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3wotkris
02/14/10, 06:09 PM
who you still have mad feelings for
can anyone else relate?
anthonydarko
02/14/10, 06:21 PM
I wouldn't say I had mad feelings for her, but I've done that. One time, I had sex with her right after seeing New Found Glory, it was awesome.
3wotkris
02/14/10, 06:26 PM
I wouldn't say I had mad feelings for her, but I've done that. One time, I had sex with her right after seeing New Found Glory, it was awesome.
that is quite the double whammy
ZoSo1886
02/14/10, 06:29 PM
do it while you are young, it is less acceptable as you get older
warstory
02/14/10, 06:39 PM
I have done this. It took us almost a year to put an end to things and realize that we were once too close to be able to just fuck. It really kept us attached and although I was still dating other people I never fully let go of him until we quit having sex.
I can very easily differentiate sex and love in most situations but the lines become blurred and just plain awful when you're sleeping with an ex you've had legitimate feelings for.
madam_xt
02/14/10, 06:45 PM
5 months after we broke up, i'm still having sex with my ex.
cant say i have mad feelings for them, but to a certain point i do.
ActionActionFan
02/14/10, 07:00 PM
5 months after we broke up, i'm still having sex with my ex.
cant say i have mad feelings for them, but to a certain point i do.
Is there more than one?
uglystar03
02/14/10, 07:07 PM
It seems like I always do this after I get out of a relationship. I have never had a clean break. It usually ends up being pretty messy. I wouldn't suggest it.
<*)))><
02/14/10, 07:33 PM
Never a good idea, but I'm hopefully doing this, this weekend.
overdrive91
02/14/10, 07:45 PM
I did it 2 years after I broke up with me. It was...interesting.
3wotkris
02/14/10, 07:58 PM
I did it 2 years after I broke up with me. It was...interesting.
after you broke up with yourself? :S
3wotkris
02/14/10, 08:00 PM
oh yeah this happened like a few days ago, we broke up about 2 months ago, and she knows i still have feelings for her, and vice versa
so yeah this shit is a bit of a mindfuck
BadRomance
02/14/10, 08:02 PM
Never done this.
They're an ex for a reason, meaning I would never want to see them again.
One time I was about to, but I stopped myself.
overdrive91
02/14/10, 08:15 PM
after you broke up with yourself? :S
Totally was not paying attention to what i was writing. I mean her.
madam_xt
02/14/10, 08:21 PM
Is there more than one?
no just one, i worded that wrong
whoaisame
02/14/10, 08:51 PM
Broke up with my GF of 3 years (well she broke up with me), we still have sex all the time. She has a new "boyfriend", even tho she says its not her "boyfriend", but he is. She does this behind his back with me. She never cheated on me, she was up front with me about all this and didnt do anything behind my back. Needless to say, this shit is confusing as fuck.
Help, I'm Alive
02/14/10, 08:52 PM
do it
saysmydoctor
02/14/10, 08:56 PM
Isn't that what you're supposed to do?
Mirrors Shatter
02/14/10, 09:02 PM
I did it 2 years after I broke up with me. It was...interesting.
after you broke up with yourself? :S
This made me laugh for at least three minutes and I'm not really sure why.
brntsnfan
02/14/10, 09:02 PM
talk about complication... don't do it! :shudder:
whoaisame
02/14/10, 09:25 PM
Honestly, I would say that the right thing to do is just to try and move on, but I am doing the complete opposite myself. It really depends on the situation I guess. My ex girlfriend still says "I love you" to me and calls me "baby" and says that "she wants to eventually be with me", and the sex too, yet seems to refuse the idea of being with me now. Doesn't make any sense at all, I am pretty much being used. So yea, depends on the situation.
BreakTheNews
02/14/10, 09:43 PM
me and this girl broke up like almost a year from now and we still have sex kind of a lot there is some feelings but not much between us
PaperLantern
02/14/10, 09:56 PM
Broke up with my GF of 3 years (well she broke up with me), we still have sex all the time. She has a new "boyfriend", even tho she says its not her "boyfriend", but he is. She does this behind his back with me. She never cheated on me, she was up front with me about all this and didnt do anything behind my back. Needless to say, this shit is confusing as fuck.
First bolded font - Lol.
Second - Right...
whoaisame
02/14/10, 09:57 PM
First bolded font - Lol.
Second - Right...
You dont knnoow mee *snaps fingers and sassy hand gesture*
bladerdude360
02/14/10, 11:16 PM
Can't say that I do.
not worth it. causes hella drama. There are plenty of other females out there.
