Would You Marry Someone of Different Religion?

[domotime2]

i know many people will pick the nice and politically correct answer here, but the other day i was talking to a jewish girl who recently started to date another boy...and he was jewish. She has only dates jews and would only marry jews, because she's really into her heritage and faith....

but i started to think "isnt that close minded?" wouldnt that be like someone saying... "I would only marry someone thats the same race." Of course someones religion and race are different things, as the religion deals more as a personality thing...but in todays age when people are all for equal rigths and open mindedness, i still say it's closed minded and kinda discriminatory/racist in a way..." I would never date someone who is atheist or christan".


BUT haha... then I started to think? Would I marry someone that's really jewish? I've been raised Catholic and have grown fond of many of their traditions, even if im not an avid religous person. I'd like to take my kids to only church, celebrate only christmas and what not. To be honest I probably would never marry someone thats really jewish or muslim....

so what do you think?

Would you MARRY (not date...not bang...not talk to ha) someone that is of a different faith (or no faith at all)?

[jwicklun]

yeah. i really dont care about their religion as long as they are not a fanatic about it.

[notoaststereo]

i would absolutely marry someone of a different religion. i personally am jewish in heritage, but i don't really believe in the jewish faith for the most part i dont think i would get involved with anyone one who was extremely into any sort of religion just because it clashes with my personality so much. that being said, i have a girlfriend who i've been dating for 5 years who was raised catholic. she has pretty much the same views on religion as i do which is probably one of the reason we're drawn to each other. i wouldn't be surprised if somewhere down the road we were married... with different religions.

[loganmmm]

My first serious relationship was with a girl of a different religion... Or rather, a religious girl; I dislike organized religion. This was why we eventually broke up. After that experience, I can't see myself ever dating a religious girl again. I voted "no."

[MADSTA]

As long as they're accepting and tolerant of my beliefs.
If anything I'd prefer if they were a different religion than me, so I could learn more and our family could have cool mixed traditions.

[TangledUp]

the other day i was talking to a jewish girl who recently started to date another boy...and he was jewish. She has only dates jews and would only marry jews, because she's really into her heritage and faith....
There is nothing wrong with this. She is not closed-minded because she only dates Jewish boys. Her faith and heritage are very important to her, so in terms of a romantic relationship, she doesn't want to commit herself to a person who doesn't believe the things she does. Nothing wrong with that at all. That is how I feel with Christian men.

Now, if she wouldn't be friends with anyone who wasn't Jewish, I would consider that very closed-minded. But in terms of dating/marriage, I don't find it that way. Different aspects of a person's character are more important to some people than they are to others. Sometimes faith is important, sometimes it isn't.

[Big_Guy]

I'm atheist, but I would marry someone with faith. only if they didn't shove that shit down my throat.


religion is such a small aspect of life and people make it out to be so much more than it is like this Jew girl that only dates Jews. it's just dumb, you know?

[ElevenElm]

For a lot of people, religion is a big part of life. It really isn't surprising that they would want to share that aspect with someone who they are going to share their life with, you know?

[TangledUp]

I'm atheist, but I would marry someone with faith. only if they didn't shove that shit down my throat.


religion is such a small aspect of life and people make it out to be so much more than it is like this Jew girl that only dates Jews. it's just dumb, you know?
Not for some people.

[Poe-tryGirl]

No.

[denissuxx]

Would you marry someone religious? No.

[ArtForLovers]

Something I debate about in my head.

[A7XXX]

I'm willing to date them but probably not to marry them. Being Christian affects a lot of my thoughts as well as values so I would imagine that person and I would disagree about almost everything if he's not Christian.

[Big_Guy]

Not for some people.

well, those people are dumb. ruling out marriage with somebody who in all other aspects could be your soul mate because they don't have the same imaginary friend.


DUMB

[seraph1214]

I honestly can't answer this question right now. It's something to think about.

[domotime2]

*note.

if you're not religous...and wouldnt marry someone who is...that would count as "no"..and vice versa.

[MilesToGo]

Nothing wrong with wanting to share the same beliefs and views as the person you share your life with. Especially if you plan on having children, as it could be very difficult to compromise when it came to raising them.

[tonyC4L]

I don't think so but this question is almost completely different when asked in a specific context. That is, if I met the right girl it might not matter but hypothetically I'd say it does. Usually the kids are the same religion as the mother so if my wife wasn't Catholic like me, I'd be a pretty upset if she decided my kids should not be Catholic either.

