Making friends in University

[framebyframe]

Just moved in to residence today and it's orientation week. I'm an introvert and I don't really connect with anyone on my residence floor, but they all seem to get along really well and it's kind of depressing. I keep hearing people saying that it's hard to make friends later on because everyone already has friends. Am I doomed to be a loner forever? It seems like everyone here is the complete opposite of me.

[wuduprod]

you're thinking too much. a big part of college and life in general is learning how to interact with people that are different than you. you have to step outside of your comfort zone and try to get along with people you normally wouldn't interact with. you're going to be seeing them every day, after all. so, leave your door opened so it's easier and more inviting for people to approach you. you'll probably be pleasantly surprised with at least a few people.

[makeshiftmind]

Just moved in to residence today and it's orientation week. I'm an introvert and I don't really connect with anyone on my residence floor, but they all seem to get along really well and it's kind of depressing. I keep hearing people saying that it's hard to make friends later on because everyone already has friends. Am I doomed to be a loner forever? It seems like everyone here is the complete opposite of me.
I'm in the same boat. I know nobody in my residence/school except for one person that I don't even know that well and it is hard. I met a few cool people that I don't know too well but that I can hang with just by going up and starting awakrd converstions, which was nice. But still I don't feel like I'm fitting in too well with most of the people on my floor which sucks. But you will not be a loner forever, its only been a few days, just kind of put yourself out there I guess; people are pretty open to talking if you just introduce yourself. If it doesn't work come to Guelph lol and we will hang out. :gay:

[Wait_For_It]

It's really hard to make friends. This is my 3rd year in college and I only have a handful of friends. You'll have a much easier time making friends because you live on campus. Give it some time. You'll find some people to hang out with soon enough.

[Regards]

Gives you more time to study. I'm kind of in the same boat. Just chill, study, get done what you've gotta get done and let life come at you as it does.

[swt_catastrophe]

Smile! Honestly, the people you meet during orientation you probably won't end up hanging out with for very long. Leave your door open and be open to new people/situations, even if you don't think you "fit in". At first, it might be weird, but you'll find your place. Don't stay in your room constantly and wonder why you aren't making friends though. GO OUT. You can study in the library or a coffee shop near campus just as easily as you can locked in your dorm.

[PenThrive]

Gives you more time to study. I'm kind of in the same boat. Just chill, study, get done what you've gotta get done and let life come at you as it does.

Pretty much this.

[framebyframe]

I'm starting to meet more people. It's just so hard getting used to. I want to be extroverted and try new things, but everyone is too crazy.

I'm in the same boat. I know nobody in my residence/school except for one person that I don't even know that well and it is hard. I met a few cool people that I don't know too well but that I can hang with just by going up and starting awakrd converstions, which was nice. But still I don't feel like I'm fitting in too well with most of the people on my floor which sucks. But you will not be a loner forever, its only been a few days, just kind of put yourself out there I guess; people are pretty open to talking if you just introduce yourself. If it doesn't work come to Guelph lol and we will hang out. :gay:

Lol awesome! How are you liking school?

[Foosimoo]

What you said is pretty much exactly how I feel right now.

[ted is lying]

If all else fails get soem great weed and share.

[makeshiftmind]

I'm starting to meet more people. It's just so hard getting used to. I want to be extroverted and try new things, but everyone is too crazy.
Lol awesome! How are you liking school?
No too bad, I'm kind of introverted too so I'm still trying to meet a few people, met a few decent ones around, but I don't really know anyone going to Guelph so it's still kind of hard just to start random conversations lol but I am slowly getting better. But I totally agree everyone is pretty crazy. Like every night so far people have just been partying all the time, but once and a while I like to just relax and take it easy, maybe watch a little tv or movie. I'm not too big on partying and drinking just to get really drunk to begin with, so it's kind of weird for me to be around that all the time. Hopefully it will settle down since classes started! on the plus side people have better taste in music up here which is awesome

[framebyframe]

No too bad, I'm kind of introverted too so I'm still trying to meet a few people, met a few decent ones around, but I don't really know anyone going to Guelph so it's still kind of hard just to start random conversations lol but I am slowly getting better. But I totally agree everyone is pretty crazy. Like every night so far people have just been partying all the time, but once and a while I like to just relax and take it easy, maybe watch a little tv or movie. I'm not too big on partying and drinking just to get really drunk to begin with, so it's kind of weird for me to be around that all the time. Hopefully it will settle down since classes started! on the plus side people have better taste in music up here which is awesome

That's exactly like me. Everyone on my floor are party animals and I want to fit in with them, but they think I'm lame whenever I say no to partying. I just don't really feel comfortable partying all the time because I ALWAYS feel like shit in the morning and it gives me major anxiety which is not good because I already have anxiety just from being here. Also they like to hook up with random guys at parties and I'm not really into that. I'm probably going to just end up being outcasted by them and spend many nights by myself watching movies and listening to music, but whatever. My roommate (who is also my friend) thinks I'm pretty lame too for never wanting to go out. I went to one party and felt awkward as fuck. Oh well. Good luck to you!

