can't stay friends

[Dumpweed]

ok. a [not so]brief history:
i dated girl for a little over 2 years. we broke up. we got back together. we broke up. we stayed friends. good friends. i'm a pretty firm believer in this NOT working. but it has gone okay for a while. it has been about 7 months now and she has 0 feelings for me romantically, i'm sure of that. I may still have some feelings for her, but they aren't strong enough to warrant a problem really. We're both mature and intelligent people. We talk about our lives and our problems very openly with each other. Lately however, we seem to argue a lot. Almost as if we were still dating. Needless to say, talking to her and hanging out with her is starting to get stale and unhealthy for us both. I'm pretty sure she realizes this as well.

Just a little while ago she blew up on me for trying to help her with one of her situations. She was wanting to change some things in her life, and I was giving her firm advice in a very non-threatening way. she told me to stop trying to help and said "bye" and just left. this was after a brief tussle with me explaining i was honestly just trying to help.

So basically, I think it's time that we just stop talking to each other. Or in other words, stop being friends. I'm gonna try to have this talk in person tonight, if she will even communicate with me.

Yeah?

What should I say/do to make sure this goes smoothly? I really do care for her well-being and I don't think she will be at all crushed by this, but I do want to make sure she knows that this will help both of us immensely.

[Waldorf]

Try anal.

[Dumpweed]

Try anal.

Are you fucking serious, dude? Do you not think I tried anal already? Jesus christ you must be an idiot. I'm not a newbie, I've been here before. I get all of my advice from here. I know that anal is almost always the answer, so you better believe I already fucking tried it.

Try anal...Tell me something I don't know, assmask.

[Crowe41]

I think the best way to tell her would be to explain to her that you still have feelings for her and that it's tough to you to remain friends with her. Since you say she has 0 feelings towards you, she will not want to take the relationship back to where it was and hopefully understand and respect your decision to end the friendship.

I am under the firm belief that it is never a good idea to remain friends with an ex, and you are furthering my belief!

[Dumpweed]

I think the best way to tell her would be to explain to her that you still have feelings for her and that it's tough to you to remain friends with her. Since you say she has 0 feelings towards you, she will not want to take the relationship back to where it was and hopefully understand and respect your decision to end the friendship.

I am under the firm belief that it is never a good idea to remain friends with an ex, and you are furthering my belief!

yep. i pretty much stayed friends because i still liked her. horrible idea. even after most all feelings i had died, i still liked her as a person, but now shit is just bad. i should have gone with my gut.

[Waldorf]

Are you fucking serious, dude? Do you not think I tried anal already? Jesus christ you must be an idiot. I'm not a newbie, I've been here before. I get all of my advice from here. I know that anal is almost always the answer, so you better believe I already fucking tried it.

Try anal...Tell me something I don't know, assmask.

:-d

[chassmariee]

Friends never work.

[AlkalineAshes]

ya ive been in this boat awihle, afraid to jump out for some reason

[Hannah_]

Give her space
. When you are trying to help her in a situation it might just be too much for her, to close. She prob got scared about this and overreacted. Her overreacting is Almost like a barrier.

[Waldorf]

You guys are wusses. Ditch these girls. If they were guy friends, wouldn't you just say "fuck you buddy" at this point and leave?
That's all there is to it.

[jay_klinkhammer]

I had a situation like this recently.

The girl I am very close with has a boyfriend. Anyone that didn't know that, assumed that we were dating. I know/knew her better than anyone and vice versa.

Despite us doing "things" twice, she refuses to leave the boyfriend.

I had to cut her off. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her. All social networking sites and don't answer phonecalls or texts. Just say, you have to get out.

I have been doing well as it has been over two weeks. I even found a new girl I may be interested in.

You can always leave this girl as a bookmark and go back later in the future to check up....but just keep her away right now.

[Yellowcard2006]

Anal didn't work. What kind of help are we gonna be? I have no idea.

[Jasper112]

Try anal one more time?

[kbi the crowing]

ok. a [not so]brief history:
i dated girl for a little over 2 years. we broke up. we got back together. we broke up. we stayed friends. good friends. i'm a pretty firm believer in this NOT working. but it has gone okay for a while. it has been about 7 months now and she has 0 feelings for me romantically, i'm sure of that. I may still have some feelings for her, but they aren't strong enough to warrant a problem really. We're both mature and intelligent people. We talk about our lives and our problems very openly with each other. Lately however, we seem to argue a lot. Almost as if we were still dating. Needless to say, talking to her and hanging out with her is starting to get stale and unhealthy for us both. I'm pretty sure she realizes this as well.

Just a little while ago she blew up on me for trying to help her with one of her situations. She was wanting to change some things in her life, and I was giving her firm advice in a very non-threatening way. she told me to stop trying to help and said "bye" and just left. this was after a brief tussle with me explaining i was honestly just trying to help.

So basically, I think it's time that we just stop talking to each other. Or in other words, stop being friends. I'm gonna try to have this talk in person tonight, if she will even communicate with me.

Yeah?

What should I say/do to make sure this goes smoothly? I really do care for her well-being and I don't think she will be at all crushed by this, but I do want to make sure she knows that this will help both of us immensely.

if she's gonna be pissy just ignore her, like for good.

[Waldorf]

Despite us doing "things" twice, she refuses to leave the boyfriend.


Fuck, seriously?

[the daniel]

Well like what some people said, you should just try and talk things out with her. I pretty much went through both of those situations and you just have to ask her what the heck is going on. I mean, if shes willing to "let you go" then just accept it. Move on, sooner or later you'll find someone eventually to fill in her shoes it might take months, it might take years, but you can still live.

[jay_klinkhammer]

Fuck, seriously?


Seriously. and guess who I got a text message from this morning? Says this is terrible and she misses me.


Girls, fix your fucking heads. I have made the message clear that I can't only be friends...it's all or nothing.

[spansen]

women are dumb.

[roughroads]

If anal didn't work then theirs nothing you can do.
It is a problem that is far beyond fixable...
Good lluck to you sir, i wish you all the best!

[jon.]

women are dumb.
Quoted for truth.

[Sventhegreat]

Just tell pretty much exactly what you told us. I think you said all that needed to be said.

[Dumpweed]

Well guys, I guess I'm gonna try anal one more time and then call it quits. Thanks for the input.

[overdrive91]

Guys and girls can't be close friends without one of them wanting a sexual relationship?

[And Hours Pass]

Just tell pretty much exactly what you told us. I think you said all that needed to be said.
Well said.

[ted is lying]

Are you fucking serious, dude? Do you not think I tried anal already? Jesus christ you must be an idiot. I'm not a newbie, I've been here before. I get all of my advice from here. I know that anal is almost always the answer, so you better believe I already fucking tried it.

Try anal...Tell me something I don't know, assmask.
Did you try double anal?

[mybreakingpoint]

friends don't exist.

[Charles777]

Heeyyyyyy heyyy everything's okay, I love you more than I can say, but we can't stay the saaaaaaaaaaaaaaame, yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah