what does my ex want?

[takemyhand]

Me and my ex boyfriend dated on and off for about 2 years, a solid 14 months. We broke up this past August while he was working and I didn't see him for a two week period and we broke up over the phone... so I haven't seen him since then. I've since then moved on and have no feelings at all for him. Anyway, a couple months ago he started texting/IMing me.. nothing like hinting he wanted to get back together, just normal 'how are you' 'what's up', but now he's bringing up us 'catching up' like getting together to get coffee of whatever. I'm fine with being friends with him, but I don't know if he's trying to get us back together? Also, I'm really scared to see him again, I don't know why. Should I just ask him if he still has feelings for me? Just stop talking to him? I don't know, I have a lot going on right now.. and I'm not sure if I'd like to bring a friendship with an ex into the mix. But I definately do not want to bring him back into my life if he still has feelings for me. I wouldn't mind being friends, but I did try something like this with another ex.. things did not end well at all.

[llwilliamsll]

Listen to some Justin Bieber...you'll find your answers there

[swirlofhues]

exes aren't meant to be friends, especially if you dated this guy for 2 years. nothing good can come from this in your future, just cut him off. if you really need to hear him say it, he'll most likely tell you that he hopes you guys can try to work this out relationship-wise

[Brand-new-123]

What is simple in the moonlight by the morning never is.

[iloveanimals]

You basically already answered your own question

[takemyhand]

Listen to some Justin Bieber...you'll find your answers there

What a great idea!

[takemyhand]

exes aren't meant to be friends, especially if you dated this guy for 2 years. nothing good can come from this in your future, just cut him off. if you really need to hear him say it, he'll most likely tell you that he hopes you guys can try to work this out relationship-wise

Yeah that's pretty much what I was thinking, I just wanted confirmation. Thank you.

[takemyhand]

What is simple in the moonlight by the morning never is.

I love that song

[Brand-new-123]

I love that song
:highfive: It's one of my favorites on that record for sure.

[Jake Denning]

My last girlfriend broke up with me around September, then she would txt like 3 weeks later asking for stuff, after she has said that we probably shouldnt talk anymore. She played alot of games for about a month after that, and soon after I pretty much just told her I didnt like it and she said that we should talk anymore.

So i'm a pretty big fan of the "pretend your ex doesnt exist" option.

[Auals]

Me and my ex boyfriend dated on and off for about 2 years, a solid 14 months. We broke up this past August while he was working and I didn't see him for a two week period and we broke up over the phone... so I haven't seen him since then. I've since then moved on and have no feelings at all for him. Anyway, a couple months ago he started texting/IMing me.. nothing like hinting he wanted to get back together, just normal 'how are you' 'what's up', but now he's bringing up us 'catching up' like getting together to get coffee of whatever. I'm fine with being friends with him, but I don't know if he's trying to get us back together? Also, I'm really scared to see him again, I don't know why. Should I just ask him if he still has feelings for me? Just stop talking to him? I don't know, I have a lot going on right now.. and I'm not sure if I'd like to bring a friendship with an ex into the mix. But I definately do not want to bring him back into my life if he still has feelings for me. I wouldn't mind being friends, but I did try something like this with another ex.. things did not end well at all.

I know I may come off as elitist as hell but there's no way I'd WANT to be friends with you/date you if you listened to JB, let alone had his as your avatar on a music website. I'm sure if you just told him of these facts, you wouldn't have an issue anymore :)

On a serious note though, my ex and I dated on and off for three years, it took two years but her and I are great friends now. Plus, I am still friends with all my ex's. I suppose it just doesn't bother me :S

[TSTLSOOM]

anal.

[phil19]

you dont sound that enthused. id suggest to just move on and not see him

[GaryClear]

Let what happens happens. If he's fine being a friend, then let him. Don't let your guard down, though.

[Deadbolt23]

Just say no. If you're not comfortable with it, then you need to tell him.

[takemyhand]

I know I may come off as elitist as hell but there's no way I'd WANT to be friends with you/date you if you listened to JB, let alone had his as your avatar on a music website. I'm sure if you just told him of these facts, you wouldn't have an issue anymore :)

On a serious note though, my ex and I dated on and off for three years, it took two years but her and I are great friends now. Plus, I am still friends with all my ex's. I suppose it just doesn't bother me :S

Hah! JB is awesome.

Yeah I guess I could see the friend thing working out possibly, but I'm still not sure, I just don't want to hurt him or anything.

[maniac R.O.D.]

Listen to some Justin Bieber...you'll find your answers there

perfect.

[takemyhand]

Listen to some Justin Bieber...you'll find your answers there



So I listened to some JB to try and find the answers and here's what I got:

1) My user name is in one of his songs "Take my hand and walk with me I need you to set me free yeah".

2) "I never thought that it'd be easy
Cause we're both so distance now
And the walls are closing in on us
And we're wondering how. "

[Auals]

So I listened to some JB to try and find the answers and here's what I got:

1) My user name is in one of his songs "Take my hand and walk with me I need you to set me free yeah".

