Virginity.

[Akissforher]

Ok im 20 and im still a virgin, 99% of my friends arent and well havent been for a while it seems.
They sometimes think its weird that i havent yet, i mean i still want it to mean something or at least something i wont regret,
Is it good to wait til its right? or am i way out of the loop and need to catch up?

[overdrive91]

Depends when you feel the time is right i guess and with the right person if you think like that.
I lost it when i was 16 don't really regret it.

[Akissforher]

Depends when you feel the time is right i guess and with the right person if you think like that.
I lost it when i was 16 don't really regret it.

true, i mean now im a bit older my values on it have changed, part of me says, wait, other times (usually alcohol fuelled moments) i juts think fuck whoever,

[t_ashley]

if they were pressuring you to fuck a donkey would u be threading about ur deliema?
ugh, so what if ur a virgin. its not a bad thing.

[denissuxx]

I lost it at 16, didn't mean much, but we both had fun. Do this.

[Smash Adams]

I lost it at 16, didn't mean much, but we both had fun. Do this.
I think it's too late for him to lose it at 16

[Jaimehere]

don't get pressured to have sex if you don't wanna, but also don't get scared to have sex, if you want it get it, if you don't then don't! that easy

[denissuxx]

I think it's too late for him to lose it at 16

Word.

Also, don't be pussy when you do have it. Never tell a girl it's your first time (unless she's a long term gf)

[Akissforher]

I think it's too late for him to lose it at 16

lol just a bit,

[Akissforher]

Word.

Also, don't be pussy when you do have it. Never tell a girl it's your first time (unless she's a long term gf)

haha wouldnt it raise the alarms in her head "why is this guy so fucking bad at this? is it his first time or something?"

[denissuxx]

haha wouldnt this raise alarms in her head "why is this guy so fucking bad at this? is it his first time or something?"

Happens at times, but not always. Just do what you see in porn movies, but make sure you get the right hole and act confident.

[overdrive91]

Happens at times, but not always. Just do what you see in porn movies, but make sure you get the right hole and act confident.

One of my friends on his first time got the wrong hole. The girl freaked.

[denissuxx]

One of my friends on his first time got the wrong hole. The girl freaked.

I misjudged the position of a vaj. Was embarrassing when she had to "correct" me

[overdrive91]

I misjudged the position of a vaj. Was embarrassing when she had to "correct" me
Hasn't happened to me yet but I'm sure when I'm drunk something of the sort will happen.

[zion the lion]

At this point I'm seriously telling people that I'm saving myself for marriage.

[astretch4glory]

when i doubt. fuck

[sleepyseanzzz]

i was like you, then i lost it to someone i thought was right, it ended up not being right, it was a one time thing, then i met my girlfriend right after and weve been dating for the past year and a half, id take the first one back but its not a big deal your first might be regretted later because im happy now

[Jasper112]

Ok im 20 and im still a virgin, 99% of my friends arent and well havent been for a while it seems.
They sometimes think its weird that i havent yet, i mean i still want it to mean something or at least something i wont regret,
Is it good to wait til its right? or am i way out of the loop and need to catch up?

Start tapping that pussy sonnnn.

Whatever dream exists in ur head, likely not gonna happen. Life aint like Dawson's Creek.

[Jonnyborg]

The biggest problem is pregnancy drama.
so not worth it.

[sleepyseanzzz]

The biggest problem is pregnancy drama.
so not worth it.

if you use protection AND pull out at the end (while wearing a rubber) then you're pretty much good and it IS worth it......plus God gives everyone a scare but he lets you take a mulligan, they also make plan b in the worst case

[EvilZeppelin]

if you use protection AND pull out at the end (while wearing a rubber) then you're pretty much good and it IS worth it......plus God gives everyone a scare but he lets you take a mulligan, they also make plan b in the worst case

The 3 p's of sex.

[AMackChuck]

I met my girlfriend in 7th grade, had sex in 9th grade and we're still dating and she's a junior in college. So my advice is find a girl you really like and you'll know when it's right.

[Rubato]

Sex is sex. In all honesty, sex is only meaningful if you're having it with someone you love... it can still be fucking great (no pun intended), it's just missing that spark. So really, it's not a huge fucking deal. I lost mine in a barn, drunk out of my mind and barely remembered it at 16. Do I regret it? Absolutely fucking not. I dated the girl for 3 months, shit fell apart because I was still in love with someone else... but I don't regret it.

You're putting way too much pressure on it.

[BlackAxxe]

I never really got what was "special" when it came to having sex. I wish it was a bigger thing to me but sex is sex. You should have sex with people who you are in love with, and thats about it. Sure its nice and its a great way to keep fit but sex is sex dude. It means nothing, dont feel bad about nothing.

[kbi the crowing]

don't get pressured to have sex if you don't wanna, but also don't get scared to have sex, if you want it get it, if you don't then don't! that easy

I second this

[pr0digy]

Don't feel ashamed at all...While not religious or anything, I've had the personal viewpoint of having sex only with chick that I feel I have the potential to be with long term or possibly marry. While it means I rarely have sex (to this day have only had sex with one chick), it makes it exponentially more meaningful and makes you appreciate the person you're dating way more.

[roughroads]

stop associating sex with love, sex is sex. of coarse it means more when your "in love"(whatever the fuck that means) but the same things happen. when i say this im not telling you to whore yourself but stop making a big deal of it, if an opportunity arises take it.

[Mochem]

Happens at times, but not always. Just do what you see in porn movies, but make sure you get the right hole and act confident.
Depending on what you meant by that, that's pretty bad advice.

[Waldorf]

At this point I'm seriously telling people that I'm saving myself for marriage.

:appl:

[mick2late]

Your virginity doesn't define who you are.

[bigblue2015]

I was in the same boat as you about a year ago, it pretty much sucks when all your friends are having sex and you're still a virgin, but it will happen, it's not as big of a deal as you think it is. I could have lost it a few times before, but I was never really big on the whole one-night stand thing and when I finally lost it, it was to my gf who I'm engaged to now.

[midnightsociety]

it's obviously your choice whether to or not. you've made it up to this point saying no, so continue making your own decisions and who cares what anyone else thinks. a lot of people that have sex early end up having a lot more sex than they probably should (with people they barely know/don't know at all) the longer you wait and the older you get, the more you realize that you'd rather just have it be with someone you're actually comfortable with/in love with.

[Waldorf]

I reject your virginity and substitute my own.

[cory-182]

I have a friend the same age as you going through the same thing. He's the only one in our group who hasn't lost his V card.

You two are both at that age now where it almost doesn't make sense to lose it to some random. I'd say just hold off and wait for the right person. If you've waited 20 years, what's another few months or years???

Hopefully you're a little better looking than my friend though......

[terror_91]

I misjudged the position of a vaj. Was embarrassing when she had to "correct" me
Don't worry. Every hole is a goal!

[Sventhegreat]

Just do it whenever you feel right about it. Don't worry about your friends or what they say. It also doesn't have to be with some perfect guy too.

[superdork]

Just do it whenever you feel right about it. Don't worry about your friends or what they say. It also doesn't have to be with some perfect guy too.
Agreed. if it feels right, then it's probably right.

[mattmatumbo]

Your friends probably just think you're gay, nothing too horrible. My roommate's still a virgin, we all get suspicious sometimes.

[lightupthesky]

Happens at times, but not always. Just do what you see in porn movies, but make sure you get the right hole and act confident.

seriously.

edit: wait, this works if you're a girl. if you're a guy, probably shouldn't do that.

[Chancetobe]

It's funny because most of my friends ARE virgins. Even the one's you'd assume aren't. Of my 10 closest friends, I think only 3 have had sex before.

[BryterJonah]

Ever notice how most of the girls who take the Child Development class in high-school are the ghetto sluts who obviously aren't thinking college?

We should totally drop that class and teach Latin.

[jmirand1]

Happens at times, but not always. Just do what you see in porn movies, but make sure you get the right hole and act confident.

Yeah, just be really confident and aggressive and it won't be awkwardly bad. If you really fuck up (wrong hole or something) just pretend to be super drunk. Besides, according to our generation's premier sex educator, Mr. Judd Apatow, your first 20 or 30 should be hoodrats anyways so who gives a shit what they think?

[jmirand1]

I met my girlfriend in 7th grade, had sex in 9th grade and we're still dating and she's a junior in college. So my advice is find a girl you really like and you'll know when it's right.

Says the guy who's been getting laid since 9th grade.

[andthetruthwill]

Ok im 20 and im still a virgin, 99% of my friends arent and well havent been for a while it seems.
They sometimes think its weird that i havent yet, i mean i still want it to mean something or at least something i wont regret,
Is it good to wait til its right? or am i way out of the loop and need to catch up?

