Hooking up with your ex.

[everyonesfault]

I just did. This is a first. I don't know how to feel about it. Physically, it was obviously awesome. I'm just unsure of the other implications of it all. Anyone else have any insight on this kind of situation?

[4N6 science]

This leads down a dark dark path. I highly suggest not doing going there.

[Greg.Kushlan]

I wouldn't mind going out with my Ex again, just as long as I got back everything she stole from me.

[AlkalineAshes]

This leads down a dark dark path. I highly suggest not doing going there.

haha this post reminded me of Yoda.. very wise

[phil19]

This leads down a dark dark path. I highly suggest not doing going there.

haha this post reminded me of Yoda.. very wise

haha for once you start done the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny

[TheByrus]

It leads down an awesome path that leads to awesomeness.

[LPcatitoRJA]

I wouldn't mind going out with my Ex again, just as long as I got back everything she stole from me.

is it possible to get your virginity back?

[Greg.Kushlan]

is it possible to get your virginity back?

No, but I would like the $100 worth of dvds and cds she stole for drug money back.

[kbi the crowing]

depends on the current and former relationship

[AlkalineAshes]

It leads down an awesome path that leads to awesomeness.

the darkside has its fun, but overall ya:-(

[maxvsmaradona]

This leads down a dark and dirty path. I highly suggest anal.

Fixed :-)

[ascitiesburn101]

this is a bad idea, especially if they want to get back with you.

[dancelukedance]

This leads down a dark dark path. I highly suggest not doing going there.

This.

[bowl of oranges]

I have done this thrice before. With the same girl. Do not continue to do so. Trust me.

[StartAngry&Mad]

this is a bad idea, especially if they want to get back with you.
too true. and especially if there was a drama leading to the original break-up.

understandably it feels more comfortable and convenient to go back to an ex, especially if you're not over them yet, but in all honesty, I'd hold out and find someone new, it is not worth the risk of further shit hitting the proverbial fan.

[And Hours Pass]

I just did. This is a first. I don't know how to feel about it. Physically, it was obviously awesome. I'm just unsure of the other implications of it all. Anyone else have any insight on this kind of situation?
I got in an absolutely terrible spiral of doing this. Take it from me - it NEVER ends well. Sure, you'll get laid a bunch and get to try some out-of-the-ordinary stuff (opportunity for folks to throw an anal in here) that you might not have tried when you were "official," but you'll pay for it emotionally because if you don't get back together she'll end up fucking another guy and you'll feel it. Take it from somebody who slept with his ex way too many times... stop while you're ahead.

[Ismael182]

This leads down a dark dark path. I highly suggest not doing going there.

Speaking from experience, this is very true. I banged my ex countlessly and she only did it cause she still loved me..then she got pissed that I was using her for sex and went and banged two of my best friends who had no idea I was still banging her in the first place.

Then I stopped talking to her for a year and half until last year we started talking again..tried out not banging, but didn't last very long..oh and she's engaged too. But we haven't had sex since and don't think we will since I'm not really attracted to her anymore.

But if one of my other exes came back into my life and wanted to hook up, I'd probably do it anyway.

[wroteurname]

My ex is HOT reason I dated her in the first place. Would LOVE to fuck her again. GODDAMN

[splutton]

After a five year relationship me and my gf broke up.. Its been about 4months or so. We've hooked up lots since.. Very bitter sweet. In the long run clearly not a good idea - but i doubt im guna stop!

[zach]

It's cool if there isn't any residual attachment and it's purely no strings attached. Sometimes in the heat of the moment you get to freakey stuff that she wouldn't let you do while you were dating. I guess what I'm saying is, it's a good idea if you like anal.

[richie]

There's always strings attached... believe me, stop doing it. You'll end up miserable. Or she will.

[Reaver]

if you don't love her anymore, why not having sex?

[Hamlet]

This leads down a dark tight ass. I highly suggest going there.

Mmhmm.

[trappedintime]

I wouldn't do it more than once.

[UntilItKillsYou]

awesome

unless she got uglier

[Tian]

This leads down a dark dark path. I highly suggest not doing going there.

