what would you do

[we are cured]

Ok. My friend and his girlfriend recently broke up. She and I had this great connection since before their relationship, when I was with her friend and she was with my other (best) friend. I am almost certain we both have feelings for each other. What complicates the problem is that the friend who just lost her is actually becoming one of my better friends- he's a real loyal kid who is a blast to hang out around and doesn't like bs problems. And I would feel really bad about going for his ex, but he actually stole her from my best friend 3 years ago- while they were going out. I'm probably going to wait it out until he gets over her, but chances are she'll be taken by then.

[she cant swim!]

just do it man

[Brandn3w]

bros before hos

[boysdontcry17]

bros before hos

follow this advice

[Carlo Marx]

bros before hos

no, seriously, follow his advice.

in the words of NWA, a bitch is a bitch.

[matt_rawlings]

Do her in the pisshole, that doesn't count

[Saves The Night]

Id go after her...bros before hos sure...but if you are really bros you can double team her together and all will be ok

[xvszero]

Eh, wait... was he friends with the friend of yours he "stole" this girl from and how did he "steal" her?

Cause I tend to follow the logic of not screwing over a good friend, but a friend who screws other people over well... don't really care about that.

[we are cured]

Eh, wait... was he friends with the friend of yours he "stole" this girl from and how did he "steal" her?

Cause I tend to follow the logic of not screwing over a good friend, but a friend who screws other people over well... don't really care about that.

yeah he was. we all hung out in the same group of friends. he basically went up to her and told her he was into her, and then 5 months later started fucking her while she was still with my best friend..this went on for another 3 months. then they broke up and she started going out with the first kid.

the tough part is that he was always just sort of an acquaintance, and then we got to become good friends. she's pretty close to being the perfect girl for me, too- hot, likes to hang out and party a little bit, and communicates really well without the bullshit. i think about 'giving him a taste of his own medicine,' but that would just go right down to the level he was at.

i actually wrote an album about this like two years ago (sans the part where i want to fuck her).

[SonEric84]

yeah he was. we all hung out in the same group of friends. he basically went up to her and told her he was into her, and then 5 months later started fucking her while she was still with my best friend..this went on for another 3 months. then they broke up and she started going out with the first kid.

the tough part is that he was always just sort of an acquaintance, and then we got to become good friends. she's pretty close to being the perfect girl for me, too- hot, likes to hang out and party a little bit, and communicates really well without the bullshit. i think about 'giving him a taste of his own medicine,' but that would just go right down to the level he was at.

i actually wrote an album about this like two years ago (sans the part where i want to fuck her).


Umm yeah....if she's capable of doing this to someone else what makes you think she wouldn't cheat on you? Sounds like you should forget her and find someone who won't mess around on their boyfriend.

[we are cured]

Umm yeah....if she's capable of doing this to someone else what makes you think she wouldn't cheat on you? Sounds like you should forget her and find someone who won't mess around on their boyfriend.

that goes through my head every time i think about it, and is probably one of the reasons i haven't gone for it yet. but, this was 3 years ago when she was 17. i'm not saying that girls grow up immensely in those three years (maybe they do), but i do give her the benefit of the doubt to understand she made a mistake. when this shit went down, nobody talked to the both of them for like 7 months and their life was a 'living hell.' <- they said it

still, you make a valid point.

[vandalsandquinn]

dont do it

[xvszero]

Um.

Ok first off this girl sucks. Yeah, she *might* have become a much better person in the last 3 years, but do you have any specific reason to think so? Because the truth is, most people don't change, they get into habits and stick with them for life, or until they finally decide to make an ACTIVE change, which is a difficult thing to do and I seriously doubt she has done so.

Second off this guy sucks. Honestly, who gives a fuck what he thinks? You're worried about what he will think if you date his ex when he didn't even bother waiting till she was your other friends ex? Who cares what this douchebag thinks.

Of course, again, I wouldn't go near this girl with a ten foot pole so the real solution is just plain don't do it. Keep your friendship with the asshole dude and don't get fucked over by the asshole girl.

Everyone wins.

Sort of.

Honestly, the best thing that happened to me when I started getting older was realizing just because I had a crush on a girl didn't mean I should go for her. There are MANY girls out there who are more worth it than this girl sounds to be.

[we are cured]

Um.

Ok first off this girl sucks. Yeah, she *might* have become a much better person in the last 3 years, but do you have any specific reason to think so? Because the truth is, most people don't change, they get into habits and stick with them for life, or until they finally decide to make an ACTIVE change, which is a difficult thing to do and I seriously doubt she has done so.

Second off this guy sucks. Honestly, who gives a fuck what he thinks? You're worried about what he will think if you date his ex when he didn't even bother waiting till she was your other friends ex? Who cares what this douchebag thinks.

Of course, again, I wouldn't go near this girl with a ten foot pole so the real solution is just plain don't do it. Keep your friendship with the asshole dude and don't get fucked over by the asshole girl.

Well said man. I'm friends with both of them, but the maneuver they pulled pretty much fucked everyone over (nobody could hang out with so and so, etc). I wouldn't call them assholes, but I would say that they have a blatant disregard for anybody but themselves.

Thanks to everyone that offered advice. I probably wouldn't have gone through with it, but I'll just go ahead and say that you guys kept me out of trouble.

[justinevans]

there's plenty of fish in the sea.

[xvszero]

I wouldn't call them assholes, but I would say that they have a blatant disregard for anybody but themselves.

There are many ways to define an asshole, and a blatant disregard for anyone but oneself is definately one of those ways.