Age Gaps?

[Akissforher]

Ok here's the situation, im 19 nearly 20,
theres a girl i work with about 15-6 (she told me 16)
i think i have a thing for her, is this age gap too big or too 'immoral' at this young stage in our lives?
thoughts?

[Jaimehere]

nah, your age gap fails in comparison to others who have greater age gaps, so i say go on with what you're planning!

[Akissforher]

nah, your age gap fails in comparison to others who have greater age gaps, so i say go on with what you're planning!


thanks for the support man!

[Shoes]

Make sure she's 16 first! Then, yeah go for it :)

[jeremypeele]

I say it's fine as long as the 16 is the age of consent in your state haha

[Kozzy333]

Not another one of these threads. Are you turning 20 this year? Thats important to know.

[KidRobot]

1/2 your age + 7 is the rule.

No more than that and you're okay.

[Akissforher]

Not another one of these threads. Are you turning 20 this year? Thats important to know.

sorry its my first thread ive started.
im turning 20 in just over 3 weeks now.

[Akissforher]

1/2 your age + 7 is the rule.

No more than that and you're okay.


so let me get this right, as long as she's 17 (1/2 my age + 7) and any younger is not good?

[KidRobot]

so let me get this right, as long as she's 17 (1/2 my age + 7) and any younger is not good?

Well since you're still 19, 16.5 would be the age.

[Akissforher]

Well since you're still 19, 16.5 would be the age.

ahh ok i get it now, though im 20 in like 3 weeks so it will go upto 17 lol.
how long has this rule been apparant?

[KidRobot]

ahh ok i get it now, though im 20 in like 3 weeks so it will go upto 17 lol.
how long has this rule been apparant?

I've always kinda followed it. 20/15 is a definite no. 20/16 is kinda ehhhhh.

[Helpless]

Don't worry about it. Just have fun.

[And Hours Pass]

Ok here's the situation, im 19 nearly 20,
theres a girl i work with about 15-6 (she told me 16)
i think i have a thing for her, is this age gap too big or too 'immoral' at this young stage in our lives?
thoughts?
I hate to say it, but I gotta say it's a no go on this one. Maturity levels at 15 and 20 are vastly different. It's a hefty age gap. I'm sure you're a good guy, but I gotta go nay.

[Michifoxx]

Ehh girls mature faster than boys sooo...
BTW I think 20 wouls be to old for me!

[Paulb-182]

I really do not think 20 and 16 is too big an age gap.. I've not been with a girl who's 16 since I was 18, but I still wouldn't rule it out if I met a girl who was up to my immense standards

If she's mature enough I don't get the issue.

[Zach-Attack]

I don't see why it wouldn't be a problem

[maxvsmaradona]

Ok here's the situation, im 19 nearly 20,
theres a girl i work with about 15-6 (she told me 16)
i think i have a thing for her, is this age gap too big or too 'immoral' at this young stage in our lives?
thoughts?

I was in your exact situation earlier this month, and most of the summer. I say bail. Nothing good will come from it, plus, 15-16 year old girls are extremely immature and will flake out on you.

[zachff]

Do not do it man. Think about it. You're most likely a sophomore in college. This girl is a freshman or sophomore in HIGH SCHOOL. Pass, do not collect go. Statutory rape man, no thanx.

[zachff]

I've always kinda followed it. 20/15 is a definite no. 20/16 is kinda ehhhhh.

I hate to say it, but I gotta say it's a no go on this one. Maturity levels at 15 and 20 are vastly different. It's a hefty age gap. I'm sure you're a good guy, but I gotta go nay.

Listen to these guys.

[Clintoto]

Ehh girls mature faster than boys sooo...
BTW I think 20 wouls be to old for me!

Incredibly false.

[jon.]

Question:

Do you live in like a small country town or anywhere with a small population? If yes, laws from the real world don't apply to you which means you should fuck the shit out of her (literally and metaphorically).

[songydarko]

If she's mature enough and you're truly interested in her, go for it. People make too big of a deal about age. It's all about if you and the person you're with are compatible. If you're happy, then you're happy. In the long run that age difference won't really matter.

[jon.]

