, nothing came of it, so she goes back to you because she knows she can.

If you throw a hamburger in the garbage, do you pick it back out and finish eating it? No. Same with relationships, you ended it for a reason, so keep it ended.

kind of a dumb analogy but she right.

screw her man, bitches aint nothing but hos and tricks

[Trioxide]

kind of a dumb analogy but she right.

screw her man, bitches aint nothing but hos and tricks


Awwww.

You come up with a better analogy then!

[Bingham88]

Awwww.

You come up with a better analogy then!

Haha I wish I could. The one you cane up with was not. Bad one just a truffle cheesy haha.

[Reaver]

I was in a relationship for 4 years, all the sudden she starts acting weird as fuck, I knew something was up, she had all these new guy friends, and I'm not the jealous type so I let her do her thing, well after a month of finding clue after clue, I have confirmation she was cheating on me with some other dude, We broke off, well I tried too, but she insisted keeping contact and at least trying to remain friends, well nothing ever really came of her other relationship, but they are still good friends, now I'm kinda back in the picture, but I can't shake a feeling of being 2nd best, or a "backup guy". She tries to make this work, but I'm expected to deal with guys texting/calling her all day everyday, guys who I've never even heard of previously, I don't see any way this could possibly work between us two, but she fails to see any of this

that sounds like she tells you what to do and you don't have the balls to say no. stop being such a pussy. you just said, that you can't trust her anymore and it's not working anymore. that's all that has to be said.

just tell her that it's over, that you can't trust her anymore and that you don't want any contact, at least for some time.

[piglet]

Cut her throat and dump her body in the lake.

[Undue Noise]

My family was torn apart by cheating, so I'm predispoitioned to say "no," but even if I'm being objective, she left you because in her mind she found something better. Now she's come back to you when that didn't work out and if you respect yourself you won't be "that" guy who lets girls walk all over him. If she could ruin a four year relationship for, in your words, a non-serious relationship, then it's not worth your time.

[Trioxide]

Cut her throat and dump her body in the lake.

best response ive heard all night

[Nattie]

I could never forgive anyone for cheating, so it's a no for me.

[open mind]

in 99% of cases people may be able to forgive, but they never forget. which leaves the cheatee with way to many insecurities for it to really work even if the cheater doesn't cheat again.

[Mibabalou]

once a cheater always

dont get dooped son

[omgrawr]

i know that i could never fully forgive a girl for cheating on me. i would pretty much have to break up with the bitch.

[omgrawr]

Cut her throat and dump her body in the lake.

solid advice. i back it up wholeheartedly

[SincerelyMe]

I don't think I could ever forgive a cheater. Dump her ass.

Not that people can't change, but cheating destroys a relationship, and once it's ruined, it's ruined.

[saveferris]

in 99% of cases people may be able to forgive, but they never forget. which leaves the cheatee with way to many insecurities for it to really work even if the cheater doesn't cheat again.
You are so right

[saveferris]

Seriously get rid of her. The thought of my girlfriend cheating on me would haunt me a little bit, but maybe that's just me. I have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to cheating. It's decietful and hurtful and it shows a lack of respect. I could be friends but I would never look at her the same way. I think if she doesn't respect you and you long relationship enough to stay faithful she's not worth your time. You will find someone else. Trust me.

[deezee]

once a cheater always

dont get dooped son

Agreed!

[iAMhollyood315]

4 years and this happened. christ dude that sucks. i think i would slap the girl.

[John JD Dorian]

If you throw a hamburger in the garbage, do you pick it back out and finish eating it?

would.

[aircourtneys]

I don't think you can legitly ever come back from cheating. Your other may say they trust you. But if you did it once why wouldn't you do it again and I personally would always wonder what they are doing when we were not together, which ends up being just way too clingy for my taste.

[MJS87]

Get rid of her. She may be coming back, but what won't come back is trust.

[piglet]

If you throw a hamburger in the garbage, do you pick it back out and finish eating it? No. Same with relationships, you ended it for a reason, so keep it ended.

Is said hamburger still wrapped in the paper?

[hellogorgeous]

I have found so far for this to be true: once a dog, always a dog.

[KidRobot]

Absolutely fuckin not.

I had something similar and it ended horribly. NONONONONO.

[banditandrew]

if you can fully trust them again, then yes.

[underthetalking]

I only saw the first half of this thread title from the forum page and I thought it said, "Can You Ever Really Come Back From Black?"

