Holding someone's hand.

[johnnyflashbang]

Yes, I'm a kid. I'm 16 years old and have no experience whatsoever. This is the first time I've ever tried courting a girl so I have no idea what I'm doing.

So anyway, I was wondering how do I actually initiate something like holding her hand during a movie, etc. etc. I've gone out with her twice already and my friends tell me I should be doing something by now.

[argg_xo]

Ugh, this thread is making me have flashbacks of the worse hand holding experience I have ever had. Thanks.

[AlkalineAshes]

just do it man for the love of god.. think of it this way, if you don't she will leave.. you miss 100% of the shots you dont take right? from the michael scott paper company

[deathinkosovo]

This thread makes me feel so old. Seriously, dude, it's just a hand. If you're that nervous about it, I suggest asking her if it's OK. But most people just go for it. Unless you're girl's a crude prude, she'll like it. It's not as if you're going in to kiss her or grope her or something. Hand-holding is one of those things girls eat up. Get in there and do it.

[Waldorf]

this thread is so fucking lame
dude, fucking hold her fucking hand
if she doesn't like it, she doesn't like you
which obviously means you should both be dating someone else

[DanTGD]

non dick answer -

just move your hand slowly towards hers, not really fast so it looks like you just shat yourself at a scary part of the movie or too slow that you look like your shitting yourself about holding hands, don't even look at you doing it, just do it on the sly, once you're holding hands, give it a slightly squeeze, if she squeezes back a little then you're okay.

[uglystar03]

Ah, to be young. Hand holding isn't even something that crosses my mind anymore. It mostly just happens naturally. However, I remember being 15 and terrified of holding a girl's hand. Of course, when I would finally hold their hand, my hand would sweat profusely. Embarrassing, right?

[the1]

Ugh, this thread is making me have flashbacks of the worse hand holding experience I have ever had. Thanks.

What can go wrong? Did you touch his willy by accident?

[argg_xo]

What can go wrong? Did you touch his willy by accident?
hahaha no! we were in a movie theatre and he was wearing gloves for some reason and his hands were really sweaty. the combonation of sweat and glove made me physically ill everytime he tried to hold my hand.

[Waldorf]

hahaha no! we were in a movie theatre and he was wearing gloves for some reason and his hands were really sweaty. the combonation of sweat and glove made me physically ill everytime he tried to hold my hand.

sounds hawt

[Jennurna Gray]

Yes, I'm a kid. I'm 16 years old and have no experience whatsoever. This is the first time I've ever tried courting a girl so I have no idea what I'm doing.

So anyway, I was wondering how do I actually initiate something like holding her hand during a movie, etc. etc. I've gone out with her twice already and my friends tell me I should be doing something by now.
One time I was at the movies with this guy and I kept staring at his hand, hoping to somehow move it to mine -which I puposely put about three inches from his. Guy was kind of slow, it was frustrating. I finally just put my head on his shoulder.
Do something, it pisses girls off when you don't.

[argg_xo]

sounds hawt
if you like dry heaving, then yes it was hawt.

[the1]

hahaha no! we were in a movie theatre and he was wearing gloves for some reason and his hands were really sweaty. the combonation of sweat and glove made me physically ill everytime he tried to hold my hand.

Ahh. For a moment I thought he was gonna pull out the popcorn trick...why gloves in a movie theatre???

[Parabola1124]

if you like dry heaving, then yes it was hawt.

I know I do.

[argg_xo]

Ahh. For a moment I thought he was gonna pull out the popcorn trick...why gloves in a movie theatre???
i don't know why he insisted on wearing gloves! it was so gross and i still hate the feel of gloves to this day.

[argg_xo]

I know I do.
sup bby?

[the1]

i don't know why he insisted on wearing gloves! it was so gross and i still hate the feel of gloves to this day.

Wait, so what do you do if your hands get cold and you have a glove phobia???

[Parabola1124]

sup bby?


NM GUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUURL.

[argg_xo]

Wait, so what do you do if your hands get cold and you have a glove phobia???
i can wear gloves, but they can't be the cheap acrylic ones like little kids use. they must be of quality material.

[argg_xo]

NM GUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUURL.
i herd u lyke dry heaving?

[zion the lion]

Aww this is so sweet! I remember when I was 14 I had a hand holding girlfriend just because we were both so inexperienced. So we would hold hands all the damn time, and then we would laugh at each other when our hands were sweaty. It's no big deal, just do it, or just hope to god she'll initiate it.

