Why Don't Girls Like Me?

[Here It Goes]

I know I will probably get dumped on in this thread, so whatever cheap shots you feel like throwing is fine, as long as at least someone has some reasonably solid advice.

Here's my issue: I'm not in any kind of desperate position, either for a relationship or for tail, but I have noticed in recent months that my ability to get girls to like me has noticeably declined, and I'm frankly a bit worried about it. I don't necessarily need girls to like me, but some good solid flirting can be fun (or at the very least, a confidence boost) and I haven't done any in awhile. In short, I feel like I'm losing my touch. And believe me, I had the touch.

Here is some background info:

a) No need to exaggerate, I am not Brad Pitt, but I am considered to be a really good looking guy. Girls have been known to use the word "gorgeous", but I've always felt that to be a stretch. I am content with my looks overall, and I know that girls are attracted to me physically, and barring a huge weight gain, probably always will be.

b) I am a funny, outgoing guy. Maybe too much so at times, and I feel like maybe that's part of the problem? Because I'm pretty sure girls can always see through that, but I feel at time like the only way to project myself is to be "out there", and witty, and sarcastic. Possibly something I should be working on.

c) I'm really nice. I'm considerate, gentlemanly, and generous, and always moreso with women, of course. I have a very likeable personality overall. Ha ha at least in person I do!


So, I guess my question is, why don't girls like me anymore? It's not that I'm shooting for the moon or anything, but I find it hard to get the attention of girls that I wouldn't have even bothered with before. Looks-wise, I'm out of their league, and most of them couldn't even be bothered to talk to me, and I'm really not sure why.

Sorry if this is a really lame thread topic, but both girls and guys are willing to throw whatever advice at me they want to. I don't mean for this issue to sound pathetic, but I would kinda like to turn things around for myself. It's nice to be liked.

Thanks for any advice you have.

[zion the lion]

I've been described as a "good girl with a naughty side" by every guy I know. I'm cute as a button (nobody can disagree with that), I'm a good amount of perky (not boobie-wise) and babies have a weird attachment to me All of those qualities lead to a great person and yet I've been technically single for a year now.

It's because something about you is fundamentally flawed in a way that you will never even really know about (but everyone else is aware) and you'll never be able to fix.

[mooshthedoosh]

I've been described as a "good girl with a naughty side" by every guy I know. I'm cute as a button (nobody can disagree with that), I'm a good amount of perky (not boobie-wise) and babies have a weird attachment to me All of those qualities lead to a great person and yet I've been technically single for a year now.

It's because something about you is fundamentally flawed in a way that you will never even really know about (but everyone else is aware) and you'll never be able to fix.
agreed. ashley boo butt <3

[bung]

c) I'm really nice. I'm considerate, gentlemanly, and generous, and always moreso with women, of course.


Here's your problem, most likely. Just do the opposite of this for awhile and watch the coozes soar straight for your c0ck.

[anthonydarko]

Perhaps the girls you are seeking are not the girls who would want anything to do with you. I'd suggest looking for different kinds of girls.

[framebyframe]

You sound like the perfect guy from the description. I don't understand...

[Here It Goes]

Perhaps the girls you are seeking are not the girls who would want anything to do with you. I'd suggest looking for different kinds of girls.

That's the thing though, I'm not looking for a girl at all, let alone a specific type. I've never really had to look for girls; they always flocked to me like the salmon of Capistrano. It's just not happening anymore, and I kind of miss it.

Moreso, I'm starting to get kind of worried that if I DO like a girl, I'm not going to be able to get her to notice me, or like me.


Here's your problem, most likely. Just do the opposite of this for awhile and watch the coozes soar straight for your c0ck.

Haha thanks for the advice, but not necessarily looking for coozes either.

[zion the lion]

agreed. ashley boo butt <3

And I have a cute butt. Life screwed me over.

[Here It Goes]

I've been described as a "good girl with a naughty side" by every guy I know. I'm cute as a button (nobody can disagree with that), I'm a good amount of perky (not boobie-wise) and babies have a weird attachment to me All of those qualities lead to a great person and yet I've been technically single for a year now.

It's because something about you is fundamentally flawed in a way that you will never even really know about (but everyone else is aware) and you'll never be able to fix.

Well you sound pretty good. HELLO!!! Just kidding.

I think even though I've gone and asked this whole huge question, I'm pretty sure it has something to do with self-confidence. I never had it, then I had lots of it for awhile, and now it seems to be gone again, which may be the problem. Although, I don't project myself as a loner or a weirdo, so I'm not sure how girls can tell.

[zion the lion]

Well you sound pretty good. HELLO!!! Just kidding.

I think even though I've gone and asked this whole huge question, I'm pretty sure it has something to do with self-confidence. I never had it, then I had lots of it for awhile, and now it seems to be gone again, which may be the problem. Although, I don't project myself as a loner or a weirdo, so I'm not sure how girls can tell.

I'll just state what we're both thinking...I'm a whole year above the age of consent, so you wont get in trouble haha.

[mooshthedoosh]

I'll just state what we're both thinking...I'm a whole year above the age of consent, so you wont get in trouble haha.
Ashleys cute butt is mine! :wave:

[jco3]

You described yourself quite fondly. Maybe, women feel as if there is no room for another lover in your life. That you, are enough, for you...

[youngz]

all the advice i can give is: nice guys finish last

[phil19]

you seem to really love yourself.

[Chemical Swirl]

Get off the internet, go to a bar, get drunk, and fuck.

[Here It Goes]

I'll just state what we're both thinking...I'm a whole year above the age of consent, so you wont get in trouble haha.

Oh ha I wasn't meaning that, but sure, if I was anywhere near Alaska, why not?

Anyhow, thanks for the advice, I think? Haha keep it coming everyone.

[Here It Goes]

You described yourself quite fondly. Maybe, women feel as if there is no room for another lover in your life. That you, are enough, for you...

you seem to really love yourself.

Umm...I'm pretty honest about myself I think. At the very least, I've got punctuation down pat.

[Derka Derka]

Here's your problem, most likely. Just do the opposite of this for awhile and watch the coozes soar straight for your c0ck.

hahaha
this

[phil19]

Umm...I'm pretty honest about myself I think. At the very least, I've got punctuation down pat.

fair enough.
try this line: "if i gave you some sugar, would you be like medicine and go down?"

[Here It Goes]

Well, I prefaced this whole thing by saying that I wasn't trying to get laid, but after some of these comments, it's pretty clear that some guys just really, really are.

[phil19]

you just want to flirt with girls, lead them on, and then not satisfy their needs? that sounds incredibly selfish to me

[CarryOn09]

if i were you i would lay off being over the top. sometimes its cute, but most of the time its not. being mellow is an underrated asset in the fellas. i prefer someone who can hold down a thoughtful conversation to mr-life-of-the-party

[xtheguiltyonex]

you sound lovely :)
I've had the same problem..I'm cute, determined, got a good head on my shoulders, and think I'm a pretty legit individual.

I think that nowadays the systems of people meeting people has totally changed how people interact (or don't know how to) and dating has become almost extinct (I'm speaking from the current college lifestyle I'm in). People are terrified of being vulnerable and don't realize that if you just approach somebody, chances are they want to talk. So if you are just confident and approach people it works out better. I can be reallyyyyyy shy but I've become less shy and just a "no bullshit attitude" with people. I still get idiots who ask for my number but decide not to call me or respond to me, but I've found just being confident has increased the amount of people I meet. I'm still stuck at step 2 where I meet great people but can't seem to get the followup hang out or date or whatever.
-Lauren

[Alex Martin]

You sound just like me last year. I stopped thinking about it/caring and turned into an asshole and couldn't keep chicks away from me. I've never been more miserable in my life. Don't worry about it, it'll happen.

[swirlofhues]

You described yourself quite fondly. Maybe, women feel as if there is no room for another lover in your life. That you, are enough, for you...

hahahaha, great reply.

[showstopper]

The way u have described yourself can be written only on paper and it's very rare to possess all those personalities.So i think u r one of those over confident dickhead ,so shut ur ass and try to behave as a cool person.

[colorisshame]

No need to exaggerate, I am not Brad Pitt, but I am considered to be a really good looking guy. Girls have been known to use the word "gorgeous"

lol

I've been described as a "good girl with a naughty side" by every guy I know. I'm cute as a button (nobody can disagree with that).

lol

[Samc1803]

Get off the internet, go to a bar, get drunk, and fuck.

Honestly, this. This game is only as hard as you make it.

[muzicislife31]

It shouldn't really matter if you can get a lot of girls to like you in general. You are probably thinking about it too much and trying too hard or something. Wait till you're actually interested in a girl and if you can't get her to like you there's a real problem. Otherwise you should just have fun, instead of needing girls to want you all the time.

[zion the lion]

lol


lol

because you know it's true?