UnderJOath
02/14/10, 11:29 PM
Depends on the circumstance. I've hooked up with ex's way past our point of breakup, but there were some I never would get involved with again.
barkingincision
02/14/10, 11:53 PM
happened today
4th time.
happy v day
Honestly, I would say that the right thing to do is just to try and move on, but I am doing the complete opposite myself. It really depends on the situation I guess. My ex girlfriend still says "I love you" to me and calls me "baby" and says that "she wants to eventually be with me", and the sex too, yet seems to refuse the idea of being with me now. Doesn't make any sense at all, I am pretty much being used. So yea, depends on the situation.
if you don't want to feel like the biggest loser ever, break up with her first, dude!
AFSjulian
02/15/10, 02:32 AM
Used to do it always. Hate it. Made me feel awful. I'd love to say I'd never do it again, but I probably will.
Deadbolt23
02/15/10, 02:40 AM
If you had mad feelings for her then definitely not.
If you didn't then why not.
I wouldn't say I had mad feelings for her, but I've done that. One time, I had sex with her right after seeing New Found Glory, it was awesome.
fuck yeah bro
vincelac
02/15/10, 06:39 AM
who you still have mad feelings for
can anyone else relate?
lmao. last night. twas my first time.
TheKyle
02/15/10, 06:56 AM
Broke up with my GF of 3 years (well she broke up with me), we still have sex all the time. She has a new "boyfriend", even tho she says its not her "boyfriend", but he is. She does this behind his back with me. She never cheated on me, she was up front with me about all this and didnt do anything behind my back. Needless to say, this shit is confusing as fuck.
I'm in the same situation.. shit fucks with my head and depresses me :/
what the fuck is wrong with you people that you can actually do that?
Yellowcard2006
02/15/10, 07:58 AM
Drop the girl, and move on
ohheroine
02/15/10, 08:24 AM
me and my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up a month ago and we still have sex regularly. we sneak around and dont tell anyone and its like our little secret. i still have feelings for him but he doesn't want a relationship so it kind of works out for both of us.
ive been having sex with my ex for a couple months...and as a result im entirely confused about our relationship...but im not complaining
do it while you are young, it is less acceptable as you get older
Agree with this. Also, don't do it too much, otherwise you will develop creeper feelings and then murder her, or yourself which is completely ridiculous. Just stick to trying to move on honestly.
emoishardcore
02/15/10, 09:36 AM
pffff...to the person who said its less acceptable as you get older....thats completely not true. it does not get any less/more acceptable regardless of age but i have numerous adults friends who do it and sometimes it works fine sometimes not. it's a matter of both people knowing what to expect from each other.
I have sex with two of my exes pretty often, but I have no feelings for them, so it's whatever.
intensified
02/15/10, 10:26 AM
Sluts.
matt_bergeron
02/15/10, 12:47 PM
It seems like I always do this after I get out of a relationship. I have never had a clean break. It usually ends up being pretty messy. I wouldn't suggest it.
yuppppppp.
DanielJames
02/15/10, 12:56 PM
Don't sell yourself short man!
Dude! Don't listen to all of these do-rights. You are young bang the crap out of her as long as possible. Go with the flow.
intensified
02/16/10, 11:18 AM
Dude! Don't listen to all of these do-rights. You are young bang the crap out of her as long as possible. Go with the flow.
Hey, you look like my boyfriend.
Hey, you look like my boyfriend.
is that a good thing?
intensified
02/16/10, 12:18 PM
is that a good thing?
Hell yeah, it is.
Panda Bear Lee
02/17/10, 03:03 PM
i can.. i see her almost everyday, i sleep over almost ever night and we still kiss, have "fun" and hold hands.. we broke up like 3 months ago but i still love her to death. its weird but i like it.
UnderJOath
02/17/10, 03:04 PM
i can.. i see her almost everyday, i sleep over almost ever night and we still kiss, have "fun" and hold hands.. we broke up like 3 months ago but i still love her to death. its weird but i like it.
That's not a break-up.
Panda Bear Lee
02/17/10, 03:09 PM
That's not a break-up.
Yea actualy it is.. because now we can see other people, and say no more often. we use to go on dates.. those are no more, we planned on moving in together, moving out of state, going to college together and those are no more too.. so if you get what im saying, it kinda is.
AndrewIcex
02/18/10, 12:17 AM
I use to be game for this, until my ex became my girlfriend, again. Game over.
whoaisame
02/18/10, 12:31 AM
I use to be game for this, until my ex became my girlfriend, again. Game over.
just curious, what do you mean by that?
AndrewIcex
02/18/10, 12:14 PM
just curious, what do you mean by that?
