Ok guys I'm asking for your opinions!

[4N6 science]

Alright, I believe this is the first time I've made a legit thread in the PL about a problem I have. Here goes.

So I'm a graduate student and there are 22 people in my program. 4 are guys and 18 are girls. I have a friend who I've known since the very beginning and we do a lot together. We do class work together, drink, hangout you name it. I've always had a slight attraction for her and always have a good time with her when we hang out. But last weekend after a little bit of drinking and while I was at her apartment she told me she had a dream. I asked about what. She told me that she was making out with me. This came off as kind of a shock to me because she has a long term b/f back on the west coast (we go to school in VA). The next day we were talking and she told me that she wanted to make the dream a reality. Now I'm a single guy, I've had a crush on this girl and so I say what the hell. Anyways it happened and now I feel like every time we hang out she looks at me in a slightly different way. I feel like she does like me more than a friend but has her b/f back home so she can't act on it. I just want to get your guys' opinions on the situation and see how you would go about with this situation.

Thanks.

tl;dr

[4N6 science]

Oh yeah and Anal could be an option.

[argg_xo]

TL;DR!

i had a dream about you once Jon.

[4N6 science]

TL;DR!

i had a dream about you once Jon.

Really?! what was going on?

[argg_xo]

Really?! what was going on?
i forgot, but it was good.

[Kassie09]

I wouldn't worry about the boyfriend back home, it's not your responsibility.

[ted is lying]

Hmm I had a dream that I madeout with a girl, I told her the next day and it was the best choice I made all week.

[4N6 science]

i forgot, but it was good.

Oh baby!

I wouldn't worry about the boyfriend back home, it's not your responsibility.

Yeah I'm too worried about it. I guess I should just keep going about my business as is?

[ted is lying]

I'd hate to get with someone who I know is in a relationship in, u'd just be a homewrecker.

[ted is lying]

http://i169.photobucket.com/albums/u219/solarissh/FallPEI2007013.jpg

[argg_xo]

Oh baby!



Yeah I'm too worried about it. I guess I should just keep going about my business as is?
we were probably eating crepes

but i think it's her problem if she has a bf back home, she's the one that brough up the dream and said she wanted to make it a reality.

[4N6 science]

Yeah I guess. It was just strange because she came up to me about it.

[4N6 science]

we were probably eating crepes

but i think it's her problem if she has a bf back home, she's the one that brough up the dream and said she wanted to make it a reality.


Yeah...you're right.

[argg_xo]

Yeah...you're right.
she totally didn't have to bring it up at all, and she knows she has a bf, it's not like she forgot about him.

[4N6 science]

she totally didn't have to bring it up at all, and she knows she has a bf, it's not like she forgot about him.

I know she did. The funny thing was I had the same kind of dreams as well but I didn't say anything till she told me.

[waitrewindthat]

Oh yeah and Anal could be an option.

what boyfriend?

and just in case that didnt seal the deal for you.

I wouldn't worry about the boyfriend back home, it's not your responsibility.

[4N6 science]

what boyfriend?

and just in case that didnt seal the deal for you.

I was joking about that anal. We've only made it. I can't get to ahead of myself.

[roughroads]

Oh yeah and Anal could be an option.
I was just gonna say... Definitely your best bet ^

[4N6 science]

Yeah anal should be a cure-all for any situation.

[rollerman4221]

So before I voice my opinion, do you go to a smaller school?

[carlster!]

Has she initiated further making out? Or was it just a one time thing?

[4N6 science]

So before I voice my opinion, do you go to a smaller school?

I mean it's a pretty big school. But in my program there are the 22 people. I have all my classes with these people and don't hang out/mingle with other students. School is about 33,000 students.

[4N6 science]

Has she initiated further making out? Or was it just a one time thing?

so far just a one time thing. i dont know, there seems to be a tension there between us.

[wroteurname]

She made up the dream to have an excuse to tell you she wants to make out with you.

[rollerman4221]

I mean it's a pretty big school. But in my program there are the 22 people. I have all my classes with these people and don't hang out/mingle with other students. School is about 33,000 students.

Damn well my original thought was wrong, idk it just seems to me that drunken hookup conversations happen a little different at my school, but whatever.

