View Full Version : Is it too late to tell him I like him?
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 03:26 PM
I met a guy literally 11 weeks ago this evening. We met at karaoke nite at a bar my friends and I go to and he and his friend came up to talk to my friends (turns out I had had a class with his friend in college we just didn't know each other) and I and he let's just call him R, invited me to his birthday party right off the bat. I told him I'd think about it but that I would feel odd doing so since I had literally just met him. Later that night I left the same time he and his friend did and R asked if he could write something on my car, I was like 'sure just as long as it isn't anything dirty' and so he did and it turns out it was his phone number (which i intially had thought it was a fake number because he's too hot to be in my league). So i waited a few days and texted him to let him know that i wouldn't make it to his party because something had come up but that i hoped he had a good one and that i'd see him if he came up the next week.
He did and so we talked and he invited me to hang out with him and his friends. I did and had a great time at the beach with them, and playing baseball and just chilling and and getting pizza.
Long story short, I began falling for this kid but not knowing anything about where R was relationship-wise (ie. if he had just gotten out of a relationship) nothing really ever came up about going together or anything but it seems as though we always had an amazing time with each other that we made each other smile and legitimately liked being with each other.
I mean we went to the grocery store together, we've gone out to eat at this cute little restaurant that I imagined that if we grew old together that we could bring our grandkids to and tell them that this is where we would hang out, he came to a afterparty thing at my work and we went off from everyone else and went in areas that we probably shouldn't had (no we didn't mess around, I was really too nervous about getting fired since I have only been at this job about two months and am still on probation). Just in gneral we had fun doing simple things.
He and his friend had quit coming to the bar about a month or so afterwards because his friend and a girl in my group had messed around and she pretty much ditched him and has ignored him since. I am really on his friend's side because I don't approve of what she did, so all of mine and R's hanging out after that point has been outside of the bar.
We haven't done anything yet physically, but we did kiss each other on the cheek on Halloween when he walked me to my car when I was leaving a party he had invited me to with his friends (I initiated it and then he gave me one back). Otherwise, the only thing that has been brought up was cuddling, but the first time he had asked was when he was hanging out with a girl from my group and me and he was a bit trashed and had asked both of us to stay over, and the other time I wished I could have stayed but I had to be to work early and I knew I wouldn't want to leave. I had brought it up another evening but we couldn't at my house because I live at home still with my family in an apartment and I literally have no privacy and he had to move back in with his father because it just wasn't working out in the place he was living at with some people (he was pretty much paying their bills or at least most of them and they didn't appreciate it) and apparently his dad doesn't like him having people over (we are both 23 but he just turned 23 in September, I'll be 24 in January) but he said that he would have liked to. And to be honest, things he has said about other things not related to hooking up led me to believe that he wouldn't force anything and reading his profile he describes himself as old school but not like an old man. And it's adorable when we hug because he has to lean in to do it because he's like 6ft and I'm like 5'6. And he initiated the hugging as well.
And he's also mentioned making a dinner together, and me coming to his shows when he has them, so it's like he's thought of me in the future terms.
So I have been debating on whether or not to tell him that I like him, however, I think I'm too late. I was going to tell him this last Wednesday (Black Wednesday) when he had asked me what I was doing that evening. I ended up meeting him and his friend and a girl his friend is kinda seeing at a bar in R's hometown (he still lives in the same town but it was like I was in his territory). Everything was going ok until this skanky girl that was dancing with all the guys reeled him in (no joke she was doing like fishing moves and she reeled him in) and she danced on him and ended up taking his flannel off (he had a t-shirt on underneath). I couldn't watch and had wanted to break a bottle over this girl's head, but didn't speak up because of not knowing where I stand with him.And earlier before she got to him we all four looked at each other like we were embarrassed for this girl. Needless to say after that he shotguns a beer down and the three of them (R, his friend and the girl) had been out to other bars, this left him quite trashed and def. not the time to have a serious convo. But I had texted him on Thanksgiving (the next day) and everything seemed cool.
So I had texted him yesterday to let him know what days I had free this week in case he had wanted to hang out and that I hoped he had a nice weekend. Nothing back. I texted him later on in the evening letting him know that I was out and if he wanted to hang out to just text me. No response. So I hang out with my friend and she and I had a good time and talked about how I was going to tell him that I liked him.
So I go online this morning around 1 a.m and look at his profile and notice that it shows that he updated his info. His first interest is now the initials of a blonde haired girl that comments a lot on his profile and pictures (and another time in his interests he had mentioned that blonde hair was one of his interests--I have dark brown hair) and that where he was looking for a relationship and friendship, he is now only looking for friendship. However, it still shows that he is single. I know the two had to have some kind of past together because he was in a band and there is a pic of him from a photoshoot his band did and she mentioned how she missed going to his shows and rocking out and he commented after her that he missed rocking out and seeing her at the shows. Also, now that I've noticed it, he had made a paintshop picture of a band and had like copied and pasted a picture of himself into it but had drew in the drummer and the rest of the band and on the drum set are these girls initials.
I texted him this morning and told him that there was something that I needed to tell him and if we could meet up. He texts me right back and said that he was at work but that we could talk and that he'd call me around 9ish.
I'm afraid its now too late to do anything about it.
Stupidly, I had emailed his friend asking him if he knew anything about this girl but (and I had told him this before--meaning his friend--that if I ever asked him anything about R that I didn't want him to feel that he had to because I respect their frienship).
Truth is, I've never had a boyfriend. I'm not used to guys treating me properly. I just got two guy friends last fall and a guy this summer that I had hung out with strung me along and really hurt me. So I'm not used to any of this, especially a sweet, kind and really gorgeous guy like him.
I want to tell him in person but I don't know if he'll want to. I just want him to know but I'm afraid that I'll cry or be lame because I've never told anyone that I like them before.
Any pointers? Any suggestions? I'm at work now and writing this and he's supossed to call me in at least 3 hours and 35 minutes (it's 5:25 p.m. as I'm writing this).
Sorry if I got long winded, he just means a lot to me....
Thanks in advance for any help!
Brand-new-123
12/01/09, 03:34 PM
way too long so I definitely didn't read
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 03:42 PM
way too long so I definitely didn't read
Ok here's the condensed version. Met a guy 11 weeks ago. Really sweet nice, I enjoy hanging out with him and I feel like he also enjoys hanging out with me. No one's ever brought up being gf & bf but of us have made moves hints that would be conveyed as liking each other more than friends. I'm not used to guys treating me nicely & I've never had a bf before. Last night when I was hanging out with a friend I decided that I was finally going to tell him out I felt. I come home and check his facebook like I normally do and it shows that is main interest are the intials of those of a girl that he has obviously had some kind of past with and that he is no longer seeking a relationship but just friendship. I text him this morning to tell him that I have something to tell him and if we could meet up. He says he's at work but that we could talk and he's gonna call me around 9ish.
Am I too late to tell him this? I'm gonna tell him anyways but I was wondering if anyone had any pointers, tips, etc.
Brand-new-123
12/01/09, 03:48 PM
Ok here's the condensed version. Met a guy 11 weeks ago. Really sweet nice, I enjoy hanging out with him and I feel like he also enjoys hanging out with me. No one's ever brought up being gf & bf but of us have made moves hints that would be conveyed as liking each other more than friends. I'm not used to guys treating me nicely & I've never had a bf before. Last night when I was hanging out with a friend I decided that I was finally going to tell him out I felt. I come home and check his facebook like I normally do and it shows that is main interest are the intials of those of a girl that he has obviously had some kind of past with and that he is no longer seeking a relationship but just friendship. I text him this morning to tell him that I have something to tell him and if we could meet up. He says he's at work but that we could talk and he's gonna call me around 9ish.
Am I too late to tell him this? I'm gonna tell him anyways but I was wondering if anyone had any pointers, tips, etc.
It is definitely too late unless you want to break him up with that blond girl. Guys usually have no clue what girls mean ever so you should have just told him that you liked him a long time ago. He was probably wondering if you actually did but because you never made a move, he moved on. You have to pretty much say exactly what you mean most of the time. Good luck next time.
SincerelyMe
12/01/09, 03:49 PM
Ok here's the condensed version. Met a guy 11 weeks ago. Really sweet nice, I enjoy hanging out with him and I feel like he also enjoys hanging out with me. No one's ever brought up being gf & bf but of us have made moves hints that would be conveyed as liking each other more than friends. I'm not used to guys treating me nicely & I've never had a bf before. Last night when I was hanging out with a friend I decided that I was finally going to tell him out I felt. I come home and check his facebook like I normally do and it shows that is main interest are the intials of those of a girl that he has obviously had some kind of past with and that he is no longer seeking a relationship but just friendship. I text him this morning to tell him that I have something to tell him and if we could meet up. He says he's at work but that we could talk and he's gonna call me around 9ish.
Am I too late to tell him this? I'm gonna tell him anyways but I was wondering if anyone had any pointers, tips, etc.
I love how people ask what they should do when they already know what they're going to do.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 03:51 PM
I love how people ask what they should do when they already know what they're going to do.
Ok perhaps I shouldn't have put that but I was wondering if anyone had any tips or advice...I'm going in with no experience to a situation like this.
Charles777
12/01/09, 03:56 PM
Holy shit that was long
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 03:59 PM
It is definitely too late unless you want to break him up with that blond girl. Guys usually have no clue what girls mean ever so you should have just told him that you liked him a long time ago. He was probably wondering if you actually did but because you never made a move, he moved on. You have to pretty much say exactly what you mean most of the time. Good luck next time.
Ok I know but I want to know how pathetic I'm gonna look doing this now. Thing is, he started this whole thing by giving me his number and inviting me to his party. I've invited and asked him to hang out at things too. I've been really sweet and kind but awkward and he's been sweet and kind but there have been a few times where I've questioned things but ignored them and decided to just go with it.
P.S. Girls never have an idea what guys mean so I guess in that terms we're on the same page.
cuzimlefthanded
12/01/09, 04:02 PM
Holy shit that was long
that's what she said.
Charles777
12/01/09, 04:03 PM
that's what she said.
:appl:
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:04 PM
:appl:
As a lover of 'that's what s/he said jokes that actually made me smile...
Brand-new-123
12/01/09, 04:08 PM
Ok I know but I want to know how pathetic I'm gonna look doing this now. Thing is, he started this whole thing by giving me his number and inviting me to his party. I've invited and asked him to hang out at things too. I've been really sweet and kind but awkward and he's been sweet and kind but there have been a few times where I've questioned things but ignored them and decided to just go with it.
P.S. Girls never have an idea what guys mean so I guess in that terms we're on the same page.
he liked you then, but he figured you just wanted to be friends so he left it at that.
I would suggest not doing it, but if you're going to anyway then just tell him you really like him as more than a friend. Just don't expect any results.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:11 PM
he liked you then, but he figured you just wanted to be friends so he left it at that.
I would suggest not doing it, but if you're going to anyway then just tell him you really like him as more than a friend. Just don't expect any results.
He liked me the moment he met me and it's been all downhill from there is that what you are saying? Things have only been somewhat shady in the last less than a week.
bladerdude360
12/01/09, 04:13 PM
Wtl;dr
translation: WAY too long; didn't read
Brand-new-123
12/01/09, 04:13 PM
He liked me the moment he met me and it's been all downhill from there is that what you are saying? Things have only been somewhat shady in the last less than a week.
Well it probably started going down hill when you never told him you liked him but some other girl who he already has a history with did.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:14 PM
Wtl;dr
translation: WAY too long; didn't read
yeah i've come to realize this...thanks for letting me know tho.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:15 PM
Well it probably started going down hill when you never told him you liked him but some other girl who he already has a history with did.
But how can i control something that happened in the past? i had no idea that they had a past like i'm presuming they did until 1 a.m. this morning
bladerdude360
12/01/09, 04:18 PM
yeah i've come to realize this...thanks for letting me know tho.
I'll come back to give you real advice later when I'm not working on a group project.
Brand-new-123
12/01/09, 04:18 PM
But how can i control something that happened in the past? i had no idea that they had a past like i'm presuming they did until 1 a.m. this morning
Sounds like it's time to move on. There's plenty of young men out there.
SonEric84
12/01/09, 04:25 PM
I actually read the whole thing and I remember when you first mentioned this guy back in postsecret. Sounds like you guys were connecting really well, but it seems weird to me that he never really said anything about moving past friends and making it official. You probably should have said something sooner, but I dunno..if I liked someone enough I'd say something.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:38 PM
I actually read the whole thing and I remember when you first mentioned this guy back in postsecret. Sounds like you guys were connecting really well, but it seems weird to me that he never really said anything about moving past friends and making it official. You probably should have said something sooner, but I dunno..if I liked someone enough I'd say something.
I'm not on postsecret so you're prolly mistaking me with another girl. but yeah i agree that one of us should have said something i'm just hoping that i'm not too late or that he's gonna think i'm lame...
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:38 PM
Sounds like it's time to move on. There's plenty of young men out there.
and the only dudes that hit on me are drunken creepers.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:39 PM
I'll come back to give you real advice later when I'm not working on a group project.
thanks that's really nice...he's supossed to call me around 9ish and hopefully this will all be done and taken care of shortly after. but thank you for caring.
hellogorgeous
12/01/09, 04:40 PM
I am sorry to say, but I think you are in the friends zone. :(
SonEric84
12/01/09, 04:40 PM
I'm not on postsecret so you're prolly mistaking me with another girl. but yeah i agree that one of us should have said something i'm just hoping that i'm not too late or that he's gonna think i'm lame...
