Getting back together with the ex

[inthiscrowdedrm]

good idea or not?


We've been through all the fighting, yelling and playing the blame game with each other and we are trying to be friends. Any advice on how to win her back or is it a battle already lost?

[Jennurna Gray]

Never a battle already lost.
If you want them, go get them!

Ferserious, man.

[inthiscrowdedrm]

I'm just not sure where we stand. We both said some very hurtful things because we were angry and didn't mean them, but now it seems like we are more like strangers than ex lovers. I know that somewhere deep down in both of us we still love each other, but we are too afraid to show it.

[your a sheep]

I can answer this easy. Is she hot? If yes then get back together if no then no way.

[Helpless]

Just seduce her, it'll be way easier than you think.

[Sloth7]

There's never a clear cut answer to this, it all really depends on your particular situation. Sometimes all that fighting, yelling and blaming can render the relationship beyond saving. That in particular happened to me, and in those cases, it's for the best to not go back to that, just to move on, and you'll be happier. But not really knowing how your ex is, maybe you've both matured, maybe she's very reasonable, and in that case, if you feel it's healthy enough to go back to, proceed seeing how you do getting along without any pressure of romance. If you both can get along without fighting, then it's baby steps to see where you'll end up, either as friends or back together.

But if you feel things were unhealthy and you both were unhappy when together, then sometimes it's better to move on.

[BlackAxxe]

The hurtful feelings will shine through and be the downfall of the relationship. You will never be able to start fresh again and the problems that plagued your previous attempt at a relationship will ruin this one as well.

Ohhh, not exactly a positive note there but seriously man, its not worth it. It just won't work, even as much as you want it to, its best to just try and move on. I have been trying for a year but I'm still not there yet so i hope it works out better for you dude haha

[Deadbolt23]

Trust your gut. There's no harm in trying again if you think you're not ready to let this go yet.

But don't listen to anyone who says it's always a bad idea, or it's always the right thing. This isn't an easy question, and every case is different.

[sleepyseanzzz]

stop being friends, be an asshole and she'll want you back

[emoishardcore]

talk about all your other female conquests when shes around. it always works. if all else fails, tell her how fat shes gotten. women love that kind of talk.

[Un'Aria Ancora]

Not worth it. You'll realize this in a few months either way you go.
Or... good luck.

[Lunar]

It it's failed the first time, then It'll fail again.

[Mibabalou]

always a bad idea

[whiterussian]

vaguest thing ever.

follow your heart LULZ

[Kassie09]

through my experience and getting back with the ex WAY too many times, it is just a bad idea. You broke up for a reason. The reason is likely to interfere again, unless it was an external conflict such as a living situation or school that tore you apart. Chances are, maybe you'll be happy again for a few months but the fights will probably start all over again.

Could be different in your situation but thats how its happened for me.

[pr0digy]

I'm going to go with it being a bad idea. There always seems to be that extremely small percentage of people where getting back together with their ex's actually work, but the overwhelming majority on this one seems to = fail.

[saab_girl]

stop being friends, be an asshole and she'll want you back


HAHAHA. Does not work. Us girls are smarter than you think.

[TheReckoner]

HAHAHA. Does not work. Us girls are smarter than you think.
http://media.diariomotor.com/imagenes/saab-aero-x.jpg
Or he could give her one of these.

[Chop[chop]]

good idea or not?


We've been through all the fighting, yelling and playing the blame game with each other and we are trying to be friends. Any advice on how to win her back or is it a battle already lost?

Accept that it's probably never going to happen.
Don't speak to her, and if she gets with somebody else, so be it. If she does then it means you haven't wasted any energy trying to get her back; it wouldn't have ever worked.

If she doesn't get with anybody else, then curl up into a small ball and wonder what the hell you're going to do next.

[muzicislife31]

I'm generally against getting back with exes. There's a reason it didn't work in the first place, even if being friends works. If you still want to be with her after a long time then it might be a good idea. I think you need to try to move on first.

[lbopm]

bad fucking idea

[saab_girl]

http://media.diariomotor.com/imagenes/saab-aero-x.jpg
Or he could give her one of these.

Oh....... Honestly, I don't think I'd get back with my ex for one of these. He would probably have some evil plan attached to it.. like having the brake lines cut or taking my oil cap off [Dexter reference, ftw].

[Jet Set Paul]

From personal experience, the problems that ended the relationship the first time around are still there. If you do get back with your ex, you probably won't notice them at first, but they will resurface. I don't know your exact situation--but it's probably not worth it.

[NateFoundGlory]

stop being friends, be an asshole and she'll want you back

Doesn't work, in my experience.

through my experience and getting back with the ex WAY too many times, it is just a bad idea. You broke up for a reason. The reason is likely to interfere again, unless it was an external conflict such as a living situation or school that tore you apart. Chances are, maybe you'll be happy again for a few months but the fights will probably start all over again.

Could be different in your situation but thats how its happened for me.

Pretty much all of this.

[scmaley]

Don't do it. You broke up for a reason. Do her a favor and stop trying to be her friend. If things are so bad that you're like strangers to each other, then you both need time and a lot of space.

[Macbeth.]

like everyone else said, bad idea. its just a temporary fix - if you had problems once, they'll come back around its just a matter of time

[rollerman4221]

like everyone else said, bad idea. its just a temporary fix - if you had problems once, they'll come back around its just a matter of time

this

[rockstarK9]

Bad idea. You broke up with your ex for a reason.

It didn't work before, it's not gonna work again. However, there's nothing wrong with just being friends. In fact, if you guys stay friends, after a while, you'll realize why exactly you're not together and will be glad.

[tottivillarossi]

Rohynpnol her.

[a nocturnal day]

First off, never be friends after a break up. That's just BS. Saves alot of heartache. That doesn't mean be an asshole, but staying out of each other's way and life is a great idea. I'm not going to say getting back together is bad idea buuuut it mostly is. If it fails once, it will fail again.

[Corgkowznor]

make up anal?

[open mind]

need more details to be sure but i don't really subscribe to the idea that people will change much if you ask them to (they'll usually do it on their own in their own time) so i've gotta say don't invite that sort of drama back into your life.

[MKEcasey]

Tally another mark in the "don't get back together" column.

[overdrive91]

The naked man is the answer.