Whats the longest you've ever chased a girl and was it worth it?

[Luckee12]

For me I've been chasing this girl who I dated in high school you could say we were high school sweethearts but that ended at college. its been 2 years now and i still cant let her go. Were still broken up but living together now and for the last 7 months. I kinda feel like i've gone to far to give up now but at the same time i'm ready to throw in the towel.

So anyway whats your story?

[phil19]

i spent 5 years of high school after one girl. i ended up in the psychologists chair. so not worth it.

[apsterling]

I spent 2 years after one girl Freshman and Sophomore year. Totally not worth it except that it dumped me right into the best friends I've had in a long time, so that's good.

[tottivillarossi]

About an hour. She'd already had 12 drinks and still wouldn't touch me. So not worth it.

[UnderMyDreams]

Almost 3 years, just made out with her last night.

Sick brag, right?

[singyoutocoma]

Six months during sophomore year of high school. We then went out for about nine months, and it was pretty good while it lasted. So yeah, I guess.

[cuzimlefthanded]

Almost 3 years, just made out with her last night.

Sick brag, right?

Totally brahhhh haha.

4 years for me. Then I met my current chick.

[XLT917]

2 years, but after the 3rd different boyfriend I finally gave up and moved on.

[sleepyseanzzz]

3 years, then said fuck that, now she went to college and is fat and slutty and my girlfriend of 20 months is actually smart and good looking

[superBMRuth]

i chased a girl for about 2 1/2 years and gave up recently when i found out she was seeing someone and stringing me along.

[only the clouds]

Been really close friends with a girl for 7 years. Been in love with her for 3 years. Dated her for 6 months. Broke up with her because my life sucks. Failed to get over her. Received a drunk dial during which she revealed that she wasn't totally over me either.

We're giving it another shot in the summer. I miss her and if you ask me, she's totally worth it.

[roche]

1 year, and totally worth it.

[l_strange]

Been really close friends with a girl for 7 years. Been in love with her for 3 years. Dated her for 6 months. Broke up with her because my life sucks. Failed to get over her. Received a drunk dial during which she revealed that she wasn't totally over me either.

We're giving it another shot in the summer. I miss her and if you ask me, she's totally worth it.

well if she's worth it than i bid you good luck with it all and hope you two work out quite well togather

[jco3]

a year... maybe?

She's alright, still a good friend. Dumbest thing to ever do is get caught up with a girl that won't like you.

[Deadbolt23]

Never

[Obstriker]

hmm, neither of these were really worth it. I chased the first chick for nearly a year after she started working in the same store as me. I even asked her out on a date but she brought a friend along...a male friend. This ended when she told me she had something very important to tell me which was that she had started dating some other guy at work.

Another girl i'm still not over is also from work. We randomly got to talking and connected instantly. we were really close friends even when she started dating the guy she has been with for 2 years now. I still see her every single week at work. I know its fucking stupid to wait for someone who has a boyfriend but during a going away party she had she was all over me which kinda renewed my hope. She was super wasted though and as it turns out she had no recollection of ever doing anything when i brought it up just last week. she since told me not to read too much into what happened and that alcohol was to blame... I think its time to move on lol

[Jaimehere]

1 Yr, then a few months ago I realized... SCREW HER, if she doesn't want it then so be it, there are a lot other girls that are Attractive and Smart... though i still find her attractive I just don't show interest anymore

[davehennessy]

We're giving it another shot in the summer. I miss her and if you ask me, she's totally worth it.

This is awesome man. I'm actually in the same position, except I haven't got my shot yet. Don't know if I will. But I dated this absolutely amazing girl for a year and a half, she broke up with me but assured me it wasn't because of anyone else.. the problem was with us as individuals. She was totally right and I trusted her when she told me it wasn't because of anyone else. It's only been about a month and a half since we broke up and I am willing to wait for her as long as she needs. I'm hoping we get another shot at our relationship like you did, because she's definitely worth it. More than worth it in my mind

[Akissforher]

probably both my senior high school years. at the time felt like a waste but was a good learning experience.

[CaptainJacksHat]

Ahh this thread's come at a good time. I met this girl jodie four years back, we hit it off but i already had a girlfriend. Nothing happened other than getting close. We then drifted apart for the sake of my actual relationship. That lasted two years more, so a total of three years and then we ended. At which point going out to drink my sorrows awayy i met Jodie again randomly and once more hit it off. However this time she was the one with a serious boyfriend. So again, nothing happened. Neither of us could get away from the fact there was something there though so we stayed in touch a little more.

Then last month i found out i had to move out. So i viewed houses and one of which i viewed was down the street she used to live before she went to uni. So it gave me a reason to text her and tell her i was considering taking the house. She told me her mother still lives down that street and when she isn't at uni she still lives there as her uni is only half hour drive away. So we took the house as for its size it was relatively cheap. Whilst renovating it, she paid a visit spent two days with each other. Obviously hit it off again... but yet another stumbling block, uni is the most important thing. So she didn't have time for both. So she went back to uni and i thought that was that. Again. Then i got an e-mail asking if she could trust me since she'd be away regularly.