You won't know that is was "right" until a long time has passed. Probably years. That's what old age and reflection is for. Don't wait for anything. If you have an opportunity with an attractive partner just do it. Don't attribute anything to it. Just do it and gain the experience. Just don't make babies. Be smart.

[BryterJonah]

Love is the movement is such a BS slogan. As is all those BSer raggae con artists trying to break the airwaves nowadays.

[HometownHero]

seriously.

edit: wait, this works if you're a girl. if you're a guy, probably shouldn't do that.

He didn't specify what kind of porn...

[kdefrisc]

I think you're putting the pussy on a pedestal.

[Sic Transit Zeb]

just lose it. V-card means nothing.

[duhpunk]

don't do it just to do it. (then you get hooked and it becomes meaningless)

[HelpMeSleep]

I misjudged the position of a vaj. Was embarrassing when she had to "correct" me
I wouldn't even say that's a thing of inexperience. my guy and I have done it like a hundred times and he does that sometimes when we're fooling around. unless he secretly wants anal and it's on purpose... but he'll never get it from me.

I never say anything though, just sort of adjust because I don't want to embarrass him. did she actually say something when she corrected you?

[kbi the crowing]

The 3 p's of sex.

the pill, 4 p's.

[kbi the crowing]

I reject your virginity and substitute my own.

hahahahaha dude, props.

:appl:

[lightcollapse]

16 meaningless and don't regret it.

[lightcollapse]

I wouldn't even say that's a thing of inexperience. my guy and I have done it like a hundred times and he does that sometimes when we're fooling around. unless he secretly wants anal and it's on purpose... but he'll never get it from me.

I never say anything though, just sort of adjust because I don't want to embarrass him. did she actually say something when she corrected you?

"THAT'S MY BUTTHOLE!"

[Waldorf]

16 meaningless and don't regret it.

*blinks*

http://www.absolutepunk.net/customprofilepics/profilepic51032_12.gif

Shit. Really?

[kbi the crowing]

"THAT'S MY BUTTHOLE!"

ouch :-(

[lightcollapse]

*blinks*

http://www.absolutepunk.net/customprofilepics/profilepic51032_12.gif

Shit. Really?

wut? that's been my profile picture for like 2 years, seeing as you're so confident in your appearance you don't even have a profile picture, I hope you feel accomplished in being a d-bag.

[Waldorf]

wut? that's been my profile picture for like 2 years, seeing as you're so confident in your appearance you don't even have a profile picture, I hope you feel accomplished in being a d-bag.

Which means you looked like that when you were 16. :rotfl:

[lightcollapse]

Which means you looked like that when you were 16. :rotfl:

Hell yeah, at least I looked good enough to fuck epic bitches. Suck on it, Waldorf.

[lightupthesky]

He didn't specify what kind of porn...
yeah, but i was thinking about it, and pretty much every porn i've ever seen, i would just laugh if a guy did any of those things with me. like, all the macho, "yeah check me out, i'm fucking this bitch/animal/kid" type of shit. do not want. you can be confident without being.. those guys.

[HelpMeSleep]

"THAT'S MY BUTTHOLE!"
hahaha.

Hell yeah, at least I looked good enough to fuck epic bitches. Suck on it, Waldorf.
that pretty much sums it up.

[HelpMeSleep]

I lost mine a year and a half ago to this guy from my high school who is a verbally abusive dick... and I still don't regret it. we still fuck to this day. he's great minus the whole being an asshole thing. but that's why I wouldn't date him again.

[Smash Adams]

yeah, but i was thinking about it, and pretty much every porn i've ever seen, i would just laugh if a guy did any of those things with me. like, all the macho, yeah check me out, i'm fucking this bitch/animal/kid" type of shit. do not want. you can be confident without being.. those guys.
you're sick girl
I lost mine a year and a half ago to this guy from my high school who is a verbally abusive dick... and I still don't regret it. we still fuck to this day. he's great minus the whole being an asshole thing. but that's why I wouldn't date him again.
um why

[Sventhegreat]

Which means you looked like that when you were 16. :rotfl:

Hahaha

[lightupthesky]

I wouldn't even say that's a thing of inexperience. my guy and I have done it like a hundred times and he does that sometimes when we're fooling around. unless he secretly wants anal and it's on purpose... but he'll never get it from me.

I never say anything though, just sort of adjust because I don't want to embarrass him. did she actually say something when she corrected you?

hahah, i will just tell them, "nope," or "not quite," or just shake my head, we both laugh, and then carry on.

you're sick girl

to be clear, i'm not saying i've heard all of those quotes in the porn i watch. or that they would even be applicable. :shiftyeyes:

[HelpMeSleep]

um why
he's good for what he's good for. :shrug:

[HelpMeSleep]

hahah, i will just tell them, "nope," or "not quite," or just shake my head, we both laugh, and then carry on.
haha exactly. it's really not awkward.

[Smash Adams]

hahah, i will just tell them, "nope," or "not quite," or just shake my head, we both laugh, and then carry on.


to be clear, i'm not saying i've heard all of those quotes in the porn i watch. or that they would even be applicable. :shiftyeyes:
all quotes are applicable in porn
he's good for what he's good for. :shrug:
since when do chicks use dudes for sex?that's all backwards

[Bi11 Lumburgh]

why do people make such a big deal about virginity, seriously, go out, bust a nut, get on with your lives, and why make the person who's "special" to you experience your worst session of sex ever? does that sound right? no, go out and hone your skills a bit, and give the girl something to remember

[lightupthesky]

all quotes are applicable in porn

since when do chicks use dudes for sex?that's all backwards

the times, they are a changin'.

[lightcollapse]

why do people make such a big deal about virginity, seriously, go out, bust a nut, get on with your lives, and why make the person who's "special" to you experience your worst session of sex ever? does that sound right? no, go out and hone your skills a bit, and give the girl something to remember

Because it's an excuse to keep being a pussy ass bitch like my main man Waldorf in this thread.

[HelpMeSleep]

since when do chicks use dudes for sex?that's all backwards
haha. I wouldn't say I use him. it's pretty much mutual.

why do people make such a big deal about virginity, seriously, go out, bust a nut, get on with your lives, and why make the person who's "special" to you experience your worst session of sex ever? does that sound right? no, go out and hone your skills a bit, and give the girl something to remember
I have to agree. my main qualification for waiting really was just not wanting to lose it to a guy where I would look back and think "what a loser".

[ilikesound93]

Sex isn't that big a deal as people make it out to be. I just can't imagine it being a huge shift in the universe when I lose it.

[Smash Adams]

haha. I wouldn't say I use him. it's pretty much mutual.


I have to agree. my main qualification for waiting really was just not wanting to lose it to a guy where I would look back and think "what a loser".
so you both
MAcsKJKM_xM
Sex isn't that big a deal as people make it out to be. I just can't imagine it being a huge shift in the universe when I lose it.
watch more romcoms, you know the fireworks when they kiss, it's gotta be like 50 times that

[ilikesound93]

so you both
MAcsKJKM_xM

watch more romcoms, you know the fireworks when they kiss, it's gotta be like 50 times that

Romcoms?

[Smash Adams]

Romcoms?
romantic comedies silly

[argg_xo]

I lost mine a year and a half ago to this guy from my high school who is a verbally abusive dick... and I still don't regret it. we still fuck to this day. he's great minus the whole being an asshole thing. but that's why I wouldn't date him again.
is this the same guy that said you should pay him to have sex with you?

/mega creeper

[ilikesound93]

romantic comedies silly

Meh. It'll hurt and probably last 5 minutes. I don't have high expectations, haha.

[Smash Adams]

Meh. It'll hurt and probably last 5 minutes. I don't have high expectations, haha.
sounds like love to me :shrug:

[ilikesound93]

sounds like love to me :shrug:

hahah

[ilikesound93]

Mila Kunis looks better in the later episodes of That '70s Show. In the earlier ones, she's kind of cute, but it doesn't do much for me.

Wrong thread or random thought? Also, she was 14 when that 70's show started. So that's probably why :)

[timb89]

i waited for someone i loved. i lost it this year to her. we both were virgins.

im glad i waited for her rather than some random.

[timb89]

Mila Kunis looks better in the later episodes of That '70s Show. In the earlier ones, she's kind of cute, but it doesn't do much for me.

they definitely made her hotter.

[muttley]

Wrong thread or random thought? Also, she was 14 when that 70's show started. So that's probably why :)

Holy hell. My bad! I have no idea how that happened.