No, no, I meant in one of the AP postsecret threads.
Chancetobe
12/01/09, 04:44 PM
Kind of sounds like a case of bad timing. But on the bright side, if you do tell him, then you will be the first person he thinks of he when he breaks up with this chick.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:45 PM
I am sorry to say, but I think you are in the friends zone. :(
well i'll find out shortly. he's supossed to call me at 9 if he does.
btw you're avatar made me smile.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:46 PM
No, no, I meant in one of the AP postsecret threads.
yeah i'm pretty sure i've never posted on there either...but thank you for responding.
drudo182
12/01/09, 04:47 PM
I don't understand girls. If you like a dude, just tell him if it's obvious you two are getting along and are at least spending time alone together. It would make it so much easier on us if we had any clue what was going on.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:47 PM
Kind of sounds like a case of bad timing. But on the bright side, if you do tell him, then you will be the first person he thinks of he when he breaks up with this chick.
i'm not sure if they are going out, just only that they have some kind of past together. and i could only be so lucky if that is the case.
btw, chuck bass is hot even though he really is a total ass. i refer to 'gossip girl' as 'the chuck bass hour'
hellogorgeous
12/01/09, 04:48 PM
I am going to be honest. In my opinion, you made yourself too available. You should have waited for him to get in contact with you, instead of sending those two texts, because they sound rather desperate. I don't think you should tell him you like him. I think you should just ignore it and ignore him. It looks like to me that he was dating that blonde chick, they broke up, and he was just looking for someone to talk to in the meantime. I am not trying to be mean at ALL I just would rather you hear something that is not sugar-coated. I hope you feel better.
SonEric84
12/01/09, 04:50 PM
yeah i'm pretty sure i've never posted on there either...but thank you for responding.
Well, you posted it somewhere in PL because I know this situation and your username. haha
Chancetobe
12/01/09, 04:51 PM
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i'm not sure if they are going out, just only that they have some kind of past together. and i could only be so lucky if that is the case.
btw, chuck bass is hot even though he really is a total ass. i refer to 'gossip girl' as 'the chuck bass hour'
Have you seen any recent episodes? He's not even an ass anymore. Sweetest guy ever now. But, he's my favorite part of the show.
Also, i mean, i could be wrong. I'm horrible at reading guys. And have never had a 'boyfriend' either. So don't take my advice that seriously. I just always assume that when a girl is all over a guys wall, it means something.
Sic Transit Zeb
12/01/09, 04:55 PM
I met a guy literally 11 weeks ago this evening. We met at karaoke nite at a bar my friends and I go to and he and his friend came up to talk to my friends (turns out I had had a class with his friend in college we just didn't know each other) and I and he let's just call him R, invited me to his birthday party right off the bat. I told him I'd think about it but that I would feel odd doing so since I had literally just met him. Later that night I left the same time he and his friend did and R asked if he could write something on my car, I was like 'sure just as long as it isn't anything dirty' and so he did and it turns out it was his phone number (which i intially had thought it was a fake number because he's too hot to be in my league). So i waited a few days and texted him to let him know that i wouldn't make it to his party because something had come up but that i hoped he had a good one and that i'd see him if he came up the next week.
He did and so we talked and he invited me to hang out with him and his friends. I did and had a great time at the beach with them, and playing baseball and just chilling and and getting pizza.
Long story short, I began falling for this kid but not knowing anything about where R was relationship-wise (ie. if he had just gotten out of a relationship) nothing really ever came up about going together or anything but it seems as though we always had an amazing time with each other that we made each other smile and legitimately liked being with each other.
I mean we went to the grocery store together, we've gone out to eat at this cute little restaurant that I imagined that if we grew old together that we could bring our grandkids to and tell them that this is where we would hang out, he came to a afterparty thing at my work and we went off from everyone else and went in areas that we probably shouldn't had (no we didn't mess around, I was really too nervous about getting fired since I have only been at this job about two months and am still on probation). Just in gneral we had fun doing simple things.
He and his friend had quit coming to the bar about a month or so afterwards because his friend and a girl in my group had messed around and she pretty much ditched him and has ignored him since. I am really on his friend's side because I don't approve of what she did, so all of mine and R's hanging out after that point has been outside of the bar.
We haven't done anything yet physically, but we did kiss each other on the cheek on Halloween when he walked me to my car when I was leaving a party he had invited me to with his friends (I initiated it and then he gave me one back). Otherwise, the only thing that has been brought up was cuddling, but the first time he had asked was when he was hanging out with a girl from my group and me and he was a bit trashed and had asked both of us to stay over, and the other time I wished I could have stayed but I had to be to work early and I knew I wouldn't want to leave. I had brought it up another evening but we couldn't at my house because I live at home still with my family in an apartment and I literally have no privacy and he had to move back in with his father because it just wasn't working out in the place he was living at with some people (he was pretty much paying their bills or at least most of them and they didn't appreciate it) and apparently his dad doesn't like him having people over (we are both 23 but he just turned 23 in September, I'll be 24 in January) but he said that he would have liked to. And to be honest, things he has said about other things not related to hooking up led me to believe that he wouldn't force anything and reading his profile he describes himself as old school but not like an old man. And it's adorable when we hug because he has to lean in to do it because he's like 6ft and I'm like 5'6. And he initiated the hugging as well.
And he's also mentioned making a dinner together, and me coming to his shows when he has them, so it's like he's thought of me in the future terms.
So I have been debating on whether or not to tell him that I like him, however, I think I'm too late. I was going to tell him this last Wednesday (Black Wednesday) when he had asked me what I was doing that evening. I ended up meeting him and his friend and a girl his friend is kinda seeing at a bar in R's hometown (he still lives in the same town but it was like I was in his territory). Everything was going ok until this skanky girl that was dancing with all the guys reeled him in (no joke she was doing like fishing moves and she reeled him in) and she danced on him and ended up taking his flannel off (he had a t-shirt on underneath). I couldn't watch and had wanted to break a bottle over this girl's head, but didn't speak up because of not knowing where I stand with him.And earlier before she got to him we all four looked at each other like we were embarrassed for this girl. Needless to say after that he shotguns a beer down and the three of them (R, his friend and the girl) had been out to other bars, this left him quite trashed and def. not the time to have a serious convo. But I had texted him on Thanksgiving (the next day) and everything seemed cool.
So I had texted him yesterday to let him know what days I had free this week in case he had wanted to hang out and that I hoped he had a nice weekend. Nothing back. I texted him later on in the evening letting him know that I was out and if he wanted to hang out to just text me. No response. So I hang out with my friend and she and I had a good time and talked about how I was going to tell him that I liked him.
So I go online this morning around 1 a.m and look at his profile and notice that it shows that he updated his info. His first interest is now the initials of a blonde haired girl that comments a lot on his profile and pictures (and another time in his interests he had mentioned that blonde hair was one of his interests--I have dark brown hair) and that where he was looking for a relationship and friendship, he is now only looking for friendship. However, it still shows that he is single. I know the two had to have some kind of past together because he was in a band and there is a pic of him from a photoshoot his band did and she mentioned how she missed going to his shows and rocking out and he commented after her that he missed rocking out and seeing her at the shows. Also, now that I've noticed it, he had made a paintshop picture of a band and had like copied and pasted a picture of himself into it but had drew in the drummer and the rest of the band and on the drum set are these girls initials.
I texted him this morning and told him that there was something that I needed to tell him and if we could meet up. He texts me right back and said that he was at work but that we could talk and that he'd call me around 9ish.
I'm afraid its now too late to do anything about it.
Stupidly, I had emailed his friend asking him if he knew anything about this girl but (and I had told him this before--meaning his friend--that if I ever asked him anything about R that I didn't want him to feel that he had to because I respect their frienship).
Truth is, I've never had a boyfriend. I'm not used to guys treating me properly. I just got two guy friends last fall and a guy this summer that I had hung out with strung me along and really hurt me. So I'm not used to any of this, especially a sweet, kind and really gorgeous guy like him.
I want to tell him in person but I don't know if he'll want to. I just want him to know but I'm afraid that I'll cry or be lame because I've never told anyone that I like them before.
Any pointers? Any suggestions? I'm at work now and writing this and he's supossed to call me in at least 3 hours and 35 minutes (it's 5:25 p.m. as I'm writing this).
Sorry if I got long winded, he just means a lot to me....
Thanks in advance for any help!
No offense, but you're 23. Just tell him how you feel and go from there. Hopefully he likes you.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 04:58 PM
No offense, but you're 23. Just tell him how you feel and go from there. Hopefully he likes you.
yeah a 23 year old with no dating experience. i realize the patheticness of this but am attempting to change that.
Sic Transit Zeb
12/01/09, 05:00 PM
yeah a 23 year old with no dating experience. i realize the patheticness of this but am attempting to change that.
Rejection really isn't that bad. Idk why everyone gets so upset with it. Everyone hears no, it's life. The best thing you can do is just go for it and don't look back. You'll be surprised as to how well this will work.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:01 PM
Have you seen any recent episodes? He's not even an ass anymore. Sweetest guy ever now. But, he's my favorite part of the show.
Also, i mean, i could be wrong. I'm horrible at reading guys. And have never had a 'boyfriend' either. So don't take my advice that seriously. I just always assume that when a girl is all over a guys wall, it means something.
I missed the episode before last night's (which I haven't seen yet) but yeah I agree, he has become quite sweet.
No that's cool any advice is appreciated at this point even though I could be facing a moot point.
Oddly enough, he found the time to change his Fbook status to that he wishes he was three years old again.
Sic Transit Zeb
12/01/09, 05:01 PM
I am going to be honest. In my opinion, you made yourself too available. You should have waited for him to get in contact with you, instead of sending those two texts, because they sound rather desperate. I don't think you should tell him you like him. I think you should just ignore it and ignore him. It looks like to me that he was dating that blonde chick, they broke up, and he was just looking for someone to talk to in the meantime. I am not trying to be mean at ALL I just would rather you hear something that is not sugar-coated. I hope you feel better.
This is good too.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:02 PM
Well, you posted it somewhere in PL because I know this situation and your username. haha
I probably did, I've had a lot go on recently with family members being sick and whatnot and getting another job and I tried to look back into my old comments and whatnot and I couldn't figure it out lol
Chancetobe
12/01/09, 05:04 PM
I missed the episode before last night's (which I haven't seen yet) but yeah I agree, he has become quite sweet.
No that's cool any advice is appreciated at this point even though I could be facing a moot point.
Oddly enough, he found the time to change his Fbook status to that he wishes he was three years old again.
Yeah, but you can go on facebook at work, or when you are busy. Like now, should be studying for my final and working on my other paper, but i'm on AP.
SonEric84
12/01/09, 05:05 PM
I probably did, I've had a lot go on recently with family members being sick and whatnot and getting another job and I tried to look back into my old comments and whatnot and I couldn't figure it out lol
I think it might have been the "you'll find someone when you're not looking" one, cause I recall having a conversation about relationships with you. I'm sorry to hear about your family, hope everything works out for you.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:05 PM
Rejection really isn't that bad. Idk why everyone gets so upset with it. Everyone hears no, it's life. The best thing you can do is just go for it and don't look back. You'll be surprised as to how well this will work.
That's the thought I'm attempting to go into this when I talk to him tonight (again, that's if he calls me like he said he would and I'm hoping to do this in person) that really I have nothing to lose well except him and perhaps if he was never 'mine' to begin with then then whatever. I mean I'm not gonna lie I'm prolly gonna cry about this if it turns out that he thinks I'm a lame and whatever.
And I'll cry if he miraculously decides that he likes me as well.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:08 PM
I think it might have been the "you'll find someone when you're not looking" one, cause I recall having a conversation about relationships with you. I'm sorry to hear about your family, hope everything works out for you.
Thank you...my grandma passed away from cancer in September and we just found out that my mom had cancer almost two weeks ago.
And I met him literally a week after we buried my grandma, so I think that for some reason she brought him to me as odd as that sounds. I'm one of those people that believes people are brought into your life for a reason...I guess I'm gonna *hopefully* figure his out soon.
Sic Transit Zeb
12/01/09, 05:10 PM
That's the thought I'm attempting to go into this when I talk to him tonight (again, that's if he calls me like he said he would and I'm hoping to do this in person) that really I have nothing to lose well except him and perhaps if he was never 'mine' to begin with then then whatever. I mean I'm not gonna lie I'm prolly gonna cry about this if it turns out that he thinks I'm a lame and whatever.
And I'll cry if he miraculously decides that he likes me as well.
Hmm, I got ya. Well good luck!
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:11 PM
Yeah, but you can go on facebook at work, or when you are busy. Like now, should be studying for my final and working on my other paper, but i'm on AP.
I know but I just find it idk that he would take the time to do that. Part of me feels sorry part of me doesn't.
Psssh.. I'm at work and I'm rocking Yahoo Mail, AP and Facebook.
Sic Transit Zeb
12/01/09, 05:11 PM
I am going to be honest. In my opinion, you made yourself too available. You should have waited for him to get in contact with you, instead of sending those two texts, because they sound rather desperate. I don't think you should tell him you like him. I think you should just ignore it and ignore him. It looks like to me that he was dating that blonde chick, they broke up, and he was just looking for someone to talk to in the meantime. I am not trying to be mean at ALL I just would rather you hear something that is not sugar-coated. I hope you feel better.
is it too late for me to tell you I love you?
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:11 PM
Hmm, I got ya. Well good luck!
Thanks.