Ehh girls mature faster than boys sooo...
BTW I think 20 wouls be to old for me!
Haha you don't know too many girls older than you, eh?

[limepomegranate]

Haha you don't know too many girls older than you, eh?
Ok I admit girls can be immature shallow bitches. I like to think i'm not like that though.

[TSLataris]

If it feels right, go for it. My friend is 22, she's engaged to a 34-year-old and they met when she was 17.

Just sayin' - it could work out.

[limepomegranate]

go get it tiger!

[bNz719]

It's all about maturity.

[jon.]

Ok I admit girls can be immature shallow bitches. I like to think i'm not like that though.
Not implying anything here, but do you think the average person (not limited to females here) is actually self-aware enough to realize they can be "immature shallow bitches"?

[limepomegranate]

Not implying anything here, but do you think the average person (not limited to females here) is actually self-aware enough to realize they can be "immature shallow bitches"?
No probably because if they're immature they're not going to realize it.
I should have said "I can be at times but I like to think, and I hope, i'm not all the time."

[xsinkshipsx]

bitches aint shit but ho's and tricks

[Yellowcard2006]

Dude...no. That's too big of a gap. You must respect 1/2 your age +7. It keeps our society in check

Oh nevermind do whatever you want, just don't go to jail

[bladerdude360]

When I was 16 I had a thing with my cousin's roommate who was 19 going on 20. I think it would be weirder if the guy is older, but that's just me. I also have a little history with fairly older ladies haha. Anyway, as a general rule I would say no, but it depends on your situation. If you actually think she's mature enough to handle this (and no, not just physically mature), then it's up to you, but if you're just looking for an easy hookup, I think you'll regret it.

Also, haven't there been like 5 threads about this already?

[zion the lion]

Someone should probably through out the fact that her parents/whoever should be okay with this before anything happens. I know two really great guys who dated girls who were 16 when they were 19 and both are now registered sex offenders for dating those girls. Ironically enough, both have been married to those girls for more than 20 years, but thats not the point.

My brother is secretly engaged to a 18 or 19 year old (I didnt really want details) and he's 15, and when he was 13ish he was dating a 26 year old...so age gaps arent that big of a deal to me anymore.

Do not do it man. Think about it. You're most likely a sophomore in college. This girl is a freshman or sophomore in HIGH SCHOOL. Pass, do not collect go. Statutory rape man, no thanx.

When I was 16, I was technically a junior. I'm pretty sure most juniors are 16.

[jco3]

your brother sounds pretty messed up

[zion the lion]

your brother sounds pretty messed up

Mine? Ehh, he just wants companionship I guess.

[TheByrus]

I dated a girl who was 18 when I first turned 24 back in April.

When I was 18, she was 12.

[SincerelyMe]

If it's legal and consensual, I think it's okay. Just make sure she won't turn on you if things go south.

[etheritcher]

ehhh...I think right now that's a bit creepy but in a couple years it will be normal...

[denissuxx]

I'd avoid it. That's just me though

[mmmmmpoetry]

Too old man.

[TEAMRAMROD]

What could you possibly have in common with a 16 year old?

[uglystar03]

What is your location? If sixteen is the age of consent, technically you'd be okay. Although, If I were you I'd probably think twice. She is still a minor, which means lots of confines are put on the relationship. Wouldn't you rather date someone who is experiencing the same things in life as you? Unless your goal is to feel younger and still feel connected to high school, I wouldn't do it. High school girls are too much drama.

[Sventhegreat]

What could you possibly have in common with a 16 year old?

She has a vagina that he can put his penis into. 'Bout it.

[zion the lion]

What could you possibly have in common with a 16 year old?

both born in the 90s?

[HangsLikeHeaven]

If you're turning 20 this year, you're not born in the 90's.

[TEAMRAMROD]

And who cares if you're born in the 90's? At 16 years old, you're in a completely different stage of life than a 20 year old. Again, I ask: what could you possibly have in common?

[idonotnosry]

I'd avoid it. That's just me though

yeeeaahh...I wouldn't, is she a sophomore? If so..a definite no.

[HangsLikeHeaven]

And who cares if you're born in the 90's? At 16 years old, you're in a completely different stage of life than a 20 year old. Again, I ask: what could you possibly have in common?

