need some help here

[justletgo]

okay, so i had this girlfriend here that had moved. we've been keeping this long distance thing going since around july. it was going really well and holding up strong and then all the sudden she decided to just stop talking to me completely. our last conversation we had was completely normal, but she seemed a little stressed. she said she wanted to make the best out of her time being away before she comes back here for college. well it's been a month since that conversation. she went from being committed and actually putting her heart into this relationship to completely ignoring every phone call and everything i've been sending her. i even went out of my way and mailed her a hand written letter. isn't that like the nicest thing i could do? haha, well it sucks not knowing what's going on and not getting any sort of reply and just being ignored. i've talked to all my friends about this and have gotten some pretty good advice on how to handle this, but it's still eating away at me . i just feel that's such an inconsiderate thing to do. it's hard to move on from and try to find other people since i'd feel guilty. we never officially broke up. any advice on how to handle this? anal?

EDIT: So, i have an update here. i had a feeling that and am starting to realize this isn't just about me. she's not really contacting anyone outside of where she lives now. i talked to some of her friends from back here and they said they've been trying to contact her and she won't. i feel like something might have happened that's been causing her. now i really don't know what to do. i'm just really worried about her.

[TheByrus]

She's having sex with someone else. Move on.

[perceptrons]

Move on. In the event that there is some valid reason for this, talk it over and go from there.

[phil19]

"she said she wanted to make the best out of her time being away before she comes back here for college" - she wants to bone numerous dudes

[perceptrons]

"she said she wanted to make the best out of her time being away before she comes back here for college" - she wants to bone numerous dudes
Yeah... that line should have made it pretty obvious.

[phil19]

Yeah... that line should have made it pretty obvious.

i think so

[justletgo]

Move on. In the event that there is some valid reason for this, talk it over and go from there.

That's the thing. I've attempted to talk this over numerous times with her and she won't answer me. Maybe it's too hard for her. i don't know. i'm just waiting now for someone else to ruin her. then maybe she'll realize all the good shit that i've done for her. all i know is that i at least deserve some sort of reply as to what's going on.

[perceptrons]

That's the thing. I've attempted to talk this over numerous times with her and she won't answer me. Maybe it's too hard for her. i don't know. i'm just waiting now for someone else to ruin her. then maybe she'll realize all the good shit that i've done for her. all i know is that i at least deserve some sort of reply as to what's going on.
Sure you do, but don't wait around for it with bated breath.

[justletgo]

"she said she wanted to make the best out of her time being away before she comes back here for college" - she wants to bone numerous dudes

that idea fucking kills me. that's what i've been thinking all along. but she could at least tell me that. you think it's too hard for her to tell me she wants to see other people? and about a week before that, she was telling me she was scared i'd hook up with other girls at college. i told her i'd never and i was speaking truthfully and she said she would never either. talk about about a bite in the ass.

[justletgo]

Sure you do, but don't wait around for it with bated breath.

thanks, and that's a good point.

[phil19]

that idea fucking kills me. that's what i've been thinking all along. but she could at least tell me that. you think it's too hard for her to tell me she wants to see other people? and about a week before that, she was telling me she was scared i'd hook up with other girls at college. i told her i'd never and i was speaking truthfully and she said she would never either. talk about about a bite in the ass.

id say so. if you've been dating and if she's not a total bitch, she's not going to want to totally destroy your feelings by saying she wants other people, so she re-phrases. but essentially, it hurts just as much because its pretty obvious what she really means. that is a kick in the nuts if she said that a week previous.

[bladerdude360]

Yeah, I'd bet she's "seeing" other people. Also, it's probably not the best idea to start college with a girlfriend, you'll both miss out on a lot of stuff.

[Dumpweed]

its the end of this relationship and i know it sucks. you need closure, and eventually youll get it. until then get out there and try your hardest to get your mind off it. its cliche and tacky but all in good time you wont care anymore.

[justletgo]

Yeah, I'd bet she's "seeing" other people. Also, it's probably not the best idea to start college with a girlfriend, you'll both miss out on a lot of stuff.

i feel like i was fine with what was going on with us though. like what am i missing out on?

