Good music to get over someone

[alettertodillon]

So this girl that I think I might be in love with, decides now is a good time to tell me she's in love with her ex boyfriend of 3 years. Being a musician, I know music of all things is the best remedy for a heart break. Any suggestions?
Preferably nothing relate-able in the heart-break area.

[Deadbolt23]

write your own music. it's the best outlet.

[cshadows2887]

write your own music. it's the best outlet.

This.

Though if that fails, listen to Fall Out Boy's Take This to Your Grave and hope she dies.

[LoginBanned]

This.

Though if that fails, listen to Fall Out Boy's Take This to Your Grave and hope she dies.

Awesome, glad there are still people close to my age who admit to liking Fall Out Boy.

[iarelevy]

Awesome, glad there are still people close to my age who admit to liking Fall Out Boy.

haha i still enjoy FOB as well.

but yes, i agree, writing your own music is definitely one of the better choices. i have also found that when i'm not feeling so delightful i always throw in New Found Glory and they always work - try listening to "Don't Let Her Pull You Down" off their 2009 album "Not Without A Fight"

also, Hit the Lights - Drop the Girl (and pretty much their whole Skip School, Start Fights album) is always a good listen.

and maybe A Day To Remember - Heartless - at least read the lyrics if you don't like the song.

hope that helps a little. music is always the answer.

[stereokiller]

naive orleans!

[overdrive91]

battle studies- john mayer. The man has it nailed down.

[cshadows2887]

Awesome, glad there are still people close to my age who admit to liking Fall Out Boy.

I don't go in for ship-jumping bullshit once a band becomes successful. Drives me nuts. That record is perfect. And their newest one is great too.

[emoishardcore]

i wouldn't play anything terribly sad. sad music about breaking up, although relate able is also depressing. also, does anyone else have the problem of playing certain music when your in a relationship and then when you break up no longer being able to enjoy it? i'm 25 and i still continually get upset that i can't enjoy certain bands because they remind me of those times.

honestly i like listening to good, easy listening tunes like XO or even ace enders. hope all works out man, never easy with these things :/

[Rob Hrx]

Yeah. In a similar vein to the posts about ruining music you associated with the relationship itself, if you rely too much on a particular artist when you break up, you run the risk of associating them with that shitty recovery time as well. I almost did that with Ryan Adams - who, incidentally, is a great break-up artist imo - but the quality of the music rescued it.

So, in conclusion, my personal recommendation if you actually feel like being sad is Ryan Adams' Heartbreaker, and in particular 'Come Pick Me Up' and 'Call Me On Your Way Back Home'. And 'To Be Young'.

And despite all the shit it got on this site, I actually found Taking Back Sunday's New Again pretty helpful too. Good luck!

[kingspud]

everytime i die!
" she sure as hell ain't you,
but lords knows she'll have to do!
She don't know who i am but then neither do i,
so there's nothing left to loose!

"I'd love to watch you walk away but you probablt won't be back in time to hear it, so it's just aswell... i'm a fuckin cassanova!"

[cshadows2887]

also, does anyone else have the problem of playing certain music when your in a relationship and then when you break up no longer being able to enjoy it? i'm 25 and i still continually get upset that i can't enjoy certain bands because they remind me of those times.
Absolutely. I'm 22 and I do it as well. Though with a few bands I've had an opposite reaction. I got a casual interest in Taylor Swift and Taking Back Sunday as a result of my last ex. When we split less than amicably, I got into them full-force and more or less "claimed" them for myself. Now they were my bands instead of hers. Not sure if I lucked into it or not, but it gives me a bit of a win feeling.

And despite all the shit it got on this site, I actually found Taking Back Sunday's New Again pretty helpful too. Good luck!
I agree. Not only do I love that album (an unpopular opinion) but the fact that it's all about his breakup doesn't hurt, since he's always been a mean sonofabitch to his ex's via song. And if you were the one to fuck it up, there's no better song than "Where My Mouth Is" for wallowing in self-pity. Haha.

[And Hours Pass]

Awesome, glad there are still people close to my age who admit to liking Fall Out Boy.

Count me as another.

battle studies- john mayer. The man has it nailed down.

This. If there were a perfect record for break-ups released in the past year, it would be this one.

I don't go in for ship-jumping bullshit once a band becomes successful. Drives me nuts. That record is perfect. And their newest one is great too.

This.

[mulcahy67]

everytime i die!
" she sure as hell ain't you,
but lords knows she'll have to do!
She don't know who i am but then neither do i,
so there's nothing left to loose!

