How I Plan to Tell Her

[frenchatticus]

Nevermind, I know what I need to do.

[showmethefever]

She might think that the note thing is cute, or that you're 12 and/or too much of a pussy to actually talk to her. I'd say just try to talk to her and don't fall in as a friend.

[frenchatticus]

I honestly wouldn't care if I was a friend because that friend zone crap is stupid. All my girl friends tell me (when I asked for their advice) that I'm the kind of kid who can get anything I want. Not that I'm like that or expect everything, but I'm very outgoing. So if we were friends I'd actually be really happy, cause I'm confident that I could get her attention. Again, not trying to sound egotistical because that's the opposite of who I am.

[frenchatticus]

But yes, ladies, is that note thing cute or just plain stupid?

[showmethefever]

Yeah, definitely get lady advice on the note.

[Deadbolt23]

Sorry, not a female. But I think the note thing could easily go either way. I don't think it's be worth the risk. I say just talk to her. Do you talk to her? If so then you could just say something like "Could I take you out this weekend". If you don't talk to her, then I'd go up to her and ask for her number. Worst she can say is no. Just remember that.

[frenchatticus]

Yeah I don't talk to her, that's the issue at hand. So maybe I will just ask for her number, who knows. Any other suggestions?

[uninspired_]

I don't think the note is necessarily a terrible idea. Just make sure what you write doesn't make you sound like a girl. Why wait til Valentine's Day though? If you've never spoken to her before, I think Valentine's Day is kind of cheesy and show's that you've thought about it too much. Plus that leaves you with another month and a half to obsess about her and what you'll say. Is that fun or something?

[frenchatticus]

I don't think the note is necessarily a terrible idea. Just make sure what you write doesn't make you sound like a girl. Why wait til Valentine's Day though? If you've never spoken to her before, I think Valentine's Day is kind of cheesy and show's that you've thought about it too much. Plus that leaves you with another month and a half to obsess about her and what you'll say. Is that fun or something?

That's a great point. And the note was going to say "I have a total crush on you."
Courtesy of Say Anything.

[uninspired_]

If she's a Say Anything fan you'd be golden. She'd at least want to be your friend. If not it could probably go either way.

[frenchatticus]

Unfortunately I don't believe she is, but she will be if I get a chance.

[Jake Denning]

uhhhhh how about you be her friend and THEN go for the kill.

That way if things go awry, you didnt waste a whole bunch of money on her.

[frenchatticus]

Like I said, I would love to at least be her friend. But it's not like I can just go up to her and be like hey want to be friends.

[Deadbolt23]

Also remember that girls are into confidence big time.

[awakeohsleeper]

The note idea is not a good idea. Especially not on Valentine's Day. If you have to use a note, do it now not then. As for quoting Say Anything to a non-SA fan... well, that makes no sense. So my advice is don't use the note. Instead just talk to her in some way, get to know her as a person. But at the same time let her know you are interested early on.

Good luck anyway.

[phil19]

notes never worked for me. i had better results with letters

[frenchatticus]

Thanks man. Maybe I'll just find a way to start talking to her casually.

[uninspired_]

Eh I don't get it. If you actually have nothing to initially say to her, you know nothing about her, how is this not just a petty crush? Cause it doesn't sound like it's based on anything besides her being a babe.

[frenchatticus]

I'd do a letter if I'd known her for a while, but she doesn't know me. Although if we end up being friends and I eventually have to tell her how I feel, then I'll do it by asking her if she'll tell me what she thinks of a new song and then play the one I wrote about all this.

[frenchatticus]

Eh I don't get it. If you actually have nothing to initially say to her, you know nothing about her, how is this not just a petty crush? Cause it doesn't sound like it's based on anything besides her being a babe.

Because she is so damn gorgeous and I can't get over it. And I know she doesn't like to get around, drink excessively or smoke. And that's like my dream girl. Not that it's impossible to find a girl like that, but everyone at my school who seems fun is either a pothead or a slut.

[phil19]

just start playing one of your songs about her at lunch time

[frenchatticus]

That would be badass if she sat outside, but in a cafeteria with 500 kids I'm not sure that'd work.

[frenchatticus]

Nice avatar by the way.

[phil19]

me? thanks bro. well maybe record one of your songs about and and attach it to the note

[frenchatticus]

Yeah you, Trio is amazing. And that's actually a good idea, didn't think of it. We're recording next month too so it's definitely a possibility.

