Prom/Say Anything/Advice Pl0x

[yayitsjoe]

i was going to ask a girl i'm extremely interested to our senior prom. however just the other day i was talking to her and she goes: 'GUESS WHAT?' and i say 'WHAT?!' and she responds with "i just bought tickets to see say anything and angels and airwaves on may 7th! are you going?"

this is the problem. may 7th is the day of my senior prom. if it was junior prom, i would totally be going to the concert. no question. but senior prom is different.

the obvious answer is to ask someone else. however, i have no idea who else to ask. and i have a type of "date" with this girl on saturday (well, what i like to see as a date. i have no idea if she feels the same way) and i think she might like me. as she said she had a really good time at my winter dance with me.

i know i sound like every guy on here. but it would be nice to hear what a bunch of strangers on ap.net think. try to keep the obnoxious comments to yourself, i know all of you will be tempted though.

thanks.

[percussionguita]

Proms blow, go to the show with her.

[Jennurna Gray]

I'm sure that if she's anything like most girls, she would ditch any show to go to prom with someone she's interested in, but that's what it all comes down to: Whether or not she's interested in you. :O
Ask her.

[tkamB]

Concert... Proms are boring as fuck especially when you go with someone you could care less about.

[yayitsjoe]

I'm sure that if she's anything like most girls, she would ditch any show to go to prom with someone she's interested in, but that's what it all comes down to: Whether or not she's interested in you. :O
Ask her.

this is complicated. she has no cell phone and is rarely ever online. and we don't go to school together (i go to an all-guy school and she goes to a local public school). and i never feel comfortable calling her house. she's also ridiculously busy.

[Jennurna Gray]

this is complicated. she has no cell phone and is rarely ever online. and we don't go to school together (i go to an all-guy school and she goes to a local public school). and i never feel comfortable calling her house. she's also ridiculously busy.
All guys school? Damn, that would suck for a guy
I wouldn't mind going to an all guys school.

Off topic, uh, find a way to get in contact with her, girls don't like guys they can never see. Hang out A LOT.

[SincerelyMe]

I'd much rather go to a Say Anything concert than prom. The choice seems obvious.

[CobraLucha]

i skipped my freshmen formal to see the Great Redneck Hope... They were way better than AVA

[Daigle lol]

SAY ANYTHING DO ITTTTTTTTTTTTTT
My prom was fun for about five minutes. Nobody danced, the songs sucked and it was boring. If you're interested in the girl, go to the show with her. Proms sort of suck

[Loyaltabk]

concert

[jmirand1]

this is complicated. she has no cell phone and is rarely ever online. and we don't go to school together (i go to an all-guy school and she goes to a local public school). and i never feel comfortable calling her house. she's also ridiculously busy.

I'm just speculating here, but based on my own experience as an awkward teenager, the no cell phone thing sounds awfully suspicious. Also, you'll learn that girls are never too busy when it comes to guys that they are actually interested in. Sounds like you're in the friendzone.

If you really want to see the bands, go to the concert, but don't do it just for her.

[ETGsynth]

As someone who missed most of high school....I'd say prom.

[sleepyseanzzz]

go with a friend who is a girl that you will have fun with, not a girl you have a crush on in case it ends up being a terrible time

[MarkAndros]

I skipped out on my senior prom to see a Right Away Great Captain instore and then the MO/Say Anything tour at night. I don't regret not going and I saved a lot of money. Go to the show if you really like the bands.

[klawansie7]

i would go to the show.
my prom sucked.
they played "here in your arms" by hellogoodbye. twice.

[Morgs5252]

treat it like prom, dress up in your prom gear, go out to eat, then go to the concert! it would be way better and unforgettable then the prom! trust me!

[narca9]

I don't know dude, senior prom happens once. It's kind of a right of passage, whether or not it ends up being a good time. Say Anything will be back, your prom won't.

[atticus18244fss]

AVA+Say Anything>Prom

[baseballfreak19]

DEEGAN. we went to say anything in november. this is prom we're talking about here kid. YOURE GOING TO FUCKING PROM. you cant skip prom bro. you yell at me for not going to fucking formal, and you're trying to get out of prom? fuck that bro, even if i have to hire a whore to go with you, you're going.

