Anybody in love with their best friend?

[Joss_Begay]

Best freind for the past 5 yrs, In love with him. But gots a girlfriend. Dammit.

[ted is lying]

Well see. Just wait for him to breakup, don't do anything to sabotage them cause if something fails then you could lose your best friend all together. Not much advice that can be given here beside wait it out and remain a supportive friend threw the whole thing. And if they break up Don't talk bad about the girl because if they get together then you will seem like a bitch. Sorry.

[Joss_Begay]

thanxs. i'll behave.:-(

[anthonydarko]

Well see. Just wait for him to breakup, don't do anything to sabotage them cause if something fails then you could lose your best friend all together. Not much advice that can be given here beside wait it out and remain a supportive friend threw the whole thing. And if they break up Don't talk bad about the girl because if they get together then you will seem like a bitch. Sorry.
/thread

[llwilliamsll]

Just suck his dick or something

[Poe-tryGirl]

Lots of girls fall for their best friends, but we have to let that go.

[maxvsmaradona]

Friend zone thread.

[DruC4]

granted, i believe the "friend zone" thing is completely different from girls to guys.
but i've played the "supportive" friend role for a good 10yrs now, and waiting it out doesn't always work for the better. sometimes you just get to watch them go from person to person getting their heart broken, and you never get much of a chance, because they don't think of you that way.
also, i'm sure it doesn't help that i'm a big pansy and have no balls when it comes to making moves. . .
*sigh*
damn.

[bladerdude360]

Friend zone thread.
Agreed. That one was so much more interesting haha.

[ted is lying]

Lots of girls fall for their best friends, but we have to let that go.
Girls shouldn't get such attractive friends like me. One of my friend has crush on me but she has a boyfriend, so i was like maybe when you break up or something.

[Poe-tryGirl]

Girls shouldn't get such attractive friends like me. One of my friend has crush on me but she has a boyfriend, so i was like maybe when you break up or something.
Haha, right. She should if you really are that cute.

[Reaver]

wait for a fight in their relationship. invite him to your home. be naked. have food prepared.

[jay_klinkhammer]

Yes. But I've fooled around with her before...and her bf still stayed around.


What I've had to learn is..........Patience.

[ted is lying]

Haha, right. She should if you really are that cute.
I'm good looking not omg I have to have this guy.

wait for a fight in their relationship. invite him to your home. be naked. have food prepared.
This. Try Waffles, Bacon, Hamburgers, ect.

[Reaver]

This. Try Waffles, Bacon, Hamburgers, ect.

you're german?

[adumb]

Joey Loved Dawson!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[pr0digy]

probably the only thing you can do is wait...i'm doing the same damn thing, only not only is she my best friend, but an ex as well....talk about something that is hard as fuck to deal with.

[ted is lying]

you're german?
No but if i was going to hook up with someone and she offered to make me food that is what I'd ask for.

[sticky1013]

ive wanted to date one of my best friends for 2 years. i watched her go out with a bunch of assholes that werent right and she wasnt even able to act like herself around. i two went through a bunch of bullshit relationships and got hurt alot as well. we started dating 3 weeks ago. just hold on Joss

[bladerdude360]

Joey Loved Dawson!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lol

[zachff]

Rocky loves Emily!

[ted is lying]

ive wanted to date one of my best friends for 2 years. i watched her go out with a bunch of assholes that werent right and she wasnt even able to act like herself around. i two went through a bunch of bullshit relationships and got hurt alot as well. we started dating 3 weeks ago. just hold on Joss
I feel like best friends should never date. What if you break up then you lost one of the most important people. Adding sex just complicates so much. This has to be important because I dont say shit like this.

[SincerelyMe]

I feel like best friends should never date. What if you break up then you lost one of the most important people. Adding sex just complicates so much. This has to be important because I dont say shit like this.

Not necessarily. I dated my best friend a couple times over the past two years, and we're still best friends. It was a bit different, because we don't see each other very often, but just because friends date doesn't mean they can't be friends after they break up.

