Unsure of what to do...

[Deadbolt23]

About three weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend who I'd been with for two years. There were very good reasons. Mainly that she didn't treat me well. But she is in my friend group, so I see her everyday. These three weeks have been so hard for me, as she has made it pretty clear she wants me back, and my feelings refuse to disappear. Up till now I've been pretty adamant that this is what I want, but I can't seem to move on. She seems like the perfect girl now, and professes that she has changed.
Thing is, I've broken up with her a few times before. Only for a couple of days though. And each time, she has said that she will change, and hasn't. So I feel like I would just be giving up again.

Anyone got any ideas/advice? Or been in a similar situation??

[reesa]

you're still young so i think you should leave her for good. i'm just judging on how you said she's said that she would change but hasn't. you'll eventually find someone who won't have to change at all to stay with you (:

[kaycey]

pushover.

[Jake Denning]

Women are nice to have around sometimes, so i'd take her back? But before doing so, explain to her that if she blows this last chance, its done for good.

[phil19]

dude, dont make the same mistake again. dont take her back

[Kozzy333]

Drop the girl.

[Christrings]

Drop the girl.

That's what I was going to say lol.

[denissuxx]

Well..

It's obvious you're in control of her. You can do pretty much anything you want to do.

Are you sure the feelings you have are directed towards her, or do you just want to be with someone etc?

I'd stay away personally, find another (better, if possible) girl, and make tha' bitch jealous, that's just me though

[kbi the crowing]

About three weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend who I'd been with for two years. There were very good reasons. Mainly that she didn't treat me well. But she is in my friend group, so I see her everyday. These three weeks have been so hard for me, as she has made it pretty clear she wants me back, and my feelings refuse to disappear. Up till now I've been pretty adamant that this is what I want, but I can't seem to move on. She seems like the perfect girl now, and professes that she has changed.
Thing is, I've broken up with her a few times before. Only for a couple of days though. And each time, she has said that she will change, and hasn't. So I feel like I would just be giving up again.

Anyone got any ideas/advice? Or been in a similar situation??

my advice: don't go back.
& if it's too much seeing her everyday try to avoid being in contact with her for a while, being friends right away after a breakup isn't the best idea from my experience.

[loudpunkguitar]

don't let her pull you down

[argg_xo]

don't let her pull you down
you better be referencing NFG with your advice.

[pnkhrdwndr]

Drop the girl.
and they were inadvertently referencing hit the lights

[loudpunkguitar]

you better be referencing NFG with your advice.
:)

[argg_xo]

:)
<3

[Deadbolt23]

Women are nice to have around sometimes, so i'd take her back? But before doing so, explain to her that if she blows this last chance, its done for good.

The thing is, I've said last chance before. And i know for everyone else that makes it pretty clear I shouldn't go out with her again. It's just pretty damn difficult.
Also, I broke her heart. I don't want to give it another go and fill her with hope, if i'm just gonna decide it's not right for both of us. That'll just make it harder for us both.

pushover.

k. gonna have to bite on this one.

Well, at the end of the day, I love this girl, and two months ago, i thought i would spend the rest of my life with her. And yeah, you guys just think it's because i'm 17, and this isn't anything. But I was ready to marry her. If it makes me a pushover for being confused about dropping her out of my life, then I guess your right.


EDIT: anal

[terror_91]

About three weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend who I'd been with for two years. There were very good reasons. Mainly that she didn't treat me well. But she is in my friend group, so I see her everyday. These three weeks have been so hard for me, as she has made it pretty clear she wants me back, and my feelings refuse to disappear. Up till now I've been pretty adamant that this is what I want, but I can't seem to move on. She seems like the perfect girl now, and professes that she has changed.
Thing is, I've broken up with her a few times before. Only for a couple of days though. And each time, she has said that she will change, and hasn't. So I feel like I would just be giving up again.

Anyone got any ideas/advice? Or been in a similar situation??
Haven't you answered your own question? She isn't going to change and you know it. Going back to her would be the easy option and would result in you not being happy. You need to suck it up and get through it. Hopefully you will find someone else soon.