Situation sucks, until she basically decides between u or her LD its gonna be awkward

[4N6 science]

She made up the dream to have an excuse to tell you she wants to make out with you.

That's a possibility.

[4N6 science]

Damn well my original thought was wrong, idk it just seems to me that drunken hookup conversations happen a little different at my school, but whatever.

Situation sucks, until she basically decides between u or her LD its gonna be awkward

yeah...that seems like how its going to be.

[wroteurname]

That's a possibility.

I've def done it.

[4N6 science]

Thanks everyone for some legit opinions.

[4N6 science]

I've def done it.


I wouldn't doubt it. But that makes it more of a conscious decision on her part.

[wroteurname]

I wouldn't doubt it. But that makes it more of a conscious decision on her part.

Exactly, I say just roll with what you can get out of this.

[4N6 science]

Exactly, I say just roll with what you can get out of this.

Yeah i'm trying to. I just can't make it awkward since we're good friends and the program is small. I have to be around her for another year and half.

[rollerman4221]

yeah...that seems like how its going to be.

yep, and you can't call her out it's just going to get weirder and since you only roll with a little group, thats bad

but if you continue to not talk about it and just let it be awkward, its gonna suck, which sucks too

so your kinda fucked until she gets over it or drops her guy

sry homes

[etheritcher]

she brought it up. she probably wants it to happen. there isn't a ring on her finger.

[carlster!]

so far just a one time thing. i dont know, there seems to be a tension there between us.
Okay well I'm going to go ahead and assume that she's not a whore since she used that dream bit to hook up with you...whores would have just seduced you or gotten you/themselves drunk. That being said, she probably feels bad that she went behind her boyfriend's back. Basically, she wants you bad, but can't come by you earnestly without losing the bf...creating awkwardness. Maybe? maybe? lol Good luck :/

[4N6 science]

yep, and you can't call her out it's just going to get weirder and since you only roll with a little group, thats bad

but if you continue to not talk about it and just let it be awkward, its gonna suck, which sucks too

so your kinda fucked until she gets over it or drops her guy

sry homes

That is life...I will just roll with it and see what happens.

[4N6 science]

Okay well I'm going to go ahead and assume that she's not a whore since she used that dream bit to hook up with you...whores would have just seduced you or gotten you/themselves drunk. That being said, she probably feels bad that she went behind her boyfriend's back. Basically, she wants you bad, but can't come by you earnestly without losing the bf...creating awkwardness. Maybe? maybe? lol Good luck :/

That's what I was thinking. Well put.

[carlster!]

That's what I was thinking. Well put.
Thanka you sir. Now you must just decide whether to go after her...play up her desire for you, if you will. Or let it lie.

[4N6 science]

Thanka you sir. Now you must just decide whether to go after her...play up her desire for you, if you will. Or let it lie.

Well, I don't know if I can be the homewrecker type. I mean i hang out with her essentially every day. I'm always around her. I don't know how to go about playing up her desire for me without being obvious about it.

[carlster!]

Well, I don't know if I can be the homewrecker type. I mean i hang out with her essentially every day. I'm always around her. I don't know how to go about playing up her desire for me without being obvious about it.
Simple: Stop hanging out with her so much. I know, it's kind of hs...but damn that shit works.

[4N6 science]

Simple: Stop hanging out with her so much. I know, it's kind of hs...but damn that shit works.

Alright. Kind of hard right now, when we have to do work together. But I can do that. We're going on break soon, so I won't see her for a month of so.

[carlster!]

Alright. Kind of hard right now, when we have to do work together. But I can do that. We're going on break soon, so I won't see her for a month of so.
And idk if you guys text/talk...but if you do, don't initiate. The break will make or break it for sure.

[Chancetobe]

The boyfriend is her problem, not yours. Just know though, that you'll the one to get punched if he finds out.

[4N6 science]

And idk if you guys text/talk...but if you do, don't initiate. The break will make or break it for sure.

Alright I will revert back the old high school ways.

[4N6 science]

The boyfriend is her problem, not yours. Just know though, that you'll the one to get punched if he finds out.


Yeah...whatever. It was worth it.

[carlster!]

Alright I will revert back the old high school ways.
Lame, I know. But effective.

[phil19]

thats hot! you guys should make out again

[Parabola1124]

You've just made out with her. Not like you've fucked her or anything.