[Parabola1124]

i herd u lyke dry heaving?

Nah, ur lyin.

PS: I was creepin' your profile and I noticed your favorite book is The Giving Tree.
http://www.absolutepunk.net/poll.php?do=showresults&pollid=31812
Notice who I voted for, I think that means we're meant to be.

[BBScience]

Talk about awkward, you need to stop over analyzing this. Holding hands should come pretty naturally as an extension of flirting and general physical contact; poking, tickling, putting an arm around her, etc. Don't attack the girl out of nowhere, but try to take whatever opportunities you can to make contact. Even if its just nudging her knee with yours, then let her responses guide you further.

[argg_xo]

Nah, ur lyin.

PS: I was creepin' your profile and I noticed your favorite book is The Giving Tree.
http://www.absolutepunk.net/poll.php?do=showresults&pollid=31812
Notice who I voted for, I think that means we're meant to be.
How did i miss that poll??! And it obviously means we're soulmates!

[Parabola1124]

How did i miss that poll??! And it obviously means we're soulmates!

dc2Z7CL4Cv0

[argg_xo]

dc2Z7CL4Cv0
best montage ever! how youuu doin?

[Parabola1124]

best montage ever! how youuu doin?

I'm doing good; I just saved a puppy from a burning building and now I'm going to write a poem about it.

[raychull]

Ugh, this thread is making me have flashbacks of the worse hand holding experience I have ever had. Thanks.
At first I thought the OP was that ridiculous guy you called goofy. hahahah. made me laugh out loud.

[Kassie09]

I remember the first time I held hands with my bf. Cause I had my cell phone in the hand near him. So he was like "Can I see your phone? " I handed it to him, he looked at it, and grabbed my hand. It was cute.

But really, keep bumping into her hand if you walk side by side, just grab it.

[argg_xo]

I'm doing good; I just saved a puppy from a burning building and now I'm going to write a poem about it.
you're a modern day shel silverstein. EDIT: i got called out on shel being modern already, never mind.
At first I thought the OP was that ridiculous guy you called goofy. hahahah. made me laugh out loud.
i think we scared goofy ass away for good!

[raychull]

you're a modern day shel silverstein.

i think we scared goofy ass away for good!
God I hope so.

[raychull]

you're a modern day shel silverstein.

i think we scared goofy ass away for good!
PS. Shel Silverstein IS modern, haha.

[argg_xo]

God I hope so.

PS. Shel Silverstein IS modern, haha.
damnit it sounded good! i'm not on my A game tonight, but i need to PM you about one of our fave posters on AP!

[raychull]

damnit it sounded good! i'm not on my A game tonight, but i need to PM you about one of our fave posters on AP!
hahaha who?

[argg_xo]

hahaha who?
PM'ing in 5...4....3.......2...........

[raychull]

PM'ing in 5...4....3.......2...........
ANTICIPATION.


it's not here yet. you bum.

[argg_xo]

ANTICIPATION.


it's not here yet. you bum.
l'M SORRY MY TIMING WAS OFF!

[raychull]

l'M SORRY MY TIMING WAS OFF!
I want to impale them.

[argg_xo]

I want to impale them.
i editied my modern day shel silverstein comment, i dont think the person it was intended for cares.

[raychull]

i editied my modern day shel silverstein comment, i dont think the person it was intended for cares.
I care!

[argg_xo]

I care!
i know you do! i meant the parabala dude i was talking to.

[raychull]

i know you do! i meant the parabala dude i was talking to.
i know =(. but i still care!

[argg_xo]

i know =(. but i still care!
thank you rachel, i appreciate it! :buddies:

[raychull]

thank you rachel, i appreciate it! :buddies:

:nod:

[Parabola1124]

Uhhh hello

Edit: Oh, I totally cared.

[argg_xo]

oh hai

[argg_xo]

Uhhh hello

Edit: Oh, I totally cared.
oh hai , thanks for caring

[Parabola1124]

How could I not care about you, we're soulmates.

[wroteurname]

Like, walk next to her and graze her hand, if she wants to hold your hand she'll grab it, if not...it'll be so awkward you'll puke...making it much more awkward, but hey that's what being 16 is all about!