[UnderMyDreams]

You never broke up, she stopped talking to you and wont respond. For the past month.

Come on man, pretty obvious. Sorry to tell it to you hard, but it's pretty much over. Move on, and don't feel bad. You don't need to be "officially broken up." It's obviously broken up.

[justletgo]

id say so. if you've been dating and if she's not a total bitch, she's not going to want to totally destroy your feelings by saying she wants other people, so she re-phrases. but essentially, it hurts just as much because its pretty obvious what she really means. that is a kick in the nuts if she said that a week previous.
yeah that's true it is a kick in the nuts. she left me hanging big time, that's why it's driving me insane


its the end of this relationship and i know it sucks. you need closure, and eventually youll get it. until then get out there and try your hardest to get your mind off it. its cliche and tacky but all in good time you wont care anymore.
thanks, i've been doing that and i've been able to get my mind off of it for days at a time. but then something little always comes up like just seeing her on facebook and it all comes back again. and i'm starting to think i'll never get closure. maybe she's doing just fine with the decision she made and she'll never give me any sort of damn closure. ahhhh, it irritates me.

[bladerdude360]

i feel like i was fine with what was going on with us though. like what am i missing out on?
Being an independent person, figuring out who YOU are, learning how to be by yourself, meeting new people and making new friends independently, flirting with people, being alone at times, and yes, the occasional random hookup that you will possibly (read: probably) regret. That's not a comprehensive list and it's possible that you've done some of those things, and I'm not saying having a boyfriend or girlfriend in college is bad, but I feel like if you have been in a relationship for a while and you enter college, you're going to miss out on some of the things you would have done otherwise which are part of the college experience.

[pr0digy]

If they start acting slightly off out of nowhere, it's usually bad news bears....Unfortunately I know this from experience...

[justletgo]

You never broke up, she stopped talking to you and wont respond. For the past month.

Come on man, pretty obvious. Sorry to tell it to you hard, but it's pretty much over. Move on, and don't feel bad. You don't need to be "officially broken up." It's obviously broken up.

yeah, it's hard to face that truth but it is pretty obvious, but i don't know. i just feel like i need closure.

[HometownHero]

Definitely fucking other guys.

[phil19]

yeah that's true it is a kick in the nuts. she left me hanging big time, that's why it's driving me insane



thanks, i've been doing that and i've been able to get my mind off of it for days at a time. but then something little always comes up like just seeing her on facebook and it all comes back again. and i'm starting to think i'll never get closure. maybe she's doing just fine with the decision she made and she'll never give me any sort of damn closure. ahhhh, it irritates me.

yeah thats understandable but i think its pretty clear where you stand with her at the moment. find a new girl who treats you better. and yes, i realise thats easier said than done

[justletgo]

Being an independent person, figuring out who YOU are, learning how to be by yourself, meeting new people and making new friends independently, flirting with people, being alone at times, and yes, the occasional random hookup that you will possible (read: probably) regret. That's not a comprehensive list and it's possible that you've done some of those things, and I'm not saying having a boyfriend or girlfriend in college is bad, but I feel like if you have been in a relationship for a while and you enter college, you're going to miss out on some of the things you would have done otherwise which are part of the college experience.

yeah you're right. i feel like i'm just starting to learn a little about myself already since this as all been happening. and it's funny you say that. being alone and by myself is absolutely what i despise the most right now.

If they start acting slightly off out of nowhere, it's usually bad news bears....Unfortunately I know this from experience...

yeah, something i've definitely learned too out of this

[Sventhegreat]

This iis a really weird situation. I don't get it at all.

[justletgo]

oh yeah i didn't mention where she moved to btw. fucking shanghai, china. maybe living on the other side of the world might have something to do with it?

[justletgo]

This iis a really weird situation. I don't get it at all.
me neither.

yeah thats understandable but i think its pretty clear where you stand with her at the moment. find a new girl who treats you better. and yes, i realise thats easier said than done
i would love for that to happen.

Definitely fucking other guys.
thanks man, that makes me feel great.

