Falling For What I Shouldn't

[Akissforher]

ok another scenario guys,

in high school i fell hard for my best girl friend, i hated it cause i thought she was awesome and she had a boyfriend etc. so it wasnt going to happen, for about 1 year or so i liked her. finally i moved far away (for other reasons) and made new friends etc and now i fear im doing the same thing;

Me and her work at the same place as well as her boyfriend whom sorta friends with, acquaintances if you will. and he's always telling her how he doesnt like me hanging out with her as much as we do, after all this time of 'nothing going on' etc i think im starting to like her the more time passes, it's gotten to the point where i think she should be with me and not him. horrible i know

thoughts/advice?

[jay_klinkhammer]

Stay away until they are broken up.

[Akissforher]

Stay away until they are broken up.

is there a certain amount of time i should wait without it seeming like its why they broke up or will it always seem that way?

[jay_klinkhammer]

is there a certain amount of time i should wait without it seeming like its why they broke up or will it always seem that way?


Thing is, you don't want to be the reason why they break up.

I am/was in the midst of trying to break people up. I'm the only one that has lost because they are still together despite the fact she cheated on him twice.

Stay away....talk to her if she talks to you, but don't initiate conversations and just let it pass.

[DCD08]

find a girl who's single and get the fuck over it.

[God damner]

Only my opinion:

You should respect the fact that if she has a boyfriend. They obviously have a connection. You may be better suited for her, but it's just not meant to be now. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and mabye you guys will hook up down the line if the opportunity strikes, but waiting for her to break up with her boyfriend is not fair to you or them as friends who you should respect. Her friendship with you and his tolerance of you I think probaby has some basis of the notion you are not pursuing her which is kinda in jeopardy with your motivations. Set your sites on unmarked territory. Crushes pass my friend, and you'll be all the happier when you hook up with someone you really dig and connect with and still have your friends. Good luck.

[Ferzaer]

yeah wait till they break up and make sure you stay with her throughout the bads and goods, you know like be there for her when she's having some problems with her boyfriend. just to show her that you care.

[whiterussian]

get off the ladder to being a douche.

you're already poisoning their relationship as it is.
stop pretending to be her friend when you mostly want to fuck her.

[Fullblast]

Have you ever had a girlfriend? Grow a penis, and fucking be a man. There's *pulls out imaginary world statistics* 8 billion people, 1/3 of whom are female, so go nuts; find a different girl. It's that simple dude.

[ReadyForAction]

Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score

[Esrb99]

I'm in a similar situation except she wants out of the relationship, and I know she's into me. all you can do is wait. It it's meant to be it will happen. just be a good friend for now.

[Fullblast]

I'm in a similar situation except she wants out of the relationship, and I know she's into me. all you can do is wait. It it's meant to be it will happen. just be a good friend for now.
Kill her boyfriend, bury him, no one will find out.

[LastDeclaration]

anal

[DCD08]

Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah a

thats awesome. thank you for that.

[songydarko]

Well this could be bad in many ways.
Either A): she'll like you back but the boyfriend will kill you
B) the girl won't like you and both her and the bf will hate you


So... I guess do what chya gotta do.

[kingspud]

you sound like one of those people that always go for girls who are already taken. this is classic of a personality who's scared of getting into a realationship in the first place. by fancying this girl you eliminate all chances of having a meaningful relationship. i've been there. or have i? no actually i haven't ever. get over it. find a nice single person male or female. i'm judgmental of sexuality!

[perceptrons]

Either be a dick and make a move on her, or be a man and stop fucking with their relationship.

[Esrb99]

Kill her boyfriend, bury him, no one will find out.

haha, i've thought of just packing some essentials up, picking her up and leaving town. problem is I only want what is best for her; weather that's me or not is irrelevant. she's going to school and works 30+ hrs a week. leaving town with her could potentially hurt us both and she'd end up in the same boat. I refuse to let that happen, so once she can break her lease (january,) she's out.

[apresnuledeluge]

You only want her so bad because you can't have her.

[ohheroine]

do not try to break them up or cause problems for them. Messing with her or him will just get you beaten up

[HangsLikeHeaven]

great responses in this thread, haha

[Sventhegreat]

Just tell her how you feel. Either she'll go for it or she won't.

It's just that easy!

I feel like i'm on some Magic Bullet paid programming. If only.

[kingspud]

Just tell her how you feel. Either she'll go for it or she won't.

It's just that easy!

I feel like i'm on some Magic Bullet paid programming. If only.

she so won't. no offence but you're blatently a total loser :(

[Sventhegreat]

she so won't. no offence but you're blatently a total loser :(

Born, grew some hear, learnt to walk, went to school, went through puberty, didn't have any sex, listenhd to lots of grunge, had some sex, got sectioned, became a buddist TBC

....do I even need to say more? Like are you serious?