[Chancetobe]

If she's holding something sort of heavy, you can offer to hold it and then grab her hand after it's free.

[argg_xo]

How could I not care about you, we're soulmates.
i thought you left me!

[Parabola1124]

i thought you left me!


I was in a heated debate with my roomate about how Legends of the Hidden Temple is better than Nick GUTS, sorry bb.

[argg_xo]

I was in a heated debate with my roomate about how Legends of the Hidden Temple is better than Nick GUTS, sorry bb.
Your roomie sounds like an idiot f he thinks GUTS was better than Legends of the Hidden Temple. its ok bby.

[fightinirish217]

Wow, I'm almost 21 years old, wish I was 16 again. OP, just go for it dude, slowly but surely.

[Chancetobe]

I was in a heated debate with my roomate about how Legends of the Hidden Temple is better than Nick GUTS, sorry bb.

So, so much better.

[Parabola1124]

Your roomie sounds like an idiot f he thinks GUTS was better than Legends of the Hidden Temple. its ok bby.


Yeah no shit.
I even made a poll about it.

http://www.absolutepunk.net/showthread.php?t=1426451

[argg_xo]

Yeah no shit.
I even made a poll about it.

http://www.absolutepunk.net/showthread.php?t=1426451
wow, looks like you meant biznezz!

[Parabola1124]

wow, looks like you meant biznezz!

Just like I do about us being soulmates.

[argg_xo]

Just like I do about us being soulmates.
:blush:

[Parabola1124]

:blush:
4lyfebbgurl

[kerropi]

Like, walk next to her and graze her hand, if she wants to hold your hand she'll grab it, if not...it'll be so awkward you'll puke...making it much more awkward, but hey that's what being 16 is all about!

Hahahha you speak the truth.

[argg_xo]

4lyfebbgurl
:redlove:

[wroteurname]

Hahahha you speak the truth.

Sadly at 22 I still stress out over situations like this...o well.

[Parabola1124]

Fuck. Now what?

[argg_xo]

hmmmm, good question. how's the poem coming along?

[shimmyshakes]

Just do it.

[kianacarly]

My first boyfriend was super shy and awkward, and since I am too, neither of us took initiative to do it. Finally my friend's boyfriend just took our hands and linked them together, and we just laughed off how lame we were. I really don't care for holding hands though. Mine are always cold and rather than subject anyone to having to hold them, I prefer to keep them in my pockets and have an arm around the shoulder or something.

Just do it. It's not as big of a deal as it seems right now.

[bladerdude360]

I still get a little nervous doing it haha, but like everyone else has said, it's really not a big deal. Just go for it. The worst that happens is she doesn't want to and then you know not to worry about it any more.

[jco3]

Sadly at 22 I still stress out over situations like this...o well.

welcome to the club. Except, I'm 19... but still... I'm in a freaking club!

[WhitestKidUKnow]

I'ma join the club too.

[wroteurname]

welcome to the club. Except, I'm 19... but still... I'm in a freaking club!

:overhead:

[johnnyflashbang]

You guys make it sound soooooo easy. but yeah, i get the point. just do it, and hope i don't get screwed! :-d

[Parabola1124]

get screwed! :-d

Isn't that the ultimate goal here?

[arizonahotrock]

I'm just amazed the dude said "courting" in the OP...

[phil19]

i like holding a girls hand who i really like for the first time

[introduction]

holding hands is kinda gross.

[johnnyflashbang]

I'm just amazed the dude said "courting" in the OP...
errrr... was that wrong? :shrug:

[johnnyflashbang]

Isn't that the ultimate goal here?
i don't wanna get screwed just yet.. no, i am not gay.

[johnnyflashbang]

oh and thanks to all those who gave advice! i appreciate it!

[Parabola1124]

no, i am not gay.

Wanna bet

[denissuxx]

I don't know what to advise, but don't do this;

"Are you nervous?"
"Why"
"Because your hands are sweating"

[the1]

i can wear gloves, but they can't be the cheap acrylic ones like little kids use. they must be of quality material.

Glove snob.

[Deadbolt23]

Best advive i can give, is to just go for it. I know it's hard but it'll seem like nothin after you've done it a couple of times.
If you don't your girl will not be happy, I promise you that.

You just gotta ask yourself, is she really worth holding hands?

[overdrive91]

grab that hand and if she takes it away knock her the fuck out. I'm kidding about knocking her out unless that's your thing then uh...go for it.

