so i'm dating a girl with a boyfriend...

[mikeXXXnj]

i've been seeing this girl for about a month now. she has a boyfriend of a year and change. He doesn't compliment her at all, they're complete opposites. she has told me on several occasions how compatible we are and how i'm everything she looks for in a guy. She's scared to leave this guy, she's afraid of having to see him everyday because they have a class together. She's says she comfortable with him but she's not sure if she likes him anymore. He's a total douche to her, she lost a family member recently and he told her to get over it. He calls her fat when she's not fat at all. She's everything i look for in a girl, and i have really high standards. I hate dealing with her having a boyfriend, but i'm not ready to give up on this relationship because i feel like it could go somewhere if i can break his emotional hold on her. what would you do?

[rising_tied]

Dude honestly..... This is her problem not yours. If shes shady she can just be playing you to get a lil sumsum while shes dating the dude she wants... If what she tells you is 100% legit then you gotta tell her straight up that that shit bothers you. Thats bullshit that sh wants to hold on to 2 dudes. But yea tell her the truth man. Bring up how she says that you 2 are perfect together and how your this and that and tell her who gives a fuck if you see him everyday if your with the person you truley want to be with

[zion the lion]

She's not going to leave him. You arent capable of breaking the "emotional hold" he has on her. Give up and find someone who's actually emotionally available instead.

[warstory]

tl;dr verson- She's afraid to leave him because they have a class together? Sounds like she is making excuses. I only say this because I was with a guy who was a similar type of douche (insensitive when my mother was dying, also would call me fat) but for 4 years. It took me a while to leave this guy when the bs started (probably a good year) and there were plenty of people who came along that were like you. We fit and were very compatable and I wanted to be with them but still for some reason stuck with the ass hole I was currently with. This was jsut my experience though.. I have no idea what either of your situations are like. Since you really seem to like this girl I would say don't get in too deep with her until she leaves her boyfriend.

in short- tell her to leave the ass hole and ask her to be with you. :)

[Kassie09]

Tell her to break up with him or to fuck off..?

[pr0digy]

Run while you can, there are tons of other girls out there....

[billyboatkid]

Poor decisions. What makes you think she won't do the same thing to you.. Just think about that.

[schenksta]

Give her an ultimatum to choose either you or him.

[bNz719]

Been in this situation a couple times. It's not worth it. You'll find yourself hurting in no time. Tell her that she's either going out with you or him, no middle ground. If she asks why you're doing this, tell her a kid on AP told you to. ;-)

[timb89]

haha i bet you she is fat.

[Fringe]

What's the worst that could happens if he's in her class? Awkwardness?

I would explain to her that the benefits outweigh the consequences.

[deathinkosovo]

She's not going to leave him. You arent capable of breaking the "emotional hold" he has on her. Give up and find someone who's actually emotionally available instead.

This. I know a girl the same way, except she's been going at it much, much longer. Says she loves the guy, but constantly badmouths him, emotionally and physically. Oh, he can't communicate. Oh, he's too fat. It's obvious something is up with her but she'll never admit it because she knows nothing outside a relationship. Fear is a huge motivator for people to stay in relationships, whether that's fear of seeing someone after it's over, or fear of not knowing what to do. It's annoying, sure, but there's not much guys can really do about it but let them suffer and eventually get engaged and let them see the mess they've created for themselves. Sometimes it's not until they've blown through a shit-ton of money and taken a good, hard look at what their life would be with the guy in question that something happens. But until then...

[Taking_Frags]

why the fuck would you get involved in this? You sir, are rebbbooounnnddd to the max.

[sleepyseanzzz]

if she's cheating on him with you after a year and some change what makes you think she won't cheat on you with him or someone else after a couple years?

[Esrb99]

wait till she leaves. give her time to sort her life out. then, resume dating. You'll thank me later.

[apresnuledeluge]

why the fuck would you get involved in this? You sir, are rebbbooounnnddd to the max.

yep.
you're getting played.

[kbi the crowing]

i've been seeing this girl for about a month now. she has a boyfriend of a year and change. He doesn't compliment her at all, they're complete opposites. she has told me on several occasions how compatible we are and how i'm everything she looks for in a guy. She's scared to leave this guy, she's afraid of having to see him everyday because they have a class together. She's says she comfortable with him but she's not sure if she likes him anymore. He's a total douche to her, she lost a family member recently and he told her to get over it. He calls her fat when she's not fat at all. She's everything i look for in a girl, and i have really high standards. I hate dealing with her having a boyfriend, but i'm not ready to give up on this relationship because i feel like it could go somewhere if i can break his emotional hold on her. what would you do?

she's comfortable dating two guys at once....
I'd drop it until her shit's resolved, if not drop it completely

[AndrewIcex]

wait till she leaves. give her time to sort her life out. then, resume dating. You'll thank me later.
I agree with this.