[phil19]

yeah man, they're my fav band

sweet!! i predict she'll love it

[frenchatticus]

Haha I hope so. And yeah I got completely into them in my earlier high school years. Still love em, but I haven't listened to them in a while until this week and I've been jamming em nonstop.

[phil19]

yeah man, chicks love that shit.

nice one. cant go wrong with the trio

[AtheAwesome]

Just drop in and say Hi, tell her your name and a bit of a smile :D
then talk for a little bit and then ask her out for dinner or a movie.

But you have to be brave about this, it is hard.

[concernedparent]

Pretty sure you'll come across as a creep if you just drop off a note confessing your love, since you've never met her. You need to be a man and meet her the organic way. Like, starting a spontaneous conversation and going from there.

[Shoes]

Honestly, it's cute but I think just talking to her would be the better option. It's scary, but the best idea imo.

[the1]

Notes and letters are creepy and wierd.
Just find an excuse to talk to her. She's only a human- she could be as nervous as you are!

[jeremypeele]

Pull it out, right on her lunch table. See how she responds.

[superdork]

Do you have any friends who know her? Even if they don't know her very well, they might be able to do an introduction and get the two of you talking a bit. And while i hate to say this, we girls can be kind of shallow. Ecspecially the pretty ones. So unless you're her idea of an incredibly attractive guy, the note thing has a really good chance of making you look like a creep if you've never even really talked to her.

[Jennurna Gray]

But yes, ladies, is that note thing cute or just plain stupid?
I on the first post, she might think you're cute or she might think you're immature. Depends on her personality and the size and color of your eyes. If you have those puppy eyes, she'll go for the note. Otherwise just grow some balls and talk to her.

[Jennurna Gray]

Notes and letters are creepy and wierd.
Just find an excuse to talk to her. She's only a human- she could be as nervous as you are!
Most guys don't understand that they're not the only ones who're nervous. Thank you, sir.

[JamesLado]

step it up and talk to her. If your that interested you gotta figure out who she is, its easier now a days with facebook, myspace, etc.. haha even though thats not a great way at all of starting relationships with others

[steve-0]

the note is a terrible idea. it will come off as creepy. then youll be the creepy guy who dropped a note in front of her without saying anything.

you have to try and somehow talk to her and get to know her at least a little. if you can talk to her for 5 minutes or so and you feel your time is running out, ask her if she wants to go get some coffee sometime. make it a specific date and time. something along the lines of "hey i gotta go, but i was wondering if you wanted to go out for coffee. are you free this weekend?"

make it clear as to what you are asking. and be confident.


if she says no, its not a big deal. all she did was say she didnt want to have coffee with you. if you leave a note professing your undying love (for a girl youve never even talked to? really?) and she says no, its 1000 times more embarassing.

[terror_91]

Reading through this, it does seem like the note will not be a great idea. I reckon it will come off as not necessarily creepy but more of a showing of lack of confidence. I reckon your best bet is to go and talk to her, get her number/ask her out. If everything works out then you could ask her about the note thing and she will probably tell you she would have loved it but until then... :-p

[sweepthenation]

Note is a bad bad idea. Songs will be too...all that comes off as creepy.

[tottivillarossi]

Go to the doctors, ask for him to write you a prescription for "two testicles". Problem solved.

[Esrb99]

talk/get to know her, then ask her to dinner/movie. total win of a combo. oh, and get to know her a bit before asking her out. definitely Notes/letters work well with people you know already- girlfriends, potential girlfriends, etc ones you have good interactions and a good friendship/relationship with already.

[xo.elsa]

That's a great point. And the note was going to say "I have a total crush on you."
Courtesy of Say Anything.

If I wasn't a Say Anything fan I'd be scared of something like that. And if I wasn't scared it still sounds a bit girlie.
I don't think you should wait that long to give her the note either. For me, your best bet would be to walk up to her and introduce yourself and just ask her out like that. But I can't say it would work for sure. Girls are complex. Even I don't understand them...

[Hockeywall]

Dude, just go up and talk to her somehow. Bring up something about the school, ask her a question about something she/most people would know when walking by at lunch. "Hey, do you know where ______ is?", etc. then introduce yourself

[lauren1234]

If you don't talk to her maybe she would think a note from a total stranger would be creepy. But, then again, she may find it totally flattering. Valentines Day is still a little while away so I would say at least try to talk to her. I don't know how you would go about doing that but I would just try.