You know where its at. I thought I had a thing with a 16 year old and man did she talk my ear off. Am not a fan regardless of how hot (creepy, sup) she is.

[KidRobot]

When I was 16 I had a thing with my cousin's roommate who was 19 going on 20. I think it would be weirder if the guy is older, but that's just me. I also have a little history with fairly older ladies haha. Anyway, as a general rule I would say no, but it depends on your situation. If you actually think she's mature enough to handle this (and no, not just physically mature), then it's up to you, but if you're just looking for an easy hookup, I think you'll regret it.

Also, haven't there been like 5 threads about this already?

Quite the opposite in my opinion. The girl being older (not a cougar) is odd.

Incredibly false.

Physically it's fact. And when you do physically, mentally comes next so....

[Sic Transit Zeb]

God I'm old.

[Sic Transit Zeb]

Quite the opposite in my opinion. The girl being older (not a cougar) is odd.



Physically it's fact. And when you do physically, mentally comes next so....

They do mature quicker but it's not to the rate as to what people think it is. I think it's only like 1-2 years. Not a huge deal. Despite that, mentally I'm pretty sure they develop to roughly the same time period.

[TheHoldSteady]

My brother was 19 going on 20 and he started dating a 14 going on 15 girl.
So if that's not wrong then you're situation couldn't be any worse.

[Clintoto]

They do mature quicker but it's not to the rate as to what people think it is. I think it's only like 1-2 years. Not a huge deal. Despite that, mentally I'm pretty sure they develop to roughly the same time period.

I don't know about that--any woman I've known under the approximate age of... let's say 25, has had way too many face-palming moments to count.

[yves.]

My brother was 19 going on 20 and he started dating a 14 going on 15 girl.
So if that's not wrong then you're situation couldn't be any worse.

god that is disturbing.

[TheHoldSteady]

god that is disturbing.
Thank you for agreeing.

[Overpass]

4/5 year age gap isn't bad normally but when you're that young it is.
She's in about year 8 or 9? and you've finished high school and you're probably already in college with a job etc.
Two different worlds.
Don't do it.

[foisol]

I dated a 17 year old when I was 21. Even though that is the age of consent in New York State, I didn't have a sexual relationship with her. Mostly because she was so inexperienced and in the end we broke up because I thought she was too young, and felt I was acting more like a father/big-brother/teacher to her than a boyfriend. Then I dated a 19 year old, when I was 22... but I recently turned 23, so it's pretty much a similar age gap. There was intimacy in that, but then she broke up with me because she thought I was too old and that I've gone through more things than she has lol.

So either way, it depends on how she is. I don't see anything wrong with the age gap but trust me, within just a span of 1 or 2 years there can be such a significant difference in trains of thought and such.

With that note, I've dated older girls who turned out to be immature as hell. So I don't believe in the whole girls mature faster thing... at least not on a mental level.

[makeshiftmind]

I forsee an episode of MTV's Sixteen and Pregnant in your future

[kbi the crowing]

she's prolly gonna be pretty immature
if you're looking for something serious (and legal) I'd go elsewhere

[jay_klinkhammer]

The girl I am in love with now but away at school is 18........the next girl I'm chasing is 26.

Age aint shit.

[makeshiftmind]

15-6yah doesn't seem too bad, what's everyone complaining about 9 year is nothing

[AndrewIcex]

Just use protection. We know what you want... we know...

[helenkeomany]

I hate to say it, but I gotta say it's a no go on this one. Maturity levels at 15 and 20 are vastly different. It's a hefty age gap. I'm sure you're a good guy, but I gotta go nay.


agreed.

[perceptrons]

Complete no go.

[xmicxcorex]

I'll put it this way, I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 17, about to turn 18. We've been dating since we had both turned 20 and 16, respectively. Personally, this isn't the kind of thing you should use others' advice on.
My suggestions:
A) get to know her, be friends (don't overdo it.)
B) Meet her parents before you date and leave a GREAT first impression
C) Date her. Do not let her parents first impression of you down for the first 6-9 months.