[_Sumeet_]

I think that's endearing. Go you for waiting.

[zion the lion]

:appl:

Danke?

[zion the lion]

Meh. It'll hurt and probably last 5 minutes. I don't have high expectations, haha.

Dont forget the queefing!

[AMackChuck]

Says the guy who's been getting laid since 9th grade.

I don't understand what your saying here.

[jmirand1]

I think you're putting the pussy on a pedestal.

He's making the pussy into this great big Greek goddess named 'Pussalia.'

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Ok im 20 and im still a virgin, 99% of my friends arent and well havent been for a while it seems.
They sometimes think its weird that i havent yet, i mean i still want it to mean something or at least something i wont regret,
Is it good to wait til its right? or am i way out of the loop and need to catch up?

I'll be 24 in 3 months and 5 days and I'm still a virgin and pretty much none of my friends are virgins so I always feel like the saint/little kid in the group. All I've gotten is a kiss on the cheek....
Some of them think it's weird that I haven't done anything yet but reassure me that I'll get something soon and that I'm not a freak of nature.
I just don't want it to be with someone random, I'd like it to mean something..I mean I've waited this long, what's any longer?
Plus, I'm scared that I'm gonna be terrible at everything.....and what a dude will think of me since I have NO experience...

[denissuxx]

worst advice, but that was great haha
Depending on what you meant by that, that's pretty bad advice.

Intentionally bad advice haha

Don't worry. Every hole is a goal!

Win.

seriously.

edit: wait, this works if you're a girl. if you're a guy, probably shouldn't do that.

Porn is for everyone ;-)

Yeah, just be really confident and aggressive and it won't be awkwardly bad. If you really fuck up (wrong hole or something) just pretend to be super drunk. Besides, according to our generation's premier sex educator, Mr. Judd Apatow, your first 20 or 30 should be hoodrats anyways so who gives a shit what they think?

This is epic advice

did she actually say something when she corrected you?

Moved my hand with hers I think. So embarrassing haha

[lovely864md]

The last time this thread was made, PL chats started. I'm a little worried.

[lovely864md]

Also, not to stand on my soapbox or anything, but for all the virgins who think sex isn't a big deal, I used to be you. It's not going to completely change your world or anything but do take it somewhat seriously. Especially girls with older guys, just be careful.

/vague enough not to be overly preachy

[Nick Le]

I'll be 24 in 3 months and 5 days and I'm still a virgin and pretty much none of my friends are virgins so I always feel like the saint/little kid in the group. All I've gotten is a kiss on the cheek....
Some of them think it's weird that I haven't done anything yet but reassure me that I'll get something soon and that I'm not a freak of nature.
I just don't want it to be with someone random, I'd like it to mean something..I mean I've waited this long, what's any longer?
Plus, I'm scared that I'm gonna be terrible at everything.....and what a dude will think of me since I have NO experience...

I'm the same, except I'm a few years younger.

[BryterJonah]

Also, not to stand on my soapbox or anything, but for all the virgins who think sex isn't a big deal, I used to be you. It's not going to completely change your world or anything but do take it somewhat seriously. Especially girls with older guys, just be careful.

/vague enough not to be overly preachy
You're just one 17 year old gal not even out of high school. I call bullshit.

[newfoundmichael]

i was like you, then i lost it to someone i thought was right, it ended up not being right, it was a one time thing, then i met my girlfriend right after and weve been dating for the past year and a half, id take the first one back but its not a big deal your first might be regretted later because im happy now

kinda the same for me. i was young and jaded though, thought she was the right one. now i've been dating my current girlfriend for over two years and i somewhat regret the first girl.

[lovely864md]

You're just one 17 year old gal not even out of high school. I call bullshit.

Bullshit on what?

[zion the lion]

It's kind of a state of mind after a certain point.

[BryterJonah]

Bullshit on what?
Your oppressive opinion.

[lovely864md]

Your oppressive opinion.

In regards to my age: I'll be 18 in 3 weeks and I was 16 at the time with an older guy. It's not the end of the world that I didn't take it seriously but in retrospect I wish I had. My opinion is bullshit because of my age? If you're 16 and post regularly on this site and think your own opinions carry any weight, you should know better than to think that.

[zion the lion]

Your oppressive opinion.

She's right about the older guys thing.

[BryterJonah]

In regards to my age: I'll be 18 in 3 weeks and I was 16 at the time with an older guy. It's not the end of the world that I didn't take it seriously but in retrospect I wish I had. My opinion is bullshit because of my age? If you're 16 and post regularly on this site and think your own opinions carry any weight, you should know better than to think that.
The very fact that we're barely a year apart makes me a skeptic.

[sleepyseanzzz]

kinda the same for me. i was young and jaded though, thought she was the right one. now i've been dating my current girlfriend for over two years and i somewhat regret the first girl.

oh man dude i totally regret the first girl. sucks cuz it was just ONE time, the first time i wish i could get back but im glad the way things are right now

[lightupthesky]

Porn is for everyone ;-)


porn is absolutely for everyone, but if you're a guy, you shouldn't do what they do in the movies to any ol' girl you're lucky to be fucking.

[lovely864md]

The very fact that we're barely a year apart makes me a skeptic.

I really don't get what you're skeptical of. I'm not saying sex is bad, in any way. I'm saying girls should take it a little more seriously, because in my own personal experience I didn't and because of the way things played out, I wish that I had. What on earth is there to question about that? I'm not able to learn lessons because of my age? Are you that emotionally immature at 16 that you don't think anyone else could experience something that changes them at that age and learn from it?

[denissuxx]

porn is absolutely for everyone, but if you're a guy, you shouldn't do what they do in the movies to any ol' girl you're lucky to be fucking.

lol

[BryterJonah]

I really don't get what you're skeptical of. I'm not saying sex is bad, in any way. I'm saying girls should take it a little more seriously, because in my own personal experience I didn't and because of the way things played out, I wish that I had. What on earth is there to question about that? I'm not able to learn lessons because of my age? Are you that emotionally immature at 16 that you don't think anyone else could experience something that changes them at that age and learn from it?
Your original post just made it sound as if having passive thoughts towards the subject was immature, and that actually doing it would totally alter all those feelings.

Guess I misinterpreted? :shrug:

[lovely864md]

Your original post just made it sound as if having passive thoughts towards the subject was immature, and that actually doing it would totally alter all those feelings.

Guess I misinterpreted? :shrug:

No.

[Bi11 Lumburgh]

don't put pussy on a pedestal

[chassmariee]

There are bitches you can pay for to help you with that.

[phil19]

i was 20 when i lost my v plates

[Kassie09]

Waiting to do it with someone you really care for is important. It really doesn't matter who you lose it to though, like..eh, no one cares. I couldn't care less about it..just make sure you like them. But in the longrun, you will not give a fuck.

[HometownHero]

yeah, but i was thinking about it, and pretty much every porn i've ever seen, i would just laugh if a guy did any of those things with me. like, all the macho, "yeah check me out, i'm fucking this bitch/animal/kid" type of shit. do not want. you can be confident without being.. those guys.

I would feel disgusting talking or acting like that towards a girl. THat is just nasty.

[nerdvglc]

seriously.

edit: wait, this works if you're a girl. if you're a guy, probably shouldn't do that.
hahahaha! so true.

[SmokieB.High]

The longer you avoid sexual activity the longer you can keep your ballfro... either way you win

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Waiting to do it with someone you really care for is important. It really doesn't matter who you lose it to though, like..eh, no one cares. I couldn't care less about it..just make sure you like them. But in the longrun, you will not give a fuck.

I agree with the whole 'care about' part...but I'd like for it to be someone who cares about me too as well. Like they are going to be a gentleman about it and not be rude or mean or not put up a stink when you want them to use protection and whatnot. and so on and so forth
Someone who will at least not love you and leave you..well I mean people break up and whatnot, but I know people who screw around with a person and then a few days later just ignore them or feel awkward being in the same room as them, and I don't see why it'd even be worth it then.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

I would feel disgusting talking or acting like that towards a girl. THat is just nasty.

Thank you for being a gentleman like that....I sure hope someone appreciates that for your sake, if that makes any sense...

[bstthngunvrhd7]

I'm the same, except I'm a few years younger.

you still have time...don't worry =)

[Thedalylife]

I'm 22 and i still have my card on my person, while most of my friends no longer possess their own. They don't find it odd and their form of advice is pretty much all the 40 year old virgin lines that have been present so far, and we all get a laugh out of it. To me, I've waited this long and it's one of those things that when it feels right, then it'll be the time. It hasn't defined who i am today as a person so why let it feel like a dark cloud that hangs over my head that i have to lose.