[HometownHero]

me neither.


i would love for that to happen.


thanks man, that makes me feel great.
If she is in China and the stereotypes are true maybe the guys have really small dicks in comparison to yours? :shrug: I really am sorry though man. This kind of shit happens to me often if it makes you feel any better

[phil19]

me neither.


i would love for that to happen.


thanks man, that makes me feel great.

well then you need to put yourself in that mindframe. stop wishing and hoping for your ex. that wont help. you need to be open for the next relationship. dont close yourself off with thoughts of the ex

[justletgo]

If she is in China and the stereotypes are true maybe the guys have really small dicks in comparison to yours? :shrug: I really am sorry though man. This kind of shit happens to me often if it makes you feel any better

hahaha valid point. and thanks. it actually does help knowing there's people that can relate. this is the first time something like this has happened to me. it really sucks.

[HometownHero]

hahaha valid point. and thanks. it actually does help knowing there's people that can relate. this is the first time something like this has happened to me. it really sucks.
Just be hopeful for the next chick that she is not such a bitch. Don't shut yourself off either. Bad idea

[justletgo]

well then you need to put yourself in that mindframe. stop wishing and hoping for your ex. that wont help. you need to be open for the next relationship. dont close yourself off with thoughts of the ex

it's tough, and that's what i'm working on. i just don't want to do something that i'll regret. like hooking up with some random girl that i don't like. and it's pretty tough for me to like anyone else right now. but believe me, i'm trying.

[phil19]

it's tough, and that's what i'm working on. i just don't want to do something that i'll regret. like hooking up with some random girl that i don't like. and it's pretty tough for me to like anyone else right now. but believe me, i'm trying.

you dont need to neccessarily hook up with someone, just look to the future, not the past, you know.

[justletgo]

you dont need to neccessarily hook up with someone, just look to the future, not the past, you know.
yeah, i'll try to keep that mindset. i need to stop wasting time on this. i have my whole future of other shit to come. but this just keeps haunting me for some reason. it's pretty lame.
Just be hopeful for the next chick that she is not such a bitch. Don't shut yourself off either. Bad idea
i'm working on not shutting myself off. and i would love to have a chick that's not bitchy. this girl seemed to be like that, then this shit happened.

[phil19]

yeah, i'll try to keep that mindset. i need to stop wasting time on this. i have my whole future of other shit to come. but this just keeps haunting me for some reason. it's pretty lame.

i'm working on not shutting myself off. and i would love to have a chick that's not bitchy. this girl seemed to be like that, then this shit happened.

its hard, i wont lie, im in the process of getting over my ex too. but you're still young so dont let it get you down. dont waste these years on someone whos unattainable (sp). trust me. its not worth it

[HometownHero]

yeah, i'll try to keep that mindset. i need to stop wasting time on this. i have my whole future of other shit to come. but this just keeps haunting me for some reason. it's pretty lame.

i'm working on not shutting myself off. and i would love to have a chick that's not bitchy. this girl seemed to be like that, then this shit happened.
Your username is your best advice haha

[justletgo]

its hard, i wont lie, im in the process of getting over my ex too. but you're still young so dont let it get you down. dont waste these years on someone whos unattainable (sp). trust me. its not worth it

definitely not worth it all. but something little always sets it all off again. it makes it impossible to simply just move on from it. but things can only get better from here since i've already hit rock bottom with this so i'll try and be an optimist.

[justletgo]

Your username is your best advice haha

ahhaha, clever. well i need some sleep now, it's 3am!. thanks for all the input people. it's really helping me a bit.

[Auals]

ahhaha, clever. well i need some sleep now, it's 3am!. thanks for all the input people. it's really helping me a bit.
I'm going over seas soon. My girlfriend told me we're breaking up when I leave and it's partly because she wants to be with other people. As much as it might suck, hearing the actual words coming out her mouth will kill you. Trust me. We're staying together till I leave. I've got a natural anxiety disorder, I'm a mess. The most pathetic person on the planet. But it's all about resolve. Realising that the more you cling to it, the more dependent on it you are. Stay away from her on facebook, block her if you have to or just don't go on it at all. Do everything you can to distract yourself or not let it get to you.

[overdrive91]

She's having sex with someone else. Move on.

This is what i thought when i read this.