Haha that is some great advice. Still, I'd not think twice about doing it, there's nothing to lose unless you're like best friends.

[popdisaster00]

Dated a girl for 6 months.

We broke up.

6 months later, we hook up again.

4 years later, we're still together.

And I'm happy.

[GoWaitInTheCar]

Depending who broke up with who, I assume. Not only that but every situation is different.

[Paper_Wings]

We've only met a few times, well maybe only once, but hot damn. No regrets as of yet. :D

[dmobley]

I would not recommend it... I did it because it was the easy road. After getting dragged back into the relationship, which I had ended, it was only a matter of time until I remembered the reasons for ending it in the first place.

[Roboman]

My ex is HOT reason I dated her in the first place. Would LOVE to fuck her again. GODDAMN

I think people are overlooking the best post in this thread.

[everyonesfault]

I broke up with her at the end of July for my best friend who I am legitimately in love with. Said friend, however, went to college recently and decided she didn't want anything serious, especially not long-distance. I'm fine with this, it's totally understandable, even if it is somewhat disappointing. That said, however, I still have to empty my balls somewhere. My ex is an easy alternative and she's down for lots of no-strings-attached fucking (so she says), so I figure why not. But I've already let her know that if things start to get weird, I plan on ending it immediately. When we hooked up, it was purely animalistic and instinctual; there was no relapse of deeper feelings for either party. Hopefully it stays that way.

[DEAD VEGGIE]

I broke up with her at the end of July for my best friend who I am legitimately in love with. Said friend, however, went to college recently and decided she didn't want anything serious, especially not long-distance. I'm fine with this, it's totally understandable, even if it is somewhat disappointing. That said, however, I still have to empty my balls somewhere. My ex is an easy alternative and she's down for lots of no-strings-attached fucking (so she says), so I figure why not. But I've already let her know that if things start to get weird, I plan on ending it immediately. When we hooked up, it was purely animalistic and instinctual; there was no relapse of deeper feelings for either party. Hopefully it stays that way.

First off your 17 so you don't know what love is and secondly you must be high on crystal meth if you think your ex is really just going to have lots of "no-strings-attached fucking" women are bat shit crazy she will say she is down and then the next thing you know she is getting attached again hiding outside your house in the bushes waiting to crucify you when another lady gets brought into the scenario. So if you were smart you would "empty your balls" into a kleenex and wait for the person you are "legitimately in love with"

[Reaver]

I think people are overlooking the best post in this thread.

goddamn, i know that line you have there about toilets, but i can't remember the show it's from. help me!

[zach]

I broke up with her at the end of July for my best friend who I am legitimately in love with. Said friend, however, went to college recently and decided she didn't want anything serious, especially not long-distance. I'm fine with this, it's totally understandable, even if it is somewhat disappointing. That said, however, I still have to empty my balls somewhere. My ex is an easy alternative and she's down for lots of no-strings-attached fucking (so she says), so I figure why not. But I've already let her know that if things start to get weird, I plan on ending it immediately. When we hooked up, it was purely animalistic and instinctual; there was no relapse of deeper feelings for either party. Hopefully it stays that way.

Ignore that guy below you who can't punctuate. Get up in them guts, Kid, and keep your pimp hand strong!

[Roboman]

goddamn, i know that line you have there about toilets, but i can't remember the show it's from. help me!

Haha it's not from a show, it's from Samuel L. Jackson's character in the movie The Spirit. Completely fucked-up movie, by the way.

[Reaver]

Haha it's not from a show, it's from Samuel L. Jackson's character in the movie The Spirit. Completely fucked-up movie, by the way.

aaaah, yeah now i remember! it really is fucked up, sin city is much better.

[zion the lion]

First off your 17 so you don't know what love is and secondly you must be high on crystal meth if you think your ex is really just going to have lots of "no-strings-attached fucking" women are bat shit crazy she will say she is down and then the next thing you know she is getting attached again hiding outside your house in the bushes waiting to crucify you when another lady gets brought into the scenario. So if you were smart you would "empty your balls" into a kleenex and wait for the person you are "legitimately in love with"

lies

truth.