2) "I never thought that it'd be easy
Cause we're both so distance now
And the walls are closing in on us
And we're wondering how. "

You don't deserve to have human contact.

[takemyhand]

You don't deserve to have human contact.

Just,

7PttsBv0Apg

[Auals]

Just,

No "just" anything, what are you? Fourteen?

[takemyhand]

No "just" anything, what are you? Fourteen?

No. Eighteen.

[trappedintime]

i had kinda the same thing going on in the beginning of the year. i broke up with this chick who i'd been dating for a little over 2 years. after that, i decided that i didnt really want her in my life anymore. so i just instantly cut off all communication with her. i just really wanted it to be over. i knew for a fact that we couldn't be friends because "things" would happen, you get me? so i cut off my phone, deleted her as a friend wherever, didnt speak to any of her friends or anything and i havent talked to her since. i know you said you'd like being friends with him, but are you positive that it won't lead to anything else like feelings that will begin to grow again? i think it'd be better if you would just truly move on.

[takemyhand]

i had kinda the same thing going on in the beginning of the year. i broke up with this chick who i'd been dating for a little over 2 years. after that, i decided that i didnt really want her in my life anymore. so i just instantly cut off all communication with her. i just really wanted it to be over. i knew for a fact that we couldn't be friends because "things" would happen, you get me? so i cut off my phone, deleted her as a friend wherever, didnt speak to any of her friends or anything and i havent talked to her since. i know you said you'd like being friends with him, but are you positive that it won't lead to anything else like feelings that will begin to grow again? i think it'd be better if you would just truly move on.

Yeah, I'm not like,set on wanting to be friends. I've made new friends and have old friends, it's not like I'm alone. I sort of feel like he might need a friend though, so that's rough. I definitely do not want feelings to start coming back, so I guess maybe I'm scared to see him again or be around him. Also, I'm not the one that initiates text/IM conversations, so should I just ignore him when he does?

[trappedintime]

Yeah, I'm not like,set on wanting to be friends. I've made new friends and have old friends, it's not like I'm alone. I sort of feel like he might need a friend though, so that's rough. I definitely do not want feelings to start coming back, so I guess maybe I'm scared to see him again or be around him. Also, I'm not the one that initiates text/IM conversations, so should I just ignore him when he does?

I get what you're saying about being scared. You totally have reason to be feeling like that because your heart (cheesy, i know) doesn't know how it really feels and you're scared because you don't really know what's right and what's wrong. As for the text/IM, I wouldn't say directly ignore him, just let him down easy. Turn down any invitations and try not to be so interested in the conversation. He'll get the point, but it's up to you to get the point across that nothing can come from just a simple hello.

[zachff]

The fact that you listen to Justin Beiber made me write this snarky post instead of offering you advice. That kid sucks

[sleepyseanzzz]

he obviously wants sex dummy

[isawstars]

Don't do it.

It's way too soon. I became friends with my exes YEARS after we dated. We still don't "catch up." We just chat about music, school, life. You probably have residual feelings for him if you're wondering if he has feelings for you/ wants to get back together--that's natural. I say wait it out before trying out the friend thing.

[maxvsmaradona]

Your ex wants a handie.

[screamoutmyname]

2 years =/= 14 months

[stereokiller]

:highfive: It's one of my favorites on that record for sure.

that will be in my favorite records of all tiem for sure.

:highfive:

[Kozzy333]

He probably just wants to hook up.

[mybreakingpoint]

some people are saying you can't be friends with exes, i think that's completely untrue. i often go to lunch with my most recent ex, i visited another ex while in chicago and she and i go out to lunch or coffee whenever she's in town from college. another ex is one of my best friends who i hang out with regulalrly, including last night. when i go home to oklahoma in the summer and over winter break, i always hang out with one of my exes, and another one of my exes is driving from oklahoma down to houston in 2 weeks to see me, because we're still that close. all of these girls are one's i've dated for 6 months or more each, and i'm still very close friends with all of them. no feelings for them, haven't messed around with any of them since, and we don't even talk about it. not with any of them. and my current girlfriend doesn't care when i spend time with any of them. :shrug: it's more than possible to be friends with your exes; especially when you've dated them for an expended period of time, not being friends with them is almost like cutting out a portion of your life that you're never going to think about or talk about again, and i think that's stupid. i would give the guy a shot. you don't entirely know his intentions, but don't make assumptions. you know what happens when you assume? ;-) give him the benefit of the doubt and go to coffee him. it couldn't hurt.

[KidRobot]

It's really how long the relationship was, how much you did sexually and how it ended.


More than couple months, sex and even slightly emotional and I say no friendship.

[Scrawns]

in the system of fuck buddies, everyone is a winner!

[llwilliamsll]

So I listened to some JB to try and find the answers and here's what I got:

1) My user name is in one of his songs "Take my hand and walk with me I need you to set me free yeah".

2) "I never thought that it'd be easy
Cause we're both so distance now
And the walls are closing in on us
And we're wondering how. "
I was thinking more so 'ONE TIME, ONE TIME'

[Yellowcard2006]

anal.
12 posts to get to anal? In a thread titled "What does my ex want?"

