I fail.

[istillfeelher]

There's this girl who I think is really pretty but I feel like we have nothing to really say to each other. I want to get to know her and see where it goes but I feel like half the time I don't even know what to say..

I'm so sick of talking to her and basically girls in general through text, myspace, etc. and saying what's up and have them respond "Oh nothing much.."
honestly? what am I supposed to say to that!?

Basically does anyone have any advise on keeping the conversation going and avoiding problems like these?

[Jennurna Gray]

There's this girl who I think is really pretty but I feel like we have nothing to really say to each other. I want to get to know her and see where it goes but I feel like half the time I don't even know what to say..

I'm so sick of talking to her and basically girls in general through text, myspace, etc. and saying what's up and have them respond "Oh nothing much.."
honestly? what am I supposed to say to that!?

Basically does anyone have any advise on keeping the conversation going and avoiding problems like these?
Talk in person? And you don't have to have anything to say, if she doesn't know you just walk up to her and introduce yourself. If she does know you, then start a conversation other than "what's up?". Compliment her, or try using one of those pick up lines in the Greatest Pick Up Line thread. They work!

[<*)))><]

Just say you like some piece of clothing she is wearing, she might compliment you on something then bam you got a conversation.

[Deadbolt23]

Ask her where she got her earrings, because they're really nice, and you need to get your sister/mum a birthday soon.

[SomedayTheFire]

She's just not that into you :shrug:

[SomedayTheFire]

Ask her where she got her earrings, because they're really nice, and you need to get your sister/mum a birthday soon.
Nothing like complimenting a girl by saying she has the same taste as your mum :-p jk

[JordanBuell]

She's just not that into you :shrug:

kinda what i was thinking.....

[PutUpOrShutUp77]

Tell Her She Smells Nice

[terror_91]

You are just a boring person. You need to be more interesting.

[Indoor Living]

There's this girl who I think is really pretty but I feel like we have nothing to really say to each other. I want to get to know her and see where it goes but I feel like half the time I don't even know what to say..

I'm so sick of talking to her and basically girls in general through text, myspace, etc. and saying what's up and have them respond "Oh nothing much.."
honestly? what am I supposed to say to that!?

Basically does anyone have any advise on keeping the conversation going and avoiding problems like these?
Turning 18.

[God damner]

Two words bro. Trival Pursuit. Sports and leisure, Entertainment, science, history, anytime you wanna break silence think about the catagories of this delightful game and the inspiration will come.

[perceptrons]

Since you said you want to get to know her, you might start by asking questions that would help you in gaining such info (i.e. ask about her, what her interests are, what she does for fun, etc.). If she seems to not want to have such a conversation with you (which you can tell by how well she answers the question), you should probably move on to another girl.

[kwsqd]

don't ask such a boring question like "what's up?"

[kbi the crowing]

There's this girl who I think is really pretty but I feel like we have nothing to really say to each other. I want to get to know her and see where it goes but I feel like half the time I don't even know what to say..

I'm so sick of talking to her and basically girls in general through text, myspace, etc. and saying what's up and have them respond "Oh nothing much.."
honestly? what am I supposed to say to that!?

Basically does anyone have any advise on keeping the conversation going and avoiding problems like these?

~ talk in person
~ jump right into a conversation rather than saying "what's up"

if neither of those work, the girl probably doesn't like you

[Charles777]

There's this girl who I think is really pretty but I feel like we have nothing to really say to each other. I want to get to know her and see where it goes but I feel like half the time I don't even know what to say..

I'm so sick of talking to her and basically girls in general through text, myspace, etc. and saying what's up and have them respond "Oh nothing much.."
honestly? what am I supposed to say to that!?

Basically does anyone have any advise on keeping the conversation going and avoiding problems like these?
If they're doing "nothing much", you should ask to hang out or something.

[jahh]

Ask her where she got her earrings, because they're really nice, and you need to get your sister/mum a birthday soon.
golden - i've used this before.