[vincelac]

Find a common interest, use that as a crutch for conversation.
Don't be creepy or awkward about it though.

Note/letter/song is a bad idea. I've heard many things from my lady friends about guys doing those things and how creepy it was.

[Kozzy333]

Get a mutual friend to introduce you naturally. Then talk to her from there. Let it develop naturally.

Edit- Also, got any pics of her? Post them if you do.

[sleepyseanzzz]

im assuming you are just doing this to get a summer girlfriend so by the time you get to college you will be the iron chef of pounding vag

[SouthernCross40]

Pull it out, right on her lunch table. See how she responds.

You sir, make me proud to be a Gamecock.

[Momo32T]

Can’t Hardly Wait, anyone?

[Knatuhlee]

Notes and letters are creepy and wierd.
Just find an excuse to talk to her. She's only a human- she could be as nervous as you are!

yeah, notes are creepy. dont do that.
do you know somebody who knows her?
if so "just happen to be with that person" (ya know plan out them talkin to her, when you are with them)
and just have your friend casually introduce you in the middle of there convo, and go from there.

[the1]

yeah, notes are creepy. dont do that.
do you know somebody who knows her?
if so "just happen to be with that person" (ya know plan out them talkin to her, when you are with them)
and just have your friend casually introduce you in the middle of there convo, and go from there.

This is good advice.

[jeremypeele]

You sir, make me proud to be a Gamecock.

hahaha, you go to USC? that's cool.

[rosielikesyou]

The note thing is weird. It doesn't engage her or keep her attention at all, and you just placing it and just walking away makes it look like you're afraid of her or something. If you're confident, approach her with the same sense of that. The advice someone gave about the "find a mutual friend and have him/her introduce you" is solid, though.

(Just a thought, but how can you be so sure your feelings for this girl are so strong when you don't even know her? Try not to come off as being too strong about that to her, it might scare her away.)

[CobraLucha]

Girls only like notes when they know who the fuck is writing them

[takeiteasy_]

im assuming you are just doing this to get a summer girlfriend so by the time you get to college you will be the iron chef of pounding vag


We all do it.

[josepablo32]

Thanks man. Maybe I'll just find a way to start talking to her casually.

I think this might be the best you can do for now. Get to know her better, and if she's not your type at least you have gotten yourself a good friend.

[Yellowcard2006]

Don't try.

[Illadelphia]

im assuming you are just doing this to get a summer girlfriend so by the time you get to college you will be the iron chef of pounding vag
haha love Superbad

[smogs]

I personally think the note thing would be cute, but I'm a sucker for things like that. It could come off as a little weird if you've never spoken to her before?

[everyonesfault]

Fucking grow a pair, dude

[everyonesfault]

Also, it's your senior year and your goal should be getting as much tail as possible and nothing more. This is not the way to do it.

[ace1112]

this brought to mind Kristina she don't know i exist ... just sayin

[ace1112]

Btw notes fail epicaly

[Hamlet]

Pull it out, right on her lunch table. See how she responds.

Make sure you do the helicopter (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=helicopter&r=f). It's like a mating dance. She'll totally go nuts for you.

[Tautou107]

Just go up to her and ask her to a movie/for her number.

Edit: Didn't see that you've never talked to her before. Talk to her a few times first, then ask her if she'd like to hang out sometime.

[julietelizabeth]

I have to say, I don't agree with any of the "just go up and ask her out/for her number" advice. If a guy I didn't know asked me out/for my phone number, they'd get nothing but a funny look and a "no!", before I walked off and started avoiding them for the rest of ever.
I say just start talking to her about something - preferably not something completely random, but yeah, talk to her, get to know her a bit and then ask her. If you're attractive and as confident/outgoing as you say, it shouldn't be much of a problem.

[<*)))><]

You seem like a tool, you are some how in love with a girl you never talk to but only basing this entire thing off her looks. Personality is key and your a tool now go back to home depot.