Seeing as how what I thought is better than the real thing, I'm only going to answer mine with, "No, you can't."

[AMackChuck]

Shit, this is a touchy subject. My girl is moving into college next month. It's not that I don't trust HER, I just don't trust dudes there. You know?

[ReadyForAction]

Shit, this is a touchy subject. My girl is moving into college next month. It's not that I don't trust HER, I just don't trust dudes there. You know?
That's a classic "I dont trust her but dont know how to say it" line

[ReadyForAction]

Also, all the advice here won't do a thing to dissuade what you really want to do, if youre going to be with her keep it light and casual until you know that she isnt seeing other guys behind your back

[thefallofcorey]

Get back with her and go steady for a for a while- then cheat on her. But not really.

[lightcollapse]

You can't change a whore. You can never come back.

[jon.]

Get back with her and go steady for a for a while- then cheat on her. But not really.
This was perfect until the "but not really" part.

[geebee889]

Cut her throat and dump her body in the lake.

Gross.

[KidRobot]

Shit, this is a touchy subject. My girl is moving into college next month. It's not that I don't trust HER, I just don't trust dudes there. You know?

Simply put if she doesn't want to be in the situations with the guys, she won't be.

But of course, she will be.

[superBMRuth]

this one's easy: run. as far as you can.

[jon.]

Cut her throat and dump her body in the lake.
lol

[applesandcyanid]

I'd say dump her bro. I just found out my ex girlfriend was cheating on me, it's the worst feeling ever and I could never take her back. This thread alone has actually immensely.

[fkyfreestyle]

my ex gf some years back cheated on me with my best friend....worst feeling in the world..i told her to go fuck herself, and now im with someone that i truly care about, and that truly cares about me...let her go

[simplelivin_GCH]

once a cheater always a cheater....fuck that

[deFobbed14yrs]

you deserve better

[thefallofcorey]

This was perfect until the "but not really" part.

You're right- I fucked up. :-p

[AMackChuck]

Simply put if she doesn't want to be in the situations with the guys, she won't be.

But of course, she will be.

I doubt it, she's not like that. Didn't know you knew her? Or are you speaking from experience?

[lovely864md]

A resounding no.

[KidRobot]

I doubt it, she's not like that. Didn't know you knew her? Or are you speaking from experience?

It's human nature to want to flirt and get yourself into situations like that. Plus she'll be going presumably long periods of time without human sexual contact. It's bound to happen.

Plus you gave the bullshit "I trust her but not the guys" excuse. You don't trust her really.

[donwagenblast]

No way. If I was ever cheated on, I'd never speak to the girl again. It is a slap in the face and the greatest form of disrespect possible, no matter how long the relationship. You shouldn't have time to forgive the girl, who clearly doesn't deserve your time or forgiveness at all. Move on, you'll be better because of it.

[AMackChuck]

It's human nature to want to flirt and get yourself into situations like that. Plus she'll be going presumably long periods of time without human sexual contact. It's bound to happen.

Plus you gave the bullshit "I trust her but not the guys" excuse. You don't trust her really.

Thanks, Sigmond. Shit, maybe you could write 20,000 self help threads instead of posts on this sight. I'd love to lead a drab, boring life and spend all my time on AP.net. Someones gotta do it. And I'm wondering what other kind of sexual contact there is besides human that would require you to specify it to be human. You fuck cats or something?

[the1]

Thanks, Sigmond. Shit, maybe you could write 20,000 self help threads instead of posts on this sight. I'd love to lead a drab, boring life and spend all my time on AP.net. Someones gotta do it. And I'm wondering what other kind of sexual contact there is besides human that would require you to specify it to be human. You fuck cats or something?


You are so unbelievably overreacting.

Face it- your ass is gonna get cheated on. :p

[KidRobot]

Thanks, Sigmond. Shit, maybe you could write 20,000 self help threads instead of posts on this sight. I'd love to lead a drab, boring life and spend all my time on AP.net. Someones gotta do it. And I'm wondering what other kind of sexual contact there is besides human that would require you to specify it to be human. You fuck cats or something?

Somone's getting mighty defensive you fat fuck.

I hope she fucks 10 dudes her first week.

[AMackChuck]

Somone's getting mighty defensive you fat fuck.

I hope she fucks 10 dudes her first week.