[Metal Now]

Two words bro. Trival Pursuit. Sports and leisure, Entertainment, science, history, anytime you wanna break silence think about the catagories of this delightful game and the inspiration will come.

This.

[jonny4star]

talk about things you have in common, like favorite movies, music you listen to..shit like that. things that come up from these little things branch off into personal experiences of something funny that happened or something like that.

[Deadbolt23]

golden - i've used this before.

I haven't. I always imagined it would be a pretty good thing to say though.

[rhinitus]

She's just not that into you :shrug:

i don't think that's always the case at all. i've found a lot of girls (especially dumb ones) just sort of expect you to run the conversation and don't really offer anything up until you spark some crazy interest. so yeah, maybe she's not that interested, but that doesn't necessarily mean shes DISinterested...

Edit: Not trying to say all girls are dumb or be a dick or anything...I'm just saying girls of questionable intelligence are hard for me to converse with.

[Yellowcard2006]

Be less boring.

[Mibabalou]

you are a boring person

end it

[TangledUp]

You are just a boring person. You need to be more interesting.
lol

[terror_91]

lol
Thanks.

[saveferris]

Tell her about the time you saved a school of orphans from a burning building.

[terror_91]

Tell her about the time you saved a school of orphans from a burning building.
I thought it was a pack or a herd?

[saveferris]

I thought it was a pack or a herd?
A pack sounds right. A herd? No

[limepomegranate]

There's this girl who I think is really pretty but I feel like we have nothing to really say to each other. I want to get to know her and see where it goes but I feel like half the time I don't even know what to say..

I'm so sick of talking to her and basically girls in general through text, myspace, etc. and saying what's up and have them respond "Oh nothing much.."
honestly? what am I supposed to say to that!?

Basically does anyone have any advise on keeping the conversation going and avoiding problems like these?
Follow advice below
Talk in person? And you don't have to have anything to say, if she doesn't know you just walk up to her and introduce yourself. If she does know you, then start a conversation other than "what's up?". Compliment her, or try using one of those pick up lines in the Greatest Pick Up Line thread. They work!
Yes, instead of complaining about using technology to talk to her, grow some balls and talk to her in person.
Yes, girls love confidence and what better way to show how confident you are then to introduce yourself to her.
Yes, if you don't want a cookie cutter answer like "Oh nothing, much..." then don't ask a cookie cutter question like "what's up?". Also, don't complain if you do do that and that's what happens!
No matter what age they are girls loooovvveee getting compliments! :-) When my boyfriend compliments me it makes me feel good and so so happy not to mention make me want to give him lovings haha not saying she'll automatically put out for you if you compliment her. But it might help her consider dating you if you're sweet to her.
Ask her where she got her earrings, because they're really nice, and you need to get your sister/mum a birthday soon.
Sister yes...Mom no...
No girl wants to think she has the same style as your mother. Either the girl has the style of an old lady or your mom has the style of a younger girl. Neither of which is good.

Two words bro. Trival Pursuit. Sports and leisure, Entertainment, science, history, anytime you wanna break silence think about the catagories of this delightful game and the inspiration will come.
Make sure she actually likes sports before you ask about them because although I don't hate sports I don't particularly care for them either and a guy was trying to start a conversation or something and asked me who I was rooting for in some basketball or baseball game (still don't remember what teams or what sport). I was just like...uhhh what are you talking about?

Since you said you want to get to know her, you might start by asking questions that would help you in gaining such info (i.e. ask about her, what her interests are, what she does for fun, etc.). If she seems to not want to have such a conversation with you (which you can tell by how well she answers the question), you should probably move on to another girl.
Yes, if you're stuck and don't know much about her you can find out by simply asking her!
To put it more simply if she acts aloof and distant (NOT playing hard to get) then she is just not into you.

][/COLOR]~ talk in person
~ jump right into a conversation rather than saying "what's up"

if neither of those work, the girl probably doesn't like you
This.