[MegSo]

i'm almost torn on this.

the "take a friend, not your crush" to prom is absolutely 100% the way to go if you want to go to prom. however, if this is your senior prom then you already went to your junior right? you've already had the prom experience aka a tux that you're just going to throw money down for just so you can return it, tickets that are way too expensive, bad food, probably some obnoxious drunk people, most likely a few girls crying because their boyfriend/date danced with someone else.

if you really like her, go to the show. it's a sweet gesture.

[Theseventhson]

DEEGAN. we went to say anything in november. this is prom we're talking about here kid. YOURE GOING TO FUCKING PROM. you cant skip prom bro. you yell at me for not going to fucking formal, and you're trying to get out of prom? fuck that bro, even if i have to hire a whore to go with you, you're going.
Listen to your friend. Bros before hoes.

[The Summer Ends]

I loved my senior prom, I don't know what happened to everyone in this thread.

[theNatetron]

go to the show, say anything is way better than dancing with a ton of tools from your school

[Whalejaw]

I loved my senior prom, I don't know what happened to everyone in this thread.

I went to both junior and senior prom and had a great time. Yeah prom can be pretty lame, but even a lame event is a good time if you're with people that matter. I would go to prom unless a) you went to junior prom or b) you really can't find anyone you want to go with

[showmethefever]

Well, Angels & Airwaves are fucking terrible, so I say go to prom.

[ETGsynth]

Holy shit, I wish I could of gone to prom. Ten years from now you're more likely to remember a decent prom then you are a good show.

[honestIpod]

Don't go to the show.

[barkingincision]

before we started dating my (now) ex-girfriend (and still close friend) and i were just getting interested in each other but her dad didn't let her go with me so i had to take this other lame hipster girl who asked me. it wasn't fun and she was just on her fucking sidekick cell phone the entire time; and she expected certain things from me that i didn't want to do by the end of the night. we were hardly friends. that said, i ended up going to my (then) future gf's prom the following weekend which was a blast and meaningful for both of us.
so basically, go to yr prom w/someone you want to, but if that meaningful person isn't going, then either go w/her to the show or don't go to prom at all. it's not really that big a deal, it's not like the movies. mine wasn't even that bad per se, just not as sentimental as everyone tries to believe. you will have the weight of her absence on your conscience the whole time, and i was just lucky enough to be able to go to my gf's prom w/her after. do what's best for you.

[RiCCioLi]

Pay the $150 and have Max write her a song asking her to the prom for you

[MegSo]

Pay the $150 and have Max write her a song asking her to the prom for you


WIN.

[eclypsion]

Pay the $150 and have Max write her a song asking her to the prom for you

Favorite idea so far.

[HometownHero]

Well, Angels & Airwaves are fucking terrible, so I say go to prom.

Well you are wrong. But I still say prom

[po0ty]

There will be many more Say Anything shows. There won't be any more senior proms (for you at least).

[yayitsjoe]

All guys school? Damn, that would suck for a guy
I wouldn't mind going to an all guys school.

Off topic, uh, find a way to get in contact with her, girls don't like guys they can never see. Hang out A LOT.

i can try my best. i don't have my license, which is a pain in the ass. but i'm going to try and see her at least once a week until i get my license. then hopefully more after that.

[yayitsjoe]

I'm just speculating here, but based on my own experience as an awkward teenager, the no cell phone thing sounds awfully suspicious. Also, you'll learn that girls are never too busy when it comes to guys that they are actually interested in. Sounds like you're in the friendzone.

If you really want to see the bands, go to the concert, but don't do it just for her.

nah, she really doesn't have a cell phone. i've known her for a year. and i think i might be in the friendzone. trying to get the fuck out of there though.

and i only like say anything. i don't even listen to angels and airwaves.

[krystofer]

Proms blow, go to the show with her.
/thread

[ReignofFiction]

Didn't go to prom...also didn't see say anything, so I vote you go to the show with her.

[FallOutWeeze]

AVA and Say Anything sound wayyyyy better then the prom

[Ari Christos]

Go to the show, then the prom after-parties.

