Jealously?

[inCinerate.1028]

I've been dating this girl for over 9 months now and I love her and she loves me and we have a really mature relationship. My parents recently had me change schools to a private school but my girlfriend just so happens to go there. This year I started at this new school and it makes me happy to be with my girl and shes so happy to have me there too but theres something...she attracts a lot of guys. My girlfriend's beautiful, innocent, and a sweetheart and would never do anything to harm me (as in cheating) but I feel very, very uncomfortable when groups of 3 or 4 guys crowd around her and begin talking to her and some flirt with her constantly. I've gotten uncomfortable and upset and my girlfriend gets so mad at me when I tell her I'm comfortable when guys try and flirt with her and touch her and stuff. It makes me so uncomfortable and she tells me it doesn't bug her because those guys mean nothing to her and she only wants me. When she tells me that i ask her why she can't walk away and not let the guys swarm around her but she won't....she's one of those girls that everyone finds adorable and she has this laugh thats amazing and i know guys notice it. Is this considered jealously?? How can I make it easier for me and not so uncomfortable that I worry so much at school? Is my girlfriend doing everything right and am i wrong? Please help.

[SophomoricSlump]

Yes, it definitely is jealousy.
I've been dating my boyfriend for 13 months now, and usually when I see someone doing something I don't approve of, I do something about it.
Why don't you actually be WITH her while she's talking to them, so they know that she's with you, and they can't do that.

[inCinerate.1028]

Yes, it definitely is jealousy.
I've been dating my boyfriend for 13 months now, and usually when I see someone doing something I don't approve of, I do something about it.
Why don't you actually be WITH her while she's talking to them, so they know that she's with you, and they can't do that.

I'm standing right next to her, but so many guys keep talking to her, she gets caught up into talking to them, and i try to say stuff but yeah. :/

[phil19]

you need to tell those guys to back off. throw down if you have to

[MADSTA]

Mark your territory. Like a dog.



















I'm saying you should pee on her.

[SophomoricSlump]

Then you should straight up say something to them.
Fighting isn't necessarily the answer, but you should say something if she isn't willing to listen.
Which is odd, because she seems to want a relationship, but isn't willing to communicate problems.

Seems like you do more of the worrying then she does.

[SophomoricSlump]

Mark your territory. Like a dog.



















I'm saying you should pee on her.

Golden showeerrrr~

[limepomegranate]

I've been dating this girl for over 9 months now and I love her and she loves me and we have a really mature relationship. My parents recently had me change schools to a private school but my girlfriend just so happens to go there. This year I started at this new school and it makes me happy to be with my girl and shes so happy to have me there too but theres something...she attracts a lot of guys. My girlfriend's beautiful, innocent, and a sweetheart and would never do anything to harm me (as in cheating) but I feel very, very uncomfortable when groups of 3 or 4 guys crowd around her and begin talking to her and some flirt with her constantly. I've gotten uncomfortable and upset and my girlfriend gets so mad at me when I tell her I'm comfortable when guys try and flirt with her and touch her and stuff. It makes me so uncomfortable and she tells me it doesn't bug her because those guys mean nothing to her and she only wants me. When she tells me that i ask her why she can't walk away and not let the guys swarm around her but she won't....she's one of those girls that everyone finds adorable and she has this laugh thats amazing and i know guys notice it. Is this considered jealously?? How can I make it easier for me and not so uncomfortable that I worry so much at school? Is my girlfriend doing everything right and am i wrong? Please help.
UNcomfortable
jealousy<--no L

I think you're overreacting a bit. Just tell her you'd like it if she asked them not to touch her because she has a bf. My bf asked me to do that and I did and now it's all good. And some girls just have a lot of guy friends.

[limepomegranate]

you need to tell those guys to back off. throw down if you have to
FIIIIGGGHHTTTT FIIIIIGGGHHHTTTT
pics or it didn't happen

[zion the lion]

I've been dating this girl for over 9 months now and I love her and she loves me and we have a really mature relationship. My parents recently had me change schools to a private school but my girlfriend just so happens to go there. This year I started at this new school and it makes me happy to be with my girl and shes so happy to have me there too but theres something...she attracts a lot of guys. My girlfriend's beautiful, innocent, and a sweetheart and would never do anything to harm me (as in cheating) but I feel very, very uncomfortable when groups of 3 or 4 guys crowd around her and begin talking to her and some flirt with her constantly. I've gotten uncomfortable and upset and my girlfriend gets so mad at me when I tell her I'm comfortable when guys try and flirt with her and touch her and stuff. It makes me so uncomfortable and she tells me it doesn't bug her because those guys mean nothing to her and she only wants me. When she tells me that i ask her why she can't walk away and not let the guys swarm around her but she won't....she's one of those girls that everyone finds adorable and she has this laugh thats amazing and i know guys notice it. Is this considered jealously?? How can I make it easier for me and not so uncomfortable that I worry so much at school? Is my girlfriend doing everything right and am i wrong? Please help.