This is shameful AP.net. Shameful.

EDIT: OP is a girl...eh, still works.

[anamericangawd]

Listen to some Justin Bieber...you'll find your answers there
He only tell her one time.

[Kassie09]

Ex boyfriends suck, i wouldnt hang out with him, it always complicates things.

[HometownHero]

Fuck him. See how you feel after that

[HometownHero]

some people are saying you can't be friends with exes, i think that's completely untrue. i often go to lunch with my most recent ex, i visited another ex while in chicago and she and i go out to lunch or coffee whenever she's in town from college. another ex is one of my best friends who i hang out with regulalrly, including last night. when i go home to oklahoma in the summer and over winter break, i always hang out with one of my exes, and another one of my exes is driving from oklahoma down to houston in 2 weeks to see me, because we're still that close. all of these girls are one's i've dated for 6 months or more each, and i'm still very close friends with all of them. no feelings for them, haven't messed around with any of them since, and we don't even talk about it. not with any of them. and my current girlfriend doesn't care when i spend time with any of them. :shrug: it's more than possible to be friends with your exes; especially when you've dated them for an expended period of time, not being friends with them is almost like cutting out a portion of your life that you're never going to think about or talk about again, and i think that's stupid. i would give the guy a shot. you don't entirely know his intentions, but don't make assumptions. you know what happens when you assume? ;-) give him the benefit of the doubt and go to coffee him. it couldn't hurt.
Not everyone lives in The Twilight Zone M-(

[takemyhand]

I was thinking more so 'ONE TIME, ONE TIME'

hahaha yes!

[takemyhand]

in the system of fuck buddies, everyone is a winner!

do not want to be a fuck buddy with him

[takemyhand]

2 years =/= 14 months

I know. I said off and on for 2 years. The beginning of our relationship was off and on, then we dated for 14 months no breaks.

[TSTLSOOM]

12 posts to get to anal? In a thread titled "What does my ex want?"

This is shameful AP.net. Shameful.

EDIT: OP is a girl...eh, still works.
i know, it was so bad that I HAD to do it.

[screamoutmyname]

I know. I said off and on for 2 years. The beginning of our relationship was off and on, then we dated for 14 months no breaks.

ahh, my bad... i'm sorry to hear about the breakup, but it sounds like he kind of still has feelings for you.

last year at this time with my girlfriend of three years and i broke up, and it's a shitty feeling.

[mybreakingpoint]

Not everyone lives in The Twilight Zone M-(
hahaha why is it so weird to be friends with exes? you treat them right, the break up isn't overly dramatic, and you can be friends again. not that difficult, just be a good significant other and you'll be set. :shrug:

[owiseone35]

I say try it you never know what's going to happen just tell him you don't want to get back together prior to meeting face to face.

[Taking_Frags]

If you don't have any feelings for them, then why not catch up? I mean, at one point you would have been willing to give the world for them, so why not see how they have been in a more 'personal' environment? I think if the ex possibly has feelings for you, then they will be the one who will be hurt far more then you will, if it even phases you. Sure, don't fuck them and if anything funny happens, like them telling you they still care, because you don't have any strangling feelings, you can completely cut it off for good, no questions asked.

[screamoutmyname]

or maybe ask him what he's looking for... honesty's the best policy, as they say.

[GetWellBoss]

hahaha why is it so weird to be friends with exes? you treat them right, the break up isn't overly dramatic, and you can be friends again. not that difficult, just be a good significant other and you'll be set. :shrug:

what is being this "good significant other" you speak of?

[mybreakingpoint]

what is being this "good significant other" you speak of?
hahahaha in my case, just being a good boyfriend, i guess. if you treat them well, they'll want to be your friend again eventually, simple as that. assuming one doesn't date nutcases or trainwrecks, that is lol. i've done pretty good at steering clear of those.

[GetWellBoss]

hahahaha in my case, just being a good boyfriend, i guess. if you treat them well, they'll want to be your friend again eventually, simple as that. assuming one doesn't date nutcases or trainwrecks, that is lol. i've done pretty good at steering clear of those.

a) dating those kind of girls you describe first never make good songs.
b) i enjoy dating nutcases. they make life such much more fun and unexpected. haha
and finally c) you wouldnt have sang that bridge if it wasn't for this kind of on again off again romance i had like the OP was talking about. so :-P

[mybreakingpoint]

a) dating those kind of girls you describe first never make good songs.
b) i enjoy dating nutcases. they make life such much more fun and unexpected. haha
and finally c) you wouldnt have sang that bridge if it wasn't for this kind of on again off again romance i had like the OP was talking about. so :-P
hahaha i like to avoid writing songs about girls whenever possible. most anything i would have to say about them will have already been said, so when i can void it, i do :-) but i guess that sort of situation has inspired it's fair share of good tunes over the years haha

[GetWellBoss]

hahaha i like to avoid writing songs about girls whenever possible. most anything i would have to say about them will have already been said, so when i can void it, i do :-) but i guess that sort of situation has inspired it's fair share of good tunes over the years haha

haha. ya. i agree. i dont use them other than a point of reference. like the song you sang on is about that book. I then just used the relationship as the viewpoint. if that makes any sense.