[kristanxmarie]

I went with "yes," but I think it would depend on the person. I can't say that 100% I would be able to marry someone that I fell in love with that had a religion (I'm atheist). It would only work out if they were willing to not shove it down my throat and in return, I wouldn't criticize their beliefs. They'd have to be equally as accepting as I am.

[tonighttonight0]

Depends on the religion and how intense they are about it.

[Alex DiVincenzo]

Yes. I'm agnostic and my current girlfriend is a hardcore nazarene.

[oliviaemmer]

I'm atheist, so pretty much unless I'm with a guy who's atheist then I'm with someone who is a different religion. I can deal with that as long as I don't have to hear about it. My current boyfriend is Buddhist but doesn't really practice so it works out for us.

[Neo Cassady]

I'm engaged to someone of a different religion. Granted they're both rooted in Christianity, and granted neither of us are avid churchgoers, but still.

[Bloodsucker II]

I'm atheist, but I would marry someone with faith. only if they didn't shove that shit down my throat.



I honestly think that is fine but my question is if she wanted to take your kids to church every sunday would you care?

[Andy Young]

I'm atheist and I do date people if they are religious, but when it comes to marriage I likely wouldn't.

[creppin802]

within reason, because if we believe in completely different things it can create problems down the line.
but i would never only date people that are the same religion as me.

[NateGolubiewski]

I would be okay with it.

[Poultrylicious]

its a good question. i think its harder for an atheist/ religious couple to be together than lets say a jew/christian though.

[kbi the crowing]

yes, as long as they respect my beliefs and don't force theirs upon me

[musicaddicttt]

well, those people are dumb. ruling out marriage with somebody who in all other aspects could be your soul mate because they don't have the same imaginary friend.


DUMB

to say religion is just a small part of your life or should be makes no sense. religion is based on things that completely decide how your life should be used.

when you force religion to only be a small portion of your life you aren't using it to its full potential, therefore it wont give you the results you desire...making you feel dissatisfied

if you are religious and take it seriously, which you should, then you pretty much have to marry someone of your same faith

[jbaseball44]

Of course.

[steveC]

yeah. i really dont care about their religion as long as they are not a fanatic about it.
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[mrnegativezero]

I voted "Yes." Even if they're rather pushy with their religious beliefs I would try to make it work.

[Jaimehere]

Hell yeah, what does religion have to do with how 2 people love each other, I'd care less about religion being such a factor if i were to marry someone, I have my own faith and she has hers, if the two of you agree to get married in the first place theres no reason why the two of you can't live in harmony even with different belief systems.

The only real "problem" i can see with having different religions is the kids, what religion will they take and what not to take?, if they ever get into the religion thing.

[Ryzenfall]

A girl seems most attractive to me if she's given her life to the same truths that I have come to believe are ultimate.
So no, because in the long run I honestly wouldn't find someone of a different religion attractive enough to pursue, grow old and die with.

It's not so much closed-minded as decided. We're working with sloppy vernacular here, but that's my general answer.

[tttygxlove]

My father is Jewish and my mother was raised Catholic. I pretty much don't have a religion, but overall I don't think it influenced my life in a negative way.

[Spewk]

If I want to marry them, I think that issue would work itself out on it's own.

[ArtForLovers]

its a good question. i think its harder for an atheist/ religious couple to be together than lets say a jew/christian though.
agreed

[screwtape]

well, those people are dumb. ruling out marriage with somebody who in all other aspects could be your soul mate because they don't have the same imaginary friend.


DUMB

Oh how silly of you. Religion plays a huge role in relationships and then in marriage and parenting. My faith will guide my wife and I in how we raise our children, from what movies to watch, to frequenting church, to the language used and so on. There is nothing appealing to me regarding a marriage where my wife and I differ completely on aspects of faith. Think of the confusion for the children, the unnecessary fights when deciding what is best for our lives. And I don't know what imaginary friend or force is deciding your soul mate, but I am pretty sure they would not intervene with a guy/girl so completely different from you that you cannot discuss that which is most important in your life. Sounds to me like a terrible soul mate.

[jbaseball44]

Yeah, faith should stop you from watching certain movies. Don't let your kids watch the golden compass, it will completely corrupt their minds.

[.invisible ink.]

honestly, probably not. i'm an atheist and i guess i'd probably marry an agnostic but i really could not see myself married to a full-fledged Christian or Jew (or whatever other organized religion follower) because our beliefs are so different. I say "full-fledged" because I don't really consider you anything if you don't actually pray/go to church/temple/talk about God or Jesus/etc..