"I'd love to watch you walk away but you probablt won't be back in time to hear it, so it's just aswell... i'm a fuckin cassanova!"

"hey girls, im a cunt!"

[ted is lying]

i wouldn't play anything terribly sad. sad music about breaking up, although relate able is also depressing. also, does anyone else have the problem of playing certain music when your in a relationship and then when you break up no longer being able to enjoy it? i'm 25 and i still continually get upset that i can't enjoy certain bands because they remind me of those times.

honestly i like listening to good, easy listening tunes like XO or even ace enders. hope all works out man, never easy with these things :/
That is why I always date girls who get their music from MTV, you never got to worry about that it affecting what you like.

[kbi the crowing]

everytime i die!
" she sure as hell ain't you,
but lords knows she'll have to do!
She don't know who i am but then neither do i,
so there's nothing left to loose!

"I'd love to watch you walk away but you probablt won't be back in time to hear it, so it's just aswell... i'm a fuckin cassanova!"

beat me to it

"hey there, girls, im a cunt!"

out of all of his really clever and intelligent lines, this one gets stuck in my head too often
(fixed)

[jeremyc]

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[kingspud]

i know its wrong to swallow when you head is overturned...

"hey girls, im a cunt!"


that's about choking on semen i believe

[NickPeerSays]

If you're going for a better mood maybe give Owl City - Ocean Eyes a shot, thats been cheering me up lately.
Theres a lot of good Alkaline Trio and Dashboard songs out there. Everyone else had good picks too.

[NickPeerSays]

And if that doesn't work, toss in the new Architects record.

[bigoleP33N]

battle studies- john mayer. The man has it nailed down.
This. I went through the same problem with a girl. This album definitely help me get over it.

[EvilZeppelin]

http://mediatmp.epitaph.com/newfoundglory/m/09/2/header.jpg

[vickasaur_xoxo]

"Someday You Will Be Loved (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/deathcabforcutie/somedayyouwillbeloved.html)" by Death Cab For Cutie always works for me.

Also "Still (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/mattnathanson/still.html)" by Matt Nathanson.

These give me something to hope for.

[ted is lying]

"Someday You Will Be Loved (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/deathcabforcutie/somedayyouwillbeloved.html)" by Death Cab For Cutie always works for me.
I saw go the opposite direction with I will possess your heart- Death Cab for Cutie.
Nothing helps you get over a girl quite like a rape.

Joking of course.

[vickasaur_xoxo]

I saw go the opposite direction with I will possess your heart- Death Cab for Cutie.
Nothing helps you get over a girl quite like a rape.

Joking of course.

hah, nice.
maybe the girl that he dumped in "Someday You Will Be Loved",
he wants back in "I Will Possess Your Heart".

or like what you said...he just wants to rape her XD

[ted is lying]

hah, nice.
maybe the girl that he dumped in "Someday You Will Be Loved",
he wants back in "I Will Possess Your Heart".

or like what you said...he just wants to rape her XD
Maybe she put him in the friend zone
http://i251.photobucket.com/albums/gg317/hahaddiiee/Courage-Wolf-She-put-you-in-friend-.jpg

[vickasaur_xoxo]

Maybe she put him in the friend zone
http://i251.photobucket.com/albums/gg317/hahaddiiee/Courage-Wolf-She-put-you-in-friend-.jpg

That's never a good place to be when you want to rape someone.
but i'm pretty sure that your never in a good place if you want to rape someone.
lawlz.

[Thriftstoresuit]

um, how about any song off Dog Problems

[ted is lying]

That's never a good place to be when you want to rape someone.
but i'm pretty sure that your never in a good place if you want to rape someone.
lawlz.
For the past week I been trying to use that picture in as many thread as I can. I say success!

[ted is lying]

um, how about any song off Dog Problems
Not Inches and Falling, the whole song is about how much you love, love.

[x1onexwo1fx]

taking back sunday - tell all your friends.

obvious answer is obvious.

[pr0digy]

some jimmy eat world maybe?

[DejaGuy89]

So this girl that I think I might be in love with, decides now is a good time to tell me she's in love with her ex boyfriend of 3 years. Being a musician, I know music of all things is the best remedy for a heart break. Any suggestions?
Preferably nothing relate-able in the heart-break area.