[decel241]

if you dont know her then how do you know its more then a petty crush? thats what it sounds like it is

[Nadene7x]

Write a song or poem then give it to her at lunch but dont make it acward by just placing the note on the table and walking away... introduce yourself and tell her that the note you wrote is for her maybe give her a compliment while your their and then you can make your way back to your table ...your idea is very cute i think she would like it :) good luck

[everyonesfault]

Dude just needs to get laid. After that, his entire perspective will be permanently altered.

[bladerdude360]

Giving a girl that you've never talked to before a note about how much you like her and a song you wrote about her is pretty creppy. Just talk to her, but don't wait for over a month to do it, some other guy could jump in before then and you'd feel like an idiot.

[vincelac]

Write a song or poem then give it to her at lunch but dont make it acward by just placing the note on the table and walking away... introduce yourself and tell her that the note you wrote is for her maybe give her a compliment while your their and then you can make your way back to your table ...your idea is very cute i think she would like it :) good luck
How would you feel is some random dude walked up to you and said, "My name is Paul. I think you look pretty, here's a song I wrote for you"?
A man you never talked to before.

If I were the girl, I'd think it was a joke at first, realize the dude is serious, then avoid him. Forever. It may sound cute on paper, but most of the girls I know would be really creeped out if something like this happened to them, but who knows, maybe she's into "romantic" things like "love at first sight"

[FoldAndDivide]

Even if she finds the note cute, I guarantee that one of her friends would find it creepy and advise against any follow up. Like everyone else has suggested, just go talk to her or when you pass her at school, give her a smile. We notice these things.

[thefinestline.]

Don't give her a note. You will be mocked.
And you've never even talked to her before? wtf?

[gphatx]

The note thing wouldn't go well if you've never spoken her. I would definitely find some way to start a casual conversation so you can introduce yourself.

[himynameiszack]

Pull it out, right on her lunch table. See how she responds.
This.

[himynameiszack]

Dude just needs to get laid. After that, his entire perspective will be permanently altered.
Oh no, it's the kid from the Tebow thread...

[awakeohsleeper]

Even if she finds the note cute, I guarantee that one of her friends would find it creepy and advise against any follow up. Like everyone else has suggested, just go talk to her or when you pass her at school, give her a smile. We notice these things.
Actually true.

The first conversation I ever had with my last girlfriend after smiling at her around college for a few weeks went like this:

Me: eh, hello, are you alright?
Her: yeah...?
Me: Sorry, I don't really know your name - I keep smiling at you around here every so often but I've never really spoken to you. I hope you haven't found that weird or intrusive? So I thought I'd better introduce myself...

etc. etc. etc.

And within a few weeks we were dating. Obviously due to the smiling. And the weird nervous introduction. Man, I was peculiar two years ago.

Shame about the break up last March.

[percussionguita]

Another easy solution is to maybe strike up a small Facebook chat, like "Hey how was your New Years," or just a plain "Happy New Years talk to you when school gets back" or something harmless like that. That is if you are facebook friends with her.

[showmethefever]

Don't initiate contact over Facebook or texting.

[justletgo]

i wouldn't do the note thing. girls don't like feeling stalked. they like being chased, but definitely not being stalked. not that i think this is stalking her, but she may interpret it that way. just find a way to talk to her. i'm probably the same as you. i do all the same shit like go to all my girl friends and ask for advice and over think every little situation possible. but just try to find a way to converse with her. there's gotta be some way other than a note. then just act all cute and stuff from there. it may take a while to win her over, but i have faith in you man. just be confident!

[ascitiesburn101]

Hire a fatter, uglier version of yourself to punch her in the kidneys, thus forcing her to drop her books all over the floor, possibly inducing brain damage. Flatten everyone else's tires. Drive her to hospital, do her homework, take advantage of brain damage, get some.

the end.

[hymtv]

i say hurl. if you blow chunks and she comes back, shes yours. if you spew and she bolts, it was never meant to be.

[oliviaemmer]

But yes, ladies, is that note thing cute or just plain stupid?
I'd go for cute, but also just talking works wonders.

[oliviaemmer]

The note thing wouldn't go well if you've never spoken her. I would definitely find some way to start a casual conversation so you can introduce yourself.

This might be true also.

[sidewacker]

Hey man, don't go with the note, go up and talk to her like most people are suggesting. You can do it!

[shimmyshakes]

If I got handed a note like that, I wouldn't reply, so no, don't do the note. Just go to her locker quickly during periods and say hi. If you get nervous/uncomfortable, you'll be saved by the bell.