[Big_Guy]

Oh how silly of you. Religion plays a huge role in relationships and then in marriage and parenting. My faith will guide my wife and I in how we raise our children, from what movies to watch, to frequenting church, to the language used and so on. There is nothing appealing to me regarding a marriage where my wife and I differ completely on aspects of faith. Think of the confusion for the children, the unnecessary fights when deciding what is best for our lives. And I don't know what imaginary friend or force is deciding your soul mate, but I am pretty sure they would not intervene with a guy/girl so completely different from you that you cannot discuss that which is most important in your life. Sounds to me like a terrible soul mate.

yeah, but people don't get their moral compass from religion. they just think they do. I guarantee that you have all major things in common with a person of another religion besides what god you worship.

well maybe just Jews and Christians. I don't know enough about religion because I have no religion

[Big_Guy]

honestly, probably not. i'm an atheist and i guess i'd probably marry an agnostic but i really could not see myself married to a full-fledged Christian or Jew (or whatever other organized religion follower) because our beliefs are so different. I say "full-fledged" because I don't really consider you anything if you don't actually pray/go to church/temple/talk about God or Jesus/etc..

yeah, this is true for me also after much thought.

I doubt I could put up with some god fearing person that forced me to go to church/temple

[jwicklun]

I plan on marrying someone who isn't a female clone of me. diversity people!

[muttley]

Not sure.

[jmirand1]

Oh how silly of you. Religion plays a huge role in relationships and then in marriage and parenting. My faith will guide my wife and I in how we raise our children, from what movies to watch, to frequenting church, to the language used and so on. There is nothing appealing to me regarding a marriage where my wife and I differ completely on aspects of faith. Think of the confusion for the children, the unnecessary fights when deciding what is best for our lives. And I don't know what imaginary friend or force is deciding your soul mate, but I am pretty sure they would not intervene with a guy/girl so completely different from you that you cannot discuss that which is most important in your life. Sounds to me like a terrible soul mate.

I feel for this guy's kids. Their childhood is gonna be rough. I was raised by semi-religious parents who made me go to church and wouldn't let me watch certain movies and it sucked. The irony is, now that I'm grown and can do whatever I want, my parents aren't that religious anymore (don't go to church, drink more, etc.)

[jmirand1]

i know many people will pick the nice and politically correct answer here, but the other day i was talking to a jewish girl who recently started to date another boy...and he was jewish. She has only dates jews and would only marry jews, because she's really into her heritage and faith....

but i started to think "isnt that close minded?" wouldnt that be like someone saying... "I would only marry someone thats the same race." Of course someones religion and race are different things, as the religion deals more as a personality thing...but in todays age when people are all for equal rigths and open mindedness, i still say it's closed minded and kinda discriminatory/racist in a way..." I would never date someone who is atheist or christan".


BUT haha... then I started to think? Would I marry someone that's really jewish? I've been raised Catholic and have grown fond of many of their traditions, even if im not an avid religous person. I'd like to take my kids to only church, celebrate only christmas and what not. To be honest I probably would never marry someone thats really jewish or muslim....

so what do you think?

Would you MARRY (not date...not bang...not talk to ha) someone that is of a different faith (or no faith at all)?

I think you're just pissed off because you have a crush on this Jewish girl who won't date gentiles. You could always convert.

[trappedintime]

i would definitely date someone of a different religion, but marriage is pretty serious and i want to connect with someone wholeheartedly so i would rather marry someone of the same religion.

[sofaraway]

As a person of faith I wouldn't mind marrying someone of an opposite faith or of no faith at all. Relationships are about meeting people where they are at, and if one person cannot make compromises on certain things or come to an agreement about how faith is expressed in a relationship, then the relationship probably won't last.

[CarouselBoy]

i think a lot of people who voted yes don't have strong beliefs in their religion, if they have one at all. It's extremely hard to get along with someone, for most religions, who has strong beliefs in a religion not yours.

[ghsNICK!]

if you strongly believe in what you believe in the answer should be no because when you two have kids it's gonna cause a divide in which religion they decide. so i would have to say no...but i cant promise anything.

[Andres3thousand]

wouldn't marry a religious person probably

[blue_bedlight]

I have no religion at all, so being with someone that has one, I don't mind. I mean I used to go to Catholic school for a few years and I was raised Catholic, but I learned better and now don't believe in any of that stuff. My current girlfriend is agnostic so it works out well. But even if she did pray or go to church, it wouldn't bother me. As long as I don't have to pray at family gatherings or go with her to church or any of that. I had enough of that the first 10 years of my life.