[Deadbolt23]

Haven't you answered your own question? She isn't going to change and you know it. Going back to her would be the easy option and would result in you not being happy. You need to suck it up and get through it. Hopefully you will find someone else soon.

Yeah i know. You guys are right. It just sucks.

[terror_91]

Yeah i know. You guys are right. It just sucks.
Ye, it does. It will be worth it though.

[Kozzy333]

and they were inadvertently referencing hit the lights

No, that was intentional.

[songydarko]

After awhile you can't keep trying anymore. I mean, clearly you really want to be with her and I'm sure she wants you, but you need to tell her to snap out of it and treat you the way you should be treated. I'd give it ONE more chance, and if you're still miserable.. there's just no point.

[cuzimlefthanded]

Drop the girl.
p8CEKecrvwI

couldn't find the actual music video. this will have to suffice.

[stereokiller]

like what they said, you're still too young. don't get too serious yet.


aaah, this is what every pop punk band talks about - girls.

[AndrewIcex]

There are a lot of "perfect" girls out there... choose one and be done with it.

[Kassie09]

i kept getting back with my ex until one time he fucked me over bad enough that i was like 'wow, this has all been such a waste'

we broke up probably like 15 times in 3 years for random week or few day periods. it was retarded.

Really if you're breaking up this many times it won't work, you won't be happy. it's happened to me so many times with my ex.

[chassmariee]

If you think it's worth it to keep playing games, then go for it. If not, move on.

[AndrewIcex]

i kept getting back with my ex until one time he fucked me over bad enough that i was like 'wow, this has all been such a waste'

we broke up probably like 15 times in 3 years for random week or few day periods. it was retarded.

Really if you're breaking up this many times it won't work, you won't be happy. it's happened to me so many times with my ex.
But then again, it can work though... sometimes having the space apart is a healthy thing... not every situation is the same.

[Alex_supertramp]

Very similar situation happened to one of my close friends and he chose to stay away and he hasn't been this happy in a while. Don't turn back dude. May seem like shit now but 2 months down the road you'll be happy. Learn from this kinda shit.


If that doesn't work out for you, invest in an Xbox 360 and Call of Duty Modern Warfare 2....that will surely get your mind off her.

[bacon06]

A wise man once said, "Breaking up is like knocking over a coke machine. You can’t do it in one push, you got to rock it back and forth a few times, and then it goes over."

[codhoppers]

at 17 everything feels right, you've got another 60 years to deal with this broad and your already getting sick of her? there are better girls out there, once you go to college you'll be fine

[kingspud]

Well..

It's obvious you're in control of her. You can do pretty much anything you want to do.

Are you sure the feelings you have are directed towards her, or do you just want to be with someone etc?

I'd stay away personally, find another (better, if possible) girl, and make tha' bitch jealous, that's just me though

it's impossible to make a bitch jealous, that is unless you and that bitch are ment to be together, in which case don't fanny around playing hard to get. that's a game that only girls may play. boys that play hard to get are generally ******s!

[DanTGD]

I was in the same position, you pretty get over it eventually, just don't go back, cause you'll end up unhappy again in a few weeks and doing the same thing.

Find a better girl.

[kingspud]

easier said than done. the best live in leeds. refer to earlier thread - http://absolutepunk.net/showthread.php?t=1429541

[llwilliamsll]

'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me' I think that's how it goes.

Or rape her ferociously until she does change.

[kingspud]

don't laugh. not anyone.

[kaycey]

The thing is, I've said last chance before. And i know for everyone else that makes it pretty clear I shouldn't go out with her again. It's just pretty damn difficult.
Also, I broke her heart. I don't want to give it another go and fill her with hope, if i'm just gonna decide it's not right for both of us. That'll just make it harder for us both.



k. gonna have to bite on this one.

Well, at the end of the day, I love this girl, and two months ago, i thought i would spend the rest of my life with her. And yeah, you guys just think it's because i'm 17, and this isn't anything. But I was ready to marry her. If it makes me a pushover for being confused about dropping her out of my life, then I guess your right.


EDIT: anal
after realizing all this and you still repeat the same mistakes, your crazy.

[kingspud]

crazy or 17 or just in love? bit of all three maybe?