This isn't your tree to chop down, ***.

[kingspud]

no of course i'm not serious! i'm pure fun! get a life!

[AndrewIcex]

Stay away, I would kill you if I was her boyfriend. Just sayin'.

[ted is lying]

I feel like Im the only guy who can be best friend with a girl. Everyone else always seems to fall in love. So my advice to you is cut off your balls so this way she will never want to get with you, and you can keep an awesome friendship. Or something like that.

[racethesun]

if i were the guy i'd fucking kill you. straight up.

[kingspud]

now come on guys. this is verging on bullying.

[jay_klinkhammer]

You only want her so bad because you can't have her.


That isn't always true.

[jay_klinkhammer]

if i were the guy i'd fucking kill you. straight up.


I would too. That's why I'm lucky the guy in the relationship I (regrettably and shamefully) tried to break up is a fucking pussy.

[lynnie]

I would stay away, man. You will only get yourself hurt. If I found out a guy I liked had a girlfriend, I would stay away. It is out of order behaviour to "try it on" with her. Have some respect for yourself but most of all your fellow male species. Put yourself in his shoes. You would feel the same if you thought some dude was trying it on with your girl. If she is unhappy in her relationship, she needs to sort that out with her boyfriend, but you need to keep out if it. It is hard but you need to get on with your life. Date, meet new people. At the end of the day, if it is meant to be, it will be, but don't put your life on hold for her. Live it!

[Tautou107]

Like many others have said, stay away from her for the time being and try to move on to someone who isn't taken. If you've really fallen for her, and find yourself unable to move on, then wait it out. Don't overstep your boundaries (if you were the boyfriend in this situation, you would not be happy); don't tell her how you feel, and don't try to break them up. If she wants you, she'll leave the boyfriend and come to you. Jumping in and forcing her to choose is just going to cause everyone problems.

[zion the lion]

Is that 15 year old chick that he liked?

[Yellowcard2006]

Don't even bother waiting around. Start liking single girls.

[Urglegrew]

dude, same thing happened to me, i just backed off. Two years have gone by, and they are still dating...

edit: ^ agreed

[phil19]

just take a photo of you two and masturbate over it

[ldubcirca1986]

It's a tricky situation. Her boyfriend has a right to not feel comfortable about how close you two are getting, because you have gone past the point of friendship. The second you start liking someone, your friendship is really no longer platonic. I know, technically..it is...but I think you get what I'm saying. Have you stopped to think...maybe she is happy with her boyfriend? Don't tell her how you feel, because if you do she will inevitably tell her boyfriend, and then there will be an even bigger problem with your friendship. If she is into you, she will let you know. I'm not saying it's necessarily a good thing if she breaks up with her boyfriend, to be with you...but if it happens...you can just see where it goes. It could end up to be a good thing. But let her be the one to come to you. But as of now...don't center everything around her, go ahead and date other people. I was in a similar situation..only I was in the girl you like's position.

[Akissforher]

Is that 15 year old chick that he liked?

hahah no its not her, shes almost 18.

[Akissforher]

It's a tricky situation. Her boyfriend has a right to not feel comfortable about how close you two are getting, because you have gone past the point of friendship. The second you start liking someone, your friendship is really no longer platonic. I know, technically..it is...but I think you get what I'm saying. Have you stopped to think...maybe she is happy with her boyfriend? Don't tell her how you feel, because if you do she will inevitably tell her boyfriend, and then there will be an even bigger problem with your friendship. If she is into you, she will let you know. I'm not saying it's necessarily a good thing if she breaks up with her boyfriend, to be with you...but if it happens...you can just see where it goes. It could end up to be a good thing. But let her be the one to come to you. But as of now...don't center everything around her, go ahead and date other people. I was in a similar situation..only I was in the girl you like's position.


i do get what you mean, i should say that i havent really made any 'moves' on her and to be honest, if she's happy than i am, i have no intention of breaking them up, shes told that shes happy with him so im happy for her,

i think everyone's gotten that part misconscrued, my mistake.

[kingspud]

it is a conundrum i must admit. good to see your gaining some perspective on the situation. the clostest i've had to your experience is a girl leaving me for some guy i had no respect for. at the end of the day you put your chips on the table and let it ride. that's all i have to say.

PS does anyone know why my avatar won't show?!

[zion the lion]

hahah no its not her, shes almost 18.

What happened to the 15 year old?

[lynnie]

15? Is that even legal?! :-|

[Akissforher]

What happened to the 15 year old?

we kinda just stopped talking for a while,

[zion the lion]

we kinda just stopped talking for a while,

So you basically forgot about her or something?

[Akissforher]

So you basically forgot about her or something?

no necessarily in the end i found we are two very different people.

[xxxfreakxxx]

So what you feel is right.

[Jennurna Gray]

Right is wrong.

[kingspud]

wrong is never right