[mybreakingpoint]

haha. ya. i agree. i dont use them other than a point of reference. like the song you sang on is about that book. I then just used the relationship as the viewpoint. if that makes any sense.
no, it definitely does haha. that's sweet man. when are the pressed copies getting in?

[derekmoyer4]

hahaha why is it so weird to be friends with exes? you treat them right, the break up isn't overly dramatic, and you can be friends again. not that difficult, just be a good significant other and you'll be set. :shrug:
you are correct. i agree with you. being friends with your ex is clearly possible. it seems that most people disagree though, i wonder why though?

[takemyhand]

tonight i threw up almost on this guy i like, but it went right next to him :/


but about my ex i think I'm going to tell him I have no feelings for him. And either way, I don't think I want a boyfriend right now.
So I guess I can hang with him if he wants to be friends, I mean thinking back... I saw him everyday.

Just worried that well. I was his first 'love' his first real gf. (he was not my first 'love'). so I know I want to be friends with my first ex, but it fucked my life up. He was so emotional and shit, (he had very bad depression so maybe this ex friendship would turn out different), I'm just scared. I don't want to hurt him..

[HometownHero]

hahaha why is it so weird to be friends with exes? you treat them right, the break up isn't overly dramatic, and you can be friends again. not that difficult, just be a good significant other and you'll be set. :shrug:
I was speaking for everyone else haha my break ups (for the most part) end well. Sometimes its not really fighting its just a no future deal and nothing more then friends will do. Im with ya haha

[HelloxAlone]

Don't fall into it.

[takemyhand]

sorry if that last posted didn't make sense, I'm trying but I'm really out of it right now

[GetWellBoss]

no, it definitely does haha. that's sweet man. when are the pressed copies getting in?

whenever evan officially finishes the artwork. he's had about 4 months so far to do it. hahaha. we did place the order for it though. hopefully we'll get it done sometime this week though.

[c_rob2700]

tonight i threw up almost on this guy i like, but it went right next to him :/


but about my ex i think I'm going to tell him I have no feelings for him. And either way, I don't think I want a boyfriend right now.
So I guess I can hang with him if he wants to be friends, I mean thinking back... I saw him everyday.

Just worried that well. I was his first 'love' his first real gf. (he was not my first 'love'). so I know I want to be friends with my first ex, but it fucked my life up. He was so emotional and shit, (he had very bad depression so maybe this ex friendship would turn out different), I'm just scared. I don't want to hurt him..

We shuud be friends starting toniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiiiiight! Let's be like that shitty U2 song, "I'll Go Crazy If I Don't Go Krazy 2night". Me & you, goiiiiiing nuts, bonkers even! or like that shitty boys like girls song, let's just get drunker and drive around, yeah


You know what's not really funnay but iss hillllllllarious (addddding extra syllllllabbbbles toooo wordssss is raaaaaaaaaaad, like you, pretty betsy ross yoooooooooou) right now?
THIS FUCKING SMILEY
:chewy:

FUCK, JUST LOOK AT IT IT'S CHEWBACCA
AND HE'S FUCKING DANCING
FREE STYLE TOO, HE AIN'T GOT NO RHYME OR REASON
HE'S JUST FUCKING DANCING 'CAUSE HE WANTS TO

Thatss m, relationship advice to you, takemyhand (do u want to take my hand, hellllllls yes you do), JUST FUCKING DANCE. SEE WHERE LIFE TAKES YOU

EDIT: ONNNNNNNNNNNNE MORE TIME WITH FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELIII NG
:chewy::chewy: :chewy::chewy: :chewy:

[anthonydarko]

exes aren't meant to be friends, especially if you dated this guy for 2 years. nothing good can come from this in your future, just cut him off. if you really need to hear him say it, he'll most likely tell you that he hopes you guys can try to work this out relationship-wise
I had to learn that one the hard way.

[anthonydarko]

We shuud be friends starting toniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiiiiight! Let's be like that shitty U2 song, "I'll Go Crazy If I Don't Go Krazy 2night". Me & you, goiiiiiing nuts, bonkers even! or like that shitty boys like girls song, let's just get drunker and drive around, yeah


You know what's not really funnay but iss hillllllllarious (addddding extra syllllllabbbbles toooo wordssss is raaaaaaaaaaad, like you, pretty betsy ross yoooooooooou) right now?
THIS FUCKING SMILEY
:chewy:

FUCK, JUST LOOK AT IT IT'S CHEWBACCA
AND HE'S FUCKING DANCING
FREE STYLE TOO, HE AIN'T GOT NO RHYME OR REASON
HE'S JUST FUCKING DANCING 'CAUSE HE WANTS TO

Thatss m, relationship advice to you, takemyhand (do u want to take my hand, hellllllls yes you do), JUST FUCKING DANCE. SEE WHERE LIFE TAKES YOU

EDIT: ONNNNNNNNNNNNE MORE TIME WITH FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELIII NG
:chewy::chewy: :chewy::chewy: :chewy:
Holy lol