[kbi the crowing]

I've been described as a "good girl with a naughty side" by every guy I know. I'm cute as a button (nobody can disagree with that), I'm a good amount of perky (not boobie-wise) and babies have a weird attachment to me All of those qualities lead to a great person and yet I've been technically single for a year now.

It's because something about you is fundamentally flawed in a way that you will never even really know about (but everyone else is aware) and you'll never be able to fix.

living in Alaska = not many guys :shrug:

[Samc1803]

I've never really had to look for girls; they always flocked to me like the salmon of Capistrano.

With similes like that, you should be tearin' it up. You've stumped me, sir.

[bNz719]

you sound lovely :)
I've had the same problem..I'm cute, determined, got a good head on my shoulders, and think I'm a pretty legit individual.

I think that nowadays the systems of people meeting people has totally changed how people interact (or don't know how to) and dating has become almost extinct (I'm speaking from the current college lifestyle I'm in). People are terrified of being vulnerable and don't realize that if you just approach somebody, chances are they want to talk. So if you are just confident and approach people it works out better. I can be reallyyyyyy shy but I've become less shy and just a "no bullshit attitude" with people. I still get idiots who ask for my number but decide not to call me or respond to me, but I've found just being confident has increased the amount of people I meet. I'm still stuck at step 2 where I meet great people but can't seem to get the followup hang out or date or whatever.
-Lauren

I have found your problem! Your head is supposed to be on your neck, not your shoulders! :idea:

[Samc1803]

I have found your problem! Your head is supposed to be on your neck, not your shoulders! :idea:

Hahaha. Shit, son.

[zion the lion]

living in Alaska = not many guys :shrug:

We get the military guys, and I think there might be more guys than girls here.

and we have more people than Vermont and Wyoming and D.C.

[Karyyk]

My first question is how old are you? Doesn't take much to go from relatively cute fun guy to creepy old coot.

[Roton7]

and we have more people than Vermont and Wyoming and D.C.

Yet you cover a much larger region of the world than even Texas. When it's crowded, people are all, like, bumpin into each other and whatnot... but Alaska's just not crowded

[zion the lion]

Yet you cover a much larger region of the world than even Texas. When it's crowded, people are all, like, bumpin into each other and whatnot... but Alaska's just not crowded

Its like one person per square mile...which is sad because it's so big. The nature to urban ratio is unbelievable. It's a shock to see so many towns so close together when I leave the state.

[Roton7]

Its like one person per square mile...which is sad because it's so big. The nature to urban ratio is unbelievable. It's a shock to see so many towns so close together when I leave the state.

I kinda like how Alaska sounds, and I would consider even moving there, but there's the whole temperature thing...

[makeshiftmind]

perhaps there's an odour problem you're not aware of

[bNz719]

Yes, are you currently using chocolate-scented Axe?
If so, we have found the problem.

[Sventhegreat]

Wow, I don't think you could have sucked your own cock anymore in that OP. Christ.

[Here It Goes]

With similes like that, you should be tearin' it up. You've stumped me, sir.

You don't watch many actually funny movies, do you?


Wow, I don't think you could have sucked your own cock anymore in that OP. Christ.

There's an awful lot of bitter people in here. Can the reasonably attractive people of this site not have a civil conversation? Where did the girl with the nice ass go?

[Here It Goes]

It shouldn't really matter if you can get a lot of girls to like you in general. You are probably thinking about it too much and trying too hard or something. Wait till you're actually interested in a girl and if you can't get her to like you there's a real problem. Otherwise you should just have fun, instead of needing girls to want you all the time.

This is a very good point. I guess I just miss that part of my life? But you are right.

[Jake Denning]

Chase hoes?

[Samc1803]

You don't watch many actually funny movies, do you?

Well, that was a joke + a touch of sarcasm. Now I agree with what Sventhegreat said. Come out of the closet, and your girl problems will disappear.

[ole4b]

I think you've confused absolutepunk with eHarmony. I honestly thought this was a joke at first. Get your fingers off the keyboard, change your huggies and go be a man. This is a site for music, not people who give a shit about another guys dry spell.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Well it seems that you seem to have a really high opinion of yourself (which there is nothing wrong with that) but perhaps people (especially girls) think you come off as arrogant even though you say that you are nice, kind, etc. (which I am not doubting).
And like others have said, perhaps you are going after the wrong kinds of girls. Or maybe the situation is just wrong.
All I know is that right now I am in kinda the reverse of your situation--I am dealing with guys actually finding me attractive and it's a bit odd for me since I've gone about 22 or so years of my life (I'm 23) without guys really paying attention to me and then last year with the group of friends I started hanging out with I made friends with two guys and then this summer I was hanging out with a dude but nothing came of it and then now I'm hanging out with a dude I met less than a month ago that seems to really like me, but I'm not sure if he likes me as a friend or as something else.
Anyways--enough about me, but I kinda thought it was relevant to the situation.
And it's kinda mean to say that lookswise these girls are out of your league--at least in my viewpoint. There are more important things in life than looks...but that's just me.

[bNz719]

I think you've confused absolutepunk with eHarmony. I honestly thought this was a joke at first. Get your fingers off the keyboard, change your huggies and go be a man. This is a site for music, not people who give a shit about another guys dry spell.

are you bashing on huggies? :smackhim:

[Here It Goes]

Well it seems that you seem to have a really high opinion of yourself (which there is nothing wrong with that) but perhaps people (especially girls) think you come off as arrogant even though you say that you are nice, kind, etc. (which I am not doubting).
And like others have said, perhaps you are going after the wrong kinds of girls. Or maybe the situation is just wrong.
All I know is that right now I am in kinda the reverse of your situation--I am dealing with guys actually finding me attractive and it's a bit odd for me since I've gone about 22 or so years of my life (I'm 23) without guys really paying attention to me and then last year with the group of friends I started hanging out with I made friends with two guys and then this summer I was hanging out with a dude but nothing came of it and then now I'm hanging out with a dude I met less than a month ago that seems to really like me, but I'm not sure if he likes me as a friend or as something else.
Anyways--enough about me, but I kinda thought it was relevant to the situation.
And it's kinda mean to say that lookswise these girls are out of your league--at least in my viewpoint. There are more important things in life than looks...but that's just me.

For starters, as I said, I'm content with my looks, but I don't think I'm all that. However, I know, for whatever reason, most girls do. For what it's worth, I'd trade whatever looks I do have for a healthier measure of self-assuredness.

I realize that there are more important things in life than looks, and I'd guess that part of my problem stems from the fact that most girls have a better handle on that than I do - as in, looks are probably more important to me than they are to the girls that I wish liked me. If that makes any sense. I'm probably more shallow than I'd like to admit, but at least I CAN admit it.

Anyhow, this thread is kinda disappointing. I was pretty honest about myself guys, and the legitimately helpful answers have been few and far between. Oh well. Guess I'll figure it out on my own.

[mooshthedoosh]

Dont worry about what bitches think about you. Do your own thing. If they like you, they like you.

[Auals]

I know I will probably get dumped on in this thread, so whatever cheap shots you feel like throwing is fine, as long as at least someone has some reasonably solid advice.

Here's my issue: I'm not in any kind of desperate position, either for a relationship or for tail, but I have noticed in recent months that my ability to get girls to like me has noticeably declined, and I'm frankly a bit worried about it. I don't necessarily need girls to like me, but some good solid flirting can be fun (or at the very least, a confidence boost) and I haven't done any in awhile. In short, I feel like I'm losing my touch. And believe me, I had the touch.

Here is some background info:

a) No need to exaggerate, I am not Brad Pitt, but I am considered to be a really good looking guy. Girls have been known to use the word "gorgeous", but I've always felt that to be a stretch. I am content with my looks overall, and I know that girls are attracted to me physically, and barring a huge weight gain, probably always will be.

b) I am a funny, outgoing guy. Maybe too much so at times, and I feel like maybe that's part of the problem? Because I'm pretty sure girls can always see through that, but I feel at time like the only way to project myself is to be "out there", and witty, and sarcastic. Possibly something I should be working on.

c) I'm really nice. I'm considerate, gentlemanly, and generous, and always moreso with women, of course. I have a very likeable personality overall. Ha ha at least in person I do!


So, I guess my question is, why don't girls like me anymore? It's not that I'm shooting for the moon or anything, but I find it hard to get the attention of girls that I wouldn't have even bothered with before. Looks-wise, I'm out of their league, and most of them couldn't even be bothered to talk to me, and I'm really not sure why.

Sorry if this is a really lame thread topic, but both girls and guys are willing to throw whatever advice at me they want to. I don't mean for this issue to sound pathetic, but I would kinda like to turn things around for myself. It's nice to be liked.

Thanks for any advice you have.

To me it sounds like your issue is where you're looking. The girls who you're around are probably looking for a different kind of guy. Branch out. It'll help :)

[bstthngunvrhd7]

For starters, as I said, I'm content with my looks, but I don't think I'm all that. However, I know, for whatever reason, most girls do. For what it's worth, I'd trade whatever looks I do have for a healthier measure of self-assuredness.