[ted is lying]

Not necessarily. I dated my best friend a couple times over the past two years, and we're still best friends. It was a bit different, because we don't see each other very often, but just because friends date doesn't mean they can't be friends after they break up.
More times then not they end up not being friends. Then everyone is left lonely.

[deathinkosovo]

I wouldn't say I'm in "love" with her, but I definitely feel more for her than I do for a lot of my guy friends. I can freely and openly admit to her attractiveness, and how attracted I am to her and I think she understands. I told her up front that I liked her and had a crush on her a few months back. It made things awkward for about a week until we decided our friendship was more important than those feelings. She, obviously, has a boyfriend -- one whom I, at times, don't always agree with -- but I wouldn't ever tell her to break it off with him. She's even asked me if she should, and I said no. I'm in no position to get between anybody.

Do I still like her? That depends. We've discussed this, me and her, and we came to the conclusion that those feelings of love or lust or attraction don't go away overnight. So, yeah, I do sort of still like her, but it's more a formality than anything at this point. That which I see in her is what I hope to see in a girlfriend someday, so naturally I'm still going to be attracted. The fact that she is a good communicator (both good with listening and keeping a conversation going), very friendly, shares a lot of my interests and is there for me when I need her most goes a long way in what I feel for her. At the same time, though, it's not like I'm avoiding finding other people, and that is what is keeping us together as friends. A lot of guys have liked her in the past but told her to fuck off after they found out she had a boyfriend. I saw her as a girl with a boyfriend, but someone who also listens to my kind of music and can sit down and have a conversation with me until 8am. It'd be easier if she was ugly, true, but if she was I doubt I'd even have introduced myself or sat by her in the first place (we met in class).

My advice is to not make that person your all. If they're unavailable, they're unavailable. This girl I'm friends with, we're becoming as close as a brother and sister. That's not what I wanted initially, but I'm warming to it more everyday. Some of the stuff she tells me, she tells nobody else, and she really confides in me, as I do her. It's a unique, special relationship we have, one that I can actually see growing over time. Of course, we fight like a brother and sister, too, but that's to be expected. It happens.

So, go for someone else if you can. Maybe you have too much in common with this person for it to work. My friend doesn't have much in common with her boyfriend, which, yeah, is kind of annoying, but I accept it. He doesn't accept it so much, but still. But also, don't go for someone who is so starkly different from yourself because you think that's what works. It doesn't. Do what feels natural. I can't help what I feel for this girl. You can't help what you feel for that boy. It's natural. It's human. Don't force anything with anybody and you'll be all right.

[Sventhegreat]

I wouldn't say I'm in "love" with her, but I definitely feel more for her than I do for a lot of my guy friends. I can freely and openly admit to her attractiveness, and how attracted I am to her and I think she understands. I told her up front that I liked her and had a crush on her a few months back. It made things awkward for about a week until we decided our friendship was more important than those feelings. She, obviously, has a boyfriend -- one whom I, at times, don't always agree with -- but I wouldn't ever tell her to break it off with him. She's even asked me if she should, and I said no. I'm in no position to get between anybody.

Do I still like her? That depends. We've discussed this, me and her, and we came to the conclusion that those feelings of love or lust or attraction don't go away overnight. So, yeah, I do sort of still like her, but it's more a formality than anything at this point. That which I see in her is what I hope to see in a girlfriend someday, so naturally I'm still going to be attracted. The fact that she is a good communicator (both good with listening and keeping a conversation going), very friendly, shares a lot of my interests and is there for me when I need her most goes a long way in what I feel for her. At the same time, though, it's not like I'm avoiding finding other people, and that is what is keeping us together as friends. A lot of guys have liked her in the past but told her to fuck off after they found out she had a boyfriend. I saw her as a girl with a boyfriend, but someone who also listens to my kind of music and can sit down and have a conversation with me until 8am. It'd be easier if she was ugly, true, but if she was I doubt I'd even have introduced myself or sat by her in the first place (we met in class).

