struggling to feel better

[narccisst]

i broke up with my boyfriend last week. we had been together a year and a half and were living together.
he ended it.
i have been having issues with my family related to christmas, i was kinda aware i was taking it out on him but didnt think i was being unreasonable for being so upset. it was only over the last couple of weeks and we were so happy before that. i feel incredibly deserted.

i now feel so lost. i cant sleep. dont feel like eating and feel constantly on edge. i try to just get on with life and hang out with friends and go out and stuff but when it comes to going home at night and not having him lay snoring away next to me is incredibly painful. i do believe there could be hope, but im not sure its healthy to go back there.

i just dont know what to do to feel more normal and slightly happier.

[burntheaction]

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. It's strange that he would just break up with you when you're having problems though, instead of trying to work through it. Or was he trying to help but in turn you ended up pushing him away/taking it out on him?
I don't know if it would be worth trying to go back to someone like that. You're still young, and you deserve someone who cares about you so much that they're willing to stay by your side and work through any problems, no matter what life throws at you...
As for now, I suggest just try and keep yourself busy. The first few weeks will always be hard, but it sounds like you're doing the right thing: see friends more, enjoy not having to worry about anyone but yourself and you'll soon start feeling better. Maybe ask one of them if you can go stay with them so you don't have to come back to your empty bed at night time.

[Kassie09]

Sounds like he broke up to you for another reason and is using that as an excuse, thus him being a douchebag.

[LikeSwingSets]

i haven't got much in the way of advice but i certainly have enough in the way of ears.

if you wanna talk about it in any way just message me. even if you just feel angry and want a rant or anything like that, i'll listen and try and help out as much as i can :)

[Domcakes]

It's important to remember that everything will get better with time. It's expected for you to feel sad or a little depressed, but just try to remember the bad things about your relationship; if you spend too much time missing him or dwelling on what once was, you'll only beat yourself up even more. Spend time with friends and family and try to forget about him.
I left my last relationship of two and a half years feeling the same way you do, but it's been over a year now and I can finally see how much better things are without her.
If you think there is still hope, it might be a good idea to weigh the pros and cons of trying to get him back. I don't know the full story, but from the looks of it, it looks like he doesn't deserve your attention anymore.

In any event, I hope you start to feel better soon. :)

[narccisst]

Sounds like he broke up to you for another reason and is using that as an excuse, thus him being a douchebag.


i was thinking that.im not sure if i should be really angry or not.

[And Hours Pass]

i was thinking that.im not sure if i should be really angry or not.
Did he not give you any reasoning? He just said we're over?

[narccisst]

there was no reasoning.

as for the pros and cons. im not sure if we were really that happy. but the epty hollow feeling i have now if worse than him being kinda distant sometimes.

i just miss him and cant understand how someone could just throw a relationship that supposedly meant so much to him down the drain over me being a bit moody.

[SomedayTheFire]

Sounds like he broke up to you for another reason and is using that as an excuse, thus him being a douchebag.
Pretty much my thoughts.

[terror_91]

I think that the only way you can get over this is to post naked pictures.

Please proceed.

[Sventhegreat]

Just wait for a while. This is only a temporary thing, he obviously just has a bunch of shit on his mind that he needs to take care of. I think he is just looking for some space.

[schenksta]

Rebound sex.

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[sleepyseanzzz]

go to the gym. trust me.

[saturday_snow_squall]

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[schenksta]

youch. http://fuckthatband.com/ should cheer you up. hahahahahaha

That website is so full of win it hurts.

[saab_girl]

there was no reasoning.

as for the pros and cons. im not sure if we were really that happy. but the epty hollow feeling i have now if worse than him being kinda distant sometimes.

i just miss him and cant understand how someone could just throw a relationship that supposedly meant so much to him down the drain over me being a bit moody.


I know exactly how you feel. But, sad to say, there are just some things in life that we can't find the answer to. Try getting mad at the situation instead of upset. Yeah, it hurts, but there are other fish in the sea. Be happy for yourself and no one else. Him seeing you happy would be the best revenge. You don't need someone who is just going to desert you like that!