Alkaline Trio, Brand New- your favorite weapon, FOB- take this to your grave, Motion City Soundtrack- Commit This to Memory, Glassjaw- Everything You ever wanted to know about silence, and Most Taylor Swift songs

[ted is lying]

Maybe the best music is something which will have nothing to do with the situation at hand, try Panic at the disco. I dont even think they know what their singing about.

[vickasaur_xoxo]

Maybe the best music is something which will have nothing to do with the situation at hand, try Panic at the disco. I dont even think they know what their singing about.

hah, agreed.
Might be the reason why they broke up.

[ted is lying]

hah, agreed.
Might be the reason why they broke up.
Music is suppose to mend broken hearts not create them.

[Yellowcard2006]

Bayside- S/T

[Blaise&Panthia.]

Misogynistic hip hop.

[bNz719]

Hate Everyone by Say Anything :shrug:

[MattADALIE]

Aside from writing your own music as an outlet (you can definitely come up with some really decent songs with authentic emotions), pop in Huey Lewis and the News' greatest hits album. It'll cheer you right up.

[rosielikesyou]

Anberlin - Naive Orleans
"And I've finally found that life goes on without you, and the world still turns when you're not around."

[ted is lying]

Anberlin - Naive Orleans
"And I've finally found that life goes on without you, and the world still turns when you're not around."
I feel like every anberlin song is good for every situation.

[denissuxx]

The Format. Dog Problems. Listen. To. It.

[Sventhegreat]

Any of Bon Iver's songs.

[TheRxBandit]

if you're trying to be happy, listen to Ska. Reel Big Fish has so many ridiculous break up songs.

[overdrive91]

if you're trying to be happy, listen to Ska. Reel Big Fish has so many ridiculous break up songs.

I hate you,fuck you, leave me alone haha.
She's got a girlfriend now.
Does beer count as a break up song?

[songydarko]

Never play sad music when you're sad, that's all I can say. I do that too often, worst idea.

[Car Crash Dream]

haha i still enjoy FOB as well.

but yes, i agree, writing your own music is definitely one of the better choices. i have also found that when i'm not feeling so delightful i always throw in New Found Glory and they always work - try listening to "Don't Let Her Pull You Down" off their 2009 album "Not Without A Fight"

also, Hit the Lights - Drop the Girl (and pretty much their whole Skip School, Start Fights album) is always a good listen.

and maybe A Day To Remember - Heartless - at least read the lyrics if you don't like the song.

hope that helps a little. music is always the answer.

EDIT: Heartless, that is.
love the last line in that song: Do the world a favor, stop cutting your arms and slit your throat.
fucking awesome.

[Knatuhlee]

naive orleans!

this one has got to be the greatest!

[alettertodillon]

write your own music. it's the best outlet.

I do write my own, but it's not helpful because I just write about like.. her. still. and I'm trying to put her in the back of my mind, not keep thinking about things.
I know if it's in the back of my mind it's still there, but maybe won't be as prevalent in my life and will make it easier to get over.
You can only write so many break-up songs before it gets ridiculous and counter-productive ya know

[alettertodillon]

battle studies- john mayer. The man has it nailed down.
dude i'm listening

dude! i'm listening to who says right now hahahah. win!

[alettertodillon]

i wouldn't play anything terribly sad. sad music about breaking up, although relate able is also depressing. also, does anyone else have the problem of playing certain music when your in a relationship and then when you break up no longer being able to enjoy it? i'm 25 and i still continually get upset that i can't enjoy certain bands because they remind me of those times.

honestly i like listening to good, easy listening tunes like XO or even ace enders. hope all works out man, never easy with these things :/

Yeah, we recorded with Ace Enders over the summer. Cool dude, great music.

the only problem is.. 1000 times a day was kind of our jam, as well as many other peoples too i'm sure.

[alettertodillon]

"Someday You Will Be Loved (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/deathcabforcutie/somedayyouwillbeloved.html)" by Death Cab For Cutie always works for me.

Also "Still (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/mattnathanson/still.html)" by Matt Nathanson.

These give me something to hope for.

Death Cab was our thing as well as Matt Nathanson. She was obsessed with Owl City, and Taylor Swift.
Like this girl had awesome music taste, so I gotta think outside of the box.
Battle Studies by John Mayer seems to be putting me in a better mood. The man has a way with words for sure.

[kieza]

Never play sad music when you're sad, that's all I can say. I do that too often, worst idea.

Yeah that is so true, I think I'm addicted to feeling like shit when I feel like shit already, so stay off the mushy shit-its just not healthy!