SonEric84
12/01/09, 05:12 PM
Thank you...my grandma passed away from cancer in September and we just found out that my mom had cancer almost two weeks ago.
And I met him literally a week after we buried my grandma, so I think that for some reason she brought him to me as odd as that sounds. I'm one of those people that believes people are brought into your life for a reason...I guess I'm gonna *hopefully* figure his out soon.
Oh wow, I'm really sorry. I know what it's like so I can sympathize. Hmm I tend to believe in that kind of stuff too, just try not to put all your hope in it. I know that's much easier said than done, but if it doesn't work out you'll find someone that it will work with.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:13 PM
I am going to be honest. In my opinion, you made yourself too available. You should have waited for him to get in contact with you, instead of sending those two texts, because they sound rather desperate. I don't think you should tell him you like him. I think you should just ignore it and ignore him. It looks like to me that he was dating that blonde chick, they broke up, and he was just looking for someone to talk to in the meantime. I am not trying to be mean at ALL I just would rather you hear something that is not sugar-coated. I hope you feel better.
No believe me I've thought that perhaps I was some sort of a rebound. Believe me the thought has crossed my mind especially since I think he's too hot to even want to hang out with me. But I told those thoughts to shut up and to just go with it.
Well it's too late for me to back out now anyways, I've been a part of this perhaps 'mess' and I hope to find out what state I'm leaving it in about two hours.
I appreciate your honesty.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:17 PM
Oh wow, I'm really sorry. I know what it's like so I can sympathize. Hmm I tend to believe in that kind of stuff too, just try not to put all your hope in it. I know that's much easier said than done, but if it doesn't work out you'll find someone that it will work with.
I sure hope so.
xxxfreakxxx
12/01/09, 05:31 PM
way too long so I definitely didn't read
ahhaa same here,to fucking lazy.
inreverie
12/01/09, 05:46 PM
Just do it! If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. There are lotsa boys out there.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:52 PM
Just do it! If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. There are lotsa boys out there.
i know but i really really like him.
Yellowcard2006
12/01/09, 05:53 PM
I am sorry to say, but I think you are in the friends zone. :(
There is only a male friend zone.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/01/09, 05:56 PM
hey thank you all for your feedback and whatnot it means a lot.
i probably won't be online again until after this ordeal is over.
i'm leaving work in a few minutes and going home and taking care of stuff around the house and then sleeping until he calls me.
thanks again....
Jasper112
12/01/09, 06:08 PM
Ok here's the condensed version. Met a guy 11 weeks ago. Really sweet nice, I enjoy hanging out with him and I feel like he also enjoys hanging out with me. No one's ever brought up being gf & bf but of us have made moves hints that would be conveyed as liking each other more than friends. I'm not used to guys treating me nicely & I've never had a bf before. Last night when I was hanging out with a friend I decided that I was finally going to tell him out I felt. I come home and check his facebook like I normally do and it shows that is main interest are the intials of those of a girl that he has obviously had some kind of past with and that he is no longer seeking a relationship but just friendship. I text him this morning to tell him that I have something to tell him and if we could meet up. He says he's at work but that we could talk and he's gonna call me around 9ish.
Am I too late to tell him this? I'm gonna tell him anyways but I was wondering if anyone had any pointers, tips, etc.
Still wayyyyy too fucking long to care...I honestly did wanna help u...but make it bulletpoint form or something? All of your texts look so intimidating. When u DO tell the guy, make sure u don't give him ur lifestory... just a little tip.
Jasper112
12/01/09, 06:10 PM
hey thank you all for your feedback and whatnot it means a lot.
i probably won't be online again until after this ordeal is over.
i'm leaving work in a few minutes and going home and taking care of stuff around the house and then sleeping until he calls me.
thanks again....
ps. if u can write stories like that at work, u should be getting payed less :P.
Ok, thats enough of me being an ass. Had to take my frustrations with my essay out on someone else. Thanks!
inreverie
12/01/09, 06:20 PM
well good luck!
inreverie
12/01/09, 06:21 PM
There is only a male friend zone.
Ehhh... We males like to think that, but there is certainly a male friend zone. If you think back honestly, you can see yourself putting people in the friend zone.
Ehhh... We males like to think that, but there is certainly a male friend zone. If you think back honestly, you can see yourself putting people in the friend zone.
Yeah, if your'e in a relationship or if she's REALLY ugly.
I konw that sounds super shallow, but honestly, that's how most guys judge friendzone-passport-acceptances
All I read was 11 weeks, so it is far too late.
Alex_supertramp
12/01/09, 08:28 PM
tl;dr
kbi the crowing
12/01/09, 08:49 PM
I met a guy literally 11 weeks ago this evening.
I read this and knew there was no one I was going to read anymore into it.
counting =/= good
...its after nine, folks.
jay_klinkhammer
12/01/09, 08:55 PM
tfl;dfr
emericagal182
12/01/09, 09:00 PM
i'm really curious to know what happened
Yellowcard2006
12/01/09, 09:06 PM
Ehhh... We males like to think that, but there is certainly a male friend zone. If you think back honestly, you can see yourself putting people in the friend zone.
Yeah but I think we do it for different reasons.
Sasha Fierce
12/01/09, 09:20 PM
Hey, I guess I'm a little late since it's past nine but I really hope things worked out well for you! Here are some things for you to remember though:
1. If you were just a rebound then move on because you deserve better
2. If he did like you but doesn't now then move on because you deserve better
3. It seems like you initiate a lot of conversation. If he just waits for you to initiate things then move on because you deserve better.
4. There are no such things as "leagues" of attractiveness. No one is out of your "league." Attraction is a very personal thing and anyone can be attracted to anyone.
presdaddy
12/01/09, 09:31 PM
Hey, I guess I'm a little late since it's past nine but I really hope things worked out well for you! Here are some things for you to remember though:
1. If you were just a rebound then move on because you deserve better
2. If he did like you but doesn't now then move on because you deserve better
3. It seems like you initiate a lot of conversation. If he just waits for you to initiate things then move on because you deserve better.
4. There are no such things as "leagues" of attractiveness. No one is out of your "league." Attraction is a very personal thing and anyone can be attracted to anyone.
If I wanted to hear from a pussy, I would have queefed.
warstory
12/01/09, 09:57 PM
I hope this doesn't sound harsh but
if he wanted a relationship with you he would have said something. obviously the guy isn't shy. at the very least he would have made some sort of move on you.
if he wanted to sleep with you that night when he "couldn't have friends over hehe" he would have found a way
buuut it's not like I know the situation perfectly.
anywho good luck and let us know what happens
I realize it's too late, but just thought I'd throw in my two cents, anyway. Tell him. It's only getting later and later...
Jake Denning
12/01/09, 10:58 PM
speak words and hope things happen.
spansen
12/01/09, 11:21 PM
it's never too late to stir the pot.
Domenic182
12/01/09, 11:54 PM
The suspense is killin
If I wanted to hear from a pussy, I would have queefed.
Wow. Real mature fella.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 01:47 AM
ps. if u can write stories like that at work, u should be getting payed less :P.
Ok, thats enough of me being an ass. Had to take my frustrations with my essay out on someone else. Thanks!
If you think that's bad I know people at my job who do fullblown Myspace surveys and at my other job, people take the time to play Rollercoaster something or another and Farmville. Believe me I wish I worked at jobs where I had something more productive to do.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 01:49 AM
Hey, I guess I'm a little late since it's past nine but I really hope things worked out well for you! Here are some things for you to remember though:
1. If you were just a rebound then move on because you deserve better
2. If he did like you but doesn't now then move on because you deserve better
3. It seems like you initiate a lot of conversation. If he just waits for you to initiate things then move on because you deserve better.
4. There are no such things as "leagues" of attractiveness. No one is out of your "league." Attraction is a very personal thing and anyone can be attracted to anyone.
No you're not too late any advice is welcome =) but you make good points.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 02:01 AM
He called and this is what it basically boiled down to:
I told him that I liked him and that I perhaps I was too late with telling him that but that I was letting him know. That the times that I've had with him have been awesome and that if I've made things awkward and he didn't want to hang out with me I'd understand.
He asked why I thought I was too late & why I thought things would be awkward, I said that I'm not used to dealing with things like this, I've never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys being nice to me and that I don't know how things will be because I've never told anyone I've liked them before & that I know we never had a convo about being friends or being bf/gf...
He basically said he has a lot on his plate now and isn't happy with how things are going for him personally and that he couldn't be with someone and try and make them happy if he wasn't happy himself and that he has a lot of big decisions to make soon and that there are two people in partiucular (a guy and a girl) that are causing him drama and stress and that he wished that they would stop.
I told him if there is another girl he likes then that's fine and he so he said if he could be honest that one of the two people that is causing him drama is an ex-gf (the blonde haired girl, he didn't say her name but on his profile there are two people that bicker back and forth and one is the guy with the name he told me while we were talking & the other is the girl).
So he said that we could still hang out that things were cool and not to worry about it because nothing I did was my fault and I did nothing wrong and to text him later on and that he was flattered that someone would like him.
So I did text him and we talked and it sounds like we'll hang out again but he didn't answer the last few texts that I sent him so who knows, I'll just have to go from there.
cuzimlefthanded
12/02/09, 02:19 AM
If you think that's bad I know people at my job who do fullblown Myspace surveys and at my other job, people take the time to play Rollercoaster something or another and Farmville. Believe me I wish I worked at jobs where I had something more productive to do.
What is your job and are they hiring haha. It sounds freaking awesome if you have that much downtime.
cuzimlefthanded
12/02/09, 02:21 AM
He called and this is what it basically boiled down to:
I told him that I liked him and that I perhaps I was too late with telling him that but that I was letting him know. That the times that I've had with him have been awesome and that if I've made things awkward and he didn't want to hang out with me I'd understand.
He asked why I thought I was too late & why I thought things would be awkward, I said that I'm not used to dealing with things like this, I've never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys being nice to me and that I don't know how things will be because I've never told anyone I've liked them before & that I know we never had a convo about being friends or being bf/gf...
He basically said he has a lot on his plate now and isn't happy with how things are going for him personally and that he couldn't be with someone and try and make them happy if he wasn't happy himself and that he has a lot of big decisions to make soon and that there are two people in partiucular (a guy and a girl) that are causing him drama and stress and that he wished that they would stop.
I told him if there is another girl he likes then that's fine and he so he said if he could be honest that one of the two people that is causing him drama is an ex-gf (the blonde haired girl, he didn't say her name but on his profile there are two people that bicker back and forth and one is the guy with the name he told me while we were talking & the other is the girl).
So he said that we could still hang out that things were cool and not to worry about it because nothing I did was my fault and I did nothing wrong and to text him later on and that he was flattered that someone would like him.
So I did text him and we talked and it sounds like we'll hang out again but he didn't answer the last few texts that I sent him so who knows, I'll just have to go from there.
It seems like you've been put in the "friend" zone. But at least he wasn't a dick about any of it.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 02:22 AM
What is your job and are they hiring haha. It sounds freaking awesome if you have that much downtime.
Funny thing we're actually hiring at the one job lol. I work with books at the one and sell tickets at a theatre (plays not movies) at the other.
I mean there are times when I'm freaking busy and then there are just lulls where it's like seriously...someone just check out a book now!!! or buy tickets!!!! lol
softhands
12/02/09, 02:25 AM
let him make the effort to hang with you, when some people find themselves in the driver seat of the friendship they tend to care less about it. prove to him that he should want you.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 02:28 AM
It seems like you've been put in the "friend" zone. But at least he wasn't a dick about any of it.
Well I'm 3 for pretty much 3 in the friend zone this year. Not one average I'm proud of...
I'm happy about the fact that he didn't seem like a dick about it, just hoping that he lives up to the promise that we'll still hang out because another guy that I hung out with this summer said he was sorry for leading me on yada yada and that he only saw me as a friend and that we could still be friends, blah blah & I haven't heard from him since. That guy was also 21 vs. the 23 I'm currently dealing with...
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 02:29 AM
let him make the effort to hang with you, when some people find themselves in the driver seat of the friendship they tend to care less about it. prove to him that he should want you.
so then wait about a week to text him? i mean he pretty much made it clear that he's not looking for a relationship now so i know that's not gonna happen but i'd legitmately still like this dude in my life.
softhands
12/02/09, 02:39 AM
so then wait about a week to text him? i mean he pretty much made it clear that he's not looking for a relationship now so i know that's not gonna happen but i'd legitmately still like this dude in my life.
well i wouldn't take it that far, but either give it a day to sink in, and if he wants to chill he'll come a calling. if not text him make your own plans, ask him along and what not, they might not be down but don't let this get to you, I'm sure he's thinking about you just as much as you are, now with the info you shared with him.
I could be completely wrong these things pan out differently from person to person, it's just depending who is more open to talk about things. which is hard to find these days.
deathinkosovo
12/02/09, 05:16 AM
Lose the zero, get with a hero.
I'll be waiting.
...
>_>
Oh my freaking god is that long
Takeaways from this, they may be harsh but that's reality:
You're fucking 24 years old and have never had a boyfriend. It's time to sack up and either tell this kid what's up, or move on. Also, you're far too old to be writing 2 page essays and posting them on online forums looking for advice. It sounds like you were kind of just this guy's lapdog, "Oh hey I want to go to the grocery store but it'd be more entertaining if I had this girl who I met like 3 weeks ago come with me."