[MKEcasey]

I lost mine when I was 19 and it was a sort of random/one time thing. I don't regret it. Sometimes I wish something more would have come of the relationship, but I still don't regret doing it. For me, it just took some weight off of my shoulders. It made me feel a little more comfortable with the idea of having sex and it made future sessions a bit more relaxed. In other words, I was extremely stressed and uncomfortable during my first time. But then it happened and from then on out, I've been able to ENJOY it. And the people it has been with since, it has been in serious relationships. To me, the fact that I had reached my comfort level by the time I was with somebody who I wanted it to mean something with, meant a lot. So in summary, do what you want to do. But just do whatever you think will make you feel comfortable. If you wan to lose it to get the weight off your shoulders, go for it. If you'd rather have your first time be with a true love, go for that. But don't worry about what others think.

[jwicklun]

whatever, I wouldnt worry about it. I didnt lose mine until I was 18. and I havent gotten laid since then, but my point is don't force yourself.

[Thedalylife]

I hope that when it is finally my time that some amazing music is being played in the background. Something inspiring, something like this: ioE_O7Lm0I4

[HometownHero]

Thank you for being a gentleman like that....I sure hope someone appreciates that for your sake, if that makes any sense...
Yeah I get it haha the few pornos I have watched (and ashamed of myself for watching) are so disgusting. The dudes like talk down to the girl and do weird disgusting shit. I hope that guys realize none of that really is real and is all scripted trash. There's a difference between being kinky with someone you love and being a fucked up tard

[dmobley]

i believe the starting line put it best... "if it happens then it happens and thats all"

plus if it does happen then you can tear his or her ass up like you just got married

[bstthngunvrhd7]

I lost mine when I was 19 and it was a sort of random/one time thing. I don't regret it. Sometimes I wish something more would have come of the relationship, but I still don't regret doing it. For me, it just took some weight off of my shoulders. It made me feel a little more comfortable with the idea of having sex and it made future sessions a bit more relaxed. In other words, I was extremely stressed and uncomfortable during my first time. But then it happened and from then on out, I've been able to ENJOY it. And the people it has been with since, it has been in serious relationships. To me, the fact that I had reached my comfort level by the time I was with somebody who I wanted it to mean something with, meant a lot. So in summary, do what you want to do. But just do whatever you think will make you feel comfortable. If you wan to lose it to get the weight off your shoulders, go for it. If you'd rather have your first time be with a true love, go for that. But don't worry about what others think.

I don't think that could be summed up any better :)

Btw--I LOVE your avatar! =)

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Yeah I get it haha the few pornos I have watched (and ashamed of myself for watching) are so disgusting. The dudes like talk down to the girl and do weird disgusting shit. I hope that guys realize none of that really is real and is all scripted trash. There's a difference between being kinky with someone you love and being a fucked up tard

I would sure hope so...about the whole 'there's a difference between kinky with someone you love...' ...
And btw, don't be ashamed that you watched a porno, I'm sure you really couldn't tell what was going to happen, but I'm glad that you, like I said earlier, are respectful of women :)

[Mrs.Sweeny Todd]

when i first had sex , it wasnt anything special...i kinda wonddered y i didnt sooner, just get fucked now

[HometownHero]

I would sure hope so...about the whole 'there's a difference between kinky with someone you love...' ...
And btw, don't be ashamed that you watched a porno, I'm sure you really couldn't tell what was going to happen, but I'm glad that you, like I said earlier, are respectful of women :)
Well thanks :-) but i think that can go both ways. Women can be equally degrading of a man

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Well thanks :-) but i think that can go both ways. Women can be equally degrading of a man

Agreed--I know girls who have absolute disregard for dudes and it hurts me to see them do it because the guys are generally really sweet....

[HometownHero]

Agreed--I know girls who have absolute disregard for dudes and it hurts me to see them do it because the guys are generally really sweet....
Quite a few guys are. Girls always bitch about how guys "hit and quit" or whatever. Girls use guys all the time. They'll lay the ground work and have sex with you and just leave after. Quite the hurtful situation. If you cant tell its happened to me haha Girls are just as mean.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Quite a few guys are. Girls always bitch about how guys "hit and quit" or whatever. Girls use guys all the time. They'll lay the ground work and have sex with you and just leave after. Quite the hurtful situation. If you cant tell its happened to me haha Girls are just as mean.

Aw, i'm sorry that happened to you :/ that's really unfortunate...
I see it happen a lot with this one girl that's part of the group of friends I hang out with and I've known her since the summer. I mean don't get me wrong, the girl in question is a real nice fun girl to be around but she has this 'guys can do it, so can I' (basically "hit it and quit it"). Which by all means, I'm all for equality on stuff like that, but perhaps if both people realize what they are getting into.
But maybe its because right now I'm really tense about a situation that this girl might have royally f-ed up for me. Long story short, this guy invited me to his birthday party and wrote his number on my car window the first night he met me (we met at a bar at karaoke nite), invited me to hang out with his friends, generally initiates texting, is really sweet towards me, initiated the hugging, has talked about us making a dinner together, wants me to come to his show when his band gets a gig and just has been just really sweet and fun for the past month or so I have known him. And he's not someone that I would have ever thought would have picked me. Anyways, his friend likes this girl that I'm talking about and they messed around about three weeks ago, and she gave him the cold shoulder after the hook up and this kid is hung up on her like a lost dog. Well ever since then, it seems that the guy that may or may not like me has been somewhat distant towards me and I'm afraid that it's because of what happened between his friend and this girl. And I don't know how to tell if it is and I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like an ass because I really really really like him...

[zion the lion]

Unless you have a hymen, you cant lose your virginity.

[xmicxcorex]

My brother will be almost 28 before he gets laid for the first time (him and his fiancee are waiting till marriage). It's not a huge deal. Sex is fun, but can get almost annoying at times...
Whether it be pregnancy scares, boring partner, you're boring, so on. If you wanna bang, bang; if you'd rather wait...wait.

[HometownHero]

Aw, i'm sorry that happened to you :/ that's really unfortunate...
I see it happen a lot with this one girl that's part of the group of friends I hang out with and I've known her since the summer. I mean don't get me wrong, the girl in question is a real nice fun girl to be around but she has this 'guys can do it, so can I' (basically "hit it and quit it"). Which by all means, I'm all for equality on stuff like that, but perhaps if both people realize what they are getting into.
But maybe its because right now I'm really tense about a situation that this girl might have royally f-ed up for me. Long story short, this guy invited me to his birthday party and wrote his number on my car window the first night he met me (we met at a bar at karaoke nite), invited me to hang out with his friends, generally initiates texting, is really sweet towards me, initiated the hugging, has talked about us making a dinner together, wants me to come to his show when his band gets a gig and just has been just really sweet and fun for the past month or so I have known him. And he's not someone that I would have ever thought would have picked me. Anyways, his friend likes this girl that I'm talking about and they messed around about three weeks ago, and she gave him the cold shoulder after the hook up and this kid is hung up on her like a lost dog. Well ever since then, it seems that the guy that may or may not like me has been somewhat distant towards me and I'm afraid that it's because of what happened between his friend and this girl. And I don't know how to tell if it is and I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like an ass because I really really really like him...
You just got to be up front with him. I've always hated when girls beat around the bush about disliking/liking me. Its pointless. Just be up front. And not through texting. In person. Talk it out maturely. Let him know how you feel without coming off as a psychol. And tell your girlfriend to keep her zipper up and stop being a bitch to guys.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Unless you have a hymen, you cant lose your virginity.

Not to be gross or anything, but girls can break/tear/whathaveyou theirs before they have sex...it can just happen naturally.
And if you are referring to guys not being able to lose their virginity in the terms you have defined, I believe you are wrong...I mean dudes do have feelings. Just because they don't have what girls have, doesn't mean they can't 'lose it'...

[bstthngunvrhd7]

You just got to be up front with him. I've always hated when girls beat around the bush about disliking/liking me. Its pointless. Just be up front. And not through texting. In person. Talk it out maturely. Let him know how you feel without coming off as a psychol. And tell your girlfriend to keep her zipper up and stop being a bitch to guys.

I'm just going to see how things go for a few more weeks and then perhaps if I'm brave enough to bring it up, I will.
We generally see each other on Tuesdays so hopefully this Tuesday will go well.
It's just even if he doesn't like me like that, I'd like to be his friend because he's really fun. Like when I hung out with this kid, we went grocery shopping. It was sweet. And then we went to this supercute lunch place where all these really adorable old people ate at and it was fun.
And the fact that he talks about things in the future, makes me think that he DOES want me around for a bit, like why would he tell me that he (well texted) that he wanted me at his show when he gets one if he didn't want me around?
And the fact that he's initiated pretty much everything just confuses me even more.
It's just rarely, if ever, do guys pick me like that and for him to do so means a lot to me...
Believe me I'd like to tell her to do that, but she'd probably deck me and then I don't want to have people chose sides in the friendship.