And how old are you?

[chassmariee]

Mark your territory. Like a dog.



















I'm saying you should pee on her.
R.Kellz?

[phil19]

FIIIIGGGHHTTTT FIIIIIGGGHHHTTTT
pics or it didn't happen

exactly!

[FueledByFrodo]

Seriously, this isn't that hard. Tell them to back off. Get in their face.

[SophomoricSlump]

Seriously, this isn't that hard. Tell them to back off. Get in they're face.

WRONG USE OF "THEY'RE".
It's their, Alex :B.

/Grammar Nazi

[FueledByFrodo]

WRONG USE OF "THEY'RE".
It's their, Alex :B.

/Grammar Nazi
Grrrrr. Fixed. Happy?

[SophomoricSlump]

Grrrrr. Fixed. Happy?

Just ridding the internet of stupidity, Love.

[limepomegranate]

exactly!
woop woop! I'm makin popcorn!!!!

[phil19]

woop woop! I'm makin popcorn!!!!

make enough so we can share!

[inCinerate.1028]

Seriously, this isn't that hard. Tell them to back off. Get in their face.

I told tone of them to back off one time and my girlfriend got soooo upset and told me i was being 'controlling'.

[inCinerate.1028]

And how old are you?

17

[zion the lion]

17

17 dog years? Because you dont look like you've been out of your mother's uterus for more than 14 years.

I'm not being mean by it or anything, you just look young enough to be my child.

[Car Crash Dream]

your girlfriend sounds like an idiotic whore.

[phil19]

I told tone of them to back off one time and my girlfriend got soooo upset and told me i was being 'controlling'.

just tell her to be cool, you got this one

[inCinerate.1028]

17 dog years? Because you dont look like you've been out of your mother's uterus for more than 14 years.

I'm not being mean by it or anything, you just look young enough to be my child.

if youre looking at my picture, i was 14 when it was taken. haha.

[zion the lion]

if youre looking at my picture, i was 14 when it was taken. haha.

Ok, if you're really 17, what year were you born?

although I should believe you, because I usually use a picture that's 2 years old for my profile pics.

[phil19]

Ok, if you're really 17, what year were you born?

although I should believe you, because I usually use a picture that's 2 years old for my profile pics.

coz you've had sooo many profile pics

[zion the lion]

coz you've had sooo many profile pics

well, you know me, I'm such a picture whore.

[AMackChuck]

your girlfriend sounds like an idiotic whore.

Love your icon and lmao at your post. /thread.

[Sventhegreat]

Mark your territory. Like a dog.



















I'm saying you should pee on her.

This made me laugh really really hard. Hahaha

[Auals]

if youre looking at my picture, i was 14 when it was taken. haha.

Dude, the guys don't think of you as a threat. I know the feeling. I'm a weedy little dude with glasses. The point is, when they're doing it you're probably hunched up in your shell being jealous. Step out, be proud that she's with you and grin at them. Point out, subtly that you're with her and they're not. The other option is that that's just how she is with her friends and you have to get used to it. One of my exs was like that, it was horrible for me (I have anxiety as it is :p) but you get used to it, or you break up. Or you throw down, or pee on her.

Zion made me laugh.

[mooshthedoosh]

you gotta be a man. when they keep talking to her just excuse yourselves out. Make an excuse or something and say your hungry or something and take her out or something.

[bladerdude360]

Lol at OP misspelling jealousy in title and again in first post.

Your girlfriend is right, you are being controlling, and really insecure. Who cares if guys pay attention to her? You're the one who's with her, and if you really love each other as you claim, you have nothing to worry about. It's not like you can (or should) ban her from all social contact just to make sure your relationship is secure. Good for her for getting mad at you when you try to tell her not to talk to guys, she shouldn't let her immature, insecure boyfriend dictate what she can and can't do or who she can and can't talk to.

The only thing that will make this "easier" for you is to grow a pair and stop freaking out over a person having normal, completely appropriate social contact with other people.

[phil19]

Lol at OP misspelling jealousy in title and again in first post.

You're girlfriend is right, you are being controlling, and really insecure. Who cares if guys pay attention to her? You're the one who's with her, and if you really love each other as you claim, you have nothing to worry about. It's not like you can (or should) ban her from all social contact just to make sure your relationship is secure. Good for her for getting mad at you when you try to tell her not to talk to guys, she shouldn't let her immature, insecure boyfriend dictate what she can and can't do or who she can and can't talk to.

