Story Time

[Carlo Marx]

Just felt I had to write this down somewhere to get it off my chest.


So back when I was 17, and a junior in high school, I met this girl at my friend's New Year's Eve party. We'll call her Kelly, for story telling purposes. We had an immediate attraction; she was pretty and funny and smart, which is extremely rare to find all three in one girl these days. Thing is, I was with this other girl at the time, who was hot. That's really all there was to her, her overwhelming beauty. Other than that she was a pretty boring person. However, because she was better looking than Kelly, I completely blew Kelly off, going so far as to give Kelly a bogus excuse for not going to prom with her. I eventually realized what an ass I'd been, and apologized to Kelly for being a dick. We started hanging out, the attraction was still there, and we managed to get pretty close in three days.

Unfortunately, that's all we had. For some reason (although I have a pretty good idea of why) Kelly just stopped talking to me. Didn't answer my calls, didn't respond to my IMs, she just stopped talking to me. By the time my Senior year rolled around, I had a new girlfriend, was happy, and had all but forgotten about Kelly.

One night I went to the beach with a few friends. Kelly's there. Everything I had felt for her swelled up in my mind, and all I could think about was what a dipshit I'd been to pass her up. It got so bad that I broke up with my girlfriend because all I could think about was "what if...?".

Kelly's back in my life now. I'm 20 going on 21, I'll be a Junior in College this year, and Kelly is back in my life. We hang out a few times a week, always in groups of our mutual friends. She goes to school in Rhode Island and has a boyfriend up there, and she still has this incredible way of getting under my skin and into my thoughts. I really doubt she has any feelings for me, but everytime I look at this girl all I think is "Damnit Ryan, you're a schmuck."

Moral of the story is that I'm too much of a fuck up to realize when I have something good right in front of me. Fuck.

[popdisaster00]

I've been there, sir. I feel your pain. If it's meant to be, it's not too late!

[xvszero]

My general rule is never, ever expect any New Years Ever party meetings to mean anything at all.

[PaulsRightNut]

I think everyone has that certain special someone they just kinda cross paths with, and you can't really get them off your mind. I don't know, I think with anything you're always gonna wonder "What if?"

[boysdontcry17]

i feel you. i knew this funny smart girl, she was relatively good lookin. but NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, i had to go for some hot dumb chick. i say go for it, whats gonna happen? at least its better than askin "what if" for the rest of your life. and if it doesnt work out then drink and get laid plenty (made me feel better)

[FondestMemory]

here's what ya gotta do: kiss her. just do it.

if she's into it, she leaves her boyfriend and ends up living happily ever after with you. or you break up in a few months but at least never have to wonder again 'what if?'

if she's not into it, she runs back to her boyfriend and you're out a friend. which may sound like a bad thing, but if she's that deep under your skin, it may not be good to keep her around if there's nothing you can do about it.

the longer you let it fester up inside of you, the more it will kill you. with her still in your life, how do you move on? if you try to get a girlfriend now, they're just going to be compared to her, which isn't fair to anybody. if you keep going at this pace, you'll be friends when you're older, you'll be invited to her wedding. how much will that kill you?

seriously dude. man up. this is one of the chances worth taking.

[Carlo Marx]

here's what ya gotta do: kiss her. just do it.

if she's into it, she leaves her boyfriend and ends up living happily ever after with you. or you break up in a few months but at least never have to wonder again 'what if?'

if she's not into it, she runs back to her boyfriend and you're out a friend. which may sound like a bad thing, but if she's that deep under your skin, it may not be good to keep her around if there's nothing you can do about it.

the longer you let it fester up inside of you, the more it will kill you. with her still in your life, how do you move on? if you try to get a girlfriend now, they're just going to be compared to her, which isn't fair to anybody. if you keep going at this pace, you'll be friends when you're older, you'll be invited to her wedding. how much will that kill you?

seriously dude. man up. this is one of the chances worth taking.

thanks man, i apreciate that you'd take the time to type that out. I know I need to just let everything out now or end up holding it in forever, and it sucks. But I have to do what needs to be done.

[ForeverInADay]

Her name ACTUALLY is Kelly, isn't it?

[Carlo Marx]

Her name ACTUALLY is Kelly, isn't it?

actually, no. same first letter though.

[Juliana101]

Just felt I had to write this down somewhere to get it off my chest.


So back when I was 17, and a junior in high school, I met this girl at my friend's New Year's Eve party. We'll call her Kelly, for story telling purposes. We had an immediate attraction; she was pretty and funny and smart, which is extremely rare to find all three in one girl these days. Thing is, I was with this other girl at the time, who was hot. That's really all there was to her, her overwhelming beauty. Other than that she was a pretty boring person. However, because she was better looking than Kelly, I completely blew Kelly off, going so far as to give Kelly a bogus excuse for not going to prom with her. I eventually realized what an ass I'd been, and apologized to Kelly for being a dick. We started hanging out, the attraction was still there, and we managed to get pretty close in three days.

Unfortunately, that's all we had. For some reason (although I have a pretty good idea of why) Kelly just stopped talking to me. Didn't answer my calls, didn't respond to my IMs, she just stopped talking to me. By the time my Senior year rolled around, I had a new girlfriend, was happy, and had all but forgotten about Kelly.

One night I went to the beach with a few friends. Kelly's there. Everything I had felt for her swelled up in my mind, and all I could think about was what a dipshit I'd been to pass her up. It got so bad that I broke up with my girlfriend because all I could think about was "what if...?".

Kelly's back in my life now. I'm 20 going on 21, I'll be a Junior in College this year, and Kelly is back in my life. We hang out a few times a week, always in groups of our mutual friends. She goes to school in Rhode Island and has a boyfriend up there, and she still has this incredible way of getting under my skin and into my thoughts. I really doubt she has any feelings for me, but everytime I look at this girl all I think is "Damnit Ryan, you're a schmuck."

Moral of the story is that I'm too much of a fuck up to realize when I have something good right in front of me. Fuck.


The problem with these kind of situations is that it happens to pretty much everybody (guy and girl) at least once their entire life, and no one still has a surefire way of handling it.

Honesty. At least you'll know either way, and if it turns out how you don't want it to, then you can work of getting her off your mind.

[x togepi x]

it sucks. i'm there right now, though with a different situation.