So anyway, we're together now. Took four years but we got there eventually. Sometimes sticking at things does work out even though i felt like giving up on her many a year back, in the end effort paid out!

[saveferris]

2 years, but after the 3rd different boyfriend I finally gave up and moved on.
Same story for me.

[Macbeth.]

3 years, then said fuck that, now she went to college and is fat and slutty and my girlfriend of 20 months is actually smart and good looking

:thumbup:

well played

[zachff]

You're not dating her anymore, but you're living together? Get the fuck out of there man, both literally and figuratively. You had your shot, the relationship ran its course, move on.

[tottivillarossi]

Been really close friends with a girl for 7 years. Been in love with her for 3 years. Dated her for 6 months. Broke up with her because my life sucks. Failed to get over her. Received a drunk dial during which she revealed that she wasn't totally over me either.

We're giving it another shot in the summer. I miss her and if you ask me, she's totally worth it.

This is awesome man. I'm actually in the same position, except I haven't got my shot yet. Don't know if I will. But I dated this absolutely amazing girl for a year and a half, she broke up with me but assured me it wasn't because of anyone else.. the problem was with us as individuals. She was totally right and I trusted her when she told me it wasn't because of anyone else. It's only been about a month and a half since we broke up and I am willing to wait for her as long as she needs. I'm hoping we get another shot at our relationship like you did, because she's definitely worth it. More than worth it in my mind

Ahh this thread's come at a good time. I met this girl jodie four years back, we hit it off but i already had a girlfriend. Nothing happened other than getting close. We then drifted apart for the sake of my actual relationship. That lasted two years more, so a total of three years and then we ended. At which point going out to drink my sorrows awayy i met Jodie again randomly and once more hit it off. However this time she was the one with a serious boyfriend. So again, nothing happened. Neither of us could get away from the fact there was something there though so we stayed in touch a little more.

Then last month i found out i had to move out. So i viewed houses and one of which i viewed was down the street she used to live before she went to uni. So it gave me a reason to text her and tell her i was considering taking the house. She told me her mother still lives down that street and when she isn't at uni she still lives there as her uni is only half hour drive away. So we took the house as for its size it was relatively cheap. Whilst renovating it, she paid a visit spent two days with each other. Obviously hit it off again... but yet another stumbling block, uni is the most important thing. So she didn't have time for both. So she went back to uni and i thought that was that. Again. Then i got an e-mail asking if she could trust me since she'd be away regularly.

So anyway, we're together now. Took four years but we got there eventually. Sometimes sticking at things does work out even though i felt like giving up on her many a year back, in the end effort paid out!


Congratulations/Best of luck to youse.





Whilst studying my A-Levels, through a friend of a friend + the internetz , I started talking to this girl in the year below (we'll call her A). We hit it off instantly, and stayed up til like 4am that night talking on msn. We then talked the next day, and the next, we'd see each other at school, and then we started texting and before we knew it we were confessing feelings for each other. She only lives around the corner from me, so we got over awkward teenage nerves and started hanging out in person more, mostly around mutual friends though. She invites me round hers one day (it was actually the day England got knocked out of the EURO's by Croatia), and I thought it went well, but the next day she tells me she wants to remain only friends because I "came on too strong". She'd never had a bf before. I was gutted.
A few months later, I met someone, but it was only a casual thing; whenever I got drunk, even if I was with my new gf, I'd always text A. One night, me and A stayed up til like 3am talking, and I realised that she basically confessed to having feelings for me again. I, stupidly, never pursued this. Things didn't work out with the other girl, and ever since I've found myself thinking about A a lot. It's been two years, and I just cannot get over her. It's ridiculous. I see her around town, she ignores me like a bitch, and my friends in general have commented on how she's treated me pretty badly. I feel like a woman, you know when they have the slightly abusive boyfriends, and still love them lol?
Two years I've spent pining after her, and it hasn't been worth it.

[Metal Now]

Almost a decade.

I'm pretty much over it now.

[DCD08]

wow theres some pretty sad stories in here

[overdrive91]

18 months, but it was a complete shambles. like on off on off. Not worth it.

[TBSowns524]

I've never really chased any one girl for too long. I don't even know if chased is the right word. Pretty much every year since 6th grade ('98), I've had a new crush or two that I've been enamored with. A year or two ago, I finally stopped this silly charade and took an interest in more girls and grew a pair of nuts.