The only thing that will make this "easier" for you is to grow a pair and stop freaking out over a person having normal, completely appropriate social contact with other people.

so would be cool if i was all over your lady obviously flirting and your lady was lapping it up?? you wouldnt care?

[AloneInTheDark]

Don't get in the other guys' faces, it's just going to make your girlfriend uncomfortable and probably embarassed. Just ask her to stop letting the guys touch her, other than that, you need to deal with the fact that she has friends that are guys.

[UntakenUsername]

I've been dating this girl for over 9 months now and I love her and she loves me and we have a really mature relationship. My parents recently had me change schools to a private school but my girlfriend just so happens to go there. This year I started at this new school and it makes me happy to be with my girl and shes so happy to have me there too but theres something...she attracts a lot of guys. My girlfriend's beautiful, innocent, and a sweetheart and would never do anything to harm me (as in cheating) but I feel very, very uncomfortable when groups of 3 or 4 guys crowd around her and begin talking to her and some flirt with her constantly. I've gotten uncomfortable and upset and my girlfriend gets so mad at me when I tell her I'm comfortable when guys try and flirt with her and touch her and stuff. It makes me so uncomfortable and she tells me it doesn't bug her because those guys mean nothing to her and she only wants me. When she tells me that i ask her why she can't walk away and not let the guys swarm around her but she won't....she's one of those girls that everyone finds adorable and she has this laugh thats amazing and i know guys notice it. Is this considered jealously?? How can I make it easier for me and not so uncomfortable that I worry so much at school? Is my girlfriend doing everything right and am i wrong? Please help.

i'm wondering the same thing. why does your girlfriend flirt with guys and let them touch her and stuff (especially when you guys have a mature great relationship as you described)??? normal social contact is definitely cool, but maybe she needs to tune down a little bit, at least stop the touching and less flirting? before you embarrass her in front of her friends, talk to her first, ask her how would she feel if you constantly flirt with a bunch of girls or touch them and stuff.

[BrennanHickson]

Just ridding the internet of stupidity, Love.
Uh oh. Maybe your boyfriend should come in and make sure you aren't flirting with other guys.

/sarcasm

Ok, if you're really 17, what year were you born?
You don't think a fourteen year old can count years...?

Lol at OP misspelling jealousy in title and again in first post.

You're girlfriend is right, you are being controlling, and really insecure.
Lol at your misuse of the word "you're." I laughed at that too.

[bung]

Imagine the converse: you have a fat, disgusting girlfriend that repels all other males.

Trust your girlfriend and enjoy the envy those other guys surely have for you.

[vickasaur_xoxo]

Mark your territory. Like a dog.



















I'm saying you should pee on her.


haha. AGREED!

[Chemical Swirl]

Dear OP,

tl;dr

Love,
Max

[trappedintime]

Hey, I just noticed that OP lives in my 'hood. What school are you referring to?

[4N6 science]

So yeah tell those guys to leave your girl alone.


Anal!

[bladerdude360]

Uh oh. Maybe your boyfriend should come in and make sure you aren't flirting with other guys.

/sarcasm


You don't think a fourteen year old can count years...?


Lol at your misuse of the word "you're." I laughed at that too.
Haha fuck me. I usually have very good grammar, but I was typing that at like 2:00 in the morning. Oh well, I deserve it.

[proventimes]

Post n00dz of alleged "beautiful, innocent, and a sweetheart"

or she doesn't exist

[songydarko]

Just let em know you're her man. Easy.

[Yellowcard2006]

Without pictures of your girlfriend this thread is 100% useless.

[kbi the crowing]

I've been dating this girl for over 9 months now and I love her and she loves me and we have a really mature relationship. My parents recently had me change schools to a private school but my girlfriend just so happens to go there. This year I started at this new school and it makes me happy to be with my girl and shes so happy to have me there too but theres something...she attracts a lot of guys. My girlfriend's beautiful, innocent, and a sweetheart and would never do anything to harm me (as in cheating) but I feel very, very uncomfortable when groups of 3 or 4 guys crowd around her and begin talking to her and some flirt with her constantly. I've gotten uncomfortable and upset and my girlfriend gets so mad at me when I tell her I'm comfortable when guys try and flirt with her and touch her and stuff. It makes me so uncomfortable and she tells me it doesn't bug her because those guys mean nothing to her and she only wants me. When she tells me that i ask her why she can't walk away and not let the guys swarm around her but she won't....she's one of those girls that everyone finds adorable and she has this laugh thats amazing and i know guys notice it. Is this considered jealously?? How can I make it easier for me and not so uncomfortable that I worry so much at school? Is my girlfriend doing everything right and am i wrong? Please help.

Lol at OP misspelling jealousy in title and again in first post.