That's all.
zion the lion
12/02/09, 06:47 AM
Do you talk as much as you type? Because that was a lot. And I talk a lot, way too much, but I dont type as much as I talk, so its all good.
also, friendzone isnt that bad. I'm pretending to do the whole "staying single" thing so trust me, I know how much it sucks being single. When everything calms down, you'll probably be unfriendzoned now that he knows that you like him.
cuzimlefthanded
12/02/09, 06:56 AM
Well I'm 3 for pretty much 3 in the friend zone this year. Not one average I'm proud of...
I'm happy about the fact that he didn't seem like a dick about it, just hoping that he lives up to the promise that we'll still hang out because another guy that I hung out with this summer said he was sorry for leading me on yada yada and that he only saw me as a friend and that we could still be friends, blah blah & I haven't heard from him since. That guy was also 21 vs. the 23 I'm currently dealing with...
In my experience, the second bolded statement occurs a lot more than the first bolded one. But here's hoping that it's the first one for you two
cuzimlefthanded
12/02/09, 06:57 AM
Do you talk as much as you type? Because that was a lot. And I talk a lot, way too much, but I dont type as much as I talk, so its all good.
also, friendzone isnt that bad. I'm pretending to do the whole "staying single" thing so trust me, I know how much it sucks being single. When everything calms down, you'll probably be unfriendzoned now that he knows that you like him.
I've done that before. It's pretty shitty, especially when you see friends of yours in happy, long-lasting relationships.
zion the lion
12/02/09, 07:17 AM
I've done that before. It's pretty shitty, especially when you see friends of yours in happy, long-lasting relationships.
I've put my friends in to two categories, the "single" and "taken" lists, and I've been hanging out with the singles a lot more than I've been hanging out with the takens.
Every time hang out with the takens and they're talking about their girlfriends or boyfriends, I can see subtitles of the translations of what I'm saying to them like:
What I say: "Aww that's so sweet, you two are so cute together, I'm so happy for you"
What I'm thinking: "fuck you bitch, i dont give half a shit about the stupid flowers he got you for no fucking reason...his dick was probably down some girl's throat and he bought you them because he felt bad about not jamming his dick down your throat instead! if you payed attention anything other than the other guy you're ogling you'd realize that your boyfriend's gaze is seriously considering just permanently moving to my boobs. Fuck you and this relationship, he's abusive by the way, fuck fuck fuck, how did I end up single. He's ugly as hell, smite me now god, smite me down to the mother fucking ground and put me in singlesville in heaven"
I don't think it's too late
Sasha Fierce
12/02/09, 07:36 AM
Wow. Real mature fella.
thank you :)
TheReckoner
12/02/09, 08:20 AM
http://scrapetv.com/News/Images/kfc%20bucket%20of%20chicken.gif
Eat some chicken.
thank you :)
No prob. What you said was true, and helpful.
isawstars
12/02/09, 09:23 AM
He called and this is what it basically boiled down to:
I told him that I liked him and that I perhaps I was too late with telling him that but that I was letting him know. That the times that I've had with him have been awesome and that if I've made things awkward and he didn't want to hang out with me I'd understand.
He asked why I thought I was too late & why I thought things would be awkward, I said that I'm not used to dealing with things like this, I've never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys being nice to me and that I don't know how things will be because I've never told anyone I've liked them before & that I know we never had a convo about being friends or being bf/gf...
He basically said he has a lot on his plate now and isn't happy with how things are going for him personally and that he couldn't be with someone and try and make them happy if he wasn't happy himself and that he has a lot of big decisions to make soon and that there are two people in partiucular (a guy and a girl) that are causing him drama and stress and that he wished that they would stop.
I told him if there is another girl he likes then that's fine and he so he said if he could be honest that one of the two people that is causing him drama is an ex-gf (the blonde haired girl, he didn't say her name but on his profile there are two people that bicker back and forth and one is the guy with the name he told me while we were talking & the other is the girl).
So he said that we could still hang out that things were cool and not to worry about it because nothing I did was my fault and I did nothing wrong and to text him later on and that he was flattered that someone would like him.
So I did text him and we talked and it sounds like we'll hang out again but he didn't answer the last few texts that I sent him so who knows, I'll just have to go from there.
Okay so I'm glad you told him. Life is too short to hold things in and wonder "what if." But you kinda made yourself look bad by telling him you've never had a boyfriend and that you're not used to guys being nice to you. I'm sure you don't tolerate people treating you like crap but that's what it sounds like... Be more confident.
Also, stop texting him!! He already said that he's overwhelmed with drama and he hasn't responded to your texts... don't worry him to death.
I personally would move on. I think you deserve better. You seem really sweet. You'll snag yourself a guy. Good luck!
hellogorgeous
12/02/09, 09:35 AM
Okay so I'm glad you told him. Life is too short to hold things in and wonder "what if." But you kinda made yourself look bad by telling him you've never had a boyfriend and that you're not used to guys being nice to you. I'm sure you don't tolerate people treating you like crap but that's what it sounds like... Be more confident.
Also, stop texting him!! He already said that he's overwhelmed with drama and he hasn't responded to your texts... don't worry him to death.
I personally would move on. I think you deserve better. You seem really sweet. You'll snag yourself a guy. Good luck!
I agree.. no more texting!
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 09:54 AM
well i wouldn't take it that far, but either give it a day to sink in, and if he wants to chill he'll come a calling. if not text him make your own plans, ask him along and what not, they might not be down but don't let this get to you, I'm sure he's thinking about you just as much as you are, now with the info you shared with him.
I could be completely wrong these things pan out differently from person to person, it's just depending who is more open to talk about things. which is hard to find these days.
See the thing is that he doesn't care for the friends of mine that he's met because and well to be quite honest I don't blame him because they've been drunk and obnoxious when he's met them. And when he & his friend would still come up to the bar that we met at, he'd always find a way to get me away from them, like he and I and his friend and this other girl would play pool. Or even when I invited him to this afterpart deal at my one job that two of my friends work at (that he's met) he and I ended up exploring off acess areas at the job.
I mean my other friends are chill, but Idk it would just seem odd to try and introduce him to a set of people who mean a lot to me and not be sure how it's gonna pan out.
And I hope that he's at least not thinking anything bad about me, that would hurt, It's still fresh though, so maybe after things cool down or whatever then things will be ok.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:00 AM
Okay so I'm glad you told him. Life is too short to hold things in and wonder "what if." But you kinda made yourself look bad by telling him you've never had a boyfriend and that you're not used to guys being nice to you. I'm sure you don't tolerate people treating you like crap but that's what it sounds like... Be more confident.
I just thought it would give him some perspective as to why I held back and why I thought it might be awkward for me to tell him this.
And yeah I know I might have made myself look bad by tell him that, but I figured at that point not knowing how the convo was going to go, that I was just going to be honest. Well I mean I didn't tell him that I had suspected it was the blonde hair girl or that she was an issue, but oh well.
Also, stop texting him!! He already said that he's overwhelmed with drama and he hasn't responded to your texts... don't worry him to death.
I'll try and hold off a bit and give him some space. I do legitimately care about him and want to help. What can I say, I'm a really nice person lol
I personally would move on. I think you deserve better. You seem really sweet. You'll snag yourself a guy. Good luck!
Thank you =) It to me just seems that I won't find anyone but my friends reassured me last night (both male and female) that there are plenty of other people in the world. I just thought he was the 'one'.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:02 AM
http://scrapetv.com/News/Images/kfc%20bucket%20of%20chicken.gif
Eat some chicken.
I'm not a fan of KFC--I've only had it once and that was this summer and I'm like yeah I could have lived without that. Not so great. Though they have great potato wedges. I'd be down for some of those haha
I'm a fan of the boneless wings at BW3's myself =)
TheReckoner
12/02/09, 10:03 AM
I'm not a fan of KFC--I've only had it once and that was this summer and I'm like yeah I could have lived without that. Not so great. Though they have great potato wedges. I'd be down for some of those haha
I'm a fan of the boneless wings at BW3's myself =)
Ah shit. its too hard to find a picture of that or I would post those instead :)
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:09 AM
Lose the zero, get with a hero.
I'll be waiting.
...
>_>
Sarcasm, eh?
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:11 AM
Takeaways from this, they may be harsh but that's reality:
You're fucking 24 years old and have never had a boyfriend. It's time to sack up and either tell this kid what's up, or move on. Also, you're far too old to be writing 2 page essays and posting them on online forums looking for advice. It sounds like you were kind of just this guy's lapdog, "Oh hey I want to go to the grocery store but it'd be more entertaining if I had this girl who I met like 3 weeks ago come with me."
That's all.
Well whatever, but I did and I told him and as long as he's being truthful we'll still hang out.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:12 AM
Ah shit. its too hard to find a picture of that or I would post those instead :)
But chicken accepted =) A few weeks ago for one of my friend's birthdays at the bar one of our other friend's made chicken so we had chicken and beer. It was great.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:18 AM
I've put my friends in to two categories, the "single" and "taken" lists, and I've been hanging out with the singles a lot more than I've been hanging out with the takens.
Every time hang out with the takens and they're talking about their girlfriends or boyfriends, I can see subtitles of the translations of what I'm saying to them like:
What I say: "Aww that's so sweet, you two are so cute together, I'm so happy for you"
What I'm thinking: "fuck you bitch, i dont give half a shit about the stupid flowers he got you for no fucking reason...his dick was probably down some girl's throat and he bought you them because he felt bad about not jamming his dick down your throat instead! if you payed attention anything other than the other guy you're ogling you'd realize that your boyfriend's gaze is seriously considering just permanently moving to my boobs. Fuck you and this relationship, he's abusive by the way, fuck fuck fuck, how did I end up single. He's ugly as hell, smite me now god, smite me down to the mother fucking ground and put me in singlesville in heaven"
Yeah i know what you're saying. One of my best guy friends who claims he has no interest in being with me sexytime wise used to IM me and bitch like a whiny little girl that he hasn't been laid in so long and that it's been so long since a girl gave him, um pleasure, and it's like and you're telling me the girl that is sitting up with your whiny self who you claim you have no interest in like that all this??
But my dumb ass sat up with him and put up with it. But he's redeemed himself a few times with guy advice but he's still got a long ways to go.
Wtl;dr
The acronym of the future.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:31 AM
I agree.. no more texting!
I'll try. It's not like I text him like every moment I do let days go by before I'll text him. I'll just have to see if he texts me back or not and if he doesn't in like a week, I'll just send a 'hey, how's it going' text.
It's just a guy I hung out with this summer who pretty much led me on told me that we'd still be cool and whatnot and hang out and that we'd still be friends and I haven't heard from him since. His loss.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:34 AM
Do you talk as much as you type? Because that was a lot. And I talk a lot, way too much, but I dont type as much as I talk, so its all good.
also, friendzone isnt that bad. I'm pretending to do the whole "staying single" thing so trust me, I know how much it sucks being single. When everything calms down, you'll probably be unfriendzoned now that he knows that you like him.
That would be nice =) because there were just certain things he did or said that led me to believe that we would date.
Btw, you're 'get it right get it tight' is from 'Ms. New Booty' right?
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 10:36 AM
In my experience, the second bolded statement occurs a lot more than the first bolded one. But here's hoping that it's the first one for you two
thanks =) I'm sure hoping that too.
bladerdude360
12/02/09, 11:20 AM
And once again, Zion delivers the crazy.
Deadbolt23
12/02/09, 12:08 PM
If you tell him you like him now, then he'll think you're a horrible bitch.
You act uninterested for 11 weeks, then as soon as he gets with someone else, you express your interest.
If I was him, that's definitely what I'd think.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 12:13 PM
If you tell him you like him now, then he'll think you're a horrible bitch.
You act uninterested for 11 weeks, then as soon as he gets with someone else, you express your interest.
If I was him, that's definitely what I'd think.
1. I already told him. He doesn't think that I"m a 'horrible bitch'
2. He's not seeing the other girl, he mentioned there are two people in his life causing him a lot of drama and one is an ex-girlfriend (being the other girl) and the other is a friend who he might be moving in with but he wishes the two of them would stop playing mind games with him.
And he also said that he is not at a point in his life where he is is not really happy with himself and therefore could n't make anyone else happy relationship-wise.
3. I had made moves and invited him to things that he did show up at and we did hang out. In fact, he initiated the whole thing by giving me his number the first time I met him.
4. And when I told him that I liked him and that perhaps I was too late in telling him, he asked why I thought that and I said that I just thought that I might be. And then I later said that if there was another girl that he liked and he then told me about the ex-gf.
Deadbolt23
12/02/09, 12:50 PM
1. I already told him. He doesn't think that I"m a 'horrible bitch'
2. He's not seeing the other girl, he mentioned there are two people in his life causing him a lot of drama and one is an ex-girlfriend (being the other girl) and the other is a friend who he might be moving in with but he wishes the two of them would stop playing mind games with him.
And he also said that he is not at a point in his life where he is is not really happy with himself and therefore could n't make anyone else happy relationship-wise.
3. I had made moves and invited him to things that he did show up at and we did hang out. In fact, he initiated the whole thing by giving me his number the first time I met him.
4. And when I told him that I liked him and that perhaps I was too late in telling him, he asked why I thought that and I said that I just thought that I might be. And then I later said that if there was another girl that he liked and he then told me about the ex-gf.
Well then, it sounds like he really likes you. Good for you.
deFobbed14yrs
12/02/09, 03:16 PM
yeah stop wit the excessive texting
cuzimlefthanded
12/02/09, 03:57 PM
I've put my friends in to two categories, the "single" and "taken" lists, and I've been hanging out with the singles a lot more than I've been hanging out with the takens.
