Missing Her

[Shane Standlea]

I dated this girl for about a year and a half. Very early on in the relationship, I made out with this girl while I was out of town. I felt that the relationship I was in wasn't going anywhere, and I just thought we would break up anyways. The day after, while heading home, I realized that it was an extremely horrible decision on my part. I didn't tell her about it for a very long time. But when she found out, she dumped me. I know I deserved it, so please, I don't need to hear I'm an asshole. I just wish she knew how much I still love her, and care for her. It's been 2 years since weve broken up, and I still think about her everyday. I'm just worried that I'm going to be subject to a life of missing her. I know I need to move on, but I feel so guilty. And I'm wondering if I can be happy again.

Thoughts?

[Reaver]

ever tried to get her back?

[Shane Standlea]

I tried. But it didn't work. Shes in college now, and I'm in my senior year. She has a bf from what I understand. I don't think try to get back with her would help at this point.

[aerofan11]

2 years since you've broken up? She's probably found a new guy.
Why didn't you apologized straight away, or something?

[new_arbiter]

Probably time to move on. Dwelling on a girl you can't have will drive you insane.

[wroteurname]

http://flywithbats.files.wordpress.com/2008/08/you-are-fucked_up.jpg

[chris1152]

Probably time to move on. Dwelling on a girl you can't have will drive you insane.

Yep.

[Shane Standlea]

Yeah I figured that. I'm trying to move on believe me guys. It's just hard is all.

[julietelizabeth]

But it's made much harder by you dwelling on it, and hell, posting a thread about how much you miss her. You are not trying that hard - or as hard as you can or maybe has hard as you think you are. You may not really want to get over her (for whatever reason), but if you really, really did want to be over her, you would be by now - it has been two years, after all.
I've been on the girl-side of a similar problem before and the guy told me about a zillion times how hard he was trying to get over me... A few weeks after we stopped being friends, I got a letter from him that basically said that the whole time he thought he stood a chance with me etc. If he thought that I might actually like him too, why would he give up/try to get over me, right?

I sympathise, but honestly, if it's been two years and she has another boyfriend, it's really time to move on.

Orrrrrr, if you're a fan of tough-love: man up, stop whining and get over it.

[brokenwings]

http://flywithbats.files.wordpress.com/2008/08/you-are-fucked_up.jpg
haha omg

[Shane Standlea]

But it's made much harder by you dwelling on it, and hell, posting a thread about how much you miss her. You are not trying that hard - or as hard as you can or maybe has hard as you think you are. You may not really want to get over her (for whatever reason), but if you really, really did want to be over her, you would be by now - it has been two years, after all.
I've been on the girl-side of a similar problem before and the guy told me about a zillion times how hard he was trying to get over me... A few weeks after we stopped being friends, I got a letter from him that basically said that the whole time he thought he stood a chance with me etc. If he thought that I might actually like him too, why would he give up/try to get over me, right?

I sympathise, but honestly, if it's been two years and she has another boyfriend, it's really time to move on.

Orrrrrr, if you're a fan of tough-love: man up, stop whining and get over it.

I just find it a difficult thing to talk to with people Im close to. I talk to my friends about it, but I just kinda wanted to get a fresh thought. Yeah, I understand about not really wanting to let go. It's an odd feeling.

And I don't feel I was whining. I just wanted some peoples thoughts.

But thanks guys, I know I have to move on. In a weird way, this sorta helped.

Thanks.

[your a sheep]

Have you tried abducting her then raping her? This way she will become depend on you to live and therefore love you.

[caveBEAR]

Have you tried abducting her then raping her? This way she will become depend on you to live and therefore love you.

My god! Kaufman really is alive!

[your a sheep]

My god! Kaufman really is alive!
Fourteen three.

[songydarko]

Well i'm kind of shocked she dumped you if this happened way early on after you've been together for a year and a half? hm. I guess if it's wrong it's wrong. However, it's been a while man, I'm not sure what you could really do. Either get over your mistakes or try and check in with her, see how she's doing. Can't really force her back with you at this point.

[beesknees_item9]

From the great words of a random guy i met randomly "Watch some girl on girl and smack your cock around"

[MyNameIsRoss]

2 years??

get the fuck over it.

[Hamlet]

2 years? Seriously?

THERE ARE OTHER WOMEN IN THE WORLD.

I suggest you go about meeting them.

[fightinirish217]

Can't stop laughing at OP's avatar. Colin is awesome.

[overdrive91]

shiiit. I know how you feel mate but you gotta get with some other girls.

[Deadbolt23]

Have you tried abducting her then raping her? This way she will become depend on you to live and therefore love you.

This made me wince.

Edit: Because of the grammer, not the rape.