Alkaline Trio are a good shout, "This is getting over you", "My Friend Peter" and "Jaked on Green Beers" all good break up songs but there are plenty more.

[cshadows2887]

Aside from writing your own music as an outlet (you can definitely come up with some really decent songs with authentic emotions), pop in Huey Lewis and the News' greatest hits album. It'll cheer you right up.

Wow. I can't even express my pleasant surprise at seeing a recommendation for Huey. I really hope you weren't being ironic, cause that's awesome.

[MattADALIE]

Wow. I can't even express my pleasant surprise at seeing a recommendation for Huey. I really hope you weren't being ironic, cause that's awesome.

I wasn't. Thanks to watching the Back to the Future movies since my early childhood, I easily developed into a Huey fan. I've had their greatest hits album in my collection for a while and it's definitely something that cheers me up if I'm down. Sure, it can get cheesy sometimes, but, their friendly brand of pop-rock really works.

[cshadows2887]

I wasn't. Thanks to watching the Back to the Future movies since my early childhood, I easily developed into a Huey fan. I've had their greatest hits album in my collection for a while and it's definitely something that cheers me up if I'm down. Sure, it can get cheesy sometimes, but, their friendly brand of pop-rock really works.

There's never anything wrong with well-played pop music. If you ever want to branch beyond their greatest hits, Sports and Fore! are pretty great records.

[TheRxBandit]

I hate you,fuck you, leave me alone haha.
She's got a girlfriend now.
Does beer count as a break up song?
haha yes Beer definitely counts.

and every album, especially Cheer Up!, has like 4 or 5 songs solely about girls and how bad they suck hahaha.

[matt_bergeron]

http://www.myspace.com/gloryholepop

perfect

[overdrive91]

dude i'm listening

dude! i'm listening to who says right now hahahah. win!

Glad i could help. That album is perfect for this situation . Wait till you hear perfectly lonely.

haha yes Beer definitely counts.

and every album, especially Cheer Up!, has like 4 or 5 songs solely about girls and how bad they suck hahaha.

Their live album is probably the best and funniest thing ever. I love reel big fish. The version of talk dirty to me and brown eyed girl is superior to every other cover.

[songydarko]

Yeah that is so true, I think I'm addicted to feeling like shit when I feel like shit already, so stay off the mushy shit-its just not healthy!

Alkaline Trio are a good shout, "This is getting over you", "My Friend Peter" and "Jaked on Green Beers" all good break up songs but there are plenty more.
True that. Listening to depressing music makes me ten times more depressed.

[argg_xo]

I never understood the whole listening to sad, depressed music when you are sad or depressed, it's too much for me.

[cshadows2887]

True that. Listening to depressing music makes me ten times more depressed.

I think a period of wallowing and/or mourning is acceptable/healthy. It's just a matter of keeping that period relatively short and getting back on the horse. So listen to The Places You Have Come to Fear the Most for a few days if you feel the need. Then move on to some Brand New/FOB fuck you music.

[ThatColdPart]

Brand New - Your Favorite Weapon.
So obvious.

[songydarko]

I think a period of wallowing and/or mourning is acceptable/healthy. It's just a matter of keeping that period relatively short and getting back on the horse. So listen to The Places You Have Come to Fear the Most for a few days if you feel the need. Then move on to some Brand New/FOB fuck you music.
Yeah, definitely. I think we all need our moments sometimes.

[HometownHero]

I got 99 problems but a bitch aint one

[overdrive91]

I never understood the whole listening to sad, depressed music when you are sad or depressed, it's too much for me.

I think its just nice to know that other people go through the same shit and what not. Others want to be depressed to the point where they vent out and get it out of their system. That's the way i feel.

[Illadelphia]

There's a song by Acceptance called Over you, pretty literal haha, but maybe it'll help.

[Sic Transit Zeb]

My hidden track---hey love

[yayitsjoe]

i second the "heartless" by a day to remember suggestion.

[PopPunkKid]

Weezer- Pinkerton
The Format- Dog Problems
Jimmy Eat World- Futures
Saves The Day- Stay What You Are
Fall Out Boy- Take This To Your Grave
Motion City Soundtrack- Commit This To Memory
Brand New- Your Favorite Weapon

[argg_xo]

I think its just nice to know that other people go through the same shit and what not. Others want to be depressed to the point where they vent out and get it out of their system. That's the way i feel.
I understand that feeling, I'm just saying that I personally can't listen to music like that to make myself more depressed. I tend to want to listen to songs that will motivate me or think about other things, but that's just my opinion.