We broke up after a 2 year relationship... were apart for 3 months or so... talking to/dating new people, then one day we randomly started talking again, met up... slept together and missed each other at the same time and now we are back together and discussing engagements and such... world works in crazy ways.
ghelms88
02/18/10, 12:22 PM
I have been on the opposite side of that. Being the one that an ex sleeps with who they still have mad feelings for. Always wondered what it's like to be on the other end.
onelastdisaster
02/18/10, 11:06 PM
I did this for about a year after we broke up. It was a hard breakup for us, for sure. He was kinda seeing some chick at one point, whatever. We're both over it now though, and I could never ever see myself with him or even fucking him again.
Kassie09
02/19/10, 07:43 AM
DON'T DO IT
x
cristinaa
02/21/10, 07:32 AM
I use to be game for this, until my ex became my girlfriend, again. Game over.
Yea, that's what ended up happening to me too.
AndrewIcex
02/22/10, 03:02 PM
Yea, that's what ended up happening to me too.
It just happened, right?
cristinaa
02/22/10, 04:56 PM
It just happened, right?
Yea, kind of, it was like 2 months ago.
AndrewIcex
02/22/10, 05:46 PM
Yea, kind of, it was like 2 months ago.
Mine was about... a month ago, at most... probably a little less than.
cristinaa
02/24/10, 07:28 PM
Mine was about... a month ago, at most... probably a little less than.
Yea, I guess I'll see where this goes. I mean I ended it for a reason originally.
total win. shows you can not give a shit about her but still get sex.
and it makes her look like a whore. plus its sex.
Two Headed Girl
02/24/10, 07:44 PM
I definitely posted in a thread about exactly this months ago.
AndrewIcex
02/24/10, 07:47 PM
Yea, I guess I'll see where this goes. I mean I ended it for a reason originally.
Ah gotcha.. did he earn his way back?
cristinaa
02/24/10, 07:54 PM
Ah gotcha.. did he earn his way back?
Not really, I originally felt like he just was't it. He wasn't everything I wanted. After being single again for a few months I was reminded of what other crap was out there and I also have come to think that no one can ever be totally perfectly everything I'm looking for....I don't know... I guess I'll see.
AndrewIcex
02/25/10, 01:30 AM
Not really, I originally felt like he just was't it. He wasn't everything I wanted. After being single again for a few months I was reminded of what other crap was out there and I also have come to think that no one can ever be totally perfectly everything I'm looking for....I don't know... I guess I'll see.
Hmmm well, I honestly think there are multiple people for each person... and I also think some people are never "it" bur people stick with them anyway.. ya know?
cristinaa
02/25/10, 05:22 PM
Hmmm well, I honestly think there are multiple people for each person... and I also think some people are never "it" bur people stick with them anyway.. ya know?
Yea, I totally agree, but sometimes I feel like I could feel stronger for someone else.
AndrewIcex
02/26/10, 09:01 AM
Yea, I totally agree, but sometimes I feel like I could feel stronger for someone else.
Ah why is that? That is an interesting statement.
cristinaa
02/27/10, 06:34 AM
Ah why is that? That is an interesting statement.
I don't know. I just sometimes would like to believe that there's a stronger feeling than this. If there isn't that would be a little depressing. I'm probably being too idealistic. I mean I do love my bf and the longer we've been dating the more I realize that.
AndrewIcex
02/28/10, 09:03 PM
I don't know. I just sometimes would like to believe that there's a stronger feeling than this. If there isn't that would be a little depressing. I'm probably being too idealistic. I mean I do love my bf and the longer we've been dating the more I realize that.
Hmmm I can understand that, I have been there. These days, I feel like I have stronger feelings than ever... but trust me, I have questioned my own feelings in the past, multiple times, but as time grows longer so does my feelings. I think everyone goes through it.
cristinaa
03/17/10, 07:58 PM
I mean I do love my bf and the longer we've been dating the more I realize that.
Of course when I finally came to this realization, I was broken up with a week later out of the blue and it really sucks. He said we could still hang out and I agreed and now we have been doing this again, but this time it's different because I'm the only one who still cares. He hangs out with me when he's bored. At first I told him I didn't want to do anything because I knew he was only hanging out with me because he had nothing better to do, but it ended up happening anyway. It really sucks because one day he'll act like we're getting along and the next day he'll have something to do or someone to hang out with and completely ignores me and acts like my calls are incredibly irritating. I know I've been being used now, I just thought every time that we were getting along and that things would be different. So, yea, this time around it really sucks.
AndrewIcex
03/17/10, 08:57 PM
Of course when I finally came to this realization, I was broken up with a week later out of the blue and it really sucks. He said we could still hang out and I agreed and now we have been doing this again, but this time it's different because I'm the only one who still cares. He hangs out with me when he's bored. At first I told him I didn't want to do anything because I knew he was only hanging out with me because he had nothing better to do, but it ended up happening anyway. It really sucks because one day he'll act like we're getting along and the next day he'll have something to do or someone to hang out with and completely ignores me and acts like my calls are incredibly irritating. I know I've been being used now, I just thought every time that we were getting along and that things would be different. So, yea, this time around it really sucks.
