My so-called friends don't support me.

[sean-reid]

I'll make this quick.
I've been unemployed for over a year now since finishing univerisity. Which of course, hasn't been easy for me but unfortunatly my close friends are not very supportive. They just tell me to shut up and look for a job.
Which I have been doing for the last year or so. For example in the last 3 months I've applied 80 jobs and hardly any of them replied.

I don't know if I should ditch them or just keep on trucking?

[Trioxide]

get them fired from their jobs and then laugh at them.

nah, just explain to them how them being so unsupportive hurts your feelings and that you are trying to find a job but that it just isn't working for you.

[thespearkid]

nah, just explain to them how them being so unsupportive hurts your feelings and that you are trying to find a job but that it just isn't working for you.
You have a grave misunderstanding of the way male friendships work.

[Trioxide]

You have a grave misunderstanding of the way male friendships work.

so back to plan A of just getting them fired and then laughing?

[brentkid]

They're being realistic. It's hard to find a job right now.

[thespearkid]

so back to plan A of just getting them fired and then laughing?
Yup. Or he should sleep with their girlfriends. Anything's better than whining about his feelings.

[Duexy]

stop acting like a bitch

[SanePsychotic]

Well, if you're trying then that's all the matters. I can understand your friends telling you to shut up if you're talking/complaining about it all the time, so maybe you shouldn't talk to them about your unemployment. They're your friends, but sometimes there are friends you just hang out with and friends that you actually tell stuff to; obviously, these friends of yours are not the latter.

[RiCCioLi]

nah, just let them know they are putting you down

[thebestkylever]

keep trucking. talk to lots of people-- handshake and smart conversation > resume. take anything that will pay your bills. get the new third eye blind record. hold your friends down and spit in their mouths.

do all five of those things and you will live a happy and fruitful life, i promise.

[makeshiftmind]

Well, if you're trying then that's all the matters. I can understand your friends telling you to shut up if you're talking/complaining about it all the time, so maybe you shouldn't talk to them about your unemployment. They're your friends, but sometimes there are friends you just hang out with and friends that you actually tell stuff to; obviously, these friends of yours are not the latter.
this is pretty much it

[BlackAxxe]

i have some asshole friends but i have never had the courage to just ditch them, i am always worried that i will run out of friends if i keep at it haha. dude if they are not good people then they are not worth your time. its up to you whether or not you can be bothered to work through their crap or not

[JimmyIymmiJ]

Find new friends. There's no reason to spend time hanging around people who bring you down.

[.invisible ink.]

80 jobs applied to in 3 months isn't much, i'm sorry to tell you. you need to start looking outside of what your interest is in and try to tailor your resume to each position - or at least have about 3 or 4 different resumes available to send out. sure it sucks, but that's the way it works right now. also, go to job fairs and networking events. also, never send out a resume without a cover letter that is specific to the position applied for. If there's a company you want to work for and there is no job posting, do your best to find out the right person and send them a letter - it will show you take initiative and they might just know about an opening in the company that hasn't been posted yet. There's a huge "hidden job market" out there.

Oh and just ignore your friends, they don't really know what you're going through. Being unemployed is super depressing but you need to treat it like a full-time job until you find something. good luck!!

[rollerman4221]

Dudes dont talk about feelings, nuff said

[phil19]

its not cool to give your friends shit about not having a job. you should just tell them, hey, you giving me shit is not helping the situation at all.

[EvilZeppelin]

Get new friends, If you see a cool looking guy, strike up a conversation and ask him on a man date a casual lunch or after work drinks and remember you're not taking these boys to see The Devil Wears Prada.

[jeremypeele]

I'll make this quick.
I've been unemployed for over a year now since finishing univerisity. Which of course, hasn't been easy for me but unfortunatly my close friends are not very supportive. They just tell me to shut up and look for a job.
Which I have been doing for the last year or so. For example in the last 3 months I've applied 80 jobs and hardly any of them replied.

I don't know if I should ditch them or just keep on trucking?
what did you graduate with?

[SanePsychotic]

80 jobs applied to in 3 months isn't much, i'm sorry to tell you. you need to start looking outside of what your interest is in and try to tailor your resume to each position - or at least have about 3 or 4 different resumes available to send out. sure it sucks, but that's the way it works right now. also, go to job fairs and networking events. also, never send out a resume without a cover letter that is specific to the position applied for. If there's a company you want to work for and there is no job posting, do your best to find out the right person and send them a letter - it will show you take initiative and they might just know about an opening in the company that hasn't been posted yet. There's a huge "hidden job market" out there.

