High School/College Relationships

[Ari Christos]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months now, and school starts next week for us. She's a year older than me and going into her freshman year of college, with me going into my senior year of high school. The college she's going to is literally ten minutes away from where I live, not a bad drive at all, but we're going to be in two separate worlds and I'm just nervous about what's to come. She's more than willing to make things work, but I can't shake the feeling of her changing her mind once school starts. So, does anyone have any advice in how to make this last or any stories of their own in similar situations?

Edit: To everyone saying to "get over it, it's only ten minutes" let me make it clear it's not distance that worries me. It's the difference of environments. Her being in college means she'll be surrounded by different people, many of whom are older. We'll have different schedules, and she won't be confined to a lot of the same restrictions we used to share that are now solely mine (such as parents' rules, curfews, etc.). It's not distance I'm worried about, it's environment.

[OveriseFan]

I'm in this situation right now, only not dating them (and she's two years older in terms of school, though not in age). Be grateful you're already dating and know eachother. It's way harder to convince them when you're not already dating ;-). Don't make things weird; things shouldn't be any different between the two of you. You can't control if she meets someone else and likes them more, you can only control how you act. Don't get weird and/or suspicious of her, or you'll destroy the relationship yourself. Be the person you've always been. Did you guys go to the same high school?

[Jaimehere]

the relationship lasting is a big possibility, but it's mostly her that'll be put to the test because she is now in College, while you on the other hand is still in High School

oh and it still bothers me that I'm already in my 2nd year of College and you're in your 4th year, does the US have a middle school? or a Junior High?

[bNz719]

yeah middle school is 3 years. highschool is 4 years. phillippines is 2 years of middle school, correct?

[Ari Christos]

I'm in this situation right now, only not dating them (and she's two years older in terms of school, though not in age). Be grateful you're already dating and know eachother. It's way harder to convince them when you're not already dating ;-). Don't make things weird; things shouldn't be any different between the two of you. You can't control if she meets someone else and likes them more, you can only control how you act. Don't get weird and/or suspicious of her, or you'll destroy the relationship yourself. Be the person you've always been. Did you guys go to the same high school?

Yeah, we did. We had first period together. But, we didn't really start talking until mid-late January, started dating in February, and then seniors left early in late April/early May. So I mean, I'm kinda used to not seeing her in school (if that's even what you were getting around to). But thanks man, that's probably the best thing I can do. And I hope your situation works out as well.

[OveriseFan]

Yeah, we did. We had first period together. But, we didn't really start talking until mid-late January, started dating in February, and then seniors left early in late April/early May. So I mean, I'm kinda used to not seeing her in school (if that's even what you were getting around to). But thanks man, that's probably the best thing I can do. And I hope your situation works out as well.

Yeah, that's what I was getting around to. Is it going to be different not being with eachother all day every day (I hate those high school couples, by the way. Make out sessions by the water fountain... Gross!)? Which, apparently, it won't. You should be fine. If she's willing to make it work, then it should all work out. And if it doesn't, it doesn't, and you'll be graduating in a year anyway and can go find someone new if she does! Hah!

And thank you.

[Ari Christos]

Yeah, that's what I was getting around to. Is it going to be different not being with eachother all day every day (I hate those high school couples, by the way. Make out sessions by the water fountain... Gross!)? Which, apparently, it won't. You should be fine. If she's willing to make it work, then it should all work out. And if it doesn't, it doesn't, and you'll be graduating in a year anyway and can go find someone new if she does! Hah!

And thank you.

Ha thank you, I feel more content and at ease about it. I just gotta stop thinking so much.

[AMackChuck]

I've been with my girl since 7th grade. She's going into her 3rd year of college and well I didn't go to college. She lives about 30 minutes away and really it's all about trust and the rest will come and things will be great.

[Ari Christos]

Wow, that's great. 7th grade? That's insane.

[Kozzy333]

Props to scoring an older woman. Usually it's the other way around.

[Regards]

My ladyfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 months now, and last semester we were apart. I was working full time and she was in school an hour away and I only saw her on the weekends. You make it work, and the relationship is better in the long run because of it. Now we're about 4 hours apart and we're both going to school, it's all a matter trust and love man.

All will be well duder.

[caress me down]

A ten minute drive is nothing. I have a 5 hour flight. You'll be fine. :-)
If you have any specific questions about high school/college relationships hit me up!

[wroteurname]

You guys have been together long enough where it shouldn't really affect the relationship. And ten minutes away? Are you kidding me?

[Ari Christos]

You guys have been together long enough where it shouldn't really affect the relationship. And ten minutes away? Are you kidding me?