In June, I had this business class that ended with a group project. There had been a few girls in the class that I thought were attractive/cool/smart. However, this particular one, I had never spoken too. On the last day of class, my friend was talking to her about the group projects everyone had just presented. I decided to just go talk to her. I didn't hit on her. I just joined the conversation and was nice. Fast forward to September, I hadn't spoken to or seen that girl again. I went to this help you get a job type event at school, but I was a little late. The event had already begun. I walked in and didn't recognize anyone except for her. She was sitting alone, so I went and sat in her general area. At the end of the event, they wanted us to "network" with a person near us. She was the only person near me, so we started talking and we remembered each other. The conversation went really well. I get back to my house and she had added me on facebook. Fast forward a month, I hadn't spoken to her again. I go to this pre-interview event for a company I was interviewing for, and she was there. We spoke a little bit, that's it. A few days later, I had a job interview, when I came out of it, she was there waiting to be interviewed next. So we spoke for a minute or two and that was it. A few days later I decided to write her a message on facebook to see how the interview was to find out if she had heard back (because I had not and was worried). After this we just started messaging on facebook for 2 weeks before I asked her out. Now we've been going out for almost 5 months. And it's been great. So it was worth it.

[mybreakingpoint]

I don't chase girls. I let them chase me.

just kidding. i don't think i've ever really "chased" anyone for a significant period of time. i don't really pursue anyone unless i'm pretty certain they're mutually interested. otherwise, i don't feel like wasting my time.

[inthemidst]

Been really close friends with a girl for 7 years. Been in love with her for 3 years. Dated her for 6 months. Broke up with her because my life sucks. Failed to get over her. Received a drunk dial during which she revealed that she wasn't totally over me either.

We're giving it another shot in the summer. I miss her and if you ask me, she's totally worth it.

That's good for you man, definitely.

I've been on and off with a girl for 7 years. At one point we were engaged, then we broke it off, but we're not over each other lol. Love is always worth it, as cheesy as that sounds.

[Daigle lol]

2 years, but after the 3rd different boyfriend I finally gave up and moved on.

Story of my life.

Luckily, I found another girl and have been with her for two and a half years now, and I'm glad that two year shit didn't work out, because looking back, it probably would've sucked pretty fast.

[bulls2213]

way too fucking long. i'd make it easy for myself and simply cut her out of my life... except she's a good girlfriend of mine (who was never particularly a fan of the situation for jealousy reasons, which is basically why we didn't initially work out)'s sister so i'm essentially forced to see her all the time. & since i'm not willing to sacrifice my friendship with her sister (my friend), i suppose it's either a. ignore the shit out of her and make everything incredibly awkward or b. remain close friends, while at the same time finding it seemingly impossible to get over her because it's too hard to ignore the fact that she's amazing in every way. i've gone with plan b for the past year+ and there's no end in sight... it's both really shitty, pathetic, and way too long of a story to tell but thats the gist of it.

[HometownHero]

Since I was 17 I have been after the same girl. So three almost four fucking years. She's admitted to loving me but is to scared to ruin friendships with people that hate me and her friends that have dated me before. She'll see the light eventually. Hopefully. She's so fucking worth it. She's like the perfect girl

[the seventeenth]

2 years, sixth grade until eight grade. Didn't work at all. Now half a year on a new girl.

[yourface88]

2 years and going away to college has been a big part of that. i graduate in may so if it doesnt work out then, it never will. i think its been worth it

[SLoT]

About 3 months. Five years later we broke up. Not worth one second.

[FallOutWeeze]

Freshmen year there was this girl I liked but never really talked to her. Soon after she starts dating my friend, so I moved on. Then half way through the year we start talking, we have a lot in common and plus her taste in music in my point of view is great which is one of the things I like in a girl. However I still didn't like her cause shes going out with my friend and I don't want to fuck that up.

Now sophomore rolls around and she breaks up with my friend. I never knew why but it really hurt her badly cause she completely ignores him now. This is when we started talking more and becoming close friends and I kinda had the feeling she liked me. So after a while I decide to give it a shot and confess to her. She kindly shoots me down. She said shes not ready for another relationship until college. At first I was depressed but then got over it and we still remained friends.

However idk what happened over the summer, cause right now I'm half way through my junior year and we rarely talk anymore. She doesn't go on facebook anymore or anything else. But good news is that she invited me to go see alice in wonderland. This could be my big break I hope

[barkingincision]

last two months.

[cristinaa]

Yea, after a long time it gets harder and harder to give it up. When me and my boyfriend started dating, I was seeing him for around 6 months before I finally agreed to start going out with him. Then I broke up with him, we were broken up for a while, probably another 4/5 months, but neither of us really let the other go. We talked or hung out basically everyday anyway and now we're together again. It depends whether or not you think it's worth it and if you think it'll end up working out in the end, but you can't sit around and wait for some one forever. There has to be a point where you make her decide.

[Star Slight]

Freshman-Junior summer, including 3 boyfriends

Now we've been dating for almost 2 years. Good times

[Reaver]

i spent 5 years of high school after one girl. i ended up in the psychologists chair. so not worth it.
About an hour. She'd already had 12 drinks and still wouldn't touch me. So not worth it.
hahaha, awesome!

I chased a single girl during all my "highschool" years and it was totally not worth it. got my first girlfriend with 20 and when it didn't really work out anymore I was so afraid of being alone again .. blah blah .. let's just say it's a mess.
there was a guy I went to highschool with, who actually had sucess with all his chasing. the girl was really pretty and the guy quite ugly if you ask me. she refused him all the time and he tried again and again.. and after who knows how many years they got together. I almost couldn't believe it.