[makeshiftmind]

That's exactly like me. Everyone on my floor are party animals and I want to fit in with them, but they think I'm lame whenever I say no to partying. I just don't really feel comfortable partying all the time because I ALWAYS feel like shit in the morning and it gives me major anxiety which is not good because I already have anxiety just from being here. Also they like to hook up with random guys at parties and I'm not really into that. I'm probably going to just end up being outcasted by them and spend many nights by myself watching movies and listening to music, but whatever. My roommate (who is also my friend) thinks I'm pretty lame too for never wanting to go out. I went to one party and felt awkward as fuck. Oh well. Good luck to you!
sounds like me:-( except my roomie is a bro who likes country music

[framebyframe]

sounds like me:-( except my roomie is a bro who likes country music

Hahaha that sucks. If it makes you feel any better NO ONE hear listens to the same music as me.

If all else fails get soem great weed and share.

Love to, but they have REALLY strict drug policies here. I don't want to risk getting kicked out.

[makeshiftmind]

Hahaha that sucks. If it makes you feel any better NO ONE hear listens to the same music as me.
a bit, I'm a dick like that

[HangsLikeHeaven]

What school do you go to?

[framebyframe]

a bit, I'm a dick like that

Hahaha, I can tell ;-)

What school do you go to?

Wilfrid Laurier.

[danielineffigy]

I felt the exact same way for the first week or so I was at school. Eventually I just got tired of eating alone/spending nights on Xbox Live so I convinced myself to be more social. I was afraid to approach people, start up conversations, etc but I realized 99% of the people there are the same way and would be thrilled if someone came up and started talking to them. If I see a kid eating alone who looks like he has the same interests as me or could be friends with me I just go up and ask to sit down. It's not nearly as awkward as you'd think... at least it wasn't for me. Every time they've said sure and I've made a couple really cool friends by doing so. Once you say 'hi' or ask to sit with someone the awkwardness just kind of vanishes. From then on just text them or facebook IM them to go to the cafe for lunch or to chill or something. They'll be looking for something, anything to do just like you.

I'm still in kind of a weird spot though because I don't smoke weed but most of the guys I've met do. They don't care or think any less of me cause I don't, but I could see how our friendships would diminish over time. They just don't invite me when they're going to go smoke and I feel a bit separated from them in that regard. But I'm not stuck on just these few guys.

Also, make an effort to make a friend in every class. It'll help you out in ways you could never imagine haha.

Edit: Also, enable Library sharing if you have iTunes and put your name or room number as your library's title. I met a good friend just buy browsing through his library, tracking him down, and asking for some MP3's. It's not creepy or stalkerish or anything, they'll probably be stoked that someone took the time to find them because you like the same music they do.

[framebyframe]

It's not that I'm really afraid to talk to people it's just that I have such different interests because I'm more introverted. It's hard to fit in with people who are so obsessed with partying and doing university things. It's not that all I want to do is study, it's just that I don't want to party ALL the time and I like some time to myself.

[pambeesley]

its not as hard as you think and there really is alot of people that will have the same interests as you, just wait you can find them in your classes too...

i know for me orientation week last year was the biggest waste of time because i could not stand any of those people lol way too loud and obnoxious and not in a good way, it seemed like everyone was the people that i didnt really like in highschool...
but the people youll be able to be friends with will be around dont give up just yet!

[sodamnclever]

I didn't really read what anyone said, so I am sorry if this has been said already:

Keep your door open...if you're not doing anything important just keep it open listen to some music/watch tv...someone may stop by with similar interests. Do you guys have floor meetings? Your RA should be doing some activities to help you guys socialize too.

I'm not sure if you're school is super Greek or not, but you could always rush a sorority...and if that really isn't your thing just join some organizations...whether it is something that is really involved with campus, or just something small you're bound to meet some people...but it can be overwhelming, and intimidating entering college. I went there being close friends with some girls I went to school with, then lost touch with them, so it was kind of hard to find people open to new friends, but you will...sometimes, it just takes time.

