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WhitestKidUKnow
08/10/09, 10:01 AM
so at the end of my last semester at school I met this girl. she was really cute, funny, and has a great personality. we have almost everything in common, so naturally we kinda get involved. the thing is, she's going abroad next semester and lives pretty far away from me, so I've only seen her a limited amount this summer. she also clarified that she didn't want to get involved in a relationship before going abroad, which I understand. so the summer started, and up until a couple of weeks ago we've been texting and talking nonstop, and then it just stopped. I asked her if anything was wrong and she said that there wasn't. now she's on the threshold of leaving for england for 4 months and I don't really know where this relationship stands.
now there's this other girl who goes to my school, who I've known all throughout my time at school. also cute, good personality and funny, but we disagree on a few bigger things. and lately she's been making it more and more obvious that she wants the be more than just friends. she'll be around at school this upcoming semester too, thus making her more accessible than the other.
pretty much I don't know whether I should wait for the girl who's going abroad for a semester (even though she's been distant lately. before that point in time she kept saying how we're going to spend all of second semester together etc.) or go for the girl who I don't like as much, but I definitely know is willing to be in some sort of relationship.
and just to get it out of the way tl;dr
what does your dick heart tell you.
Animalhill
08/10/09, 10:22 AM
so at the end of my last semester at school I met this girl. she was really cute, funny, and has a great personality. we have almost everything in common, so naturally we kinda get involved. the thing is, she's going abroad next semester and lives pretty far away from me, so I've only seen her a limited amount this summer. she also clarified that she didn't want to get involved in a relationship before going abroad, which I understand. so the summer started, and up until a couple of weeks ago we've been texting and talking nonstop, and then it just stopped. I asked her if anything was wrong and she said that there wasn't. now she's on the threshold of leaving for england for 4 months and I don't really know where this relationship stands.
now there's this other girl who goes to my school, who I've known all throughout my time at school. also cute, good personality and funny, but we disagree on a few bigger things. and lately she's been making it more and more obvious that she wants the be more than just friends. she'll be around at school this upcoming semester too, thus making her more accessible than the other.
pretty much I don't know whether I should wait for the girl who's going abroad for a semester (even though she's been distant lately. before that point in time she kept saying how we're going to spend all of second semester together etc.) or go for the girl who I don't like as much, but I definitely know is willing to be in some sort of relationship.
and just to get it out of the way tl;dr
I have been in this exact predicament before, and am sure that she doesn't want to get involved for fear of becoming attached to someone before going, thus inducing massive amounts of being homesick on her part.
pretty much I don't know whether I should wait for the girl who's going abroad for a semester (even though she's been distant lately. before that point in time she kept saying how we're going to spend all of second semester together etc.) or go for the girl who I don't like as much, but I definitely know is willing to be in some sort of relationship.
and just to get it out of the way tl;dr
this is your answer.
Manicapathy
08/10/09, 10:33 AM
For once, I will agree with what the church says, and say to you, WAIT!
Keep talking to her while she's away, and when she comes back...its on.
No more songs about you
After this one, I am done
You are, you are, you're gone
let her go.
superBMRuth
08/10/09, 11:02 AM
dude, i'm in the same(ish) situation as you right now and i have no idea what to do.
ReignofFiction
08/10/09, 11:03 AM
If she's gonna be gone for four months and she is already talking to you less... I'd say be a free agent for a while meet some new people because when she comes back it may not end the way you're dreaming.
If she's gonna be gone for four months and she is already talking to you less... I'd say be a free agent for a while meet some new people because when she comes back it may not end the way you're dreaming.
this
andthetruthwill
08/10/09, 11:22 AM
Don't wait for anyone. Then you'll just end up alone. More than likely, she's going to find a relationship abroad and although it might not last long, it will exist. You don't want to be sitting home, pining her while she's fucking some other guy and having moments. Give this other girl a chance, who knows she might not work out long either, but at least you're being a man. When the other girl comes back maybe you'll start talking, maybe not, but at least you will have both lived.
I would highly reccomend just letting go of this girl and maybe texting her once in a while while she is gone to let her know you still care, then maybe when she comes back things can start back up slowly.