[Mibabalou]

Ok here's the situation, im 19 nearly 20,
theres a girl i work with about 15-6 (she told me 16)
i think i have a thing for her, is this age gap too big or too 'immoral' at this young stage in our lives?
thoughts?

fail

[Mibabalou]

im 18 the girl i like is 4 too far

[klawansie7]

well i just turned 19 and my boyfriend is 21... that age gap is kinda weird just cuz he can go to bars and i can't... but otherwise i don't think age gaps matter really.

[Chromefox]

Outside the bracket of consent and minors, it's entirely what you can live with. I probably wouldn't develop interest in someone outside of 2 or 3 years of me, just as a matter of compatibility and life experiences that we connect on.

[alltimecam]

Too old, a 4 year age gap isn't that bad when you are older. But when you're in college and they are in the beginning of high school that's two completely different stages in your life. It's like Seth Rogen in Pineapple Express

[live.]

Sometimes the actual ages are more important than the years between them. You're at two pretty different stages of life...

EDIT: alltimecam perfectly sums it up.

[.invisible ink.]

15/16 and 20 is kinda gross to be honest. not to say it hasn't been done, but it's certainly not looked upon favorably by most of society. i'm pretty sure her parents wouldn't be too stoked on it honestly. the age gap doesn't make as much difference once both people are a few years older, but this is kinda not good.

[vianikkitop]

i personally believe that, that is absolutely fine.
i'm 18 and my boyfriend is 22, and we started dating when i was 15.

[superBMRuth]

i dated a 16 year old when i was 20 and it was fucking terrible. the difference in age/maturity matters so much in a young relationship.

[GetWellBoss]

personally i like gaps of all ages.

making a joke of course

[Sic Transit Zeb]

personally i like gaps of all ages.

making a joke of course

hahahaha

over 18 though!

[Sic Transit Zeb]

Too old, a 4 year age gap isn't that bad when you are older. But when you're in college and they are in the beginning of high school that's two completely different stages in your life. It's like Seth Rogen in Pineapple Express

agreed.

[GetWellBoss]

hahahaha

over 18 though!

of course.

[A7XXX]

Are you planning to do something illegal to her? If not then don't worry about it. If it doesn't work out you can still be a brother to her. Jk

[ilikesound93]

Edit:
Actually, last year when I had just turned 15 this senior was going after me. Besides the fact that he was just trying to get in my pants and I pretty much ignored him, when we talked it felt like we were in different worlds entirely. I think I'm mature for my age, but still...it's rare when those kinds of things work out.

Oh, and if you just want to fuck her then I'd say don't go for it. Not worth it.

[kwsqd]

Someone should probably through out the fact that her parents/whoever should be okay with this before anything happens. I know two really great guys who dated girls who were 16 when they were 19 and both are now registered sex offenders for dating those girls. Ironically enough, both have been married to those girls for more than 20 years, but thats not the point.

My brother is secretly engaged to a 18 or 19 year old (I didnt really want details) and he's 15, and when he was 13ish he was dating a 26 year old...so age gaps arent that big of a deal to me anymore.



When I was 16, I was technically a junior. I'm pretty sure most juniors are 16.
what the fuck?

[Jake Denning]

A girl I liked has been lying to me about her age for the past 6 months; She's 16, she's been telling me she's 18. I guess she told my best friend she was 17.

Her dad is like the highest ranking in the navy, and her parents just threatened to kill me if I continued talking to her.

[ZeroGravity107]

Ok here's the situation, im 19 nearly 20,
theres a girl i work with about 15-6 (she told me 16)
i think i have a thing for her, is this age gap too big or too 'immoral' at this young stage in our lives?
thoughts?

The maturity level between a 16 year old and a 20 year old is a big one. That's definitely considered immoral by most, considering that a 16 year old is considered innocent, while a 20 year old has long ago passed the point of innocence.

Catch what I'm saying? When it comes to sex between those two issues there is a clear cut legal issue that can arise if the parents disagree and there is definitely an immorality issue if you engage in sex.

[ZeroGravity107]

Uh, 13 year old dating a 26 year old is basically saying the 26 year old is a pedophile. That's disgustingly fucked. I dated a 26 year old when I was 18 and that was a pretty large gap.