Good luck.
=]

[a morning view]

I'm in my third year of college and have literally zero friends at school. Okay, I know like one dude, but I met him via last.fm because we were attending the same concert at school. I commute, which means I usually go to class and then drive home. I've found it impossible to make friends in class; most business majors at my school are douche bags and everyone already has friends in class. I met a couple of kids at orientation, but once school actually started, friendships never materialized because we didn't have the same classes and I don't live on campus. I'm pretty introverted, so I can't just show up at a club meeting or something and start up a conversation with someone. Besides, everyone is bound to show up with their own group of friends anyway. It's too late. This situation has made college a very depressing experience for me. It sucks, but I feel powerless to change it. Le sigh.

[papa_smurf]

I never had many friends during school. A lot of aquitances...but no real freinds.
I had a girlfriend though for 4 years of my schooling life...which is probably why I found it hard to connect to other people.
Any girl I'd talk to there would be a whole lotta whoop ass comin after me from my g/f. So girls were out of the question.
I hung out alot with my g/f at lunch times, so not often was I hanging round "with the boys".
Only on rare occasions did I go down to the oval to throw around a ball or kick some punks. I got along with most people, but never had the time to connect.
I still have trouble hanging out with people, and I find it very awkward to go to people's houses or go on dates.
Do you have any suggestions?
Thank you :hitler:

[Wisher]

i've been at college for a little less than a month.

the first week i was only friends with my roommate and his cousin, and i wanted to go home.

the second week i started becoming aquainted with other people on my floor.

the third week i realized that these aquaintences were turning into lifelong friends.

week four and this place feels like home now. and i have friends. i'm shy and rarely go out, leave your door open and people will come. if they don't you're going to have to introduce yourself, but just know that people will come.

and it gets better. i promise.

[papa_smurf]

I hate people.
I'd rather live by myself.
No outside interactions...unless it's hot girls on the In-ter-net. Or that M-S-M thing.
If you have M-S-M, add me! send me your web addresses. thanks! :hitler:

[-whisp-]

I'm in my third year of college and have literally zero friends at school. Okay, I know like one dude, but I met him via last.fm because we were attending the same concert at school. I commute, which means I usually go to class and then drive home. I've found it impossible to make friends in class; most business majors at my school are douche bags and everyone already has friends in class. I met a couple of kids at orientation, but once school actually started, friendships never materialized because we didn't have the same classes and I don't live on campus. I'm pretty introverted, so I can't just show up at a club meeting or something and start up a conversation with someone. Besides, everyone is bound to show up with their own group of friends anyway. It's too late. This situation has made college a very depressing experience for me. It sucks, but I feel powerless to change it. Le sigh.

Pretty much the same as myself. I made 4 friends over 3 years at uni and in my third year we barely saw each other because sometimes they wouldn't bother coming in and they lived further away than I did so we never met up outside of class...I can't even call them my friends because they haven't kept in touch with me which is a real shame.
It's sad, I felt completely alone- even though I do like having my own space and such there is a limit. My relationship with my boyfriend is long distance which doesn't help either and the housemates I had were terrible the last couple years.

I'm doing one more year of studies and this time round I have 4 housemates that I still have yet to meet as they haven't arrived but I'm trying to keep it positive as possible. I made a friend online through uni forums who will be on my course and we will hopefully meet up tomorrow.
People don't just come to you, one needs to make the effort as well, as people have already mentioned in the thread.

[sidewacker]

Just moved in to residence today and it's orientation week. I'm an introvert and I don't really connect with anyone on my residence floor, but they all seem to get along really well and it's kind of depressing. I keep hearing people saying that it's hard to make friends later on because everyone already has friends. Am I doomed to be a loner forever? It seems like everyone here is the complete opposite of me.


I was in this same boat my freshman year, things eventually change and you will find some friends. One of the easiest ways to meet people and make friends is by inviting a H.S. friend up to visit you...that way you feel comfortable enough to go to parties, do crazy things to get attention, etc. That often worked for me.

[ted is lying]

Hahaha that sucks. If it makes you feel any better NO ONE hear listens to the same music as me.



Love to, but they have REALLY strict drug policies here. I don't want to risk getting kicked out.

Other advice leave your door open and blast music, it will find people with similar music taste. Just make sure to not do it during quite hours.

[Neo Cassady]

Get a job on campus. I met both my best friend and my fiancee by working at the dining hall. Also people with campus jobs tend to be way more down to earth since they're working because mommy and daddy didn't hand them a credit card and say "have fun!"

Other advice leave your door open and blast music, it will find people with similar music taste. Just make sure to not do it during quite hours.