[blotto]

you need to kick that bitch to the curb

[DCD08]

is this a serious thread?

holy shit dude. i mean read the title you gave it, swish it around in your head a little bit.

and then answer this question: what the fuck are you doing?

[CTMarshall]

set up some elaborate hoax to win her heart. I'm sure there's plenty of rom-coms with the same premise as your problem.

[Deadbolt23]

Get out of there. You are a rebound.
Keep contact, and if she ends it with the guy, and still wants to be with you a month later then go for it.

[Smeee]

Poor decisions. What makes you think she won't do the same thing to you.. Just think about that.

This, exactly. You're playing with fire OP.

[DandonTRJ]

Flip it around for a second.

If you met a girl who liked you while trapped in an unhappy relationship, would you refuse to break it off because you have a class with said downer girlfriend? Major excuse. She's made claims about your connection. Talk is cheap. Do not emotionally invest until you see more investment from her.

Either she stays with him or she goes with you. Make the ultimatum. It's not an unfair one. In fact, it's the only fair one.

See her response. That'll tell you on the spot what she really feels and who she really is.

You'll either dodge a bullet or make things work. Can't lose!

[gr33ndayfr3ak]

Flip it around for a second.

If you met a girl who liked you while trapped in an unhappy relationship, would you refuse to break it off because you have a class with said downer girlfriend? Major excuse. She's made claims about your connection. Talk is cheap. Do not emotionally invest until you see more investment from her.

Either she stays with him or she goes with you. Make the ultimatum. It's not an unfair one. In fact, it's the only fair one.

See her response. That'll tell you on the spot what she really feels and who she really is.

You'll either dodge a bullet or make things work. Can't lose!

I'm gonna have to agree with this. Putting her on the spot like that will force her to think about who she would rather be with. If she really cares about you and dislikes the other dude as much as she says she does, she'll choose you for sure.

I'd be wary, though, if she does choose you..like someone already so wisely put, if she's cheating on her boyfriend of over a year with you, what's to say she won't put you in the same situation?

[open mind]

this girl sounds like the type who is always looking to "trade up" and/or likes the excitement of possible drama....run and never look back.

[brokenwings]

she's just an insecure bitch. if she's flirting around with you now while she has a boyfriend, what would prevent her from doing the same with a different guy, if she was together with you. either she's really interested in you and makes a clean break with the other guy, or you should just forget about her. all the crap she's been saying so far are just lame excuses and she's just been using you to get the comfort and compassion she isn't getting from her boyfriend.

[whiterussian]

1) You're a douche for dating someone else's girlfriend. No buts.

2) She's a she-douche. To the point of ludicrousness. Get rid of her.
Or get rid of her emotionally and be a regular douche and just do her, instead of being a self-righteous douche.

[LoginBanned]

. He's a total douche to her, she lost a family member recently and he told her to get over it. He calls her fat when she's not fat at all.

This is exactly why she won't leave him. No matter how empowered women claim to be for the most part they love being treated like shit and guys like him are the ones getting all the ass because women are attracted to the disfunction in people. The minute this douchebag does or says something nice in order to get in her pants, she feels special and the cycle continues.

[LoginBanned]

1) You're a douche for dating someone else's girlfriend. No buts.

2) She's a she-douche. To the point of ludicrousness. Get rid of her.
Or get rid of her emotionally and be a regular douche and just do her, instead of being a self-righteous douche.

and yes this guy is also right.

[jtjt43]

haha i bet you she is fat.

I laughed, does that mean I'm a bad person?

[jtjt43]

This is exactly why she won't leave him. No matter how empowered women claim to be for the most part they love being treated like shit and guys like him are the ones getting all the ass because women are attracted to the disfunction in people. The minute this douchebag does or says something nice in order to get in her pants, she feels special and the cycle continues.

That is one huge generalization.

[overdrive91]

haha i bet you she is fat.

hahaha great post.

[muchoawesomeo]

so when she leaves him.... she has already proven herself capable of cheating, now what?

[Sloth7]

This girl...

A. Is cheating on her boyfriend. No matter how much of a loser he is, she is still cheating...
B. Is completely confused and clinging to feelings with said loser...
C. Will most likely continue contact with this guy, even if she does leave him...
D. Is toying around with your feelings and making you play second fiddle cause she's being selfish...
E. Is very likely to do the same thing to you if she does in fact ever date you exclusively...

and you're still considering her? She's bad news, she needs to do some growing up, and even if you're too biased in this situation to not want to drop the whole thing, you gotta realize this isn't gonna end good.