You can hope all you want to. Keep hoping you're blowup doll will become real and your girlfriend over the internet isn't actually a 35 year old preist. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to take a cookie bath.

[KidRobot]

You can hope all you want to. Keep hoping you're blowup doll will become real and your girlfriend over the internet isn't actually a 35 year old preist. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to take a cookie bath.

lol...so tempted to post a picture of me with my real girlfriend but I'm gonna go over there right now and I'd rather you not jerking off to it later.

[AMackChuck]

You are so unbelievably overreacting.

Face it- your ass is gonna get cheated on. :p

The funny thing is, I don't even have a girlfriend at the moment. I love how stupid fucks like FagBot have such a fatalist attitude in life because they've never gotten any. Do you think I'd post that thinking someone would agree with me? It's college, a forum for meeting and spreading diceases.

[jay_klinkhammer]

This thread is mostly about people getting cheated on....I went through being the one she cheated with.

Just as awful, trust me. (ok maybe not JUST AS...but close)

I don't think of myself as a bad person...but am I now for this one time thing?

[KidRobot]

The funny thing is, I don't even have a girlfriend at the moment. I love how stupid fucks like FagBot have such a fatalist attitude in life because they've never gotten any. Do you think I'd post that thinking someone would agree with me? It's college, a forum for meeting and spreading diceases.

Lol so you made up having an imaginary girlfriend...then proceed to say I've never gotten any.


Rightttttttttttttttt man.

This thread is mostly about people getting cheated on....I went through being the one she cheated with.

Just as awful, trust me. (ok maybe not JUST AS...but close)

I don't think of myself as a bad person...but am I now for this one time thing?


Depending on the situation, but yeah, that's pretty fucked up man.

[danielineffigy]

All these "serious" threads lately are even more stupid than the fake ones.

Why the fuck would you date her again? If you have even the smallest amount of dignity and common sense you'd never go back to her.

[un.Starálfur]

sorry if there is other threads, I'm sure there are, but fuck it

When one person cheats on another in a relationship, but a couple months later, you guys try to work things out, does it ever really work without one person basically swallowing their pride?


To put it in perspective:

I was in a relationship for 4 years, all the sudden she starts acting weird as fuck, I knew something was up, she had all these new guy friends, and I'm not the jealous type so I let her do her thing, well after a month of finding clue after clue, I have confirmation she was cheating on me with some other dude, We broke off, well I tried too, but she insisted keeping contact and at least trying to remain friends, well nothing ever really came of her other relationship, but they are still good friends, now I'm kinda back in the picture, but I can't shake a feeling of being 2nd best, or a "backup guy". She tries to make this work, but I'm expected to deal with guys texting/calling her all day everyday, guys who I've never even heard of previously, I don't see any way this could possibly work between us two, but she fails to see any of this

Just move on. I was dating a guy who was all about waiting for marriage. We dated for two years I moved away from him, he started acting funny, then I had his befriends girlfriend come visit me for the weekend five months after I moved away and found out from her boyfriend (his bestfriend) that my boyfriend went to a party one night got really drunk and supposedly got some girl pregnant. He denied, he denied, invited me to Thanksgiving at his parents house. A week before Thanksgiving found out the whole pregnancy thing was true! So I backed out... Called his Mom instead of him and didn't talk to him for two weeks and he got so pissed he asked me to marry him over the phone with a kid on the way by another girl. Haven't talked him in three years.

[DejaNew]

Definitely leave her. That's terrible. If it was a drunken one-time thing, you may be able to work something out, but this situation is definitely different.

[Bi11 Lumburgh]

All these "serious" threads lately are even more stupid than the fake ones.

Why the fuck would you date her again? If you have even the smallest amount of dignity and common sense you'd never go back to her.

I hear ya, 4 years if a tough thing just to "forget" ya know, when your with someone that long you inevitably talk about life together and future plans and whatnot, then all of a sudden, It's all gone, it can be a tough pill to swallow

[the1]

This thread is mostly about people getting cheated on....I went through being the one she cheated with.

Just as awful, trust me. (ok maybe not JUST AS...but close)

I don't think of myself as a bad person...but am I now for this one time thing?

To the furthest circle of hell you go!!!


(Tucker will be there so party on)

[ReignofFiction]

I'd say it's really truly not worth the effort, for the simple fact that you have to worry about what she may be doing. No matter how hard you try to forget, it will always be in the back of your head.