And this. At the very least leave your door open when you're in the room.

[framebyframe]

Other problem: I'm in an all girls res... they all listen to Miley Cyrus and do not share similar interests with me at all.

I am leaving my door open though and do talk to the girls on my floor. They treat me nice, but I don't feel like I could ever connect with any of them. It's weird. I just like more down to earth people I guess.

[MyNameIsRoss]

I felt the exact same way for the first week or so I was at school. Eventually I just got tired of eating alone/spending nights on Xbox Live so I convinced myself to be more social. I was afraid to approach people, start up conversations, etc but I realized 99% of the people there are the same way and would be thrilled if someone came up and started talking to them. If I see a kid eating alone who looks like he has the same interests as me or could be friends with me I just go up and ask to sit down. It's not nearly as awkward as you'd think... at least it wasn't for me. Every time they've said sure and I've made a couple really cool friends by doing so. Once you say 'hi' or ask to sit with someone the awkwardness just kind of vanishes. From then on just text them or facebook IM them to go to the cafe for lunch or to chill or something. They'll be looking for something, anything to do just like you.

I'm still in kind of a weird spot though because I don't smoke weed but most of the guys I've met do. They don't care or think any less of me cause I don't, but I could see how our friendships would diminish over time. They just don't invite me when they're going to go smoke and I feel a bit separated from them in that regard. But I'm not stuck on just these few guys.

Also, make an effort to make a friend in every class. It'll help you out in ways you could never imagine haha.

Edit: Also, enable Library sharing if you have iTunes and put your name or room number as your library's title. I met a good friend just buy browsing through his library, tracking him down, and asking for some MP3's. It's not creepy or stalkerish or anything, they'll probably be stoked that someone took the time to find them because you like the same music they do.

Just smoke, man. It doesn't cause any permanent damage and it's quite the good time.

[pambeesley]

make friends with guys then, girls can suck.
if the girls are going out or partying go with them have a good time, through that you can meet alot of new people too!

[Spenny]

I don't live on campus and I find it kinda hard as well... it's not bad on my part because I have around 15 friends from high school going to the same school, and I have friends in three of my four classes. In the fourth I just started striking up conversations with people sitting around me and met this really awesome third-year and some guy from Cali who is staying in rez. Also, I get along really well with a few people from my orientation group, so that helps as well.

My friends all agree that it's hard to meet new people in university, but it's worth just striking up a conversation with random people. Like my friend said, "After being in high school for so long I forgot how to make friends again." hahah

[Spenny]

Just smoke, man. It doesn't cause any permanent damage and it's quite the good time.
While I'm in the same boat as you, some people just can't do it, whether it be morals, paranoia, etc.

[framebyframe]

Fuck university. Girls and guys only talk to the sluts.
/bitter rant

[Mibabalou]

I'm in the same boat. I know nobody in my residence/school except for one person that I don't even know that well and it is hard. I met a few cool people that I don't know too well but that I can hang with just by going up and starting awakrd converstions, which was nice. But still I don't feel like I'm fitting in too well with most of the people on my floor which sucks. But you will not be a loner forever, its only been a few days, just kind of put yourself out there I guess; people are pretty open to talking if you just introduce yourself. If it doesn't work come to Guelph lol and we will hang out. :gay:

im on a boat


get wasted knock on doors



/ thread

[Mibabalou]

While I'm in the same boat as you, some people just can't do it, whether it be morals, paranoia, etc.

so now were on a boat

[ted is lying]

Fuck university. Girls and guys only talk to the sluts.
/bitter rant
I dont talk to sluts, well they dont talk back because there mouth is always full.

[jmannequin<3]

Other problem: I'm in an all girls res... they all listen to Miley Cyrus and do not share similar interests with me at all.

I am leaving my door open though and do talk to the girls on my floor. They treat me nice, but I don't feel like I could ever connect with any of them. It's weird. I just like more down to earth people I guess.
aha, I'm in the same boat as you 100%! I got stuck in an all girl's res too, and I'm pretty much hating it. The girls on my floor are nice but we just don't connect. I have different interests then them (I rarely drink and party) so it's really hard to make friends. My room mates are total bffs and I'm the awkward third wheel. Seriously though, I wish I was put into a co-ed res because I think it's easier to connect with boys :( We just have to tough it out!

And my friend goes to Laurier! Yay!

[danielineffigy]

Just smoke, man. It doesn't cause any permanent damage and it's quite the good time.