Also... you shouldn't be going out with someone with a boyfriend, even if he is a scumbag. It's just not what you do as an adult. She's a cheater, and you're aiding that. That kind of stuff comes around, and maybe that's why you're in this rough situation.

[al.is.on]

Im in a similar situation bro, just be upfront with her and tell her how you feel, the next chance i get i know thats what im doing

[Lloyd Christmas]

i was in this same position once. pretty much the exact same. i had was dating a girl who had a boyfriend. they had been together for a year. she used to tell me stuff like this girl is telling you, you know, "you're better than him....he's not nice to me...blah blah blah" she would tell me this, but never break up with him. you know, she was "scared" we saw each other for about 7 months and then she got drunk and fucked some guy from a different town. she broke up with her boyfriend for this guy two days later. i was pretty beat up over it. but the guy cheated on her with a 40 year old hooker. and i think she got aids. her life is now pretty much in the shitter. and mine is better than ever. bottom line: it sucks. drop the girl

[argg_xo]

Pull the wildcard on her one day and cut the brakes to the car she's driving.

[EvilZeppelin]

wait till she leaves. give her time to sort her life out. then, resume dating. You'll thank me later.

by far the best avatar I've seen on here in a long time!

[kevinjordan]

Unless you're the ultimate dude, she'll end up cheating on you too. You can convince yourself otherwise of course..

[ReadyForAction]

This girl...

A. Is cheating on her boyfriend. No matter how much of a loser he is, she is still cheating...
B. Is completely confused and clinging to feelings with said loser...
C. Will most likely continue contact with this guy, even if she does leave him...
D. Is toying around with your feelings and making you play second fiddle cause she's being selfish...
E. Is very likely to do the same thing to you if she does in fact ever date you exclusively...

and you're still considering her? She's bad news, she needs to do some growing up, and even if you're too biased in this situation to not want to drop the whole thing, you gotta realize this isn't gonna end good.

Also... you shouldn't be going out with someone with a boyfriend, even if he is a scumbag. It's just not what you do as an adult. She's a cheater, and you're aiding that. That kind of stuff comes around, and maybe that's why you're in this rough situation.

How the hell is all of this not obvious OP, step your game up.

[rosielikesyou]

Your idea of the perfect girl is a girl who cheats on a boyfriend who hurts her and doesn't leave him, and then hurts you by not leaving him? Doesn't sound like you have high standards at all. She needs to drop the guy or you need to drop the girl.

[chassmariee]

She's a dumb hoe. Not leaving her d00d because she's scared? Shitty excuse. Find someone worth your time.

[songydarko]

Clearly she's a moron and needs to do something for herself. Leave the ass.

[And Hours Pass]

She's not going to leave him. You arent capable of breaking the "emotional hold" he has on her. Give up and find someone who's actually emotionally available instead.

Poor decisions. What makes you think she won't do the same thing to you.. Just think about that.

if she's cheating on him with you after a year and some change what makes you think she won't cheat on you with him or someone else after a couple years?

Listen to these 3. These are all things you should be thinking about.

haha i bet you she is fat.

Yes, she probably is.

[And Hours Pass]

This girl...

A. Is cheating on her boyfriend. No matter how much of a loser he is, she is still cheating...
B. Is completely confused and clinging to feelings with said loser...
C. Will most likely continue contact with this guy, even if she does leave him...
D. Is toying around with your feelings and making you play second fiddle cause she's being selfish...
E. Is very likely to do the same thing to you if she does in fact ever date you exclusively...

and you're still considering her? She's bad news, she needs to do some growing up, and even if you're too biased in this situation to not want to drop the whole thing, you gotta realize this isn't gonna end good.

Also... you shouldn't be going out with someone with a boyfriend, even if he is a scumbag. It's just not what you do as an adult. She's a cheater, and you're aiding that. That kind of stuff comes around, and maybe that's why you're in this rough situation.

Should've included this bit as well. Fantastic point.

[andthetruthwill]

I don't know why people do this to their selves. There is always someone else who is going to be "everything they want." If a girl is dating two guys at once, she is fucked up and a whore. She has utterly no care for you, and is using both guys she's 'dating,' no matter what she says. Drop her. Get yourself out of this situation. And stay away from her.

[ReignofFiction]

Get the fuck out of that mess is my advice.

[herestoyoufla]

haha i bet you she is fat.
haha i was kinda thinkin' the same thing...

[LoginBanned]

That is one huge generalization.

There are exceptions to every rule but generally my generalization is correct.