If they're doing "nothing much", you should ask to hang out or something.
Yes, exactly! Probably 8 or 9 times out of 10 when a girl says "nothing much" or something along those lines is an invitation for YOU to ask her to hang out. If you do that and don't just "hang out" and do nothing; like if you actually take the initiative and ask her to chill and do something fun and interesting she'll remember that. She'll see that as confidence and think you're a fun and interesting guy!

[DanTGD]

start wearing a hat. everyone is more interesting when they're wearing a hat

[inthemidst]

i don't think that's always the case at all. i've found a lot of girls (especially dumb ones) just sort of expect you to run the conversation and don't really offer anything up until you spark some crazy interest. so yeah, maybe she's not that interested, but that doesn't necessarily mean shes DISinterested...

Edit: Not trying to say all girls are dumb or be a dick or anything...I'm just saying girls of questionable intelligence are hard for me to converse with.

"This song goes out to girls who think that every boy is all about them." I think NFG says it best.

[Scrandon]

You can't complain about getting an answer like "oh nothing much" when you ask "what's up"

[nickstetina]

Yes, girls love confidence and what better way to show how confident you are then to introduce yourself to her. / Yes, if you're stuck and don't know much about her you can find out by simply asking her!


Sometimes I feel too forward or even creeper-ish just coming out of the blue to talk to someone like that. But, maybe I'm just being to self conscious about it.

[limepomegranate]

Sometimes I feel too forward or even creeper-ish just coming out of the blue to talk to someone like that. But, maybe I'm just being to self conscious about it.
Don't just come out and say things like where do you live? etc. Ease into it with questions like are you in my class? Also fake confidence and eventually you'll have it! It does work!

[julietelizabeth]

Yes, exactly! Probably 8 or 9 times out of 10 when a girl says "nothing much" or something along those lines is an invitation for YOU to ask her to hang out. If you do that and don't just "hang out" and do nothing; like if you actually take the initiative and ask her to chill and do something fun and interesting she'll remember that. She'll see that as confidence and think you're a fun and interesting guy!


Uh, not necessarily. Maybe it's just me but I don't say "nothing much" to hint that I want a guy to ask me to hang out - particularly if I don't know the person that well.
The rest is pretty sound, though.

[DanielJames]

If anything, shove a sock down your pants and it'll do all the talking for ya.

[Lycareth]

Imo if you're mostly speaking online, which is probably the most impersonal form of communication; there's a bunch of funny shit on the internet. Make her laugh.

[<*)))><]

Have you tried giving her a dickthrumping?

[Chop[chop]]

Tell her about the time you saved a school of orphans from a burning building.

This worked for me.

[denissuxx]

You're 16. Stop worrying about girls.

[Jennurna Gray]

Follow advice below

Yes, instead of complaining about using technology to talk to her, grow some balls and talk to her in person.
Yes, girls love confidence and what better way to show how confident you are then to introduce yourself to her.
Yes, if you don't want a cookie cutter answer like "Oh nothing, much..." then don't ask a cookie cutter question like "what's up?". Also, don't complain if you do do that and that's what happens!
No matter what age they are girls loooovvveee getting compliments! :-) When my boyfriend compliments me it makes me feel good and so so happy not to mention make me want to give him lovings haha not saying she'll automatically put out for you if you compliment her. But it might help her consider dating you if you're sweet to her.

Sister yes...Mom no...
No girl wants to think she has the same style as your mother. Either the girl has the style of an old lady or your mom has the style of a younger girl. Neither of which is good.


Make sure she actually likes sports before you ask about them because although I don't hate sports I don't particularly care for them either and a guy was trying to start a conversation or something and asked me who I was rooting for in some basketball or baseball game (still don't remember what teams or what sport). I was just like...uhhh what are you talking about?