[Deadbolt23]

Okay then, guys. Not gonna go back to her. I'm moving to the other side of the country in a year anyway, hopefully my mind will already be off her by then though. If not, I think I've made some bad decisions.

[deathinkosovo]

Friends + benefits = you.

Just do it already.

[Deadbolt23]

Friends + benefits = you.

Just do it already.

I'm not entirely sure what you mean by this.

[Kassie09]

But then again, it can work though... sometimes having the space apart is a healthy thing... not every situation is the same.

If you keep breaking up 392942 times, it's not a real stable relationship, it's just retarded.

I'm not saying breaking up to take a break once or even twice means it won't work, but doing it constantly is just retarded, clearly you're not compatible.

[Chancetobe]

Usually, i"m a fan of second chances. But it seems like you've given her many. And by that point, if she hasn't changed then she isn't going. It's going to suck for a while, since your still into her. But you need someone who will treat you well.

[Deadbolt23]

Okay, thanks to everyone. Last two days I was just goin through a bad patch where I'm like 'OMG WHAT AM I DOING?'. It happens every now and again..

Thankyou all for helping me through it..
xxxxxxxxxx

[deathinkosovo]

I'm not entirely sure what you mean by this.

Ask her to stay friends, but like, fuck buddies. Ya know?

[Deadbolt23]

Ask her to stay friends, but like, fuck buddies. Ya know?


yeah.... really not sure if that's the best thing to do.

[jaggedxpulse]

dont take her back. i took my boyfriend back who kept promising me he'd change, he'd change, he'd change, and he ended up cheating on me and just using me for sex. i told him i might be pregnant, and i havent heard from him in three weeks.

[HYGz]

keep her around as a convenient fuck. never date her again. she'll always smoke your pole.

[deathinkosovo]

keep her around as a convenient fuck. never date her again. she'll always smoke your pole.

Yeah dude, don't even bother. The kid's like, some sort of robot sea creature who believes in the honeymoon period of puppy love and can't feel feelings. Real men want to fuck -- doesn't matter if you're gay, straight, black, tall, socially awkward, overweight or in a wheelchair -- if you are a man, you want to fuck. OP wants to hold hands and pluck flowers from his garden while the Bloodhound gang cassette tape spins in a convenient nearby boom box. The Bloodhound Gang, dude? Really? So, no, don't bother with him. If he wanted free sex with great rapidity, he'd still tow his ex around for the poon box. But, instead, in sick-nasty turn of events, this periwinkle peach decided he still loves her. Some people, man.

[Deadbolt23]

dont take her back. i took my boyfriend back who kept promising me he'd change, he'd change, he'd change, and he ended up cheating on me and just using me for sex. i told him i might be pregnant, and i havent heard from him in three weeks.

That's harsh. Was it true, or did you say it to find out if he cared about you?

[anthonydarko]

Move on, some things just can't be fixed, no matter how much a person says they've changed.

[jaggedxpulse]

That's harsh. Was it true, or did you say it to find out if he cared about you?
it was true. i missed my period and shit and the day that he did talk to me he was yelling at me telling me i was overreacting and that it was nothing. i thought i was pregnant for like a week because i couldnt get a test until that weekend, and i was freaking out. we go to different schools and my friends there were saying that he was like crying and stuff. then he started dating a new girl... still havent heard from him.

[Adam106]

Moving on is best, second chances yes maybe, but as others have said you have tried that. You'll find someone else. As for the fuck buddies idea, probably won't work out.

[Deadbolt23]

it was true. i missed my period and shit and the day that he did talk to me he was yelling at me telling me i was overreacting and that it was nothing. i thought i was pregnant for like a week because i couldnt get a test until that weekend, and i was freaking out. we go to different schools and my friends there were saying that he was like crying and stuff. then he started dating a new girl... still havent heard from him.

That is so horrible. No one deserves someone like that. You can do better than a jerk like that.

[jaggedxpulse]

That is so horrible. No one deserves someone like that. You can do better than a jerk like that.
thats what i keep telling myself but its ridiculous because idk we were best friends for years and then we dated for like a year, so to be ignored like this is just kind of... unusual? but his mom is psycho and she hates me, so i thought maybe she had something to do with it, but it doesnt seem like it because hes the one who yelled at me calling me a slut threatening to hit me... so im thinking its not his mom.