[nicwtor]

Go to the show then go to the after-prom parties.

But the get Max to write her a song idea sounds good too.

[nicwtor]

Go to the show, then the prom after-parties.

Beat me by one minute

[Ari Christos]

Beat me by one minute

Haha so close

[bladerdude360]

I worked on the night of my prom :shrug:. I think both would be fun though.

[crimsonandclovr]

here's the thing: when i was in high school, i was one of those people who went to concerts instead of dances. i mean, a dance ticket of $20 and a dress around $30, and the dinner before, and the hassle of getting ready... just wasn't my thing. so it just seemed better to ditch dances and go to concerts. but now i kinda miss dances. that's not t say i regret going to that jimmy eat world/paramore concert instead of spring fling. i'm just saying i finally understand why my parents encouraged me to go to dances instead of concerts. concerts are always going to be there, but these high school dances are.. well, limited to high school.

so i guess i'm voting ask someone else... it's going to get easier to ask people to prom when it's about 1 1/2 to 2 months closer. maybe because people are desperate for a date? haha idk.. but you'll find someone. try meeting people outside of your school? friends of friends?

[tyramail]

Proms blow, go to the show with her.
this.

[crimsonandclovr]

I'm sure that if she's anything like most girls, she would ditch any show to go to prom with someone she's interested in, but that's what it all comes down to: Whether or not she's interested in you. :O
Ask her.

ahhh i'm not sure i agree. i don't think i'd ditch a sweet concert like this for any guy :)

[AndrewIcex]

As lame as my Senior Prom was, and how shitty it ended.

Shows come and go, the bands will be back... plus AVA is eh... but Yeah, I would attend prom because it only happens once... well one Senior Prom for that matter.

[andrew_upto11]

Dude. Go to the show!

[InBetweenAisles]

In my opinion, you should go to the show with her. Proms suck. It's just a way to waste your money on suits and flowers and what not...for what? To dance with a girl.

[Cøltøn]

Got to the show

[nathaniel]

I understand your situation, because if your school is anything like mine senior prom is a BIG deal. But to me, going to an AVA/Say Anything concert with a hot/awesome girl would be way more fun. It's your call man.

[TopperHarley]

You go to prom. Like someone said earlier prom is a rite of passage. It's one of those things you just do. When your kids are that age, they will ask you about your prom. If you told them you went and saw Say Anything instead, they will be like "Who?" Maybe I'm biased as prom was a big deal in my school and I had a great time. You might have more fun at the show, but I guarantee you will regret it.

[saturday_snow_squall]

going to a say anything concert with anyone is sharing a better experience than most other things in life. concert gets my vote, haha.

[Hamlet]

You go to prom. Like someone said earlier prom is a rite of passage. It's one of those things you just do. When your kids are that age, they will ask you about your prom. If you told them you went and saw Say Anything instead, they will be like "Who?" Maybe I'm biased as prom was a big deal in my school and I had a great time. You might have more fun at the show, but I guarantee you will regret it.

I agree. Dude, go to the prom. It'll only suck if you think it'll suck. Dance your ass off, and pick up the girl you like after... in a suit.

[Macbeth.]

haha why is this even a question?

[Jake Denning]

Go to Prom, it's one of those rite of passages. Since I was on Varsity football/wrestling in High School, I was expected to have a date, so I got one and showed up, and it was alright.

[bstthngunvrhd7]

Even though I didn't go to prom and only went to homecoming my senior year, I'd definitely go to the show.
Plus, you'd save a ton of money probably by going to the show instead of prom.

[ari telescope]

I'm sure that if she's anything like most girls, she would ditch any show to go to prom with someone she's interested in, but that's what it all comes down to: Whether or not she's interested in you. :O
Ask her.
This. You need to find out (especially since you only "like" Say Anything) if she actually likes you. If you go and you remain in the friendzone and to her, you being there made no difference to her night then you will probably feel like shit afterwards. Maybe if you just mention to her that you only "like" Say Anything, and she tries convincing you to go with her, that may be a sign. You should def find out how she feels about you though.