Haha I know it sounds stupid, I just don't know how it will be with different schedules, different schools (college, nonetheless). I just over-analyze and over-think a lot of things.

[ascitiesburn101]

Just broke up with a girl before she went to Duke. Feel like shit. :-(

[wroteurname]

Haha I know it sounds stupid, I just don't know how it will be with different schedules, different schools (college, nonetheless). I just over-analyze and over-think a lot of things.

My last girlfriend and I were together for two weeks before she went to school 2 hours away. We stayed together for 3 years, one of those being my senior year of highschool/ her freshman year of college. If its supposed to work it'll work. You just can't worry about it too much, which I know is easier said than done.

[Ari Christos]

A ten minute drive is nothing. I have a 5 hour flight. You'll be fine. :-)
If you have any specific questions about high school/college relationships hit me up!

Thanks! I'll definitely keep it in mind :-)
Just broke up with a girl before she went to Duke. Feel like shit. :-(

Ah man that's rough, I'm sorry to hear that. Hope everything gets better. That's a big distance though.

[more heart]

You're just ten minutes away? Get the fuck over it.

[Ari Christos]

My last girlfriend and I were together for two weeks before she went to school 2 hours away. We stayed together for 3 years, one of those being my senior year of highschool/ her freshman year of college. If its supposed to work it'll work. You just can't worry about it too much, which I know is easier said than done.

God help me, is it. All the stories in here though make me more at ease.

[AFSjulian]

I started dating a senior in high school the year after I graduated and we stayed together until basically the start of her sophomore year in college. Trust was an issue the whole time, but she was way further away than your girlfriend. If you're really dedicated to each other and making it work I say go for it, but you are not mistaken about the difference in worlds. Some girls get to a school and get wrapped up in the most ridiculous parts of it. Things change. Just play it wisely and hope for the best!

[brentkid]

Enjoy it while you can. Odds are you'll break up.

Just lending a more realistic view as opposed to the more hopeful responses.

[Kassie09]

Uh you guys will live ten minutes from each other nothing is going to be different........wow @ this even being a fucking issue.

[Ari Christos]

To everyone saying to "get over it, it's only ten minutes" let me make it clear it's not distance that worries me. It's the difference of environments. Her being in college means she'll be surrounded by different people, many of whom are older. We'll have different schedules, and she won't be confined to a lot of the same restrictions we used to share that are now solely mine (such as parents' rules, curfews, etc.). It's not distance I'm worried about, it's environment.

[Kassie09]

Just go to college parties with her (if your cerfew allows)and you'll quickly be in the same social circle. I know lots of high school seniors who hang out with college kids often. You're the same age (basically) so you'll be fine. Now if there was a 3 or 4 year age gap that leaves some issue.

[muzicislife31]

I had a similar situation this past year with my boyfriend except I went to school 40 mins away. It is definitely weird living in two different worlds, and it was sometimes hard and made me feel distant from him. I tried to bring him into my group of friends and it sorta worked but was never the same as if he were there. But if you want to be with her and that's what will make you happy, you should probably try to stay with her since you can still see each other. I guess you have to figure out if it's worth trying to unite the two different environments to make it work. My boyfriend and I are still together if that helps. Good luck!

[timb89]

its not gonna work. it never does. thats like the premise for every teen movie every made.

[raychull]

You're just ten minutes away? Get the fuck over it.
this.

[fadedmemories]

If you can't trust her then there's no point in staying in the relationship.

[bigblue2015]

It all basically comes down to the fact that if you really care about each other and want to make the relationship work, then you don't have anything to worry about.

[DejaGuy89]

GET SKYPE it helps to see their face instead of talking on the phone

[Mibabalou]

these always fail

[Sventhegreat]

its not gonna work. it never does. thats like the premise for every teen movie every made.

False.

It still works out in the end.

[MarsEatWorld]

Just broke up with a girl before she went to Duke. Feel like shit. :-(
I have been there all week. And by there I mean Duke. Lol

[billyboatkid]

Be ready for her to rip your heart out through your ass hole.

It sucks, but it'll make you a stronger person.

[Whowolf]

High School relationships are overrated to me

but with your situation, i wish you the best of luck.

[NeededYouMost]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months now, and school starts next week for us. She's a year older than me and going into her freshman year of college, with me going into my senior year of high school. The college she's going to is literally ten minutes away from where I live, not a bad drive at all, but we're going to be in two separate worlds and I'm just nervous about what's to come. She's more than willing to make things work, but I can't shake the feeling of her changing her mind once school starts. So, does anyone have any advice in how to make this last or any stories of their own in similar situations?
if she changes her mind, she changes her mind. If she want's to stay with you fine, if she wants to explore her college life, and guys, then fine also. You'll be in college soon enough, and most colleges have more girls than guys, so it's ripe for the picking. Don't get so attached to a girl at such a young age, its pussy- in every sense of the word.