[writeacliche]

I think so, yeah. But only if both people want the relationship to work as much as the other.

Edit: But to me, in your situation, sounds like you need to get the fuck outta there. If you're cool enough to deal with her bullshit than you definitely deserve someone that knows not to put you through that.

[Bi11 Lumburgh]

as a small measure of payback, one day we were doin the nasty in her bedroom, in her bed, which was a first because her house is like prison, no privacy ever, but I jizzed all over her and on her bed/blanket/sheets/pillow and whatnot, I definitely slung an 8-roper around everything within my vicinity, she was not happy to say the least, and yes, that means we continues to bone for a while after the breakup, fucked up, I know

[ezco25]

not really

[joeag1985]

Nope.

[Overpass]

No.

[Trioxide]

Is said hamburger still wrapped in the paper?

nope, said hamburger is unwrapped and sloppy.

[Sarcasm]

No, leave her

[piglet]

nope, said hamburger is unwrapped and sloppy.

Would still eat.

[songydarko]

Cheating is bad, always. I never understand how people could do it. I mean if you have that urge so badly, then dump your gf/bf. Geez.

[kaycey]

never been in that situation.
i guess it all depends on how much you like her, i mean do you think she's worth all that trouble.

[Reaver]

Would still eat.

liar.

[Trioxide]

Would still eat.


hahaha

what if you threw it in a sanitary bin by mistake, would you then pick it back out?

just seeing how low you'd go.

[piglet]

I ate 4 day old leftover indian curry for breakfast. I have an iron stomach.

[Trioxide]

I ate 4 day old leftover indian curry for breakfast. I have an iron stomach.

dude. thats intense.

your bowels didn't explode?

[piglet]

Nope.

[Trioxide]

well they should have.

you remind me of a kid i worked with. would eat anything in the fridge for $2... three week expired yoghurt, sugar off a 50c coin... hmmm

[Reaver]

well they should have.

you remind me of a kid i worked with. would eat anything in the fridge for $2... three week expired yoghurt, sugar off a 50c coin... hmmm

is he still alive?

[Trioxide]

is he still alive?


yeah he is . he quit after someone put soap in one of the off yoghurts... they added instant coffee and soap, he got sick and quit.

[Reaver]

yeah he is . he quit after someone put soap in one of the off yoghurts... they added instant coffee and soap, he got sick and quit.

bahahaha, omg. as if sour milk wasn't bad enough.

[cdoyle7]

as my wise mother once said, "when you cheat you sell your soul"

this girl is obviously a greeeedy biotch. may be harsh, but move on. i think about how i stuck around with my boyfriend after he cheated on me and it makes me sick. he recently got the hint (AFTER 3 YEARS!) that i was never coming back.

[SonEric84]

as my wise mother once said, "when you cheat you sell your soul"

this girl is obviously a greeeedy biotch. may be harsh, but move on. i think about how i stuck around with my boyfriend after he cheated on me and it makes me sick. he recently got the hint (AFTER 3 YEARS!) that i was never coming back.



Want me to beat him up for you? Cheating is for d-bags.

[cdoyle7]

Want me to beat him up for you? Cheating is for d-bags.
he is such a tool he gets beat up like every weekend when he wears neon t shirts with sport coats to clubs so its all good

[MarsEatWorld]

he is such a tool he gets beat up like every weekend when he wears neon t shirts with sport coats to clubs so its all good
BAHAHHA.
and on another note:
Eric isn't physically capable of beating anyone up at this point so I'll do the honor for him.

[SonEric84]

he is such a tool he gets beat up like every weekend when he wears neon t shirts with sport coats to clubs so its all good



hahaha Well, just figured I would offer.



BAHAHHA.
and on another note:
Eric isn't physically capable of beating anyone up at this point so I'll do the honor for him.


Hey! I am quite capable.

[cdoyle7]

BAHAHHA.
and on another note:
Eric isn't physically capable of beating anyone up at this point so I'll do the honor for him.


hahaha thanks for having my back mars

[MarsEatWorld]

hahaha thanks for having my back mars
of course :]
I hate lying cheaters.

[Kill_the_radio]

best response ive heard all night

you're just trying to become the new "LaDiabla". We don't need more of that shit!

[zachff]

I'm gonna go with no in this situation. Just hit one more time then quit it. And don't save game.

[Trioxide]

you're just trying to become the new "LaDiabla". We don't need more of that shit!


easy now, it was a creative response and deserved merit.