[phil19]

definitely not worth it all. but something little always sets it all off again. it makes it impossible to simply just move on from it. but things can only get better from here since i've already hit rock bottom with this so i'll try and be an optimist.

thats it mate. hang in there

[saveferris]

that idea fucking kills me. that's what i've been thinking all along. but she could at least tell me that. you think it's too hard for her to tell me she wants to see other people? and about a week before that, she was telling me she was scared i'd hook up with other girls at college. i told her i'd never and i was speaking truthfully and she said she would never either. talk about about a bite in the ass.
Find a chick that will do that for you. I know plenty

[saveferris]

This is what i thought when i read this.
Yeah me too. I think everyone did.

[spunkmastaflex]

drop her like i did my cupcake last night, she treats you with no respect to even pick up the phone, dont give her any respect

[Yellowcard2006]

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She's not your girlfriend, anymore.

[drawndead]

give her best friend anal then mail her another hand written letter

[songydarko]

Wow if that happened to me I'd say fuck that asshole. She's obviously not worth your time if she's just going to put you aside like you're nothing. Your heart clearly seemed to be more in this than hers so screw it. Find someone who wont mess around.

[hellogorgeous]

I don't know how you people do it. The minute I feel like the person I am into/was dating/is dating (however you want to put it) is being at all weird or snubbing me, or IGNORING MY PHONE CALLS, that person is out of my life. I don't have time for games or "being in a shitty mood" and whatever excuse you can come up with. Move on, you are better off! TRUST ME'

[And Hours Pass]

Being an independent person, figuring out who YOU are, learning how to be by yourself, meeting new people and making new friends independently, flirting with people, being alone at times, and yes, the occasional random hookup that you will possibly (read: probably) regret. That's not a comprehensive list and it's possible that you've done some of those things, and I'm not saying having a boyfriend or girlfriend in college is bad, but I feel like if you have been in a relationship for a while and you enter college, you're going to miss out on some of the things you would have done otherwise which are part of the college experience.

Couldn't agree more with this.

If they start acting slightly off out of nowhere, it's usually bad news bears....Unfortunately I know this from experience...

And this.

Your username is your best advice haha

And this.

[pnkhrdwndr]

Pretty much the same thing happened to me it was pretty lame but I got over her quickly because it was over our breaking up was definitely felt so it went unspoken.

[justletgo]

I'm going over seas soon. My girlfriend told me we're breaking up when I leave and it's partly because she wants to be with other people. As much as it might suck, hearing the actual words coming out her mouth will kill you. Trust me. We're staying together till I leave. I've got a natural anxiety disorder, I'm a mess. The most pathetic person on the planet. But it's all about resolve. Realising that the more you cling to it, the more dependent on it you are. Stay away from her on facebook, block her if you have to or just don't go on it at all. Do everything you can to distract yourself or not let it get to you.
dude, i'm sorry about that. that's really shitty. and you're exactly right. i was sooo clingy to this whole thing for a while and now it's starting to get better. but there's still something in me that won't let it go, unlike my username. ahaha. and i'm glad that it's about to resolve soon. i feel the same way with my situation.
Find a chick that will do that for you. I know plenty
what, bite me in the ass?
drop her like i did my cupcake last night, she treats you with no respect to even pick up the phone, dont give her any respect
hahah, i'm sorry you dropped your cupcake. and you're right i shouldn't give her any respect, but my problem is that i'm too forgiving and i'd probably accept her excuse as to why she has done this.
give her best friend anal then mail her another hand written letter
genius, i think i'll do that.
Wow if that happened to me I'd say fuck that asshole. She's obviously not worth your time if she's just going to put you aside like you're nothing. Your heart clearly seemed to be more in this than hers so screw it. Find someone who wont mess around.
true. i though she was that person. i guess not.
I don't know how you people do it. The minute I feel like the person I am into/was dating/is dating (however you want to put it) is being at all weird or snubbing me, or IGNORING MY PHONE CALLS, that person is out of my life. I don't have time for games or "being in a shitty mood" and whatever excuse you can come up with. Move on, you are better off! TRUST ME'
i do trust you, you're right. i wish i could be more like that. but when i'm attached to someone, i'm stuck on them.