No one should ever feel used, it isn't right... I am sorry to hear that. :(
my ex invited me round her place for oc and snacks this weekend. im unsure as to what will happen. i dont want the sex, i just want the oc, snacks, and the company
MarshmallowHobo
03/18/10, 03:39 AM
I broke up with my girlfriend in August last year and we've still been sleeping together every so often. It seems that whenever we hang out alone it ends with sex, just like when we first met. Hmmn. Though always, either one of us always says "I don't want this to confuse you". Lol.
Taking_Frags
03/18/10, 06:05 AM
I broke up with my girlfriend in August last year and we've still been sleeping together every so often. It seems that whenever we hang out alone it ends with sex, just like when we first met. Hmmn. Though always, either one of us always says "I don't want this to confuse you". Lol.
Your "Lol." made me Lol.
happygilmoreat
03/18/10, 08:01 AM
my ex invited me round her place for oc and snacks this weekend. im unsure as to what will happen. i dont want the sex, i just want the oc, snacks, and the company
oc? like the tv show lol?
oc? like the tv show lol?
yep. great show
MarshmallowHobo
03/23/10, 07:04 AM
Your "Lol." made me Lol.
Haha, why?
Taking_Frags
03/23/10, 08:09 AM
Haha, why?
After reading what you said, and I saw the "Lol.", I just had to laugh. No other explanation besides that.
I've only done it once and it just made it so it took so much longer for us to actually separate and move on. I don't think it's a good idea at all. You're just putting off moving on. Grab your balls and go.
davehennessy
03/23/10, 09:43 AM
I use to be game for this, until my ex became my girlfriend, again. Game over.
I hope this happens to me haha. I'm in a similar situation
AndrewIcex
03/23/10, 11:58 AM
I hope this happens to me haha. I'm in a similar situation
Good luck, it is a tough situation I am sure, always is.
davehennessy
03/23/10, 02:19 PM
Good luck, it is a tough situation I am sure, always is.
Thanks man. Yeah, I went out with this amazing girl for a year and a half and we broke up in January. I still have very strong feelings for her, and I'm pretty sure she may still have feelings for me. We go to school 800 miles apart, but I'm home this week for spring break and I spent a couple hours with her yesterday hanging out and catching up. It was a little awkward and frustrating at first, but after a little while we really started feeling comfortable around each other again. A little earlier today I asked her if she wanted to hangout again later this week. She told me she was really busy, but would let me know when we could see each other. I know I have to say something about how I still have feelings for her next time I see her (in a few days), otherwise I'll end up going back to school and things will just go on the way they are. On the other hand, it's only two months till summer and I'm thinking maybe if I play the "ex-boyfriend on really good terms card" then maybe this summer something will be more likely to happen between us. I don't know :shrug:
AndrewIcex
03/24/10, 11:41 AM
Thanks man. Yeah, I went out with this amazing girl for a year and a half and we broke up in January. I still have very strong feelings for her, and I'm pretty sure she may still have feelings for me. We go to school 800 miles apart, but I'm home this week for spring break and I spent a couple hours with her yesterday hanging out and catching up. It was a little awkward and frustrating at first, but after a little while we really started feeling comfortable around each other again. A little earlier today I asked her if she wanted to hangout again later this week. She told me she was really busy, but would let me know when we could see each other. I know I have to say something about how I still have feelings for her next time I see her (in a few days), otherwise I'll end up going back to school and things will just go on the way they are. On the other hand, it's only two months till summer and I'm thinking maybe if I play the "ex-boyfriend on really good terms card" then maybe this summer something will be more likely to happen between us. I don't know :shrug:
Hmmm it sounds exactly like my situation though I did not live so far away... I would suggest not be so clingy, make your self unavailable, therefore she has less control... when she has the control, she will do with it whatever she wants... it is a sad truth.
so me and my ex slept together. no sex, just slept together in the same bed. kind of strange when she got naked though
bluejase
03/24/10, 06:03 PM
so me and my ex slept together. no sex, just slept together in the same bed. kind of strange when she got naked though
you must have very strong will if you slept in a bed with a naked girl and didn't have sex. good on you.
you must have very strong will if you slept in a bed with a naked girl and didn't have sex. good on you.
yeah i was quite pleased with myself. we're ex's for a reason and im glad i didnt get drawn back into it with her
zion the lion
03/24/10, 06:58 PM
I pretty much did this but my feelings werent just lingering feelings, they were fully in love.
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