Quick Question

[iarelevy]

Alright, so here’s a question that to some might be an easy answer and a stupid question. I don’t know who to ask in person since I’d be slightly embarrassed, but I figure since I don’t know any of you it’s worth a shot (regardless of any jokes that may be thrown my way). I’m a college student (and an old one at that) but I’m extremely shy and anti-social. I’ve got a few close friends that I can act myself around, but other than that I completely shut myself off from everybody else. I’m embarrassed easily, my brain scrambles for words whenever I’m in a conversation with someone I don’t know, and I bet half the words that come out of my mouth don’t make much sense. So here’s the story/question. I live five minutes off campus and walk to my classes every day. Every once in a while there is a girl that I pass that is extremely cute and smiles at me every time we pass. I don’t know anything about this girl except that she apparently lives on my side of ‘off campus.’ I would like to get an opportunity to stop and talk to her or try and get to know her but how would I go about doing something like that with a girl that I only see for 10 seconds every couple of days, walking the opposite way as me? Any advice or ideas would be helpful.

Thanks!

[Jake Denning]

BEST way to start a convo: Hi, how are you doing?

She'll say something, then tell her your name, then ask for her name, then go from there, like what she does, then maybe ask if she'd like to do something.

[redbulladdict]

one day when you guys are smiling at each other just say "hey"

[voncorn]

Climb on top of a clock tower and start shooting random people, that'll grab her attention.

Edit: Wrong college, I suck at being funny.

[iarelevy]

The problem is that she walks one way and I walk the complete other way, so all we do is pass each other. I don't want to look like a creep stopping and waiting for her to walk by me so I can try and get a conversation going. But saying hey is definitely a good start lol.

[iarelevy]

Climb on top of a clock tower and start shooting random people, that'll grab her attention.

haha now I know I'm not good at communicating with people, but there has to be a less violent/won't put me in jail/won't hurt anybody else/less of an attention-grabber way of talking to her than doing that...funny that you say that about the clock tower though (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Whitman) since that happened at t.u. in austin - they happen to be my school's main rival.

[kaycey]

i'm going to tell you the same thing i told my very virgin, likes to masterbate 5 times a day friend.
don't be a pussy.

[Fullblast]

Alright, so here’s a question that to some might be an easy answer and a stupid question. I don’t know who to ask in person since I’d be slightly embarrassed, but I figure since I don’t know any of you it’s worth a shot (regardless of any jokes that may be thrown my way). I’m a college student (and an old one at that) but I’m extremely shy and anti-social. I’ve got a few close friends that I can act myself around, but other than that I completely shut myself off from everybody else. I’m embarrassed easily, my brain scrambles for words whenever I’m in a conversation with someone I don’t know, and I bet half the words that come out of my mouth don’t make much sense. So here’s the story/question. I live five minutes off campus and walk to my classes every day. Every once in a while there is a girl that I pass that is extremely cute and smiles at me every time we pass. I don’t know anything about this girl except that she apparently lives on my side of ‘off campus.’ I would like to get an opportunity to stop and talk to her or try and get to know her but how would I go about doing something like that with a girl that I only see for 10 seconds every couple of days, walking the opposite way as me? Any advice or ideas would be helpful.

Thanks!
Holy shit, not even kidding, this is the exact situation that I am in, minus the age difference.

[bjm1702]

Slap her on the ass when you walk past her.

[crimsonandclovr]

i was incredibly bummed when i saw that you were from Texas, because there's this guy that i see almost everyday, who lives off campus like me, and for a wild second, i thought he could be you.

point is, go for it. if you can feel that way about someone, and i can feel this way about someone, maybe she might be interested if you tell her that you are.

[overdrive91]

get a friend to go, "Have you met _____?"

[zachff]

Best way to meet her is to just turn around and follow her back to her apartment after you pass her next time

[Clintoto]

Best way to meet her is to just turn around and follow her back to her apartment after you pass her next time

Do this.