[caress me down]

There are a lot of negative nancies in here. Although it's against the odds, these relationships can work...

[Helpless]

My girlfriend is going to college in Georgia while I'm still in chicago in Highschool, so I know what you're talking about. But If you really care about eachother, it'll all go by fast and you'll be fine.

[SouthernCross40]

I was in the exact same situation as you three years ago, only she would be an hour away.
I broke it off a few weeks before she left for school and felt miserable about it...called her up four months later, and now we've been dating two and a half years and just got engaged. You deal with the distance as best you can (we had a wendy's half way between that we would meet at once a week) and visit on weekends. But wait...you're only ten minutes away, so suck it up and enjoy your senior year with a girlfriend you obviously love a lot.

[MarsEatWorld]

I was in the exact same situation as you three years ago, only she would be an hour away.
I broke it off a few weeks before she left for school and felt miserable about it...called her up four months later, and now we've been dating two and a half years and just got engaged. You deal with the distance as best you can (we had a wendy's half way between that we would meet at once a week) and visit on weekends. But wait...you're only ten minutes away, so suck it up and enjoy your senior year with a girlfriend you obviously love a lot.
congratsssssssss

[xBértox]

True love never fades away ma dawg.

And i'd much rather be in your situation then the one i'm in, hands down.

[AndrewIcex]

I was in the exact same situation as you three years ago, only she would be an hour away.
I broke it off a few weeks before she left for school and felt miserable about it...called her up four months later, and now we've been dating two and a half years and just got engaged. You deal with the distance as best you can (we had a wendy's half way between that we would meet at once a week) and visit on weekends. But wait...you're only ten minutes away, so suck it up and enjoy your senior year with a girlfriend you obviously love a lot.
A VERY similar thing happened to me, I totally understand this.

[kesto4]

I have a very similar situation to you. I started dating my current girlfriend in April of my senior year...she was 2 years younger (grade-wise). We are still dating (almost a 1 1/2 yrs later), she's starting her senior year, I'm starting my sophomore year in college. Although we are in the same city, our schedules are very different.

The most important thing to remember is you will miss her, so it is important to make time to see her. This will take a few months of adjusting to not being in her same world as you (HS vs. college) but it will settle in after a while. If it's meant to be, it will last.

[reesa]

To everyone saying to "get over it, it's only ten minutes" let me make it clear it's not distance that worries me. It's the difference of environments. Her being in college means she'll be surrounded by different people, many of whom are older. We'll have different schedules, and she won't be confined to a lot of the same restrictions we used to share that are now solely mine (such as parents' rules, curfews, etc.). It's not distance I'm worried about, it's environment.
i knew straight away what you meant about her being in college and you still in school. people are so damn stupid telling you to get the fuck over it...and it's so negative X( this guy just needs some reassurance and you tell him to get the fuck over it :P ...come on.

anyway i myself can't relate at all to your situation because firstly i'm not in a relationship and secondly i haven't been in one similar to yours. but all i can say is, don't worry too much about her being in college. just be the same guy she fell for. make her happy every time you see her (:
good luck :D

I started dating a senior in high school the year after I graduated and we stayed together until basically the start of her sophomore year in college. Trust was an issue the whole time, but she was way further away than your girlfriend. If you're really dedicated to each other and making it work I say go for it, but you are not mistaken about the difference in worlds. Some girls get to a school and get wrapped up in the most ridiculous parts of it. Things change. Just play it wisely and hope for the best!
urgh that's so true i hate it lol. but yer i agree with your advice.

[ilovetocuddle]

i was just in the same exact situation. i dated a girl for six months and she's entering her freshman year of college while i'm going to be a senior in highschool. she broke up with me because she said she couldn't handle the distance (even though she would only be like 45 minutes away) and that she didnt want to be in a relationship going into college. it sucks thinking that she's probably getting plowed by an entire fraternity right now while i'm at home crying like a girl and masterbating, but that's life. just goes to show things don't always work out so you may need to prepare for it.

but if it was meant to be, i'm sure things will work out fine. i know people who have had relationships last over much greater distances.