[zion the lion]

what the fuck?

if it makes you feel better, he looks way older. When we're out together, and I"m not wearing makeup, people think he's my older brother.

Uh, 13 year old dating a 26 year old is basically saying the 26 year old is a pedophile. That's disgustingly fucked. I dated a 26 year old when I was 18 and that was a pretty large gap.

I thought it was funny until my brother was talking about it with me and was like "well, I lost it to him"

and by it, he meant virginity obviously...and our dad found out, and I never heard of that guy again.

[fran.182]

Would it be wrong If I dated a 58 years old lady?

[chassmariee]

It's a go. I don't think age is an issue unless your a creep.

[Akissforher]

It's a go. I don't think age is an issue unless your a creep.


haha no im not but thanks anyway

[Akissforher]

holy shit ive just spent all this time reading all these responses, as weird as they got :S
thanks for all your input!

[-whisp-]

I just found out that my cousin(guy) who is I think 19 or 20 is with a 14 year old which is sick. I feel so bad for the girl but I can't even believe that her parents are even allowing it.

[rerelease_]

it's always little funny and weird to me read this kind of threads. in estonia it's pretty normal and nothing too weird when 20 year old guy dates 16 year old girl. okay, maybe girls parents are little uncomfortable (in the beginning), but friends don't make absolutely no problem about it. it's even nothing rare when 15-16 year old girls are dating 21-22 year old dudes. older generation may look a little bit weird about that, but younger generation is pretty comfortable with this kind of gap. by the way, age consent is 14 here, at least for right now.

[KingJohn_654]

What difference does this difference in age make? i know how it ends: she'll kill me quick.

/brand new

[steve187]

Hit that shit man.

by the way, age consent is 14 here, at least for right now.
My kinda place!

[-whisp-]

it's always little funny and weird to me read this kind of threads. in estonia it's pretty normal and nothing too weird when 20 year old guy dates 16 year old girl. okay, maybe girls parents are little uncomfortable (in the beginning), but friends don't make absolutely no problem about it. it's even nothing rare when 15-16 year old girls are dating 21-22 year old dudes. older generation may look a little bit weird about that, but younger generation is pretty comfortable with this kind of gap. by the way, age consent is 14 here, at least for right now.

Different cultures :) I know a girl from Romania and she has a completely different view about relationships then I have ever known. So it really does depend with many countries. People defend in what they believe in because thats what they grew up knowing, you know?

an age gap is different say 14-20 than 20-26, 20-26 just seems more normal and logical because people at that age are much more mature etc.

[rerelease_]

Different cultures :) I know a girl from Romania and she has a completely different view about relationships then I have ever known. So it really does depend with many countries. People defend in what they believe in because thats what they grew up knowing, you know?


yeah, i understand and totally accept that. what kind of views that romanian girl has?

[honestIpod]

16-20 is too big of a difference in maturity levels, even if girls mature faster. You'd hate her after two weeks. You could also possibly go to prison if the wrong person gets pissed off. If prison is a possible outcome you should always avoid the situation.

[konvalbr]

if you have to ask, you're too old.

[wroteurname]

Well you made me feel better for hooking up with an 18 yr old all summer as a 21 yr old, thanks.

[Kassie09]

I remember being the coolest girl in 8th grade cause I was 14 and I had an 18 year old boyfriend and he drove and would drop me off at school. And everyone was like omg
BAHAHAHA.

Now, looking back on it, that's weird as fuck. so I'm gonna go with, it might seem okay, but it isn't. Wait til she gets out of highschool..then it's not weird.

/anecdote.

[TEAMRAMROD]

I remember being the coolest girl in 8th grade cause I was 14 and I had an 18 year old boyfriend and he drove and would drop me off at school. And everyone was like omg
BAHAHAHA.

Now, looking back on it, that's weird as fuck. so I'm gonna go with, it might seem okay, but it isn't. Wait til she gets out of highschool..then it's not weird.

/anecdote.
Very weird.

[Kassie09]

Very weird.

Trust me, I know.

[COTA]

Hit that shit man.


My kinda place!

hahahaha

[deathinkosovo]

My guess? TC wants to slam some tight teen vagoo, and this is his best bet. I feel the same way sometimes, but shit, it's not even worth it at your age. Find a chick who can blow and you're good to go, young one.