Pretty much the same thing happened to me it was pretty lame but I got over her quickly because it was over our breaking up was definitely felt so it went unspoken.
i'm not exactly sure what you mean here, but that's good you got over it quickly.

[pnkhrdwndr]

We both knew it was over without actually saying. the relationship was empty. and as for facebook you should really avoid it like the plague it's bad news it only screws with your mind. I know some one who lives on there trying to get pity it is so insane

[Deadbolt23]

Would you treat her like this? Of course you wouldn't. I think maybe this situation has been a massive eye-opener for you.
There are two people. The woman you are in love with, and the woman that is treating you like this.
The fact that you are still attached after this, and still care for her, shows me that you are a good person. You can do much better, man.

[nphizzle]

The best way to get over somebody is to get on top of somebody else.

[saveferris]

I doubt she's cheating on you.

[hellogorgeous]

Well I know know know how it is to be stuck on someone. For me, reminding myself that I am better off and amazing helps. I hope you feel better.

[DanielJames]

I know you want closure, but you've done all that you can. I was in a somewhat similar situation minus the distance. I know it's eating at you know, but the faster you move on and talk to other people, the faster you're going to realize that the girl you're currently hung up on isn't worth it.

[Domcakes]

I think it's safe to say that she has been behaving really selfishly at this point. Not talking to you about what she had decided to do should have made you angry, not sad.
Your best bet is to stop trying to contact her, and focus on yourself and friends; those are the important things in life, anyways.
And don't worry about the sadness. Everything will be better with time.

[singlexsorrow]

Don't really know what else to say that hasn't been said, but best of luck to you man. Keep your head up and take it easy and slow. Enjoy activities and hobbies that make you happy and that can get your mind off of things. Listen to a lot of music. You'll make it through man.

[justletgo]

We both knew it was over without actually saying. the relationship was empty. and as for facebook you should really avoid it like the plague it's bad news it only screws with your mind. I know some one who lives on there trying to get pity it is so insane
oh okay i see.i know, i know, facebook has been the worst for me. and so has myspace. you know on myspace that when you send someone messages, it tells you if they've been read or not? well yeah she's read all of the ones i've sent on myspace.
Would you treat her like this? Of course you wouldn't. I think maybe this situation has been a massive eye-opener for you.

There are two people. The woman you are in love with, and the woman that is treating you like this.
The fact that you are still attached after this, and still care for her, shows me that you are a good person. You can do much better, man.
yeah, definitely. now i know what to look for in my next relationship. hopefully it'll work out for the better. and thanks for the support, this shit really helps me function. ahaha.

The best way to get over somebody is to get on top of somebody else.
you're joking right? i'd just feel guilty then.
I doubt she's cheating on you.
you think so? i still think that to some extent. like, at first i just thought it was all the stress that comes with moving to the other side of the world and just being 16 in general is a very .. emotional stage. but now i don't know what to think.
Well I know know know how it is to be stuck on someone. For me, reminding myself that I am better off and amazing helps. I hope you feel better.
hahah, thanks. i'll try to feel amazing and better off more!
I think it's safe to say that she has been behaving really selfishly at this point. Not talking to you about what she had decided to do should have made you angry, not sad.
Your best bet is to stop trying to contact her, and focus on yourself and friends; those are the important things in life, anyways.
And don't worry about the sadness. Everything will be better with time.
yeah, i'm angry and sad over it. but through the whole think i've never said anything that showed any sign of aggression toward her. i've been content about this whole situation. that's why i don't understand her inability to reply! but yeah, i'll just have to let time settle things.

I know you want closure, but you've done all that you can. I was in a somewhat similar situation minus the distance. I know it's eating at you know, but the faster you move on and talk to other people, the faster you're going to realize that the girl you're currently hung up on isn't worth it.
yeah that's true. but it sucks, because i've done sooo much to show her i really care about her. then i get this. ahhhhh, it disturbs me to think that if she could do something like this now, then maybe she never actually cared about me in the first place.

