I'm So Lost

[Saves The Night]

I have never had this much trouble getting over a girl before. 4 years of a relationship. I felt she was the "ONE" for real, and now I dont think things are going to work out. I feel we have lost it. Well, i guess she has lost it, I still love the girl to death. I feel absolutely like crap. I'm emotionally drained. Yet I can't just help but try to make this work, i mean if I dont try and she moves on this may be that one thing I think about the rest of my life. I mean Ive seen that happen before, my one friend lost his HS girlfriend and he has yet to get fully over it and its been 2 years. I have no idea what to do. I have slipped into depression and I honest to God, can do nothing but think of her. Loves have come and gone before but this one I cannot shake. I'm so lost.

[cuetheflames]

hang in there..

[ides of march]

see how it goes, you'll pull through

[Saves The Night]

see how it goes, you'll pull through thanks, i think thats what i have to do.
hang in there..thank you the most, you dont know how bad i just wanted to talk to someone who understands.

[enj0i29]

I have never had this much trouble getting over a girl before. 4 years of a relationship. I felt she was the "ONE" for real, and now I dont think things are going to work out. I feel we have lost it. Well, i guess she has lost it, I still love the girl to death. I feel absolutely like crap. I'm emotionally drained. Yet I can't just help but try to make this work, i mean if I dont try and she moves on this may be that one thing I think about the rest of my life. I mean Ive seen that happen before, my one friend lost his HS girlfriend and he has yet to get fully over it and its been 2 years. I have no idea what to do. I have slipped into depression and I honest to God, can do nothing but think of her. Loves have come and gone before but this one I cannot shake. I'm so lost.

That sucks, man. It was rough for me to get over a girlfriend of only a few months. I cannot imagine how you feel losing a four year relationship. Sorry, brah.

[Saves The Night]

That sucks, man. It was rough for me to get over a girlfriend of only a few months. I cannot imagine how you feel losing a four year relationship. Sorry, brah.yeah its not easy. but thank you.

[boysdontcry17]

i had a hard time gettin over a girl, but some bitter words later, i ended up hatin her. you'll be ok. just takes time, wont happen over night. spend time with other girls as friends, talk to them about it. it works. do some partyin, it'll take your mind of it if temporarily (thats what i did lol)

[ben pequeno]

try and work things out...the same thing is happening to me right now but my g/f and i have been dating for a 1 year. we're on a "break" right now and i feel like complete shit too. good luck man, seriously.

[Saves The Night]

try and work things out...the same thing is happening to me right now but my g/f and i have been dating for a 1 year. we're on a "break" right now and i feel like complete shit too. good luck man, seriously.thank you and good luck with your ordeal as well.

[Freud]

damn dude im really sorry to hear that it didnt work out :(. hang in there bro

[bobbo8]

It sucks. Theres really nothing you can do other than try to take your mind off things. Me and my ex broke up about 8 months ago after 1.5 years and everytime i see her i cant help but wish we were back together.

[Jamie Pham]

sometimes it takes a while and there will times when you want to be in isolation. its normal and its happened to all of us. my words will probably not help at all but know that one day you will wake up and be over her. and your gonna look back and laugh about it...

[FreshyFresh23]

just somethign you gotta deal with.


you just have to remember you cant MAKE her want to date you.

Im in a current 3 year relationship and so far so good but ive been through a previous 2 year and 1 year and those both were hell to get over, my cousin just got out of a 6 year...and sometimes you gotta step back and ask yourself how much is it really worth it... if shes everything you could ever want...then yea do whatever it takes to get her back but if you find yourself questioning things about her like.."hmm i wish she liked..xxx" or something then maybe it is for the best

[BarrelIsPointed]

I'm kind of in the same boat as you are. I've been told to "retain some dignity" and not try to get back with her (I've gotten back with her once, and she broke up with me, for good I think, 2 weeks later). Although I feel that is really good advice, that I shouldn't keep trying to go after a girl that obviously isn't attached to me anymore, it's really hard to let go. I've been led to alcohol use more than usual (which is a scary thought in itself), and it's not the answer, and I know that, but I keep doing it for lack of other alternatives. I recommend finding an alternative to her (preferrably not an addictive one). I heard some really good advice tonight, but can't remember it right now. Maybe I'll look at it tomorrow and run through the jist of it, if I remember this thread.