While I'm in the same boat as you, some people just can't do it, whether it be morals, paranoia, etc.
I do not like the idea of not being in complete control on myself.

Also, it seems like a total waste of money. I don't need to be high or drunk to have fun.

[framebyframe]

aha, I'm in the same boat as you 100%! I got stuck in an all girl's res too, and I'm pretty much hating it. The girls on my floor are nice but we just don't connect. I have different interests then them (I rarely drink and party) so it's really hard to make friends. My room mates are total bffs and I'm the awkward third wheel. Seriously though, I wish I was put into a co-ed res because I think it's easier to connect with boys :( We just have to tough it out!

And my friend goes to Laurier! Yay!

You sound exactly like me. Weird. What school do you go to?

Should've went to Laurier lol :)

[HangsLikeHeaven]

framebyframe, find a girl named Ruthie Graham. One of my best friends.

[ted is lying]

aha, I'm in the same boat as you 100%! I got stuck in an all girl's res too, and I'm pretty much hating it. The girls on my floor are nice but we just don't connect. I have different interests then them (I rarely drink and party) so it's really hard to make friends. My room mates are total bffs and I'm the awkward third wheel. Seriously though, I wish I was put into a co-ed res because I think it's easier to connect with boys :( We just have to tough it out!

And my friend goes to Laurier! Yay!

Try doing clubs those are a great way to meet people. I made a few friends playing badminton, and yes it is the most awesome game ever.

[MyNameIsRoss]

I do not like the idea of not being in complete control on myself.

Also, it seems like a total waste of money. I don't need to be high or drunk to have fun.

You are vastly over thinking the activity of getting high.

[jmannequin<3]

You sound exactly like me. Weird. What school do you go to?

Should've went to Laurier lol :)
We should have been room mates. My room mates listen to Lil Wayne and stuff like that, and I always cringe on the inside when they blare it. I go to Queen's ...... yay ...... :(

[jmannequin<3]

And I'm double posting but I'm such a fucking sap. I'm sitting in my room crying, and debating whether or not I should drop out and apply to York for the Winter when I could be out socializing. I know it's the first week and I need to get myself out there but I just .... don't know if I can do it. I feel as though if I do go back home, I'll be failing myself and everyone else around me. Everyone has high expectations for me but I can't do it anymore.

/end rant.

Wow, that was depressing lol

[sodamnclever]

And I'm double posting but I'm such a fucking sap. I'm sitting in my room crying, and debating whether or not I should drop out and apply to York for the Winter when I could be out socializing. I know it's the first week and I need to get myself out there but I just .... don't know if I can do it. I feel as though if I do go back home, I'll be failing myself and everyone else around me. Everyone has high expectations for me but I can't do it anymore.

/end rant.

Wow, that was depressing lol
i haven't been keeping up with the posts in this thread a whole lot, but have you looked into joining organizations?

[framebyframe]

We should have been room mates. My room mates listen to Lil Wayne and stuff like that, and I always cringe on the inside when they blare it. I go to Queen's ...... yay ...... :(

And I'm double posting but I'm such a fucking sap. I'm sitting in my room crying, and debating whether or not I should drop out and apply to York for the Winter when I could be out socializing. I know it's the first week and I need to get myself out there but I just .... don't know if I can do it. I feel as though if I do go back home, I'll be failing myself and everyone else around me. Everyone has high expectations for me but I can't do it anymore.

/end rant.

Wow, that was depressing lol

My good friend goes to Queens! Come to fucking Laurier! No joke. I'm forcing myself to go to a party right now even though I am terrified and hate it, but I am just going to do it. I need to meet people badly and if I don't do this I will stay in my room forever. You sound like my twin haha. Dopplegangerrrrr

[jmannequin<3]

My good friend goes to Queens! Come to fucking Laurier! No joke. I'm forcing myself to go to a party right now even though I am terrified and hate it, but I am just going to do it. I need to meet people badly and if I don't do this I will stay in my room forever. You sound like my twin haha. Dopplegangerrrrr
haha, how was the party? Did you have fun? I stayed in my room last night trying to catch up on some readings, and my fucking room mates came in loud and drunk while I was trying to sleep. ugh. But I'm home now so maybe I can get some inspiration to stay at Queen's.

We would have been awesome room mates/friends. I forgot to mention that my room mates play Taylor Swift 24/7 and it makes my ears bleed.

[framebyframe]

haha, how was the party? Did you have fun? I stayed in my room last night trying to catch up on some readings, and my fucking room mates came in loud and drunk while I was trying to sleep. ugh. But I'm home now so maybe I can get some inspiration to stay at Queen's.