Every time hang out with the takens and they're talking about their girlfriends or boyfriends, I can see subtitles of the translations of what I'm saying to them like:
What I say: "Aww that's so sweet, you two are so cute together, I'm so happy for you"
What I'm thinking: "fuck you bitch, i dont give half a shit about the stupid flowers he got you for no fucking reason...his dick was probably down some girl's throat and he bought you them because he felt bad about not jamming his dick down your throat instead! if you payed attention anything other than the other guy you're ogling you'd realize that your boyfriend's gaze is seriously considering just permanently moving to my boobs. Fuck you and this relationship, he's abusive by the way, fuck fuck fuck, how did I end up single. He's ugly as hell, smite me now god, smite me down to the mother fucking ground and put me in singlesville in heaven"
how.................sweet.......... .......
deathinkosovo
12/02/09, 04:17 PM
Sarcasm, eh?
Nope, I'm pretty much the best thing going.
Chancetobe
12/02/09, 04:48 PM
He called and this is what it basically boiled down to:
I told him that I liked him and that I perhaps I was too late with telling him that but that I was letting him know. That the times that I've had with him have been awesome and that if I've made things awkward and he didn't want to hang out with me I'd understand.
He asked why I thought I was too late & why I thought things would be awkward, I said that I'm not used to dealing with things like this, I've never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys being nice to me and that I don't know how things will be because I've never told anyone I've liked them before & that I know we never had a convo about being friends or being bf/gf...
He basically said he has a lot on his plate now and isn't happy with how things are going for him personally and that he couldn't be with someone and try and make them happy if he wasn't happy himself and that he has a lot of big decisions to make soon and that there are two people in partiucular (a guy and a girl) that are causing him drama and stress and that he wished that they would stop.
I told him if there is another girl he likes then that's fine and he so he said if he could be honest that one of the two people that is causing him drama is an ex-gf (the blonde haired girl, he didn't say her name but on his profile there are two people that bicker back and forth and one is the guy with the name he told me while we were talking & the other is the girl).
So he said that we could still hang out that things were cool and not to worry about it because nothing I did was my fault and I did nothing wrong and to text him later on and that he was flattered that someone would like him.
So I did text him and we talked and it sounds like we'll hang out again but he didn't answer the last few texts that I sent him so who knows, I'll just have to go from there.
Yikes. Sorry! But yeah, at least he was nice about it. But still sucks because everyone knows that 'i'm not ready for a relationship stuff' is bullshit.
isawstars
12/02/09, 04:52 PM
Yikes. Sorry! But yeah, at least he was nice about it. But still sucks because everyone knows that 'i'm not ready for a relationship stuff' is bullshit.
True.... When you REALLY like someone, all that doesn't matter.
zion the lion
12/02/09, 05:01 PM
Yeah i know what you're saying. One of my best guy friends who claims he has no interest in being with me sexytime wise used to IM me and bitch like a whiny little girl that he hasn't been laid in so long and that it's been so long since a girl gave him, um pleasure, and it's like and you're telling me the girl that is sitting up with your whiny self who you claim you have no interest in like that all this??
But my dumb ass sat up with him and put up with it. But he's redeemed himself a few times with guy advice but he's still got a long ways to go.
If any of my guy friend's were doing something like that I'd tell them to sack up and screw me or shut up about it...it would freak him out enough to stop talking about it I bet.
how.................sweet.......... .......
And its seriously like the subtitles in slum dog millionaire, how they're clear words just appearing over the screen, except in real life. Of course, I dont say those things in real life, because then I wouldnt have anymore friends.
zion the lion
12/02/09, 05:06 PM
That would be nice =) because there were just certain things he did or said that led me to believe that we would date.
Btw, you're 'get it right get it tight' is from 'Ms. New Booty' right?
Ahhh yes!!!!!!! I'm potty training my aunt's daughter, and whenever she goes to the bathroom she rips her pull-up off, throws it away, and refuses to put anything on. So when she comes out of the bathroom she screams "BOOTY BOOTY BOOTY BOOTY RUCKUS EVERYWHEUHHHH" and then we usually end up playing the song 30 times in a row so that we can dance to it.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 05:21 PM
Ahhh yes!!!!!!! I'm potty training my aunt's daughter, and whenever she goes to the bathroom she rips her pull-up off, throws it away, and refuses to put anything on. So when she comes out of the bathroom she screams "BOOTY BOOTY BOOTY BOOTY RUCKUS EVERYWHEUHHHH" and then we usually end up playing the song 30 times in a row so that we can dance to it.
haha, that's an amazing song!! I thought it looked familiar!
zion the lion
12/02/09, 05:26 PM
haha, that's an amazing song!! I thought it looked familiar!
Yeah I felt like I needed a new title thingy, and the song has been stuck in my head for a long time.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 05:26 PM
Nope, I'm pretty much the best thing going.
Well you think a lot of yourself, just as long as it's self-esteem wise and not that you think you're the greatest thing since sliced bread, lol.
Were you trying to pick me up tho since I'm kinda at a weak spot, haha?
i said before, you shouldve gone to that party he invited you too right at the beginning. good luck
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 05:30 PM
Yikes. Sorry! But yeah, at least he was nice about it. But still sucks because everyone knows that 'i'm not ready for a relationship stuff' is bullshit.
True dat. But he was nice about it, still wish I could have done it in person so I could have seen his face to judge that his expressions were sincere, but at least I actually got to hear his voice so it wasn't through texting or something lame like that.
I'm just hoping that he holds up to the 'we'll still hang out" and that things won't be awkward...he's really an awesome person and I hope I didn't f- it up royally.
But I was going to say it anyways, so it would have just been awkward for me holding back.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 05:32 PM
i said before, you shouldve gone to that party he invited you too right at the beginning. good luck
No things should go ok, as long as he holds to his we'll still hang out and things won't be awkward...well he says that he's all about honesty and well if he isn't then he's a liar then.
I did go to another party he invited me to and he came to an afterparty that I had at work and we've hung out before and after both of those.
But thanks...
swirlofhues
12/02/09, 05:34 PM
hoping to still hang out with this guy sounds like bad news.
Adam106
12/02/09, 05:34 PM
My advice would be not to give up and move on just yet as some people have suggested, now he knows for sure that you like him and he can think about that for a bit and perhaps decide what he wants. But at the same time you can't wait forever (although I don't think you're at that point yet).
If we assume his reasons of not being happy himself and the stress etc are legit, and it sounds like they are then hopefully this won't take forever. I think the way he told you about the stress (especially his ex-gf) demonstrates he trusts you with his personal issues and is cool with sharing them with you, so you mean something to him.
Careful with the amount of texting though, you don't want to stress him anymore, although I know a lot of people have said this.
Also I don't think it's a pathetic thing how you're 23 and never had a boyfriend for whatever reason. While it's quite a big thing to be telling this guy at this stage he may well appreciate your honesty.
Also this is highly random but in your OP you called him R, and I sometimes have to use a statistics computer program called R, and when you said things about him at first it sounded to me like you were talking about that.
Anywho good luck with this! :)
No things should go ok, as long as he holds to his we'll still hang out and things won't be awkward...well he says that he's all about honesty and well if he isn't then he's a liar then.
I did go to another party he invited me to and he came to an afterparty that I had at work and we've hung out before and after both of those.
But thanks...
gurantee that as soon as you tell him how you feel, and he doesnt feel the same way, its gonna be awkward.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 05:52 PM
gurantee that as soon as you tell him how you feel, and he doesnt feel the same way, its gonna be awkward.
I did tell him how I felt and he seemed cool with it.
I did tell him how I felt and he seemed cool with it.
yeah? what he say??
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 06:11 PM
yeah? what he say??
He called and this is what it basically boiled down to:
I told him that I liked him and that I perhaps I was too late with telling him that but that I was letting him know. That the times that I've had with him have been awesome and that if I've made things awkward and he didn't want to hang out with me I'd understand.
He asked why I thought I was too late & why I thought things would be awkward, I said that I'm not used to dealing with things like this, I've never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys being nice to me and that I don't know how things will be because I've never told anyone I've liked them before & that I know we never had a convo about being friends or being bf/gf...
He basically said he has a lot on his plate now and isn't happy with how things are going for him personally and that he couldn't be with someone and try and make them happy if he wasn't happy himself and that he has a lot of big decisions to make soon and that there are two people in partiucular (a guy and a girl) that are causing him drama and stress and that he wished that they would stop.
I told him if there is another girl he likes then that's fine and he so he said if he could be honest that one of the two people that is causing him drama is an ex-gf (the blonde haired girl that I had mentioned in my original post, he didn't say her name but on his profile there are two people that bicker back and forth and one is the guy with the name he told me while we were talking & the other is the girl).
So he said that we could still hang out that things were cool and not to worry about it because nothing I did was my fault and I did nothing wrong and to text him later on and that he was flattered that someone would like him.
So I did text him and we talked and it sounds like we'll hang out again but he didn't answer the last few texts that I sent him so who knows, I'll just have to go from there.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 06:13 PM
hoping to still hang out with this guy sounds like bad news.
yeah i know but i legitimately like him as a person regardless of the fact that i'll secretly pine for him and i would still like to be part of his life if he'll let me.
He called and this is what it basically boiled down to:
I told him that I liked him and that I perhaps I was too late with telling him that but that I was letting him know. That the times that I've had with him have been awesome and that if I've made things awkward and he didn't want to hang out with me I'd understand.
He asked why I thought I was too late & why I thought things would be awkward, I said that I'm not used to dealing with things like this, I've never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys being nice to me and that I don't know how things will be because I've never told anyone I've liked them before & that I know we never had a convo about being friends or being bf/gf...
He basically said he has a lot on his plate now and isn't happy with how things are going for him personally and that he couldn't be with someone and try and make them happy if he wasn't happy himself and that he has a lot of big decisions to make soon and that there are two people in partiucular (a guy and a girl) that are causing him drama and stress and that he wished that they would stop.
I told him if there is another girl he likes then that's fine and he so he said if he could be honest that one of the two people that is causing him drama is an ex-gf (the blonde haired girl that I had mentioned in my original post, he didn't say her name but on his profile there are two people that bicker back and forth and one is the guy with the name he told me while we were talking & the other is the girl).
So he said that we could still hang out that things were cool and not to worry about it because nothing I did was my fault and I did nothing wrong and to text him later on and that he was flattered that someone would like him.
So I did text him and we talked and it sounds like we'll hang out again but he didn't answer the last few texts that I sent him so who knows, I'll just have to go from there.
sounds like a good guy. i honestly wish you good luck, though id be surprised if things are still the same and that he doesnt hang out with you less
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 06:22 PM
My advice would be not to give up and move on just yet as some people have suggested, now he knows for sure that you like him and he can think about that for a bit and perhaps decide what he wants. But at the same time you can't wait forever (although I don't think you're at that point yet).
Wow you called that one, about the fact that I'm not at that point yet..but give me some credit lol this all happened about less than 24 hours ago. I think that since it's still fresh and that I don't know if he'll keep to his word and still want to hang out with me that until we do or he texts me that I won't be fully ok with it.
If we assume his reasons of not being happy himself and the stress etc are legit, and it sounds like they are then hopefully this won't take forever. I think the way he told you about the stress (especially his ex-gf) demonstrates he trusts you with his personal issues and is cool with sharing them with you, so you mean something to him.
Yeah I had thought about that too, that he at least sees me as someone who is trustworthy. And I knew that these stressor existed prior to this (besides the whole ex-gf and friend causing problems for him) so I know that he just wasn't bullshitting me.
Careful with the amount of texting though, you don't want to stress him anymore, although I know a lot of people have said this.
You guys honestly act like I text him my every move!!! I do let a few days go by without texting him. I understand he has a life.
Also I don't think it's a pathetic thing how you're 23 and never had a boyfriend for whatever reason. While it's quite a big thing to be telling this guy at this stage he may well appreciate your honesty.
To be honest, I said that so perhaps it would put in prospective if I had ever been awkward around him that it wasn't because of him, it was because of me still getting used to guys being nice to me. And before this all happened, he had invited me to a Halloween party his friend held and I had told him prior to it that I was all excited about Halloween (in general) because I hadn't done anything since high school because I had friends that didn't care or no one had invited me out and on Halloween night when he was walking me to my car he had asked me what I did last year for Halloween and I was like 'to be honest, I stayed at home and watched a movie, I haven't done anything since senior year of high school' and he said something to the effect of 'yeah I had remembered you saying that and I didn't know how to respond.." like he was in disbelief that someone like me wouldn't have done anything cool for Halloween. I thought it was pretty sweet that he presumed I was awesome.
And thank you for not thinking that I'm pathetic.
Also this is highly random but in your OP you called him R, and I sometimes have to use a statistics computer program called R, and when you said things about him at first it sounded to me like you were talking about that.
Anywho good luck with this! :)
thanks =)
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 06:25 PM
sounds like a good guy. i honestly wish you good luck, though id be surprised if things are still the same and that he doesnt hang out with you less
Thank you...and yes I am prepared for things to be awkward. But I couldn't be truthful to myself and go on not telling him if that makes any sense.