[Jennurna Gray]

Alright, so here’s a question that to some might be an easy answer and a stupid question. I don’t know who to ask in person since I’d be slightly embarrassed, but I figure since I don’t know any of you it’s worth a shot (regardless of any jokes that may be thrown my way). I’m a college student (and an old one at that) but I’m extremely shy and anti-social. I’ve got a few close friends that I can act myself around, but other than that I completely shut myself off from everybody else. I’m embarrassed easily, my brain scrambles for words whenever I’m in a conversation with someone I don’t know, and I bet half the words that come out of my mouth don’t make much sense. So here’s the story/question. I live five minutes off campus and walk to my classes every day. Every once in a while there is a girl that I pass that is extremely cute and smiles at me every time we pass. I don’t know anything about this girl except that she apparently lives on my side of ‘off campus.’ I would like to get an opportunity to stop and talk to her or try and get to know her but how would I go about doing something like that with a girl that I only see for 10 seconds every couple of days, walking the opposite way as me? Any advice or ideas would be helpful.

Thanks!
Compliment something about her. Then after she says 'thanks' say 'I'm ______, it's nice to meet you."
Or you can be Retro-flirty and use the old line 'Haven't seen you 'round here, 'sides err'y other day. It's a pleasure to come in aquaintence with ya', hun.'
There's a 14% chance that this girly has a thing for Cowboys. :P

[songydarko]

Just say hello or how's it going. Totally innocent.

[makeshiftmind]

drop out of an airplane and parachute down to her and say something witty. But I understand, it sucks if there is no response to a "how's it going" or if the conversation goes nowhere, but it's better then never knowing, just go for it, what is the worst that can happen? What is the best that can happen?

[Laural666]

BEST way to start a convo: Hi, how are you doing?

She'll say something, then tell her your name, then ask for her name, then go from there, like what she does, then maybe ask if she'd like to do something.
This is totally right but take it slow, first just ask how shes doing then ask her name and take it from there but not too fast keep her waiting.

[4N6 science]

walk by with you cock hanging out.

[FallOutBoyPunch]

walk by with you cock hanging out.

This. Works like a charm.

[AndrewIcex]

Start with hello.

[Mibabalou]

very cute

[Mibabalou]

walk by with you cock hanging out.

dick move

get it

lol

[x1onexwo1fx]

quick question? tl;dr.

i have the exact same problem, as far as being shy and antisocial. but i'm kind of enjoying being single at the moment...haha.

[Sloth7]

The worst thing you can do is over-complicate things, especially since you said you have a tendency to be a bit shy in conversation. Just say to her "hello, how are you?" or "hi, how's it going?", if there's chemistry, things should just go naturally from there. I always had a tendency of over-thinking in the past, and it just screws up your head. Just being yourself and normal will make her feel at ease, so go in as simple as possible and be casual. If she likes you, she likes you, a smooth line or opening won't change that. Good luck buddy.

[kaycey]

get a friend to go, "Have you met _____?"
nice HIMYM reference.
:thumbup:

[brokenwings]

i know it's impossible to tell through a paragraph on the internet, but it does sound like you might be suffering from social anxiety. the whole part about getting embarrassed easily really fits into the picture. perhaps it would be better to get some more serious help than just a few fuckers on the internet. just trying to help, don't mean to stir shit up.

[Urglegrew]

http://www.romancestuck.com/pickup-lines.htm

any one of those pickup lines.

[HometownHero]

Give her your measurements

[Blaise&Panthia.]

While you're walking past each other, deliberately trip up into her and take her down. Wink at her while you're lying on the floor injured together.

[iarelevy]

I appreciate all the responses. And though the sexual references are tempting (and extremely amusing), I have a feeling that there's a better way about this haha. Saying "hey" or "how are you?" is definitely a good start for me. I just wanted to make sure it was the best way to go about it.

i know it's impossible to tell through a paragraph on the internet, but it does sound like you might be suffering from social anxiety. the whole part about getting embarrassed easily really fits into the picture. perhaps it would be better to get some more serious help than just a few fuckers on the internet. just trying to help, don't mean to stir shit up.

oh i don't doubt that i have social anxiety. i have anxiety of all sorts. it's always fun to walk into just about any situation fearing to make a fool of myself.

http://www.romancestuck.com/pickup-lines.htm

any one of those pickup lines.

hahaha i think i'm gonna go with number 30, "My love for you is like diarrhea. I just can't hold it in."