[takemyhand]

We shuud be friends starting toniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiiiiight! Let's be like that shitty U2 song, "I'll Go Crazy If I Don't Go Krazy 2night". Me & you, goiiiiiing nuts, bonkers even! or like that shitty boys like girls song, let's just get drunker and drive around, yeah


You know what's not really funnay but iss hillllllllarious (addddding extra syllllllabbbbles toooo wordssss is raaaaaaaaaaad, like you, pretty betsy ross yoooooooooou) right now?
THIS FUCKING SMILEY
:chewy:

FUCK, JUST LOOK AT IT IT'S CHEWBACCA
AND HE'S FUCKING DANCING
FREE STYLE TOO, HE AIN'T GOT NO RHYME OR REASON
HE'S JUST FUCKING DANCING 'CAUSE HE WANTS TO

Thatss m, relationship advice to you, takemyhand (do u want to take my hand, hellllllls yes you do), JUST FUCKING DANCE. SEE WHERE LIFE TAKES YOU

EDIT: ONNNNNNNNNNNNE MORE TIME WITH FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELIII NG
:chewy::chewy: :chewy::chewy: :chewy:


hahahahahahahaahahahahahahahaahahah ahwtf

[ArtForLovers]

you are correct. i agree with you. being friends with your ex is clearly possible. it seems that most people disagree though, i wonder why though?
I think I would have to disagree with you.
I think it depends on how much history was there and if you were friends before you dated. If dating is all you had between the two of you, then dating is all you know. You may not know how to be friends at that point.

[Taking_Frags]

I think I would have to disagree with you.
I think it depends on how much history was there and if you were friends before you dated. If dating is all you had between the two of you, then dating is all you know. You may not know how to be friends at that point.

Great point.

[derekmoyer4]

I think I would have to disagree with you.
I think it depends on how much history was there and if you were friends before you dated. If dating is all you had between the two of you, then dating is all you know. You may not know how to be friends at that point.
true, there are always circumstances that will vary in each situation. so it must be taken on a case to case basis.

but you disagree, so that must mean you think it is impossible and improbable for it to ever happen? and if not, what specific aspect did you indeed disagree with?

[rollerman4221]

I cut off communication with my x this summer, we were on off for like 6 years and best friends throughout most of it. One of the best decisions I've ever made. I've been drama free for about 4 months now, and only get down about it every few weeks or so.

[trappedintime]

I cut off communication with my x this summer, we were on off for like 6 years and best friends throughout most of it. One of the best decisions I've ever made. I've been drama free for about 4 months now, and only get down about it every few weeks or so.

:highfive: and don't get down on it anymore dude. just move on. we're still young.

[c_rob2700]

We shuud be friends starting toniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiiiiight! Let's be like that shitty U2 song, "I'll Go Crazy If I Don't Go Krazy 2night". Me & you, goiiiiiing nuts, bonkers even! or like that shitty boys like girls song, let's just get drunker and drive around, yeah


You know what's not really funnay but iss hillllllllarious (addddding extra syllllllabbbbles toooo wordssss is raaaaaaaaaaad, like you, pretty betsy ross yoooooooooou) right now?
THIS FUCKING SMILEY
:chewy:

FUCK, JUST LOOK AT IT IT'S CHEWBACCA
AND HE'S FUCKING DANCING
FREE STYLE TOO, HE AIN'T GOT NO RHYME OR REASON
HE'S JUST FUCKING DANCING 'CAUSE HE WANTS TO

Thatss m, relationship advice to you, takemyhand (do u want to take my hand, hellllllls yes you do), JUST FUCKING DANCE. SEE WHERE LIFE TAKES YOU

EDIT: ONNNNNNNNNNNNE MORE TIME WITH FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELIII NG
:chewy::chewy: :chewy::chewy: :chewy:

hahahahahahahaahahahahahahahaahahah ahwtf

:hitself:

[theguy77]

Me and my ex boyfriend dated on and off for about 2 years, a solid 14 months. We broke up this past August while he was working and I didn't see him for a two week period and we broke up over the phone... so I haven't seen him since then. I've since then moved on and have no feelings at all for him. Anyway, a couple months ago he started texting/IMing me.. nothing like hinting he wanted to get back together, just normal 'how are you' 'what's up', but now he's bringing up us 'catching up' like getting together to get coffee of whatever. I'm fine with being friends with him, but I don't know if he's trying to get us back together? Also, I'm really scared to see him again, I don't know why. Should I just ask him if he still has feelings for me? Just stop talking to him? I don't know, I have a lot going on right now.. and I'm not sure if I'd like to bring a friendship with an ex into the mix. But I definately do not want to bring him back into my life if he still has feelings for me. I wouldn't mind being friends, but I did try something like this with another ex.. things did not end well at all.

lol

[theguy77]

We shuud be friends starting toniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiiiiight! Let's be like that shitty U2 song, "I'll Go Crazy If I Don't Go Krazy 2night". Me & you, goiiiiiing nuts, bonkers even! or like that shitty boys like girls song, let's just get drunker and drive around, yeah