Thank you...and yes I am prepared for things to be awkward. But I couldn't be truthful to myself and go on not telling him if that makes any sense.
it makes perfect sense. i hope it works out :-)
bstthngunvrhd7
12/02/09, 07:54 PM
it makes perfect sense. i hope it works out :-)
Me too. I guess it'll just be wait and see....in the meantime, I'm still alone... :/
i actually read the initial post but don't bother reading the next 10 pages because most people in this section of the forums are fucking idiots.
with that said, speaking from a males perspective, just from the things you've said I cannot figure out what kind of male invests all that time doing all those little things, and is content with not getting anything sexual in return. I mean, not even making out? Every guy has hormones, every guy that invests something like eating with a girl at a restaurant or taking her out to places, at the end of the day, does expect something in return at one point. Which makes me believe that if this guy doesn't, something is up. You claim he is good looking, so it shouldn't be hard for him to be able to make the first move or get what he wants from a girl. I get the feeling him dancing with that girl in front of you was a shitty version of a test or way to gauge your reaction to see where he stands with you. I do not quite get why he would invest taking you to the beach or hanging out at your work party or going as far as writing his number on your car to begin with if he didn't have some sort of attraction towards you. --this makes me think there is something else involved. I am not going to say maybe he's gay or maybe he's this, but it's probably possible he is still stuck on an ex-girlfriend or still getting some on the side from an ex-girlfriend, and they just aren't official anymore, which leaves him free to hang out with other girls during the day and sneak around at night, best of the both worlds really. Get's to meet new females and test their personalities which helps him cover up that he is still sneaking with his ex, so his friends wont shit on him. I have definitely done shit similar to this, most guys do, it's almost similar to the concept of that "My Secret Girlfriend" show on Comedy Central, granted the show is awful, but there is still some merit to it in regards to most males acting like that in real life, they just don't know it. Anyway, good luck. I am not going to tell you to move on, or tell you to tell him you like him; I am just going to ask if you are willing to invest the time and are maybe okay with getting involved in future drama, because there's a chance as you get to know him more, you will find stuff out. Nobodies perfect, especially not males that aren't thinking with their little head.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/03/09, 01:00 AM
i actually read the initial post but don't bother reading the next 10 pages because most people in this section of the forums are fucking idiots.
with that said, speaking from a males perspective, just from the things you've said I cannot figure out what kind of male invests all that time doing all those little things, and is content with not getting anything sexual in return. I mean, not even making out? Every guy has hormones, every guy that invests something like eating with a girl at a restaurant or taking her out to places, at the end of the day, does expect something in return at one point.
the only thing he tried was to get me to stay over and cuddle--one time though he was trashed and also asked the other girl that was with me to stay over too. The second time I wish I could have because it would have been highly romantical because the power was out at the place he was staying at the time & there would have been candles--but I had to go to work early that mornig and knew I would not have made it home on time & when I told him I couldn't stay because of that he seemed sad about it and even said something to the effect of 'the only thing that's missing is you [meaning me]". And when I had brought up cudding one time in a text he said that he would have wanted to but his dad doesn't allow him to have friends over (I had suggested that I come over to his place) & I can't have people over because I still live at home and literally have no privacy but that he would have wanted to and that he was sorry we weren't able to hang out [we were supossed to have hung out but then his friend's car died and he spent all day trying to fix it with him].
Besides that, the only other physical contact we had was hugging and he would do this thing where he'd walk into me (which seemed like something that middle school boys do but I thought it was a bit flirty too) and he did tell me that I had a warm body once when we were talking one time and he leaned into me and then we spent pretty much the rest of the evening on his couch foot fighting and with our legs intertwined.
And things he said about other things not related to hooking up made it seem like he was not going to force anything.
Which makes me believe that if this guy doesn't, something is up. You claim he is good looking, so it shouldn't be hard for him to be able to make the first move or get what he wants from a girl. I get the feeling him dancing with that girl in front of you was a shitty version of a test or way to gauge your reaction to see where he stands with you
She came on to him and had been dancing with other guys. I didn't watch it because I didn't know what to do and frankly I didn't want to make a scene and look like a crazy bitch. And yes, I had thought that it was some shitty test too but the past is the past I guess but then I have to admit that I thought that as well because I still couldn't believe that being as cute as I think he was that he'd want to be with me, but he's obviously wasn't embarrassed to be seen out with me .
I do not quite get why he would invest taking you to the beach or hanging out at your work party or going as far as writing his number on your car to begin with if he didn't have some sort of attraction towards you. --this makes me think there is something else involved. I am not going to say maybe he's gay or maybe he's this, but it's probably possible he is still stuck on an ex-girlfriend or still getting some on the side from an ex-girlfriend, and they just aren't official anymore, which leaves him free to hang out with other girls during the day and sneak around at night, best of the both worlds really. Get's to meet new females and test their personalities which helps him cover up that he is still sneaking with his ex, so his friends wont shit on him.
My thoughts exactly--he made the first move on everything pretty much, so I figured really it was his game, if that made any sense, that he would have made a move. On his Facebook, he says that he's old school but not like an old man and that he's romantical towards the girl he cares for, so I figured that perhaps he was one of the last few decent men in the world and that perhaps he believed in courting and taking time and not just jumping everyone he sees.
The way he made this ex-gf sound (or at least the one in question) that she was a part of a duo of people that were playing mind games with him and it's causing him stress) and he doesn't like it at all.
And not to make it sound like I am just going to argue this for the sake of arguing, but he has a job where he is on call and works quite a bit around this time of the year Monday-Friday, so that would really just leave the evenings and weekends for 'free time' if that theory was right. Also, one of his best guy friends (the one that would come up the bar with him) was screwed over by a girl in my group of friends and they did not show up to the bar after stuff went down with his friend and the girl in my group leading me to believe that they don't tolerate people being shitty to other people.
But the thing is that when I called him, he never came out and said that he didn't like me or that he liked me either, just that we would still hang out. Or he didn't say that there was no chance in hell that he'd ever go out with me either.
I have definitely done shit similar to this, most guys do, it's almost similar to the concept of that "My Secret Girlfriend" show on Comedy Central, granted the show is awful, but there is still some merit to it in regards to most males acting like that in real life, they just don't know it. Anyway, good luck. I am not going to tell you to move on, or tell you to tell him you like him; I am just going to ask if you are willing to invest the time and are maybe okay with getting involved in future drama, because there's a chance as you get to know him more, you will find stuff out. Nobodies perfect, especially not males that aren't thinking with their little head.
I am willing to still be his friend because I do still want him in my life and I have fun with him just as long as he would want to.
Perhaps I'm addressing this a bit backwards since I responded to your thoughts but this is what happened when he called me:
I told him that I liked him and that I perhaps I was too late with telling him that but that I was letting him know. That the times that I've had with him have been awesome and that if I've made things awkward and he didn't want to hang out with me I'd understand.
He asked why I thought I was too late & why I thought things would be awkward, I said that I'm not used to dealing with things like this, I've never had a boyfriend and am not used to guys being nice to me and that I don't know how things will be because I've never told anyone I've liked them before & that I know we never had a convo about being friends or being bf/gf...
He basically said he has a lot on his plate now and isn't happy with how things are going for him personally and that he couldn't be with someone and try and make them happy if he wasn't happy himself and that he has a lot of big decisions to make soon and that there are two people in partiucular (a guy and a girl) that are causing him drama and stress and that he wished that they would stop.
I told him if there is another girl he likes then that's fine and he so he said if he could be honest that one of the two people that is causing him drama is an ex-gf (the blonde haired girl that I had mentioned in my original post, he didn't say her name but on his profile there are two people that bicker back and forth and one is the guy with the name he told me while we were talking & the other is the girl).
So he said that we could still hang out that things were cool and not to worry about it because nothing I did was my fault and I did nothing wrong and to text him later on and that he was flattered that someone would like him.
So I did text him and we talked and it sounds like we'll hang out again but he didn't answer the last few texts that I sent him so who knows, I'll just have to go from there.
TheReckoner
12/03/09, 08:18 AM
But chicken accepted =) A few weeks ago for one of my friend's birthdays at the bar one of our other friend's made chicken so we had chicken and beer. It was great.
Sounds magically delicious. Does this call for a lucky charms picture?
deathinkosovo
12/03/09, 10:38 AM
Well you think a lot of yourself, just as long as it's self-esteem wise and not that you think you're the greatest thing since sliced bread, lol.
Were you trying to pick me up tho since I'm kinda at a weak spot, haha?
No, I was just fucking with you. Your reaction was about what I expected.
And sliced bread is overrated. What if I want a really thick slice of the stuff? Am I expected to eat two pieces of regular bread? That's not how I roll. The second I get my own bachelor pad, I'm buying a huge loaf of uncut bread and just eating it from the one end. When I have company over, I will get some curious looks, but they'll be so jealous of me and my huge, gnawed-at loaf. Glory days, I tells ya.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/03/09, 11:25 PM
Sounds magically delicious. Does this call for a lucky charms picture?
for sure =) because i love being irish (well i'm not full blooded or anything, but i get it from both sides of the family and totally rock the freckles & paleness!)
bstthngunvrhd7
12/03/09, 11:34 PM
No, I was just fucking with you. Your reaction was about what I expected.
Oh ok, I just thought you were all like 'ooh she's down about this maybe she'll be on the prowl for something new & she lives in Crook County' haha
Btw, I've got two copies of the AP Style guide around the house...how about that? (I looked at your profile, lol).
And sliced bread is overrated. What if I want a really thick slice of the stuff? Am I expected to eat two pieces of regular bread? That's not how I roll. The second I get my own bachelor pad, I'm buying a huge loaf of uncut bread and just eating it from the one end. When I have company over, I will get some curious looks, but they'll be so jealous of me and my huge, gnawed-at loaf. Glory days, I tells ya.
That's why I like the really good loaves of bread from Jewels or Meijers. Or when my mom makes zucchini bread or pumpkin bread because you can slice it however you want, =)
Wow sounds like you'll have a rollicking bachelor pad, hell I was just looking forwad to being able to have my movies all in one spot & in order, putting up my awesome Butch Walker tour poster (that's numbered) and having a place to put the giant 'Pirates of the Caribbean' snow globe my cousin got me for Christmas last year so people can always be like 'oh how interesting!' and it'd totally start convos.
Brand-new-123
12/03/09, 11:35 PM
Don't act strange. Don't be a stranger. It happened to me. Now it's happening to you.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/03/09, 11:43 PM
Don't act strange. Don't be a stranger. It happened to me. Now it's happening to you.
1. I'll try not to act strange, but I'm still kinda shy and awkward but in a kinda cute way if that makes any sense.
2. I planned on texting him Sunday or Monday to see how his weekend was and what was new with him.
3. Aw sorry I hope you were ok with it.
4. Yup, but I knew I had to do it because I was gonna say it eventually and I didn't feel right unless I said it. My friends gave me bravery points for it after I did it. Not really but they totally thought I had balls for doing it. I just hope that everything is cool and that he still wants to talk and hang out.
Brand-new-123
12/03/09, 11:48 PM
1. I'll try not to act strange, but I'm still kinda shy and awkward but in a kinda cute way if that makes any sense.
2. I planned on texting him Sunday or Monday to see how his weekend was and what was new with him.
3. Aw sorry I hope you were ok with it.
4. Yup, but I knew I had to do it because I was gonna say it eventually and I didn't feel right unless I said it. My friends gave me bravery points for it after I did it. Not really but they totally thought I had balls for doing it. I just hope that everything is cool and that he still wants to talk and hang out.
Laura's asleep in my bed. As I'm leaving she wakes up and says, "I dreamed you were carried away on the crest of a wave baby don't go away, come here"
bstthngunvrhd7
12/03/09, 11:52 PM
Laura's asleep in my bed. As I'm leaving she wakes up and says, "I dreamed you were carried away on the crest of a wave baby don't go away, come here"
I'm confused..should I look up this song or something?? Or did it just end up in the wrong thread?
Brand-new-123
12/03/09, 11:54 PM
I'm confused..should I look up this song or something?? Or did it just end up in the wrong thread? I feel more like a stranger each time I come home.
TheReckoner
12/04/09, 08:03 AM
for sure =) because i love being irish (well i'm not full blooded or anything, but i get it from both sides of the family and totally rock the freckles & paleness!)
http://altheforce.files.wordpress.com/2008/01/lucky_charms.jpg
Eat some lucky charms. :-)
bstthngunvrhd7
12/04/09, 07:09 PM
http://altheforce.files.wordpress.com/2008/01/lucky_charms.jpg
Eat some lucky charms. :-)
Aw! Thank you!! =) I haven't had those in ages...I like the marshmallow parts the best =)
deathinkosovo
12/05/09, 07:00 PM
That's why I like the really good loaves of bread from Jewels or Meijers. Or when my mom makes zucchini bread or pumpkin bread because you can slice it however you want, =)
Wow sounds like you'll have a rollicking bachelor pad, hell I was just looking forwad to being able to have my movies all in one spot & in order, putting up my awesome Butch Walker tour poster (that's numbered) and having a place to put the giant 'Pirates of the Caribbean' snow globe my cousin got me for Christmas last year so people can always be like 'oh how interesting!' and it'd totally start convos.
I'll continue the dialogue because I'm bored and have a few minutes before seeing my budz play at the Empty Bottle. And I'm drinking instant soup (90 seconds = instant?) and it's delicious and I don't feel like moving till I have to.
It's too easy to pick and choose people from where they live and be like, "Hey, you're a girl, I'm a guy and we live within the same city limits. Let's bang it out." I mean, that's how one of my old girlfriends found me, but we were both young enough and dumb enough that a myspace romance sounded like a brilliant idea. But, yeah, my friend on last.fm always gets hit on guys because they see where she lives and see that she's a reasonably attractive girl. It's easy pickin's, if not a little creepy.