PS, I skipped my prom and went to a Mindless Self-Indulgence show and then met up with my besties afterwards for the after-prom parties. I'll never regret it.

Holy shit, I wish I could of gone to prom. Ten years from now you're more likely to remember a decent prom then you are a good show.
Wrong. If the show doesn't go off as planned, especially since he only "likes" Say Anything, then you may be right. But it is completely possible to have a memorable night. I will never regret my decision, and I'll remember my "prom night" forever. It's not just the show, it's the experience and the memories. This could be the night that something between he and her really happens and turns into a great memory.

[Jennurna Gray]

Shit, in my mind, prom beats concert no matter who's playing. You only get to go to [your] prom twice. Fancy clothes, heels, boys, dancing... prom is great.

[LoginBanned]

I didn't go to my prom and I've spent 0 minutes regretting it.

[ninthandash]

Pl0x? eh?
does that mean please?

[drawndead]

Hit up prom for like 10 mins make an appearance then hit the show

[maxvsmaradona]

Anal.

[UnderMyDreams]

Prom's nothing great. Lots of shitty music and kids thinking it's gonna be the best night of their whole lives.

It's not, and is pretty boring.

Say Anything/AvA wins hands down.

[terror_91]

i was going to ask a girl i'm extremely interested to our senior prom. however just the other day i was talking to her and she goes: 'GUESS WHAT?' and i say 'WHAT?!' and she responds with "i just bought tickets to see say anything and angels and airwaves on may 7th! are you going?"

this is the problem. may 7th is the day of my senior prom. if it was junior prom, i would totally be going to the concert. no question. but senior prom is different.

the obvious answer is to ask someone else. however, i have no idea who else to ask. and i have a type of "date" with this girl on saturday (well, what i like to see as a date. i have no idea if she feels the same way) and i think she might like me. as she said she had a really good time at my winter dance with me.

i know i sound like every guy on here. but it would be nice to hear what a bunch of strangers on ap.net think. try to keep the obnoxious comments to yourself, i know all of you will be tempted though.

thanks.
You don't sound like every other guy on here; it's a genuine dilemma.

I think you really need to wait till this thing on saturday. If it is a date then ask her about going to the prom with you anyway, see what her reaction is. Bands tour all the time, senior proms are only once.
On the other hand, it is just a social convention. You could just go to the concert.

[popdisaster00]

dude prom is so lame

[zachff]

All these people saying "Go to the show" are out of their fucking minds.

How many concerts have I been to in my life? Somewhere in the neighborhood of 100, give or take. Out of those 100, there are maybe 20 that I really, truly remember.

How many times do you get to go to senior prom? Only once. And who gives a fuck if the girl is going to be your future wife, it's about the experience, getting a tux, seeing her looking all hot and shit, being with your friends, going to party(ies) afterward, spending the weekend at a lake house getting awkward handjobs.

If you/she really want to go to the show the baller thing to do would be to get tix for the next closest date, then take her to prom and go to that show.

[zachff]

Shit, in my mind, prom beats concert no matter who's playing. You only get to go to [your] prom twice. Fancy clothes, heels, boys, dancing... prom is great.
Didn't see your comment until now, but see ^
You hit the nail on the head

[AndrewIcex]

All these people saying "Go to the show" are out of their fucking minds.

How many concerts have I been to in my life? Somewhere in the neighborhood of 100, give or take. Out of those 100, there are maybe 20 that I really, truly remember.

How many times do you get to go to senior prom? Only once. And who gives a fuck if the girl is going to be your future wife, it's about the experience, getting a tux, seeing her looking all hot and shit, being with your friends, going to party(ies) afterward, spending the weekend at a lake house getting awkward handjobs.

If you/she really want to go to the show the baller thing to do would be to get tix for the next closest date, then take her to prom and go to that show.
Could not have said it any better. Good work.

[JordanBuell]

i say go to the concert. chill with everyone at the after parties. thats the only time youll actually have fun anyways

[lauren1234]

Go to the concert.