[argg_xo]

thats hot! you guys should make out again
hahahahaha i love you phil.

[4N6 science]

Lame, I know. But effective.

Yeah...totally lame. I'm always good at liking girls with boyfriends.

thats hot! you guys should make out again

Yeah I know, I'm working on it. I'm going to say I had another dream we made out. Hopefully that works.

[phil19]

hahahahaha i love you phil.

love you too chelsea <3

Yeah...totally lame. I'm always good at liking girls with boyfriends.



Yeah I know, I'm working on it. I'm going to say I had another dream we made out. Hopefully that works.

nice work! i'll have my fingers crossed for ya. i didnt think stuff like that actually happened. go champ, go!

[4N6 science]

nice work! i'll have my fingers crossed for ya. i didnt think stuff like that actually happened. go champ, go!

Yeah it's a dream come true, literally.

[Samc1803]

so far just a one time thing. i dont know, there seems to be a tension there between us.

Things will only get as tense or awkward as you let them become. So, you made out, you had a good time. It doesn't necessarily change anything, you just solidified an already strong friendship. It's not like you did a bad thing. Don't act any different because of it, and she won't have any reason to. If she feels the need to revisit things, then she can do it in a straightforward manner.

[phil19]

Yeah it's a dream come true, literally.

o i c what you did there. :-)

[4N6 science]

Things will only get as tense or awkward as you let them become. So, you made out, you had a good time. It doesn't necessarily change anything, you just solidified an already strong friendship. It's not like you did a bad thing. Don't act any different because of it, and she won't have any reason to. If she feels the need to revisit things, then she can do it in a straightforward manner.

Now that's fine piece of advice. Thank you kind sir.

[Sventhegreat]

She sounds like a keeper...

[LeftCoastLegend]

Things will only get as tense or awkward as you let them become. So, you made out, you had a good time. It doesn't necessarily change anything, you just solidified an already strong friendship. It's not like you did a bad thing. Don't act any different because of it, and she won't have any reason to. If she feels the need to revisit things, then she can do it in a straightforward manner.



For my very first post on ap.net, I'm going to agree and say this is excellent advice. Maybe slightly easier said than done but acting normal will definitely put her mind at ease about the situation.


Hello ap.netters!

[Samc1803]

For my very first post on ap.net, I'm going to agree and say this is excellent advice. Maybe slightly easier said than done but acting normal will definitely put her mind at ease about the situation.


Hello ap.netters!

Woah, your first post, and you compliment my advice. Color me flattered, haha. And yeah, I'll admit it's a bit easier in theory than in practice.

Welcome to ap.net.

[kbi the crowing]

http://i169.photobucket.com/albums/u219/solarissh/FallPEI2007013.jpg
haha score

[TheLoyalVox]

Go for it.

[ted is lying]

haha score
Everyone hates a homewrecker.

[kbi the crowing]

Everyone hates a homewrecker.

I would find it funny to find a male carpenter who is sleeping with a married women
not only does he wreck homes, but he fixes them too

I don't know why I felt the need to type this

[ted is lying]

I would find it funny to find a male carpenter who is sleeping with a married women
not only does he wreck homes, but he fixes them too

I don't know why I felt the need to type this
Because it would be an oxymoron.

[bladerdude360]

If she wants to make out with someone who isn't her boyfriend, then she wants to get away from her boyfriend. The fact that she continued to pursue you when she was sober is definitely a sign. People don't just cheat on their boyfriends/girlfriends for no reason. She should be down for round two.

[LeftCoastLegend]

She knows you're single. She has a boyfriend and she was the one to initiate the romance. If you put the slightest amount of effort in getting this girl she will be yours. You have a huge advantage over her boyfriend in that you see her everyday. Sounds like the only thing thats stopping you is a little bit of moral fiber. Feeling bad about taking this girl from the guy means you are probably a pretty decent person, but go for it man! You don't know him!

[Akissforher]

Alright, I believe this is the first time I've made a legit thread in the PL about a problem I have. Here goes.