The only stylebook I have is from 2007. Seriously, I just use Google 99.5% of the time I am uncertain of a word's spelling/use.
And, yeah, the bachelor pad will be pretty super. Imagine Greg Brady's room in his parents' attic, bead curtain and all. That's how I do.
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deathinkosovo
12/05/09, 07:03 PM
Ignore the script below my actual message. I have no idea what the hell that is or where it came from.
Brand-new-123
12/05/09, 07:09 PM
Ignore the script below my actual message. I have no idea what the hell that is or where it came from.
you can edit that post and delete the script
thisisnotmyname
12/05/09, 10:43 PM
Ignore the script below my actual message. I have no idea what the hell that is or where it came from.
hey, we live in the same city.
cheers.
thisisnotmyname
12/05/09, 10:43 PM
Ok here's the condensed version. Met a guy 11 weeks ago. Really sweet nice, I enjoy hanging out with him and I feel like he also enjoys hanging out with me. No one's ever brought up being gf & bf but of us have made moves hints that would be conveyed as liking each other more than friends. I'm not used to guys treating me nicely & I've never had a bf before. Last night when I was hanging out with a friend I decided that I was finally going to tell him out I felt. I come home and check his facebook like I normally do and it shows that is main interest are the intials of those of a girl that he has obviously had some kind of past with and that he is no longer seeking a relationship but just friendship. I text him this morning to tell him that I have something to tell him and if we could meet up. He says he's at work but that we could talk and he's gonna call me around 9ish.
Am I too late to tell him this? I'm gonna tell him anyways but I was wondering if anyone had any pointers, tips, etc.
hey, we live in the same city,
cheers.
thisisnotmyname
12/05/09, 10:45 PM
fuck this weather
Brand-new-123
12/05/09, 10:45 PM
hey, we live in the same city,
cheers.
hey, we live in the same country,
cheers.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/05/09, 11:59 PM
Ignore the script below my actual message. I have no idea what the hell that is or where it came from.
Script ignored.
Yeah there's a gazillion people that live in/by Chicago so that's never a good reason to be like 'wow good idea! we have something in common' haha, if that makes any sense.
Greg's Bachelor pad--groovy....any hint of when he was Johnny Bravo?
bstthngunvrhd7
12/06/09, 12:01 AM
fuck this weather
It's called we live in an area where it's either freaking cold or freaking warm...rarely is it in-between....
And yes while it is cold, I like my sweaters and boots =)
bstthngunvrhd7
12/06/09, 12:09 AM
Oh if anyone cares how things are going with me and my hope-to-be-boo...here's the continuation...
I had texted him today (well Saturday) to let him know that they are hiring at my one job because I had remembered him saying that he had a friend that needed a job and badly. So he texts back saying that he'd be interested in the job himself as well, so I text him more details in case he/his friend are interested. So then I tell him that I'd go back and ask a question that he had about the job (I couldn't answer it really because it's not the department I work in and I wasn't at work at the time I was texting) but I was on my way to meet my mom and my siister and my friend and her mom at the mall. He goes 'oh cool..what u doing later on" and I'm like 'nothing really...why what's up?' and he said that he was looking to get people together for a party, so I said sounds like fun and to let me know know bout it, and he said fo sho.
Didn't hear from him so I text him as I was on my way back from the mall & going out for dinner (it was like 10:30pm & he lives on the way back to my house) and he said that he ended up in the south...(he's kinda the king of captain spontenaity)
So...he at least still wants to hang out with me...good sign =)
my friend thinks I should just kiss him...not sure if this is a good move...
deathinkosovo
12/06/09, 01:31 AM
you can edit that post and delete the script
I tried two or three times and it wouldn't delete. Must be something messed up with the post I quoted or something. Or just a random glitch. Not my concern, really.
Brand-new-123
12/06/09, 01:40 AM
Oh if anyone cares how things are going with me and my hope-to-be-boo...here's the continuation...
I had texted him today (well Saturday) to let him know that they are hiring at my one job because I had remembered him saying that he had a friend that needed a job and badly. So he texts back saying that he'd be interested in the job himself as well, so I text him more details in case he/his friend are interested. So then I tell him that I'd go back and ask a question that he had about the job (I couldn't answer it really because it's not the department I work in and I wasn't at work at the time I was texting) but I was on my way to meet my mom and my siister and my friend and her mom at the mall. He goes 'oh cool..what u doing later on" and I'm like 'nothing really...why what's up?' and he said that he was looking to get people together for a party, so I said sounds like fun and to let me know know bout it, and he said fo sho.
Didn't hear from him so I text him as I was on my way back from the mall & going out for dinner (it was like 10:30pm & he lives on the way back to my house) and he said that he ended up in the south...(he's kinda the king of captain spontenaity)
So...he at least still wants to hang out with me...good sign =)
my friend thinks I should just kiss him...not sure if this is a good move...
it is
bstthngunvrhd7
12/06/09, 08:34 PM
it is
How is it a good move? My friend and her mom both said I should try and kiss him and see how he responds. However, my friend thinks it should be a full on makeout session.
I don't know if it's a good move because he says he doesn't want a relationship right now.
Plus, I've never kissed anyone before (well except on the cheek) so I don't know how I'll fair performancewise, and I'd want it to be perfect for him.
Brand-new-123
12/06/09, 08:46 PM
How is it a good move? My friend and her mom both said I should try and kiss him and see how he responds. However, my friend thinks it should be a full on makeout session.
I don't know if it's a good move because he says he doesn't want a relationship right now.
Plus, I've never kissed anyone before (well except on the cheek) so I don't know how I'll fair performance wise, and I'd want it to be perfect for him.
Listen to your friend and her mom on this one. When a guy says he isn't looking for a relationship it means that he hasn't found someone that he either wants to date or feels that he can date. If you kiss him, it will put the pressure on him to respond and remove it from you.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/06/09, 08:53 PM
Listen to your friend and her mom on this one. When a guy says he isn't looking for a relationship it means that he hasn't found someone that he either wants to date or feels that he can date. If you kiss him, it will put the pressure on him to respond and remove it from you.
My fear is that attempting this (not even sure when we'll hang out again, though he asked me what I was doing yesterday because he wanted to get people together for a party but then he ended up going to a party about two hours away, he's spontaneous like that) so at least I know he still wants to hang out with me or have me around in some capacity, but anyways, my fear in attempting this is that (1) I'll be terrible (2) he'll reject me & it'll ruin whatever we have (3) this will further complicate things in his life.
Brand-new-123
12/06/09, 08:56 PM
My fear is that attempting this (not even sure when we'll hang out again, though he asked me what I was doing yesterday because he wanted to get people together for a party but then he ended up going to a party about two hours away, he's spontaneous like that) so at least I know he still wants to hang out with me or have me around in some capacity, but anyways, my fear in attempting this is that (1) I'll be terrible (2) he'll reject me & it'll ruin whatever we have (3) this will further complicate things in his life.
You've gotta take a chance sometime. Or you can just be alone for the rest of your life. Your choice.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/06/09, 09:00 PM
You've gotta take a chance sometime. Or you can just be alone for the rest of your life. Your choice.
I know and I don't want to be alone the rest of my life, I'd just hate to write him out or have him leave because of something I did and then I'd feel stupid about it..
But with him I've felt like I've taken some chances compared to the nothing that I ever do: he's the first person that I've ever ever told them that I like them. Honestly. I've never had the guts to tell anyone that I like them before. And I told him. And I think there might be some smidgen of hope that perhaps we'd go out or whatever as long as he doesn't move, because he might.
So needless to say...I do want to kiss him...I want to make out with him..I'd like to do a lot with him (eventually)...but I don't want to screw this up....
But the more I think of it, he's all about the whole 'people shouldn't be scared to do things, we're far too old to be afraid of things' deal...
I just don't even know how to broach this...
Maybe I think too much..
TheReckoner
12/07/09, 08:04 AM
Aw! Thank you!! =) I haven't had those in ages...I like the marshmallow parts the best =)
Same! I just cant stand the noise they make when you bite into them. It makes me cringe.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/07/09, 12:25 PM
Same! I just cant stand the noise they make when you bite into them. It makes me cringe.
The only time I was able to have cool cereals like that was when I was at my grandma's house because my dad didn't want us to eat sugary cereals...so the only time I got BooBerry, Fruity Pebbles and cool stuff like that was at my granny's.
Though a few years ago when I was on vacation and staying at my aunt and uncle's house they had Lucky Charms and I was like 'yes!!!' and got me a bowl and ate all the good stuff first.
But you are right, it does make a weird noise...
bstthngunvrhd7
12/07/09, 12:27 PM
So really, should I try and kiss him or make a move on him? I'm getting conflicting advice from friends and whatnot (and you people on here)....but most people are going on the side of I should.
So either they know something that I don't or they just like to hear about the episodes of my life...haha.
tottivillarossi
12/07/09, 12:29 PM
So really, should I try and kiss him or make a move on him? I'm getting conflicting advice from friends and whatnot (and you people on here)....but most people are going on the side of I should.
So either they know something that I don't or they just like to hear about the episodes of my life...haha.
Get him drunk and fuck him.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/07/09, 12:38 PM
Get him drunk and fuck him.
You know, that suggestion has been given to me already by at least one friend, just not sure if that'd be the best way to go about it.
We've never even kissed yet, well unless you count kissing on the cheek, but I don't think it really does count.
I just don't know how it would go being he says he's not looking for a relationship right now, and I really like him and don't want to screw this up because he means A LOT to me because he for some reason picked me, and no one picks me.
tottivillarossi
12/07/09, 12:39 PM
You know, that suggestion has been given to me already by at least one friend, just not sure if that'd be the best way to go about it.
We've never even kissed yet, well unless you count kissing on the cheek, but I don't think it really does count.
I just don't know how it would go being he says he's not looking for a relationship right now, and I really like him and don't want to screw this up because he means A LOT to me because he for some reason picked me, and no one picks me.
Just tell him you like him. It's that simple. Don't wait for 'the right time', just grow some proverbial balls, and tell him.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/07/09, 12:48 PM
Just tell him you like him. It's that simple. Don't wait for 'the right time', just grow some proverbial balls, and tell him.
I already told him I like him last week, so he knows that. He said he's not in a place right now where he is looking for a relationship because he is not happy where he is in life himself and needs to get things straightened out first for him (he's in the middle of trying to go to school and he needs to find some place to live by January because his dad is kicking him out then and I knew of these things so it's not like he's making crap up) and therefore couldn't try and make anyone happy. He still wants to hang out and talk and had even asked me what I was doing this weekend (well technically last weekend lol being we started a new week) so he seems pretty truthful to the fact we'll still hang out and it won't be awkward because I told him that if I made things awkward by telling him that I liked him that I'd understand if he didn't want to hang out with me and he was like' why do you think it'd be awkward & why wouldn't I want to hang out?"
thisisnotmyname
12/07/09, 07:46 PM
hey, we live in the same country,
cheers.
na dude fuck louisville
TheReckoner
12/08/09, 08:12 AM
The only time I was able to have cool cereals like that was when I was at my grandma's house because my dad didn't want us to eat sugary cereals...so the only time I got BooBerry, Fruity Pebbles and cool stuff like that was at my granny's.
Though a few years ago when I was on vacation and staying at my aunt and uncle's house they had Lucky Charms and I was like 'yes!!!' and got me a bowl and ate all the good stuff first.
But you are right, it does make a weird noise...
Indeed. Ooooh I would hate to have sugar taken away from me. Good thing my parents could care less about what I eat :-)
SonEric84
12/08/09, 10:51 AM
I don't know, I'd be weary of the "I'm not looking for a relationship excuse". I mean, it sounds like this guy's life is kind of sucking right now, so I don't see why he wouldn't want to be with someone he could enjoy his time with and make the crappy aspects of his life seem a little less crappy...or maybe that's just how I think. Although I have to say every time I have heard that "reason" it was just bullshit.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 12:19 PM
Indeed. Ooooh I would hate to have sugar taken away from me. Good thing my parents could care less about what I eat :-)
Well to be honest, apparently I had crappy teeth as a kid and my parents had to have that stuff put on my teeth at the dentist so that I wouldn't get so many cavities, so they did put some money into it, or whatever the insurance didn't cover...they would also only let me have pop once a week.
But oh well =) Now I pretty much have whatever I want
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 12:22 PM
I don't know, I'd be weary of the "I'm not looking for a relationship excuse". I mean, it sounds like this guy's life is kind of sucking right now, so I don't see why he wouldn't want to be with someone he could enjoy his time with and make the crappy aspects of his life seem a little less crappy...or maybe that's just how I think. Although I have to say every time I have heard that "reason" it was just bullshit.
And it's like I know what we make each other happy and I feel like perhaps I could be that 'escape' if you will from all the crappiness in his life. But at the same time, I wouldn't want to make things even harder for him.
That's why I'm kinda weary of trying to kiss him or anything. Like I might have my house to myself for a bit this weekend before I have to go to work and I was thinking about inviting him over to make quesadillas (I had told him that I would make him some some time) but I don't know if that's a smart idea, because lunch can only take so long to make/eat, and then I don't know what to do in the time between that and him leaving...like I thought perhaps maybe we could cuddle or whatever, but I don't know if that'd be a smart move.
llwilliamsll
12/08/09, 12:39 PM
so did he reply to any of your texts?