[zion the lion]

Not to be gross or anything, but girls can break/tear/whathaveyou theirs before they have sex...it can just happen naturally.
And if you are referring to guys not being able to lose their virginity in the terms you have defined, I believe you are wrong...

I wasnt serious.

[HometownHero]

I'm just going to see how things go for a few more weeks and then perhaps if I'm brave enough to bring it up, I will.
We generally see each other on Tuesdays so hopefully this Tuesday will go well.
It's just even if he doesn't like me like that, I'd like to be his friend because he's really fun. Like when I hung out with this kid, we went grocery shopping. It was sweet. And then we went to this supercute lunch place where all these really adorable old people ate at and it was fun.
And the fact that he talks about things in the future, makes me think that he DOES want me around for a bit, like why would he tell me that he (well texted) that he wanted me at his show when he gets one if he didn't want me around?
And the fact that he's initiated pretty much everything just confuses me even more.
It's just rarely, if ever, do guys pick me like that and for him to do so means a lot to me...
Believe me I'd like to tell her to do that, but she'd probably deck me and then I don't want to have people chose sides in the friendship.
Seems like he is into you. Popular opinion in this thread would be to just put out haha but I say just go slow and play it by ear. Hint at it then finally in a round about way bring it up and talk it out. He sounds like he definitely wants you around

[HelpMeSleep]

so you both
MAcsKJKM_xM
I've had that song stuck in my head all day because of you. although I'm fond of the Paramore cover.

is this the same guy that said you should pay him to have sex with you?

/mega creeper
hahaha. it is. it's always Pat.

[ikikwe]

Eh, I'm still a virgin. It's a bummer sometimes, but when it happens it happens.

[zion the lion]

Eh, I'm still a virgin. It's a bummer sometimes, but when it happens it happens.

Why is it a bummer?

[overdrive91]

Why is it a bummer?
because he wants sex obviously and guys who havn't had sex in highschool usually get made fun of and therefore it may be a bummer.

[panties_nz]

Happens at times, but not always. Just do what you see in porn movies, but make sure you get the right hole and act confident.


i would say the opposite

don't do it like the porn movies. most girls don't really dig the stuff they do...

[crushlustcrash]

am i the only one who feels somewhat guilty after sex?no particular reason actually i just do.
Like I enjoy it while it is but when its done, i feel so....wrong.

[Akissforher]

I'll be 24 in 3 months and 5 days and I'm still a virgin and pretty much none of my friends are virgins so I always feel like the saint/little kid in the group. All I've gotten is a kiss on the cheek....
Some of them think it's weird that I haven't done anything yet but reassure me that I'll get something soon and that I'm not a freak of nature.
I just don't want it to be with someone random, I'd like it to mean something..I mean I've waited this long, what's any longer?
Plus, I'm scared that I'm gonna be terrible at everything.....and what a dude will think of me since I have NO experience...

see for me at this stage, a girl with as little experience asd me ia great to me, i wont have to worry about being bad at it if were both as inexperienced.
and my message to you is goond on you for waiting. too many girls give it up i think for no reason i could be wrong though,

[overdrive91]

see for me at this stage, a girl with as little experience asd me ia great to me, i wont have to worry about being bad at it if were both as inexperienced.
and my message to you is goond on you for waiting. too many girls give it up i think for no reason i could be wrong though,
Okay,if your worried about being bad wouldn't it be better to lose it to someone else until you find the right person because you don't want to be bad for her, right? Practice does make perfect. Not saying you should just pointing things out.

[Reaver]

people always say "i betta wait for the right one, blah blah". well, nothing wrong with that, but there's also the other side of the medal.
if you wait till you find your "love of your life" and stay with her, you'll probably think about how sex would be with other girls, for the rest of your life.

[Reaver]

am i the only one who feels somewhat guilty after sex?no particular reason actually i just do.
Like I enjoy it while it is but when its done, i feel so....wrong.

you shouldn't listen to the evil churchmen. nothing bad about having sex.

i luv your avatar!

[crushlustcrash]

you shouldn't listen to the evil churchmen. nothing bad about having sex.

i luv your avatar!

hahaha i love yours!

STAR WARS POWER!

woops sorry fan kid moment : p

[Ryzenfall]

Part of my thoughts on this is that:
if you want to make something worth waiting for then you'll make worth out of the waiting.

When something is available, easy, and unconsecrated, and convenient, there is just less value to it.

Personal suggestion though. I don't hate or discriminate.

[Reaver]

hahaha i love yours!

STAR WARS POWER!

woops sorry fan kid moment : p

woah, awesome! you're my official starwars buddy, now :D

:buddies:

[Akissforher]

Okay,if your worried about being bad wouldn't it be better to lose it to someone else until you find the right person because you don't want to be bad for her, right? Practice does make perfect. Not saying you should just pointing things out.

yeah i see what you mean, i think someone else pointed that out too.

[crushlustcrash]

woah, awesome! you're my official starwars buddy, now :D

:buddies:

WHOA i have a starwars buddy : D

[Jennurna Gray]

I'll be 24 in 3 months and 5 days and I'm still a virgin and pretty much none of my friends are virgins so I always feel like the saint/little kid in the group. All I've gotten is a kiss on the cheek....
Some of them think it's weird that I haven't done anything yet but reassure me that I'll get something soon and that I'm not a freak of nature.
I just don't want it to be with someone random, I'd like it to mean something..I mean I've waited this long, what's any longer?
Plus, I'm scared that I'm gonna be terrible at everything.....and what a dude will think of me since I have NO experience...
Yes. Me, too.

[Chrisj182]

I'm 18 and haven't done it yet. I'm the only one out of my mates who hasn't, and tbh I don't give a shit. Waiting for the right person.

[Auals]

Yes. Me, too.

To both you and the person you quoted. If you're with someone who loves you and isn't with you just for a "quick fuck" then half the fun of it is exploring, finding out what you do and don't like. And doing it together. Everyone's self-conscious about it, guys just usually hide theirs behind bravado. But the whole point of losing that with someone and knowing the other person that well is incredible.

But as pointed out before. I'm a complete romantic so just ignore what I say.

[ohioforlovers]

I thought I was ready at 16, i was "in love", or so i thought, I had no idea what love was. I try not to have regrets, but I kind of wish I would have waited for someone else.

[Laural666]

Wow.

[hvolgarino08]

I lost my virginity to my childhood crush, I'm glad I waited until I did.

[ikikwe]

Why is it a bummer?

because he wants sex obviously and guys who havn't had sex in highschool usually get made fun of and therefore it may be a bummer.

It's not that I'm made fun of, but it just sucks when everyone else is having sex. But yeah, that's pretty much it.

[overdrive91]

It's not that I'm made fun of, but it just sucks when everyone else is having sex. But yeah, that's pretty much it.

sorry, I didn't mean to assume. its just a typical thing for guys to do in highschool.

[barkingincision]

He's making the pussy into this great big Greek goddess named 'Pussalia.'
thats my favorite goddess

[HelpMeSleep]

I lost my virginity to my childhood crush, I'm glad I waited until I did.
that's cute.

[ikikwe]

sorry, I didn't mean to assume. its just a typical thing for guys to do in highschool.

Nah, it's cool. I definitely understand that people get shit for it, but I tend to kind of keep it quiet, especially here at college, just to avoid that bullshit.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Yes. Me, too.

My friends reassure me to do what comes naturally like with kissing and all the way up the scale, but I still have anxiety about it and don't really feel like having to explain my whole inexperience thing or for some guy to think that I'm a freak of nature...
And then some of my friends are like "oh guys looveee virgins" which then I would think they had some kind of fetish...and that it wouldn't be about the fact they'd want to do stuff with me, that it'd be more about them 'taking' stuff from me...

[bstthngunvrhd7]

see for me at this stage, a girl with as little experience asd me ia great to me, i wont have to worry about being bad at it if were both as inexperienced.
and my message to you is goond on you for waiting. too many girls give it up i think for no reason i could be wrong though,

If I were to luck into some guy that is my age that is also inexperienced as well, that'd be great for me. Or at least someone who cares enough to understand or won't be rude about my lack of inexperience.
And thank you, that's really sweet about the 'good on you for waiting'..thing. Sometimes I think I'm just of a dying breed....