[justletgo]

Don't really know what else to say that hasn't been said, but best of luck to you man. Keep your head up and take it easy and slow. Enjoy activities and hobbies that make you happy and that can get your mind off of things. Listen to a lot of music. You'll make it through man.

thanks! and yeah, i've been keeping myself pretty occupied. my guitar has been my best friend through this. hahah. and i found that writing about it really helps calm me down too sometimes. and actually doing all of my school work during the day instead of procrastinating like i'd normally do helps too and is pretty productive.

[pnkhrdwndr]

thanks! and yeah, i've been keeping myself pretty occupied. my guitar has been my best friend through this. hahah. and i found that writing about it really helps calm me down too sometimes. and actually doing all of my school work during the day instead of procrastinating like i'd normally do helps too and is pretty productive.
Writing lyrics for me helps me get everything out of my system

[justletgo]

Would you treat her like this? Of course you wouldn't. I think maybe this situation has been a massive eye-opener for you.
There are two people. The woman you are in love with, and the woman that is treating you like this.
The fact that you are still attached after this, and still care for her, shows me that you are a good person. You can do much better, man.

oh and i didn't even notice the bon iver avatar. i have a man crush on justin vernon.

[Deadbolt23]

yeah, definitely. now i know what to look for in my next relationship. hopefully it'll work out for the better. and thanks for the support, this shit really helps me function. ahaha.


No problem, man. If you ever need to chat about anything, hit me up. I'm sure anyone here would talk to you about it to be honest. Most of use know what it's like to go through times like this.

oh and i didn't even notice the bon iver avatar. i have a man crush on justin vernon.

Isn't he amazing.

[justletgo]

No problem, man. If you ever need to chat about anything, hit me up. I'm sure anyone here would talk to you about it to be honest. Most of use know what it's like to go through times like this.



Isn't he amazing.

yeah man to be honest i wasn't expecting to get this much support on this. thanks people, everyone gave some great advice! it's nice to know that a bunch of people can relate.

and yes, he is. i don't get how he does it.

[saveferris]

you think so? i still think that to some extent. like, at first i just thought it was all the stress that comes with moving to the other side of the world and just being 16 in general is a very .. emotional stage. but now i don't know what to think.


It sounds like that at first but I don't think it has anything to do with other guys. That's just me though. Some girls just need some space. You know what I mean? Just give her what she wants and stop calling her and shit. Trust me.

[justletgo]

It sounds like that at first but I don't think it has anything to do with other guys. That's just me though. Some girls just need some space. You know what I mean? Just give her what she wants and stop calling her and shit. Trust me.

i've stopped. after calling her about every day for a couple weeks and wrote that letter, i got the picture. do you think she realizes how bad this is on me?

[DanielJames]

yeah that's true. but it sucks, because i've done sooo much to show her i really care about her. then i get this. ahhhhh, it disturbs me to think that if she could do something like this now, then maybe she never actually cared about me in the first place.

You can't think that way. I'm sure the relationship had it's great times, but life change as you get older and if the couple doesn't adapt to those changes then it's over. With her being so far away from you, she probably just wanted to focus on herself and not have to worry about having a boyfriend back home. That doesn't mean that she's out doing random guys, it just means she wants time to herself. I can't say that I'm exactly right since I don't know her, but from what she told you, that's what I'm getting from it.

Stop calling/texting/writing letters/e-mailing/trying to communicate with her in any way possible. This may sound mean to some people, but you want to have the upper hand in this situation which she currently has. By you trying to communicate with her so much even while she's ignoring you shows her that she can do anything she wants to you and you'll still coming running back. Take a step back and just cut all ties with her until she comes to you and is ready to give you an explanation. If she doesn't come back to you then there you go, you know for sure that's it's not meant to be.

[justletgo]

You can't think that way. I'm sure the relationship had it's great times, but life change as you get older and if the couple doesn't adapt to those changes then it's over. With her being so far away from you, she probably just wanted to focus on herself and not have to worry about having a boyfriend back home. That doesn't mean that she's out doing random guys, it just means she wants time to herself. I can't say that I'm exactly right since I don't know her, but from what she told you, that's what I'm getting from it.