[ben pequeno]

I'm kind of in the same boat as you are. I've been told to "retain some dignity" and not try to get back with her (I've gotten back with her once, and she broke up with me, for good I think, 2 weeks later). Although I feel that is really good advice, that I shouldn't keep trying to go after a girl that obviously isn't attached to me anymore, it's really hard to let go. I've been led to alcohol use more than usual (which is a scary thought in itself), and it's not the answer, and I know that, but I keep doing it for lack of other alternatives. I recommend finding an alternative to her (preferrably not an addictive one). I heard some really good advice tonight, but can't remember it right now. Maybe I'll look at it tomorrow and run through the jist of it, if I remember this thread. man, i love you.

[mrzippo3]

find some new pussy

[Coronary Parasite]

it gets better as time goes one. and it will hurt for a while, but it gets less and less every day.

obviously as you can see by some of our convos it still hurts me alot and it's been about 8 months but it doesn't hurt nearly as much as it did when it first happened. just remember, there will be someone else, and you will look back on this and say 'i learned alot, and i did the best i could at that age".

[Serenity]

I'm sorry man, I know how that feels. Good luck with everything, and just keep your head up. Better days will come, after all...

[Lueda Alia]

Talk to her about how you feel. Tell her how much you care about her. Sometimes telling a person how you feel about them stirs up emotions in them, too. If you guys have been together for that long, it's obviously because you love each other and I just don't think that that kind of love goes away just like that unless something really bad happens to the relationship. So just talk to her about how you feel about her and about the relationship and where you want it to go. Come up with new ideas to "spice" things up so that they're interesting like they were when you first started dating.

I can't think of anything right now because I'm half asleep. But you can talk to me about this if you want/need to.

[open mind]

I have never had this much trouble getting over a girl before. 4 years of a relationship. I felt she was the "ONE" for real, and now I dont think things are going to work out. I feel we have lost it. Well, i guess she has lost it, I still love the girl to death. I feel absolutely like crap. I'm emotionally drained. Yet I can't just help but try to make this work, i mean if I dont try and she moves on this may be that one thing I think about the rest of my life. I mean Ive seen that happen before, my one friend lost his HS girlfriend and he has yet to get fully over it and its been 2 years. I have no idea what to do. I have slipped into depression and I honest to God, can do nothing but think of her. Loves have come and gone before but this one I cannot shake. I'm so lost.
just try to stay active and involved in other things and it'll pass..................believe me i've totally got you beat in the lost love department, i mean it's not like your looking at doing time or anything.

[open mind]

Talk to her about how you feel. Tell her how much you care about her. Sometimes telling a person how you feel about them stirs up emotions in them, too. If you guys have been together for that long, it's obviously because you love each other and I just don't think that that kind of love goes away just like that unless something really bad happens to the relationship. So just talk to her about how you feel about her and about the relationship and where you want it to go. Come up with new ideas to "spice" things up so that they're interesting like they were when you first started dating.

I can't think of anything right now because I'm half asleep. But you can talk to me about this if you want/need to.
i love you eda, but i've gotta say i disagree.
if you do all that stuff and you get back together your setting her up to dump you again as soon as she feels a little bored or unloved because your giving her a positive reaction to her negative behavior, either she's flaky as hell, uncommunicative, and crying out for attention by breaking your heart (in which case you should dump her) or she's a decent girl and just isn't felling it and you should move on..............at least that's what i think, and i've had my rough patches.