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Seems like he is into you. Popular opinion in this thread would be to just put out haha but I say just go slow and play it by ear. Hint at it then finally in a round about way bring it up and talk it out. He sounds like he definitely wants you around

I sure hope that he's into me. I just don't know if he'd take it like offensively if I asked if it was because of what happened between his friend that girl in my group, because his friend is really nice and I talk to him too, so really I'd just to be like "look..if it is I'm on team "dudes name" and not hers because I think that what she did was shitty." but in a nicer way..

[bstthngunvrhd7]

I wasnt serious.

oh ok.

[unnameworthy]

I was a virgin until I was 21. Now I have the best sex life of anyone I know. My girl and I dated for two years before we had sex, and it was worth the wait.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

To both you and the person you quoted. If you're with someone who loves you and isn't with you just for a "quick fuck" then half the fun of it is exploring, finding out what you do and don't like. And doing it together. Everyone's self-conscious about it, guys just usually hide theirs behind bravado. But the whole point of losing that with someone and knowing the other person that well is incredible.

But as pointed out before. I'm a complete romantic so just ignore what I say.

No, that is absolutely sweet, so it is apprecited :) Sometimes I think that it's my hopeless romanticisim has led me to have high standards, but oh well. I just don't want to do something for the sake of doing something. Like my one friend has joked (but I believe she is serious) that I should fool around and do this one kid that she works with who is 18(who I now work with too because I just got a second job where they work) just so we can work out our frustrations and get a technique before it matters. It's not going to happen because I think that's lame.

But I do hope I find someone who will enjoy exploring and that we will both learn what each other likes, dislikes and whatnot..

[Auals]

No, that is absolutely sweet, so it is apprecited :) Sometimes I think that it's my hopeless romanticisim has led me to have high standards, but oh well. I just don't want to do something for the sake of doing something. Like my one friend has joked (but I believe she is serious) that I should fool around and do this one kid that she works with who is 18(who I now work with too because I just got a second job where they work) just so we can work out our frustrations and get a technique before it matters. It's not going to happen because I think that's lame.

But I do hope I find someone who will enjoy exploring and that we will both learn what each other likes, dislikes and whatnot..

The best part about finding that person is that when things do happen. It's not a "guess who I fucked last night" thing with their friends. One girl I dated was like that. It was horrible. It cheapened everything because I knew that the next day she'd be trying to brag to her friends about it. To her it was "look who i'm with" type thing. (Her friends liked me more than her, so it was kinda hard). But the girl I was with until recently was different. I can't describe it. Respect was present. That's what the entire thing is about. Respecting yourself and the person you're with. Those guys who just want to sleep with you, they don't give a shit about you, they just want to get off. That's not cool. I lost my virginity at 17, to a friend because I could. And while her and I are still friends, the experience was nowhere near what it should have been.

/beingpathetic

[AndrewIcex]

If you're going to do it, do it like a fucking champ.

[songydarko]

You definitely don't need to "catch up". Everyone's ready at a different time and you shouldn't feel rushed to do anything you're not ready for. Just make sure you don't regret it when you've finally decided to.

[uglystar03]

people always say "i betta wait for the right one, blah blah". well, nothing wrong with that, but there's also the other side of the medal.
if you wait till you find your "love of your life" and stay with her, you'll probably think about how sex would be with other girls, for the rest of your life.

While I see your point, what if the "love of your life" just isn't good in the sack and you had multiple partners before. Then you would realize how lousy your lover is and possibly be thinking about previous partners for the rest of your marriage. Whereas if you had waited, you wouldn't know what you were missing.

Either way, I don't care. I lost it way too young, and I'm a little bit embarrassed about it. Fortunately, every partner I've had I have been in serious relationships with.

[ilikesound93]

Yes. Me, too.

Why? Guys are doing most of the work. Unless you're a dryed up old lady I don't think it's possible for them to consider you 'bad'. Wow. Detailed. Um...

[Smash Adams]

I lost my virginity to my childhood crush, I'm glad I waited until I did.
I read this as waited until I died, that made it go from aww to awful haha

[SicTransitIbiza]

I'm 22 and I still haven't lost it... kinda sucks. I haven't been waiting for anyone special, it just hasn't happened yet. It sucks when my little brother is pulling in tons of girls and we look alike, so I must be doing something really wrong. I honestly cannot wait until it does happen tho. Sex may be just sex, but I am confident its pretty amazing.

[lovely864md]

Why? Guys are doing most of the work. Unless you're a dryed up old lady I don't think it's possible for them to consider you 'bad'. Wow. Detailed. Um...

LOL um yes, it is possible for them to consider you bad.

[ilikesound93]

LOL um yes, it is possible for them to consider you bad.

haha exactly.

[lovely864md]

haha exactly.

You just said the exact opposite of that.

[ilikesound93]

You just said the exact opposite of that.

bahaha oh I totally mis-read that thinking you were agreeing with me...

[hvolgarino08]

I read this as waited until I died, that made it go from aww to awful haha

hahahahahaha

last i checked i was still living.

[Jennurna Gray]

To both you and the person you quoted. If you're with someone who loves you and isn't with you just for a "quick fuck" then half the fun of it is exploring, finding out what you do and don't like. And doing it together. Everyone's self-conscious about it, guys just usually hide theirs behind bravado. But the whole point of losing that with someone and knowing the other person that well is incredible.

But as pointed out before. I'm a complete romantic so just ignore what I say.
No, that's cute.

[Jennurna Gray]

My friends reassure me to do what comes naturally like with kissing and all the way up the scale, but I still have anxiety about it and don't really feel like having to explain my whole inexperience thing or for some guy to think that I'm a freak of nature...
And then some of my friends are like "oh guys looveee virgins" which then I would think they had some kind of fetish...and that it wouldn't be about the fact they'd want to do stuff with me, that it'd be more about them 'taking' stuff from me...
True. It's difficult, I guess.
I'm scared, though. Makes me wanna just keep going with my 'Inhuman Asexual Act', where i don't date and act like I'm just not attracted to anyone. I'm a fake, and it kills me.

[lightupthesky]

I would feel disgusting talking or acting like that towards a girl. THat is just nasty.

chix diggit.

[Waldorf]

chix diggit.

The fact that your name is a Van Halen song just makes that comment.

[Waldorf]

True. It's difficult, I guess.
I'm scared, though. Makes me wanna just keep going with my 'Inhuman Asexual Act', where i don't date and act like I'm just not attracted to anyone. I'm a fake, and it kills me.

Honestly, that's about as real as it gets these days. There's no reason to date if you're not attracted to anyone. You're no fake.

[lightupthesky]

people always say "i betta wait for the right one, blah blah". well, nothing wrong with that, but there's also the other side of the medal.
if you wait till you find your "love of your life" and stay with her, you'll probably think about how sex would be with other girls, for the rest of your life.

this is true. i never knew how small my first's dick was until i got with the next guy.

Why? Guys are doing most of the work. Unless you're a dryed up old lady I don't think it's possible for them to consider you 'bad'. Wow. Detailed. Um...

this is incredibly stupid, not all that detailed, and not at all accurate.

[ilikesound93]

this is true. i never knew how small my first's dick was until i got with the next guy.



this is incredibly stupid, not all that detailed, and not at all accurate.

Well that would make sense, considering I'm a sixteen year old virgin I guess. My bad. Please fill me in.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

The best part about finding that person is that when things do happen. It's not a "guess who I fucked last night" thing with their friends. One girl I dated was like that. It was horrible. It cheapened everything because I knew that the next day she'd be trying to brag to her friends about it. To her it was "look who i'm with" type thing. (Her friends liked me more than her, so it was kinda hard). But the girl I was with until recently was different. I can't describe it. Respect was present. That's what the entire thing is about. Respecting yourself and the person you're with. Those guys who just want to sleep with you, they don't give a shit about you, they just want to get off. That's not cool. I lost my virginity at 17, to a friend because I could. And while her and I are still friends, the experience was nowhere near what it should have been.

/beingpathetic

See, I'm glad that someone has somewhat of the same mentality as me. To me, I find it pointless to screw just to screw--it's just not worth it. Perhaps that makes me a prude, but whatever. I'd like for someone to respect me and to want to be with me because they want to, not just because they want to get off and just for their satisfaction or to add another name to their list. I'm sure I could have just gotten it over with at some point, but that's not what I want.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

True. It's difficult, I guess.
I'm scared, though. Makes me wanna just keep going with my 'Inhuman Asexual Act', where i don't date and act like I'm just not attracted to anyone. I'm a fake, and it kills me.