[blue_bedlight]

I think you're just pissed off because you have a crush on this Jewish girl who won't date gentiles. You could always convert.
Aren't gentiles the ones that are converted and weren't originally Jewish?

[Smeee]

No way, Brutil Hosé.

[loganmmm]

I think this question has a lot to do with how religious the person is. For example, as someone who doesn't participate in any religion, I could marry a non-practicing catholic. On the other hand, I would not marry a practicing catholic.
But, from the viewpoint of a religious person, I cannot see how you could marry someone who is not religious. I mean, if you believe in an afterlife and therefore believe that the marriage is going to continue for eternity, then how could you ever be married to someone who believes that the relationship will end once one of you dies.

But then there is also the question of religion vs spirituality. Although I may not be religious, I could not marry someone who isn't spiritual... If that makes any sense. I don't know, I'm just rambling at this point.

[jmirand1]

Aren't gentiles the ones that are converted and weren't originally Jewish?

A gentile is anyone that isn't Jewish...I think.

From what I know about Judaism, which is very little, once somebody converts to Judaism, other Jews are not allowed to remind that person that he/she was not always a Jew.

[Deadbolt23]

If they're not so close-minded that they can't accept my views, then yes.

[blue_bedlight]

A gentile is anyone that isn't Jewish...I think.

From what I know about Judaism, which is very little, once somebody converts to Judaism, other Jews are not allowed to remind that person that he/she was not always a Jew.
I'll take your word for it cause I know nothing about Jews. Other than the stereotypical stuff and what my family has said to me about their employers.

[ArtForLovers]

i think a lot of people who voted yes don't have strong beliefs in their religion, if they have one at all. It's extremely hard to get along with someone, for most religions, who has strong beliefs in a religion not yours.
or who is completely athiest. Basically that is what I have to accept.
I think that as long as you know your boundaries and respect eachother's beliefs/ideas, you can get by. I am not saying it is easy, but neither is marriage in general.

[:-)]

I don't have anything against other religions but I am very passionate about my religion, heritage, culture and traditions as they are all a part of my everyday life... and marrying someone who didnt understand and/or practice them just wouldn't work

[:-)]

A gentile is anyone that isn't Jewish...I think.

From what I know about Judaism, which is very little, once somebody converts to Judaism, other Jews are not allowed to remind that person that he/she was not always a Jew. First part is correct, though I'm not sure about the second.

[fadedmemories]

Yes, as long as she will not let religion be a huge barrier between us.

[pleasedontpanic]

No I won't. It's too big of a deal to have that conflict in a relationship. Being unequally yoked its a difficult thing, I've seen it first hand with my parents.

[only the clouds]

Seeing as I'm a Daoist, I'm probably going to end up marrying someone of a different religion haha.

[Tim Lincecum]

im not religious, i like baaaarely believe in god like almost none, and I dont follow any churches or anything so it doesnt really matter to me... buuuuut I also don't believe in marriage so i guess not

[reckoner]

Nope. Religion can be a messy topic and wouldn't want to even start that argument with my wife ever.

[Facemelter42]

I would not marry someone who was not of the same faith as me. I'm a Christian, and the Bible warns against it and i will take God at His word on this issue. But thinking about it logically, i think it is still a bad idea. Think about all of the tensions and hardships and arguments you would have with your spouse that could be avoided if you married somebody that shared your same beliefs. It just makes sense to me.

[drawndead]

i'm jewish and my girlfriend is roman catholic and it is really important for her to be married in a church and i have begun the process of converting so that we can get married in a church

[ArtForLovers]

I would not marry someone who was not of the same faith as me. I'm a Christian, and the Bible warns against it and i will take God at His word on this issue. But thinking about it logically, i think it is still a bad idea. Think about all of the tensions and hardships and arguments you would have with your spouse that could be avoided if you married somebody that shared your same beliefs. It just makes sense to me.
I felt like this all the way up until about now. I know the Bible warns us about such things, my friends have even worried about such a thing too (I am currently dating an athiest). But there are a lot of things in the Bible that I am not sure should be taken so literally. I know that it would be hard, but if everything is discussed it really does work out. Been together for over 3 and a half years.

[Say Nothing]

Of course...

[John JD Dorian]

i would only marry someone jewish.