My advice is to not make that person your all. If they're unavailable, they're unavailable. This girl I'm friends with, we're becoming as close as a brother and sister. That's not what I wanted initially, but I'm warming to it more everyday. Some of the stuff she tells me, she tells nobody else, and she really confides in me, as I do her. It's a unique, special relationship we have, one that I can actually see growing over time. Of course, we fight like a brother and sister, too, but that's to be expected. It happens.

So, go for someone else if you can. Maybe you have too much in common with this person for it to work. My friend doesn't have much in common with her boyfriend, which, yeah, is kind of annoying, but I accept it. He doesn't accept it so much, but still. But also, don't go for someone who is so starkly different from yourself because you think that's what works. It doesn't. Do what feels natural. I can't help what I feel for this girl. You can't help what you feel for that boy. It's natural. It's human. Don't force anything with anybody and you'll be all right.


Christ. You poured your heart out there.

If only it was shorter I would read it...haha

[Chromefox]

If the friendship is that strong in the first place, it should survive a breakup.

[thefaceless]

Friend zone thread.

story of my life.

[tommyishere]

i wish i could hang out with alotta you guys

[maxvsmaradona]

I wouldn't say I'm in "love" with her, but I definitely feel more for her than I do for a lot of my guy friends. I can freely and openly admit to her attractiveness, and how attracted I am to her and I think she understands. I told her up front that I liked her and had a crush on her a few months back. It made things awkward for about a week until we decided our friendship was more important than those feelings. She, obviously, has a boyfriend -- one whom I, at times, don't always agree with -- but I wouldn't ever tell her to break it off with him. She's even asked me if she should, and I said no. I'm in no position to get between anybody.

Do I still like her? That depends. We've discussed this, me and her, and we came to the conclusion that those feelings of love or lust or attraction don't go away overnight. So, yeah, I do sort of still like her, but it's more a formality than anything at this point. That which I see in her is what I hope to see in a girlfriend someday, so naturally I'm still going to be attracted. The fact that she is a good communicator (both good with listening and keeping a conversation going), very friendly, shares a lot of my interests and is there for me when I need her most goes a long way in what I feel for her. At the same time, though, it's not like I'm avoiding finding other people, and that is what is keeping us together as friends. A lot of guys have liked her in the past but told her to fuck off after they found out she had a boyfriend. I saw her as a girl with a boyfriend, but someone who also listens to my kind of music and can sit down and have a conversation with me until 8am. It'd be easier if she was ugly, true, but if she was I doubt I'd even have introduced myself or sat by her in the first place (we met in class).

My advice is to not make that person your all. If they're unavailable, they're unavailable. This girl I'm friends with, we're becoming as close as a brother and sister. That's not what I wanted initially, but I'm warming to it more everyday. Some of the stuff she tells me, she tells nobody else, and she really confides in me, as I do her. It's a unique, special relationship we have, one that I can actually see growing over time. Of course, we fight like a brother and sister, too, but that's to be expected. It happens.

So, go for someone else if you can. Maybe you have too much in common with this person for it to work. My friend doesn't have much in common with her boyfriend, which, yeah, is kind of annoying, but I accept it. He doesn't accept it so much, but still. But also, don't go for someone who is so starkly different from yourself because you think that's what works. It doesn't. Do what feels natural. I can't help what I feel for this girl. You can't help what you feel for that boy. It's natural. It's human. Don't force anything with anybody and you'll be all right.


tl;dr

[Brand-new-123]

I wouldn't say I'm in "love" with her, but I definitely feel more for her than I do for a lot of my guy friends. I can freely and openly admit to her attractiveness, and how attracted I am to her and I think she understands. I told her up front that I liked her and had a crush on her a few months back. It made things awkward for about a week until we decided our friendship was more important than those feelings. She, obviously, has a boyfriend -- one whom I, at times, don't always agree with -- but I wouldn't ever tell her to break it off with him. She's even asked me if she should, and I said no. I'm in no position to get between anybody.