[caress me down]

Myboyfriend was 19 when I was 16 (for half a year). Not really weird at all. But then againwe were only two grades apart.

[CarryOn09]

im dating a guy who is 23 :shrug:

[Jennurna Gray]

Ok here's the situation, im 19 nearly 20,
theres a girl i work with about 15-6 (she told me 16)
i think i have a thing for her, is this age gap too big or too 'immoral' at this young stage in our lives?
thoughts?

love has no 'rules'
and age doesn't stop love, either
i'm 15 and the guy i like is 20.
it doesn't bother me or him.
when people say shit, STFU.
of course, there are boundaries.
you dating kids under ten would be pedafilic.
but your difference shouldn't stop you.
:]
good luck, sir.

[introduction]

miley cyrus was doing it.

[Michifoxx]

Haha you don't know too many girls older than you, eh?

Maybe you just been hangin around the wrong ones.

[jon.]

Maybe you just been hangin around the wrong ones.
Maybe you're 16.

[raychull]

i'm 15 and the guy i like is 20.
No.

I know somebody who is friends with a girl who got raped by a 19 year old. She's 15.

[ZeroGravity107]

I just feel like it's too easy for someone older than 18 to take advantage of the underdeveloped mind of someone under that age. Teens are too young and impressionable and so easily manipulated. I'm not saying in all cases this is the fact, but it just makes me uneasy in all senses because of the possibility.

[zion the lion]

love has no 'rules'
and age doesn't stop love, either
i'm 15 and the guy i like is 20.
it doesn't bother me or him.
when people say shit, STFU.
of course, there are boundaries.
you dating kids under ten would be pedafilic.
but your difference shouldn't stop you.
:]
good luck, sir.

please be joking

[Akissforher]

No.

I know somebody who is friends with a girl who got raped by a 19 year old. She's 15.


wow i started this is something innocent its really gotten dark...

[cinderandsmoke]

I was in this same situation, dude, and frankly I was creeped out by the guy. For me, the age gap was too much.

Think of it this way:
She's sixteen. When you were worrying about college, she was worrying about her first day of high school. It just does not work. You're an adult, you can almost drink. She probably can't even drive yet.

[cinderandsmoke]

im dating a guy who is 23 :shrug:

But you're 18. That's legal, because you're an adult.
It's different if she's under 18 and still, by law, considered a child.

[the secret wars]

I say just follow your heart.
I'm 22, my boyfriend will be 20 in the beginning of December. People sometimes give us a hard time, but we've been together for 4 years. If you really see something in someone, I wouldn't pass it by just because of age. 16 and 20 isn't BAD as long as you're both dedicated and can deal with what people might say. You gotta do it for you.

[trappedintime]

i love messing around with older chicks...

[Jennurna Gray]

No.

I know somebody who is friends with a girl who got raped by a 19 year old. She's 15.

that doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with all 19-20 year olds.

"no", too bad it wasn't a question.

[Jennurna Gray]

please be joking

stfu.

[raychull]

that doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with all 19-20 year olds.

"no", too bad it wasn't a question.
Are you seriously going to start an argument with me about semantics? Really?

[Jennurna Gray]

hm.

[Jennurna Gray]

Are you seriously going to start an argument with me about semantics? Really?

i'm not starting an argument, i'm stating a fact.
there's absolutely no reason why a 15 year old and a 20 year old can't work out.
in observation, there's a million things that can go wrong, but things can go right, too.
and don't tell me, of all people, that it's not possible, because i'm already taking that chance.
it's been working out now for seven months, and he's been my best friend for three years.

[raychull]

i'm not starting an argument, i'm stating a fact.
there's absolutely no reason why a 15 year old and a 20 year old can't work out.
in observation, there's a million things that can go wrong, but things can go right, too.
and don't tell me, of all people, that it's not possible, because i'm already taking that chance.
it's been working out now for seven months, and he's been my best friend for three years.


"no", too bad it wasn't a question.
I was referring to that part of the question.

And, basically, he's still a creeper. I'm sorry. It would be different if he were thirty, and you were twenty five, but you're only fifteen. I'm sorry, but anybody who thinks that a fifteen year old girl is fully matured, needs to wake up.