[sdbrown]

I think "hey" is a good idea. "Hi, how are you" is creepy. Sorry, but it is. Way too forward when you just pass each other going different directions.

This might take a while for the opportunity to present itself but try to notice something wrong when you pass- her bag is unzipped, she's dropped something, etc. and then you can let her know. It's considerate and she'll appreciate it, not to mention it'll actually give you a legitamte reason to talk to her. You could even be the one to drop your keys or a nice pen and see if she picks it up for you. That allows more opportunity to give the whole "Oh wow, thank you. What's your name? Thanks *insert name*" scenario.

[shimmyshakes]

"hey, has anyone ever told you you look like..."

[voncorn]

While you're walking past each other, deliberately trip up into her and take her down. Wink at her while you're lying on the floor injured together.

First thing that came to my mind:

http://img694.imageshack.us/img694/7653/chronotriggerrer.jpg

[PezMullet]

give her a piece of paper saying: ''LET'S F CK! All I need is ''U''

I just read that somewhere and thought it was funny

[songydarko]

"hey, has anyone ever told you you look like..."

He'd have to pick someone very carefully for that one.

[brokenwings]

oh i don't doubt that i have social anxiety. i have anxiety of all sorts. it's always fun to walk into just about any situation fearing to make a fool of myself.

and you don't want to change that?

[hvolgarino08]

If it's meant to be the time will come : )
Just say Hi and smile one day.
I know I like it when I get a greeting from someone I don't know.

[iarelevy]

I think "hey" is a good idea. "Hi, how are you" is creepy. Sorry, but it is. Way too forward when you just pass each other going different directions.

This might take a while for the opportunity to present itself but try to notice something wrong when you pass- her bag is unzipped, she's dropped something, etc. and then you can let her know. It's considerate and she'll appreciate it, not to mention it'll actually give you a legitamte reason to talk to her. You could even be the one to drop your keys or a nice pen and see if she picks it up for you. That allows more opportunity to give the whole "Oh wow, thank you. What's your name? Thanks *insert name*" scenario.

The only problem with saying "hey" is that the college I'm at is full of traditions. We're known to be one of the most friendly campuses around and it is actually a tradition to say, "Howdy!" to people when you pass them - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traditions_of_Texas_A&M_University . So that being said saying "hey" or "howdy" with a smile might just be a run of the mill greeting for her, without throwing in something else.

...maybe the whole "friendly campus" tradition is why she smiles at me lol.

and you don't want to change that?

well i used to be on meds for it way back in the day, stopped taking them after about 2 years, then anxiety really kicked in again a few years ago and i got back on some different meds. quit taking those cause i didn't like to be dependent on pills. unfortunately i've limited myself on where i go and what i do and who i talk with so i'm going back to the doctor next month. probably too much info for people i don't know but that's alright haha.

[baseballfreak19]

If it were me, I'd continue saying hey, then eventually just say something like "You know, I pass you every day, and I know nothing about you. I'm _______ whats you're name?" Something along those lines. then if she goes for it just keep saying "Hey ____ hows it goin today?" Etc. then at some point when you feel comfortable just ask if she wants to hang out some time.

[midkay]

The only problem with saying "hey" is that the college I'm at is full of traditions. We're known to be one of the most friendly campuses around and it is actually a tradition to say, "Howdy!" to people when you pass them - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traditions_of_Texas_A&M_University . So that being said saying "hey" or "howdy" with a smile might just be a run of the mill greeting for her, without throwing in something else.

Run of the mill is what you should be going for. You're not trying to sweep her off her feet here, you're just trying to talk to her. "Hey" is a good way to make that happen.