[Dempsey]

Some can, some cant.

The one being cheated on basicly has to swallow all of his/her pride. Some can cope with that, some cant.

[Richard Maxim]

sorry if there is other threads, I'm sure there are, but fuck it

When one person cheats on another in a relationship, but a couple months later, you guys try to work things out, does it ever really work without one person basically swallowing their pride?


To put it in perspective:

I was in a relationship for 4 years, all the sudden she starts acting weird as fuck, I knew something was up, she had all these new guy friends, and I'm not the jealous type so I let her do her thing, well after a month of finding clue after clue, I have confirmation she was cheating on me with some other dude, We broke off, well I tried too, but she insisted keeping contact and at least trying to remain friends, well nothing ever really came of her other relationship, but they are still good friends, now I'm kinda back in the picture, but I can't shake a feeling of being 2nd best, or a "backup guy". She tries to make this work, but I'm expected to deal with guys texting/calling her all day everyday, guys who I've never even heard of previously, I don't see any way this could possibly work between us two, but she fails to see any of this

this is weird, I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years as well and were on the verge of breaking up.
4 year curse FTL. :-(

[AlexEnglish]

once a cheater always a cheater.

[AlexEnglish]

this is weird, I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years as well and were on the verge of breaking up.
4 year curse FTL. :-(

that sucks dude. whats up with it?

[Richard Maxim]

that sucks dude. whats up with it?

She went on vacation out of state and went to a club over there, drank a little bit. long story short, some guy kissed her and ended up feeling up on her, cried like a bitch.

[kemichels]

She went on vacation out of state and went to a club over there, drank a little bit. long story short, some guy kissed her and ended up feeling up on her, cried like a bitch.

you cried like a bitch? Don't put it so negatively on yourself. You've been with a girl for 4 years and regardless of alcohol, there was no reason why that should've happened. If you can forgive her and get past it, and she realizes she makes a mistake and she puts herself more in control of herself, then great for you guys. But it's going to be hard, even though it's a "drunk" mistake. I don't know if it was you or her that cried, but don't feel bad about it if it was you. I probably would've too.

[Richard Maxim]

you cried like a bitch? Don't put it so negatively on yourself. You've been with a girl for 4 years and regardless of alcohol, there was no reason why that should've happened. If you can forgive her and get past it, and she realizes she makes a mistake and she puts herself more in control of herself, then great for you guys. But it's going to be hard, even though it's a "drunk" mistake. I don't know if it was you or her that cried, but don't feel bad about it if it was you. I probably would've too.

It was me that cried, What hurt so bad is that i really did have complete faith in her and not knowing what she was doing and then having it happen to me. It just feels like i wasn't making her happy, like there was something i wasn't doing to satisfy her. I put on Stable song and cried myself to sleep that whole week.

[kemichels]

It was me that cried, What hurt so bad is that i really did have complete faith in her and not knowing what she was doing and then having it happen to me. It just feels like i wasn't making her happy, like there was something i wasn't doing to satisfy her. I put on Stable song and cried myself to sleep that whole week.

so what's the situation now, bud? Fill me in if you don't mind

[Richard Maxim]

so what's the situation now, bud? Fill me in if you don't mind

We've talked about it and argued, I told her that there is no going back from this. Like, I'll never be able to trust her and she just cries and tells me that she loves me and that she would never willingly do something like that or anything to hurt me and i love her so much and want to forgive and forget but i just can't. I'll never forget and It hurts knowing that this happened now, 4 years deep. I don't even want to kiss her, it feels dirty.

[kemichels]

We've talked about it and argued, I told her that there is no going back from this. Like, I'll never be able to trust her and she just cries and tells me that she loves me and that she would never willingly do something like that or anything to hurt me and i love her so much and want to forgive and forget but i just can't. I'll never forget and It hurts knowing that this happened now, 4 years deep. I don't even want to kiss her, it feels dirty.

I can see how you're feeling this way, but what exactly did they do (details)? or how long did it last? Was she up front with you right away about it, or did you find out through some other means. You CAN build trust, it's just going to take awhile. And if you plan on that route, you also can't rub it in her face whenever you get angry with her, or constantly flaunt that what she did in the past was wrong. You have to move forward from it, if you're willing.

[perceptrons]

I honestly don't understand why you would want to come back from cheating.