So I'm a graduate student and there are 22 people in my program. 4 are guys and 18 are girls. I have a friend who I've known since the very beginning and we do a lot together. We do class work together, drink, hangout you name it. I've always had a slight attraction for her and always have a good time with her when we hang out. But last weekend after a little bit of drinking and while I was at her apartment she told me she had a dream. I asked about what. She told me that she was making out with me. This came off as kind of a shock to me because she has a long term b/f back on the west coast (we go to school in VA). The next day we were talking and she told me that she wanted to make the dream a reality. Now I'm a single guy, I've had a crush on this girl and so I say what the hell. Anyways it happened and now I feel like every time we hang out she looks at me in a slightly different way. I feel like she does like me more than a friend but has her b/f back home so she can't act on it. I just want to get your guys' opinions on the situation and see how you would go about with this situation.

Thanks.

tl;dr

if the other guy ever catches you two just look him right in the eye and say 'sorry, bro'

[open mind]

i hate cheaters so my advice is to tell her she needs to drop her boyfriend if she wants anything but friendship from you.

[overdrive91]

Iin my dreams I do more than make out...

Score with her dude.

[4N6 science]

Iin my dreams I do more than make out...

Score with her dude.


well my dream was more than making out.

[4N6 science]

If she wants to make out with someone who isn't her boyfriend, then she wants to get away from her boyfriend. The fact that she continued to pursue you when she was sober is definitely a sign. People don't just cheat on their boyfriends/girlfriends for no reason. She should be down for round two.

The only other thing I can think of is she's using me because she can't get any from her boyfriend. :shrug:

She knows you're single. She has a boyfriend and she was the one to initiate the romance. If you put the slightest amount of effort in getting this girl she will be yours. You have a huge advantage over her boyfriend in that you see her everyday. Sounds like the only thing thats stopping you is a little bit of moral fiber. Feeling bad about taking this girl from the guy means you are probably a pretty decent person, but go for it man! You don't know him!

Well I've met the guy before, so it makes it a little more complicated. But your assessment is on mark. I think if anything is going to to happen it will be over winter break. When she goes home for a while and I leave school to go work at home.

[:-)]

I think you should confront her about the boyfriend back home and just be honest. If she really does like you then she should break up with him, no excuses - otherwise she's just using you, and sometime soon her boyfriend is going to find out and you are going to be kicked in the ass regardless. Don't let her mess with your head.

[4N6 science]

I think you should confront her about the boyfriend back home and just be honest. If she really does like you then she should break up with him, no excuses - otherwise she's just using you, and sometime soon her boyfriend is going to find out and you are going to be kicked in the ass regardless. Don't let her mess with your head.

Valid point. Thanks

[abcdefghijake]

I know she did. The funny thing was I had the same kind of dreams as well but I didn't say anything till she told me.

My roommate starting hooking up with the neighbor because she said she had a dream that he got drunk and came over and knocked on her window. The next day he got drunk and knocked on her window, they've been smashing ever since.

She also had a boyfriend at the time.

[trappedintime]

dude, i say go for it. you can make her forget about her boyfriend and eventually get with you.

[jonny4star]

I'd say not to act upon it, but wait for her to make the mistake if she chooses to. It's not your fault if she ruins her relationship back home.

[4N6 science]

I'd say not to act upon it, but wait for her to make the mistake if she chooses to. It's not your fault if she ruins her relationship back home.

Yeah that's essentially what I was looking to do. I mean it's no sweat of my back either way. So I figure I'd find out what her intent was.

[concernedparent]

Do whatever you want with her. Her boyfriend is her responsibility and problem, not yours! Though, the whole super small graduate program thing might make it awkward if something happened. But I'd say to take the risk.

[4N6 science]

So an update. We hung out saturday night and when we came home from the bar we ended up on futon and made out all night and slept with each other. Yesterday we did work and continued to make out but stopped there.

I still think she's really doesn't want to lose the guy back home but can have fun with me for the time being.

[hellogorgeous]

Babe... remember.. KARMA.

[4N6 science]

I didn't start this. I'm just going where the wind takes me.

[limepomegranate]

http://c2.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/61/l_b2653024572c4c7f8ddb8a72e7d66411. jpg
I fixed it so it was right.

[4N6 science]

:lol:

[ted is lying]

I fixed it so it was right.
thank you but why is there a bug and 1?

[limepomegranate]

thank you but why is there a bug and 1?
It's supposed to be a WRECKING BALL. Geez I know i'm not the best artist but couldn't you deduce that?