[TheProsAndCons]

Definitely

[inthemidst]

No, I couldn't marry someone of a different "religion". I am a devout Christian, and I couldn't possibly marry an atheist, muslim, jew, etc. Reason being that devoting yourself to a certain belief changes who you are as a person; if it doesn't, then you're not really devoted to that religion. Religious beliefs change the way a person makes decisions financially, spiritually and physically, and that marriage would just be a catastrophe if you don't agree on those levels.

It's not close-minded by any means. It's choosing the best mate to share life with.

[briewer]

but i started to think "isnt that close minded?" wouldnt that be like someone saying... "I would only marry someone thats the same race." Of course someones religion and race are different things, as the religion deals more as a personality thing...but in todays age when people are all for equal rigths and open mindedness, i still say it's closed minded and kinda discriminatory/racist in a way..." I would never date someone who is atheist or christan".
How is that any different than saying "I'm into blondes, or taller girls, or girls wit ha sense of humor, etc." You're planning on spending just about every waking moment with this person, you better damn well be discriminatory.

[threepunchjim]

Not for some people.

Agreed. I'm no Christian fanatic, but I do love Christ nonetheless. From experience I know that while a cross-religion relationship may appear hopeful and doable at first, at some point you would have to compromise your beliefs. In the end that's not something I'm willing to do, and it's certainly not close-minded to feel that way. I couldn't spend a mortal life with someone who according to my faith wouldn't be able to spend an eternity with me in the next.

[TangledUp]

Agreed. I'm no Christian fanatic, but I do love Christ nonetheless. From experience I know that while a cross-religion relationship may appear hopeful and doable at first, at some point you would have to compromise your beliefs. In the end that's not something I'm willing to do, and it's certainly not close-minded to feel that way. I couldn't spend a mortal life with someone who according to my faith wouldn't be able to spend an eternity with me in the next.
Yes.

[abbysmith]

It wouldn't make a difference to me unless they were pushy about religion.

[Nick Hull]

Hell, I'd rather marry a Christian than another Atheist.

[Pat k]

I don't think I'd want to marry someone who isn't an atheist.

[ArtForLovers]

Agreed. I'm no Christian fanatic, but I do love Christ nonetheless. From experience I know that while a cross-religion relationship may appear hopeful and doable at first, at some point you would have to compromise your beliefs. In the end that's not something I'm willing to do, and it's certainly not close-minded to feel that way. I couldn't spend a mortal life with someone who according to my faith wouldn't be able to spend an eternity with me in the next.
This is very true. And would be hard to go through life knowing

[VampiresRevenge]

Yes. Would make for some interesting conversations.

[sleepyseanzzz]

if I was jewish, i'd definitely be down marrying a christian because Christmas is soooo much better than Hannukah

[heregoesnothin]

Good question, and like what many have said I would be perfectly fine with it as long as they weren't trying to convert me and respect my own beliefs. I did answer "yes", but having chosen that I would not marry someone with a very low tolerance level of other religions, ethnicities and sexualities. I once met this one person who was so into their religion they would tell their homosexual friends that every night they would pray for them to become straight. I would not be able to live the rest of my life with someone who believed homosexuality was wrong.

[AussieBoy]

"John Safrans Race Relations"
a whole comedy doco series on this issue
really funny and controversial
check it out, might be online somewhere

[alliegator16]

Well I'm an atheist. I figure if I can deal with my mother being a religious person, I could deal with marrying someone religious too. As long as they didn't try to convert me. And I guess I would want our children baptized or anything. So it could be a problem, but if I loved them, I think I'd get over it :shrug:

[Kaleidoscope]

yes. easy.

[whenyourearound]

i dont care enough about religion for it to be a deciding factor

[beth danger]

Let me clarify, I'm not religious, but I could never marry someone who was super religious, regardless of their beliefs.

[decaying1713]

Sure, why not? As long as they don't push for me to convert or anything. Sure.

[HelpMeSleep]

yeah. i really dont care about their religion as long as they are not a fanatic about it.
same. I'm not religious anyway.

[jahh]

I'm willing to date them but probably not to marry them. Being Christian affects a lot of my thoughts as well as values so I would imagine that person and I would disagree about almost everything if she's not Christian.
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Edit: kind of nice to see this thread isn't just turning into a big religion debate. usually someone comes in and takes cheap shots at a religion and then its just name calling and/or irrational arguments.

[superBMRuth]

only atheists should procreate














only kidding, don't get all defensive and violent.