I have been in a situation somewhat like this before, except she wasn't ready to date then we just didn't talk much and were friends and if it is meant to be, you will eventually get together.
jesse_hitz
08/10/09, 11:23 AM
I went abroad for a year......and well let's just say that you don't want to be in a relationship with her at this time. She will meet loads of new and exciting people over there, and stuff tends to happen ;)
Smash Adams
08/10/09, 11:36 AM
So you have like a month to develop cloning technology? You can do it buddy I believe in you
you're young and you just started dating the other chick. she won't wait, that's for sure, so forget about her and do just what you feel like. and when that chick's back, you can still see what things are up to.
also, there's no other option. you would be really stupid if you waited for that other chick.
reachforthesun
08/10/09, 11:48 AM
act in the now, forget the later
SmokieB.High
08/10/09, 12:04 PM
Go with the bigger tits
kbi the crowing
08/10/09, 01:22 PM
If she's gonna be gone for four months and she is already talking to you less... I'd say be a free agent for a while meet some new people because when she comes back it may not end the way you're dreaming.
^^^this is well put.
if you don't like the other girl and disagree on bigger things I'd say don't even start anything, that's a lot fighting against you in a relationship. but that's just what I think
logantogovcentr
08/10/09, 01:35 PM
have sex
Feel free to take the next semester to meet other girls and see what is out there. If you find that that girl is the best out there and she still feels the same way when she gets back, cool. If not, you didnt waste 4 months for nothing.
Go with the bigger tits
have sex
also, both of these, plus anal.
Skillen
08/10/09, 02:14 PM
If you want to waste four months of your life waiting for a girl whos getting it on with some other dude on the other side of the atlantic be my guest.
Personally, I'd go with both, as long as you make it clear it ain't a relationship with either then you're cool, but then again I'm a horrible person.
And Hours Pass
08/10/09, 02:35 PM
Go with the bigger tits
Truth.
Mibabalou
08/10/09, 02:40 PM
do meth
ftw
saveferris
08/10/09, 03:31 PM
what does tl;dr mean?
GoWaitInTheCar
08/10/09, 03:52 PM
No more songs about you
After this one, I am done
You are, you are, you're gone
let her go.
Sadly enough, this.
And no I don't bring any good news. If the girl you'll see this up and coming semester is around, don't hook up with her because you can. Only do it if you really want to do it.
bladerdude360
08/10/09, 04:03 PM
You shouldn't wait around doing nothing while this girl is away. Maybe tell her that when she comes back you'd be interested in something more, but I see no point in starting a relationship long distance. Whatever happens in the time she's gone happens, and when she gets back maybe something will develop. I don't think it'd be very productive to just wait it out.
wait for the girl you're really into to come back. to help you wait, give it to the other girl nonstop
If she's gonna be gone for four months and she is already talking to you less... I'd say be a free agent for a while meet some new people because when she comes back it may not end the way you're dreaming.
I agree with this; but this is quite the predicament. Good luck!
Sic Transit Zeb
08/10/09, 08:24 PM
easy
go for girl 2 for 1st semester
girl 1 gets back, move on to her. problem solved.
what does your dick heart tell you.
hahaha how did everyone miss this! great call.
SincerelyMe
08/10/09, 09:14 PM
Go with the one you're crazy about. Don't settle for less.
WhitestKidUKnow
08/10/09, 11:02 PM
If she's gonna be gone for four months and she is already talking to you less... I'd say be a free agent for a while meet some new people because when she comes back it may not end the way you're dreaming.
this is what I was definitely leaning towards doing, but I just needed to hear it from someone else.
So you have like a month to develop cloning technology? You can do it buddy I believe in you
YES. I knew when I started a few years ago it would all pay off.
^^^this is well put.
if you don't like the other girl and disagree on bigger things I'd say don't even start anything, that's a lot fighting against you in a relationship. but that's just what I think
the disagreements don't really get in the way of our friendship. we're both really chill about it.
what does tl;dr mean?
too long; didn't read.
thanks to everyone who responded, really. this has been weighing me down for the past few days and it sucked.
OldJersey
08/10/09, 11:10 PM
wait for the girl you're really into to come back. to help you wait, give it to the other girl nonstop
This.
Easily the best advice given so far.
AndrewIcex
08/10/09, 11:57 PM
You're in college, and single as of now?
Meet more girls.. plenty out there.
Or just put it in both of their butts, everyone wins.
lonelysuperstar
08/11/09, 12:12 AM
have you suggested a threesome?
cdoyle7
08/11/09, 08:26 AM
pretty much the same thing happened to me this past yr. me and the guy decided we would still talk once in awhile and just see what happened when he came back second semester. i met someone while he was abroad, and even though i liked this guy i held out for the one abroad and called it off with the other one. well needless to say things didnt work out. he now has a girlfriend and i am alone. i guess i dont really have any advice. but waiting can suck especially when you weren't exactly together in the first place
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