We would have been awesome room mates/friends. I forgot to mention that my room mates play Taylor Swift 24/7 and it makes my ears bleed.

Well, I have social anxiety so I had to get hammered before I went, and I ended up having a pretty good time. It was a really small group of people though so it made me feel better. I'm home now too. I hope that things get better for you there! I hear Taylor Swift all the time too. It's driving me crazy. I think that if I hear another Black Eyed Peas song while I'm sitting in my room I'm going to go crazy.

[ted is lying]

Well, I have social anxiety so I had to get hammered before I went, and I ended up having a pretty good time. It was a really small group of people though so it made me feel better. I'm home now too. I hope that things get better for you there! I hear Taylor Swift all the time too. It's driving me crazy. I think that if I hear another Black Eyed Peas song while I'm sitting in my room I'm going to go crazy.
partying is the best way to meet people. Unfortunately tonight im staying in because I sick and complete lost my voice. People still tell me to go out, but I know ill be dead tomorrow. Also if your a girl just see some guy ask him to play pong with you but he has to drink all. Thats a great way to meet guys(lots do to me) and if they dont want to get drunk. Also guys if someone does this to you it means you arnt getting lucky and they have a boyfriend.

[Skupski]

I leave tomorrow and I'm having so much anxiety about it, been sick, panicking, I just do not want to leave my friends and hometown.

[ted is lying]

I leave tomorrow and I'm having so much anxiety about it, been sick, panicking, I just do not want to leave my friends and hometown.
You sir are a bitch.

[framebyframe]

framebyframe, find a girl named Ruthie Graham. One of my best friends.

I will try. First year?

partying is the best way to meet people. Unfortunately tonight im staying in because I sick and complete lost my voice. People still tell me to go out, but I know ill be dead tomorrow. Also if your a girl just see some guy ask him to play pong with you but he has to drink all. Thats a great way to meet guys(lots do to me) and if they dont want to get drunk. Also guys if someone does this to you it means you arnt getting lucky and they have a boyfriend.

He has to drink all? Do you mean like beer pong where the girl doesn't drink?

I leave tomorrow and I'm having so much anxiety about it, been sick, panicking, I just do not want to leave my friends and hometown.

I know what you mean. I'm home after two weeks of school and am seeing all my friends tonight though. So as long as you make an effort to keep in touch with them it's not too bad.

[ted is lying]

I will try. First year?



He has to drink all? Do you mean like beer pong where the girl doesn't drink?



I know what you mean. I'm home after two weeks of school and am seeing all my friends tonight though. So as long as you make an effort to keep in touch with them it's not too bad.
Yeah Sorry i just kind of assumed beer pong. Girls seem to do that it good to meet people, although terrible because you know they arnt getting with you.

[shimmyshakes]

If all else fails get soem great weed and share.
I second this. Weed brings people together.

[ted is lying]

I second this. Weed brings people together.
One kid gave out like $200 of awesome weed and now every kind of hot girl on the 5th floor loves him, he is the biggest sketch ever.

[HangsLikeHeaven]

I will try. First year?



He has to drink all? Do you mean like beer pong where the girl doesn't drink?



I know what you mean. I'm home after two weeks of school and am seeing all my friends tonight though. So as long as you make an effort to keep in touch with them it's not too bad.

Second.

[Tabz]

And I'm double posting but I'm such a fucking sap. I'm sitting in my room crying, and debating whether or not I should drop out and apply to York for the Winter when I could be out socializing. I know it's the first week and I need to get myself out there but I just .... don't know if I can do it. I feel as though if I do go back home, I'll be failing myself and everyone else around me. Everyone has high expectations for me but I can't do it anymore.

/end rant.

Wow, that was depressing lol

Stick it out at Queen's. York is a lot more homey, take it from me, but we're a commuter school. It's a lot more difficult (imo) to meet people in a sea of 50,000.

[jmannequin<3]

Well, I have social anxiety so I had to get hammered before I went, and I ended up having a pretty good time. It was a really small group of people though so it made me feel better. I'm home now too. I hope that things get better for you there! I hear Taylor Swift all the time too. It's driving me crazy. I think that if I hear another Black Eyed Peas song while I'm sitting in my room I'm going to go crazy.
aw! I'm glad you went out and had fun! I have homecoming (unofficial lol, since it got canceled) next weekend and I'm going to try to go to those parties even if it does mean giving away my shifts for work and having my managers mad at me lol. I'm hoping it'll be worth it! haha, yeah, I hear BEP all the time too. It gets on my nerves sometimes :(

I love being home! I didn't know how much I missed it until I walked off the bus. Sad to be leaving tomorrow though.