I personally believe you should wait a tad bit longer if you decide to kiss him. Apparently the guy wants you around but doesn't really know if he if wants you as a friend or something more. After you told him you liked him, it's making him think (If he hadn't already) about you guys together. if you do kiss him now it's sort of disrespectful. He was super nice and respectful when you disclosed the fact that you liked him. He didn't act weird and he still wants to be friends. He just doesn't want a relationship now because of what's going on. If you decide to act on impulse instead of following his wishes to a point it says "I care more about myself than your problems". If you show to him that you can be a real friend and you really do care about him, it will improve your friendship. However, to a point you have to show that you haven't lost interest in him. Maybe make a couple of slightly flirty comments when you are together but not too obvious to the point were you seem like you are trying to win him over. Just wait until he has things a little more sorted and than make your move. This is just my advice though. I'm certainly not an expert.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 12:48 PM
I personally believe you should wait a tad bit longer if you decide to kiss him. Apparently the guy wants you around but doesn't really know if he if wants you as a friend or something more. After you told him you liked him, it's making him think (If he hadn't already) about you guys together. if you do kiss him now it's sort of disrespectful. He was super nice and respectful when you disclosed the fact that you liked him. He didn't act weird and he still wants to be friends. He just doesn't want a relationship now because of what's going on. If you decide to act on impulse instead of following his wishes to a point it says "I care more about myself than your problems". If you show to him that you can be a real friend and you really do care about him, it will improve your friendship. However, to a point you have to show that you haven't lost interest in him. Maybe make a couple of slightly flirty comments when you are together but not too obvious to the point were you seem like you are trying to win him over. Just wait until he has things a little more sorted and than make your move. This is just my advice though. I'm certainly not an expert.
And I totally agree with everything you said, however, some of my friends however are pumping my head with the idea that if I don't act now, he'll just continuously think of me as nothing more than a friend,so this leaves me in a bind. But I'd rather at this point keep him in my life without throwing myself at him and losing him right away and then there be a slight possibility of us being together.
But I am totally respectful of the fact that he is in a bit of a bind: I mean, he wants to go to school and has all these goals but has no idea where he's gonna get the money and is unable to get loans and since he's been out of high school for a while (he's 23) I'm doubting that there's much he can get in terms of scholarships, but who knows, and he has no idea where he'll be living next month because his dad is kicking out then. So I totally feel for him and I wish that I could solve his issues. It really makes me sad :/ and then there is the possibility that he might be moving a good 2-3 hours away too...
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 01:14 PM
so did he reply to any of your texts?
I had texted him Saturday to let him know that they are hiring at my one job because I had remembered him saying that he had a friend that needed a job and badly. So he texts back saying that he'd be interested in the job himself as well, so I text him more details in case he/his friend are interested. So then I tell him that I'd would have went and asked a question that he had about the job (I couldn't answer it really because it's not the department I work in and I wasn't at work at the time I was texting) but I was on my way to meet my mom and my siister and my friend and her mom at the mall. He goes 'oh cool..what u doing later on" and I'm like 'nothing really...why what's up?' and he said that he was looking to get people together for a party, so I said sounds like fun and to let me know know bout it, and he said fo sho.
Didn't hear from him so I texted him as I was on my way back from the mall & going out for dinner (it was like 10:30pm & he lives on the way back to my house) and he said that he ended up in the south...(he's kinda the king of captain spontaneity)
So Sunday I texted him to see if he "partied partied partied let's all get wasted lol' (you know like the Gucci Mane song 'Wasted'?) and he said that he had a good time and we texted for a bit.
So hopefully this is a good sign, I'm gonna not text him for a few more days, prolly not until Thursday-Friday, because at his job this time of year it's superbusy and he's on call but I'm hoping he and I will get to hang out soon.
llwilliamsll
12/08/09, 01:32 PM
I had texted him Saturday to let him know that they are hiring at my one job because I had remembered him saying that he had a friend that needed a job and badly. So he texts back saying that he'd be interested in the job himself as well, so I text him more details in case he/his friend are interested. So then I tell him that I'd would have went and asked a question that he had about the job (I couldn't answer it really because it's not the department I work in and I wasn't at work at the time I was texting) but I was on my way to meet my mom and my siister and my friend and her mom at the mall. He goes 'oh cool..what u doing later on" and I'm like 'nothing really...why what's up?' and he said that he was looking to get people together for a party, so I said sounds like fun and to let me know know bout it, and he said fo sho.
Didn't hear from him so I texted him as I was on my way back from the mall & going out for dinner (it was like 10:30pm & he lives on the way back to my house) and he said that he ended up in the south...(he's kinda the king of captain spontaneity)
So Sunday I texted him to see if he "partied partied partied let's all get wasted lol' (you know like the Gucci Mane song 'Wasted'?) and he said that he had a good time and we texted for a bit.
So hopefully this is a good sign, I'm gonna not text him for a few more days, prolly not until Thursday-Friday, because at his job this time of year it's superbusy and he's on call but I'm hoping he and I will get to hang out soon.
How many times have you two hung out as of recently? Also, how many times have you hung out since meeting? Lastly, how many times have you two hung out one on one?
SonEric84
12/08/09, 01:33 PM
And it's like I know what we make each other happy and I feel like perhaps I could be that 'escape' if you will from all the crappiness in his life. But at the same time, I wouldn't want to make things even harder for him.
That's why I'm kinda weary of trying to kiss him or anything. Like I might have my house to myself for a bit this weekend before I have to go to work and I was thinking about inviting him over to make quesadillas (I had told him that I would make him some some time) but I don't know if that's a smart idea, because lunch can only take so long to make/eat, and then I don't know what to do in the time between that and him leaving...like I thought perhaps maybe we could cuddle or whatever, but I don't know if that'd be a smart move.
I honestly don't know how having a good relationship with someone you like would make things harder.
TheReckoner
12/08/09, 01:37 PM
Well to be honest, apparently I had crappy teeth as a kid and my parents had to have that stuff put on my teeth at the dentist so that I wouldn't get so many cavities, so they did put some money into it, or whatever the insurance didn't cover...they would also only let me have pop once a week.
But oh well =) Now I pretty much have whatever I want
Yay for being 23! :D
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 01:43 PM
How many times have you two hung out as of recently? Also, how many times have you hung out since meeting? Lastly, how many times have you two hung out one on one?
The last time we hung out was 'Black Wednesday"
Since meeting September 15th, we've hung out a grand total of about 6 or 7 times, not including the times that he and his friend came up the bar where he and I met, so figure about 10 times.
One-on-one times are about two times, but one time I had invited him to an afterparty thing that my I had at work and we sat with my friends and their 'dates' for about a grand total of 10 minutes and then he wanted me to show him around my job and we ended up downstairs in areas that I probably shouldn't have been in, let alone him.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 01:44 PM
Yay for being 23! :D
True dat. Well at least for the fun things about being 23! I'll be 24 next month...
TheReckoner
12/08/09, 01:48 PM
True dat. Well at least for the fun things about being 23! I'll be 24 next month...
Haha even better! Im only 15. Shiiiiiiiit son. Being young sucks.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 01:49 PM
I honestly don't know how having a good relationship with someone you like would make things harder.
I know, but I'm not him and I'm not going to argue with him about it and be a petty girl about it because he doesn't like drama and I'm trying not to give this kid any more stress.
His reasoning was when I told him that I liked him and all was that if he isn't happy with how things are going for him and how is life is, he couldn't begin to make anyone else happy.
llwilliamsll
12/08/09, 01:55 PM
The last time we hung out was 'Black Wednesday"
Since meeting September 15th, we've hung out a grand total of about 6 or 7 times, not including the times that he and his friend came up the bar where he and I met, so figure about 10 times.
One-on-one times are about two times, but one time I had invited him to an afterparty thing that my I had at work and we sat with my friends and their 'dates' for about a grand total of 10 minutes and then he wanted me to show him around my job and we ended up downstairs in areas that I probably shouldn't have been in, let alone him.
hmm...well, it sounds like he may be interested in that other girl, and I wouldn't judge everything on what facebook says. You'd have to find out if he and this one chick are dating or something, because that doesn't technically mean a relationship. You can go on from there.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 02:04 PM
Haha even better! Im only 15. Shiiiiiiiit son. Being young sucks.
Aw, I'm sorry I didn't know you were only 15! But being an adult is cool I guess, I mean there are more things you can legally do haha, but a lot of responsibility too, but I guess only if you chose to accept responsibility and be responsible.
But I'm a pretty good responsible person =) I pay my bills on time, have a degree,etc. etc. I just do not have my own place or a 'real' full-time job (I have two part-time ones) yet.
Enjoy being a teen tho =) I wish I had had more fun as one but I was really shy and just came out of my shell about a year ago.
But I guess everything happens for a reason, so right now I'm making up for lost fun time haha.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 02:07 PM
hmm...well, it sounds like he may be interested in that other girl, and I wouldn't judge everything on what facebook says. You'd have to find out if he and this one chick are dating or something, because that doesn't technically mean a relationship. You can go on from there.
He told me that his ex-gf and a friend of his are causing him issues and are playing mind games and making his life crap, and on his Fbook page, the guy he had named as is friend bickers back and forth with a girl and it's pretty safe to say that it's her.
llwilliamsll
12/08/09, 02:33 PM
He told me that his ex-gf and a friend of his are causing him issues and are playing mind games and making his life crap, and on his Fbook page, the guy he had named as is friend bickers back and forth with a girl and it's pretty safe to say that it's her.
Well then go for it.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 02:39 PM
Well then go for it.
I'm attempting to make my way into it gradually, I just don't want to complicate things for him. I'll just continue to treat him like I always have and be more nicer and whatnot.
I mean, this kid knows I like him, so I don't think there is much else I can do to prove that further, besides the obvious (haha) and perhaps it'll just go from there naturally.
I mean, he's kept his word thus far but still communicating to me and he asked me what I was up to Saturday night because he was trying to get a party together but he ended up going to a party about 2-3 hours away.
llwilliamsll
12/08/09, 02:45 PM
I'm attempting to make my way into it gradually, I just don't want to complicate things for him. I'll just continue to treat him like I always have and be more nicer and whatnot.
I mean, this kid knows I like him, so I don't think there is much else I can do to prove that further, besides the obvious (haha) and perhaps it'll just go from there naturally.
I mean, he's kept his word thus far but still communicating to me and he asked me what I was up to Saturday night because he was trying to get a party together but he ended up going to a party about 2-3 hours away.
Sounds like you've got it in order then
bstthngunvrhd7
12/08/09, 06:41 PM
Sounds like you've got it in order then
thank you =) I'd hate to screw this up. It's just no guy has ever ever been as awesome as he is to me, besides my guy friends. And the fact that he 'chose' me for some reason means a lot because no one ever really does, I generally just get hit on by old man creepers. And he's def. not an old man creeper.
DanPiazza
12/09/09, 07:26 AM
this entire thread is too long, i definitely didn't read past page 1.
chassmariee
12/09/09, 07:34 AM
this entire thread is too long, i definitely didn't read past page 1.
Yeah meeither. But back to what she originally posted if you know down to the day how long ago you met him your a total fucking creep. Lay off. It's too late.
TheReckoner
12/09/09, 08:04 AM
Aw, I'm sorry I didn't know you were only 15! But being an adult is cool I guess, I mean there are more things you can legally do haha, but a lot of responsibility too, but I guess only if you chose to accept responsibility and be responsible.
But I'm a pretty good responsible person =) I pay my bills on time, have a degree,etc. etc. I just do not have my own place or a 'real' full-time job (I have two part-time ones) yet.
Enjoy being a teen tho =) I wish I had had more fun as one but I was really shy and just came out of my shell about a year ago.
But I guess everything happens for a reason, so right now I'm making up for lost fun time haha.
Yeah :) I'll just wait till Im older, and enjoy being young while I am.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/09/09, 08:06 AM
Yeah meeither. But back to what she originally posted if you know down to the day how long ago you met him your a total fucking creep. Lay off. It's too late.
Well when truly amazing, awesome guys do not come into your life all that often, yeah you take note.
Especially ones that write their number on your car window within hours of meeting you.
But maybe that's just me.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/09/09, 08:06 AM
Yeah :) I'll just wait till Im older, and enjoy being young while I am.
True dat =)
TheReckoner
12/09/09, 09:32 AM
True dat =)
Thanks for giving me advice in a thread designated for other people to give advice to you. :-)
bstthngunvrhd7
12/09/09, 09:39 AM
Thanks for giving me advice in a thread designated for other people to give advice to you. :-)
No problem =)
And besides, you sent me virtual chicken and Lucky Charms! =)
TheReckoner
12/09/09, 09:39 AM
No problem =)
And besides, you sent me virtual chicken and Lucky Charms! =)
Haha, well yeah. Its what I do.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/09/09, 09:45 AM
Haha, well yeah. Its what I do.
Well it was and is extremely appreciated!! =)
TheReckoner
12/09/09, 09:48 AM
Well it was and is extremely appreciated!! =)
I'm glad.
chassmariee
12/09/09, 10:35 AM
Well when truly amazing, awesome guys do not come into your life all that often, yeah you take note.
Especially ones that write their number on your car window within hours of meeting you.
But maybe that's just me.
Maybe it's a stalker thing.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/09/09, 03:14 PM
Maybe it's a stalker thing.
The whole number thing was meant to give people an idea of how long we had known each other as to if it was an appropriate time to say anything or not and that was it.
bstthngunvrhd7
12/10/09, 07:12 AM
He's gonna have his house to himself for two weeks while his dad is gone so who knows what will go on then, but he at least said I will be invited to the parties he is going to throw.
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