Your girlfriend is right, you are being controlling, and really insecure. Who cares if guys pay attention to her? You're the one who's with her, and if you really love each other as you claim, you have nothing to worry about. It's not like you can (or should) ban her from all social contact just to make sure your relationship is secure. Good for her for getting mad at you when you try to tell her not to talk to guys, she shouldn't let her immature, insecure boyfriend dictate what she can and can't do or who she can and can't talk to.

The only thing that will make this "easier" for you is to grow a pair and stop freaking out over a person having normal, completely appropriate social contact with other people.

OP read this
I 2nd it

[bladerdude360]

so would be cool if i was all over your lady obviously flirting and your lady was lapping it up?? you wouldnt care?
I'm not sure how having a conversation with friends at school is considered "lapping it up." If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't get all jealous and insecure every time some guys wanted to talk to her. So what if they touch her? That's what normal people do, it's not like he's the only one who has permission to do that.

[BlackAxxe]

rides with me?

[billynukka]

I'm not sure how having a conversation with friends at school is considered "lapping it up." If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't get all jealous and insecure every time some guys wanted to talk to her. So what if they touch her? That's what normal people do, it's not like he's the only one who has permission to do that.

I don't even know what to say. If normal people are whores, then I suppose so.

[SincerelyMe]

Let the other guys know she's yours. Not with words, but with your body language. Hold her hand, put your arm around her, etc.

And get over yourself. She's allowed to have friends, whether you like it or not.

[bladerdude360]

I don't even know what to say. If normal people are whores, then I suppose so.
Uh....I didn't realize that having physical contact with another person made you a whore. At what point did the OP mention any kind of inappropriate behavior from his girlfriend? He was just upset that guys talked to her. She is allowed to talk to other people and have other friends. I really don't understand how that makes her a whore.

[phil19]

I'm not sure how having a conversation with friends at school is considered "lapping it up." If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't get all jealous and insecure every time some guys wanted to talk to her. So what if they touch her? That's what normal people do, it's not like he's the only one who has permission to do that.

so touching is OK then? sweet, where's your lady, im gonna grab a tit

[bladerdude360]

so touching is OK then? sweet, where's your lady, im gonna grab a tit
That's not at all what I meant. By "touching" I meant appropriate social contact, such as touching someones arm or giving them a hug, something along those lines, not molesting them. It just doesn't make sense to me why you wouldn't trust your girlfriend to have male friends or have conversations with guys, whether or not you're present, because you're afraid that something will happen. The OP claimed that his girlfriend would never cheat on him, so what's the problem? Also, you are misconstruing a lot of what I say. Obviously if the girl is going around making out with everybody and letting guys feel her up it's a different story. But she's not. She's having conversations with guys in the middle of the fucking high school hallway. I seriously don't get what the problem with that is.

[phil19]

That's not at all what I meant. By "touching" I meant appropriate social contact, such as touching someones arm or giving them a hug, something along those lines, not molesting them. It just doesn't make sense to me why you wouldn't trust your girlfriend to have male friends or have conversations with guys, whether or not you're present, because you're afraid that something will happen. The OP claimed that his girlfriend would never cheat on him, so what's the problem? Also, you are misconstruing a lot of what I say. Obviously if the girl is going around making out with everybody and letting guys feel her up it's a different story. But she's not. She's having conversations with guys in the middle of the fucking high school hallway. I seriously don't get what the problem with that is.

perhaps i am misconstruing some of what you said, however conversations with dudes in hallways are not always innocent. i know my ex girlfriend was similar to what this guy is describing in his lady. i was extremely jealous at the start and it caused numerous problems. i did however learn to trust her, but it was always uncomfortable when guys would be all over her in "conversation". maybe im just a jealous arsehole too?

[cuzimlefthanded]

perhaps i am misconstruing some of what you said, however conversations with dudes in hallways are not always innocent. i know my ex girlfriend was similar to what this guy is describing in his lady. i was extremely jealous at the start and it caused numerous problems. i did however learn to trust her, but it was always uncomfortable when guys would be all over her in "conversation". maybe im just a jealous arsehole too?

Sounds like it.

What the OP's girl is doing is perfectly fine. It's the same as if you were casually talking to a chick and your girlfriend got jealous because of that.

[phil19]

Sounds like it.

What the OP's girl is doing is perfectly fine. It's the same as if you were casually talking to a chick and your girlfriend got jealous because of that.

thanks for the clarification

[limepomegranate]

make enough so we can share!
i'll make like enough to fill 20 bowls! with various flavors so we can eat an assortment of kinds!!! :D i'm super excited now!

[phil19]

i'll make like enough to fill 20 bowls! with various flavors so we can eat an assortment of kinds!!! :D i'm super excited now!

as am i!! its gonna be good