Disconnected

[TheZeroKid]

I feel disconnected from the world and everyone around me. I've been spending alot of my days sleeping, trying to dream (atleast for a little bit) of some place I can be where I feel right, but then I wake up feeling miserable about everything again. Considering that this is the "real world" and there isn't some place I can run to like in all the books, what are some real world solutions for me to deal with this?

[Jennurna Gray]

Get on some antidepressants and start living.
I personally recommend Anatryptaline and Sky diving.

[jco3]

on your favorite albums, you have "The Black Parade" listed... Yeah, removing that from your life will improve your situation immensely.

[jco3]

Either way, I know how you feel. I get like that sometimes.

Just stay productive.

[.invisible ink.]

on your favorite albums, you have "The Black Parade" listed... Yeah, removing that from your life will improve your situation immensely.

that's ridiculous. The Black Parade is a great album, whether you're a fan of MCR or not, it's an extremely well-crafted album which is worthy of none of the bashing it gets. If you had said Aiden or Alesana or some other worthless piece of trash band, sure, I'd agree, but The Black Parade is better than half the garbage this "scene" puts out.

Anyway, I second the anti-depressant answer and getting out and living. Chemical imbalances happen, but luckily they're mostly treatable nowadays.

[summeroflike]

miami can make you feel this way. i know, i'm from there.

but what everyone else said holds true. medicine is great, but so is living. listen to uplifting music.

[zion the lion]

thats how I always feel. What I just do is make myself so busy that I cant think about it. Spending a lot of time just going from movie to movie helps a tiny bit, until you realize that you're still completely disconnected there too.

[radxbandit]

I feel disconnected from the world and everyone around me. I've been spending alot of my days sleeping, trying to dream (atleast for a little bit) of some place I can be where I feel right, but then I wake up feeling miserable about everything again. Considering that this is the "real world" and there isn't some place I can run to like in all the books, what are some real world solutions for me to deal with this?
I (and probably many people) get like this sometimes, at least a couple of times a year. Here's what I make sure I'm doing to counter this feeling:

-Do something that will boost your metabolism (lifting weights, or maybe running)
-Get outside, make sure you're getting plenty of sunlight.
-Eating healthy.
-Try to get on a regular sleeping schedule, where you're getting 7ish hours (or however much your body needs, personally). Don't sleep too much, that will make you more down, and less aware.
-Talk to people, about anything but your isolation. The point is to battle that isolation, so distract yourself from that state of mind.

Do this for a few weeks, and you'll feel a change, I promise. All of this stuff is vital to keeping you in good spirits and more consistently happy moods, which will make you a much more accessible person. It's amazing how certain physiological changes can alter your perspective. Also, if you're staying engaged in the world around you, you can break down that feeling of disconnection pretty quickly. You'll get through it, man.

Oh, and if that doesn't work, go get a hug.

[terror_91]

All these people suggesting pills. That's bollocks. How about you deal with life instead of avoiding the problem?

You need to start exercising. I'm not saying you are fat/unfit etc. but a regular exercise routine will make you feel a million times better. It will give you energy, purpose and some self-confidence.
You need to do something with your life. You need to find out what you like and you need to pursue a dream.
Get a girlfriend and some better friends.

[ReignofFiction]

All these people suggesting pills. That's bollocks. How about you deal with life instead of avoiding the problem?

You need to start exercising. I'm not saying you are fat/unfit etc. but a regular exercise routine will make you feel a million times better. It will give you energy, purpose and some self-confidence.
You need to do something with your life. You need to find out what you like and you need to pursue a dream.
Get a girlfriend and some better friends.


If you are already depressed I don't think adding a girlfriend is a great idea.

[Bi11 Lumburgh]

as already stated, working out really does wonders, it releases the endorphins in your body, which put you in a good state of mind, and all the adrenaline pumping, and the body exhaustion and recovery just make you feel alive again, brings you out of that fog, and sleep is a big deal as well, get a solid 8 hours, don't sleep for 12 hours, just makes you feel groggy and lazy, and just surround yourself with good, supportive people, you don't need pills, thats the easy way out, and I don't know about you, but I certainly don't want to become totally dependent on pills, follow my advice for a month, and let me know how you feel

[BryterJonah]

I still sleep with a stuffed husky my mom got me when I was younger for Easter.

Yeah, I'm lonely.

[SomedayTheFire]

I (and probably many people) get like this sometimes, at least a couple of times a year. Here's what I make sure I'm doing to counter this feeling:

-Do something that will boost your metabolism (lifting weights, or maybe running)
-Get outside, make sure you're getting plenty of sunlight.
-Eating healthy.
-Try to get on a regular sleeping schedule, where you're getting 7ish hours (or however much your body needs, personally). Don't sleep too much, that will make you more down, and less aware.
-Talk to people, about anything but your isolation. The point is to battle that isolation, so distract yourself from that state of mind.

Do this for a few weeks, and you'll feel a change, I promise. All of this stuff is vital to keeping you in good spirits and more consistently happy moods, which will make you a much more accessible person. It's amazing how certain physiological changes can alter your perspective. Also, if you're staying engaged in the world around you, you can break down that feeling of disconnection pretty quickly. You'll get through it, man.