Yes, if you're stuck and don't know much about her you can find out by simply asking her!
To put it more simply if she acts aloof and distant (NOT playing hard to get) then she is just not into you.


This.


Yes, exactly! Probably 8 or 9 times out of 10 when a girl says "nothing much" or something along those lines is an invitation for YOU to ask her to hang out. If you do that and don't just "hang out" and do nothing; like if you actually take the initiative and ask her to chill and do something fun and interesting she'll remember that. She'll see that as confidence and think you're a fun and interesting guy!
I love the bright colors.

[saveferris]

;60723861']This worked for me.
It's golden

[limepomegranate]

I love the bright colors.
Haha thanks I was in the color coding mood! Just so everyone understood what topic I was on!

[saveferris]

If anything, shove a sock down your pants and it'll do all the talking for ya.
/thread

[saveferris]

Haha thanks I was in the color coding mood! Just so everyone understood what topic I was on!
I love Wilmington

[saveferris]

You're 16. Stop worrying about girls.
Let a playa play

[saveferris]

We rely on the internet too much for interaction with people. Face to face interaction is almost a lost art form. It's funny because my mom and I were just talking about how kids spend an average of 8 hours on the computer a day. Weird right? If you go back to the basics and just straight up talk to the girl in person it shows way more effort and help you build a better foundation. It's way more sincere then saying "what's up" on myspace. Don't get me wrong I love social networking but some things are way better when they're done the more traditional way. Be yourself, show interest, don't come on too strong, be confident.

[Thursdaysox]

Two words bro. Trival Pursuit. Sports and leisure, Entertainment, science, history, anytime you wanna break silence think about the catagories of this delightful game and the inspiration will come.

i laughed. can't lie.

[xapplexpiex]

Have you tried giving her a dickthrumping?
Good advice!

[xapplexpiex]

Follow advice below

Yes, instead of complaining about using technology to talk to her, grow some balls and talk to her in person.
Yes, girls love confidence and what better way to show how confident you are then to introduce yourself to her.
Yes, if you don't want a cookie cutter answer like "Oh nothing, much..." then don't ask a cookie cutter question like "what's up?". Also, don't complain if you do do that and that's what happens!
No matter what age they are girls loooovvveee getting compliments! :-) When my boyfriend compliments me it makes me feel good and so so happy not to mention make me want to give him lovings haha not saying she'll automatically put out for you if you compliment her. But it might help her consider dating you if you're sweet to her.

Sister yes...Mom no...
No girl wants to think she has the same style as your mother. Either the girl has the style of an old lady or your mom has the style of a younger girl. Neither of which is good.


Make sure she actually likes sports before you ask about them because although I don't hate sports I don't particularly care for them either and a guy was trying to start a conversation or something and asked me who I was rooting for in some basketball or baseball game (still don't remember what teams or what sport). I was just like...uhhh what are you talking about?


Yes, if you're stuck and don't know much about her you can find out by simply asking her!
To put it more simply if she acts aloof and distant (NOT playing hard to get) then she is just not into you.


This.


Yes, exactly! Probably 8 or 9 times out of 10 when a girl says "nothing much" or something along those lines is an invitation for YOU to ask her to hang out. If you do that and don't just "hang out" and do nothing; like if you actually take the initiative and ask her to chill and do something fun and interesting she'll remember that. She'll see that as confidence and think you're a fun and interesting guy!
Wow. I think I'm actually going to use this advice. Thanks...even though I didn't make this thread.

[terror_91]

A pack sounds right. A herd? No
Haha, a pack of orphans. I'm scared of being ravaged :-0

[Fringe]

Try getting some inside jokes going... just talk to her and goof around.

But yeah, easier said than done...

[acemvivere]

Jump out of the window, and hope she grabs your arm in time.

If she makes it, she likes you; if she tries but fails, she still likes you; if she ignores you, move on.

...of course I suppose any "upstanding citizen" would try to help in that situation.

...or she could have slow reflexes.

The point is, take the initiative first.