Stick it out at Queen's. York is a lot more homey, take it from me, but we're a commuter school. It's a lot more difficult (imo) to meet people in a sea of 50,000.
At first I thought I read it was a lot more money and I was like what...? Yeah, I guess it will be more difficult to make friends in the middle of the year. After talking with my friends tonight, I'm going to put more faith in Queen's and hope that it does get better.

[Tabz]

At first I thought I read it was a lot more money and I was like what...? Yeah, I guess it will be more difficult to make friends in the middle of the year. After talking with my friends tonight, I'm going to put more faith in Queen's and hope that it does get better.

I wouldn't necessarily attest the difficulty to the middle of the year. I started in the winter semester as well. But if you're having trouble meeting people at a school where most live on campus, York would be another story. If you only tried to meet people in dorms and parties, you'd miss out on pretty great people (like yours truly) who live at home.

Bottom line, come out of your shell. Speak up in tutorial. Ask questions to the people around. Hell, even complimenting someone breaks the ice.

[framebyframe]

Yeah Sorry i just kind of assumed beer pong. Girls seem to do that it good to meet people, although terrible because you know they arnt getting with you.

I've never heard of a girl doing that. I don't think I ever would haha.

[ted is lying]

I've never heard of a girl doing that. I don't think I ever would haha.
When I went out the other night with my friend, cause all of her's were staying home. We played pong and cause she only drink 2 beers I basically had to drink them all for 9 games straight till she told me she was to drunk and wanted to go home. Also during the whole time playing I was drinking a on the side beer and i hardcore pregamed. So drunk I made it 5 diffrent beds before i found mine at 2 in the afternoon.

[xxemo_kittyxx]

I'm introverted, I didn't really do well socially in high school but I'm settling into college really well. I already met some great friends since orientation and we're going to be together for 4 years since we're all in this special dual-degree program and I'm really grateful that they turned out to be great. I've grown to be more open in the last 3 weeks, it's kind of hard to believe. I'm really glad it all worked out well though, I'm on an Eid break for 10 days and I can't wait to go back. I guess college might be pretty different in the States/Canada wherever you are but the main principle on walking into a new environment is to act like noone really knows who you are. You could be anyone or anything and noone should know if you had a notorious past or whatever, so be nice, smile alot, try to be more open-minded and you might score yourself a new best friend!

[ted is lying]

I'm introverted, I didn't really do well socially in high school but I'm settling into college really well. I already met some great friends since orientation and we're going to be together for 4 years since we're all in this special dual-degree program and I'm really grateful that they turned out to be great. I've grown to be more open in the last 3 weeks, it's kind of hard to believe. I'm really glad it all worked out well though, I'm on an Eid break for 10 days and I can't wait to go back. I guess college might be pretty different in the States/Canada wherever you are but the main principle on walking into a new environment is to act like noone really knows who you are. You could be anyone or anything and noone should know if you had a notorious past or whatever, so be nice, smile alot, try to be more open-minded and you might score yourself a new best friend!
Exactly I told everyone that I was a secret super hero. Shhhhh I didnt tell you that secret. Fuck.

[jmannequin<3]

So these past days (after my weekend at home) have been sufficiently decent. I made new friends in my tutorial (one girl in my tutorial actually went to my middle school and I recognized her) so it's been good, and I went to a club meeting with a friend and it was really fun. I'm still holding off on taking my room mates offer for lunch/dinner since I'm pretty sure it's a pity invite ....

[DooDooBird]

just go out and get hammered one night. you'll make all kinds of friends. seriously.

[.invisible ink.]

So these past days (after my weekend at home) have been sufficiently decent. I made new friends in my tutorial (one girl in my tutorial actually went to my middle school and I recognized her) so it's been good, and I went to a club meeting with a friend and it was really fun. I'm still holding off on taking my room mates offer for lunch/dinner since I'm pretty sure it's a pity invite ....

you should go to lunch or dinner with your roommates sometime, you might actually have a good time and enjoy their company, even if it is a pity invite. everyone has to start somewhere. sure it might be uncomfortable, but it's one meal, not the end of the world, ya know?

[framebyframe]

I realized that I really hate most of my roommates. They're all extremely superficial and slutty. I guess to them I would be boring and a prude, but I do like to have fun I just find it disgusting that most of them have slept with 3 + different guys in the last week. Maybe I'm just old fashioned that way. I just have a very different personality then all of them and they aren't really willing to try to get to know me because I'm not obnoxiously loud. I still go out with them though and try to meet different people, but the only people I've made friends with is a couple guys because all the girls are the same. It's annoying.