[ted is lying]

It's supposed to be a WRECKING BALL. Geez I know i'm not the best artist but couldn't you deduce that?
It is clearly the number one and a bug. Also shouldn't it be hitting the middle of the house where there is the crack? Not in a random place.

[Sloth7]

I'm not here to pass judgment, but knowingly messing around with a girl who has a boyfriend isn't cool. Obviously, she's far from an angel if she's doing that while in a relationship, and it's easy for everyone to say to pass the blame on her, and it's not your responsibility, etc..., but that's just a cop-out. As an adult, you gotta do what's right, and if you're doing something that'll knowingly hurt someone else, that's not right. Just think, if you were far from a girlfriend, and she cheated on you, you'd probably want to kill the guy. It takes two to tango.

Also, when things start out like that, if they ever progressed romantically between you both, would you ever be able to trust her knowing this? If she really likes you that much, she'd end it with the other guy.

Good luck man, but just be smart, these kind of things usually end up coming back around to bite you in the end.

[:-)]

I'm not here to pass judgment, but knowingly messing around with a girl who has a boyfriend isn't cool. Obviously, she's far from an angel if she's doing that while in a relationship, and it's easy for everyone to say to pass the blame on her, and it's not your responsibility, etc..., but that's just a cop-out. s As an adult, you gotta do what's right, and if you're doing something that'll knowingly hurt someone else, that's not right. Just think, if you were far from a girlfriend, and she cheated on you, you'd probably want to kill the guy. It takes two to tango.

Also, when things start out like that, if they ever progressed romantically between you both, would you ever be able to trust her knowing this? If she really likes you that much, she'd end it with the other guy.

Good luck man, but just be smart, these kind of things usually end up coming back around to bite you in the end.

This.

[4N6 science]

Right now we're just having a good time with each other. No sex though if that makes it any better.

[pennie]

Pretty shitty on the boyfriend back home.How would you feel if the roles where reversed and you where the boyfriend getting cheated on?If she really wants to be with you she'll break up with her boyfriend.Otherwise leave it be at just friends.

[4N6 science]

I've already experienced this with my past girlfriend. She cheated on me twice. I've talked with my friend and neither of us really feels to bad about it. I guess I'll see what happens when she goes home for winter break.

[TheReckoner]

http://www.cowboyindian.com/accewhip.jpg
Use it wisely young padawan.

[stereokiller]

I didn't start this. I'm just going where the wind takes me.

that.

tl; read the whole thread anyways.

don't take her seriously, i guess?

[Deadbolt23]

I can't agree with what you're doing here. I think it's a pretty shitty thing to do.

[refgirl23]

Thanks everyone for some legit opinions.

Out of curiosity (and procrastination from studying for finals) what are you in? The random strand of DNA with what appeared to be a TATA box and a potential start codon if translated into mRNA makes me afraid its something related (microbiology undergrad, doing a microbiology PhD next hopefully) and that I'm going to end up spending the next 5 years in a program with 4 guys and 18 girls...

[limepomegranate]

It is clearly the number one and a bug. Also shouldn't it be hitting the middle of the house where there is the crack? Not in a random place.
Sorry that I am lacking in the artistic department. I am after all a science major.

[ted is lying]

Sorry that I am lacking in the artistic department. I am after all a science major.
O well you tried hard.

[4N6 science]

Out of curiosity (and procrastination from studying for finals) what are you in? The random strand of DNA with what appeared to be a TATA box and a potential start codon if translated into mRNA makes me afraid its something related (microbiology undergrad, doing a microbiology PhD next hopefully) and that I'm going to end up spending the next 5 years in a program with 4 guys and 18 girls...

Nice guess. I didn't even try to produce a TATA box or write a start codon. I was just entering a random DNA sequence. I'm actually in graduate school for Forensic Science hence my name (four-n-six).

[4N6 science]

Thanks to all for your input. We're just doing whatever. We hung out and made out again all night. So be it. That seems to be what were going to do.

[Alaina <3]

http://www.cowboyindian.com/accewhip.jpg
Use it wisely young padawan.
Can I ask just what the hell this is?

[TheReckoner]

Can I ask just what the hell this is?
That is a braided whip.

[Alaina <3]

That is a braided whip.
:blink: It's used for sexual stuff, isn't it?

[Deadbolt23]

:blink: It's used for sexual stuff, isn't it?