[billyboatkid]

I hate girls.

[chrisstahl]

I pretty much always approve of this.

[zion the lion]

Also, I did this in early august with one of my exes, then we stopped talking completely...a few weeks later, he surprised me at the hospital, and once I got out we had a week long sexfest, until I had to go back to the hospital. I assumed it was going to be no strings attached, but he dropped the bomb on me and said he never stopped liking me, which is nice.

[Markus1186]

There's always strings attached... believe me, stop doing it. You'll end up miserable. Or she will.


This. Did this for a long time with my last 2 ex's.. One time I ended up real fucking miserable once she started dating a new dude, and the other time I just didn't give a fuck cause I really didn't like her anymore anyway.

[maxvsmaradona]

Dude, just B your L on her T's. Then be like "kthxbai".

[nonamesleft]

Meh, shit happens.

[softhands]

just don't get your feelings all in a twist for her, cause obviously that didn't work.

[lovely864md]

I haven't read a single post in this thread, or the original post for that matter, but bad bad bad bad bad bad bad and that's all I have to say about that.

[SincerelyMe]

This never ends well.

[You Won't Know]

too true. and especially if there was a drama leading to the original break-up.

understandably it feels more comfortable and convenient to go back to an ex, especially if you're not over them yet, but in all honesty, I'd hold out and find someone new, it is not worth the risk of further shit hitting the proverbial fan.

From a strictly physical sense, going back to the ex is awesome! You are familiar with each other, there's no awkward "learning each other's tendencies/needs" part, and there's still usually some passion there.

It might be cool for awhile, but there's usually a reason why they were your ex in the first place. So unless it's understood and known that you guys aren't getting back together and it's just a fling, this situation ends poorly most of the time.

The bizarre thing about this to me is how quickly girls are willing to go back to their ex's for random hookups. For some reason (probably because of societal pressures or maybe cuz it's just more comfortable) girls won't sleep with you the first time because they don't want to be looked down upon, but random ex hookups are okay. Just my take - doesn't really make sense as they are pretty much the same.

[anamericangod]

This is why we can't have nice things.

[zion the lion]

From a strictly physical sense, going back to the ex is awesome! You are familiar with each other, there's no awkward "learning each other's tendencies/needs" part, and there's still usually some passion there.

It might be cool for awhile, but there's usually a reason why they were your ex in the first place. So unless it's understood and known that you guys aren't getting back together and it's just a fling, this situation ends poorly most of the time.

The bizarre thing about this to me is how quickly girls are willing to go back to their ex's for random hookups. For some reason (probably because of societal pressures or maybe cuz it's just more comfortable) girls won't sleep with you the first time because they don't want to be looked down upon, but random ex hookups are okay. Just my take - doesn't really make sense as they are pretty much the same.

I kept doing it because I still loved the guy and kept thinking that anything is better than nothing.

[kemichels]

Saw thread title. Don't do it. Just adds to the confusion of a breakup.

[lovely864md]

The reality is that one if not both of you are still going to be still harboring some feelings. And whether that's resentment over the breakup, still wanting to be with that person, whatever, stirring that shit up in a best case scenario makes it take longer to go away. I did a really dumb thing and ended up hooking up with an ex in a really sketchy situation, and it turned out he still had a lot of feelings for me, and all I really did was fuck up a fucked up break up even more. I know that's vague as hell but point being: I've done it, I've seen plenty of friends do it, it's bad news.

Just find yourself some no strings attached fuck buddy if you need it that bad. At least it'll be drama with a new person instead of the same old.

[fborelli]

If you have no feelings, then this is a great idea. You get sex and then since you have no feeling you don't have to think about the guilt when she/he bitches at you.

Otherwise, stay away...very far away

[MSIndulgence]

goddamn, i know that line you have there about toilets, but i can't remember the show it's from. help me!
HOLY SHIT your avatar is awesome. that is all.

[COTA]

Bad idea. I did this and now she's clinging on, thinking we're getting back together. Fuck that noise.