[atticus18244fss]

I realized that I really hate most of my roommates. They're all extremely superficial and slutty. I guess to them I would be boring and a prude, but I do like to have fun I just find it disgusting that most of them have slept with 3 + different guys in the last week. Maybe I'm just old fashioned that way. I just have a very different personality then all of them and they aren't really willing to try to get to know me because I'm not obnoxiously loud. I still go out with them though and try to meet different people, but the only people I've made friends with is a couple guys because all the girls are the same. It's annoying.
After seeing you went to Laurier I searched it up and found this thread. So I'm totally not creeping but... Here's my rant;

Our school is filled to the brink with superficial people and slutty chicks(way to many slutty chicks). I only realized this after about a month of school. I really don't hang with anyone. I pretty much just chill in my room and work all the time. People don't really seem to have the same interests as me. Most guys like sports and other manly shit. Basically I like music and technology... I had a group of 4 close friends in elementary school and high school. And all I did was hang with them outside of school. Now I get here and they aren't here and I really just stay to myself. Even in high school I worked ALL THE TIME and they knew that so we just hung out all weekend and summer. I came out with a 90 average and that's how I got here in the sweetest res. So ya. This is my rant about me and Uni...

[tonyC4L]

From what I've read it seems that being friends with girls on your floor is pretty much hopeless... you keep saying they're all lame and slutty and party too much so honestly I would just not even try. You should really try making a friend or two in each class, especially major classes. Chances are you'll be seeing those people a lot over the next few years, so it helps to have already built a relationship with them.

And really, don't get too discouraged about not making friends right away. Looking back, I'm really not friends with anyone I talked to or hung out with my freshman year. It was just people who would invite me to eat with them or watch a movie or something but didn't really consider me someone they wanted to hang out with a lot, and I didn't really feel like I fit in with them either. The people I'm friends with now (in my 4th year) I didn't meet until my 2nd year. I know it's frustrating and lonely for you now but things will get better, it just may take some time.

[LastDeclaration]

Just moved in to residence today and it's orientation week. I'm an introvert and I don't really connect with anyone on my residence floor, but they all seem to get along really well and it's kind of depressing. I keep hearing people saying that it's hard to make friends later on because everyone already has friends. Am I doomed to be a loner forever? It seems like everyone here is the complete opposite of me.

I feel the exact same way. I mean, I'm friends with most everyone on my floor, so I'm not a loner by any means, but I secretly despise all of them for being so fucking retarded. All they care about is beer pong and football, both of which are awesome, but they literally have no unique interests to speak of. Just drinking. I haven't met a single person with AP-approved (APproved?) music tastes. It's frustrating.

[rosielikesyou]

I feel the exact same way. I mean, I'm friends with most everyone on my floor, so I'm not a loner by any means, but I secretly despise all of them for being so fucking retarded. All they care about is beer pong and football, both of which are awesome, but they literally have no unique interests to speak of. Just drinking. I haven't met a single person with AP-approved (APproved?) music tastes. It's frustrating.

I'm a freshman finishing up my first semester, and I've met very few people with AP-esque musical taste as well. It is frustrating, considering how significant of a role music plays in my life. Can't wait for Winter break, I've been itching to jam with people to some new albums that have come out in the past couple of months.

[MADSTA]

I'm failing so hard at making friends thusfar.

[saysmydoctor]

Hahaha that sucks. If it makes you feel any better NO ONE hear listens to the same music as me.



Love to, but they have REALLY strict drug policies here. I don't want to risk getting kicked out.
Yeah, you should probably risked getting kicked. College is half-academic, half-social. You need a balance of the two, or things will go south.

[danielineffigy]

I'm failing so hard at making friends thusfar.
Me too. :-( This campus is brotastic, I'm gonna transfer to UNT next Fall. Awesome music/college town.

[framebyframe]

Yeah, you should probably risked getting kicked. College is half-academic, half-social. You need a balance of the two, or things will go south.

Yep so true. We found a spot to do it outside; I'd be too paranoid to do it in my dorm.

[saysmydoctor]

Yep so true. We found a spot to do it outside; I'd be too paranoid to do it in my dorm.
A towel, a box fan for your window, and a turnstile fan in front of your door = problem solved.

[Foosimoo]

I hang out with a couple of my friends from high school, but I really haven't made any good friends. I talk to people in all of my classes, but nothing beyond that. I have pretty bad social anxiety though, so I suck at making friends.