Aw, I'm sorry... :/ It must be sad not to be able to be able to feel what you want to feel, but I understand because I still struggle with the same thing.
It's just in the past year, I've completely changed in a good way. I really came out of my shell because I finally met a group of people I felt comfortable around (I mean I had a few friends before them, but this group just really brought it out in me) and I knew I could be who I wanted to be around them and they wouldn't judge me. I started going out more often (not on dates, just hanging out) and with that, it means I have more interactions with guys and I'm still unsure of how to deal with that.
And with me not being used to guys talking to me and showing interest in me, it just confuses me at times and I don't know how to act and I don't want it to be one day where something does happen and I don't know what to do because I've never been in the situation before and I don't know how he'll respond....and I am currently talking to this guy who is really fun and awesome and I don't know what/if something is going to happen.
Like two times he's mentioned wanting to cuddle with me and I didn't know what to do (well I would but you know what I mean) because I was unsure of what would happen. The one time he was a bit wasted and also asked this girl that was there with me to stay too but we both sidestepped that by the fact it was 5 a.m. and we really needed to leave and the second time, there was a power outage in the area where he stays and I had dropped him off and he wanted me to stay and cuddle by candlelight and while I kinda wanted to (looking back at it now, I wish I would have just stayed) I had to be to work early in the morning and I was like "oh I have to be to work early in the morning"...so I hope that by me doing that I didn't screw things up with him..I don't think I did but.....

[zion the lion]

It's not that I'm made fun of, but it just sucks when everyone else is having sex. But yeah, that's pretty much it.

So what. Sex isnt a big deal, it's nothing. None of my friends are virgins, and havent been for years now. I dont really feel left out or like there's something I'm missing out on. Go read a book or whatever, other than the fact that its a calorie burner, there are better things to do with your time.

[Waldorf]

The thing I don't understand is how people get so fucking worked up over sex and just relationships in general. And that bullshit quote "all good relationships take hard work."

Is it just me who got the impression from all of those Disney movies that have become models for my life that love is supposed to be easy, fun, and beautiful?

Sorry, kids, but that's what I'm looking for.

[ikikwe]

So what. Sex isnt a big deal, it's nothing. None of my friends are virgins, and havent been for years now. I dont really feel left out or like there's something I'm missing out on. Go read a book or whatever, other than the fact that its a calorie burner, there are better things to do with your time.

Okay, you don't feel left out. I do. I just want to get it over and done with so it's off my mind. It's always on my mind.

[Waldorf]

Okay, you don't feel left out. I do. I just want to get it over and done with so it's off my mind. It's always on my mind.

http://www.jackinworld.com/
:thumbup:

[zion the lion]

Okay, you don't feel left out. I do. I just want to get it over and done with so it's off my mind. It's always on my mind.

I'm not being rude, I really want to know...What do you honestly expect sex and losing your virginity to be like?

[ikikwe]

I'm not being rude, I really want to know...What do you honestly expect sex and losing your virginity to be like?

I don't know. I don't even care what's it like, to be honest. I just want to get it over with. That being said, I'm not exactly making an effort to lose it, so to speak, which may be my problem. I'm just moping around haha.

[Waldorf]

I don't know. I don't even care what's it like, to be honest. I just want to get it over with. That being said, I'm not exactly making an effort to lose it, so to speak, which may be my problem. I'm just moping around haha.

Are you fucking serious kid

[kbi the crowing]

http://www.jackinworld.com/
:thumbup:

I just spent a half an hour on that site reading stuff off of it to my friends. thank you for the entertainment.

[Waldorf]

I just spent a half an hour on that site reading stuff off of it to my friends. thank you for the entertainment.

Very welcome, mate.

[zion the lion]

I don't know. I don't even care what's it like, to be honest. I just want to get it over with. That being said, I'm not exactly making an effort to lose it, so to speak, which may be my problem. I'm just moping around haha.

So you dont care, you just want to do something to get rid of something that's really just a state of mind? If it makes you feel any better, there really isnt such a thing as virginity. It's something almost completely made up in our minds. I lost my sushi eating virginity last week, but was it a big deal? No. I'm a car virgin, but do people really make an emphasis on having a car? No.

[ikikwe]

So you dont care, you just want to do something to get rid of something that's really just a state of mind? If it makes you feel any better, there really isnt such a thing as virginity. It's something almost completely made up in our minds. I lost my sushi eating virginity last week, but was it a big deal? No. I'm a car virgin, but do people really make an emphasis on having a car? No.

That's an interesting way of looking at it.

[HometownHero]

So you dont care, you just want to do something to get rid of something that's really just a state of mind? If it makes you feel any better, there really isnt such a thing as virginity. It's something almost completely made up in our minds. I lost my sushi eating virginity last week, but was it a big deal? No. I'm a car virgin, but do people really make an emphasis on having a car? No.
Or you're just a slut. People take note. Do not have sex with this girl

[zion the lion]

Or you're just a slut. People take note. Do not have sex with this girl

or you could check out the first page in this thread.

[HometownHero]

or you could check out the first page in this thread.
Is the front page sarcasm?

[zion the lion]

Is the front page sarcasm?

Do you think it is?

[HometownHero]

Do you think it is?
Yes

[zion the lion]

Yes

That would be some odd sarcasm

[HometownHero]

That would be some odd sarcasm
People on this site can be very odd so I would put it past nobody

[zion the lion]

People on this site can be very odd so I would put it past nobody

Either way it doesnt totally matter, sluts are good at their slut things and girl virgins (younger than a certain age) are cute.

[MilesToGo]

I was the last virgin in my group of friends for quite awhile. It sucked, because everyone loved to tease me, but I didn't really mind. I finally lost it this summer the night before my 19th birthday. Needless to say, the Birthday Sex song was played and dedicated to me the rest of the summer haha

[zion the lion]

I was the last virgin in my group of friends for quite awhile. It sucked, because everyone loved to tease me, but I didn't really mind. I finally lost it this summer the night before my 19th birthday. Needless to say, the Birthday Sex song was played and dedicated to me the rest of the summer haha

That song played on my birthday when I was naked in the shower...I felt like the radio station was watching me.

[Auals]

I was the last virgin in my group of friends for quite awhile. It sucked, because everyone loved to tease me, but I didn't really mind. I finally lost it this summer the night before my 19th birthday. Needless to say, the Birthday Sex song was played and dedicated to me the rest of the summer haha

The birthday sex song? I have not heard this.

[MilesToGo]

awLTX68jkIo

It was all over the radio this summer.

[Jaimehere]

Girl You Know A A I

[HelpMeSleep]

I was the last virgin in my group of friends for quite awhile. It sucked, because everyone loved to tease me, but I didn't really mind. I finally lost it this summer the night before my 19th birthday. Needless to say, the Birthday Sex song was played and dedicated to me the rest of the summer haha
lucky. hahaha I actually have a sad addiction to that song. and I didn't get no birthday sex on my last birthday.

[MilesToGo]

lucky. hahaha I actually have a sad addiction to that song. and I didn't get no birthday sex on my last birthday.

The birthday sex was okay, but the break up sex was better. They should make a remix.

[HelpMeSleep]

The birthday sex was okay, but the break up sex was better. They should make a remix.
haha true. I've had a year of break up sex and it's the shit.

[Jennurna Gray]

Honestly, that's about as real as it gets these days. There's no reason to date if you're not attracted to anyone. You're no fake.
But you don't understand, I am attracted to people.
I fell in love with my best friend, and when he asked me out, I still couldn't say yes, because I'm afraid I'm gonna do something wrong as far as kissing, and other things go. He waited for me for seven months before he lost hope, I, on the other hand, am still very much feeling it, every second of my life, he's all I think about. He's my reason and motive behind everything I do. And the part that hurts the worst is knowing that I could have had him. And I maybe still could. But obviously I can't.
I've let my phobias take over my life.