[roughroads]

If I don't get enough of a reaction after the initial meeting, I don't bother.
To many possibilities to fret on one.
(not to sound like a pretentious douchebag or anything)

[Halt]

Eh. its 2 months almost? Girl I went to high school with. she always had her own style, didn't really care if people liked it or not. She rocks the punk scene well. Something my parents would not let me do, bought me preppy clothes and shit. Anyways, I was socialy awkward in high school. so I never had the balls to go and talk with her. Then I changed and grew a pair, now I just talk with whoever I want.

Right now, I have plans to go to the movies and go to a concert with her friends and whatnot movie night at someones house, not sure yet. but yeah. So far its been totally worth it.

[po0ty]

hmm, neither of these were really worth it. I chased the first chick for nearly a year after she started working in the same store as me. I even asked her out on a date but she brought a friend along...a male friend. This ended when she told me she had something very important to tell me which was that she had started dating some other guy at work.

Another girl i'm still not over is also from work. We randomly got to talking and connected instantly. we were really close friends even when she started dating the guy she has been with for 2 years now. I still see her every single week at work. I know its fucking stupid to wait for someone who has a boyfriend but during a going away party she had she was all over me which kinda renewed my hope. She was super wasted though and as it turns out she had no recollection of ever doing anything when i brought it up just last week. she since told me not to read too much into what happened and that alcohol was to blame... I think its time to move on lol

Don't shit where you eat.

[phil19]

hahaha, awesome!

I chased a single girl during all my "highschool" years and it was totally not worth it. got my first girlfriend with 20 and when it didn't really work out anymore I was so afraid of being alone again .. blah blah .. let's just say it's a mess.
there was a guy I went to highschool with, who actually had sucess with all his chasing. the girl was really pretty and the guy quite ugly if you ask me. she refused him all the time and he tried again and again.. and after who knows how many years they got together. I almost couldn't believe it.

you think its awesome i wasted 5 years on a girl who didnt want me and i ended up at the psychologist?? thanks mate

[Jennurna Gray]

hahaha, awesome!

I chased a single girl during all my "highschool" years and it was totally not worth it. got my first girlfriend with 20 and when it didn't really work out anymore I was so afraid of being alone again .. blah blah .. let's just say it's a mess.
there was a guy I went to highschool with, who actually had sucess with all his chasing. the girl was really pretty and the guy quite ugly if you ask me. she refused him all the time and he tried again and again.. and after who knows how many years they got together. I almost couldn't believe it.

you think its awesome i wasted 5 years on a girl who didnt want me and i ended up at the psychologist?? thanks mate
Alex! You have to be nice to Phil. He's my love.

[3wotkris]

just over three years? totally gutted when i found out she'd been into me for most of that time, but i'm a pussy

was it worth it? hell no, we were tight but now she's become some crazy psycho bitch.

amazing how quick i got over it by hooking up with someone else

[phil19]

Alex! You have to be nice to Phil. He's my love.

thankyou for defending my honour :-)

[James Johnson]

A year. Fuck no.

[Jennurna Gray]

thankyou for defending my honour :-)
Anytime, babe.

[Jennurna Gray]

A year. Fuck no.
Can moderators say 'fuck'?

[James Johnson]

Can moderators say 'fuck'?

We can say whatever we want!

[Hockeytown]

Didn't read thread, assuming my story isn't that major though....

Met girl two Septembers ago, we became friends, close friends in like beginning of last year and spent from January to about August, introduced my friend and her, they became best friends and i got cut out of the picture. Fast forward to now, I've tried to avoid talking with her and stuff because the entire situation pisses me off and depresses me. However, I now sit by her in two of my classes. Can't really avoid talking, and I can tell the feelings I had for her are starting to flare up a little again. Hope I don't waste this year on her too, but whatever.

[KageGenkai]

well if she's worth it than i bid you good luck with it all and hope you two work out quite well together

totally good luck to you sir, and make sure you keep her if she is worth it


(and yes i feel the need to correct your spelling Strange)

[KageGenkai]

Didn't read thread, assuming my story isn't that major though....

Met girl two Septembers ago, we became friends, close friends in like beginning of last year and spent from January to about August, introduced my friend and her, they became best friends and i got cut out of the picture. Fast forward to now, I've tried to avoid talking with her and stuff because the entire situation pisses me off and depresses me. However, I now sit by her in two of my classes. Can't really avoid talking, and I can tell the feelings I had for her are starting to flare up a little again. Hope I don't waste this year on her too, but whatever.


dude if you have old feelings flaring up again than she is probably worth your time, if you tell her how you feel the worst she can you is say no, like seriously you need to just go for it. who knows maybe she feels the same way.

(good luck)

[Echo Park]

chasing girls doesn't work. if she likes you she'll go with you quickly. My friend chased a girl damn near 2 years and she finally "gave in". Is that really what you want?