[Coronary Parasite]

i love you eda, but i've gotta say i disagree.
if you do all that stuff and you get back together your setting her up to dump you again as soon as she feels a little bored or unloved because your giving her a positive reaction to her negative behavior, either she's flaky as hell, uncommunicative, and crying out for attention by breaking your heart (in which case you should dump her) or she's a decent girl and just isn't felling it and you should move on..............at least that's what i think, and i've had my rough patches.
i MISSSSSSSSSS you.

where have you been? i've been dying to talk to you :(.

[sweetforever]

I'm in the same boat as well. me and my ex broke up in February after about 10 months. But with this girl, I don't know what it is, she's just "that" girl, you know? Like we dated freshmen year n broke up summer of sophmore year, i moved on and dated other girls, but always ended up comparing them to her. we got back together senior year. but now its even harder cause she wants no part of me in her life and it kills me to know that.

[Saves The Night]

I'm in the same boat as well. me and my ex broke up in February after about 10 months. But with this girl, I don't know what it is, she's just "that" girl, you know? Like we dated freshmen year n broke up summer of sophmore year, i moved on and dated other girls, but always ended up comparing them to her. we got back together senior year. but now its even harder cause she wants no part of me in her life and it kills me to know that. I know what its like with "that girl" because you can just kinda tell she is going to make you happy and thats all you want. I can honestly say my life is a wreck over this whole situation.

Talk to her about how you feel. Tell her how much you care about her. Sometimes telling a person how you feel about them stirs up emotions in them, too. If you guys have been together for that long, it's obviously because you love each other and I just don't think that that kind of love goes away just like that unless something really bad happens to the relationship. So just talk to her about how you feel about her and about the relationship and where you want it to go. Come up with new ideas to "spice" things up so that they're interesting like they were when you first started dating.

I can't think of anything right now because I'm half asleep. But you can talk to me about this if you want/need to.thanks, I really kinda feel like tihs is what I need to do, I keep telling her how much I love her and she is torn, she has told me. She sent me a message the day after I posted this. She was sick and i left her flowers and a card at her house and she sent me this late at night "you need to know that you still hold a high place in my heart. I can never say never with you. I cant say that we wont end up back together. Only time will tell." I took this as a good sign.

[IamTheINDUSTRY]

fight for her. try everything in your power.

[Base3Studd]

same shit happen to me a couple years ago.....i had dated this girl for a couple years and she had become such a part of my everyday life that when she was gone i was like a lost little kid. she would occasionally call me and say things like "you know i'll always love you" (just giving me foolish hope).pretty soon she was trying to get on with her life, but i spent every minute for like 6 months thinking i could call and fix things (make them like they used to be), but that pushed her even further away. I wasted a lot of life being depressed over her that i wish i could get back. some girls are different, but in retrospect had i tried to get on with my life(i.e.not try so hard to fix things and see if they work themselves out) i would've a) had a better chance of her coming back or b) not wasted a year on bad grades, drinking, burning bridges etc. Either way life woulda been a lot sweeter. so hopefully you can find peace in whatever happens with your situation soon.i know how shitty it feels when its all u think about. good luck. that is all

[Lueda Alia]

I know what its like with "that girl" because you can just kinda tell she is going to make you happy and thats all you want. I can honestly say my life is a wreck over this whole situation.

thanks, I really kinda feel like tihs is what I need to do, I keep telling her how much I love her and she is torn, she has told me. She sent me a message the day after I posted this. She was sick and i left her flowers and a card at her house and she sent me this late at night "you need to know that you still hold a high place in my heart. I can never say never with you. I cant say that we wont end up back together. Only time will tell." I took this as a good sign.
That's good. I hope things work out for you. I really do.

And what you did is really sweet. Good luck.

[Saves The Night]

thanks, i am almost 100% sure I am pushing through with this. Because if i dont I will regret it forever, ya know? the what could have been.

[Saves The Night]

That's good. I hope things work out for you. I really do.

And what you did is really sweet. Good luck.thank you! Im hoping they do as well.