I realize that there are more important things in life than looks, and I'd guess that part of my problem stems from the fact that most girls have a better handle on that than I do - as in, looks are probably more important to me than they are to the girls that I wish liked me. If that makes any sense. I'm probably more shallow than I'd like to admit, but at least I CAN admit it.

Anyhow, this thread is kinda disappointing. I was pretty honest about myself guys, and the legitimately helpful answers have been few and far between. Oh well. Guess I'll figure it out on my own.

Did you ever think that maybe the girls you go after are in relationships or are just simply not interested in being in relationships? Just a thought.
Where do you try and meet the girls that you want to go out with though? Just wondering...and how do you approach them, or do you wait for them to approach you?

[rollerman4221]

Anyhow, this thread is kinda disappointing. I was pretty honest about myself guys, and the legitimately helpful answers have been few and far between. Oh well. Guess I'll figure it out on my own.

I don't see what kinda advice you were looking for making this thread, your OP basically said im the shit but I can't meet a girl. Life sucks ull find one eventually.

But my advice actually is go to bars and get drunk more often, and the girls that you take home but you dont sleep with you can date, everyone else just forget about

[jco3]

For starters, as I said, I'm content with my looks, but I don't think I'm all that. However, I know, for whatever reason, most girls do. For what it's worth, I'd trade whatever looks I do have for a healthier measure of self-assuredness.

I realize that there are more important things in life than looks, and I'd guess that part of my problem stems from the fact that most girls have a better handle on that than I do - as in, looks are probably more important to me than they are to the girls that I wish liked me. If that makes any sense. I'm probably more shallow than I'd like to admit, but at least I CAN admit it.

Anyhow, this thread is kinda disappointing. I was pretty honest about myself guys, and the legitimately helpful answers have been few and far between. Oh well. Guess I'll figure it out on my own.

I think your problem is this:

You're a good looking guy, who used to "have the touch" - and, trust me, you were a stud. Gah, what a man-slut you were. What you need to do is stop dwelling on the past, and get your panzy little ass out on those streets and start rounding up some cheap prostitutes!! Who's with me!?!???!!

[jco3]

hahahaha, great reply.

aww! Thanks!

[Nick Le]

I have found your problem! Your head is supposed to be on your neck, not your shoulders! :idea:

Thank you for making me laugh.

[bladerdude360]

This thread is kind of a bust.

[katiebaima]

I DUNNO MAN. why dont boys like me??? maybe we have hit our plateau

[Ryzenfall]

So, the summary is:
You seem to have been the man in your world of girls love me for no reason, good thing I don't like any of em or we'd be in a pickle situation, heh heh heh. Time passes. What?? They no longer can be cited as using the word "gorgeous" on me, or any other like-minded adjectives for that matter! They are no longer flocking to me and this is something I have taken notice to. Someone help me! Someone help, because I do not understand!

It sounds like:
Those girls grew up.

[Reaver]

It sounds like:
Those girls grew up.
this.

and, get some confidence. at your age you should know what you want .

[Paulb-182]

Here's your problem, most likely. Just do the opposite of this for awhile and watch the coozes soar straight for your c0ck.

This is exactly what the OP needs to do.

Works for me every time :-)

[brokenwings]

i don't want to be an asshole, but yeah, this thread is totally dumb. you describe yourself as basically the perfect guy. so how should any of us know why girls don't seem to like you anymore? perhaps if we hung out with you in real life for a few weeks, we'd be able to tell. but just through a fucking paragraph on the internet? seriously? and for how long have you had this feeling? 2 days? if you've been lucky with girls in the past, why shouldn't you be in the future? relax, man, and get your self-confidence from something other than girls.

[timb89]

And I have a cute butt. Life screwed me over.

guys love that.

[timb89]

respect to the original post for the bravery to post this.

i'm sure your a cool dude. but simple fact: girls are insane. so you pretty much gotta be lucky to find a cool girl who likes you back.

it's just the way the world works unfortunately.

[xmicxcorex]

Get off the internet, go to a bar, get drunk, and fuck.


yup. this.
and this is the almost married guy agreeing with that advice (not stating that i would do it at this point in my life, mind you)...but you really just need to cut the nice guy bullshit and be a dick. it worked for me. and still is...the Mrs. and myself are doing quite well thanks to my genuine asshole state-of-mind


Oh...I should note, however, I have the fortune of being bi-polar, so I can't really control when I'm a dick or not (though it normally hits worst when I wake up and goes away after a couple cigarettes)....and she's just had to learn how to cope.

[BrennanHickson]

You sound like the perfect guy from the description. I don't understand...
Every male would describe themselves with exaltation, as if they're all "the perfect guys."

[Jennurna Gray]

I know I will probably get dumped on in this thread, so whatever cheap shots you feel like throwing is fine, as long as at least someone has some reasonably solid advice.

Here's my issue: I'm not in any kind of desperate position, either for a relationship or for tail, but I have noticed in recent months that my ability to get girls to like me has noticeably declined, and I'm frankly a bit worried about it. I don't necessarily need girls to like me, but some good solid flirting can be fun (or at the very least, a confidence boost) and I haven't done any in awhile. In short, I feel like I'm losing my touch. And believe me, I had the touch.

Here is some background info:

a) No need to exaggerate, I am not Brad Pitt, but I am considered to be a really good looking guy. Girls have been known to use the word "gorgeous", but I've always felt that to be a stretch. I am content with my looks overall, and I know that girls are attracted to me physically, and barring a huge weight gain, probably always will be.

b) I am a funny, outgoing guy. Maybe too much so at times, and I feel like maybe that's part of the problem? Because I'm pretty sure girls can always see through that, but I feel at time like the only way to project myself is to be "out there", and witty, and sarcastic. Possibly something I should be working on.

c) I'm really nice. I'm considerate, gentlemanly, and generous, and always moreso with women, of course. I have a very likeable personality overall. Ha ha at least in person I do!


So, I guess my question is, why don't girls like me anymore? It's not that I'm shooting for the moon or anything, but I find it hard to get the attention of girls that I wouldn't have even bothered with before. Looks-wise, I'm out of their league, and most of them couldn't even be bothered to talk to me, and I'm really not sure why.

Sorry if this is a really lame thread topic, but both girls and guys are willing to throw whatever advice at me they want to. I don't mean for this issue to sound pathetic, but I would kinda like to turn things around for myself. It's nice to be liked.

Thanks for any advice you have.
there's nothing wrong with you, as far as i can tell. you seem like the kind of guy that i'd go for!
i had never had much confidence, either, but someone once told me that if you don't have confidence, you need to fake it.
even if you don't believe in your self, pretend that you do. it's worked very well for me.
wish you luck, even though you won't need it, handsome. :}

[zachff]

You sound like the perfect guy from the description. I don't understand...

you seem to really love yourself.

You described yourself quite fondly. Maybe, women feel as if there is no room for another lover in your life. That you, are enough, for you...

The way u have described yourself can be written only on paper and it's very rare to possess all those personalities.So i think u r one of those over confident dickhead ,so shut ur ass and try to behave as a cool person.

Wow, I don't think you could have sucked your own cock anymore in that OP. Christ.

All of these, especially the last one.

[Yellowcard2006]

There is no hope. Everyone is either alone or about to break-up. :sadangel:

[ReignofFiction]

I gotta say I find it hilarious that pretty boy is crying about girls not liking him anymore, you seem pretty full of yourself...so I'd say work on that.

[geebee889]

Well you sound pretty good. HELLO!!! Just kidding.

I think even though I've gone and asked this whole huge question, I'm pretty sure it has something to do with self-confidence. I never had it, then I had lots of it for awhile, and now it seems to be gone again, which may be the problem. Although, I don't project myself as a loner or a weirdo, so I'm not sure how girls can tell.


I have pretty much the same problem. I'm a really shy person, but I open up to people fairly quickly. I notice that guys don't start to take that sort of interest until they know me really well, mainly because I actually talk to them at that point. But before that, I don't ever feel like a guy looks at me in any way, and it's pretty discouraging. It just makes my confidence go down even more than it was before.

[OnaedInSpace]

grow some balls. You said you dont want a woman, you dont have a woman, PROBLEM SOLVED?

[ReadyForAction]

The problem is that you started caring about whether they like you or not. Once you genuinely stop caring about whether these girls are into you or not everything is going to change.

[kbi the crowing]

We get the military guys, and I think there might be more guys than girls here.

and we have more people than Vermont and Wyoming and D.C.

but you're a bit bigger than those other states, so people would be more spread out wouldn't it?
and military guys don't sound like someone in for a long term thing if their just stationed there for a bit

[Here It Goes]

Much as I hate to admit it, I think after reading some of these posts I have realized something about myself in regards to the original post. If I have been treating some girls like I was out of their league, then that's not being a gentleman at all. For the most part, I should be treating girls all the same, and girls probably notice it when you don't. So maybe that's something I should work on.