[KageGenkai]

if you are 'chasing' a girl that you are week. but if you like a girl and just need to tell her than you are alright

[kaycey]

after watching the latest episode of HIMYM i've got to say that i've been hooked on this one girl since grade 6 and would still do fucking anything for her till forever.
sometimes you just can't extinguish the hope you have.

[heeeeeey]

way too fucking long. i'd make it easy for myself and simply cut her out of my life... except she's a good girlfriend of mine (who was never particularly a fan of the situation for jealousy reasons, which is basically why we didn't initially work out)'s sister so i'm essentially forced to see her all the time. & since i'm not willing to sacrifice my friendship with her sister (my friend), i suppose it's either a. ignore the shit out of her and make everything incredibly awkward or b. remain close friends, while at the same time finding it seemingly impossible to get over her because it's too hard to ignore the fact that she's amazing in every way. i've gone with plan b for the past year+ and there's no end in sight... it's both really shitty, pathetic, and way too long of a story to tell but thats the gist of it.

is it weird that i kinda want to hear the story?
i'm in a similar situation, except with a guy... we were best friends for 7 years then he got a girlfriend and became cold and distant, but i'm still friends with his sister. she invited me to their place to watch the superbowl but i declined because i'm too immature to be in the same room as him.

[zion the lion]

I've spent 2 years on a guy so far, in a few months it will be 3 though. Is it worth it? Eh. But really, I'd rather him ignore me half of the time and use me the other half than settle for anybody else. Or as Gladys Knight so wonderfully put it in midnight train to georgia, "I'd rather live in his world, than live without him in mine".

One day he'll realize how devoted I am and how much of myself I want to give and he'll get his shit together and it will be totally worth it.

[mikeOKBRK]

I've spent 2 years on a guy so far, in a few months it will be 3 though. Is it worth it? Eh. But really, I'd rather him ignore me half of the time and use me the other half than settle for anybody else. Or as Gladys Knight so wonderfully put it in midnight train to georgia, "I'd rather live in his world, than live without him in mine".

One day he'll realize how devoted I am and how much of myself I want to give and he'll get his shit together and it will be totally worth it.

This is the what's the longest you've ever chased a girl thread, how dare you bring in this guy chasing nonsense!

[Reaver]

you think its awesome i wasted 5 years on a girl who didnt want me and i ended up at the psychologist?? thanks mate
nope, I just liked how those two posts I quoted opposed each other.
Alex! You have to be nice to Phil. He's my love.
lol..

[Jennurna Gray]

lol..
:D Better, and sorry about the crazy on AIM, friends+alcohol.

[Reaver]

:D Better, and sorry about the crazy on AIM, friends+alcohol.
alright, I forgive you :P

[Jennurna Gray]

alright, I forgive you :P
<3

[Hockeytown]

chasing girls doesn't work. if she likes you she'll go with you quickly. My friend chased a girl damn near 2 years and she finally "gave in". Is that really what you want?

Exactly why I don't really even want to talk to her. I stopped talking to her,yeah, but two-way street...she didn't make any attempt to talk to me either. I'm 90% sure I am and will always be just a friend, but it's hard to convince myself. That's why now my approach towards her is a lot more conservative. Last time around I thought I could gradually morph the friendship into relationship. However now I've realized that doesn't happen. But even knowing that she's done some shit that really hurt me, I find myself thinking about her more than anything else. And I'm only 15, this isn't a big deal in the whole pictures of things, however I don't want this year to be looked back upon the same as last year. It's a mix between being pissed/regretful that I didn't do anything to show my interest and angry at the entire situation.

That was a lot to type out on my iPod so if somehing doesn't make sense that's probably why...

[Echo Park]

Exactly why I don't really even want to talk to her. I stopped talking to her,yeah, but two-way street...she didn't make any attempt to talk to me either. I'm 90% sure I am and will always be just a friend, but it's hard to convince myself. That's why now my approach towards her is a lot more conservative. Last time around I thought I could gradually morph the friendship into relationship. However now I've realized that doesn't happen. But even knowing that she's done some shit that really hurt me, I find myself thinking about her more than anything else. And I'm only 15, this isn't a big deal in the whole pictures of things, however I don't want this year to be looked back upon the same as last year. It's a mix between being pissed/regretful that I didn't do anything to show my interest and angry at the entire situation.