Do I still like her? That depends. We've discussed this, me and her, and we came to the conclusion that those feelings of love or lust or attraction don't go away overnight. So, yeah, I do sort of still like her, but it's more a formality than anything at this point. That which I see in her is what I hope to see in a girlfriend someday, so naturally I'm still going to be attracted. The fact that she is a good communicator (both good with listening and keeping a conversation going), very friendly, shares a lot of my interests and is there for me when I need her most goes a long way in what I feel for her. At the same time, though, it's not like I'm avoiding finding other people, and that is what is keeping us together as friends. A lot of guys have liked her in the past but told her to fuck off after they found out she had a boyfriend. I saw her as a girl with a boyfriend, but someone who also listens to my kind of music and can sit down and have a conversation with me until 8am. It'd be easier if she was ugly, true, but if she was I doubt I'd even have introduced myself or sat by her in the first place (we met in class).

My advice is to not make that person your all. If they're unavailable, they're unavailable. This girl I'm friends with, we're becoming as close as a brother and sister. That's not what I wanted initially, but I'm warming to it more everyday. Some of the stuff she tells me, she tells nobody else, and she really confides in me, as I do her. It's a unique, special relationship we have, one that I can actually see growing over time. Of course, we fight like a brother and sister, too, but that's to be expected. It happens.

So, go for someone else if you can. Maybe you have too much in common with this person for it to work. My friend doesn't have much in common with her boyfriend, which, yeah, is kind of annoying, but I accept it. He doesn't accept it so much, but still. But also, don't go for someone who is so starkly different from yourself because you think that's what works. It doesn't. Do what feels natural. I can't help what I feel for this girl. You can't help what you feel for that boy. It's natural. It's human. Don't force anything with anybody and you'll be all right.
:yuk::puke:

[Chromefox]

I can't imagine why people wouldn't be attracted to their best friend of the opposite gender. Granted everyone will tell me appearance is a factor, but it's not to me.

[sticky1013]

I feel like best friends should never date. What if you break up then you lost one of the most important people. Adding sex just complicates so much. This has to be important because I dont say shit like this.

dude there are 4 friends in my group. me my girlfriend another guy and another girl. me and the other guy both slept with the other girl about a year ago and we are all still best friends. yes being with a friend can be bad but i really think that if a friendship is strong enough u can get over anything.

[Kassie09]

That'd suck.
But for some reason I think it'd be so awesome to be best friends with a guy for years and years with no one saying anything about liking each other but secretly liking each other. then just having sex one night. Must be like the most awesome/exciting feeling ever.

[muzicislife31]

If it helps my boyfriend and I were good friends for 2 and a half years and dated each others good friends before we ended up together. I guess sometimes the timing just has to be right.

[deathinkosovo]

Hilarious that people can't read like, 400 words. God help the lot of you when you're assigned a 400-page book to read by the end of the week.

[AndrewIcex]

I suggest Friend Zone threads... they provide suggestions to things just like this.

But if you do not want to go there... well then, I would suggest just moving on with your life the best you can.

If it happens, it was meant to happen, if not... well then, it was not meant to happen... pretty generic and cliche sounding? Well, its true.

[Dubui_209]

Hilarious that people can't read like, 400 words. God help the lot of you when you're assigned a 400-page book to read by the end of the week.
I just don't feel like reading

[Auals]

I dated my best friend in highschool. Oh highschool... how I miss thee. However now, bother her and I have other people in our lives and are great friends again (took two years after highschool finished but we got there)

[tawtaw]

OP, if you're hot, it will happen.

[introduction]

i'm in love with someone i WISH was my best friend ;-)

[deathinkosovo]

I just don't feel like reading

That's pretty much how the rest of the world feels, which is why journalism is in such sharp decline. Thanks, yo; I'm out of a job.

[timb89]

Best freind for the past 5 yrs, In love with him. But gots a girlfriend. Dammit.

deal with it.

[Auals]

deal with it.

