Can I get some help?

[Halt]

Alright a little back story:

from the time I noticed this girl in my first semester gym class of high school thought she was cute. But back then, I didn't have the balls to talk to girls at all almost. Pretty much didn't have any social skills with the women.
2 years later, we both graduate together, both go to colleges, and I started talking to her on facebook one day, after I seen a post the one thing that went through my mind is, "I didn't talk to her in high school because I was a pussy, I'll get her to invite me to hang out with her" Which I did, I'm going to a concert with her, a huge ass arcade place possibly, and she opted for movie night at her house.

Now to the problem: She keeps referring to me as a friend, she thinks I'm cool and all. I eventually want to be more then friends, thats where the problem lies, I will ask her soon enough after we hang out and such more about her feelings. But would that be the right thing to do? I mean I don't really want to rush into it, but I don't plan to sit down and just make small talk everyday as we converse.

Not sure what the right path here to take is, I go in and just ask, or I could wait a bit and keep talking.

[MusicIsLovex3]

hmm...maybe you should just tell her how you feel but make her aware that your not trying to rush things, your just getting your feeling out there

[katiep1088]

If you didn't talk to her in high school and you all of a sudden spill all of these feelings you have for her, it will freak her out. Take your time and let her get to know you and vice versa.

[Halt]

If you didn't talk to her in high school and you all of a sudden spill all of these feelings you have for her, it will freak her out. Take your time and let her get to know you and vice versa.

I've been talking to her for a couple months now, I was surprised how quickly she was to invite me to the concert with her friends too and it was also her idea for the arcade/laser tag thing too. It was unexpected really. But I see where you're coming from. Sadly, I've lost sleep over this. Not knowing what to do, sometimes bothers me.

[katiep1088]

Don't stress about it too much. Since she is the one who invited you your chances are probably good. It will all fall together eventually.

[anamericangod]

Act like you don't care. See if she comes after you.

If she doesn't, just have sex with her friends.

[Halt]

Don't stress about it too much. Since she is the one who invited you your chances are probably good. It will all fall together eventually.

That's what I'm pulling for. :P Thanks for your help. :]

[EvilZeppelin]

anal fixes everything.

[davehennessy]

If you didn't talk to her in high school and you all of a sudden spill all of these feelings you have for her, it will freak her out. Take your time and let her get to know you and vice versa.

This. And take your time man, if you're getting to spend time with her it's what you want anyway, right? The more you two know about each other, the more comfortable you'll (both) feel talking about furthering your relationship

[spiffa0]

Act like you don't care. See if she comes after you.

If she doesn't, just have sex with her friends.

Words to live by...:nono:

[etheritcher]

this sort of happened to me in high school. i knew this guy for years and we didn't talk until we graduated. definitely hang out and get to know her etc and things should be fine.

[roughroads]

Alright a little back story:

from the time I noticed this girl in my first semester gym class of high school thought she was cute. But back then, I didn't have the balls to talk to girls at all almost. Pretty much didn't have any social skills with the women.
2 years later, we both graduate together, both go to colleges, and I started talking to her on facebook one day, after I seen a post the one thing that went through my mind is, "I didn't talk to her in high school because I was a pussy, I'll get her to invite me to hang out with her" Which I did, I'm going to a concert with her, a huge ass arcade place possibly, and she opted for movie night at her house.

Now to the problem: She keeps referring to me as a friend, she thinks I'm cool and all. I eventually want to be more then friends, thats where the problem lies, I will ask her soon enough after we hang out and such more about her feelings. But would that be the right thing to do? I mean I don't really want to rush into it, but I don't plan to sit down and just make small talk everyday as we converse.

Not sure what the right path here to take is, I go in and just ask, or I could wait a bit and keep talking.

Try impressing her with your grammar skills...
I'm sorry but people saying "I seen" rather then the appropriate "saw" or "had seen" is probably my biggest pet peeve.

You could try awkward sexual advances until your out of the "Friend Zone"

[Halt]

Try impressing her with your grammar skills...
I'm sorry but people saying "I seen" rather then the appropriate "saw" or "had seen" is probably my biggest pet peeve.

You could try awkward sexual advances until your out of the "Friend Zone"

Eh, doesn't seem like the best route, since she feels very strongly against pre-marital sex. Oddly that doesn't bother me as much as I thought it should.

Also, yeah my grammar isn't the best, I know this. 6 months ago, it was way worse though dude.

[introduction]

watch the friend zone episode of scrubs. then watch the last episode of scrubs. as you will see, even though you're put in the friend zone, you get to have sex with her. all. the. time. she'll even have your baby!