Oh, and if that doesn't work, go get a hug.
Best advice anyone will give in this thread.

[A7XXX]

Of course music will always be there but it's a quick solution. I find it better if you can find someone who have the same interest with you and just talk. It's nice to open up to people sometimes. And if for some reason your friends doesn't do the trick there's always God. He's willing to listen and can solve ton of your problem.

[phil19]

exercise is seriously a good idea. exercise and music are getting me through my breakup with a long term girlfriend.

[roughroads]

on your favorite albums, you have "The Black Parade" listed... Yeah, removing that from your life will improve your situation immensely.
this! 4 or 5 weeks and you'll be all good.
My Chemical Romance, ugh, just terrible.

[AlkalineAshes]

Ive come to believe I am just now overcoming severe social anxiety which lead to depression. I have to workout at least 30 minutes most days, usually more. ALso a low dose of prozac and around an 8th of marijuana a week have been key as well. and throw in a few therapy sessions as well

[salt1384]

If you are already depressed I don't think adding a girlfriend is a great idea.

lmao

[dani1292]

miami can make you feel this way. i know, i'm from there.

Yep, very true.

[tawtaw]

Here's the solution OP:

Don't be such a fucking pussy and go socialize.

[jco3]

that's ridiculous. The Black Parade is a great album, whether you're a fan of MCR or not, it's an extremely well-crafted album which is worthy of none of the bashing it gets. If you had said Aiden or Alesana or some other worthless piece of trash band, sure, I'd agree, but The Black Parade is better than half the garbage this "scene" puts out.

Anyway, I second the anti-depressant answer and getting out and living. Chemical imbalances happen, but luckily they're mostly treatable nowadays.

My Chemical Romance imbalances also happen... How much is too much!?

[jco3]

Here's the solution OP:

Don't be such a fucking pussy and go socialize.

as someone with debilitating anxiety issues I say: Have some compassion. I'm sure you don't understand where he's coming from, but it really is a tough spot to be in.

Another helpful hint is to not get caught up in your thoughts. Follow your heart, man. Baby steps.

[jco3]

thats how I always feel. What I just do is make myself so busy that I cant think about it. Spending a lot of time just going from movie to movie helps a tiny bit, until you realize that you're still completely disconnected there too.

Not to sound like a dick, but this is terrible advice. Distractions will only make things worse.

This may sound a little new age but try reading some self-help books. "The Happiness Trap" is one... Also, give meditation a try. It's done wonders. Just try to find who you really are. Distractions while for the short-term do seem to help, in the long run you're only prolonging the dreadfulness.

[denissuxx]

i feel that way

[dirtysneakers]

I feel disconnected from the world and everyone around me. I've been spending alot of my days sleeping, trying to dream (atleast for a little bit) of some place I can be where I feel right, but then I wake up feeling miserable about everything again. Considering that this is the "real world" and there isn't some place I can run to like in all the books, what are some real world solutions for me to deal with this?
You are what is called "transgendered". This means you are a woman trapped in a mans body. I recommend an immediate sex change.

[overdrive91]

Do sports, learn an instrument, alcohol, hit someone, watch something funny, watch national geography and realize that you have a better life than millions of people.

[songydarko]

Go out and do things that excite you.

[Urglegrew]

as already stated, working out really does wonders, it releases the endorphins in your body, which put you in a good state of mind, and all the adrenaline pumping, and the body exhaustion and recovery just make you feel alive again, brings you out of that fog, and sleep is a big deal as well, get a solid 8 hours, don't sleep for 12 hours, just makes you feel groggy and lazy, and just surround yourself with good, supportive people, you don't need pills, thats the easy way out, and I don't know about you, but I certainly don't want to become totally dependent on pills, follow my advice for a month, and let me know how you feel
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[ohheroine]

I still sleep with a stuffed husky my mom got me when I was younger for Easter.

Yeah, I'm lonely.


im 20 and in college and ive got 4 stuffed animals in my bed right nhow

[framebyframe]

I was like this before, but I started taking meds and I feel better everyday. Honestly try it. Also, exercise and eating habits have a lot to do with it too.

[Fullblast]

I still sleep with a stuffed husky my mom got me when I was younger for Easter.

Yeah, I'm lonely.
lol

[Fullblast]

Here's the solution OP:

Don't be such a fucking pussy and go socialize.
Your such a prick. I see you post in alot of threads telling everyone they are pussies.... Seriously, not cool.

[SincerelyMe]

Don't listen to the people telling you to take pills. That shit will fuck you up so fast.

[aerofan11]

Just take a walk once in a while, and see the world. Listen to "feel good" music. Do something that will make you feel good.

[apsterling]

My Chemical Romance imbalances also happen... How much is too much!?

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[tawtaw]

Your such a prick. I see you post in alot of threads telling everyone they are pussies.... Seriously, not cool.

It might not be cool, but I say it when it's the only real solution.

What's the guy gonna do? Sit there and sulk? Go see a psychiatrist or get some meds because he's lonely?

Bullshit. He needs to find his fucking balls and realize that it's his decision to stay inside and sleep all day. He feels disconnected because he doesn't go outside and talk to/meet people.

It's like complaining about being hungry when you're choosing not to eat.