[EmoErk]

hey, i havent read what anyone else has written but i will give you my opinion. i dated a girl from 8th grade untill i was in my second day of college. she had been cheating on me and even fucked a friend. when she left me i didnt know anything and was in a brand new place living in a small dorm room. she was in the same college and i would hide in my room and drink just to avoid her. well one day a few months later she shows up drunk to my door and we had sex. after that i realized that she was a horrible person and a slut. she had me on a string and could do whatever she wanted whenever. now sure it felt great but it made me realize that we werent meant to be with eachother, she had alot of different ideas on life and wanted to bang everyguy on the 100 man football team. try to move on if you can, once again hell im no expert... but if she was a bad person to you then yes..please move on because if thats the case all she is doing is toying with you, she knows you will sit when she says sit. dont give her that benifit, and use music to help you out, im an old fuck, i used something corporates "north" to get over her, and when i hear that disc now i can smell the dorm room aspestoes and taste the vodka

[PenThrive]

Don't let it become a constant thing. You two broke up for a reason.

[everyonesfault]

Dude, just B your L on her T's. Then be like "kthxbai".
That's what happened about 30 minutes ago.

[maxvsmaradona]

That's what happened about 30 minutes ago.

You, sir, are the man.

[caress me down]

I hooked up with my ex (when he had a girlfriend) and it ended terribly... I still had strong feelings for him but he just liked his girlfriend. It was rough times. I really don't suggest it

[ZeroGravity107]

Worked well for me. It was probably the best sex I had with her because now that we were broken up I didn't really care about pleasing her.

[Reaver]

HOLY SHIT your avatar is awesome. that is all.

thanks, bro.

[DejaNew]

Don't do it. TERRIBLE idea.

[StartAngry&Mad]

From a strictly physical sense, going back to the ex is awesome! You are familiar with each other, there's no awkward "learning each other's tendencies/needs" part, and there's still usually some passion there.

It might be cool for awhile, but there's usually a reason why they were your ex in the first place. So unless it's understood and known that you guys aren't getting back together and it's just a fling, this situation ends poorly most of the time.

The bizarre thing about this to me is how quickly girls are willing to go back to their ex's for random hookups. For some reason (probably because of societal pressures or maybe cuz it's just more comfortable) girls won't sleep with you the first time because they don't want to be looked down upon, but random ex hookups are okay. Just my take - doesn't really make sense as they are pretty much the same.
Good point. I have a friend who once said if she were single and one of the guys who'd ever broken up with her had wanted her back, she wouldn't be able to say no. I'd like to think she's grown out of that phase now, but I think it's a relatively common truth among girls.
Then again, we all want what we can't have, and we always desire those who reject us (to one degree or another). So it's really not just girls I guess...

[apoemtothedead]

Speaking from experience, this is very true. I banged my ex countlessly and she only did it cause she still loved me..then she got pissed that I was using her for sex and went and banged two of my best friends who had no idea I was still banging her in the first place.

Then I stopped talking to her for a year and half until last year we started talking again..tried out not banging, but didn't last very long..oh and she's engaged too. But we haven't had sex since and don't think we will since I'm not really attracted to her anymore.

But if one of my other exes came back into my life and wanted to hook up, I'd probably do it anyway.
Or maybe the fact that she's engaged will have something to do with it...

[maxvsmaradona]

Can't turn a hoe into a house wife! Hoes don't act right! There's hoes on a mission, and hoes on a crack pipe!

[uglystar03]

I have been in this position many times with multiple exes. I'm pretty sure I have never gone through a break up where I don't at least fool around with the girl post-breakup. While the familiarity is awesome, it generally does not end well. With my experience, it often carries on for months until one party finds another person. Regardless, someone ends up getting hurt.

Not to say I wouldn't do it again and I probably will. I just wouldn't recommend it to anyone that has any self-control when it comes to these things.

[Michifoxx]

Hmm... I think I would .
But...

[Animalhill]

I do it all the time. Its not really that big a deal to me. :shrug:

[Kassie09]

It's a bad idea, from my experience with it. I suppose it could really go either way, depending on your relationship. But I am going to just assume it's always a bad idea for myself.