That was a lot to type out on my iPod so if somehing doesn't make sense that's probably why...
Hey man, it's up to you to keep up the good fight. If she knows you like her, you're SOL. If you've made attempts to snag her and she fought you off with a stick, give up. If she doesn't know you like her and you haven't tried yet, get in the game. Girls are not as complicated as they lead us to believe. goodluck

[Hockeytown]

Yeah I was pretty much whipped by her last year and stuck. I'd assume she suspected it, but I've never flat out just told her. She's really flirty since I started talking to her again but but I know I'm risking getting caught in her "web" again. And another thing, she's a terrible texter. Like that'd piss me off because I'd send something and then after a few hours start to wory if I sent something wrong haha. I know people have lives but this was constant. It feels kind of good to vent about this stuff

[bulls2213]

is it weird that i kinda want to hear the story?
i'm in a similar situation, except with a guy... we were best friends for 7 years then he got a girlfriend and became cold and distant, but i'm still friends with his sister. she invited me to their place to watch the superbowl but i declined because i'm too immature to be in the same room as him.

haha. if i can find some time this week, maybe.. it'll probably take a while. but yeah, when other people are directly involved by default, like siblings, it makes things so god damn complicated.

[tommyishere]

about 8 months, she teased me hardcore too which was worse. hate the bitch now for it.

[AlexEnglish]

a friend of mine has been chasing a girl for about 3 1/2 years.

[lynnie]

Ahh this thread's come at a good time. I met this girl jodie four years back, we hit it off but i already had a girlfriend. Nothing happened other than getting close. We then drifted apart for the sake of my actual relationship. That lasted two years more, so a total of three years and then we ended. At which point going out to drink my sorrows awayy i met Jodie again randomly and once more hit it off. However this time she was the one with a serious boyfriend. So again, nothing happened. Neither of us could get away from the fact there was something there though so we stayed in touch a little more.

Then last month i found out i had to move out. So i viewed houses and one of which i viewed was down the street she used to live before she went to uni. So it gave me a reason to text her and tell her i was considering taking the house. She told me her mother still lives down that street and when she isn't at uni she still lives there as her uni is only half hour drive away. So we took the house as for its size it was relatively cheap. Whilst renovating it, she paid a visit spent two days with each other. Obviously hit it off again... but yet another stumbling block, uni is the most important thing. So she didn't have time for both. So she went back to uni and i thought that was that. Again. Then i got an e-mail asking if she could trust me since she'd be away regularly.

So anyway, we're together now. Took four years but we got there eventually. Sometimes sticking at things does work out even though i felt like giving up on her many a year back, in the end effort paid out!

Wow - that is so romantic. Just shows, what is for you will never pass you by... :nod:

[zion the lion]

This is the what's the longest you've ever chased a girl thread, how dare you bring in this guy chasing nonsense!

I thought I could slip it in without someone noticing dammit!

[Kill_the_radio]

5 years. 5 fucking years! It was not worth it, she just took advantage of me because she knew I was after her all that time. :(

[Kill_the_radio]

Can moderators say 'fuck'?

hahah they're not priests, they're just moderators.

[Jennurna Gray]

hahah they're not priests, they're just moderators.
lol, I know, it just seems weird.

[Jaimehere]

5 years. 5 fucking years! It was not worth it, she just took advantage of me because she knew I was after her all that time. :(

wow 5 years? and i though me chasing a girl for a year was long 0.0, sorry for that dude

[CChocobo]

Hmm about 1 year a lil over. Basically i was dating this girl, i feel like she's the one who got away. But i pretty much have been coming to terms with the fact that i probably won't end up with her. That's the summed up version, the long version would require some cold beer by my side and plenty of time. :drunk:
Girls.. they can be the sweetest most amazing ever and other times they can crush you like it's nothing, and you're left suffering even after the effects have "worn" off so to say..
ah. Now i do want a beer haha.

[davehennessy]

Girls.. they can be the sweetest most amazing ever and other times they can crush you like it's nothing, and you're left suffering even after the effects have "worn" off so to say..
ah. Now i do want a beer haha.

Absolutely the truth :-(

[cshadows2887]

How active/sustained does the chasing have to be?

I've been into this one girl for 5 years now, but the timing's always been wrong. She was with someone, then I was with someone, then she was out of the country, now she lives 10 states away.

[TheNotoriousIAN]

I chased a girl for a whole year, finally I got the guts to ask her to be my girlfriend, she said yes, a week later she breaks up with me through text.

[The_Blackout94]

Atm I have liked the same girl for the last maybe 1 and a half - 2 years. I keep telling myself that it is worth it and she will probably like me too, but I just can't bring myself to make a move. I really want to and always have, but she's either always been seeing someone at the time, or has been a really good friend when my other friends are being dicks.

[frenchatticus]

I was totally in love with a girl for about a year before that started to die down. We dated on and off and every time she would screw me over. Dog-Eared Page got a lot of play time. Took me another year to let it die.

[terror_91]

I chased a girl for a whole year, finally I got the guts to ask her to be my girlfriend, she said yes, a week later she breaks up with me through text.
That's so lame, I'm sorry dude.

[TheNotoriousIAN]

Eh it is what it is, not a big deal really it was just kinda stupid at the time.

[IJTKJH]

chased my best female friend for like 2-3 years. went on and off during that time and our friendship hit an awkard point in there too. finally got over her and found someone else. she's still my best friend tho, but i wouldn't say it was worth it.