You know what's not really funnay but iss hillllllllarious (addddding extra syllllllabbbbles toooo wordssss is raaaaaaaaaaad, like you, pretty betsy ross yoooooooooou) right now?
THIS FUCKING SMILEY
:chewy:

FUCK, JUST LOOK AT IT IT'S CHEWBACCA
AND HE'S FUCKING DANCING
FREE STYLE TOO, HE AIN'T GOT NO RHYME OR REASON
HE'S JUST FUCKING DANCING 'CAUSE HE WANTS TO

Thatss m, relationship advice to you, takemyhand (do u want to take my hand, hellllllls yes you do), JUST FUCKING DANCE. SEE WHERE LIFE TAKES YOU

EDIT: ONNNNNNNNNNNNE MORE TIME WITH FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELIII NG
:chewy::chewy: :chewy::chewy: :chewy:

caleb, you are my hero.

[takemyhand]

lol

I don't understand why that's funny! Unless like the other guy, you think I'm saying 2 years = 14 months.

[lovely864md]

We shuud be friends starting toniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiiiiight! Let's be like that shitty U2 song, "I'll Go Crazy If I Don't Go Krazy 2night". Me & you, goiiiiiing nuts, bonkers even! or like that shitty boys like girls song, let's just get drunker and drive around, yeah


You know what's not really funnay but iss hillllllllarious (addddding extra syllllllabbbbles toooo wordssss is raaaaaaaaaaad, like you, pretty betsy ross yoooooooooou) right now?
THIS FUCKING SMILEY
:chewy:

FUCK, JUST LOOK AT IT IT'S CHEWBACCA
AND HE'S FUCKING DANCING
FREE STYLE TOO, HE AIN'T GOT NO RHYME OR REASON
HE'S JUST FUCKING DANCING 'CAUSE HE WANTS TO

Thatss m, relationship advice to you, takemyhand (do u want to take my hand, hellllllls yes you do), JUST FUCKING DANCE. SEE WHERE LIFE TAKES YOU

EDIT: ONNNNNNNNNNNNE MORE TIME WITH FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELIII NG
:chewy::chewy: :chewy::chewy: :chewy:

I can't stop laughing

[SophGod]

don't talk to ex's. trust me. nothing good comes of it.

[ArtForLovers]

true, there are always circumstances that will vary in each situation. so it must be taken on a case to case basis.

but you disagree, so that must mean you think it is impossible and improbable for it to ever happen? and if not, what specific aspect did you indeed disagree with?
well I thought I just explained it.
But yes, each case is different.

[derekmoyer4]

well I thought I just explained it.
But yes, each case is different.
well i said that is is possible. and you stated that you disagreed. but apparently that was not the case, therefore i have no idea why you put that. oh well.

[ArtForLovers]

well i said that is is possible. and you stated that you disagreed. but apparently that was not the case, therefore i have no idea why you put that. oh well.
this is why you and I would not be friends if we were not dating..
;-)
love you.
I was simply giving you a reason of why it would not be possible. DONE

[rachelscene]

It's called a break up because it's broken and breaks never work dear.

[deathinkosovo]

I don't understand how you can cut someone out of your life completely. One day you're like, "You're hot, sure, I'll fuck you," and the next, there are no feelings there? I find that incredibly hard to believe. That scenario doesn't even play out realistically in my head.

Girls are usually the ones doing the breaking up and breaking off because they know they can move on right away. Which is kind of shitty, because most guys can't. I say, give a dude a break. You date him for two years, you blow him for two years, and you just call it quits? Do you need a new dick that badly? I can understand breaking it off if you've moved on to another guy immediately after him, but if you're single after breaking up, where's the harm in at least seeing each other? Men don't develop infectious diseases as soon as you dump them. It's hard to believe, I know.

[swirlofhues]

I don't understand how you can cut someone out of your life completely. One day you're like, "You're hot, sure, I'll fuck you," and the next, there are no feelings there? I find that incredibly hard to believe. That scenario doesn't even play out realistically in my head.

Girls are usually the ones doing the breaking up and breaking off because they know they can move on right away. Which is kind of shitty, because most guys can't. I say, give a dude a break. You date him for two years, you blow him for two years, and you just call it quits? Do you need a new dick that badly? I can understand breaking it off if you've moved on to another guy immediately after him, but if you're single after breaking up, where's the harm in at least seeing each other? Men don't develop infectious diseases as soon as you dump them. It's hard to believe, I know.

except in her situation, the guy was the one that was ignoring her and staying away from her. there's a few warning signs with going back and being friends with someone you used to date because most the time, either party will want to bring back the relationship aspect of it.

basically, why waste your time feeling like shit or making someone else feel like shit? you could be single and just feel like shit for a few good months and move on with your life. it's just so stupid when there's so many people out there in the world to meet.

[deathinkosovo]

except in her situation, the guy was the one that was ignoring her and staying away from her. there's a few warning signs with going back and being friends with someone you used to date because most the time, either party will want to bring back the relationship aspect of it.

basically, why waste your time feeling like shit or making someone else feel like shit? you could be single and just feel like shit for a few good months and move on with your life. it's just so stupid when there's so many people out there in the world to meet.