To be honest, the whole issue sounds pretty conceited from where I look at it now.

[AloneInTheDark]

Sounds like you put yourself out there too much, which you kind of described already. I do enjoy a person with confidence and the fact that they can be the life of the party, but I also like to see that they have self control, and sometimes they can just watch and relax. You seem to lack any sort of mystery. What fun is chasing someone when they show it all up front and have nothing to dig deeper for?

[Waldorf]

Much as I hate to admit it, I think after reading some of these posts I have realized something about myself in regards to the original post. If I have been treating some girls like I was out of their league, then that's not being a gentleman at all. For the most part, I should be treating girls all the same, and girls probably notice it when you don't. So maybe that's something I should work on.

To be honest, the whole issue sounds pretty conceited from where I look at it now.

:-|

[stfu_man]

You'll meet someone when you're not looking and least expect it. It happened to me.

[Mibabalou]

You'll meet someone when you're not looking and least expect it. It happened to me.

phillly

[stfu_man]

phillly

Philly what?! My icon?

[Mibabalou]

Philly what?! My icon?

yeah

love it

[AndrewIcex]

Do not be so worried sir, it'll come, it'll come.

[stfu_man]

yeah

love it

Thanks! Hilarious show. Disappointed at the season premiere this season though. Didn't have me laughing as much.

[DWill]

c) I'm really nice. I'm considerate, gentlemanly, and generous, and always moreso with women, of course. I have a very likeable personality overall. Ha ha at least in person I do!



I know that some people have said that this is a "bad" thing, but trust me, no it isn't. Any worthwhile girl will not stand to be treated like dirt. I went dateless for like 5 months, and then I tried this routine with a girl that I dated once before and that I really liked, but the only long-term relationship she was ever in was with the douche of all douches. So I tried this routine with her for a while, and I have to say that I kept getting tackled in the backfield for a loss at each down with this one.

Just be considerate and gentleman-like, and one fantastic girl is eventually going to like you for who you are. Otherwise you might end up dating what you were trying to be to get a date. An inconsiderate bitch.

[Sic Transit Zeb]

That's the thing though, I'm not looking for a girl at all, let alone a specific type. I've never really had to look for girls; they always flocked to me like the salmon of Capistrano. It's just not happening anymore, and I kind of miss it.

Moreso, I'm starting to get kind of worried that if I DO like a girl, I'm not going to be able to get her to notice me, or like me.




Haha thanks for the advice, but not necessarily looking for coozes either.


Idk man. Not trying to be a dick but maybe you're too confident. Girls love confidence but it's a fine line. They also love a challenge, if they feel like they are not worth your time, they won't spend a minute of their own time. I say try to not be as cocky, add a bit more modesty; however, don't be a pussy either. Try to find the right mix.

[proventimes]

Talk shit to a girl and she will be into you .
Hit a girl and she will want to move in with you.

[Here It Goes]

Sounds like you put yourself out there too much, which you kind of described already. I do enjoy a person with confidence and the fact that they can be the life of the party, but I also like to see that they have self control, and sometimes they can just watch and relax. You seem to lack any sort of mystery. What fun is chasing someone when they show it all up front and have nothing to dig deeper for?

True statement also.

[The Summer Ends]

http://indiapolitics2009.files.wordpress.c om/2009/06/girl-friend1.jpg

[Sventhegreat]

Haha that graph is awesome.

[zion the lion]

I kinda like how Alaska sounds, and I would consider even moving there, but there's the whole temperature thing...

It's warm in Anchorage, there isnt even any snow yet, and it's oddly still in the mid 50s most days. It's almost disgusting, usually by now it's in the 20s, and there's usually snow by now which covers up all the nasty icky leaves that are on the ground. How the hell can someone trick or treat without the luxury of having snow and ice on the ground to make pulling the babies on the sled not look crazy? Bullshit.

but its nice...whatever.

guys love that.

flat tiny ass >>> cute butt on a neurotic girl with "crazy mood swings"

apparently that's how it works in most guys minds. People need to get their priorities straight and realize that I'm a catch.

but you're a bit bigger than those other states, so people would be more spread out wouldn't it?
and military guys don't sound like someone in for a long term thing if their just stationed there for a bit

But if they're here it means they're isolated from their families (usually), which means they'll get lonely, and I'll be there to snuggle when they do.

[AloneInTheDark]

Idk man. Not trying to be a dick but maybe you're too confident. Girls love confidence but it's a fine line. They also love a challenge, if they feel like they are not worth your time, they won't spend a minute of their own time. I say try to not be as cocky, add a bit more modesty; however, don't be a pussy either. Try to find the right mix.

Good advice...do you really want to be with a girl who lets herself be treated like shit?

Take it from a man who seeks men...confidence is key, a gentleman can never be overlooked, but it's still nice to feel like theres something to dig deeper for.

[caress me down]

You sound ridiculously conceited.
And that's probably why girls don't like you anymore

[Chancetobe]

I rarely say this. But I think a picture really is required to make any sort of judgment about this post.

Also, in looking at your age, I know you aren't old, but, it is possible that by your age women are looking for different things. They probably want to start settling down, and with as cocky as you seem, you probably don't seem like the one to do that with.

[kbi the crowing]

But if they're here it means they're isolated from their families (usually), which means they'll get lonely, and I'll be there to snuggle when they do.

true, but I said long term relationship

[zion the lion]

true, but I said long term relationship

If they get lonely enough, and I'm around enough to comfort them, they'll get caught up in the "I'd leave everything behind for her" phase and propose...marriage = long term.

[kbi the crowing]

If they get lonely enough, and I'm around enough to comfort them, they'll get caught up in the "I'd leave everything behind for her" phase and propose...marriage = long term.

oi... haha
in your previous posts it didn't seem like it was anything very serious

[zion the lion]

oi... haha
in your previous posts it didn't seem like it was anything very serious

Most guys I snuggle with know about my 8 year plan, so they know that if there's any real snuggling going on, it's serious.

[kbi the crowing]

Most guys I snuggle with know about my 8 year plan, so they know that if there's any real snuggling going on, it's serious.

you have a plan, eh?

[zion the lion]

you have a plan, eh?

A slightly detailed, very amazing plan. And if it doesnt go perfectly, I'll cry myself to death.

[kbi the crowing]

A slightly detailed, very amazing plan. And if it doesnt go perfectly, I'll cry myself to death.

seems slightly unhealthy

[takemyhand]

you're also very humble!

[DejaNew]

Hmm..... maybe girls can't see the real you through all of that cockiness and self-adoring. "Don't get me wrong, I'm not Brad Pitt, I'm hotter. People call me gorgeous. And I'm really nice, have an amazing body- I'm just the perfect guy." How often do you find yourself sitting at home on a Friday night staring at yourself in the mirror and wondering why girls never talk to you?

[zion the lion]

seems slightly unhealthy

It's so healthy, its amazingly healthy.

see, in 3 months I'm quitting high school and getting my diploma. Then I'll go to nursing school with my aunt Gigi next semester. I have a fall back guy who I know for a fact will marry me by the time I'm 20, and I absolutely have to have a kid at the age of 24. That's pretty healthy for just the basics.

[.invisible ink.]

1) post a pic so we can judge you
2) stop using bad similies like the "salmon of Capistrano" - uh darling? it's actually the swallows of Capistrano. I swear.
3) stop hanging out with people that stroke your ego and make you believe you're hot shit. You might be good looking but girls love guys that are hot and don't realize it. Be humble, as others have stated.
4) Be a bit shy/mysterious. Chicks dig it.

[DejaNew]

http://indiapolitics2009.files.wordpress.c om/2009/06/girl-friend1.jpg
Hahahahahahaaha.

[Sic Transit Zeb]

1) post a pic so we can judge you
2) stop using bad similies like the "salmon of Capistrano" - uh darling? it's actually the swallows of Capistrano. I swear.
3) stop hanging out with people that stroke your ego and make you believe you're hot shit. You might be good looking but girls love guys that are hot and don't realize it. Be humble, as others have stated.
4) Be a bit shy/mysterious. Chicks dig it.

It's from Dumb and Dumber.

[.invisible ink.]

It's from Dumb and Dumber.

yeah, well it worked. it certainly made him sound Dumb (and Dumber).

[Sic Transit Zeb]

yeah, well it worked. it certainly made him sound Dumb (and Dumber).

hahahaha burrrrrn.

[chassmariee]

Your lame dude.

[Cameronisonfire]

You need confidence man, confidence.

[bucket777]

Well you sound pretty good. HELLO!!! Just kidding.