[mybreakingpoint]

"I know a lot about sex." is a great opening line. Try it.

[richter915]

you know..if you feel like saying something to her is a bit much (I dno ur degree of social anxiety), just wave at her. I never trust "smiles"...if you smile and wave and she reciprocates, ur in.

[wroteurname]

have you ever been tested for dysnomia?

[brokenwings]

well i used to be on meds for it way back in the day, stopped taking them after about 2 years, then anxiety really kicked in again a few years ago and i got back on some different meds. quit taking those cause i didn't like to be dependent on pills. unfortunately i've limited myself on where i go and what i do and who i talk with so i'm going back to the doctor next month. probably too much info for people i don't know but that's alright haha.
well, good luck. hopefully you can get some serious help instead of just more pills

[argg_xo]

Wave and say "hey" or "hi" or maybe comment about the weather or something cheesey like that, it will at least get you talking (hopefully) to her.

[richter915]

have you ever been tested for dysnomia?
what makes you think he has dysnomia?

[xmicxcorex]

This cat has conversation starting down to an art--

http://greenrobot.com/lolcats/uploads/funnypicturescatchallengesyoutoafig ht.jpg

[hellogorgeous]

ask her, "how much does a polar bear weigh?" she will probably go "i have no idea" and that's where you say this little gem:

" enough to break the ice! hi i'm ______" HA! works on me every time. then again, it's only happened once soo...

[iarelevy]

Run of the mill is what you should be going for. You're not trying to sweep her off her feet here, you're just trying to talk to her. "Hey" is a good way to make that happen.

True, good point.

have you ever been tested for dysnomia?

No, I haven't. I'm really good with remembering peoples names, but I think I just can't find the words to say because of my brain starting to race to make sure I don't make a fool of myself in someway - which in turn makes me make a fool of myself lol.

This cat has conversation starting down to an art--



hahaha I need to take a page out of that cat's book.

ask her, "how much does a polar bear weigh?" she will probably go "i have no idea" and that's where you say this little gem:

" enough to break the ice! hi i'm ______" HA! works on me every time. then again, it's only happened once soo...

hahahaha well played. I like that.

Best way to meet her is to just turn around and follow her back to her apartment after you pass her next time

This is actually going to sound really creepy on my part (besides the fact that I've started a thread about a girl I don't even know), but it was actually just coincidental. I was coming home just a little while ago and was stopped at a red light and she was actually in the car next to me. Turns out she lives about a block away from me on my street, so I guess I kinda did follow her back - though it was unintentional. I was just going to my place. No lies, I promise.

[staciebx0]

try saying hey how are you and maybe she'll stop and you can talk to her at first about the school, her major, ect for starters to break the ice. if you're worried shes just being friendly because youre school is known for that, then even so, saying hey how are you blahblah wont be creepy or awkward if thats the norm. good luck

[richter915]

for the record, im really curious how this pan's out.

[wroteurname]

if i'm not mistaken dysnomia is the jumbling and misordering of words...like dyslexia but words not letters

[Kaleidoscope]

try saying hey how are you and maybe she'll stop and you can talk to her at first about the school, her major, ect for starters to break the ice. if you're worried shes just being friendly because youre school is known for that, then even so, saying hey how are you blahblah wont be creepy or awkward if thats the norm. good luck

Gratz on first psot.

[staciebx0]

hahah about time, thank youu

[phil19]

just be like, "hey babe, whats up?" she will be all over you after that

[richter915]

if i'm not mistaken dysnomia is the jumbling and misordering of words...like dyslexia but words not letters
nah dysnomia is not being able to recall words properly. it's not as extreme as anomia though.

[iarelevy]

for the record, im really curious how this pan's out.

lol i didn't think it would come to over 50 responses, but i appreciate everyone's input. all is very helpful!

[brentywat]

how this has gone 4 pages without anybody being incredibly rude is amazing. well done to all of you nice people.

i understand your situation. just say something, be nice to her. everything good starts through friendships.