[everyonesfault]

i say hurl. if you blow chunks and she comes back, shes yours. if you spew and she bolts, it was never meant to be.

Just about to say this.

[frenchatticus]

Pull it out, right on her lunch table. See how she responds.

lol

[frenchatticus]

step it up and talk to her. If your that interested you gotta figure out who she is, its easier now a days with facebook, myspace, etc.. haha even though thats not a great way at all of starting relationships with others

To be honest, I think Myspace is a thousand times creepier than a note but maybe that's just me. Regardless, I should obviously scratch the note idea and grow some haha.

[frenchatticus]

im assuming you are just doing this to get a summer girlfriend so by the time you get to college you will be the iron chef of pounding vag

Not at all.

[frenchatticus]

Also, it's your senior year and your goal should be getting as much tail as possible and nothing more. This is not the way to do it.

Eh I'm not like that. I know, shocking for a guy to say that.

[frenchatticus]

By the way, the song isn't about her. Just about how I'm stuck in this situation.

[xshady121]

Here's the dilemma, I have a huge crush on this girl that I have the same lunch with. It feels like she's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, and when I'm not at school I constantly find myself thinking about her. The problem, or problems rather, are that I'm pretty sure she has no idea who I am and that I won't be in high school next year, although my college is close by. Still once the school year is over, I don't know how I would get anything started. My fear is that I'll never be able to tell her how I feel or get close to her. As a musician and songwriter, I've written songs about this fear and with that being said, I know this isn't just a petty crush but something much stronger. So here's my plan...

On Valentine's Day I plan on writing her a small note, walking by her lunch table and placing it in front of her, then walking over to my table. If she's interested then maybe she or one of her friends will come talk to me. If not, I'm not really sure where to go from there. I guess the question is should I give that a shot, or is there a different way I should go about it? Should I try to be friends with her first? To me this seems ideal, but I have no classes with her so any attempt at conversation would still show that I'm interested in being more than friends.

I recommend going to your local blockbuster and renting any coming of age comedy like "Superbad" or "I love you beth cooper".

[bNz719]

Probably been mentioned before but wait another month and a half until Valentine's Day at your own risk. Chances are she could have a boyfriend by then. Seize your opportunity now before it slips away and she's taken.

[lynnie]

Eh I'm not like that. I know, shocking for a guy to say that.

Honestly, I wish there were more guys like you when I was in High School! You sound lovely and any girl would be proud to have you.*

I remember back in the day, the note/letters worked when I was in a relationship with my then boyfriend. He would leave notes and poems in my text books to find or in my mail tray at school. I loved it. It didn't work so well when I received notes from guys I didn't know. It*felt like someone was watching me and it made me feel a bit weird.

The best option is always the hardest and that is to start up a very casual, natural conversation. You say you are in a band? Have you got any mini gigs planned? Maybe go over to the table and invite her and her friends? Open invitation sort of thing. Maybe find out what she likes, where she hangs out? Try catching her eye once and a while and smile. I always liked it when a guy did that. Smiling at someone makes them feel good inside and is almost impossible not to get a smile in return. *

[Siren Silently]

Probably been mentioned before but wait another month and a half until Valentine's Day at your own risk. Chances are she could have a boyfriend by then. Seize your opportunity now before it slips away and she's taken.

It's definitely mentioned before... but if you do this card bullshit you can enjoy being known to her as the creepy kid.

[Kassie09]

I wouldn't do it in front of the friends. Girls act different with their friends, it is likely they will all laugh and she will disregard it. If she is alone, she will be more serious.

[vincelac]

Use the tools you have at your disposal. Mutual friends are the key to victory.

[bobcatbob18]

I don't think the note is necessarily a terrible idea. Just make sure what you write doesn't make you sound like a girl. Why wait til Valentine's Day though? If you've never spoken to her before, I think Valentine's Day is kind of cheesy and show's that you've thought about it too much. Plus that leaves you with another month and a half to obsess about her and what you'll say. Is that fun or something?

And who knows, maybe some other guy is waiting for the holiday to drop a similar bomb. Also, if you ask BEFORE V-Day, in the back of her mind (same with probably most girls) they don't want to be single on the holiday. It's an opportunity to up your chances.