[Deadbolt23]

thats what i keep telling myself but its ridiculous because idk we were best friends for years and then we dated for like a year, so to be ignored like this is just kind of... unusual? but his mom is psycho and she hates me, so i thought maybe she had something to do with it, but it doesnt seem like it because hes the one who yelled at me calling me a slut threatening to hit me... so im thinking its not his mom.

That's so bad. Have you seen him since?

[Deadbolt23]

thats what i keep telling myself but its ridiculous because idk we were best friends for years and then we dated for like a year, so to be ignored like this is just kind of... unusual? but his mom is psycho and she hates me, so i thought maybe she had something to do with it, but it doesnt seem like it because hes the one who yelled at me calling me a slut threatening to hit me... so im thinking its not his mom.

Ouch, that's so bad :(
Have you seen/ heard from him since?

[jaggedxpulse]

Ouch, that's so bad :(
Have you seen/ heard from him since?
i saw him yesterday to get all my stuff back and like came up to hug me and im like i dont want a hug just give me my stuff back. and then he had my jeans (cause i let him borrow them a long long time ago cause they were guys jeans anyway and they were getting to small for me) and he gave my jeans back, and they WERENT MY JEANS. first of all they were girl jeans from pacsun, and then the huge rips that were in the knees just disappeared, and they werent my size... but i havent heard from him cause when i told him i thought i was pregnant, he changed his number.

[theguy77]

A wise man once said, "Breaking up is like knocking over a coke machine. You can’t do it in one push, you got to rock it back and forth a few times, and then it goes over."

thats actually brilliant haha i love it

[Deadbolt23]

i saw him yesterday to get all my stuff back and like came up to hug me and im like i dont want a hug just give me my stuff back. and then he had my jeans (cause i let him borrow them a long long time ago cause they were guys jeans anyway and they were getting to small for me) and he gave my jeans back, and they WERENT MY JEANS. first of all they were girl jeans from pacsun, and then the huge rips that were in the knees just disappeared, and they werent my size... but i havent heard from him cause when i told him i thought i was pregnant, he changed his number.

Haha, so now you have a random person's pair of jeans??

[wendjiqn]

Yeah dude, don't even bother. The kid's like, some sort of robot sea creature who believes in the honeymoon period of puppy love and can't feel feelings. Real men want to fuck -- doesn't matter if you're gay, straight, black, tall, socially awkward, overweight or in a wheelchair -- if you are a man, you want to fuck. OP wants to hold hands and pluck flowers from his garden while the Bloodhound gang cassette tape spins in a convenient nearby boom box. The Bloodhound Gang, dude? Really? So, no, don't bother with him. If he wanted free sex with great rapidity, he'd still tow his ex around for the poon box. But, instead, in sick-nasty turn of events, this periwinkle peach decided he still loves her. Some people, man.
this is an awesome post haha

[jaggedxpulse]

Haha, so now you have a random person's pair of jeans??
haha exactly. and missing my own jeans which kind of blows cause they were cool

[Deadbolt23]

this is an awesome post haha

haha, how did I overlook that???

[wendjiqn]

haha, how did I overlook that???
who knows, but at least you've seen it now

[SimplyPaige]

About three weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend who I'd been with for two years. There were very good reasons. Mainly that she didn't treat me well. But she is in my friend group, so I see her everyday. These three weeks have been so hard for me, as she has made it pretty clear she wants me back, and my feelings refuse to disappear. Up till now I've been pretty adamant that this is what I want, but I can't seem to move on. She seems like the perfect girl now, and professes that she has changed.
Thing is, I've broken up with her a few times before. Only for a couple of days though. And each time, she has said that she will change, and hasn't. So I feel like I would just be giving up again.

Anyone got any ideas/advice? Or been in a similar situation??


sounds like you've got a real flake on your hands.
id stand firm on your decision, seems like you've got a solid head on your shoulders. XD

[Waldorf]

lol 17 years old