[Jennurna Gray]

I was referring to that part of the question.

And, basically, he's still a creeper. I'm sorry. It would be different if he were thirty, and you were twenty five, but you're only fifteen. I'm sorry, but anybody who thinks that a fifteen year old girl is fully matured, needs to wake up.

i'm 5'10, my body is fully developed, most people mistake me for 18.
and i'm smart and mature.
as far as i'm concerned, i'm not fifteen.

[raychull]

i'm 5'10, my body is fully developed, most people mistake me for 18.
and i'm smart and mature.
as far as i'm concerned, i'm not fifteen.
I'm not trying to be an ass, but I meant as far as life experiences go. I'm not saying in every situation, but as a whole, I didn't mean maturity in the sense of physicality. Like I said, I figured this would go into an argument about semantics and interpretation.
People mistook me for eighteen when I was fourteen, and granted, some people are more mature than others at that age, but there are still a lot of things about life experiences that make the difference.

[zion the lion]

stfu.

Well, excuse me then.

Listen, I'm all about robbing the graveyard, but seriously, you're 15. As someone with a good amount of experience watching little kids date grown ass damn men, it's weird, creepy, and not okay at all. If you really think it's love or whatever, I think you both could wait the 3 short years when it's more socially acceptable.

[atthegates]

i'm 5'10, my body is fully developed, most people mistake me for 18.
and i'm smart and mature.
as far as i'm concerned, i'm not fifteen.

As mature as you really want to believe you are, you are mentally still a child going through the stages of cognitive growth. You're at a stage in your life where your prefrontal lobe (the area of your brain responsible for higher thinking and reasoning) is finally beginning to develop. It's science, you are still growing up. I remember being your age and thinking how I was nothing like the other kids at my high school and that I was much more intelligent and mature than they were. You might find it hard to believe but you'll be laughing in a few years at how mature you thought you were as a teenager.

[Jennurna Gray]

I'm not trying to be an ass, but I meant as far as life experiences go. I'm not saying in every situation, but as a whole, I didn't mean maturity in the sense of physicality. Like I said, I figured this would go into an argument about semantics and interpretation.
People mistook me for eighteen when I was fourteen, and granted, some people are more mature than others at that age, but there are still a lot of things about life experiences that make the difference.
Well, excuse me then.
Listen, I'm all about robbing the graveyard, but seriously, you're 15. As someone with a good amount of experience watching little kids date grown ass damn men, it's weird, creepy, and not okay at all. If you really think it's love or whatever, I think you both could wait the 3 short years when it's more socially acceptable.
As mature as you really want to believe you are, you are mentally still a child going through the stages of cognitive growth. You're at a stage in your life where your prefrontal lobe (the area of your brain responsible for higher thinking and reasoning) is finally beginning to develop. It's science, you are still growing up. I remember being your age and thinking how I was nothing like the other kids at my high school and that I was much more intelligent and mature than they were. You might find it hard to believe but you'll be laughing in a few years at how mature you thought you were as a teenager.

you're right, raychull, this is not the right time and place for an argument, especially when it's not even necessary. it would actually be pretty inapropriate, so i'll just end it here. there's no way to prove anything, and i shouldn't have to anyway, i mean i don't even know you guys, i'm gonna leave this forum and never think of you again, so will you. with that said, i hope you have a nice day, i think it's going to be sunny here. :]

[KidRobot]

im dating a guy who is 23 :shrug:

Fits the 1/2 your age + 7 rule perfectly.

[raychull]

Well, excuse me then.

Listen, I'm all about robbing the graveyard, but seriously, you're 15. As someone with a good amount of experience watching little kids date grown ass damn men, it's weird, creepy, and not okay at all. If you really think it's love or whatever, I think you both could wait the 3 short years when it's more socially acceptable.

As mature as you really want to believe you are, you are mentally still a child going through the stages of cognitive growth. You're at a stage in your life where your prefrontal lobe (the area of your brain responsible for higher thinking and reasoning) is finally beginning to develop. It's science, you are still growing up. I remember being your age and thinking how I was nothing like the other kids at my high school and that I was much more intelligent and mature than they were. You might find it hard to believe but you'll be laughing in a few years at how mature you thought you were as a teenager.