*high five* god I love Australian humour.

[timb89]

*high five* god I love Australian humour.

woo Australia!

[the1]

Christ, you people are pansies..
PATIENCE?? Since when the fuck did patience ever get anyone anywhere??

There are billions of humans in the world. If you are placing one on a pedestal and waiting for them to let you join them, you are soooooo wrong.

I honestly can't believe I'm seeing 23yr olds posting the kind of shit that a 13yr old girl should be driveling. How about being men and actually taking action??

Go read The Book Of Pook. You will learn lots- promise. And trust me when I say I've been there done that- backpeddling isn't good for you.

[the1]

Hilarious that people can't read like, 400 words. God help the lot of you when you're assigned a 400-page book to read by the end of the week.

Basically you said "I have no conviction" in one big ass paragraph. Maybe if you spent more time moving on than typing you'd get somewhere that wasn't pouring your heart out to strangers like some wounded animal?

[Auals]

Basically you said "I have no conviction" in one big ass paragraph. Maybe if you spent more time moving on than typing you'd get somewhere that wasn't pouring your heart out to strangers like some wounded animal?

Dude, you have a serious case of projectionism going on. I know you hate yourself for acting like these exact same pansies when you felt like them, but just because you've moved on and they haven't quite got there yet, doesn't mean you need to crucify them with your self-aggrandized sense of knowledge. Step back, let them mope. They'll learn soon enough.

And yes, I have been there. That relationship I mentioned in my last post was three years of passive-aggressive destruction that we put each other through. I know how it feels.

[the1]

Dude, you have a serious case of projectionism going on. I know you hate yourself for acting like these exact same pansies when you felt like them, but just because you've moved on and they haven't quite got there yet, doesn't mean you need to crucify them with your self-aggrandized sense of knowledge. Step back, let them mope. They'll learn soon enough.

And yes, I have been there. That relationship I mentioned in my last post was three years of passive-aggressive destruction that we put each other through. I know how it feels.

My bad, I'd just woken up- I'm not a morning person haha.

But yeah- I guess I'm not very subtle, but I am trying to help...it sucks being in that position so much- and I know that it wasnt until I saw myself in that true light that I kicked myself up the ass. So I'm not trying to be mean, it's just that I know I could have changed earlier if someone had been a harsh critic.

But look on the bright side: the more these guys do "mope", the more conviction they'll have when they finally realise that they've been wasting time. I guess as long as they learn from it, maybe it isn't wasted after all.

[ted is lying]

OP, if you're hot, it will happen.
sadly this is pretty true.

[pound121]

ok well i hate to be the buzz kill but 9 times out of 10 it isn't going to work. just be his best friend and if anything will happen then it will if you try and push it everything will get awkward.

[pambeesley]

my best friend liked me, hes hot and i thought that there could be something more too
we tried it, it lasted 2 months with struggle... it just doesnt work very well, thank god were still best friends and we basically finished the relationship and started right back to being best friends...i think this only worked like this because we were both so used to seeing eachother dating other people before that now its not awkward or anything and were both pretty relaxed people who dont take life seriously enough

[Mibabalou]

wait for a fight in their relationship. invite him to your home. be naked. have food prepared.

classy

[deathinkosovo]

Basically you said "I have no conviction" in one big ass paragraph. Maybe if you spent more time moving on than typing you'd get somewhere that wasn't pouring your heart out to strangers like some wounded animal?

I type for a living, so it's no sweat off my brow, chap. If anything, it's practice. Plus, I was answering the topic at hand. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I thought that was the very concept of a message board: to read and respond. I read. I responded. Simple as that.

[Dubui_209]

That's pretty much how the rest of the world feels, which is why journalism is in such sharp decline. Thanks, yo; I'm out of a job.
Actually as far as journalism goes, if it is about something good, no matter how long it is, I'll read. It's just that this? It's a pl thread and not important.

[cuzimlefthanded]

wait for a fight in their relationship. invite him to your home. be naked. have food prepared.