I think even though I've gone and asked this whole huge question, I'm pretty sure it has something to do with self-confidence. I never had it, then I had lots of it for awhile, and now it seems to be gone again, which may be the problem. Although, I don't project myself as a loner or a weirdo, so I'm not sure how girls can tell.
Dude girl and guys can both sense if someone has a strong confidence, if your confident in your identity some ugly dudes bros can get some :out of league" gals.

[shes.a.ghost]

Just buy some Ed Hardy shirts and offer girls drinks.

[jon.]

You need confidence man, confidence.
Yes, confidence. Confidence and date rape.

[Here It Goes]

Holy hell, there are a lot of jealous ugly people on this site. Thank you all for misconstruing almost everything I've said in this thread, if not downright misquoting me.

I don't know who's dumber: a) Me for thinking that anything productive would come from this conversation, b) The umpteen garden gnomes who've been putting words in my mouth for the last 7 pages, or c) The people of this site who wouldn't know a quote from Dumb and fucking Dumber if it hit them in the face.

[GenerationZer0]

maybe stop talking about how great you are. just might help

[concernedparent]

No one could really evaluate your situation unless they met and talked to you and saw you interact with girls. Clearly with your self-description it seems like you should be doing fine, so obviously there's an X factor that can't be translated over the internet.

Or maybe you're just not trying hard enough. As a guy, it's not always the best bet to just wait for girls to come to you.

[jmirand1]

I know I will probably get dumped on in this thread, so whatever cheap shots you feel like throwing is fine, as long as at least someone has some reasonably solid advice.

Here's my issue: I'm not in any kind of desperate position, either for a relationship or for tail, but I have noticed in recent months that my ability to get girls to like me has noticeably declined, and I'm frankly a bit worried about it. I don't necessarily need girls to like me, but some good solid flirting can be fun (or at the very least, a confidence boost) and I haven't done any in awhile. In short, I feel like I'm losing my touch. And believe me, I had the touch.

Here is some background info:

a) No need to exaggerate, I am not Brad Pitt, but I am considered to be a really good looking guy. Girls have been known to use the word "gorgeous", but I've always felt that to be a stretch. I am content with my looks overall, and I know that girls are attracted to me physically, and barring a huge weight gain, probably always will be.

b) I am a funny, outgoing guy. Maybe too much so at times, and I feel like maybe that's part of the problem? Because I'm pretty sure girls can always see through that, but I feel at time like the only way to project myself is to be "out there", and witty, and sarcastic. Possibly something I should be working on.

c) I'm really nice. I'm considerate, gentlemanly, and generous, and always moreso with women, of course. I have a very likeable personality overall. Ha ha at least in person I do!


So, I guess my question is, why don't girls like me anymore? It's not that I'm shooting for the moon or anything, but I find it hard to get the attention of girls that I wouldn't have even bothered with before. Looks-wise, I'm out of their league, and most of them couldn't even be bothered to talk to me, and I'm really not sure why.

Sorry if this is a really lame thread topic, but both girls and guys are willing to throw whatever advice at me they want to. I don't mean for this issue to sound pathetic, but I would kinda like to turn things around for myself. It's nice to be liked.

Thanks for any advice you have.

Okay, here's my advice:
a) Girls don't really care about looks at all as long as you're not morbidly obese or horrendous looking. Make sure you dress well and look your best, but "gorgeous" looks alone won't attract any girls.
b) This is good. Always be funny and outgoing...but make sure you're funny in an obnoxious, asshole way, not a nice guy way. Avoid self-deprecating humor (they say you should be funny, but not a "clown.") You say you're sarcastic...make sure some of that biting sarcasm is directed at the girl you're after in a mean way. Basically, be funny, but be a funny asshole.
c) This is where your problem lies. You know how girls always say there are no nice guys out there when there obviously are? Well, what they mean is that there are no nice guys out there that they'd like to date. See, girls are attracted to assholes, everyone knows that, but for some reason girls always expect the assholes to suddenly turn "nice" whenever they enter a longterm relationship. You have to start being a dick. Be assertive. Only care about your self. All of a sudden, girls will start noticing you a lot more than before when you were holding doors for them and buying them drinks. Plus, as a naturally "nice" and "considerate" guy, you have an edge over the assholes that girls tend to go for, because once the initial courtship is over, you can start being nice to the girls and they'll want to fall in love.

Also, I'm bothered by your statement "it's nice to be liked." Girls are most attracted to guys that don't give a fuck what others think of them. Basically, I'm giving you the classic how-to-get-girls advice...be an asshole!

[11:11]

Maybe you whine too much?

[jmirand1]

Also, ignore any girls that tell you they like nice/considerate/shy/quiet guys. See who their boyfriends are and I bet they don't fit this description.

[GuitarR0cker1]

I ask myself this question a lot. I really doubt it will ever be answered.

[jmirand1]

I know that some people have said that this is a "bad" thing, but trust me, no it isn't. Any worthwhile girl will not stand to be treated like dirt. I went dateless for like 5 months, and then I tried this routine with a girl that I dated once before and that I really liked, but the only long-term relationship she was ever in was with the douche of all douches. So I tried this routine with her for a while, and I have to say that I kept getting tackled in the backfield for a loss at each down with this one.

Just be considerate and gentleman-like, and one fantastic girl is eventually going to like you for who you are. Otherwise you might end up dating what you were trying to be to get a date. An inconsiderate bitch.

One fantastic girl may eventually like you for who you are. That's true. But, while waiting for this fantastic girl to enter your life, you're gonna want to get laid, and, in that case, you're gonna have to learn how to be a dick.

[cdoyle7]

Holy hell, there are a lot of jealous ugly people on this site. Thank you all for misconstruing almost everything I've said in this thread, if not downright misquoting me.

I don't know who's dumber: a) Me for thinking that anything productive would come from this conversation, b) The umpteen garden gnomes who've been putting words in my mouth for the last 7 pages, or c) The people of this site who wouldn't know a quote from Dumb and fucking Dumber if it hit them in the face.


well based on your first post it sounds like you have a lot going for you. sometimes you may perceive yourself differently than others, and the only reason i am saying that is cause you actually sound nice and i dont get why girls wouldnt go for you. however dont listen to this whole be an asshole thing. its not about being an asshole, its about not being all over a girl or possessive, just dont be so easily accessible.

there are plenty of normal, good looking, nice people who are alone out there, just a part of life.

[DWill]

One fantastic girl may eventually like you for who you are. That's true. But, while waiting for this fantastic girl to enter your life, you're gonna want to get laid, and, in that case, you're gonna have to learn how to be a dick.

I'd rather avoid hurting some girl, just because I wanted to stick my dick in a vagina. Trust me, it's not the most fulfilling feeling in the world.

And sure, there are girls that are looking for just the same thing, but I find girls that are just looking to get f***ed very unappealing and dangerous (rather keep my dick clean). Any girl who would sleep with a guy before a month or two, is just making a move I don't respect. You have to find out who the other person is before you add the complications of sex into the mix.

Statistics tend to support my argument, couples who wait at least 2 months before having sex tend to have relationships that aren't based on sex. Sure, you could be the "mans man" and say that that's a wonderful relationship to be in in your opinion (and it might be). However, the longest lasting and most fulfilling relationship I've ever been was where we waited.

Plus, when that "fantastic girl" comes along, you don't want to have a bunch of mounts in your closet. Girls looking for serious relationships tend to avoid the man of a thousand pussies.

[thebestkylever]

for starters, stop referring to girls/sex as "tail."

[sodamnclever]

Okay, here's my advice:
a) Girls don't really care about looks at all as long as you're not morbidly obese or horrendous looking. Make sure you dress well and look your best, but "gorgeous" looks alone won't attract any girls.
b) This is good. Always be funny and outgoing...but make sure you're funny in an obnoxious, asshole way, not a nice guy way. Avoid self-deprecating humor (they say you should be funny, but not a "clown.") You say you're sarcastic...make sure some of that biting sarcasm is directed at the girl you're after in a mean way. Basically, be funny, but be a funny asshole.
c) This is where your problem lies. You know how girls always say there are no nice guys out there when there obviously are? Well, what they mean is that there are no nice guys out there that they'd like to date. See, girls are attracted to assholes, everyone knows that, but for some reason girls always expect the assholes to suddenly turn "nice" whenever they enter a longterm relationship. You have to start being a dick. Be assertive. Only care about your self. All of a sudden, girls will start noticing you a lot more than before when you were holding doors for them and buying them drinks. Plus, as a naturally "nice" and "considerate" guy, you have an edge over the assholes that girls tend to go for, because once the initial courtship is over, you can start being nice to the girls and they'll want to fall in love.

Also, I'm bothered by your statement "it's nice to be liked." Girls are most attracted to guys that don't give a fuck what others think of them. Basically, I'm giving you the classic how-to-get-girls advice...be an asshole!

He pretty much covered everything I would say.

Just don't be a huge asshole. I'm a huge 'first impression' girl, and as much as girls like the asshole type, you don't want to ruin it.