Quoted for truth.

[vickasaur_xoxo]

Ok here's the situation, im 19 nearly 20,
theres a girl i work with about 15-6 (she told me 16)
i think i have a thing for her, is this age gap too big or too 'immoral' at this young stage in our lives?
thoughts?

Actually I do think this a too big of an age gap.
I know from personal expierence.
You are in two different places in your lifes.
She's probably in high school stiil and your probably out of high school.
Are you going to wait around for her to get out of high school?
Plus its kind of gross to see adults dating little kids.,
anyways, i'm pretty sure that's illegal?

[zonto]

I wouldn't. My own rules are these:

-I won't date freshmen in college or younger
-I won't date girls that can't function without me
-I won't date girls that expect me to be their income
-I will only date girls that make me laugh and laugh with me

EDIT:
-I won't date girls that are unwilling to sweat or work/get their hands dirty

That's all I can think of. Right now I'm dating a 30 year old and a 20 year old and the choice is surprisingly harder than you'd think...

[makeshiftmind]

baby gap

[mmmmmpoetry]

My ex who is 19 is dating some sixteen yearold scene kid, who wants to pick a fight with me.
I simply said I'd eat his heart while listening to Mozart and like it. Hasn't said anything since and I see them on a weekly(if not more) basis.

[vickasaur_xoxo]

My ex who is 19 is dating some sixteen yearold scene kid, who wants to pick a fight with me.
I simply said I'd eat his heart while listening to Mozart and like it. Hasn't said anything since and I see them on a weekly(if not more) basis.

haha, nice come back:D
"I simply said I'd eat his heart while listening to Mozart and like it"

[atthegates]

you're right, raychull, this is not the right time and place for an argument, especially when it's not even necessary. it would actually be pretty inapropriate, so i'll just end it here. there's no way to prove anything, and i shouldn't have to anyway, i mean i don't even know you guys, i'm gonna leave this forum and never think of you again, so will you. with that said, i hope you have a nice day, i think it's going to be sunny here. :]

Why am I not surprised she didn't pay attention to a single word I said? Haha
And apparently science isn't a way to prove anything...
:gunhead:

[Jennurna Gray]

As mature as you really want to believe you are, you are mentally still a child going through the stages of cognitive growth. You're at a stage in your life where your prefrontal lobe (the area of your brain responsible for higher thinking and reasoning) is finally beginning to develop. It's science, you are still growing up. I remember being your age and thinking how I was nothing like the other kids at my high school and that I was much more intelligent and mature than they were. You might find it hard to believe but you'll be laughing in a few years at how mature you thought you were as a teenager.

Why am I not surprised she didn't pay attention to a single word I said? Haha
And apparently science isn't a way to prove anything...
:gunhead:
oh, i read it, i just really don't feel like arguing and getting nowhere
but here goes; you don't know me, so don't judge me, case closed.

[raychull]

oh, i read it, i just really don't feel like arguing and getting nowhere
but here goes; you don't know me, so don't judge me, case closed.
I thought you said you were leaving.

[AlkalineAshes]

oh, i read it, i just really don't feel like arguing and getting nowhere
but here goes; you don't know me, so don't judge me, case closed.

im sorry bout you dont have know someone to know the situation they are in. everyone wants to think they are so unique and special but theres a million other 15 year olds who think there 20 year old bf is "the one" when hes teally just "the one who molests".

[Jennurna Gray]

im sorry bout you dont have know someone to know the situation they are in. everyone wants to think they are so unique and special but theres a million other 15 year olds who think there 20 year old bf is "the one" when hes teally just "the one who molests".
i'll keep that in mind but i promised raychull i'd leave.

[IAmMe_66]

i think its fine, age shouldnt matter. i mean if you like them, you like them.

[reesa]

it really depends on how big the age gap is.

my current bf is about 4 months younger than me yet i still get called a cradle snatcher x(

[Chrisj182]

Being 18, the youngest I could go out with would be 16 (as long as they'd finished school), while the oldest would be about 20.

No one in this age gap wants me.