[deFobbed14yrs]

i would go to the show.
my prom sucked.
they played "here in your arms" by hellogoodbye. twice.


i'd take that over what they played at my prom

go to the concert, trust me as someone who planned her senior h.s. prom, concert with chick you like >prom with some random girl.
unless you're one of those sentimental types who want to look back on prom and high school

[TheByrus]

The best part of Prom doesn't usually occur at Prom.

[terror_91]

If you/she really want to go to the show the baller thing to do would be to get tix for the next closest date, then take her to prom and go to that show.
Did not think of that at all. Definitely the right move.

[frenchatticus]

This is what you're going to say to her: Listen, I have to be completely honest with you. I was going to ask you to prom, but then you got all excited about Say Anything and Angels and that's on the same day. Let me buy those tickets from you so I can take you (to the show).

[Cameronisonfire]

Prom. You can see say anything again. Just because a lot of these people had shitty proms doesn't mean you will. Go to prom, have fun.

[baseballfreak19]

say anything is only opening the show, its really an AVA concert. dont go to the concert deegan! go to our prom. you dont even like angels and airwaves

[Jennurna Gray]

Didn't see your comment until now, but see ^
You hit the nail on the head
These people in here that say that he should go to the concert are seriously making me want to rip my hair out. This shouldn't even be a question. People who miss expiriences like prom are the people that live lowly, boring lives.
Your post, the one that was quoted by AndrewIce, is the 'this' of the thread.

OP, if you don't have fun now, you never will. And as for fun goes, I promise there'll be another concert to go to.

[MegSo]

These people in here that say that he should go to the concert are seriously making me want to rip my hair out. This shouldn't even be a question. People who miss expiriences like prom are the people that live lowly, boring lives.
Your post, the one that was quoted by AndrewIce, is the 'this' of the thread.

OP, if you don't have fun now, you never will. And as for fun goes, I promise there'll be another concert to go to.


what if they've already been to one? my first prom was amazing, my second - not so much. i wish i had skipped my second prom so that i could have a good memory of prom..but then again, that just means my opinion is extremely weighted towards going to the show.

[yayitsjoe]

thank you everyone. really. i've seen some really good advice. i'm probably just gonna wait until saturday to see what i'll do.

i'm probably going to go to prom. (and by probably i mean like 99%) i probably should have made this thread asking you guys how i can convince her to go to prom with me after she already bought tickets.

the best advice i've seen so far is to buy tickets to the next closest show and take her to prom and that show. i don't feel like quoting you, but that's a great idea.

[yayitsjoe]

This. You need to find out (especially since you only "like" Say Anything) if she actually likes you. If you go and you remain in the friendzone and to her, you being there made no difference to her night then you will probably feel like shit afterwards. Maybe if you just mention to her that you only "like" Say Anything, and she tries convincing you to go with her, that may be a sign. You should def find out how she feels about you though.

PS, I skipped my prom and went to a Mindless Self-Indulgence show and then met up with my besties afterwards for the after-prom parties. I'll never regret it.


Wrong. If the show doesn't go off as planned, especially since he only "likes" Say Anything, then you may be right. But it is completely possible to have a memorable night. I will never regret my decision, and I'll remember my "prom night" forever. It's not just the show, it's the experience and the memories. This could be the night that something between he and her really happens and turns into a great memory.


i LOVE say anything. i saw them back in november. i don't even listen to angels and airwaves. thanks for the input.

[AlexEnglish]

most girls are incredibly horny at prom. you might have a good chance.
on the other hand, say anything kind of kicks ass.
could go either way.

[limepomegranate]

i was going to ask a girl i'm extremely interested to our senior prom. however just the other day i was talking to her and she goes: 'GUESS WHAT?' and i say 'WHAT?!' and she responds with "i just bought tickets to see say anything and angels and airwaves on may 7th! are you going?"

this is the problem. may 7th is the day of my senior prom. if it was junior prom, i would totally be going to the concert. no question. but senior prom is different.

the obvious answer is to ask someone else. however, i have no idea who else to ask. and i have a type of "date" with this girl on saturday (well, what i like to see as a date. i have no idea if she feels the same way) and i think she might like me. as she said she had a really good time at my winter dance with me.

i know i sound like every guy on here. but it would be nice to hear what a bunch of strangers on ap.net think. try to keep the obnoxious comments to yourself, i know all of you will be tempted though.

thanks.
Depends on timing. If there is enough time to go to Prom and get the formalities done with (granted you aren't invited to an awesome after-prom party which as of now I am guessing you aren't) and get to the concert too then go to both. Most opening acts for big concerts suck anyway. Like I saw Sting and his opening act was his son who I didn't know existed...