Welcome to the world, my friend.

[TheReckoner]

:blink: It's used for sexual stuff, isn't it?
Haaaha yuppp.

[ilikesound93]

So do you want to date this girl or just bang her?

[4N6 science]

So do you want to date this girl or just bang her?

A little of column A and a little of column B.

[trappedintime]

sooooo bang her on the side?

[argg_xo]

A little of column A and a little of column B.
Don't lie, you wanna bang her silly.
EDIT: all the time

[4N6 science]

Don't lie, you wanna bang her silly.
EDIT: all the time

Ok...yes more of that column.

[Jake Denning]

entertaining thread!

[argg_xo]

Ok...yes more of that column.
you can't fool me.

[remedyeli]

My bestfriend told me that his girlfriend of 5 years told him that she had a dream where it was just her and me.

Now that was awkward

[limepomegranate]

O well you tried hard.
Yes that I did.

[caress me down]

Being in a long distance relationship threads like this cause me to let out a sigh haha

[4N6 science]

you can't fool me.

I know...sorry that I even attempted that.

[ted is lying]

Yes that I did.
Although a little more effort would of really been nice.

[4N6 science]

So things keep progressing...

[argg_xo]

Interesting.....

[SSLYBY]

So things keep progressing...

If she doesn't break up with her boyfriend on break she's a whore.

That is all.

[limepomegranate]

Although a little more effort would of really been nice.
I'm sorry! Can you ever forgive me??

[ted is lying]

I'm sorry! Can you ever forgive me??
Yes I am a forgiving person.

[ilikesound93]

Ok...yes more of that column.
If you just want her for vag, all the drama is not worth it.

[4N6 science]

If she doesn't break up with her boyfriend on break she's a whore.

That is all.

I'm pretty sure she might do it. We were talking about what she was going to do when she goes home.

If you just want her for vag, all the drama is not worth it.

I don't...that was a joke. There isn't any drama really here. We just have to sneak around so our friends don't find out about what we've been doing. Which makes things even more interesting since we don't want to get caught.

[kingspud]

you don't need our opinions. you just want our attention. you're made! i've not had owt in ages! fuck off and let me wallow in my own self pity!

[4N6 science]

you don't need our opinions. you just want our attention. you're made! i've not had owt in ages! fuck off and let me wallow in my own self pity!

haha...alright. Enjoy that.

[unionx]

Oh baby!



Yeah I'm too worried about it. I guess I should just keep going about my business as is?

I doubt he's going to come all the way to Virginia.

[4N6 science]

I doubt he's going to come all the way to Virginia.

Not anytime soon.

[kwsqd]

did you bang her yet?!

[nlcentralchamps]

I doubt he's going to come all the way to Virginia.

Definitely read this wrong.

[unionx]

Definitely read this wrong.

You Sir, are an hero.

[ohLOOKitsLEAH]

always had a slight attraction for her


Slight attraction to her.

[4N6 science]

Slight attraction to her.

Thank you.


Well I'm home and away from her. We'll see what transpires over the next few weeks.

[4N6 science]

Well...she told me that she's going to break up with him. Looks like she's coming back next semester free.

[whiterussian]

well... OK.

I came in here to call both of you douches, but she made it right. As in less wrong.

/moral police

[4N6 science]

yeah morals have been quite absent. I've been just doing what I feel is right.

[kwsqd]

Well...she told me that she's going to break up with him. Looks like she's coming back next semester free.
take advantage.

[4N6 science]

take advantage.

I already have been. I'm in this pretty deep.

[kwsqd]

I already have been. I'm in this pretty deep.
balls deep?

[4N6 science]

balls deep?

that is for no one to know

but yeah this whole thing has been crazy. I'm waiting to hear the story today.

[kwsqd]

that is for no one to know

but yeah this whole thing has been crazy. I'm waiting to hear the story today.
you can tell me, no one else can read this

Be sure to share it!

[4N6 science]

you can tell me, no one else can read this

Be sure to share it!

haha yeah spoilers are inpentrable


I will give a few bits of information.

[kwsqd]

I THOUGHT WE HAD A PAST

x

[4N6 science]

I THOUGHT WE HAD A PAST

x


oh we do, but I can't air out all my laundry here.

[kwsqd]

pillow talk then?