Should I still feel bad?

[Scuba Chris]

So the other night I was celebrating Senior Week at my school. For those of you who don't know what it is, it is pretty much three days of non-stop partying and drinking on and off campus; it culminates with graduation. So Thursday night, we had our Senior Sendoff (formal) and I was flirting with this one girl. I knew that she liked me in the past but I had a girlfriend at the time. I was getting the feeling that something was possible later. So we headed back to the residence halls and I hung out with her and her friends for a couple hours. Then she dissappeared into her room. I found out she was getting sick. So I headed back into the hallway and one of her sorority sisters who was hitting on me all night was basically dragging me into her empty room. We hooked up and the original female found out about it.
When I woke up I realized that I definitely made a mistake. And she was pissed. And I felt really shitty about it. Not that I got caught, but that it happened. Now, she was really pissed yesterday, but today she was like I am upset that it was a sister but you have no ties to me so I am not that mad about it. But I still feel really shitty. Should I be beating myself up over this so much? And since I am does that mean I have feelings for her?
Only four months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 and 1/2 years. And even thinking about any kind of relationship makes me queasy so I didn't think that liking someone was a possibility this soon.. but maybe I am?
Anyone have any thoughts?

[Bishop]

Yes. Learn to control your dick. If being in a relationship makes you feel queasy then you probably shouldn't have gone their to begin with unless you were just going to pull a nail and bail.

[boysdontcry17]

well, are you willing to hold her hand? that's how i know

[GoWaitInTheCar]

well, are you willing to hold her hand? that's how i know

Such a pitiful statement, but I guess it holds true.

[xgloryxfadesx27]

Girls don't like me.

[GoWaitInTheCar]

Girls don't like me.

I have one that's stalking me currently. She hacks into my screen name and IMs my friends and stuff.
She went out and got the same tattoo as I have (the alkaline trio heart logo) in the same place.
I haven't had a conversation with her since December...I have no idea..
Maybe I should make a seperate thread about this. It's pretty pitiful.

[bigmike]

I have one that's stalking me currently. She hacks into my screen name and IMs my friends and stuff.
She went out and got the same tattoo as I have (the alkaline trio heart logo) in the same place.
I haven't had a conversation with her since December...I have no idea..
Maybe I should make a seperate thread about this. It's pretty pitiful.
you should punch her in the face.

[bigmike]

So the other night I was celebrating Senior Week at my school. For those of you who don't know what it is, it is pretty much three days of non-stop partying and drinking on and off campus; it culminates with graduation. So Thursday night, we had our Senior Sendoff (formal) and I was flirting with this one girl. I knew that she liked me in the past but I had a girlfriend at the time. I was getting the feeling that something was possible later. So we headed back to the residence halls and I hung out with her and her friends for a couple hours. Then she dissappeared into her room. I found out she was getting sick. So I headed back into the hallway and one of her sorority sisters who was hitting on me all night was basically dragging me into her empty room. We hooked up and the original female found out about it.
When I woke up I realized that I definitely made a mistake. And she was pissed. And I felt really shitty about it. Not that I got caught, but that it happened. Now, she was really pissed yesterday, but today she was like I am upset that it was a sister but you have no ties to me so I am not that mad about it. But I still feel really shitty. Should I be beating myself up over this so much? And since I am does that mean I have feelings for her?
Only four months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 and 1/2 years. And even thinking about any kind of relationship makes me queasy so I didn't think that liking someone was a possibility this soon.. but maybe I am?
Anyone have any thoughts?
the real question is was it good?
if it was good, then you shouldn't feel bad.

[jklo16]

eh. she'll get over it. she doesn't have a claim on you like she said. If you're that worried about it, just ask her why she was so upset about it in the first place, and tell her how you felt/feel. Sober conversations work wonders on figuring out how you actually feel about someone.

[SonEric84]

I don't believe in one night stands.

[Scuba Chris]

eh. she'll get over it. she doesn't have a claim on you like she said. If you're that worried about it, just ask her why she was so upset about it in the first place, and tell her how you felt/feel. Sober conversations work wonders on figuring out how you actually feel about someone.

Yeah we discussed it last night. She is definitely hurt because there was some feelings there. And I feel like crap because I know that I hurt her. That was the main outcome of the talk.

[boysdontcry17]

I have one that's stalking me currently. She hacks into my screen name and IMs my friends and stuff.
She went out and got the same tattoo as I have (the alkaline trio heart logo) in the same place.
I haven't had a conversation with her since December...I have no idea..
Maybe I should make a seperate thread about this. It's pretty pitiful.

you should be probably that this girl pays attention to you, have you tried talking to her? i mean really telling her what is up?

[to kill this]

well do you want a fuck or not? you gotta choose between a real connection and just a one night stand. obv we know what your dick's got in mind. but what about you? you sure you wanna get into a relationship after being in one for so long?

[colorlesscliche]

Senior week... three days? That's lame. For our senior week we get hotels on the beach for seven days, and get extremely drunk.

[FourdyOz]

it seems like you like her, but at the same time that sucks because now ...who knows if she would even want to be with you since you fucked one of her sorority sisters. she probably feels worse...because at the time you hooked up with the other girl...she was getting sick. going into the bathroom and helping her out would have been the better thing to do. but i understand you were drinking. either way. good luck

[KidLightning]

well just because you feel bad for what happened doesn't mean that you want a relationship with this girl. It could just be that yeah, maybe you like her and actually respect her and just feel bad that you basically just ditched her cuz she was getting sick and you couldn't get any so you moved onto the next best thing.

Was it a dick move? yeah, kinda. But is it a big deal? eh, not so much. She'll get over it and you'll get over it and if you explain the entire story to her (don't know if you have already) the air should pretty much be cleared. There may be no chance for a relationship after that, but only being single for 4 months after a 4 and a half year relationship, another relationship probably isn't the best thing. Especially if you're graduating.

So basically my point is: don't beat yourself up, let her know you're sorry and you weren't intentionally trying to hurt her and just take it from there.

[Juliana101]

Stick it in her butt.

But in all seriousness, I don't think you should feel bad, but it's clear you do. Tell her your sorry just for good measure.

Also, who ended the 4 and a half year relationship? Maybe I missed it.

[allelish]

I don't believe in one night stands.
same here.

[SonEric84]

same here.


Well at least I'm not the only one...I mean, whatever happened to sex being something meaningful?

[Scuba Chris]

Well at least I'm not the only one...I mean, whatever happened to sex being something meaningful?

I agree, and I didn't have sex with the girl. I refuse to have sex with a girl I just met, or don't plan on seeing again. I am not sure where me fucking her started... I was trying to be ambiguous by saying "hooked up"

[Scuba Chris]

And it's not like I was all about starting a relationship... I am not sure what I wanted.
Oh well, it's pretty much over now. We will probably just go back to being friends in time... or never talk again.

[SonEric84]

I agree, and I didn't have sex with the girl. I refuse to have sex with a girl I just met, or don't plan on seeing again. I am not sure where me fucking her started... I was trying to be ambiguous by saying "hooked up"


Ah, well I think a lot of people take "hooked up" as having sex.

[Freud]

if theres no ring on the finger then its not that big of a deal









:p