[xxxfreakxxx]

Just do it girls like to hold hands.

[Waldorf]

there are germs on girls hands
i heard some of them don't wash their hands after they use the bathroom

[arizonahotrock]

errrr... was that wrong? :shrug:

No...just not something I hear that often, that's all.

[argg_xo]

Glove snob.
i can't help it :shrug:

[Mochem]

While you're walking with her or something say "Hey, could you hold something for me for a second?" then after she agrees, grab her hand.

[concernedparent]

Be careful, because holding hands is a big deal.

[OurLadyCoolbean]

ah i remember the first time holding my girlfriend's hand. we were with her/our friend who was on a longboard and she grabbed her hand so she wouldnt drift too far ahead. i grabbed my girl's hand and said "hey i want in" haha it was perfect

as for advice... theres really not much i can say that hasnt been said. i say just go for it, but when you grab it, make sure you have some shy smile or something of the sort to give her. dont look scared, or she'll think that you think you have an obligation, and that wont be good

[Mibabalou]

is this real

if so you are a bitch

[Waldorf]

is this real

if so you are a bitch

and a pussy

[Mibabalou]

and a pussy

first time i agree with you

[Waldorf]

first time i agree with you

haha it's ok bro

[Broken Parachute]

Be careful, because holding hands is a big deal.I remember when I popped this girl's hand holding cherry back in 7th grade. She's still attached to me.

[Urglegrew]

most embarresing moment for me happened like this. We were sitting in the theatre, i don't remember the movie, but i was ganna kiss her for he first time, and i though well i better just give her a peck before i make out with her, so i went in haha, she went for the make out, pretty much my face got ate. :/ haha... just horrible

[aerofan11]

It's easier said, than done. But, just go for it. Grab her hand, then look at her, and smile. If it feels awkward, don't make it obvious that you feel awkward.

[Tautou107]

While you're walking with her or something say "Hey, could you hold something for me for a second?" then after she agrees, grab her hand.
Haha, this is cute.

[staciebx0]

Sadly at 22 I still stress out over situations like this...o well.
welcome to the club. Except, I'm 19... but still... I'm in a freaking club!

thats really cute!

[wroteurname]

most embarresing moment for me happened like this. We were sitting in the theatre, i don't remember the movie, but i was ganna kiss her for he first time, and i though well i better just give her a peck before i make out with her, so i went in haha, she went for the make out, pretty much my face got ate. :/ haha... just horrible

I'd consider that pretty sweet, meh.

[chassmariee]

When I say that something, I want to hold your hand

[kemichels]

Yes, I'm a kid. I'm 16 years old and have no experience whatsoever. This is the first time I've ever tried courting a girl so I have no idea what I'm doing.

So anyway, I was wondering how do I actually initiate something like holding her hand during a movie, etc. etc. I've gone out with her twice already and my friends tell me I should be doing something by now.

A good way is first trying to feel out if she's receptive to physical stuff with you. As you hold a door open for her or something put your hand on the small of her back, or when she laughs at something you say, do it again, etc. If she receives well, just as you're walking or something, get closer so your arms are practically touching. Have a few little bumps of hands as you walk, etc, and when a couple have occurred, curl your fingers up to grab hers...if she does the same, awesome. If it doesn't work the first time, try again if she doesn't seemed to be turned off by your first attempt.

[Fullblast]

I remember when I popped this girl's hand holding cherry back in 7th grade. She's still attached to me.
In 7th grade? Damn

[ReadyForAction]

there are germs on girls hands
i heard some of them don't wash their hands after they use the bathroom
I know a girl that poops in her hand and then place it in the toilet

[songydarko]

A good way is first trying to feel out if she's receptive to physical stuff with you. As you hold a door open for her or something put your hand on the small of her back, or when she laughs at something you say, do it again, etc. If she receives well, just as you're walking or something, get closer so your arms are practically touching. Have a few little bumps of hands as you walk, etc, and when a couple have occurred, curl your fingers up to grab hers...if she does the same, awesome. If it doesn't work the first time, try again if she doesn't seemed to be turned off by your first attempt.
Look at you, mister suave.

Then again... on our first "date" when you would do the whole small of my back deal, I was pleased...

[jonny4star]

don't hold her hand. it will lead to a baby in 9 months.