[jco3]

He pretty much covered everything I would say.

Just don't be a huge asshole. I'm a huge 'first impression' girl, and as much as girls like the asshole type, you don't want to ruin it.

I'm a huge last impression type of guy...

[yves.]

well based on your first post it sounds like you have a lot going for you. sometimes you may perceive yourself differently than others, and the only reason i am saying that is cause you actually sound nice and i dont get why girls wouldnt go for you. however dont listen to this whole be an asshole thing. its not about being an asshole, its about not being all over a girl or possessive, just dont be so easily accessible.

there are plenty of normal, good looking, nice people who are alone out there, just a part of life.

this. it's a COMPLETE turn off.

[voncorn]

this. it's a COMPLETE turn off.

Truth is, I became a huge dick to this one girl who loved me to death, I stopped talking to her six months ago, and yet she STILL tries to get ahold of me every so often. Of course, I continue being a dick to her because I don't like her, I ignore and tell her to go away, yet she keeps coming back to me. She's turned on by my "masculine" behavior of treating her like dirt, and yet I don't want anything to do with her. I didn't believe it for a while, but I think girls really do like the asshole type.

[Roton7]

I don't know who's dumber: a) Me for thinking that anything productive would come from this conversation, b) The umpteen garden gnomes who've been putting words in my mouth for the last 7 pages, or c) The people of this site who wouldn't know a quote from Dumb and fucking Dumber if it hit them in the face.

There you go.

[cdoyle7]

Truth is, I became a huge dick to this one girl who loved me to death, I stopped talking to her six months ago, and yet she STILL tries to get ahold of me every so often. Of course, I continue being a dick to her because I don't like her, I ignore and tell her to go away, yet she keeps coming back to me. She's turned on by my "masculine" behavior of treating her like dirt, and yet I don't want anything to do with her. I didn't believe it for a while, but I think girls really do like the asshole type.


a lot of girls are insecure, so if your a dick to them, then think there is something wrong with them. girls might like a guy who isnt obsessed with them or doesnt treat them like a princess or some shit in the beginning, but it is insecurities that keeps girls in a relationship or going back to someone who treated them poorly. thats just my opinion of my relationships and a lot of girls around me

[limepomegranate]

just chill. you're probably pulling off some very stressed/desperate vibes. i got that just from your post. so just chilllllllllllll and you'll get some/get a gf.

[.invisible ink.]

Holy hell, there are a lot of jealous ugly people on this site. Thank you all for misconstruing almost everything I've said in this thread, if not downright misquoting me.

I don't know who's dumber: a) Me for thinking that anything productive would come from this conversation, b) The umpteen garden gnomes who've been putting words in my mouth for the last 7 pages, or c) The people of this site who wouldn't know a quote from Dumb and fucking Dumber if it hit them in the face.

the fact that you think you're better than the people on this site and assume that because they gave you advice that you disagree with that they are all jealous, garden gnomes makes you come off like even more of a conceited asshole than you did to begin with. maybe you should step back and realize that most of us who read this thread have nothing to gain or lose by giving you advice, so just for a moment try shutting the fuck up and being grateful that a few people in this world are willing to waste even an instance of their time on you and your "problems".

[limepomegranate]

I'd rather avoid hurting some girl, just because I wanted to stick my dick in a vagina. Trust me, it's not the most fulfilling feeling in the world.

And sure, there are girls that are looking for just the same thing, but I find girls that are just looking to get f***ed very unappealing and dangerous (rather keep my dick clean). Any girl who would sleep with a guy before a month or two, is just making a move I don't respect. You have to find out who the other person is before you add the complications of sex into the mix.

Statistics tend to support my argument, couples who wait at least 2 months before having sex tend to have relationships that aren't based on sex. Sure, you could be the "mans man" and say that that's a wonderful relationship to be in in your opinion (and it might be). However, the longest lasting and most fulfilling relationship I've ever been was where we waited.

Plus, when that "fantastic girl" comes along, you don't want to have a bunch of mounts in your closet. Girls looking for serious relationships tend to avoid the man of a thousand pussies.
ok A. my boyfriend and i didn't wait and our relationship is not just about sex. we don't always have sex everyday sometimes we go 3-5 days depending on how we are. sometimes we're comfortable just hanging out and other times we want to fuck.
B. you're saying that because of the above you don't respect me now? i don't see why you would not respect me anymore because i want to have sex with my boyfriend. i want to make him feel good and he wants to make me feel good. what is so wrong with that?

[limepomegranate]

Just buy some Ed Hardy shirts and offer girls drinks.
i love your avatar! so cute!
Holy hell, there are a lot of jealous ugly people on this site. Thank you all for misconstruing almost everything I've said in this thread, if not downright misquoting me.

I don't know who's dumber: a) Me for thinking that anything productive would come from this conversation, b) The umpteen garden gnomes who've been putting words in my mouth for the last 7 pages, or c) The people of this site who wouldn't know a quote from Dumb and fucking Dumber if it hit them in the face.
how is not knowing a quote from Dumb and Dumber make me stupid? That movie is so stupid and lame and I had/have no desire to see it. And why don't you make your profile public so we can see what you look like. Do that before you call us all ugly. I'm getting seriously pissed off.

[DWill]

ok A. my boyfriend and i didn't wait and our relationship is not just about sex. we don't always have sex everyday sometimes we go 3-5 days depending on how we are. sometimes we're comfortable just hanging out and other times we want to fuck.
B. you're saying that because of the above you don't respect me now? i don't see why you would not respect me anymore because i want to have sex with my boyfriend. i want to make him feel good and he wants to make me feel good. what is so wrong with that?

A. Statistically, you are more likely to have a relationship that is based on lust (sex, oral, etc.), if you don't wait about 2 months. I've read this many of times, I'm also a firm believer. But that doesn't mean it will always turn out that way. I never said it was a definite, only that it was more likely...

Also, you might be in denial. I know quite a few ladies (some are friends, some I've dated), that were very much in denial about the amount of sex or the real meaning behind their relationship. If you have sex with your partner nearly every time you are around each other, then yes, your relationship is based on sex. Sometimes girls confuse this with love. My best friend was in a relationship like that. She tells me over and over again that she just kept justifying to herself that he loved her and that if sex was making him happy then she was doing the right thing. Sometimes when you're in love with someone you are so close to them that you can't see the forest for the trees.

And no I'm not saying you're in denial... I'm just giving you food for thought. Heck it hasn't just been females who have had this delusion, I know some males have thought they were in a relationship that was so much more than coitus just to find out they were wrong.

B. I never said that I didn't respect you. Only that you had made a decision that I didn't respect.

i want to make him feel good and he wants to make me feel good. what is so wrong with that?

Exactly the same line I've heard so many times... but from people who were having a post-break up moment of realization.

Once you simplify sex into a matter of pleasuring each other... you have made that fatal error.

[shes.a.ghost]

i love your avatar! so cute!

how is not knowing a quote from Dumb and Dumber make me stupid? That movie is so stupid and lame and I had/have no desire to see it. And why don't you make your profile public so we can see what you look like. Do that before you call us all ugly. I'm getting seriously pissed off.I mean, you could easily steal it and use it... but that wouldn't be very nice.

[ted is lying]

have you tried axe.
http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j84/MissyKiko/BowChickaBowWow.jpg

[Br&nizzle]

Have you considered whether or not you're boring? Maybe you try too hard? Maybe you make it too easy to get in, so people who appreciate the chase become uninterested?

All things to consider.
I can't see your picture so I have no idea if girls have been lying to you about being "gorgeous".

[ohioforlovers]

I have always had the problem where I seem to only get attention when I am not single, but when I am, guys want nothing but sex from me, and I'm not about that, so I just stay lonely :(. You make yourself sound like the perfect guy. Do you just hang out with girls that are really good friends of yours or do you branch out and try to meet new girls?

[kemichels]

I have always had the problem where I seem to only get attention when I am not single, but when I am, guys want nothing but sex from me, and I'm not about that, so I just stay lonely :(. You make yourself sound like the perfect guy. Do you just hang out with girls that are really good friends of yours or do you branch out and try to meet new girls?

Probably because you have a username that implies you like Hawthorne Heights :shrug:

[ohioforlovers]

Probably because you have a username that implies you like Hawthorne Heights :shrug:

I'm from ohio. It has nothing to do with Hawthorne Heights.
EDIT: I have heard one song from them... and thats the one that says my heart is in ohio... that is all.

[kemichels]

the fact that you think you're better than the people on this site and assume that because they gave you advice that you disagree with that they are all jealous, garden gnomes makes you come off like even more of a conceited asshole than you did to begin with. maybe you should step back and realize that most of us who read this thread have nothing to gain or lose by giving you advice, so just for a moment try shutting the fuck up and being grateful that a few people in this world are willing to waste even an instance of their time on you and your "problems".