[frenchatticus]

Honestly, I wish there were more guys like you when I was in High School! You sound lovely and any girl would be proud to have you.*

I remember back in the day, the note/letters worked when I was in a relationship with my then boyfriend. He would leave notes and poems in my text books to find or in my mail tray at school. I loved it. It didn't work so well when I received notes from guys I didn't know. It*felt like someone was watching me and it made me feel a bit weird.

The best option is always the hardest and that is to start up a very casual, natural conversation. You say you are in a band? Have you got any mini gigs planned? Maybe go over to the table and invite her and her friends? Open invitation sort of thing. Maybe find out what she likes, where she hangs out? Try catching her eye once and a while and smile. I always liked it when a guy did that. Smiling at someone makes them feel good inside and is almost impossible not to get a smile in return. *

Well we haven't been playing shows because we lost our old drummer, but now we have a new one. He's pretty much learned the songs by now, and we're ready to play shows. Anyway, I think I'll do that. Thanks :)

[deathinkosovo]

It's been mentioned before, and it'll be mentioned again, but the note thing is a terrible idea. Probably the worst of any idea suggested. Think about it in-depth by putting yourself in her shoes: You, an decently attractive female (at the least), have many guys interested in you. Some you know, some you do not. One day you find a note on your lunch table, and now you're intrigued. What is it? Who is it from? Perhaps one of the guys you know? Nope, it is from a guy you haven't ever met and it reads, "I have a total crush on you."

Are you telling me that would be anything less than scary for you? Notes work when you're dating or, at the minimum, know that the girl likes notes. If not, you're putting an awful lot behind the feeling that she will revel in the intrigue of it all, and quite frankly, you shouldn't ever put that much behind a feeling. Instinct is often wrong, perception commonly leads wise people astray.

Allow me to go further. Girls are different than guys. If a girl gave you a note, you probably wouldn't find it creepy, and that's because girls and guys have dissimilar standards and takes on what is and is not "creepy." A guy's perspective of receiving a note is, "Ooh, this is mysterious. Who is the girl who likes me? It doesn't matter that I haven't met her yet, because there are decent odds she is attractive or interesting. This is good news." Now, girls are completely different, as, unlike their male counterparts, they are not looking for a quick fuck or hookup. Their perspective on receiving a note is, "Ooh, this is mysterious. Who is this guy who likes me? Do I know him? If I do, why doesn't he have the balls to tell me this in person? If he doesn't, how does he know that he likes me if he's never met me? While he may be attractive or interesting, his lack of confidence turns me off more than any attraction, mental or physical, possibly could turn me on. This is bad news."

In short, girls and guys are of differing minds and want different things. You don't seem the type to want to just bang a chick and kick her to the curb, but realize that if the girl's cute or has a good personality, nine out of every ten guys treats her like an object. It's hard breaking free of the creep mold they automatically lump you into, and you have your male brethren to thank for that. We're guys, we want the pussy -- that's who we are, dude. Unfortunately, the chicks see straight through that unless they're whores themselves. Putting a random note in front of her or pussing out when you should be striking up a conversation is only going to make you look like the rest of the guys she's not interested in and scared of. Don't be that guy. Be a man.

[frenchatticus]

Haha thanks for the advice, sincerely. But I've thought it through, and I know why the note thing is a bad idea. Definitely don't plan on going through with that one. I'll just talk to her whenever I get a chance.

[vincelac]

Haha thanks for the advice, sincerely. But I've thought it through, and I know why the note thing is a bad idea. Definitely don't plan on going through with that one. I'll just talk to her whenever I get a chance.
Edit the first post, so people don't keep telling you that it's dumb.

[frenchatticus]

Good plan.

[Nadene7x]

How would you feel is some random dude walked up to you and said, "My name is Paul. I think you look pretty, here's a song I wrote for you"?
A man you never talked to before.

If I were the girl, I'd think it was a joke at first, realize the dude is serious, then avoid him. Forever. It may sound cute on paper, but most of the girls I know would be really creeped out if something like this happened to them, but who knows, maybe she's into "romantic" things like "love at first sight"
ehh I'm not like most bitchy girls who think there above everyone haha so I wouldn't mind I would be more flattered than creeped out...but that's me

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Is there some kind of dance you could take her to or see if she'd want to go? I know it sounds totally lame, but I know back in high school there used to be a dance around Valentine's Day called Winter Ball...if you were still waiting on telling her on or around VDay.