[wroteurname]

nah dysnomia is not being able to recall words properly. it's not as extreme as anomia though.
Ehhhh close
how this has gone 4 pages without anybody being incredibly rude is amazing. well done to all of you nice people.

i understand your situation. just say something, be nice to her. everything good starts through friendships.

Yeah, I'm really surprised at how no one has been a dick, not that I think people should be...they just usually are.

[argg_xo]

just be like, "hey babe, whats up?" she will be all over you after that
for the record, that only works if you have a hot accent.

[Taking_Frags]

Seriously, make sure you look your best. Next time you walk by her, say "Hey, how's it going?" with a smile of course, but keep walking. THEN next time you pass her again, make a joke about always seeing each other. Then try to initiate to stop and talk.

[phil19]

for the record, that only works if you have a hot accent.

like mine?

[fifpb99]

get a friend to go, "Have you met _____?"

ted?

[overdrive91]

ted?

was trying to leave it open for whatever his name is haha.

[xxxfreakxxx]

Just start a convo with her ask her her name,and stuff, then ask her if she would like to do something someday or can i have your number.
just get to know her.

[Jennurna Gray]

Tif, you just reminded me of
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Edit: I'm too lazy to go back, just click the link. :P

[Kassie09]

Just say "Hey" as you're walking past her and smile. Keep going, however, if I was this girl and interested in you/thought you were cute, next time I walked past you I'd say hey to you. Then a conversation can probably go from there, it's a nice, easy casual way to get her thinking about you.

[argg_xo]

like mine?
ummm of course!!!

[Trizzy666]

I'm thinking about asking out this girl... She is cute, funny, and smart... The only bad thing about her is she smokes weed... I don't and never have... She is one of the closest people to me and I really like her a lot and I know that if I ask her out she is going to more than likely say yes... But I'm scared too... for many reasons having to do with the things I've been through... What do I do?

[Clintoto]

First thing that came to my mind:

http://img694.imageshack.us/img694/7653/chronotriggerrer.jpg

Greatest game ever.

[Trizzy666]

[[saying]] I need help... and that someone who thinks they can help me should please message me before my life falls apart... Thank you... =,(

[radxbandit]

[[saying]] I need help... and that someone who thinks they can help me should please message me before my life falls apart... Thank you... =,(
Dude, quit weezin off the OP's gig.

[Adam106]

Compliment something about her. Then after she says 'thanks' say 'I'm ______, it's nice to meet you."
Or you can be Retro-flirty and use the old line 'Haven't seen you 'round here, 'sides err'y other day. It's a pleasure to come in aquaintence with ya', hun.'
There's a 14% chance that this girly has a thing for Cowboys. :P

I like this idea :P

[Jennurna Gray]

I like this idea :P
lol, thanks!

[Trizzy666]

I'm thinking about asking out this girl... She is cute, funny, and smart... The only bad thing about her is she smokes weed... I don't and never have... She is one of the closest people to me and I really like her a lot and I know that if I ask her out she is going to more than likely say yes... But I'm scared too... for many reasons having to do with the things I've been through... What do I do?

[SonEric84]

Greatest game ever.



Yes, yes it is.

[radxbandit]

I'm thinking about asking out this girl... She is cute, funny, and smart... The only bad thing about her is she smokes weed... I don't and never have... She is one of the closest people to me and I really like her a lot and I know that if I ask her out she is going to more than likely say yes... But I'm scared too... for many reasons having to do with the things I've been through... What do I do?

Start by making your own thread.

[stayforawhile]

walk by with you cock hanging out.
Classy Jon, classy.

[4N6 science]

Classy Jon, classy.

I'm sure I could get your attention. :flirt:

[Waldorf]

I'm sure I could get your attention. :flirt:

Maybe if she was walking around with a magnifying glass.

[stayforawhile]

I'm sure I could get your attention. :flirt:
hmm I don't know about that

[stayforawhile]

Maybe if she was walking around with a magnifying glass.
HAHahahahhahahahahahahah you crack me up

[Trizzy666]

Start by making your own thread.

i did...