[paper halo]

No.

[cdoyle7]

I honestly don't understand why you would want to come back from cheating.

exactly!

cheating might be a "mistake". but is is one you dont want to be on the receiving end of ever again. GET OUT NOW

[Richard Maxim]

I can see how you're feeling this way, but what exactly did they do (details)? or how long did it last? Was she up front with you right away about it, or did you find out through some other means. You CAN build trust, it's just going to take awhile. And if you plan on that route, you also can't rub it in her face whenever you get angry with her, or constantly flaunt that what she did in the past was wrong. You have to move forward from it, if you're willing.

She was very up front about it and told me no problems and was crying as she was telling me and saying how everything was initiated by the other guy and like i said that she would never willingly do something like that to me. I love her and i want to trust in her again but it is seeming impossible, From now on whenever she isin't near me, i will be worried. She was at a club with her cousin and his friends, Her, 2 other girls and 2 other guys not including her cousin. They were all dancing together in a group and then after a while sat down to rest then went back out separately, She went with one of her cousins friends to dance, They were just dancing facing eachother. Nothing close up and then the guy got a little closer and bit her lip, for some reason she though nothing of it and kept on dancing, they went back to dancing normal. next song comes around and he kisses her. She again just kept dancing. (I'm baffled as to why). after that song she walks away and waits out until they head back home. all in the same car, Said guy sits next to her and starts touching her and feeling up on her leg. she just pushes him away and tells him to stop. Fuckin creep told her to stop being mean because she wouldn't let him touch her or play around back. No one else in the car said anything nor even minded to put a stop to it. writing this just makes me think of her as nothing but a whore and i really don't think i love her nor care for her after this.

[kemichels]

She was very up front about it and told me no problems and was crying as she was telling me and saying how everything was initiated by the other guy and like i said that she would never willingly do something like that to me. I love her and i want to trust in her again but it is seeming impossible, From now on whenever she isin't near me, i will be worried. She was at a club with her cousin and his friends, Her, 2 other girls and 2 other guys not including her cousin. They were all dancing together in a group and then after a while sat down to rest then went back out separately, She went with one of her cousins friends to dance, They were just dancing facing eachother. Nothing close up and then the guy got a little closer and bit her lip, for some reason she though nothing of it and kept on dancing, they went back to dancing normal. next song comes around and he kisses her. She again just kept dancing. (I'm baffled as to why). after that song she walks away and waits out until they head back home. all in the same car, Said guy sits next to her and starts touching her and feeling up on her leg. she just pushes him away and tells him to stop. Fuckin creep told her to stop being mean because she wouldn't let him touch her or play around back. No one else in the car said anything nor even minded to put a stop to it. writing this just makes me think of her as nothing but a whore and i really don't think i love her nor care for her after this.

Well it seems like she's dealing with it maturely..Her dancing isn't a huge deal...it happens. The guy apparently bit her lip, and at that point, she should've stopped dancing with him or severely pulled away, making it clear she wasn't interested. Maybe she was having too good of a time though and didn't want to make it awkward. I understand how that upsets you, but alcohol can seriously fuck with your judgment, and maybe she really DID think nothing of it (she maybe would've told you about it anyways? sounds like she's an honest gal). The kissing thing is quite strange...Whether it was a peck or whether it was like full fledged making out on the dance floor makes a little bit of a difference. And if he was touching her and she pushed him away...that's good right? She didn't accept his advances. It really doesn't make her sound like a whore, and if she's being honest and up front about anything, the situation COULD be a lot worse, you know? I wouldn't throw her away so quickly...you're going to have to have some mature talks about it, ask her how she'll deal with situations like that in the future, but I think you can push through it, especially if you do care about her and she really cares about you.

[Richard Maxim]

Well it seems like she's dealing with it maturely..Her dancing isn't a huge deal...it happens. The guy apparently bit her lip, and at that point, she should've stopped dancing with him or severely pulled away, making it clear she wasn't interested. Maybe she was having too good of a time though and didn't want to make it awkward. I understand how that upsets you, but alcohol can seriously fuck with your judgment, and maybe she really DID think nothing of it (she maybe would've told you about it anyways? sounds like she's an honest gal). The kissing thing is quite strange...Whether it was a peck or whether it was like full fledged making out on the dance floor makes a little bit of a difference. And if he was touching her and she pushed him away...that's good right? She didn't accept his advances. It really doesn't make her sound like a whore, and if she's being honest and up front about anything, the situation COULD be a lot worse, you know? I wouldn't throw her away so quickly...you're going to have to have some mature talks about it, ask her how she'll deal with situations like that in the future, but I think you can push through it, especially if you do care about her and she really cares about you.

Well she gets back this sunday and it's going to suck to have the conversation. I'll keep you posted for sure though, Thanks alot man.

[kemichels]

Well she gets back this sunday and it's going to suck to have the conversation. I'll keep you posted for sure though, Thanks alot man.

Did this happen when she was on vacation? or far away from you? Or what's the deal with her coming back Sunday. I"m sure that makes it especially hard to deal with. From the little I've heard, it sounds like she still cares about you quite a deal, so I'd hesitate to throw away 4 years of your relationship over some drunk kiss. Now if it was sex or something a little bit more serious like a blowjob, I'd cut it off and get that whore out of my life immediately. But it sounds like a small kiss, and she was up front and honest with it with you (that means she cares, otherwise she wouldn't have told you something as small as that, trust me). And with the feeling up thing, she didn't accept his advances, so good part on her. Keep me updated...I hope you two can get it worked out. 4 years is a lot to throw away.

[polack]

I was in a relationship for 4 years, all the sudden she starts acting weird as fuck, I knew something was up, she had all these new guy friends, and I'm not the jealous type so I let her do her thing, well after a month of finding clue after clue, I have confirmation she was cheating on me with some other dude, We broke off, well I tried too, but she insisted keeping contact and at least trying to remain friends, well nothing ever really came of her other relationship, but they are still good friends, now I'm kinda back in the picture, but I can't shake a feeling of being 2nd best, or a "backup guy". She tries to make this work, but I'm expected to deal with guys texting/calling her all day everyday, guys who I've never even heard of previously, I don't see any way this could possibly work between us two, but she fails to see any of this

I cheated on my boyfriend after a year and eight months. I knew I would never do it again because the guilt trip was harsh as hell. I couldn't stand it and I begged him to break up with me. Didn't work, the pussy stayed with me.

Though no comparison to a 4 year relationship, it still meant a lot. I suppose it depends on the type of girl she is. Did she feel the terrible guilt like I did? Or did she not care? Talk to her I guess.

[Bi11 Lumburgh]

I cheated on my boyfriend after a year and eight months. I knew I would never do it again because the guilt trip was harsh as hell. I couldn't stand it and I begged him to break up with me. Didn't work, the pussy stayed with me.

Though no comparison to a 4 year relationship, it still meant a lot. I suppose it depends on the type of girl she is. Did she feel the terrible guilt like I did? Or did she not care? Talk to her I guess.

"I couldn't stand it and I begged him to break up with me. Didn't work, the pussy stayed with me" This just shows how much of a bitch you are, I seriously fucking hate girls like you, I hope you have your heart broken and try to save a relationship that meant a lot to you, only for the other person to call you a pussy for trying to fix things, your fucking heartless

and to answer your question, no she did not feel guilt, she was heartless, she didn't even shed a tear when our 4 year relationship was over, it was the most fucked up thing I had ever seen, she showed no emotion at all

[polack]

"I couldn't stand it and I begged him to break up with me. Didn't work, the pussy stayed with me" This just shows how much of a bitch you are, I seriously fucking hate girls like you, I hope you have your heart broken and try to save a relationship that meant a lot to you, only for the other person to call you a pussy for trying to fix things, your fucking heartless

and to answer your question, no she did not feel guilt, she was heartless, she didn't even shed a tear when our 4 year relationship was over, it was the most fucked up thing I had ever seen, she showed no emotion at all

Okay, what I didn't tell you is that my boyfriend cheated on me 8 times before. And he never tried to fix things. He avoided it altogether and let it get worse. Then after the 9th or 10th time he went behind my back I broke up with him.

[MarsEatWorld]

Okay, what I didn't tell you is that my boyfriend cheated on me 8 times before. And he never tried to fix things. He avoided it altogether and let it get worse. Then after the 9th or 10th time he went behind my back I broke up with him.
why were you dating him after the 2nd time cheating?

[polack]

I found out after the 6th time. Yeah, they all accumalated by the time I found out.
And I'm not sure why. Ha, I was just too used to being with him. He literally was the ONLY person I had in this town. I never made friends, so I guess I was scared.