[songydarko]

Go in for the kill man. If you don't make atleast a little move she may assume you're not interested in her. I know that when I was going on dates with this one guy, he was basically afraid to get anywhere near me and after awhile I was like... this isn't fun he doesn't even want to touch me.(And it wasn't because he didn't like me or anything since he would always tell his/my friends he really liked me) There's a difference between being shy and just straightup being scared of a girl. If you keep acting scared she'll just become annoyed and in my case I was no longer attracted to him.

[kemichels]

Look at you, mister suave.

Then again... on our first "date" when you would do the whole small of my back deal, I was pleased...

I did pussy out on holding your hand in the movie theater. Granted you were curled up in your seat as far away from me as possible.

[songydarko]

I did pussy out on holding your hand in the movie theater. Granted you were curled up in your seat as far away from me as possible.
lolol aw cute. And well, you made me nervous! Plus didn't wanna be all ohay~curls up near u~ and then you'd be like grozz gtfo, we're just hanging out az frands.

[AlexEnglish]

Ah, to be young. Hand holding isn't even something that crosses my mind anymore. It mostly just happens naturally. However, I remember being 15 and terrified of holding a girl's hand. Of course, when I would finally hold their hand, my hand would sweat profusely. Embarrassing, right?

happens to me so often
im 18 and it still happens, haha

[AlexEnglish]

don't hold her hand. it will lead to a baby in 9 months.
if you hold hands, you will get pregnant and DIE

[ohheroine]

if you dont hold her hand by the third outing she'll move on thinking youre not interested! do it do it do it. dont even think about it.

[jco3]

thats really cute!

Haha, if you say so...

[jco3]

Go in for the kill man. If you don't make atleast a little move she may assume you're not interested in her. I know that when I was going on dates with this one guy, he was basically afraid to get anywhere near me and after awhile I was like... this isn't fun he doesn't even want to touch me.(And it wasn't because he didn't like me or anything since he would always tell his/my friends he really liked me) There's a difference between being shy and just straightup being scared of a girl. If you keep acting scared she'll just become annoyed and in my case I was no longer attracted to him.

This happens to me. It's incredibly frustrating.

And, it's not cause we're scared of you, it's just a reaction.

Look at it this way: The guy is obviously nervous because he thinks highly of you, take it as sort of a compliment. I know it seems weird, but some people just have inexplicable "fears."

[johnnyflashbang]

its fun hearing everyone's experiences, so once again, thanks! :-d

I'm definitely gonna try something on our next outing!

[songydarko]

This happens to me. It's incredibly frustrating.

And, it's not cause we're scared of you, it's just a reaction.

Look at it this way: The guy is obviously nervous because he thinks highly of you, take it as sort of a compliment. I know it seems weird, but some people just have inexplicable "fears."

I totally understand that but I mean, you have to get over your fear after awhile? Like sure at first maybe it's okay but like, for this dude I'd been hanging out with him for like two/three months and I'd never even hugged him.

[kingspud]

there are germs on girls hands
i heard some of them don't wash their hands after they use the bathroom

the dirty ones are the best!

[jonny4star]

if you hold hands, you will get pregnant and DIE

i heard that you first bleed from your eyes and then your stomach implodes. is this true?

[jco3]

I totally understand that but I mean, you have to get over your fear after awhile? Like sure at first maybe it's okay but like, for this dude I'd been hanging out with him for like two/three months and I'd never even hugged him.

Okay, that's a little ridiculous... Try, hug-raping him...

[songydarko]

Okay, that's a little ridiculous... Try, hug-raping him...

haha, too late for that now! Actually found me a guy that will get near me!

[jco3]

haha, too late for that now! Actually found me a guy that will get near me!

great no hug-raping necessary... Unless you're into that kind of thing.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

To the OP: I'm 23 and am still trying to find a way to hold the guy I have been hanging out with for about 2.5 months now's hand. Last night I finally just linked my arm with his as we were walking down the street for about a minute or so until we got near his friend's car and he thought it was mine (he and his friend and this girl his friend was with had come in one car and then I met them at the bar and my car was parked across the street and they didn't want me walking alone, so they drove me to my car). Not sure if he'll remember it though becauase he was wasted :/

[Burn That Shit]

you seriously need to consult people on the internet on how to hold someone's hand? holy fuck.

[phil19]

this girl held my hand the other night and i got a hard on