[Yellowcard2006]

i was just in the same exact situation. i dated a girl for six months and she's entering her freshman year of college while i'm going to be a senior in highschool. she broke up with me because she said she couldn't handle the distance (even though she would only be like 45 minutes away) and that she didnt want to be in a relationship going into college. it sucks thinking that she's probably getting plowed by an entire fraternity right now while i'm at home crying like a girl and masterbating, but that's life. just goes to show things don't always work out so you may need to prepare for it.

but if it was meant to be, i'm sure things will work out fine. i know people who have had relationships last over much greater distances.
Your post... makes me sad. I always listen to "Your Own Disaster" by Taking Back Sunday to... well not feel better, but it helps.


Good luck with the relationship OP, as long as she really wants to be with you, it won't be a problem. At all.

[songydarko]

Sorta have a similar situation going on. All I ever say is if you like each other enough, you'll figure it out. If a relationship is meant to work, then it will. Just gotta put in the effort if you both wanna be together and keep it that way. It may not be easy at times but it very well may be worth it. Good luck with your situation though.

[pennie]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months now, and school starts next week for us. She's a year older than me and going into her freshman year of college, with me going into my senior year of high school. The college she's going to is literally ten minutes away from where I live, not a bad drive at all, but we're going to be in two separate worlds and I'm just nervous about what's to come. She's more than willing to make things work, but I can't shake the feeling of her changing her mind once school starts. So, does anyone have any advice in how to make this last or any stories of their own in similar situations?

Edit: To everyone saying to "get over it, it's only ten minutes" let me make it clear it's not distance that worries me. It's the difference of environments. Her being in college means she'll be surrounded by different people, many of whom are older. We'll have different schedules, and she won't be confined to a lot of the same restrictions we used to share that are now solely mine (such as parents' rules, curfews, etc.). It's not distance I'm worried about, it's environment.
If it's love it will work out.

[Ari Christos]

Thank you to everyone whose given me advice and their own stories. It means a lot to me, and I'll take all of it into consideration.

[timb89]

False.

It still works out in the end.

the guy thinks he loves a girl.
who ends up being a bitch.
he falls in love with someone who he usually wouldnt go for.
who ends up being the one.

[Tead42]

I'm currently dating my girlfriend of a year and a half. Soon to be a senior in high school, we've had rough times and seen other couples that have been dating longer and they lack the intimacy me and her still keep alive, and this is just high school shit haha. But yeah, I really hope we work out because I'm really in love with her.

[JJtrackie716]

I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and she goes to school an hour away, not gonna lie some days it's really tough. But seeing as your a much shorter distance you'll be able to see her a few times a week, whereas we have to wait 2 or 3 weeks because I don't have my car up at school. Most of the fights we have stem from not being able to see each other all the time and it's frustrating, but I wouldn't trade it. So good luck

[ezco25]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months now, and school starts next week for us. She's a year older than me and going into her freshman year of college, with me going into my senior year of high school. The college she's going to is literally ten minutes away from where I live, not a bad drive at all, but we're going to be in two separate worlds and I'm just nervous about what's to come. She's more than willing to make things work, but I can't shake the feeling of her changing her mind once school starts. So, does anyone have any advice in how to make this last or any stories of their own in similar situations?

Edit: To everyone saying to "get over it, it's only ten minutes" let me make it clear it's not distance that worries me. It's the difference of environments. Her being in college means she'll be surrounded by different people, many of whom are older. We'll have different schedules, and she won't be confined to a lot of the same restrictions we used to share that are now solely mine (such as parents' rules, curfews, etc.). It's not distance I'm worried about, it's environment.

i would just say get over it but i am going to give you more detail than that....
dude im sorry... im the same age as you so i can sort of relate to this... her going to college and you being in h.s. will prob fuck up everything... you know like you said she doesnt have any restrictions, shel be around many new people (many older guys just itching to fuck her....) if anything does go wrong which i hope it doesnnt you cant really blame her. as it is it should be hard for her datung a younger guy but this 1 year may be a very tough one. if you dont spend like every second with her this will be over before you know it

sorry, hope it works out

[panties_nz]

you only get what you put in man

if you want to maintain your relationship, you have to make the effort. spoil her, surprise her. remind her shes numero uno.

my gf is also a year older and i was in the same situation as you a two years ago. i was shit scared about her being in university while i was still in my last year at school. but we made it work.

i think its really important to be open about your concerns, so she knows where your coming from.maintain a healthy dialogue and be super supportive. make every effort to hang out and talk. sure the environment for her will be different, but if you guys are happy and committed, whats there to worry about?

[Sventhegreat]

the guy thinks he loves a girl.
who ends up being a bitch.
he falls in love with someone who he usually wouldnt go for.
who ends up being the one.

Props.