Stop calling/texting/writing letters/e-mailing/trying to communicate with her in any way possible. This may sound mean to some people, but you want to have the upper hand in this situation which she currently has. By you trying to communicate with her so much even while she's ignoring you shows her that she can do anything she wants to you and you'll still coming running back. Take a step back and just cut all ties with her until she comes to you and is ready to give you an explanation. If she doesn't come back to you then there you go, you know for sure that's it's not meant to be.

dude, thanks. you're advice is really helpful. i think i'll follow that and stop with everything. i know she's coming here for christmas vacation, and she's either going to trap herself inside or see me since all of her friends here are my friends too. so, i'll just give her space and if she wants to see me then she will. i can't be the weaker person in this situation. and yeah, it's hard to accept it, but if she never comes back or give me any sort of reply than what's the point of staying attached to her?

[DanielJames]

dude, thanks. you're advice is really helpful. i think i'll follow that and stop with everything. i know she's coming here for christmas vacation, and she's either going to trap herself inside or see me since all of her friends here are my friends too. so, i'll just give her space and if she wants to see me then she will. i can't be the weaker person in this situation. and yeah, it's hard to accept it, but if she never comes back or give me any sort of reply than what's the point of staying attached to her?

I'm not saying to stay attached to her. What you should do is just try to move on, talk to other girls, get your mind off of everything negative that's been going on. If you keep thinking about all the negative things, you're just going to fall into the same trap that you're trying to get out of. To be honest, from the sounds of it, you could do a lot better than her so do just that. I'm not saying that you should just jump into another relationship with somebody else, but playing the field definitely does help with moving on.

[saveferris]

i've stopped. after calling her about every day for a couple weeks and wrote that letter, i got the picture. do you think she realizes how bad this is on me?

Probably.

[justletgo]

I'm not saying to stay attached to her. What you should do is just try to move on, talk to other girls, get your mind off of everything negative that's been going on. If you keep thinking about all the negative things, you're just going to fall into the same trap that you're trying to get out of. To be honest, from the sounds of it, you could do a lot better than her so do just that. I'm not saying that you should just jump into another relationship with somebody else, but playing the field definitely does help with moving on.
i know that, i'm kind of just speaking for myself. and yeah i see what you're saying. that's why i want to just find another girl as soon as possible. but it's realllyyy hard to find someone i like as much as her. it'll probably take some time
Probably.

that's why this is such a shock. it's not like her to something inconsiderate like that. i guess that's what stress and having too much to handle does to you.

[Kassie09]

Wow what a bitch she could have at least texted you and said 'we're over. goodbye'
wtf

[justletgo]

Wow what a bitch she could have at least texted you and said 'we're over. goodbye'
wtf

we can't text. we could talk on the phone though. but she could have told me something regardless. but thanks for understanding what's been fucking with me for the past month or so!

[Kassie09]

we can't text. we could talk on the phone though. but she could have told me something regardless. but thanks for understanding what's been fucking with me for the past month or so!

i'd be the most emo and bitchest person ever that's horrible.

[justletgo]

i'd be the most emo and bitchest person ever that's horrible.

ahahah yeah, i was acting pretty bitchy at first, but then i realized that makes it worse. i just need to talk about it with people here and there. it's the only thing that's been keeping me sane throughout this. i feel like i've been bugging my friends too much about it though. they support me and understand me and everything, but they've given me all the advice they could pretty much. that's why i came here.

[Kassie09]

ahahah yeah, i was acting pretty bitchy at first, but then i realized that makes it worse. i just need to talk about it with people here and there. it's the only thing that's been keeping me sane throughout this. i feel like i've been bugging my friends too much about it though. they support me and understand me and everything, but they've given me all the advice they could pretty much. that's why i came here.


Well hopefully that can help you. Breakups are hard enough as it is but you didn;t even get to have closure and a breakup talk/knowing what went wrong. Hopefully just talking to people and meeting new people can help you

[justletgo]

Well hopefully that can help you. Breakups are hard enough as it is but you didn;t even get to have closure and a breakup talk/knowing what went wrong. Hopefully just talking to people and meeting new people can help you

yeah, meeting new people does help too. i've met some new friends at my school since then. i like hanging out with them because they have no clue about the whole thing. so, i donno, it helps get my mind off of it more than with my friends from back home.