Differing opinions. If I dumped a chick and she wanted back with me, I'd consider seeing her on and off till I met someone else to date. I'm not one to assume I'll be able to move on so easily.

[takemyhand]

It's called a break up because it's broken and breaks never work dear.

I know. We're not on a break.. dear.

[takemyhand]

Differing opinions. If I dumped a chick and she wanted back with me, I'd consider seeing her on and off till I met someone else to date. I'm not one to assume I'll be able to move on so easily.

Oh yeah. It's definitely more shitty to cut your ex out of your life completely right after a break up, instead of fucking with them until you get serious with another person. Makes sense.

[eman83]

I know. We're not on a break.. dear.

Maybe in her scene it is.

[rachelscene]

Maybe in her scene it is.
Tehe, fuck you. No, but anytime that you stop seeing someone and then start again, it is a break. And if you are considering being with this person again, then you are on a break.

[takemyhand]

Tehe, fuck you. No, but anytime that you stop seeing someone and then start again, it is a break. And if you are considering being with this person again, then you are on a break.

I don't know where I said I wanted to be back with my ex... but I don't want to.

[deathinkosovo]

Oh yeah. It's definitely more shitty to cut your ex out of your life completely right after a break up, instead of fucking with them until you get serious with another person. Makes sense.

You're a girl. Girls have the ability to move on right away for the sole fact that guys want to bang girls. Most guys, unless they're players or famous, do not have that option.

[anamericangawd]

You're a girl. Girls have the ability to move on right away for the sole fact that guys want to bang girls. Most guys, unless they're players or famous, do not have that option.

reading this has made me realize that i must become a) a player b) famous

[spansen]

14 months = 1 year, 2 months.

[deathinkosovo]

reading this has made me realize that i must become a) a player b) famous

It's true. Let's break this down further, because I know the girl is gonna come back and be all like, "All guys want is sex, which makes moving on hard for us too!" Then I'll tell her to zip her lips and we'll get into a petty message board dispute and one of us will, inevitably, be at the mercy of the other. This is when suicide sets in. One of us will be driven to that brink because, hey, we're two stubborn bulls unready to give up our spots as unpopular posters on this site. Anyway...

Say an average-looking girl breaks up with her average-looking boyfriend. "Average-looking" is still out of most guys' leagues already, so that girl has her pick of the hot guys AND the average guys. Boyfriend of average looks has a much more difficult time moving on because women, like sharks, bloodhounds and pedophiles, can smell an open wound. This disadvantages the guy right off the bat, but his looks do more so. We're at a point where average-looking guys have to shoot a rung lower than "average," because all the average girls are going for guys a run above. Why? Because they can. They know men are stupid and want sex and don't care how bland you are to get it.

This fact annoys girls, though, because they want a guy who is "sensitive," but at the same time, a badass who isn't pussy. Those two traits contradict each other, leaving the girl to settle on some fat dude whom they can whip into submission. (Believe me, I see it in a friend right now. She's cute, perhaps an 8, he's twice her size, maybe a 5. Total doormatting going on in that relationship. She admits to this but says her relationship is "fine." Right.) Average girls, at any time, anywhere, can have probably 10 guys at their beck and call, regardless of their confidence level or horniness factor. Of those 10 guys, 5 are creepzillas, 3 have the confidence of a neutered Woody Allen and 2 are ideal candidates. Two out of 10? 20 percent? Not bad.

Average guys, meanwhile, a completely different story. There are not 10 girls wanting the guy's jock; try 2, maybe 1. And she's fat or has some weird, glitchy mental condition (bi-polar, alcoholism, etc.). So the guy can't really move on because everywhere he goes he either encounters no girls or girls he has no interest in. This causes him to eventually settle as well, eventually falling in love with the less-than-perfect girl (because, realistically, that's all love is: a closeness forged through familiarity acquired through time, capped with sex).

In summation, girls can have any guy they want unless they're deformed, retarded or super heavyweights. Even then, get a decent guy blasted enough one night and she can get lucky. A guy, though? Unless the guy is Zac Efron (or, in the rare case, that chub the cute 8's go for occasionally), he's shit out of luck and forced to settle on one of the two uggos showing interest in him. That is if they show interest. Usually, girls show no interest unless the guy is a super stud.

Thems the breaks.

[takemyhand]

14 months = 1 year, 2 months.

I KNOW.

[anamericangawd]

It's true. Let's break this down further, because I know the girl is gonna come back and be all like, "All guys want is sex, which makes moving on hard for us too!" Then I'll tell her to zip her lips and we'll get into a petty message board dispute and one of us will, inevitably, be at the mercy of the other. This is when suicide sets in. One of us will be driven to that brink because, hey, we're two stubborn bulls unready to give up our spots as unpopular posters on this site. Anyway...