[Jennurna Gray]

Aw, I'm sorry... :/ It must be sad not to be able to be able to feel what you want to feel, but I understand because I still struggle with the same thing.
It's just in the past year, I've completely changed in a good way. I really came out of my shell because I finally met a group of people I felt comfortable around (I mean I had a few friends before them, but this group just really brought it out in me) and I knew I could be who I wanted to be around them and they wouldn't judge me. I started going out more often (not on dates, just hanging out) and with that, it means I have more interactions with guys and I'm still unsure of how to deal with that.
And with me not being used to guys talking to me and showing interest in me, it just confuses me at times and I don't know how to act and I don't want it to be one day where something does happen and I don't know what to do because I've never been in the situation before and I don't know how he'll respond....and I am currently talking to this guy who is really fun and awesome and I don't know what/if something is going to happen.
Like two times he's mentioned wanting to cuddle with me and I didn't know what to do (well I would but you know what I mean) because I was unsure of what would happen. The one time he was a bit wasted and also asked this girl that was there with me to stay too but we both sidestepped that by the fact it was 5 a.m. and we really needed to leave and the second time, there was a power outage in the area where he stays and I had dropped him off and he wanted me to stay and cuddle by candlelight and while I kinda wanted to (looking back at it now, I wish I would have just stayed) I had to be to work early in the morning and I was like "oh I have to be to work early in the morning"...so I hope that by me doing that I didn't screw things up with him..I don't think I did but.....
I'm kind of like that, except I'm completely comfortable around guys until they try to kiss me, or move their hands a little too low. You can tell a guy you're dating that you're not ready for sex and there's a chance he'll be fine with it, but tell him you're not ready for kissing and he'll most likely leave your ass right where he found you. I'm just suprised that this happens to more people. Maybe I'm not all that behind.
I don't think you've ruined things, do you trust this guy?
Is there any way you could possibly explain to him how you feel, and what you're going through.
I'm guessing he'll give you another chance, just be sure to take it, and when you feel like giving up, think CARPE DIEM.
:]
And let me know how things go.

[lightupthesky]

Are you fucking serious kid

no, he's not fucking anyone


ba dun tch :bow:

[lightupthesky]

But you don't understand, I am attracted to people.
I fell in love with my best friend, and when he asked me out, I still couldn't say yes, because I'm afraid I'm gonna do something wrong as far as kissing, and other things go. He waited for me for seven months before he lost hope, I, on the other hand, am still very much feeling it, every second of my life, he's all I think about. He's my reason and motive behind everything I do. And the part that hurts the worst is knowing that I could have had him. And I maybe still could. But obviously I can't.
I've let my phobias take over my life.

I'm kind of like that, except I'm completely comfortable around guys until they try to kiss me, or move their hands a little too low. You can tell a guy you're dating that you're not ready for sex and there's a chance he'll be fine with it, but tell him you're not ready for kissing and he'll most likely leave your ass right where he found you. I'm just suprised that this happens to more people. Maybe I'm not all that behind.
I don't think you've ruined things, do you trust this guy?
Is there any way you could possibly explain to him how you feel, and what you're going through.
I'm guessing he'll give you another chance, just be sure to take it, and when you feel like giving up, think CARPE DIEM.
:]
And let me know how things go.

that's ironic

[Jennurna Gray]

that's ironic
It is. I try to help other people even if I can't help myself. I figure I don't have to consider myself a lost cause if I'm doing some sort of good.

[kbi the crowing]

I was the last virgin in my group of friends for quite awhile. It sucked, because everyone loved to tease me, but I didn't really mind. I finally lost it this summer the night before my 19th birthday. Needless to say, the Birthday Sex song was played and dedicated to me the rest of the summer haha

I wish I had a cool story like that

my first time, had sex for 20 minutes and without finishing we had to stop so I could take her to work.
she said I wouldn't last the 20 minutes. I had to wait 4 hours to pick her up from work and continue.

at least I can say I lasted a while?

[Waldorf]

I wish I had a cool story like that

my first time, had sex for 20 minutes and without finishing we had to stop so I could take her to work.
she said I wouldn't last the 20 minutes. I had to wait 4 hours to pick her up from work and continue.

at least I can say I lasted a while?

http://svmomblog.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/04/15/too_much.jpg

[kbi the crowing]

http://svmomblog.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/04/15/too_much.jpg

I;m not sure what exactly you are saying, but I concur.

[princesschad]

I'm a virgin and I am proud!

[Waldorf]

I'm a virgin and I am proud!

Why are you proud? Does this honestly matter enough to anyone for them to actually be proud or ashamed? Seriously?

[princesschad]

Why are you proud? Does this honestly matter enough to anyone for them to actually be proud or ashamed? Seriously?

My post was not meant to be taken seriously.

[Waldorf]

My post was not meant to be taken seriously.

Seriously?

[princesschad]

Seriously?

Fo' realz.

[Waldorf]

Fo' realz.

So are you actually a virgin?

[princesschad]

So are you actually a virgin?

Yah, by my own choice.

[Waldorf]

Yah, by my own choice.

sooooo sXe omg ur my heroo

[princesschad]

sooooo sXe omg ur my heroo

Haha, it has nothing to do with being straight edge. I'm not.

[Waldorf]

Haha, it has nothing to do with being straight edge. I'm not.

me neither but it's my excuse for still being a virgin

[HelpMeSleep]

me neither but it's my excuse for still being a virgin
you should try making out with someone first.

[Waldorf]

you should try making out with someone first.

+1 you remembered my greatest and most popular thread and made me laugh

i am so proud

[HelpMeSleep]

+1 you remembered my greatest and most popular thread and made me laugh

i am so proud
how could I forget?

[Waldorf]

how could I forget?

*blushes* stop flattering me

[the1]

Alot of people who say they are "waiting" just say that because they haven't had the chance, I'm betting.

I'm not waiting, I just literally haven't met a girl who I want to fuck and wants to fuck me back...kind of annoying because I'm here at Uni where all I hear is "Shit dawg I got me so much pootang" and I just try to avoid the conversation. But at the end of the day I have studying, music and getting a job to worry about...getting laid isn't high on the priority list.

Although, and yes I will make this a bit of a self indulgent post, I do sometimes wonder why. I mean, I'm confident in the way I look, and I get complements, and I'm not an anti-social person, but I just can't find anyone I click with. But I guess that's just life- some draw the short straw for a while.

[mar_]

Alot of people who say they are "waiting" just say that because they haven't had the chance, I'm betting.


Most likely. Other than people waiting for religious reasons.

[geebee889]

Ok im 20 and im still a virgin, 99% of my friends arent and well havent been for a while it seems.
They sometimes think its weird that i havent yet, i mean i still want it to mean something or at least something i wont regret,
Is it good to wait til its right? or am i way out of the loop and need to catch up?


I'm in the same situation right now. I don't know, I just feel like I need to wait until it feels right, you know? I don't want to lose it in a drunken stupor because that'd be stupid.

[overdrive91]

Dude i hear so much stuff about it waiting for it to feel right. Unless your 5% of the population where fairytales come true then good on you but for most part that ain't going to happen. When I first i had sex the way people hyped about it I thought chuck norris was gonna come up and gimme a hi5 or something. Don't put the pussy on the pedestal.

[TheReckoner]

Dude i hear so much stuff about it waiting for it to feel right. Unless your 5% of the population where fairytales come true then good on you but for most part that ain't going to happen. When I first i had sex the way people hyped about it I thought chuck norris was gonna come up and gimme a hi5 or something. Don't put the pussy on the pedestal.
Oh dear.

[Viva Sonata]

I don't like sex. I don't think I'm going to lose my virginity for a long long time.

[everybodywakeup]

I don't like sex. I don't think I'm going to lose my virginity for a long long time.

This post makes no sense.

[Crowe41]

Alot of people who say they are "waiting" just say that because they haven't had the chance, I'm betting.

I'm not waiting, I just literally haven't met a girl who I want to fuck and wants to fuck me back...kind of annoying because I'm here at Uni where all I hear is "Shit dawg I got me so much pootang" and I just try to avoid the conversation. But at the end of the day I have studying, music and getting a job to worry about...getting laid isn't high on the priority list.

Although, and yes I will make this a bit of a self indulgent post, I do sometimes wonder why. I mean, I'm confident in the way I look, and I get complements, and I'm not an anti-social person, but I just can't find anyone I click with. But I guess that's just life- some draw the short straw for a while.

Maybe the standards are a little too high? The majority of people at Uni are in the same boat as you and the people that brag about all the pussy they're getting are the insecure ones. Although...haven't met a girl you want to bang yet? There's gotta be at least one!

[Esrb99]

[QUOTE=the1;56630122
Although, and yes I will make this a bit of a self indulgent post, I do sometimes wonder why. I mean, I'm confident in the way I look, and I get complements, and I'm not an anti-social person, but I just can't find anyone I click with. But I guess that's just life- some draw the short straw for a while.[/QUOTE]

Whilst im still a virgin, I can say finding someone you can click with is great. I just recently found what I think may be 'the one.' definitely worth the wait.

[the1]

Maybe the standards are a little too high? The majority of people at Uni are in the same boat as you and the people that brag about all the pussy they're getting are the insecure ones. Although...haven't met a girl you want to bang yet? There's gotta be at least one!

No I've met girls I want to bang- they just don't wanna bang me haha. Never a mutual thing it seems.