Exactly. So he won't have to say "bitch make me a sandwich" afterwards.

Totally joking.

[crushlustcrash]

Exactly. So he won't have to say "bitch make me a sandwich" afterwards.

Totally joking.

I lol-ed : p

[liarsturnmeon]

My best friend of nearly three years told me he's been in love with me for about two and a half of those years.

What do you say to that?

[mattmatumbo]

My best friend of nearly three years told me he's been in love with me for about two and a half of those years.

What do you say to that?

Just don't laugh at him haha

[Auals]

My bad, I'd just woken up- I'm not a morning person haha.

But yeah- I guess I'm not very subtle, but I am trying to help...it sucks being in that position so much- and I know that it wasnt until I saw myself in that true light that I kicked myself up the ass. So I'm not trying to be mean, it's just that I know I could have changed earlier if someone had been a harsh critic.

But look on the bright side: the more these guys do "mope", the more conviction they'll have when they finally realise that they've been wasting time. I guess as long as they learn from it, maybe it isn't wasted after all.

Oh definitely. As a songwriter, for me those types of moments are awesome. Great things to pull from, and most of the people I know turned it into a positive thing. A learning experience.

And sorry if I was harsh back :p a guy I went to school with used his horse to create a holier than thou persona, well done on realising you were out of line. And secondly, I know where you're coming from. But if someone had've been that harsh to me when I was in that mode, I would've sunk deeper. I personally had the case where one day I just woke up and realised I hadn't thought about her as much for the past few weeks and that things were starting to get better. Not to be too melodramatic but I have severe anxiety (which was undiagnosed at the time) so for me that was a big step.

Anyway, all good :)

[SanePsychotic]

I used to have a thing for my very good (not quite best) friend when I was a freshman. Someone told her and then she said, "Ew. ***!" I don't talk to her much nowadays.

[cohenisababe]

haaa yeah. i had a thread about this not tooo long ago. havent acted on it..dont know that im going to...im pretty content with how things are.

[fenderrock89]

I am right now :]. Best Friends for about 3 1/2 years. Though we went through a lot to get to this point.

[TheHoldSteady]

Sucks pretty horribly doesn't it?
I'm in love with my best friend, who has been my best friend for 4 years now. I liked her for a while now, and she pretended not to notice. But then one day she just completely stopped talking to me. I haven't talked to her in 2 months now. The reason she stopped talking to me was because I liked her. I thought we could at least stay friends but she didn't even want to do that.
It's a horrible, horrible feeling.

[symbiote28]

i think i am but i know i'd better off with her as a good/best friend .. i don't wanna lose the friendship bond we have currently which i think is so much better compared to if we're anything else but friends.

[Asterisk]

I type for a living, so it's no sweat off my brow, chap. If anything, it's practice. Plus, I was answering the topic at hand. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I thought that was the very concept of a message board: to read and respond. I read. I responded. Simple as that.
For what it's worth, I liked your post.

About the topic at hand, I dated my best friend. We were together for like 3 months and then he dumped me for whatever reasons. I never fully understood them. That was 6 months ago. We never really stopped talking, however I was close to fully hating him for his arrogance and stupid behaviour. I seriously have NO idea what he was thinking at the time. The things he said, seriously. Talking to him hurt more than not talking to him, so I started to avoid him. Then he got a new girlfriend (which lasted for about a month btw, haha), and we didn't talk at all for over a month. It's gotten better now though. We kind of talk like we used to. Seems like he's gotten over his pubescent attitude which both hurt and annoyed me. I think I never stopped loving him though. I mean, I'm not 'in love' with him anymore, but I still care a lot, more than I should probably. At the same time I don't let myself be bothered by the stuff he says/does/doesn't do.

So I guess my point is, it's never good to be in love with your best friend. If it doesn't work out then there's too much fuss, plus you'll also lose a friend, at least for a little while (the friendship will probably never be quite the same anyway), but then again, you could be perfect for each other, so it might be worth the risk.