Say an average-looking girl breaks up with her average-looking boyfriend. "Average-looking" is still out of most guys' leagues already, so that girl has her pick of the hot guys AND the average guys. Boyfriend of average looks has a much more difficult time moving on because women, like sharks, bloodhounds and pedophiles, can smell an open wound. This disadvantages the guy right off the bat, but his looks do more so. We're at a point where average-looking guys have to shoot a rung lower than "average," because all the average girls are going for guys a run above. Why? Because they can. They know men are stupid and want sex and don't care how bland you are to get it.

This fact annoys girls, though, because they want a guy who is "sensitive," but at the same time, a badass who isn't pussy. Those two traits contradict each other, leaving the girl to settle on some fat dude whom they can whip into submission. (Believe me, I see it in a friend right now. She's cute, perhaps an 8, he's twice her size, maybe a 5. Total doormatting going on in that relationship. She admits to this but says her relationship is "fine." Right.) Average girls, at any time, anywhere, can have probably 10 guys at their beck and call, regardless of their confidence level or horniness factor. Of those 10 guys, 5 are creepzillas, 3 have the confidence of a neutered Woody Allen and 2 are ideal candidates. Two out of 10? 20 percent? Not bad.

Average guys, meanwhile, a completely different story. There are not 10 girls wanting the guy's jock; try 2, maybe 1. And she's fat or has some weird, glitchy mental condition (bi-polar, alcoholism, etc.). So the guy can't really move on because everywhere he goes he either encounters no girls or girls he has no interest in. This causes him to eventually settle as well, eventually falling in love with the less-than-perfect girl (because, realistically, that's all love is: a closeness forged through familiarity acquired through time, capped with sex).

In summation, girls can have any guy they want unless they're deformed, retarded or super heavyweights. Even then, get a decent guy blasted enough one night and she can get lucky. A guy, though? Unless the guy is Zac Efron (or, in the rare case, that chub the cute 8's go for occasionally), he's shit out of luck and forced to settle on one of the two uggos showing interest in him. That is if they show interest. Usually, girls show no interest unless the guy is a super stud.

Thems the breaks.

The more I think and the more I read, the more I want to make my world a fairy tale of security and happiness.

[deathinkosovo]

The more I think and the more I read, the more I want to make my world a fairy tale of security and happiness.

That's all love is, dude: security and happiness. Reliance. It's disgusting. Why do people date other people for extended periods of time? If you're a girl, because your boy has a car, has a job, is successful and can bang you when you want it. Guys have no problem doing that. Security breeds happiness (is a dog formerly without a home not forever loyal to its owner?). And happiness relays reliance. Once one partner relies on the other, fuck, it's marriage time. I mean, isn't that the perfect foundation for a marriage? Some babies?

OK, other side of the coin: Why do guys date girls for as long as they do? Not security. They're men! They're big, they're brutish, they're already secure. Happiness? Sure. I feel pretty damn spiffy when I date people. And that, too, turns to reliance. (Very cyclical, love.) Oh, and there's the sex factor. Just keep that in there.

[anamericangawd]

That's all love is, dude: security and happiness. Reliance. It's disgusting. Why do people date other people for extended periods of time? If you're a girl, because your boy has a car, has a job, is successful and can bang you when you want it. Guys have no problem doing that. Security breeds happiness (is a dog formerly without a home not forever loyal to its owner?). And happiness relays reliance. Once one partner relies on the other, fuck, it's marriage time. I mean, isn't that the perfect foundation for a marriage? Some babies?

OK, other side of the coin: Why do guys date girls for as long as they do? Not security. They're men! They're big, they're brutish, they're already secure. Happiness? Sure. I feel pretty damn spiffy when I date people. And that, too, turns to reliance. (Very cyclical, love.) Oh, and there's the sex factor. Just keep that in there.

Yeah, this is what I mean. I'm exactly this cynical and I want to keep this worldview as a worldview. I'm too good for this shit and I know it. Whether I actually AM or not is irrelevant because all of this is just a dream anyway, as far as I know.
I will find a girl who is too good for this shit too. There's one out there because I say there is. I don't have time for idiot bitches.
I'll find this girl and we will bang and live together and be happily cynical. Comf.....

Alright, no, I don't know what I want, and I'm sure she doesn't exist. I'm tired.

So I stopped and wondered aloud why I'm writing a history paper right now, and if any of this even matters. I've got some kind of weird throat issues going on right now. Dunno why. I'm gonna call in sick tomorrow and finish my paper then. And if I don't make this submission or something, then it's just too bad. I've got a 90 in this class anyway. It's 4 AM. Sleep is more important than this right now.

I keep wondering if any of this is worth the trouble...

[deathinkosovo]

Throat issues suck. Check for tonsillitis or strep. If you don't notice any whiteish or yellow bacterial spots, you're fine. If you do, call a doctorb.

[apoemtothedead]

exes aren't meant to be friends, especially if you dated this guy for 2 years. nothing good can come from this in your future, just cut him off. if you really need to hear him say it, he'll most likely tell you that he hopes you guys can try to work this out relationship-wise
So our trip to Canada meant nothing to you?!?!?! :-(

[samsara]

Listen to some Justin Bieber...you'll find your answers there

I would listen to this guys advice. Its solid.

[inthisunravelin]

He wants y0' pusssssssssssssssy
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