[davehennessy]

Dated the most amazing girl I know for a year and a half. She broke up with me two months ago because she thought we were on different pages as individuals. She was definitely right, and since then I've really worked on myself and I feel a million times better about myself today than I did months ago. I'm not over her though.. not even close. This girl is absolutely amazing, the girl of my dreams (as cliche as the phrase is).. I'm really hoping something happens this summer that helps her see I'm a different (and better) individual now than I used to be, and maybe even makes her reconsider our relationship and give me another shot. I'm honestly willing to wait for her as long as I have to. I could easily get myself into another relationship if I wanted to, but I have no interest in anyone but her.. she's incredible

[lynnie]

Dated the most amazing girl I know for a year and a half. She broke up with me two months ago because she thought we were on different pages as individuals. She was definitely right, and since then I've really worked on myself and I feel a million times better about myself today than I did months ago. I'm not over her though.. not even close. This girl is absolutely amazing, the girl of my dreams (as cliche as the phrase is).. I'm really hoping something happens this summer that helps her see I'm a different (and better) individual now than I used to be, and maybe even makes her reconsider our relationship and give me another shot. I'm honestly willing to wait for her as long as I have to. I could easily get myself into another relationship if I wanted to, but I have no interest in anyone but her.. she's incredible

Well, I think you sound lovely! :cupid:

[davehennessy]

Well, I think you sound lovely! :cupid:

Why thank you :-)

[WhitestKidUKnow]

I don't know if "chasing" is the word for it, but a girl who I was interested, and who was interested in me went abroad before anything came to be, and I waited around 8 months for her before she came back and decided she wasn't into me anymore. not good times.

[DevinDomino]

2 years and i'm not sure if it's worth it yet. Still going after her

[Whalejaw]

2 years and i'm not sure if it's worth it yet. Still going after her

It's not. At your age if it hasn't happened it won't.

[Sharkboyyy!]

Well, chasing might not be the proper word for the situation, but interest was there from the get-go.

When I was about 17, I started chatting with this girl who had a bunch of mutual friends; we talked over AIM and MySpace and whatnot primarily, which eventually escalated into texting and whatnot, you know, that sort of thing. My band at the time was playing a show at a local venue and she went to a lot of local shows as well and told me she'd be there, so we decided to meet up. I used to be really shy and introverted, (a curse I blame on being homeschooled) so we actually spent more of the night awkwardly texting each other until we found each other at the show. We talked for a brief moment and I realized "Oh geez, this girl is way too cute and I have no clue what to say," so I not so smoothly said that I lost my friends and needed to find them and I couldn't hear her so we'd talk when the music wasn't blaring.

Later on, I saw her walking out of the show holding onto the back of another fellow's shirt and we gave each other an awkward wave. I figured at this point I was out of luck and that maybe she just wanted to be buddies (she had a lot of male friends) and she already had a boyfriend. (And little did I know that she was 14 at the time, so I felt creepy later on.)

Two or some odd years later after a few awkward encounters with one another and she had been in a few relationships and I had talked to a few girls on and off, I find that she's hanging out with a good friend of mine. We reacquainted ourselves in a friendly manner that quickly escalated to something more and after a month or so of talking, we started dating. Turns out she was into me the first time around and the dude she was with was just her good friend and I was too much of a wiener to ask, ha. Almost two years later now and we're still together.

Long, sappy story, I know, but I guess you could say it took over two years of unknown mutual interest for us to finally get together.

[ballzcore86]

I chased a girl and I liked it...

[cshadows2887]

Well, chasing might not be the proper word for the situation, but interest was there from the get-go.

When I was about 17, I started chatting with this girl who had a bunch of mutual friends; we talked over AIM and MySpace and whatnot primarily, which eventually escalated into texting and whatnot, you know, that sort of thing. My band at the time was playing a show at a local venue and she went to a lot of local shows as well and told me she'd be there, so we decided to meet up. I used to be really shy and introverted, (a curse I blame on being homeschooled) so we actually spent more of the night awkwardly texting each other until we found each other at the show. We talked for a brief moment and I realized "Oh geez, this girl is way too cute and I have no clue what to say," so I not so smoothly said that I lost my friends and needed to find them and I couldn't hear her so we'd talk when the music wasn't blaring.

Later on, I saw her walking out of the show holding onto the back of another fellow's shirt and we gave each other an awkward wave. I figured at this point I was out of luck and that maybe she just wanted to be buddies (she had a lot of male friends) and she already had a boyfriend. (And little did I know that she was 14 at the time, so I felt creepy later on.)

Two or some odd years later after a few awkward encounters with one another and she had been in a few relationships and I had talked to a few girls on and off, I find that she's hanging out with a good friend of mine. We reacquainted ourselves in a friendly manner that quickly escalated to something more and after a month or so of talking, we started dating. Turns out she was into me the first time around and the dude she was with was just her good friend and I was too much of a wiener to ask, ha. Almost two years later now and we're still together.

Long, sappy story, I know, but I guess you could say it took over two years of unknown mutual interest for us to finally get together.