Backed! I haven't talked to you in forever, but you remain awesome and knowledgeable.

ok A. my boyfriend and i didn't wait and our relationship is not just about sex. we don't always have sex everyday sometimes we go 3-5 days depending on how we are. sometimes we're comfortable just hanging out and other times we want to fuck.
B. you're saying that because of the above you don't respect me now? i don't see why you would not respect me anymore because i want to have sex with my boyfriend. i want to make him feel good and he wants to make me feel good. what is so wrong with that?

There's nothing wrong with not waiting as long as you are both comfortable with it. And it sounds like your relationship isn't based on sex, you simply enjoy it.

A. Statistically, you are more likely to have a relationship that is based on lust (sex, oral, etc.), if you don't wait about 2 months. I've read this many of times, I'm also a firm believer. But that doesn't mean it will always turn out that way. I never said it was a definite, only that it was more likely...

Also, you might be in denial. I know quite a few ladies (some are friends, some I've dated), that were very much in denial about the amount of sex or the real meaning behind their relationship. If you have sex with your partner nearly every time you are around each other, then yes, your relationship is based on sex. Sometimes girls confuse this with love. My best friend was in a relationship like that. She tells me over and over again that she just kept justifying to herself that he loved her and that if sex was making him happy then she was doing the right thing. Sometimes when you're in love with someone you are so close to them that you can't see the forest for the trees.

And no I'm not saying you're in denial... I'm just giving you food for thought. Heck it hasn't just been females who have had this delusion, I know some males have thought they were in a relationship that was so much more than coitus just to find out they were wrong.

B. I never said that I didn't respect you. Only that you had made a decision that I didn't respect.



Exactly the same line I've heard so many times... but from people who were having a post-break up moment of realization.

Once you simplify sex into a matter of pleasuring each other... you have made that fatal error.

First bolded point...That's horribly untrue and you have no idea what you are talking about. And within this line of thinking, how does this apply to long distance relationships or when you aren't around each other all the time? It clearly can't.

Second bolded point, I think that's unfair to say based upon what she said. Your twisting her words and fitting them to your own agenda. She enjoys pleasuring her boyfriend and vice versa...That's natural in a relationship. I think circumstances with sex or the specific context of sex can vary its meaning as well. It's surely more than possible and probably more frequent in today's society to have sex before beginning a relationship. Hell, sex can even be as important in a relationship to MAKE or BREAK it. I'm not sure where your statistics come from, but many couples have sex before beginning a relationship in an effort to determine a sexual fit. This is definitely necessary in a sexual relationship, and oftentimes if individual's sexual or intimacy desires don't align, it can be the end of the relationship. You could take a different perspective and look at sex before a relationship as an advantage, as you get a feel what the other person will be like sexually in a relationship.

Furthermore if my girlfriend gives me a hand job when waking up as a little treat or we have a quick fuck in the morning before each of us leave one another, there's obvious less of an emotional connection present than when you have a romantic evening out and you have that building feeling leading up to sex. I don't think you have to look at sex as purely an emotional, sacred act every single time. Sex is something that can be enjoyed in a number of different ways, not even emotionally. Sex can simply be "fun", even comical at times! And with all the toys, gadgets, porn, fetishes out there, the idea that sex is this sacred, emotionally deep act is something current society does not fully embrace or accept.

[kemichels]

I'm from ohio. It has nothing to do with Hawthorne Heights.
EDIT: I have heard one song from them... and thats the one that says my heart is in ohio... that is all.

lol well yeah...That's the title of that one song, so I naturally thought it was based off of that. As long as you don't cut your wrists and black your eyes, I'm sure you'll find someone darlin' :).

[ohioforlovers]

lol well yeah...That's the title of that one song, so I naturally thought it was based off of that. As long as you don't cut your wrists and black your eyes, I'm sure you'll find someone darlin' :).

Well I don't need anyone now. haha. You have the most random music in your profile... I was looking for HTH.. darn. haha. Nope I don't slit my wrists or black my eyes.. so I'm good.

[.invisible ink.]

.

thanks! that paragraph you quoted of mine had to have been one of the most fun things i've typed recently. it was extremely cathartic, lol.

anyway, i agree 100% with your reply regarding sex and relationships.

[songydarko]

Backed! I haven't talked to you in forever, but you remain awesome and knowledgeable.



There's nothing wrong with not waiting as long as you are both comfortable with it. And it sounds like your relationship isn't based on sex, you simply enjoy it.



First bolded point...That's horribly untrue and you have no idea what you are talking about. And within this line of thinking, how does this apply to long distance relationships or when you aren't around each other all the time? It clearly can't.

Second bolded point, I think that's unfair to say based upon what she said. Your twisting her words and fitting them to your own agenda. She enjoys pleasuring her boyfriend and vice versa...That's natural in a relationship. I think circumstances with sex or the specific context of sex can vary its meaning as well. It's surely more than possible and probably more frequent in today's society to have sex before beginning a relationship. Hell, sex can even be as important in a relationship to MAKE or BREAK it. I'm not sure where your statistics come from, but many couples have sex before beginning a relationship in an effort to determine a sexual fit. This is definitely necessary in a sexual relationship, and oftentimes if individual's sexual or intimacy desires don't align, it can be the end of the relationship. You could take a different perspective and look at sex before a relationship as an advantage, as you get a feel what the other person will be like sexually in a relationship.

Furthermore if my girlfriend gives me a hand job when waking up as a little treat or we have a quick fuck in the morning before each of us leave one another, there's obvious less of an emotional connection present than when you have a romantic evening out and you have that building feeling leading up to sex. I don't think you have to look at sex as purely an emotional, sacred act every single time. Sex is something that can be enjoyed in a number of different ways, not even emotionally. Sex can simply be "fun", even comical at times! And with all the toys, gadgets, porn, fetishes out there, the idea that sex is this sacred, emotionally deep act is something current society does not fully embrace or accept.
Ya basically. To everythang.

[kemichels]

Ya basically. To everythang.

Well then, it's sure as hell a good thing that you're my actual girlfriend! :sneakkiss:

[Reaver]

Well then, it's sure as hell a good thing that you're my actual girlfriend :sneakkiss:

ýou keep reminding everyone pretty often, if you ask me.

[kemichels]

ýou keep reminding everyone pretty often, if you ask me.

Well..I didn't ask, and I can flirt with my girlfriend via absolutepunk.net, thanks ya very much. I'm pretty content with and am proud to show off my relationship. Plus, I haven't said anything about her being my girlfriend since the thread you hit on her in, lolz.;-)

[songydarko]

Well then, it's sure as hell a good thing that you're my actual girlfriend! :sneakkiss:
mmhmm <3

[Reaver]

Well..I didn't ask, and I can flirt with my girlfriend via absolutepunk.net, thanks ya very much. I'm pretty content with and am proud to show off my relationship. Plus, I haven't said anything about her being my girlfriend since the thread you hit on her in, lolz.;-)

hahahah, way to defend yourself in front of your chick. :P
i'm just fucking around, mate.

[kemichels]

hahahah, way to defend yourself in front of your chick. :P
i'm just fucking around, mate.

haha same bro. How have you been? By the way, you actually in Germany or are you in the states? Could never figure that out.

[Reaver]

haha same bro. How have you been? By the way, you actually in Germany or are you in the states? Could never figure that out.

i'm a 100% german dude, lol. i just luv the english language. plus, this forum is hilarious. i luv writing and reading all this crap, hahah.

i'm fine. well, i'm spending way too much time in the internetz, but still. what's with you? everything rollin' straight? =)

[limepomegranate]

I mean, you could easily steal it and use it... but that wouldn't be very nice.
haha i won't i just love it but mine is my kitty so i'm keepin mine!

A. Statistically, you are more likely to have a relationship that is based on lust (sex, oral, etc.), if you don't wait about 2 months. I've read this many of times, I'm also a firm believer. But that doesn't mean it will always turn out that way. I never said it was a definite, only that it was more likely...

Also, you might be in denial. I know quite a few ladies (some are friends, some I've dated), that were very much in denial about the amount of sex or the real meaning behind their relationship. If you have sex with your partner nearly every time you are around each other, then yes, your relationship is based on sex. Sometimes girls confuse this with love. My best friend was in a relationship like that. She tells me over and over again that she just kept justifying to herself that he loved her and that if sex was making him happy then she was doing the right thing. Sometimes when you're in love with someone you are so close to them that you can't see the forest for the trees.

And no I'm not saying you're in denial... I'm just giving you food for thought. Heck it hasn't just been females who have had this delusion, I know some males have thought they were in a relationship that was so much more than coitus just to find out they were wrong.

B. I never said that I didn't respect you. Only that you had made a decision that I didn't respect.



Exactly the same line I've heard so many times... but from people who were having a post-break up moment of realization.