[limepomegranate]

most girls are incredibly horny at prom. you might have a good chance.
on the other hand, say anything kind of kicks ass.
could go either way.
Girls also get horny at concerts. So there!

[AlexEnglish]

Girls also get horny at concerts. So there!

id say there is a better chance getting lucky at a prom then at a show. especially tom delonge's "lets all love eachother/koom-by-ah" bullshit

[AlexEnglish]

say anything and angels and airwaves will tour again. your senior prom will not.

[Jennurna Gray]

what if they've already been to one? my first prom was amazing, my second - not so much. i wish i had skipped my second prom so that i could have a good memory of prom..but then again, that just means my opinion is extremely weighted towards going to the show.
Just stop giving your opinion, okay?

[Tiffany:3]

Just stop giving your opinion, okay?
Jenna your such a wonderful person.
:-d

[Jennurna Gray]

Jenna your such a wonderful person.
:-d
I agree.

[limepomegranate]

id say there is a better chance getting lucky at a prom then at a show. especially tom delonge's "lets all love eachother/koom-by-ah" bullshit
I didn't fuck at prom but I did at a concert!

[itstheLaserRain]

Prom, stupid. Say Anything can come again.

[fightinirish217]

I loved my senior prom, I don't know what happened to everyone in this thread.

Same here, don't know what everyone else is talking about. Guess prom's not punk enough :-d

[Kassie09]

I didn't go to prom and I really really regret it so I think you should go.

[AlexEnglish]

I didn't fuck at prom but I did at a concert!
hahah touche ms limepomegranate. touche

[limepomegranate]

hahah touche ms limepomegranate. touche
:overhead:

[limepomegranate]

Same here, don't know what everyone else is talking about. Guess prom's not punk enough :-d
Don't get me wrong I enjoyed prom a lot but getting laid wise probably not your best bet unless y'all get trashed after...just saying.:shrug:

[AlexEnglish]

:overhead:
what concert might i ask?

[limepomegranate]

what concert might i ask?
Dave Matthews Band. It's HUUUUGGEEE in Connecticut. It was a lot of fun! Pre-game with everyone you know for hours then go party some more inside!

[MegSo]

Just stop giving your opinion, okay?


Ohhh, BURN. Unnecessary.

[Jennurna Gray]

Ohhh, BURN. Unnecessary.
Your face is unnecessary.

But seriously, you have no potential.

[MegSo]

Your face is unnecessary.

But seriously, you have no potential.


Damn, you're clever.

But seriously, you're going to spend the rest of your life alone.

[sweepthenation]

Prom I say, afterprom senior year was one of the best experiences of my high school. Plus its a guaranteed fuck

[Jennurna Gray]

Damn, you're clever.

But seriously, you're going to spend the rest of your life alone.
I appreciate your concern, but it's unnecessary.

Nice meeting you.

[Tiffany:3]

I agree.
Freakfreakfreak,

[amplifire]

Our senior prom is the same day as the AVA / Say Anything show too. Philly whaddup?!

I'd say ask to go to the show with her...like everyone else has already said, proms blow. I'd DEFINITELY be more interested in a guy that wanted to go to a fucking awesome show with me insead of lame-o prom.

[yayitsjoe]

yeah, well. there's most likely not even a chance with this girl anyway. we were supposed to hang out tonight, but she just canceled on me last minute because she has to write some college essays and her mom isn't letting her go out. i'm gonna assume that she actually has to write the college essays but i don't know. there's the little paranoid part of me that says she just doesn't even want to spend any time with me.

also. i basically had this great girl like 9 months ago (end of my junior year), but i listened to some douche bag tell me that she wasn't interested. and everything got fucked up. i'm just realizing how much i lost by letting go of this girl.

i'm sorry i'm such a whiny teenager.