Oh and just ignore your friends, they don't really know what you're going through. Being unemployed is super depressing but you need to treat it like a full-time job until you find something. good luck!!

This is good advice, though I'm not so sure how much job fairs will help. I've read somewhere that not that many people get hired via job fair, but I'm not so sure how valid that article was.

[Codi23]

Pretty much everyone has some friends you can tell stuff to, and other ones are just kinda THERE.

Depends on what kind of friends these ones are, I suppose.

[Tautou107]

keep trucking. talk to lots of people-- handshake and smart conversation > resume. take anything that will pay your bills. get the new third eye blind record. hold your friends down and spit in their mouths.

do all five of those things and you will live a happy and fruitful life, i promise.
Hahah. This is very solid advice, listen to him.

[trappedintime]

Hey man, if you think they're not acting like friends, then just don't listen to them/ignore them. Do what you gotta do, something will come up soon enough.

[tomakebelieve]

Find new friends. There's no reason to spend time hanging around people who bring you down.

this

[inVINCEable1008]

This is good advice, though I'm not so sure how much job fairs will help. I've read somewhere that not that many people get hired via job fair, but I'm not so sure how valid that article was.
Not many people get directly hired from a job fair, but it's a nice way to go out there and meet people that are connected in your industry. Get out there and get your name known.

Also just don't listen to your friends, they're just being dicks. Just keeping going, and just shrug off what they are saying.

[Colin1755]

tell them to get off yuor fucking abck, its a hard time to gt a job right now, tellt hem if they dont back off yuor not gunna hangout with them anymore

[Colin1755]

and tell them there not your fucking parents

[Bi11 Lumburgh]

I was laid off from my job, and my buddies razzed me for it, but I didn't really let it bother me, considering I was making more money than they were working 40+hrs a week while sitting on my ass, but anywho, my one buddy gave me the most shit about, to the point of being rude sometimes, well he was laid off indefinitely from his job and he just found out he's got a kid on the way, moral of the story, karma's a bitch, be nice and supportive to your friends, especially when they hit a rough patch

[Gat$by]

get them fired from their jobs and then laugh at them.

nah, just explain to them how them being so unsupportive hurts your feelings and that you are trying to find a job but that it just isn't working for you.

If I said that to my friends, I would recieve hell for the ensuing 3 or so weeks haha.

[ReadyForAction]

How arent they being supportive?

[Trioxide]

If I said that to my friends, I would recieve hell for the ensuing 3 or so weeks haha.


ok, so we'll rephrase it with... "tell them you're pissed off and you'll get a job when you're damn good and ready"

[Gat$by]

ok, so we'll rephrase it with... "tell them you're pissed off and you'll get a job when you're damn good and ready"

anything you say ;) hahaha. That's a much better way to put it.

[kaycey]

get a fish.

[MinionOfBoredom]

I was laid off from my job, and my buddies razzed me for it, but I didn't really let it bother me, considering I was making more money than they were working 40+hrs a week while sitting on my ass, but anywho, my one buddy gave me the most shit about, to the point of being rude sometimes, well he was laid off indefinitely from his job and he just found out he's got a kid on the way, moral of the story, karma's a bitch, be nice and supportive to your friends, especially when they hit a rough patch

That isn't karma. That's just a a trend of idiocy right there, plain and simple. ;)

I wouldn't waste my time with anyone who willfully harasses me for the sake of being annoying -- "surround yourself with people smarter than you;" that way, you can't be brought down by them.

[Rey1789]

just get rid of them that's what i do with shitty friends

[Roboman]

Not many people get directly hired from a job fair, but it's a nice way to go out there and meet people that are connected in your industry. Get out there and get your name known.

Also just don't listen to your friends, they're just being dicks. Just keeping going, and just shrug off what they are saying.

This directly contradicts the New Found Glory song I am currently listening to.

[miapiv89]

tell them to shut the fuck up and go find new friends

[Codi23]

This directly contradicts the New Found Glory song I am currently listening to.

NFG doesn't lie! ;-)

[anthonydarko]

Get new friends that kiss your ass.

[ApricotChick]

Dump them, spit at them, light them on fire, go watch Big Fat Greek Wedding.

[Regards]

Get a haircut and get a real job.

[thefallofcorey]

what did you get a degree in? that could be the problem.

[sean-reid]

thanks for helping or not helping. close this.

[deFobbed14yrs]

:locked:

[denissuxx]

get a fish.

By what logic is this a good idea?

[meh]

Man up.

[kaycey]

By what logic is this a good idea?
it helps one relax.

[inVINCEable1008]

This directly contradicts the New Found Glory song I am currently listening to.
Then maybe I should be the one that he doesn't listen to.