Sharkboy. Bringing hope to everyone in this thread since...earlier today.

[lynnie]

Well, chasing might not be the proper word for the situation, but interest was there from the get-go.

When I was about 17, I started chatting with this girl who had a bunch of mutual friends; we talked over AIM and MySpace and whatnot primarily, which eventually escalated into texting and whatnot, you know, that sort of thing. My band at the time was playing a show at a local venue and she went to a lot of local shows as well and told me she'd be there, so we decided to meet up. I used to be really shy and introverted, (a curse I blame on being homeschooled) so we actually spent more of the night awkwardly texting each other until we found each other at the show. We talked for a brief moment and I realized "Oh geez, this girl is way too cute and I have no clue what to say," so I not so smoothly said that I lost my friends and needed to find them and I couldn't hear her so we'd talk when the music wasn't blaring.

Later on, I saw her walking out of the show holding onto the back of another fellow's shirt and we gave each other an awkward wave. I figured at this point I was out of luck and that maybe she just wanted to be buddies (she had a lot of male friends) and she already had a boyfriend. (And little did I know that she was 14 at the time, so I felt creepy later on.)

Two or some odd years later after a few awkward encounters with one another and she had been in a few relationships and I had talked to a few girls on and off, I find that she's hanging out with a good friend of mine. We reacquainted ourselves in a friendly manner that quickly escalated to something more and after a month or so of talking, we started dating. Turns out she was into me the first time around and the dude she was with was just her good friend and I was too much of a wiener to ask, ha. Almost two years later now and we're still together.

Long, sappy story, I know, but I guess you could say it took over two years of unknown mutual interest for us to finally get together.

I love your story! Very romantic :)

[holybatmon]

I'm not bitter.

[lynnie]

I am in the same situation. Except for me it has been 3 months. Starting to give up. We dated for 3 years. I hope maybe the summer will bring something, but it is hard when she is still in college in Philly and I am an hour away. It isn't like she sees me and thinks should I go back with him, for all I know she is over me. World sucks.

It is good to talk, especially on how you are feeling! How do you know she is not thinking the same thing? With communication these days, it is instant! :nod: x

[davehennessy]

World sucks.

One day things can't be better and the next everything is upside down. The world definitely sucks from time to time

[Sigur Ros]

3 years counting. Fuck life.

[phil19]

she's back. and by back i mean she commented me on facebook and me getting a boner. i want her. do i just add the intervening 8 years onto the 5 i spent actively after her??

[bigblue2015]

I chased my current girlfriend for about 9 months before we ended up going out. Now we've been together for 3 years. Things couldn't be better. So it does work out from time to time. My advice is, if she's not giving you anything back and keeping her distance, then just let things breathe for a little while. I don't mean to completely ignore her, but just be aloof. You don't want to smother her and end up pushing her away.

[danielineffigy]

About two weeks. We dated for almost three and a half years. She broke my heart, destroyed me emotionally, and made me feel like a joke.

Fuck women.

[jasn88cubs]

4 years. became friend with her, really liked, went nowhere, got closer n thought maybe it could happened. She's been dating a guy for a year now, I've been over it for awile now though, she's so busy with him we never talk anymore so I really don't think about her(wait I am now, now I'm crying). Got an eye of another girl now. I think she will be better anyway, more my type.

[xcloud66x]

4 years without getting anywhere will destroy you

[cwya]

Two years. I was so in love with this girl. She was the first girl I ever got super close with. We were best friends for that two years, while I watched her go through three boyfriends and I remained nothing more than a best friend. It ate at me for months, but I was too scared to tell her how I felt. Then, one day, out of the blue, she told me that this whole time she had been in love with me. We started dating, then, after a while, she decided that her feelings for me had faded and broke it off. I was fucking destroyed. Not worth it, no way no how. At least I learned my lesson.

[Kassie09]

i cant imagine chasing someone. it must be painful and frustrating

[Wake Up]

15 minutes before she was impaled by a dagger.

[davehennessy]

Two years. I was so in love with this girl. She was the first girl I ever got super close with. We were best friends for that two years, while I watched her go through three boyfriends and I remained nothing more than a best friend. It ate at me for months, but I was too scared to tell her how I felt. Then, one day, out of the blue, she told me that this whole time she had been in love with me. We started dating, then, after a while, she decided that her feelings for me had faded and broke it off. I was fucking destroyed. Not worth it, no way no how. At least I learned my lesson.

Rough man, sorry to hear it

[Enoma Otenki]

chased my friend for almost a year and a half. she spent most of that time sleeping with my friends (and ex bandmates). she and i are close but i know it's a waste of time.

but i've met someone new so i'm hoping that helps me get over her.

[Overpass]

Stop chasing.

Chances are that she knows, has talked to her friends about it and she's decided you're not worth it.

Great to hear about all the ones that worked, but most of the time they don't. Sorry.

[jasn88cubs]

4 years without getting anywhere will destroy you

Nah. It bothered me at first but I'm fine now. I'm happy and all that