[leviklassen]

I'm repeating what people have said already...but get to know her. Spend time with her, ask lots of questions. Not too many, just how she's feeling about things. Try to have deep, meaningful conversations. Let her know you care and she'll start coming to you when she needs someone trustworthy to talk to. Don't be too clingy, don't over do it, that scares them off. After a few more weeks or months, when it feels right, force yourself to be bold and tell her how you feel. Maybe don't ask her out right away, just have a conversation about where things are going and how each of you feel. Being bold and stepping out of your comfort zone (without being disrespectful or impulsive) is one of the best things you can do. Hope this helps.

[ZachMadeMeOdd]

ask for friendly anal.

[Toothache]

just let it flow naturally. some people click, some people dont. if after hangin out with her a few times and you dont feel that special unspoken, unidentifiable connection, it probably isn't meant to be. you really can't force a relationship or even a fling if one person wants it and the other isn't feeling it. just dip your feet in the water and feel it out first, especially if you guys haven't really gotten to know eachother on a deeper level yet.

[Halt]

I'm repeating what people have said already...but get to know her. Spend time with her, ask lots of questions. Not too many, just how she's feeling about things. Try to have deep, meaningful conversations. Let her know you care and she'll start coming to you when she needs someone trustworthy to talk to. Don't be too clingy, don't over do it, that scares them off. After a few more weeks or months, when it feels right, force yourself to be bold and tell her how you feel. Maybe don't ask her out right away, just have a conversation about where things are going and how each of you feel. Being bold and stepping out of your comfort zone (without being disrespectful or impulsive) is one of the best things you can do. Hope this helps.

Yeah, I step out of my comfort zone pretty easily now days. only thing that bothers me, is I don't want to ask over facebook, or skype, over the the phone. Our colleges are within driving range and such. about the clingy thing, she hates clingy people as much as I do, odd thing is, I try not to talk to her all the time, but then she approaches me online. So yeah. I have let her know I care, and such.

I just don't like the idea of asking online or over the phone. and if I have to, I'll drive over to her dorm.

[katiep1088]

That's what I'm pulling for. :P Thanks for your help. :]

You're welcome :]

[Halt]

Hey I'm back after what 2 days. haha Imagine that.

So, I have loads of free time on my hands, and nothing to do with it since I live in the middle of fucking nowhere Wisconsin. No Job, friends are always working usually, or went to college, like most of us did. But the one problem I have is all that free time.

When I have a lot of free time on my hands, I think a lot, and whats going through my head as I'm listening to my music. This girl of course. She has a busy week of like 3 Exams and a paper so I just say the casual hi maybe once a day ask her how her day has been that's about it since shes cramming for her exams and writting a paper.

What are some Ideas that can get my mind off this for like a few days. I CAN'T be in the gym everyday, since it abides by the high school games since I use my high schools gym cause I can't afford a membership.

Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

- Halt

[AndrewIcex]

Just be active in her life through the phone (text, calls or whatever), you will get your fix, and at the same time you will be in the picture with her.

[Halt]

Just be active in her life through the phone (text, calls or whatever), you will get your fix, and at the same time you will be in the picture with her.

Alright, another thing too. I want get to know her more, but not be so blunt to just ask questions all the time? Or should I? Some friends tell me just to talk with her, but she sometimes has nothing to talk about and I run out of ideas eventually. xP

[AndrewIcex]

Alright, another thing too. I want get to know her more, but not be so blunt to just ask questions all the time? Or should I? Some friends tell me just to talk with her, but she sometimes has nothing to talk about and I run out of ideas eventually. xP
Well, young people (I, included) tend to play this little game known as "20 Questions" and that alone can tell you a lot about each other while allowing flirtatious talking to commence, why not pose that idea to her?

And anytime you run out of ideas of stuff to talk about... just turn whatever you are doing into something funny and make your life seem hilarious, though it may not be so interesting to you, the girl will be interested in what you have to say and what you are doing.

Just a couple of ideas to try, good luck.

[Halt]

Well, young people (I, included) tend to play this little game known as "20 Questions" and that alone can tell you a lot about each other while allowing flirtatious talking to commence, why not pose that idea to her?

And anytime you run out of ideas of stuff to talk about... just turn whatever you are doing into something funny and make your life seem hilarious, though it may not be so interesting to you, the girl will be interested in what you have to say and what you are doing.

Just a couple of ideas to try, good luck.

Alright, sounds like an idea. I'll do that I suppose xP

[AndrewIcex]

Alright, sounds like an idea. I'll do that I suppose xP
Go for gold.

[MusicHealsME]

I Went through a very similar situation. I was introduced through a mutual friend and even though we hung out and was happy being with each other she wouldn't go for it. One night after she stopped crying she asked me who I liked/loved so I told her and her response was I know so, I hope she doesn't lead you on after you try your luck. As for getting your mind off of her watch a movie or T.V. show you haven't seen in many years. hope it works out!

lmao at anal comments & Fuck The Friend Zone.

[Jennurna Gray]

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