[concernedparent]

start wearing a hat. everyone is more interesting when they're wearing a hat
haha lol

[softhands]

ask her if it's alright to stand by her until it's alright to go back to where you farted. that's an ice breaker.

[chassmariee]

No conversation = no chemistry

[istillfeelher]

Follow advice below

Yes, instead of complaining about using technology to talk to her, grow some balls and talk to her in person.
Yes, girls love confidence and what better way to show how confident you are then to introduce yourself to her.
Yes, if you don't want a cookie cutter answer like "Oh nothing, much..." then don't ask a cookie cutter question like "what's up?". Also, don't complain if you do do that and that's what happens!
No matter what age they are girls loooovvveee getting compliments! :-) When my boyfriend compliments me it makes me feel good and so so happy not to mention make me want to give him lovings haha not saying she'll automatically put out for you if you compliment her. But it might help her consider dating you if you're sweet to her.

Sister yes...Mom no...
No girl wants to think she has the same style as your mother. Either the girl has the style of an old lady or your mom has the style of a younger girl. Neither of which is good.


Make sure she actually likes sports before you ask about them because although I don't hate sports I don't particularly care for them either and a guy was trying to start a conversation or something and asked me who I was rooting for in some basketball or baseball game (still don't remember what teams or what sport). I was just like...uhhh what are you talking about?


Yes, if you're stuck and don't know much about her you can find out by simply asking her!
To put it more simply if she acts aloof and distant (NOT playing hard to get) then she is just not into you.


This.


Yes, exactly! Probably 8 or 9 times out of 10 when a girl says "nothing much" or something along those lines is an invitation for YOU to ask her to hang out. If you do that and don't just "hang out" and do nothing; like if you actually take the initiative and ask her to chill and do something fun and interesting she'll remember that. She'll see that as confidence and think you're a fun and interesting guy!

this is really good advice.

I kinda over exaggerated when I made this thread, I'm not a complete failure at picking up girls. I was just a little frustrated because she didn't seem that interested at first.
I'm actually better in person. but it's kind of hard to ask someone who went to your school but never talked to before to go on a date..
oh and I'm seeing her this weekend, so I'm not a complete failure. :-)

[istillfeelher]

No conversation = no chemistry
this, definitely this. I can't stand talking on the phone and have it be silent half the time.

[limepomegranate]

this is really good advice.

I kinda over exaggerated when I made this thread, I'm not a complete failure at picking up girls. I was just a little frustrated because she didn't seem that interested at first.
I'm actually better in person. but it's kind of hard to ask someone who went to your school but never talked to before to go on a date..
oh and I'm seeing her this weekend, so I'm not a complete failure. :-)
Thanks and good job! Good luck and have fun!

[limepomegranate]

Wow. I think I'm actually going to use this advice. Thanks...even though I didn't make this thread.
No problem and good luck and have fun!

[limepomegranate]

I love Wilmington
Me too! That's why I moved back here after having been gone for like 6 years!

[tonyC4L]

I thought it was a pack or a herd?
lmao

[rhombuspresents]

We rely on the internet too much for interaction with people. Face to face interaction is almost a lost art form. It's funny because my mom and I were just talking about how kids spend an average of 8 hours on the computer a day. Weird right? If you go back to the basics and just straight up talk to the girl in person it shows way more effort and help you build a better foundation. It's way more sincere then saying "what's up" on myspace. Don't get me wrong I love social networking but some things are way better when they're done the more traditional way. Be yourself, show interest, don't come on too strong, be confident.

agreed.

as easy as it is to be able to type and text whatever you want, alot of people these days really are lacking in the face to face communication side of things. Especially in relationships. For the original poster I say limit the amount of texting and facebooking that you are doing with ladies and go for coffee, go wander around ponds, go to chill acoustic shows and chat. But dont' be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and take a chance, go on a date. it's fun.

[wildrocks90]

ask her to hang