[LoginBanned]

i was in this same position once. pretty much the exact same. i had was dating a girl who had a boyfriend. they had been together for a year. she used to tell me stuff like this girl is telling you, you know, "you're better than him....he's not nice to me...blah blah blah" she would tell me this, but never break up with him. you know, she was "scared" we saw each other for about 7 months and then she got drunk and fucked some guy from a different town. she broke up with her boyfriend for this guy two days later. i was pretty beat up over it. but the guy cheated on her with a 40 year old hooker. and i think she got aids. her life is now pretty much in the shitter. and mine is better than ever. bottom line: it sucks. drop the girl

HAHA awesome story

[sleepyseanzzz]

Pull the wildcard on her one day and cut the brakes to the car she's driving.
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WILDCARD BITCHES!!!!!!!!!!!!

[DCD08]

Pull the wildcard on her one day and cut the brakes to the car she's driving.

hahahahahahahahaha

god damn i love charlie

[Reaver]

dude, I know you want to hear all the excuses in the world to justify her behavior. that's because love is blind. but seriously, think about what she's doing. she doesn't want to leave him, she just wants someone to pour her heart out. she's using you. for the slight chance that I'm wrong, there's only one way to find out. talk to her, tell her that you like her and that you really want to be with her and make a relationship work. but, for that to work she has to leave her boyfriend first. tell her, that you feel like an idiot who's stuck in her friend zone and that you can't go on like this.

read her face while you're saying this. you'll know immediately what's going on.

[iloveanimals]

In the end that shit just leaves you embarrassed and angry. don't do it

[ActionActionFan]

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[your a sheep]

Make sure you are bigger then the boyfriend...

[timb89]

I laughed, does that mean I'm a bad person?

hahaha great post.

Yes, she probably is.

haha i was kinda thinkin' the same thing...

guys don't call skinny girls fat.

skinny girls call skinny girls fat.

[joeag1985]

Girl's a whore.

[June_Bug]

This is exactly why she won't leave him. No matter how empowered women claim to be for the most part they love being treated like shit and guys like him are the ones getting all the ass because women are attracted to the disfunction in people. The minute this douchebag does or says something nice in order to get in her pants, she feels special and the cycle continues.

For the most part you are very correct. (I don't put up with bullshit)My friend is this way, this guy she's dating treats her, her family/friends like total shit and she puts up with it. It's like she likes it. He calls her bitch in public and he's even cussed my mom out when we went to pick her up in the middle of nowhere when he told her to get out of his car. But when I ask why she sticks around it's the same shit and goes a little something like this; "But I love him, I just need to change." or "The sex is amazing, it's the best ever!" I swear something's wrong with her.....mentally.

Dude, she's not leaving that guy for shit. He could beat her everyday and she still won't leave. Let her go babe.

[argg_xo]

:appl:



WILDCARD BITCHES!!!!!!!!!!!!
love you
hahahahahahahahaha

god damn i love charlie
and you!

[tottivillarossi]

haha i bet you she is fat.


WIN

[brittylayn]

i've been seeing this girl for about a month now. she has a boyfriend of a year and change. He doesn't compliment her at all, they're complete opposites. she has told me on several occasions how compatible we are and how i'm everything she looks for in a guy. She's scared to leave this guy, she's afraid of having to see him everyday because they have a class together. She's says she comfortable with him but she's not sure if she likes him anymore. He's a total douche to her, she lost a family member recently and he told her to get over it. He calls her fat when she's not fat at all. She's everything i look for in a girl, and i have really high standards. I hate dealing with her having a boyfriend, but i'm not ready to give up on this relationship because i feel like it could go somewhere if i can break his emotional hold on her. what would you do?
first off..if she has a bf..you guys are dating....and i would say that if you keep doing what you're doing..why would she ever need to leave this guy? if she has both of you...idk...seems silly to me

[LoginBanned]

For the most part you are very correct. (I don't put up with bullshit)My friend is this way, this guy she's dating treats her, her family/friends like total shit and she puts up with it. It's like she likes it. He calls her bitch in public and he's even cussed my mom out when we went to pick her up in the middle of nowhere when he told her to get out of his car. But when I ask why she sticks around it's the same shit and goes a little something like this; "But I love him, I just need to change." or "The sex is amazing, it's the best ever!" I swear something's wrong with her.....mentally.

Dude, she's not leaving that guy for shit. He could beat her everyday and she still won't leave. Let her go babe.

For the most part, is there something I was off on?

[June_Bug]

For the most part, is there something I was off on? Actually no, I take "for the most part" back.

[Echo Park]

you mean, ur banging a girl with a boyfriend. Do you really want to be her girlfriend? Right now you're the "other guy"
Girls like her will always have "other guys"
once a cheat, always a cheat. Once a whore always a slut

[4N6 science]

Sounds like my situation.