[stereokiller]

this one has got to be the greatest!

oh yes it's the best!

[Echo Park]

the only song anyone needs to listen to in order to get over a break up is



Ok Go- Get Over It

[xmicxcorex]

Emmure - False Love In Real Life

[sandra92]

Muse - Uno

[Alaina <3]

For some reason, after my boyfriend dumped me, Green Day's 'Redundant' made me feel better.

[Alex DiVincenzo]

The Starting Line - "Decisions Decisions"
I can wait until my heart mends so I can finally go outside and I tell myself, look Ken, It's better to lost love then paint a smile and pretend .

The Starting Line - "Cut! Print It"
I guess I'll cut my losses cause I lost a lot. I guess I'll quit complaining and I'll starting walking it off. Because there is no point in living in a past with that unhappiness.

Punchline - "Somewhere in the Dark"
I've got some news, I might like it better without you, baby. What does that prove? The moments passed and I am fast asleep, hey.

Reggie and the Full Effect - "Playing Dead"
Here's where your story ends. Here's where my life begins.

Reggie and the Full Effect - "What the Hell is Contempt?"
Your piece of me is. Fading part of me is done. Saw you from far away and lost you in the sun. So far, so long.

Cinematic Sunrise - "Pulling a Piano From a Pond"
I never thought I'd leave here without you. Now I know that this is the way. I think that maybe I'm better off, maybe I'm better off.

[fishguts182]

hope - the descendants

[Montauk1222]

Might get hated on for the selection but when my ex-girlfriend cheated on me Emmure's Goodbye To The Gallows really worked well. And as someone said in a previous page Bayside's Self-Titled is pretty excellent with the situation.

[benandthesounds]

Say Anything. Bemis writes (and shouts) from the heart on his sleeve. It's like coming up for air.

[Jake Denning]

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Desert dry and tired, sleeping underneath the stars. Longing for, but still laughing the whole time, that piece that makes you "whole"

Spiral downward. Mesmerized the way down

Destiny sure had a plan for me. Its nothing new for some of you, a siren's song to get you through.

All the while, never knowing "it could be worse."
I just wish we didn't have to sing this song first.

Destiny sure had a plan for me. Its nothing new for some of you, a siren's song to get you through. So once again

I'll yell some sad, sorry, and not so sympathetic story, a long list of letdowns and loves lost.

I'll only let it ruin today...

[Sloth7]

This oughta do the trick...



http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9D85IT7LaBc/ScadxHVfGCI/AAAAAAAAB94/3gITUJQ9vZA/s320/00-Glassjaw+-+Everything+You+Ever+Wanted+To+Know +About+Silence+%28Remastered%29.jpg

[Jennurna Gray]

All my music does the opposite. I listen to the same sappy love songs I always have, but now they just remind me of someone. There's a few songs I can't even listen to without a little bit of lonliness and missing him. >_<
That's what I also get for getting all of my music from him, reminders and remembrances in every song.

[f00te]

naive orleans!

great song by Anberlin

[vickasaur_xoxo]

Death Cab was our thing as well as Matt Nathanson. She was obsessed with Owl City, and Taylor Swift.
Like this girl had awesome music taste, so I gotta think outside of the box.
Battle Studies by John Mayer seems to be putting me in a better mood. The man has a way with words for sure.

John Mayer is pretty amazing.
Try some Abient. Maybe that'll help.

"The World Is Our ___" -This Will Destroy You
Explosions In The Sky

These seem to relax me.

[Echo Park]

in case you want to remember that special someone and just have a long cry, then the song to do that is

Ok Go- Return.

If you don't breakdown, then you are probably over it:-)

Y1rWUEtx9No

[chassmariee]

This oughta do the trick...



http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9D85IT7LaBc/ScadxHVfGCI/AAAAAAAAB94/3gITUJQ9vZA/s320/00-Glassjaw+-+Everything+You+Ever+Wanted+To+Know +About+Silence+%28Remastered%29.jpg
Pretty much, you fucking whorrrrrre! lol

[holyballs]

Descendents/All, every other answer is inferior.

[caress me down]

If you're ever in the angry stage, the Used self titled is helpful.

[suplina]

Hoodrat, by Ligeia

[war_Bhavini]

187 By Senses Fail
The Pro's and Cons of Breathing - Fall Out Boy
My Apocalypse - Escape the Fate
These songs more like make you drown in your misery..But at the same time..make you feel good. :)