Once you simplify sex into a matter of pleasuring each other... you have made that fatal error.
believe me i KNOW how much we have sex. i don't just love sex i love it with him we both feel so close to each other during and afterwards. but sometimes we go days without it. we still cuddle and kiss we just don't feel like doing it. we talk about our future and plans and everything. we love each other and you saying that our relationship is just based on sex and not love offends me. you sound like a bitter person. go out and engage in some coitus yourself and maybe you won't be.
Backed! I haven't talked to you in forever, but you remain awesome and knowledgeable.



There's nothing wrong with not waiting as long as you are both comfortable with it. And it sounds like your relationship isn't based on sex, you simply enjoy it.



First bolded point...That's horribly untrue and you have no idea what you are talking about. And within this line of thinking, how does this apply to long distance relationships or when you aren't around each other all the time? It clearly can't.

Second bolded point, I think that's unfair to say based upon what she said. Your twisting her words and fitting them to your own agenda. She enjoys pleasuring her boyfriend and vice versa...That's natural in a relationship. I think circumstances with sex or the specific context of sex can vary its meaning as well. It's surely more than possible and probably more frequent in today's society to have sex before beginning a relationship. Hell, sex can even be as important in a relationship to MAKE or BREAK it. I'm not sure where your statistics come from, but many couples have sex before beginning a relationship in an effort to determine a sexual fit. This is definitely necessary in a sexual relationship, and oftentimes if individual's sexual or intimacy desires don't align, it can be the end of the relationship. You could take a different perspective and look at sex before a relationship as an advantage, as you get a feel what the other person will be like sexually in a relationship.

Furthermore if my girlfriend gives me a hand job when waking up as a little treat or we have a quick fuck in the morning before each of us leave one another, there's obvious less of an emotional connection present than when you have a romantic evening out and you have that building feeling leading up to sex. I don't think you have to look at sex as purely an emotional, sacred act every single time. Sex is something that can be enjoyed in a number of different ways, not even emotionally. Sex can simply be "fun", even comical at times! And with all the toys, gadgets, porn, fetishes out there, the idea that sex is this sacred, emotionally deep act is something current society does not fully embrace or accept.

thankyou.

[DWill]

believe me i KNOW how much we have sex. i don't just love sex i love it with him we both feel so close to each other during and afterwards. but sometimes we go days without it. we still cuddle and kiss we just don't feel like doing it. we talk about our future and plans and everything. we love each other and you saying that our relationship is just based on sex and not love offends me. you sound like a bitter person. go out and engage in some coitus yourself and maybe you won't be.



Hey I'm just speaking from life experience and from others experiences. I'm not bitter at all and I've been in an awesome relationship with a wonderful girl for quite a while now. All I'm saying is that sex is something that you can't let take control of your relationship it's a problem that I've had and others have had.

Maybe it's because I'm a very sexual person, but it's something that I'm always very cautious of now that I don't let sex become prioritize or monopolize my relationship.

Sorry for offending you so greatly.

[limepomegranate]

Hey I'm just speaking from life experience and from others experiences. I'm not bitter at all and I've been in an awesome relationship with a wonderful girl for quite a while now. All I'm saying is that sex is something that you can't let take control of your relationship it's a problem that I've had and others have had.

Maybe it's because I'm a very sexual person, but it's something that I'm always very cautious of now that I don't let sex become prioritize or monopolize my relationship.

Sorry for offending you so greatly.
I'm a very sexual person too but I didn't let past breakups and shit make me scared or cautious. And I know you're probably not sorry but whatever I accept it.

[mattmatumbo]

c) I'm really nice. I'm considerate, gentlemanly, and generous, and always moreso with women, of course. I have a very likeable personality overall. Ha ha at least in person I do!

You're not a creepy creeper are you?

[Waldorf]

LOL @ the people calling themselves "very sexual people."

[mattmatumbo]

LOL @ the people calling themselves "very sexual people."

Haha, i didn't even notice it.

[xxxfreakxxx]

all the advice i can give is: nice guys finish last
Not all of them.

[xxxfreakxxx]

LOL @ the people calling themselves "very sexual people."
Nice that's Funny shit.

[xxxfreakxxx]

have you tried axe.
http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j84/MissyKiko/BowChickaBowWow.jpg
Wow nice.

[xxxfreakxxx]

mmhmm <3
Awh,How cute.

[ted is lying]

Wow nice.
Why do you think master chief gets so much pussy?

[xxxfreakxxx]

Why do you think master chief gets so much pussy?
hmm why?

[Waldorf]

hmm why?

Because he is always wearing protection and his gun is always exposed and at the ready.

[xxxfreakxxx]

Because he is always wearing protection and his gun is always exposed and at the ready.
Lmao,Nice:D

[ted is lying]

hmm why?
No because he has girl approved hair.

[xxxfreakxxx]

No because he has girl approved hair.
oh

[ted is lying]

oh
Yeah the other one was way better. I'm sorry if my bad joke ruined your day.

[xxxfreakxxx]

Yeah the other one was way better. I'm sorry if my bad joke ruined your day.
hahaha its okay, whats up

[ted is lying]

hahaha its okay, whats up
Just drinking in the dorm room's because no place in bumping tonight. Been doing this all week college is so boring.

[xxxfreakxxx]

Just drinking in the dorm room's because no place in bumping tonight. Been doing this all week college is so boring.
dammmmn,i heard that its fun:(

[ted is lying]

dammmmn,i heard that its fun:(
I'm having fun with it just isn't as fun as going to a party.

[xxxfreakxxx]

I'm having fun with it just isn't as fun as going to a party.
ooh well thats good what you going for?

[overdrive91]

Your a nice guy. nice guys don't score. Girls want a dickhead.

[sokonfused]

Your a nice guy. nice guys don't score. Girls want a dickhead.
haha. that's not entirely true. it's just all about how you present yourself. guys who are jerks just project confidence. which is always good. but nice guys always seem to be more passive, less aggressive. which isn't so much fun. girls don't really want to date a jackass, just someone who is confident and outgoing and such.

[overdrive91]

haha. that's not entirely true. it's just all about how you present yourself. guys who are jerks just project confidence. which is always good. but nice guys always seem to be more passive, less aggressive. which isn't so much fun. girls don't really want to date a jackass, just someone who is confident and outgoing and such.

Which tend to be over arrogant dicks. I don't have a confidence problem but i have been told I'm too nice (didn't know it was a bad thing) and she ended up dating a jackass.
Need to experiment with being a jackass and see how that works out haha.

[ReadyForAction]

Which tend to be over arrogant dicks. I don't have a confidence problem but i have been told I'm too nice (didn't know it was a bad thing) and she ended up dating a jackass.
Need to experiment with being a jackass and see how that works out haha.
It works

[ted is lying]

ooh well thats good what you going for?
Im just looking to maximize my fun and girls like you better the more games of pong you can win.

[xxxfreakxxx]

Im just looking to maximize my fun and girls like you better the more games of pong you can win.
ooh,cool. sounds fun.

[ted is lying]

ooh,cool. sounds fun.
You want to know what else sounds cool?

[xxxfreakxxx]

You want to know what else sounds cool?
Hell yeah.

[BryterJonah]

I hate everyone I see with a passion, and yet I have the gull to feel alone.

[ted is lying]

Hell yeah.
foot long hotdogs, with onion rings and a meduim size drink. Best thing I can think of atm just got to post on th dorunk forum and then off to biddy room. respond so i reme ber i to give you the real answer.

[xxxfreakxxx]

foot long hotdogs, with onion rings and a meduim size drink. Best thing I can think of atm just got to post on th dorunk forum and then off to biddy room. respond so i reme ber i to give you the real answer.
ohyeah

[sokonfused]

Which tend to be over arrogant dicks. I don't have a confidence problem but i have been told I'm too nice (didn't know it was a bad thing) and she ended up dating a jackass.
Need to experiment with being a jackass and see how that works out haha.
i'm sorry. but i find that ridiculously stupid. i don't understand how being nice can turn out as a bad thing. but have fun experimenting with that. don't know how well that will turn out for you though. haha.

[Waldorf]

i hate everyone and thats why im a humanist

[overdrive91]

i'm sorry. but i find that ridiculously stupid. i don't understand how being nice can turn out as a bad thing. but have fun experimenting with that. don't know how well that will turn out for you though. haha.

never said it was smart haha.

[Fullblast]

Just watch this video

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[kevinjordan]

I don't want to assume that you're an arrogant guy, but your description of yourself doesn't exactly give off the most HUMBLE vibe..

[Mrs.Sweeny Todd]

becasue ur spending too much thinking of y girls dontl like u posting threads like this, go out into the world and get that shit!..i didnt even need to read it , i just know

[Flags of Dawn]

holy fucking lol at this thread.

[Lueda Alia]

Hahaha I cannot believe some people. Hilarious.

[acemvivere]

Perhaps, and I say this with no bias or prejudice at all: have you considered the possibility that you were not meant for women, but men?

You never know...